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Story time ☕idiosyncraticg1/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:57 PM
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#JustLVMThingsidiosyncraticg1/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:48 AM
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People like the third commentator are simply making excuses. They are boring too, yet it’s their girlfriend who’s “holding them back”. I know of a couple where the boyfriend loves to party while the girlfriend is completing a masters program. The boyfriend parties with his friends on Fridays while she studies. He doesn’t ever complain or call her boring. He takes time out of his week to see her so that she’s happy. If you want to make it work, you will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:32 PM
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Let’s hope so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:43 AM
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Exactly. Did he offer to pay for my makeup that I wore to the date? Or for the hour of my time that I spent getting ready? Is he paying a pro-rated amount for the clothes I am wearing? This type of thinking is so toxic. You’ll end up miserable if you gladly pay for a date but play these mind games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:21 PM
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This guy is a total moron. Instead of “explaining” that a first date is usually “drinks or a picnic”, he could’ve easily planned the date himself and chosen a good place for drinks. Now he’s alone. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 09:29 PM
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Real 50/50 contribution to rent and their lifestyle would be each person contributing 50% of their paycheck, not each per contributing a certain fixed amount. It’s insane that he wanted her to pay $1500 in rent (he would as well) when he’s making, what, 8x that per month?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 03:05 AM
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I’m also tiny and I’ve play fought with 6’ tall ex’s and they all knew about their strength and how far to take things. Either this guy is a complete knucklehead or this was on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:17 PM
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Unless it’s a beauty pageant created and financed by women, which also focuses on “inside beauty”, it will always be a chance for men in power to use women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:58 PM
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She’s getting her coin and tarnishing his name while still looking poised and “wishing him well”. Honestly good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:20 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 02:51 PM
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I think about this quite often. When do compromises become part of your life? If you commit to a marriage, at one point or another you’ll have to move for your husband, compromise on the type of house/car you want, compromise on where you go on vacation etc since you’re a family unit. Some of these are extreme examples but you get the gist of it. With a partner and with your specific moving example - I wouldn’t move to a new area for a boyfriend without even living with him if it doesn’t benefit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 07:17 PM
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What the hell is “casual but not a hookup”? So a girlfriend experience without the title?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:05 PM
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Do you think the teens watching this actually realize the potential message that a few scenes get across? Do the boys watching this sympathize with the girls or do they want to try to recreate the porn scenes as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:52 PM
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Seven dates and youre already considering a long distance relationship? Did he ask you to be his girlfriend or are you already thinking about the future? Depending on how long you’ve known him for, I would just be friends for those few months and wait until he relocates to actually be with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:47 PM
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There are people you don’t discuss your dating life with. She’s one of them. I don’t discuss my dating life in detail with my coworkers or their friends and we’re all the same age. We might throw around some funny stories but that’s about it. Don’t go around telling people how someone dumped you because you didn’t sleep with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:13 PM
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LOL. When I saw the title I thought that she lied about making 50k when she was actually making 100k. Not lying about making minimum wage when she was actually making a few dollars above. A subsidy of $22k over 3 years is roughly $600 a month. That does seem like a lot considering his income is (was) $40k, but how much could she have saved if she told the truth? She probably would’ve ended up saving somewhat close to the amount since it seems like they were splitting things based on income and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:36 PM
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This is my worst fucking nightmare. Every time I’m having fun on a date and even CONSIDER fucking the guy, I think of this. Awful awful awful. So sorry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:11 PM
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HE’S SOOOOO UGLYYYYYY LMFAOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:47 AM
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In many ways the sorority is trying to refine young women and in other ways it is oppressing them. Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:44 AM
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It really depends on the sorority and the university itself. If it has a good HQ, doesn’t haze, doesn’t force you to go to frat parties, and most important holds the frats they engage with to a high standard then it could potentially be high value. Otherwise a big hard NO. Join a college club. You’ll be better off. There’s even women’s organizations in colleges nowadays - women in science club, women in engineering club, women in business club etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:43 AM
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It only works if you have an end goal to be together or if one person is away on a trip/for work for a bit. It doesn’t work if you’re dating for years and don’t have a goal of who’s going to move so you two can be together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:54 PM
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I found it way back in 2019 when we only had a few thousand followers. I was getting out of a breakup and this was a great support group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:48 PM
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For a relatively new relationship, Valentine’s Day could be nice dinner and flowers. If it’s 1+ years then that’s when gifts like jewelry come to play. I personally never got my ex anything for Valentine’s Day, the most I’ve done is put on sexy lingerie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:29 PM
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I’ve seen more breakups and flakes this past month than in 2021. Guys would really rather dump their girl and be single for months until they find someone new (or convince their old gf to come back) than do something romantic and open up emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:23 PM
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Please forward the original post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:34 PM
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At first glance I thought he was talking about working in film together and filming cool videos. But then…. This guys wants consistent casual sex and money from it? He mentions financial transparency, does that mean that his debit card will be connected to the account, meaning only he will be getting the money at first? It’s insane that he wants to build a business from scratch without any investments himself. Will he be paying for his “partners” waxing, hair appointments, birth control, doctor …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:38 PM
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LOL I saw that tweet. Even the guys in the responses were saying that it’s 100% his personality (and that ugly hat).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:34 PM
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Sounds like you dodged a red flag. Don’t worry about it. I don’t give out my number either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:32 PM
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At that point the first date can be a phone call or a FaceTime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:10 PM
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All of Seinfeld is George, who was not only ugly and bald but also broke and unemployed, getting with 10/10 women. What a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:47 PM
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This is so stupid. Not sure what country they live in but lots of countries give benefits to small businesses. Every one of my friends whose parents own a company have been “employing” them since they were old enough to legally work. This way they get a bunch of tax write-offs. I would be furious if I were in this woman’s place not only because I didn’t have money, but also because I wouldn’t be contributing to my pension plan or other investment funds. My resume would also be blank for those ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:12 PM
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Didn’t respect wishes of no contact so I had to block him everywhere and clearly told his family bad things about me after I had already blocked him because they all randomly blocked me. This was a year after the break up and about 4 months after I had blocked him everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:42 PM
