If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-03-09T10:16:34+00:00

Stopped reading at 38, 24, 60,000.

PrincessBeefloof · 2021-03-09T10:11:53+00:00

It's not so much red flags, as great big warning klaxons and flashing lights.

Poor woman.

throwRA8935747835 · 2021-03-09T10:38:59+00:00

Imagine hating your wife so much that you have no qualms over using her as a free bangmaid and watch her go into financial disarray because YOU knocked her up.
I hope she runs.

Kuanzhaixiangzi · 2021-03-09T10:17:07+00:00

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GodILoveTheEnglish · 2021-03-09T10:35:06+00:00

The fuck? He won't contribute to the new wardrobe for her and the baby, won't contribute to breast pads, or thing she needs after the birth?!? She's about to resort to charity? The FUCK?

Fuck that. What a piece of shit. What a useless, useless man

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-09T10:52:55+00:00

38 year old with 24 year old. You dont even need to read anything more to know he is useless piece of shit scrote who is a total misogynist - they always are. The men that goes for age gap relationships truly HATE women. Anything after the age gap is just cementing the fact he is a total piece of shit, who does not love his wife AT ALL.

K0rla · 2021-03-09T10:42:55+00:00

Crazy. Pregnancy stuff is just for her because she got pregnant on her own or something? The guy is clearly a Scrooge, checking receipts and only giving her money for half of the things they will both use... Such disdain for her and her comfort n

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-03-09T11:20:03+00:00

This doesn't sound like a family. More like two strangers living together.

purasangria · 2021-03-09T11:45:22+00:00

Age gap, of course. This "husband" is treating his wife like a roommate. She should divorce him after the kid comes, she'll instantly have more money and free time. 50/50 is complete financial exploitation, especially considering that we bring so much more than they do to a relationship.

azulalalala · 2021-03-09T10:55:33+00:00

Pretty sure surrogates get taken care of better than this woman... Imagine risking your life to give birth to some dude's kid who doesn't even care about you, just no

GlamorKiss · 2021-03-09T13:16:27+00:00

At least the comments on the original post are quite reasonable and they did advise her to leave and that this was financial abuse! PHEW!

Although one person did try to suggest couples counselling, but thankfully one person pointed out that in an abusive relationship, couples counselling is actually more DAMAGING than it is helpful!!

Br0ther-Finger · 2021-03-09T13:33:50+00:00

It’s so sad that strangers will provide more than her “man”.

biggestsigh · 2021-03-09T14:34:17+00:00

She was 17 when she met him. making him 31. This poor girl was groomed. At least the update is a good one. She left.

Summerisle7 · 2021-03-09T14:55:54+00:00

Just to bring the happy news she wrote update few days back and she dumped him after local women helped her to get shelter and other stuff . Apparently the scrote didn't bothered to even contact her afte 7 months

eveloe · 2021-03-09T13:17:15+00:00

$50k for a bread-winning 38 year old man is a joke anywhere but a super rural area. I was pulling that at 15 years younger than him. Does that mean I get to bully my spouse too?

And also:

“He’s worked very hard”

“I do the majority of housework”

Sis, please pick one. Also how does she know how much he earns when she doesn’t have access to it? This is a pickme cautionary tale. This is what you win when you value being “chosen” over self respect.

real90slike · 2021-03-09T13:39:27+00:00

Since he loves 50/50 so much, after 9 months of carrying the baby how about he delivers it out of his balls 🤣 #equality

helppleasekk · 2021-03-09T14:15:25+00:00

This is what liberal feminism has done.

llamasinspace420 · 2021-03-09T11:58:34+00:00

So they're in an agreement and not a relationship. That's sad.

