TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKE

millennialpink2000 · 2021-05-06T19:51:33+00:00

This is terrifying.

He hates her.

Run, run, run.

ucompost · 2021-05-06T19:46:21+00:00

Thank god he’s in jail

Softrito · 2021-05-06T20:19:38+00:00

This is what my brother would do to me when I tried to defend myself from his abuse. He would mock what I just said in an infantile way and when I started to cry he would mock my tears.

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-05-06T20:49:07+00:00

Ladies if you are with someone like this. Leave.

It doesn’t get better.

No, he won’t “learn” or “change”

He despises you. Get. Out.

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-05-06T20:30:23+00:00

Scrote always say the same thing when they scream. It's like it's in their training manual. I'm glad he's in jail. He should stay there.

MadamLeFay · 2021-05-06T20:06:20+00:00

I just wanted to swoop in there, kick his nuts up into his tonsils and bring her somewhere safe!!!

lostmillenia · 2021-05-06T20:17:39+00:00

This is so familiar to me. Ugh.

londochig · 2021-05-06T21:19:43+00:00

God. Watching this just gutted me. This was me and my ex less than a year ago. We could never enjoy a weekend away because he'd go into a narcissistic rage over the most mundane things. Like as mundane as me getting my nails done. He screamed like the scrote in this video, threw things around the room, repeatedly kicked a mirror till it broke. I remember I locked myself in the bathroom I was so terrified. I was pleading and crying just like she is. That was the same night he turned violent. I tried to make a run for it as soon as I thought he was far enough away from the bathroom door. He chased after me into the parking lot, caught up to me and kept slapping me to "CaLm Me DoWn." I ran because I was terrified and wanted to get away. He then dragged on the ground inside threatening to harm my family if I didn't call down and gave me a few blows to get me to stop struggling. Left me with a swollen face.

We had many of these fights just like this video that eventually led to his violence. My cognitive dissonance was so strong that I didn't believe he'd get violent even though my friends warned me that these rage filled outbursts like would 100 percent turn into violence, it was just a matter of time. I wish I reported him to the police. I sincerely regret not doing it. There was surveillance footage.

Never again. I'm saving this post so I remember to run at the first red flag if I ever decide to again. For now I'm scrote-free and happy.

bpdweep · 2021-05-06T20:44:17+00:00

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pretty_kill · 2021-05-06T21:52:40+00:00

I kind of want to see more of this type of content. Like genuine treatment of women by their boyfriends recorded without their knowledge.

I don’t think I ever dated anyone this verbally abusive, and it is eye opening to me. I have been gaslit before but not in such a tense manner.

Obviously those that find this triggering should avoid watching more, but I find it fascinating to see what kind of treatment other women have to endure.

Honestly I hope more guys like this get recorded and exposed.

moonlightpuddle · 2021-05-06T19:46:20+00:00

Be warned. He is shouting at her in an extremely abusive manner. These types of men belong in jail. They should not be in society interacting and endangering women.

AC7878 · 2021-05-06T20:00:07+00:00

Oh my goodness. I hope she left that hideous scrote... we also need to be aware of the ones who covertly do it. Putting people down while crying then victimizing themselves saying it's their trauma that's causing them to act the way they act. NOPE abuse is abuse

Run regardless!!

vee_aye_aye_aye · 2021-05-06T20:30:28+00:00

Jesus that's disgusting. That's so disgusting I have no words. What a vile vile man. Horrifying.

redbirdflies · 2021-05-06T20:54:37+00:00

This is what being with a sociopath/ narcissist is like

CuntWaffe · 2021-05-06T20:56:01+00:00

Am I the only one that notices whenever a man calls a woman "bro" or "bruh", he has no qualms about hitting her? Not saying these things need to be said for a man to be physically abusive, but it seems to be a huge red flag to me. Not to mention, it's obnoxious as fuck.

radsera99 · 2021-05-06T22:12:00+00:00

This isn’t toxic mate this is complete hardcore abuse. I’m sorry to all the ladies that watched and got triggered, hope ur doing ok. So disturbing

judithyourholofernes · 2021-05-06T22:40:11+00:00

This situation is as common as it gets. God knows I want to put the barrel to his skull and pull the tri*gger. So many of them think we have to submit and act accordingly to make them feel strong and masculine. This is what makes a man feel strong? This is the antithesis of strength.

Goddamn I fear for these beautiful and smart young women. They just want to live life, feel good and spread happiness and lightness, and this is what they get. Pure fear and threat of violence.

helppleasekk · 2021-05-06T19:49:42+00:00

Ugh I hope he dies

IntelligentQuality6 · 2021-05-06T20:45:26+00:00

I’m glad he’s in jail, throw away the key 🤢

Softrito · 2021-05-06T21:15:54+00:00

Do men like this have some type of mental disorder? This shit is so sick.

bpdweep · 2021-05-06T20:46:41+00:00

That screaming from him and his voice is so annoying, gladly would’ve put my hands on him. I am sorry if that violates the rules but hearing that screaming triggers me and makes me see red. A man will never yell at me again. I don’t date men who yell and act like fucking children.