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At what point do you stop waiting for the ring? Or is someone really with their bf for 21 years and think “22 is the year!! He’ll be ready once we’re 22 years in!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:57 PM
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Dirty talk/sex talk can be respectful and hot. I’ve never used derogatory terms and I’ve never had a guy use any with me. If anyone called me a sl*t or anything resembling that in bed we would be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:18 PM
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Fiance? Meaning they were together for quite a bit at that point? Weird how his account wasn’t seen any earlier. /s There was a post in a relationship sub about this topic and many people in the comments wrote that they would get emails from tinder but stopped getting matches once they stopped using the app for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:13 PM
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You’ll forget about him the second you move to New York. Nothing to worry about here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:42 PM
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“Forty-one days and an orgasm later and now there were things on his mind that he’d known from the moment we met.” This article made me anxious and ANGRY. The only thing I hate more than overstepping men is when men overstep into juvenile women’s lives who can’t say anything about it. The power imbalance in this entire article made my heart race. She was nothing but a conquest for him, and in the end she didn’t even get to go to Broadway because he was one of the show producers. This is why you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:22 PM
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Your life will become so much easier when you realize that ugly guys will treat you just as bad as attractive guys. If you’re a “Heather” and you match with an “Ian”, you’re not going to get married. It’s extremely flawed to think that only attractive people want sex while uggos want marriage. This leads to women dating down and settling and still getting ghosted or broken up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:53 AM
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How much money I save being single! Lol! But seriously, I noticed how much other things are going on in my city. Instead of lounging around in bed with a guy for the entire weekend, I can visit my friends in the suburbs, go out for dinner/drinks in the city, go to the club, go shopping, go for a winery, work out, catch up on some work, gift shop for my friends birthday, and visit my parents. I’m more efficient with my time and I get so much done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:50 AM
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I think Miranda has an anxious attachment style. She only wanted Steve when he got a new girlfriend. She wants Che because they flirt with her/finger her and then don’t respond (at least before this most recent episode). I agree with everything you wrote in the post but I truly believe that Miranda would’ve been bored in any relationship where she had to settle down and have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:46 AM
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I’m a firm believer of the fact that your surroundings are a reflection of who you truly are. My ex from a few years ago had a great job, great family, but he was friends will college dropouts and drug dealers. He was NV our entire relationship and I ignored it. What does your boyfriend have in common with these people? It’s obvious that he enjoys their companionship and jokes. He’s probably just like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:40 AM
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While doing the mentioned things, the end goal would be that the guy starts liking you and then asks you to be exclusive. The easiest way to avoid a situationship is to end things if you see that he doesn’t want to be exclusive anytime soon and to not have sex with him if you’re not ready. I find that things usually fizzle out at the 2 month mark if you have conflicting goals. I have also ended things at the 2 month mark because I was seeing other people and didn’t want to waste more time on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:08 PM
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Does this girl even know they’re dating? It’s interesting how you say girlfriend in the title but to me this sounds like she’s just keeping him around and makes out with him once in a while. Seeing your man only once a month? Seems like she’s also seeing someone else or just isn’t interested in him. Or they’re like 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:47 AM
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Some do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:11 AM
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Offering a walk or a coffee date is a cheap option not only financially, but morally/emotionally as well. Especially in a large city where there are SO many free/cheap activities: skating/rollerblading, picnic, beach day, free/discounted art gallery day, the list goes on. I don’t want to be stuck in a long boring dinner date as much as the next person, but then think of something that’s not just a walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:49 AM
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It’s disheartening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:07 AM
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I do think she is the asshole in this situation. It’s pretty LV to insult someone’s cooking. However, as one of the top comments here say, you can’t manifest money into someone’s bank account if they can’t afford it. She shouldn’t be paying her boyfriends bills and instead leave the relationship to find someone in a better financial position. Additionally, he could’ve put like $30 a month away for her birthday present or that expensive cake since he knew it was coming up since that prior year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:40 PM
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Usually exactly a month. I’ve never had someone’s mask slip at 3 months, it’s always been one month or 6 dates, whichever came first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:57 PM
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That’s literally my dads age. Why are grown ass adults living with their parents unless they are caring for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:52 PM
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My rule is - if you have to write a post about him, he ain’t it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:10 AM
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This sounds exactly like my ex, except the lying wasn’t really gradual. It was always there. He paid for everything, took me on trips, but he was constantly lying. Our relationship was built on a lie. It was literally only surviving because he lied his way out of everything and I therefore thought that our relationship was ideal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 08:47 PM
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Why would you want to tell people these things? The only time you should be discussing finances is if you are planning to live together and get married. Otherwise, you shouldn’t be telling a boyfriend how much you make or whether or not you own your property. If someone asks, just say you have a stable income coming in and you’re doing well. No need to mention any specifics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:05 PM
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I think you can usually get rid of an avoidant with time. Don’t believe that all avoidants live the hermit lifestyle and have no friends as some of the comments here are saying - I met and even unfortunately dated many avoidants who had flourishing careers, had a solid group of male friends, and were close with their family. In my opinion, the defining attribute of avoidants is love bombing you at the beginning and then pulling away once they have you/realize that you have fallen for them. Somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:28 PM
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Redpilled guys and pickup artists are so easy to spot it’s funny. They think they’re being subtle but you can usually tell they’re trying to be an “alpha” within the first few messages or even in their prompts sometimes. It’s either a neg, a sexual comment, a negging comment directed at other women (“so glad you’re not blonde/fat/American/European/don’t have a masters degree/other dumb shit/etc, some sort of test to see your subservience like “come over and cook me dinner” or “I’ll let you cook …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:46 AM
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In some countries such as Australia, you are considered common law “married” after cohabitating for a year. Meaning you get taxed as if you’re married but don’t get any other benefits of being married. So while I’m fine to move in at the bf/gf stage, why would I keep living with my bf without a proposal past 1 year if I’m being taxed as if we’re married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 03:11 AM
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I don’t deal with those types of men. Or passive people in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:25 PM
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A small Christmas-related gift would be cute, maybe a box of hot chocolate or tea, or a bag of candy canes, some fresh pastries. Something symbolic that won’t break the bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:23 PM
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This is my mother. Whenever I visit, the house is not clean, there’s no food in the fridge, nothing. It took a few years to accept this and now I just buy my own groceries whenever I visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:57 PM