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-09T14:19:44+00:00

This is why you don't marry someone when you see red flags. This guy is fucked. HIS WIFE who he's supposed to love, care for and protect, needs extra things for her pregnancy and he's nickel and diming her. I am disappointed but not surprised.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-03-09T17:00:22+00:00

Buddy only makes $50K a year and acting like he's Daddy Warbucks. "Protective" is code for abusive

Why on earth would you want to procreate with a man who's ok having you get baby supplies from a CHARITY SHOP when he should be capable of supporting his FAMILY???

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-03-09T13:38:55+00:00

Yeah medicines and all are her expense ? No offense but I'll buy medicines from my expense to abort the baby rather than having a child with this kind of a man.

I can't even fathom what an awful life the child will have. It will either grow up hating the dad for providing less or hating mom for not earning as much as the dad.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-03-09T18:56:02+00:00

In the US, a cleaner makes about $24,000 per year, a personal assistant makes about $40,000 per year, a live-in Nanny makes $40,000 per year, an escort makes (charging $300 an hour so if we assume they have sex twice a week) $32,400 per year and a surrogate receives compensation of between $30,000 to $60,000. And obviously nanny's and cleaners and PAs don't pay for food or products out of pocket, and a surrogate gets all her expenses covered as well. So OP is providing services worth a minimum of $136,400 ($166,400 the year she was pregnant) in exchange for reduced rent in a house her husband would have to pay for anyway if she wasn't there.

berryberrykicks · 2021-03-09T13:14:47+00:00

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random1329 · 2021-03-09T12:53:20+00:00

She should divorce him and then she would get more of his income (hopefully?) plus child support. What I don’t understand is how you can be in a position where even the courts would say he owed more AFTER you’re no longer in a relationship with him.

Watzoo · 2021-03-09T15:46:30+00:00

This is financial abuse.

It’s likely to escalate after she gives birth. He will also leverage the baby (and probably threaten to take the child because she “can’t afford to give the baby what it needs.”)

A lot of states don’t allow women to divorce husbands when they are pregnant and after birth, some family law judges force overnight visits with dad even when baby is breastfeeding. I’ve seen cases with a two month old baby being sent to dads overnight away from mom. Of course babies that small can’t tell mom if they’re experiencing neglect or mistreatment when they’re away from her. I’m also guessing he’s probably shut down a lot of her social networks so her help from mom friends will be limited if she stays.

She has a very rough few years ahead of her. Then I hope she can escape.

Foreverme133 · 2021-03-09T17:07:11+00:00

I wish I knew this guy so I could laugh in his face about going to bed, hugging his wallet, making $50k/year.

Why why why why why why why do men with nothing special at all for money act like it needs to be locked away and protected from their own wives??? Come on, dude. You're making $50k a year. You're not even close to needing to worry about the bulldozers showing up to dig for gold.

She should leave him now and simply let them garnish child support from his wages. He'll just have to bellyache to his friends that she's taken all his gold. 🤭

tellmesomething11 · 2021-03-09T16:02:29+00:00

Just get child support at this point. Then he’ll have to contribute towards his child🙄

Sad how women get themselves into these situations....we really need to have hard conversations with our daughters. Trust I’m going to. I’ll be pissed if she marries a low life. I’m not even putting it into existence so strike that remark. It simply isn’t going down that way.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-03-09T18:00:35+00:00

So if she were short on money and needed to buy baby formula, the scrote would shrug his shoulders and let his infant starve? This is peak scrotacity. My nvx's daughter had a similar arrangement. He makes six figures, she's lucky to break 30k working in a long term care home. She had 3 of his kids, and he said since they "came out of" her, she pays 100% of the child related expenses. "Luckily" for her, there's no medical expenses because we live in Canada. Here's another kicker; due to the nature of his job, he's away for sometimes a month at a time, so he refuses to pay rent or bills or food for when he's not there. If he's there for one week, he'll pay a quarter of the rent and bills. He'll prorate it down to the day. Down to the penny. She always had to borrow money from her dad when it was a particularly costly month. This fucker is profiting off of his family and calling it "equality". She has no savings of her own and starves to feed her kids. She'd be better off without the mooch, but she won't leave him. Washed my hands of that family after I dumped her scrote father.