Bwolffff · 2021-05-06T22:25:55+00:00

I know a piece of shit male JUST. LIKE. THIS. This is terrifying, I’m glad she posted this online to warn other girls, but I hope she’s safe.

Interesting_Day1188 · 2021-05-06T21:24:03+00:00

Uh, this was obviously in a hotel too. If you ever hear shit like this, tell the front desk, call the cops, get the woman help.

burpleseaurchin · 2021-05-06T20:51:32+00:00

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Jenneapolis · 2021-05-06T22:50:52+00:00

What you don’t see here is the make up phase I am sure where he floods her with affection, makes promises, and apologizes. This is part of the abuse and why it’s so difficult for women to leave. Ladies, a guy like this never changes. Never.

lessadessa · 2021-05-06T23:50:54+00:00

Wow. I think this girl is dating my exhusband. I literally lived in fear of him. What an utter piece of shit. She will probably end up apologizing to him too. Girl PLEASE LEAVE.

hijabae_ · 2021-05-07T00:59:07+00:00

poor girl, her tears are heartbreaking. she just wanted to have a good night. why are men so hateful

verisimilitude_too · 2021-05-07T00:33:27+00:00

This was really triggering. I was in a relationship like this for 15 years. I remember sometimes I would break down crying and would scream back, which would only get me accused of being the abuser. I felt so guilty and terrible about it that I would accept the blame and promise to do better. I didn’t know about reactive abuse at the time.

No one has yelled at me in 8 yrs and it’s so peaceful & quiet now.

Someone here (thanks stranger!) recommended the book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans. It’s a great read if you have been in a relationship like this and would like some closure. The description of the “Reality” of “Power Over” for the abuser and the “Reality” of “Mutuality” for the victim is spot-on and explains so many of the absolutely crazy things my ex used to say to me out of the blue.

Space_Gators · 2021-05-07T00:49:56+00:00

Whooooooo this activates my amygdala, wish I could charge at him through the phone. I was born with too much fight reflex. I think I feel protective energy around younger women because deep down I’ve always craved someone who would protect me. I never had that when I was younger.

This scrote is lower than stinking, fetid garbage on the street. I hope she has gotten away.

RecordingImportant94 · 2021-05-06T21:48:36+00:00

This was like having the most horrific flashback. The screaming rages and desperately trying to de-escalate the situation. My ex would follow me round the house screaming and swearing at me like this while I was trying to get away, cornering me and getting right up in my face. Even when the rage had started over something totally unrelated to me, like another man “disrespecting” him in a bar or at work when I wasn’t even there. If I didn’t respond in the way he wanted while he was venting he would take all the rage out on me. Once it happened because I called him cute, meaning to be affectionate, but he took it as an emasculating put down. I’m terrified of being alone with men, besides my father and brother, because of this kind of behaviour.

Dnotchtiebd · 2021-05-06T19:51:23+00:00

Jesus christ this bring back so much pain Ive felt. And to be told that is because "I couldn't leave him alone or understand that he was angry." An abuser will find even insignificant things and make it a problem. I have had discussions about a hair comb before.

UnforgettableBevy · 2021-05-07T00:18:28+00:00

Jesus someone go rescue her and don't let her go back to him...

_nylea · 2021-05-07T03:36:01+00:00

This actually brought me to tears because this used to be my life for multiple years. Wall punching, physical abuse, laughing and/or screaming at me when I cried. Cracking his phone screen on my skull, then asking me to go to the Apple Store with him to get it fixed. If a guy even said two words to me when we were out, he’d accuse me of cheating or fight the guy, depending on how drunk he was.

This. Shit. Isn’t. Right. Not a soul on Earth deserves this. I’m happy to hear this woman is safe and out of this shit relationship with this toddler.

chiquitabonitas · 2021-05-06T22:05:45+00:00

Damn this is really triggering. Reminds me of when my ex (been BU 9months now) would mock me when I’d cry and explain myself for something he deemed “unacceptable.” The name calling; all of it. Until it would turn physical with the choking and shoving and sex that I did not consent.

Man, you really don’t see it for what it is in that moment when it’s happening. You just get used to it.

Wild. Makes me sad inside.

PurpyPops · 2021-05-07T00:15:02+00:00

This was my ex husband, at least 3 nights a week, for 5 years.

featherflowers · 2021-05-06T21:40:45+00:00

I disassociated watching this. Jesus. I'm glad she shared it though, women need to know this is emotional abuse and it is not ok.