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I was with an emotionally abusive liar for a few years. We broke up but still stayed it touch because it was an extremely unhealthy codependent relationship. A year after our break up, I was living in a different city, and my ex said he wanted to get back together and marry me (probably because he dated around and realized that he couldn’t find anyone to put up with his lies). I said I would think about it and we stayed in touch. A month later I caught him in a huge lie and just blocked and dele…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:46 PM
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I dated earlier this year but I stopped. One of the top comments here said “when restaurants are closed, I am closed” and I fully agree. When restrictions start being imposed, I’m not about to try to fit a date during the few hours a restaurant or bar is open. I’m not that desperate to date. I dated this summer and we mostly went to patios which helped. I would have a phone call beforehand to make sure we clicked, I would frequently change masks, sanitize my hands, etc. I wouldn’t kiss on the fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:05 PM
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If you see him and make eye contact, I would just give something nonchalant. Maybe a nod. If he approaches you, keep conversation to a minimum. Don’t brag about your achievements, don’t go into detail, just say things are good. Don’t bad mouth him to your friends or colleagues. Being HV is taking the high road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:59 PM
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This is amazing. Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:37 PM
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You can text them first from a google number. Or at least in this situation I have a few days to think it over. I can also search his name and phone number on Google and see what comes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 10:45 PM
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I don’t give out my phone number to strangers so this approach would work for me. However, I’d like to get to know him before texting him. I would ask him his name, age, job, kids status, interests. A 10 minute conversation would tell me whether I’d want to text him. I would text him a quick “Hey this is (my name)!”, but planning the date and everything else is up to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 08:11 PM
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I’m in my early 20s and I see a bunch of 25-30 year old typical bachelors saying that they want kids someday. It baffles me how they think that they can waste their youth partying, doing drugs, sleeping around, not putting in any effort to actually date, and yet they think that one day they will have the white picket fence with a wife and kids and the American dream. I think a lot of people are out of touch and think that they will get married and have kids just because so many men have done it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:51 PM
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Therapy and self help books. Noticing dating patterns and instantly cutting off the person once you realize they resemble your father. Write future you letters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:46 PM
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If it’s been less than 6 months, I would gift either sweets, tea, some wine, maybe a sweater if he had gotten me gifts in the past. I wouldn’t stress about it. If it’s been like 3 months, then maybe only a bottle of wine and a card or chocolate bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:24 PM
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I would rather put money I earned to better or treat myself instead of spending it on a PI for a random guy. If this is a husband of many years that seems to be cheating….maybe. But I personally think that the second he starts acting sketchy and you even think of hiring a PI, it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:27 PM
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Therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:03 PM
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I never text first after a date. Sometimes I don’t even have the time to, the guy texts me before I’ve even gotten home. If he writes that he had a great time, I then write exactly what you wrote: “I had a great time, thank you for dinner. I’d love to do it again” and the ball is in his court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:09 AM
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Most of the guys I date clean their place very well. The last time I was in a dirty house was when I was dating a university student who didn’t care what kind of shit hole he lived in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:35 PM
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On OLD, I don’t care. There are so many of them that if he doesn’t respond within a day then I simply forget. If you’re texting, I would wait 24 hours. From my experience, men who took longer than a full day to respond were not interested. I also lost interest because we would barely text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:26 PM
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Marriage is beneficial for a woman with assets if the husband has assets as well. Marriage is beneficial for both parties for tax purposes, visitation rights, and in the case if one party passes away and the assets have to be allocated between family. Before getting married - meet with a lawyer, get a pre-nup, store your assets in your parents/family/offshore bank account & you should be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:07 PM
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This is why I don’t spend too much time on the internet. Most guys I date and most of my guy friends know that they should pay on the first few dates and they WANT to pay. Most of my guy friends know that they’ll have to spend 3 months salary on an engagement ring. I only read negative things online, I’m not familiar with those type of people in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:22 PM
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It could be an anxious attachment style but it could very well be intuition. Regardless, you should not be seeing someone that is giving you this much anxiety. I had an anxious attachment style that I worked through in therapy, but I was also anxious around some men which was purely my intuition. I was anxious leaving this was guy because he was not giving me what I wanted and was emotionally unavailable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 05:56 PM
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Honestly you’ll have to sort through the trash but you’ll find someone who is happy to witness your accomplishments and wants a career-oriented woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:27 PM
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If a man writes you one poem, he’s in love with you. If he writes you 1000 poems, he’s in love with poetry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:37 PM
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FDS isn’t about “training”. Someone is either HV or not. Drop this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:25 AM
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If this is someone you’re seeing regularly, they should at least offer to call you an Uber. I would drop this guy, it sounds like you’re not exclusive anyways. Most guys offer to pick me up and drop me off without me even saying anything. I’m currently dating a guy who calls me an Uber after every night out even though, again, I never hinted at it or brought it up in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:24 AM
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I both condition and brush it! And pet it lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:15 AM
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I have never waxed my bikini and will never. If I’m not in a relationship or going to the beach, I let a full bush grow out. It feels great. I was once backpacking across Asia and just left everything to grow out the way men grow out their beards when they travel. I trim when I go swimming or am seeing someone. I realize that shaving when going swimming is fully because of the patriarchy - God forbid someone at the beach sees that I have pubic hair! I trim when I’m seeing someone so that oral is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:50 PM
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I find that if I’m having amazing “vanilla” sex, I don’t need anything else. I only thought about toys, dressing up, bdsm, when I was having awful regular sex and wanted to spice things up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:44 PM
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It’s absolutely about the willingness to invest and spend more! Your post is right, I just don’t want women thinking that just because someone spent $200 on you means he’s HV and interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:55 PM
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Lol exactly! Not me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:53 PM
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Dates are about feeling comfortable and vetting, not about getting someone to spend $400 on your date. The rule of thumb is to not go anywhere you cannot afford. Always be able to pay for yourself if you need to leave. Although we advocate for dinner dates, a good first date could be somewhere where you have the chance of quickly leaving if things go south. There have been stories of men paying $200 and then getting upset that the girl didn’t sleep with them. Dates are not about money. ETA: “dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:45 AM
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Daycare in large cities can cost around $2,000 a month. How is it wrong to assume your husband, who has a full time job while you’re staying at home, pays the bills if you’re saving the family $2k a month?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:08 AM
33