Edit; spelling

hangingplaintain · 2021-03-09T17:46:32+00:00

Im sorry … in what world would a $10k salary cover the costs of pregnancy and child birth, rent, and food, and other personal costs ?! Does this man care at all the well-being of his child ?!

Just because he isn’t the one with the womb, doesn’t mean he isn’t responsible for what’s growing inside of it ! A woman’s body goes through incredible trauma to bear a child - that is payment enough for her. He could give up his whole salary to her and still wouldn’t be sufficient compensation for the work she is doing for him (literally growing his offspring) . I’m so angry .

Princesspeach8188 · 2021-03-09T18:15:50+00:00

A 38 year old man working "very hard" and for that- 50k? Seriously? I was making more than that at age 21... Maybe they're in a lower cost-of-living area but still..... what even?

I refuse to date a man who isn't earning 6 figures and no longer feel bad about that...

daisy_0720 · 2021-03-09T18:43:31+00:00

Holy shit, what a cautionary tale. For any male lurkers reading: this is why we don't go 50-50. This 'man' would rather watch his wife starve on the streets than give up a single cent to offer her protection, safety, and comfort. What a loving husband!

CandidKick · 2021-03-09T19:33:21+00:00

So this POS is 14 years older and will be earning money for a much shorter time in the marriage (if they both retire at 65) is making her pay HALF and is barely paying for baby/pregnancy related items.

Just the age difference alone would have me turning him down. Girl, run.

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-03-09T19:42:02+00:00

Women are better off living with platonic friends than this disgusting situation. Especially within a patriarchal and capitalist society where our time is money and as a woman on low income, she should not settle for this bullshit.

nymira-1 · 2021-03-09T15:46:03+00:00

This one hurts she’s trapped with his baby at 24 💔

idiosyncraticg1 · 2021-03-09T19:52:51+00:00

How am I this girls age yet I make more than the 38 year old? “Big earner at 50k” LOL!

I’m currently fine dating guys making 50k since we’re all starting our careers, but dating someone older than 30 making 50k (unless he’s a teacher or in research) is a big no.

Carpedictum · 2021-03-09T21:14:17+00:00

See this is why you need to be married before having a kid. Controversial opinion? I don't care.

Because then if he pulls this "You're the mother of my child and I make 5X as much as you, but we still need to go 50/50" bullshit, you don't have to pathetically beg and plead for the father of your child to buy you diapers, because you have the legal RIGHT to alimony.

Idk why the f**k she doesn't think of that and simply give him the ultimatum. Boom, problem solved.

Women need to develop some BASIC Machiavellian intelligence like holy shit woman, you have leverage, why are you incapable of making a BASIC negotiation in order to cover your BASIC needs??? Think it's "mean"? Hope you like never getting to retire because your sociopath husband doesn't care about you or the fact you have no savings.

Who the hell gets married and has kids and tries to keep separate finances? It's totally futile unless you have a pre-nup or inheritance and manage it just so in order for it to stay separate. Your savings account is fair game dude. Just pay for the f**king diapers.

Whew, this post legit has me fuming. Why do women subject themselves to so much unnecessary suffering? Nice for what?

Alybank · 2021-03-09T16:26:04+00:00

She literally can get more in child-support than what she is making in a year. Leave the loser.

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2021-03-09T16:38:43+00:00

She IS directly related to the baby. It's INSIDE her. Ugh.

spicybookmaster · 2021-03-09T16:41:38+00:00

He cares more about his average income than his child. Shed probably get more in child support lol.

2021-03-09T19:37:52+00:00

Omg. I hope she has enough time to get an abortion!!!

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2021-03-09T19:58:28+00:00

This poor girl is stuck with him now that she is pregnant and he is completely taking advantage of her in every way possible... what a worthless human being and terrible person to procreate with.

aquietsword · 2021-03-09T19:50:37+00:00

When I tell you I gasped out loud...this poor woman I feel so bad for her.