Tinkerbeller0 · 2021-05-06T19:49:01+00:00

Damn this broke my heart to listen to :( I’m so tired of men

LameControl · 2021-05-06T21:17:54+00:00

This made me cry. I hope she got out of the situation and is safe/away from this horrible person.

3lbsofjewelry · 2021-05-06T23:45:44+00:00

This was my life not too long ago. This is very upsetting.

Shimmiekakes · 2021-05-07T00:33:43+00:00

My ex husband got on like this all the time

Platipus6 · 2021-05-07T00:48:16+00:00

He sounds like George Hugely the 5th, convicted murderer of his college girlfriend. They all sound the same and they all escalate the same.

wondertarget · 2021-05-07T02:27:04+00:00

This made my chest hurt, and reminded me of a long-term ex I had. We lived together and his voice would get so demon-like when he yelled, just like the scrote in this video.

There is absolutely no reason to yell/scream at your partner like this (unless they're are coming at you with a weapon and you're trying to defend yourself). Disgusting.

Jingoboi · 2021-05-07T02:17:28+00:00

This is honestly so terrifying. I am crying for this poor girl, I hope she got out of there and showed this video to the police!! Abusive people deserve to be jailed.

Mysterious_Service_1 · 2021-05-07T15:23:06+00:00

Yes this is sadly familiar. The bit that gets me the most of the lack of empathy for her crying and telling her to shut the fuck up. This girl was me.

ketodietclub · 2021-05-07T15:45:10+00:00

That's me having a flashback to my parents "fighting".

It ended up with my mother throwing plates at his head though, and he ran off.

It also taught me to run far and fast if anyone speaks to you like that.

kogetsukun · 2021-05-06T20:30:17+00:00

i just started crying my FUCKING EYES OUT is there any way to make the TRIGGER WARNING BIGGER jesus christ LEAVE run for your fucking life girl 😭

One-Dimension2021 · 2021-05-07T02:11:07+00:00

This is exactly how my older brother talks to my sister's and I

apple_cores · 2021-05-06T23:31:10+00:00

Dear God. I’ve never had anyone talk to me like that in my life. I was about to say if she doesn’t call the police I will do it for her. Thank God he’s in jail.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-05-07T06:10:36+00:00

He's a walking abortion.

lostmillenia · 2021-05-10T03:56:48+00:00

Under the trigger warning is it possible to have a censor bar describing what is happening in the video written by the poster so that triggered ladies can still know what is going on/being talked about?

Example: boyfriend is in hotel yelling and mocking crying gf. She is begging him for a good night. He is accusing her of flirting. He starts to yell " shut the fuck up" over and over till she does. She is crying.

DenyYourMaker_ · 2021-05-06T22:28:41+00:00

Ugh this sounds just like my sisters bf. Finally decided to cut her off bc she’s okay with his abuse and screaming (if it’s not towards her)

Novemberinthechair · 2021-05-07T03:13:22+00:00

Oh my fucking god

ewoksareprettycool · 2021-05-07T04:28:52+00:00

I can’t even watch the full video because this brought me flashbacks when I was in an abusive relationship. Girl, RUN 🏃🏻‍♀️

SomewhatVerbose · 2021-05-07T11:43:16+00:00

This is disgusting. I feel so sorry for her. I hope she realizes her worth and gets the hell out of dodge.

AmethistStars · 2021-05-08T12:35:50+00:00

Aw man this really triggered me more than I thought. I'm really glad to read she is out of this situation and OK.

the-lonely-spirit · 2021-05-09T16:07:53+00:00

Couldn't finish the video as soon as he started yelling.

Is this even real? How could this scrote be like this on camera?!

Does he know he's being filmed? What the hell?? The way he talks isn't fake and that's the scary thing...JFC...that poor woman.

xdecadent · 2021-05-11T05:52:53+00:00

This is heartbreaking. I literally shuddered when he screamed at her. Gosh, I hope that babygirl got out of there. This was scary to watch,

ababy6650 · 2021-05-06T20:45:28+00:00

this hurt me sm:(

thetinymousey · 2021-05-09T04:11:40+00:00

I’m sat here crying. I feel for this woman so hard. I feel for EVERY woman who has experienced this so hard. I’m so sorry for those who have gone through this because I was that woman too. And NONE OF US deserve this.

throwaway32132134 · 2021-05-07T01:03:29+00:00

Not victim blaming. But we have power. We don't need to settle for this. Peace the fuck out before it gets to this level. Who the hell does he think he is to yell at her like that? Also, I don't recommend showing emotions in situations like this. I think calm and assertive is best. Doesn't make sense to me to give him anything to throw in my face. Wouldn't want to be called CrAzY aNd EmOtIoNaL. I really try not to play into that stereotype.

WhisperingFire2 · 2021-05-06T21:56:08+00:00

Reminds me of my parents 😂

Title	TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKE
Author	moonlightpuddle
Upvotes	663
Comments	157
Date	May 6, 2021 7:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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