Anyone who says “well hey, at least I’m honest” is a walking red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:02 AM
20

It’s possible to have no expectations but high standards. In my experience, once you start having expectations for men, you’re in too deep. Once you start expecting him to take you out, get you flowers, etc., you will constantly be thinking about him (I wonder if he’ll message me tonight, I wonder if he’ll pay the bill, I wonder if he’ll get me flowers), and there’s a chance you will stay with him even if he doesn’t meet your expectations. The goal is to have standards. If he doesn’t meet them, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 12:57 AM
3

I do this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:30 PM
2

Is this satire? Somehow I’m able to communicate well with my friends and coworkers, but not men. Sounds like the problem isn’t me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:16 AM
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Pilots, fitness instructors, cops/military and actors are a very hard no. All other professions - doctor, lawyer, etc are a case by case basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:00 PM
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I’ve been part of FDS for 2 years now and it definitely made me more skeptical of new friends when we discuss dating. I recently made a new friend. We have lots in common and have a great vibe going. She’s gorgeous, has a great job, has interesting hobbies, etc. But she recently got out of a relationship and now she’s throwing herself at every guy that gives her attention. She has been in therapy for a while but it looks like that’s not helping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:40 PM
3

This is why you need to stay single in your early 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:00 PM
4

Hmmm… most flaws are fine in moderation. I would say an indecisive partner wouldn’t be too bad, as long as he wasn’t indecisive about bigger things such as marriage, work, kids, etc. I personally can’t be with someone talkative but I won’t mind someone who’s shy as long as he’s not too shy to a point where it affects both of our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:05 AM
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Their relationship was “successful” in LV terms because April was like 19 when they started dating. They even bring up the age difference in the show. Andy is mentally a child and could not get a 26-28 year old woman to like him, so he resorts to dating teenagers. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:30 PM
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I also used to think that conservative men are nicer to date, but I’ve met PLENTY of liberal men who are still gentlemen, open doors, buy you dinner, get you flowers, etc. I personally only date liberal men. I discuss politics on the first date. If he’s a conservative, no matter how nice he is, I don’t see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:34 AM
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Just like the pinned comment wrote - just because he might be a HVM and you like him, this doesn’t mean he’s the man for you. An easy way to not ever get into this situation is by not dating guys in careers that you know pay half of what you make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:08 PM
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Bait & switch is real. I made a similar post a long long time ago. A guy wanted to take me to this nice winery in town. The day of, he says he’s tired and wants to just bring some wine to my place. I say no lol. But asking to switch 15 mins before the date is extremely rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:28 PM
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There was a top post on Reddit about this a few days ago. While there are naturally less homeless women in general because men are more prone to alcoholism etc, It’s because homeless women are quickly recruited into prostitution or other sex gigs, so it seems that the proportion is extremely small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:45 PM
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This is something you don’t realize happens until you’re educated. Don’t take any bullshit from others! You do you, make your money, and if the right guy comes along then he’ll come along. Don’t settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:44 PM
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There’s a difference between clear communication and texting constantly, ditching other plans to text or go out with someone, essentially overstepping your own boundaries. It’s possible to still be respectful of the other person and not overstep your boundaries. There’s a fine line between that and being a pushover/pickme. The handbook has a bunch of rules and tips regarding this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:40 PM
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This is an old video, she’s now living her best life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:58 PM
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I’ve had the same question since I was a teenager, way pre-FDS. I’ve had friends who would go on birth control right when they got a boyfriend, and then go off of it when they broke up, and then back on it. Doesn’t that fuck with your body? The irony is that birth control lowers libido. There are so many posts from men on Reddit complaining about their wives/gf not wanting to have sex as much after going on birth control. Ultimately, birth control increases the quality of life for some people wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:04 PM
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I wish they had something like this for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:25 AM
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Lol. If my future husband moved into the property that I own, that he had no possible ownership of, I would have him pay around half of the mortgage. At that point it would be cheaper for him to do that than for him to rent elsewhere. Obviously I would be taking care of all other expenses and paying more than him altogether. I think paying only property taxes is extremely generous, you still need to help the household somehow. I’m assuming she’s paying for any renovations, furniture, repairmen, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:32 AM
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I agree. This doesn’t give off HVW vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:06 PM
170

There’s no need for a paragraph to this post. The title is enough. The answer is “no”. No ifs or buts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:42 PM