Risoa · 2021-03-09T16:11:11+00:00

What a complete loser. Gross.

jeniiiiiblue · 2021-03-09T17:52:53+00:00

Child support point Blank

2021-03-09T18:02:30+00:00

Leave and put that man on CHILD SUPPORT as soon as the baby is born.

ConfusedMegladon · 2021-03-09T15:20:40+00:00

Girl needs to have the baby, get a better job, and leave!

kycake · 2021-03-10T04:01:12+00:00

24 and 38 big yikes. so she decided to settled for some very old bitch while totally being his slave and paying 50/50 ??? how do women like that exist? if a male over 30 wanted to be with me and literally paid for everything, and was very rich, i’d still not be down.

victoriabowen8 · 2021-03-09T17:54:03+00:00

Good lord that almost had me in tears!

truebeauty112 · 2021-03-09T18:05:16+00:00

Good Lord, this woman needs help 😥

TheDameWithoutASmile · 2021-03-09T22:08:13+00:00

If I were her, I would have cheerfully divorced him. Courts tend to like it when dads pay their full half for their kids... even if they are "protective" of their earnings.

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-03-09T23:03:44+00:00

These defeats the purpose of dating an older guy

lavender_icicle · 2021-03-09T23:06:52+00:00

This is making me so sad, that poor woman and that poor child :/ i don't get how anyone can accept a NVM like this. If i was a man i would be ashamed to be the same gender than this worthless piece of shit.

uptownxthot · 2021-03-10T00:09:53+00:00

this poor woman. i hope she divorces his ass and puts him on child support.

Fitncurly · 2021-03-10T07:56:00+00:00

Fuck all of that to hell, I’d have gotten an abortion and a divorce stat. But then again, I’d never end up in that situation because my standards even pre-FDS were always higher than that.

52490 · 2021-03-10T12:15:07+00:00

What the actual fuck did I just read??! I’m logging off for the day 😭

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2021-03-10T23:38:32+00:00

I saw the thing about how she makes $10k and then skimmed down to see the word pregnant and stopped reading. This is a rescue mission.

HlGHFIVE · 2021-03-12T06:45:47+00:00

If anyone outside of this abusive relationship were to confront him about this, he would probably say: "We're not actually together, we just live together and she got pregnant."

_queeeen_ · 2021-03-09T23:59:58+00:00

WTF. He’s either spending it on something uncouth or saving up for his next wife.

Baekseoulhui · 2021-03-10T00:40:36+00:00

Can i get a link to the post? This poor girl. I hope he rots honestly.

TestAffectionate7868 · 2021-03-10T00:45:02+00:00

I want to find this post and tell her to leave him.

MotherMfker · 2021-03-10T02:57:45+00:00

1st off ew.

Babe why even get into this mess. 😩 you cooking and cleaning to pay half. Go get your ass a full time job then. Bet his ass don't cook or clean up half the shit or put half as much effort into sex. Sounds like he's barely providing half her emotional needs also.

This is gonna end up in flames. 60k for 2 people they eating sad lol and now a baby wheewwww.

MissMisnomer · 2021-03-10T03:08:48+00:00

My jaw dropped reading this... that poor woman.

missmelissa187 · 2021-03-10T03:40:36+00:00

Eww what a loser he is

MsBingoBronson · 2021-03-10T08:16:16+00:00

That man is a monster. There are so many ways to hurt women.

Orcrista · 2021-03-11T10:10:47+00:00

What?! what?! This is the first time my mouth has actually dropped open reading a post. I am incredulous at this. What have women reduced ourselves to? Why??? I have nothing else to say. I'm child free and will remain so. Whatever chemical/hormone-induced urge it is that drives women to rationalize this situation for themselves, I have never been afflicted with it and I never will be. I wish them godspeed.

greenetea63 · 2021-03-11T12:24:04+00:00

Ew 😖

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