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Wow this sucks. When I had roommates, people used to say that you don’t live with friends exactly for this reason. But it’s usually because they could be dirty or avoid responsibility, not show you misogynistic videos and neg you. The FDS way would be to keep your chin up. The best case scenario would be to find a different room while you sublet this one. Quietly. Depending on where you live, you’ll only need landlords consent to sublet. The second best case scenario would be to wait out the end…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:44 AM
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I’ve hard roommates which could’ve covered a few bills or bought me food if I was that broke. I’ve also been that roommate that got my other roommates food. This is worse than a roommate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:42 AM
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There’s definitely something that went unwritten. Perhaps for a few years out of their 8 the husband was seeing someone else and got burnt by that person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:15 AM
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They’ve been together for almost a decade. Any past experiences should be forgotten by now. I’m also assuming that he wasn’t making six figures when they started dating, so how exactly has he been burnt previously? He took a lady out on a date who didn’t put out afterwards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:25 PM
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What the hell is the point of getting married even if you’re not going to have at least one shared account in which you put a portion of your income in? How do they buy groceries are other stuff? How do they plan vacations? Getting married means you’re family. I can give my parents or siblings money without them asking for it back and vice versa. I am definitely lucky to have that family dynamic. How the hell are people out here living with separate budgets when they’re MARRIED?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:23 PM
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Lol I LOVE this! I work at a well-known tech company and it’s exactly like this. They invest in their employees because the cost of us leaving and them having to find someone else is extremely high. I also like your third to last paragraph. I date professional men as well, and have had mostly good dates, but it BAFFLES me when a guy with a good job cannot give enough shits to plan something. We all know that he’s a great planner when it comes to work, but for some reason can’t confirm a date unt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:17 PM
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There’s only so much you can do. After a while, it’s best to limit your interaction with friends who are in bad relationships and abusive relationships. But question: is your friend aware that she’s in an abusive relationship? Or do you believe that because of their sex life? This is especially true when you’re in a relationship yourself. Years ago I was in a pretty shitty emotionally abusive relationship. At the time, I had a good friend who was in a worse relationship than I was. This made me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:59 AM
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Very well written. You see this in a lot of shows, where a woman just meets someone and falls into bed with him and all of a sudden they’re dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:40 PM
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This is a great question. I’ve never wanted kids growing up. I wasn’t the child growing up playing with dolls and picturing a perfect family. Some days I want kids, other days I don’t. I personally don’t see the point in having kids if I’m slaving away at a job for 50-60 hours a week (+ commute time when we work at the office). The only way I would have kids is if I’m financially stable enough to work part time or work from home, and to afford a nanny, a cleaner, and regular food takeout so I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:51 AM
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Great point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:46 AM
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In my opinion, any question along the lines of “are you the ______ type” is a red flag. They’re generalizing women and trying to get you to bend over backwards to prove you’re the cool girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:40 PM
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Yep, this has happened to me before just once. But that one time was enough. I called the guy out and said that I would be paying for just my meal and not half of the bill, after which he got a bit embarrassed and just paid the whole bill. Never answered his texts again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:33 AM
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I stick to light dinner dates for an easy getaway. They’ve also been recommended in this sub. So I’m fine having dinner with friends and then having an appetizer or a very light meal over the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:50 AM
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The only reason I prefer the date after an event is that it does not affect me if the guy cancels or pulls a bait and switch last minute. If I have a date prior to an event and he cancels or is being difficult, I now have an empty 2-3 hour window in my evening. I’ve had a guy once cancel as I was getting ready. If the date is going poorly and I cut it short, I now have to stick around downtown somewhere prior to my event. Whereas if the date is after an event, worst case scenario, I go home afte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:37 PM
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I think that’s why she’s the “full package” to men. It seems like she doesn’t know her worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:14 PM
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I’m also assuming that these phone calls are long. Actual question - how does a married person with a job have time for these 1hr+ long phone calls with their ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:11 PM
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That tweet had so many comments saying “you should write a book about this”, “this is poetry”, “amazing”. Wtf? This is romanticizing past relationships. Who has time for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:33 PM
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If you even think of making a Reddit post about him, honey, he’s not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:15 PM
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What made you not like it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:12 PM
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It’s just another phrase for “you’re not like other women”. Ignore them. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:48 PM
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Scour the dating subs for a few days, he’ll pop up! He posts the same shit every other day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:22 AM
1

Wow this made me cry. So sad and disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:53 PM
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LOL I’ve seen this guys posts on all the dating subs. He goes around writing about how he’s a kissless virgin, he’s been doing this for years! Look at his post history, it’s pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:01 PM
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LOL same! All of their sweaters are cropped now! Can I find one store that sells regular full-length sweaters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:51 PM
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Wow sad. Bonus for me would be cooking VERY well (chef style cooking), not just knowing how to cook in general. Reading lots of different types of books, not just reading once in a while. 2% body fat, not just in shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:50 PM
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Cancelling dates is probably the most lowkey one and is hard to catch. Some people actually do have last minute emergencies because of which they have to cancel. A few years ago, I had a guy very interested in going out with me the night of. I said yes, and then he had to cancel because of dinner with his parents or some other bs. It turned out that he was seeing multiple women so he probably asked multiple women out and went out with whoever responded the fastest. This can be prevented by havin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:53 PM
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To add to the list: I find that anyone who lets their dog off the leash in a park or path that’s not leash-free is automatically LV. I know you trust your dog, but other dogs can attack your dog if your dog runs up to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:46 PM
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😂😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:40 PM
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Honey...the call is coming from inside the house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:39 PM
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Read the mods pinned comment. They’re negging you. If someone does that, man or woman, they’re automatically LV. You should respond with the first option: yeah, I am a genius, and then ditch them. Find someone who needs an equal partner, not a woman who’s beneath him. Source: I’m in tech. I’ve dealt with a fair share of guys like this. But the ones that are actually interested in my work are worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:46 PM
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One of my friends is a gorgeous, brilliant person. She has model proportions and is finishing up law school this year. She’s been dating this guy for 4 years and has clearly expressed multiple times that she wants to get married. They’re 26, but she’s ready. It got to the point of her parents speaking to him because he was not ready. He’s not going to be ready. I think they’ll stay together for another 4 years until they finally marry when they’re 30. I don’t even know why she’s with him. She ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:12 PM
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It does get lonely but I’ve filled the empty time with other activities. I also plan week long trips to see my HV friends who live in other cities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:32 PM
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Exactly. So happy that you got rid of that ex lol! If I’m in tech and dating someone in tech/engineering/finance with a similar salary, it’s not gold digging to have certain standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:30 PM
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This is not only rape, but it’s actually sex trafficking and pimping. Someone bringing other men to have sex with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:51 PM
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Exactly. Wanting your dinner to be paid for is not gold digging. A guy making 200k dating a woman making 100k does not mean she’s a gold digger. Wanting a guy to treat you in literally any way is not gold digging. This is an extremely overused term meant to shame women for wanting the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:49 PM
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I was going to make a post about an ex friend last week and after reading this post, I think I will. If your “friends” are subtle haters, as you put it, then they’re not your friends. That’s it. That’s the reality. It sounds like they’re not leveling up at all. I dropped a similar friend like that. And by dropped I mean that I stopped reaching out first and realized that she never reached out. Our friendship fizzled out and I’m glad that now I can channel my energy into other friendships and rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:20 PM
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You don’t mutually “decide” that you’re going NC. You go NC by blocking him everywhere. Clearly he wasn’t blocked everywhere since he messaged you. I’ve been there. Trust me. It’s not easy. Block him, delete all messages, and hide your phone so that you won’t message him. Either cry it out or go for a walk/work out, whichever would be best. And don’t look back. Message me if you want to talk. I’ve been in a similar trauma-bonded relationship which ultimately led me to find FDS in 2019. I haven’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:55 PM
1

If adoption became easier in my country, I would love to adopt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:03 PM
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In the workplace, it’s mostly nepotism and connections. I work in tech and while there are plenty of guys with proper comp sci backgrounds, a bunch of (white) guys are with the company purely because of nepotism and connections. Because they knew the manager or their dad plays golf with the recruiter. So I’m not surprised that they’re stupid, they barely have a technical background and are not qualified for their position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:53 PM
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Was it maybe also a different time? I’m close to your daughters age and it’s more about making money nowadays than having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:45 PM
3

My dad is the same way. His salary is for the mortgage, house, groceries and my mom just uses her salary on herself as well. I’ve gotten into the habit of telling them how bad the dating scene is just so they’d stop pressuring me into anything and don’t bring up kids. Both my mom and I have health conditions as well, she nearly died during childbirth and knows perfectly well that I can die as well. So it would be disheartening if she starts to bring up kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:44 PM
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I truly don’t want to jinx myself here, but so far my parents have not been pressuring me to have kids. Years ago when I was in university, my dad said he expected grandkids when I was 26, and I flat out told him no and that I would still be working on my career at that age. 26 is still a baby! That seemed to shut him up. He’s a very career-oriented person and it made sense to him when I told him I’d rather do that instead of popping out a baby in my 20s. I am worried, however, that the pressure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:54 PM
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I had an older friend do this 😂 she showed me before and after pictures of the house she shared with her partner. The main furniture was his (large couch, dining table), but all of the decor, the TV, side chairs, bedding was hers. The house looked like a frat house in the “after” pictures!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:14 PM
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My random dealbreakers: picky eaters, doesn’t like to cook, doesn’t like to read, chooses to spend money on tangible items that he doesn’t need (I choose to spend money on experiences: vacations, museums, concerts etc), NEVER shops for clothing, if one of his friends rubs me the wrong way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:26 PM
13

If you read the news about it, the police let her go right away and she ended up jumping anyway. Good for the guys who saved her but bad on the police for letting her go so quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:11 PM
17

Huh????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:39 PM
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Nothing pisses me off as much as THIS!!!! The double standard!!! In the case where the family moves to a different city, so the family is just expected to move if the dad gets a new job but not the mom? I knew a woman who had a cushy government job in the government capital, but had to move to a different smaller city because her husband got a job there. Thankfully, she was able to transfer her position to that small town, but it would hinder her promotion abilities because the town is smaller a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:00 PM
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Wanting someone on your level is not elitist. Why on earth would I date someone making less than me? Why on earth would I date someone with no university degree? All my friends have university degrees and jobs, we naturally became friends. I want the same for a future partner, someone you meet and it just flows naturally because you have a similar background and interests. I’ve noticed that men want to force things more than women. I’ve been out on dates with men who seem good on paper, but we h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:55 PM
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Why do men tell on themselves like this 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:44 PM
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I was in the exact same situation. There was a guy in a distant friend group of mine. He was a friend of a friends of a friends. We hung out a few times, mostly at my place, and then one time he told me he was too tired to drive home. I let him sleep over (at this point I treated him like I would any friend). After that sleep over, he asked me out on a date and we went on a few dates. He then straight up told me he was upset that we hadn’t hooked up yet and we ghosted each other. They’re insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:19 PM
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I don’t want to do it simply because of the amount of documents that I would have to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:10 AM
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He’s not better. He’s 10x worse. I’m not even sure what she saw in him, I think she just enjoyed the chase. Her friends were right when they told her to stop entertaining him and then crying to them when it didn’t go right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:24 AM
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Big was a total asshole and completely in the wrong here. He was almost over a decade (or even close to two?) older than her, and you would think that he would have more brains and life experience, but sadly that’s not the case. Him being a healthy adult would’ve been stopping the shenanigans and not responding to Carrie. But they played a back and forth game where they would break up, then call each other and start everything back up again. To those shitting on Carrie, there was a point where s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:16 PM
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Balding (I’m in my mid 20s so he should have his full heard of hair still), patchy beard or weird facial hair, overweight (I am fit and work out), gross nails or feet, bad posture, dry skin (lack of moisturizing). Literally the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:55 PM
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I absolutely cannot believe that surrogacy is legal. It literally is renting out a woman’s body. Some surrogacies pay around 60-100k for 9 months which might seem great, but people often forget about the effects of pregnancy on the body. The woman won’t be able to work right away, she most likely will have to have some sort of PT, gym membership, maybe even laser in the future. Her boobs will still be leaking milk for the next few months. I truly don’t understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:52 PM
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This is a great way to dodge bullets! I have been using this same tactic. Most normal guys agree to have a call/video chat first, but I’ve had a few guys get extremely defensive and offended when I don’t want to meet them irl right away. I see these reds flags immediately and stop wasting time on them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:47 PM
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Exactly. I met a guy who was “traditional”, he wanted a wife and kids. He had a good job and paid for everything, so he definitely was “traditional” in the financial sense, but he watched a ton of porn and went to strip clubs. He was traditional only in the financial sense of the word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:44 PM
92

Yes, plus he’s also racist lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:42 PM
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What are the chances that her birth control lowered her sex drive? I hear that from my friends all the time. I even had a roommate who was using condoms with this guy for a while until they became bf/gf, then switched to birth control and got extremely moody and barely wanted sex anymore. Also, asking something like that from another person is weird af. I have a very high sex drive and I would be disappointed if my partner didn’t, but I don’t go around asking that on the first date. That’s somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:15 PM
1

Replace porn/sex addition with alcohol/drug addition. Sometimes the addict is not distressed, yet an intervention is still held by their loved ones because they care. Yet when it comes to sex, for some reason if the person isn’t distressed then it’s normal for them to continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:07 PM
10

I want to do things for a man who is my boyfriend/soon to be husband. I can afford a 3 course meal for the two of us at an upscale restaurant. I can afford quality gifts for his birthday. Would I pay on a first date for a man I’d probably never see again? Let me rephrase ; why would I pay on a first date for a man I’d probably never see again? I’m currently in my 20s. Unless I become a cougar 20+ years from now and want a young attractive boy toy, why the hell would I ever pay for the two of us …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:53 PM
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Yes, in college I had a roommate who got out of a relationship and was hooking up with plenty of guys. None of my business, but I was not comfortable when she would bring them home. We were at a bar once and these creepy 30+ (maybe even 40+) year old men were starting at us as if they were dogs, and she saw nothing wrong with that and wanted to bring one of them over!! I said she could hook up with one of them if she wanted, but I did NOT want to see them in our house!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:50 PM
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I also have a similar opinion - I don’t want to give someone else the power of having kids with me. I hear horror stories about how after a divorce you can’t leave the country with your kids unless they have the other parents signature, and sometimes the dad purposefully won’t give the signature. If your child is just your own, you can move as much as you want, travel as much as you want with them, and do whatever without relying on another person. You can put the child in whatever school you wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:46 PM
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Managers like this suck. And clearly the person in the comments talking about an elective surgery has not worked for a good manager or company. In countries outside of the US, it’s normal to go get your surgery, take PAID medical leave, and return back once you are healed (this is for full time positions in large companies, sadly not for part time or min wage work). I’m assuming this is the US because only in the US do people kiss their employers asses like that. It’s literally cheaper to have a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:38 PM
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Prostitution is legal in the Netherlands, yet there are still victims of sex trafficking. There is still rape. There are so-called “legal prostitutes” in the red light district in Amsterdam who are sex trafficking victims from Eastern Europe. The only thing to do as someone mentioned above is to criminalize the people benefiting off of it (pimps, brothel owners) and to help the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:39 PM
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This is my goal for this summer! Meet up with my girlfriends and wear out cutest outfits, even if we are just having cocktails at home. I also want to do a themed night with them, that would be so cute. Last year I stopped wearing things for the male gaze (tight, low cut) and started wearing things that I know my girlfriends would find cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:45 PM
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Exactly. He looks like the divorced dad of one of my middle school friends back in 2007.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:21 PM
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I believe you can tell if you’re sexually compatible just from kissing. There are some people who kiss well but who you just don’t vibe with. You don’t need to have sex to know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:20 PM
6

Condoms for me for the rest of my life :) no other birth control, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:18 PM
8

What country are you in?? What kind of rule is that? Change the locks when he’s out and call the cops when he comes back. Please message me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:17 PM
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Years ago when I was in university, I was shopping for lingerie and heard a uni girl saying “oh my fuck buddy is gonna love this”. This was pre-FDS but my ears still bled from hearing that. I wanted to walk up to her and tell her to not buy $50+ lingerie for a random fuck buddy. Casual dating culture in college is REAL. I’ve also seen a couple be boyfriend/girlfriend but each cheat for some reason. It’s ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:14 PM
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I would say 6 months of a proper relationship (not the courtship phase) if the parents are in the same city. My ex begged me to meet his parents after 4 months. I met his entire extended family after 5 months. And they were all in a different city! 1 year is a whole year of not spending holidays with him. I would be suspicious if he hasn’t introduced me to his family after 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:46 PM
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You need to set a timeline for yourself that would benefit you. Listen to what others have to say, but don’t apply it to your life unless you’re sure it will benefit you. Everyone is different. I have friends in med school who want to graduate before getting married. And for the longest time I thought that I could be with someone for 4 years before getting engaged, now I think that 2 years is enough to know if you want to be with him. I would see myself moving in with someone after 2 years and g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:30 AM
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Ok, then ride your bike around the lake? There’s nothing wrong with that. But oh, seems like that’s not actually what you want, or else you wouldn’t have written a reddit post about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:36 PM
18

This needs to be part of the handbook. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:35 PM
24

Yesss good thing you got it removed! Birth control is such a scam tbh, condoms are the only way for me. As a student I thought the opposite of you - I didn’t have time or energy for constant birth control pains, going to the doctor, etc., so I just used condoms. I STILL don’t have time or energy to be dealing with all that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:32 PM
11

Ok but...my money will also increase year after year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:21 PM
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Money isn’t everything but it sure has helped my dating record. Why would I go 50/50 on a mediocre date when I can just take my friend out? Why would I spent time and money putting on expensive makeup for this mediocre date when I could do that for a night out with my friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:20 PM
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If you don’t shop at Tiffany’s, you can get a very nice ring with a decent diamond for like $5k. Lots of rings cost a lot just for the brand name, so if you buy a no name brand then you can get a nice rock and gorgeous band for that amount. And let me remind you that this ring should last a lifetime (just like your marriage). So the bride AND GROOM should not be getting cheap $100 rings. Maybe it’s because I live in a high CoL area, but $5k is meaningless where I live. You cannot put it towards …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:12 AM
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I joined back in 2019 when there were 2k! Can’t believe we’ve grown so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:27 AM
5

This is why you need to be careful who you hang out with. I always forget until I’m hanging out with someone who tells me that the guy she’s seeing ghosted her 2 weeks ago and then randomly hit her up at 2am last night and they fucked again and now she’s in love. You can also try to tell them to not do that which they KNOW but don’t follow through with. As long as girls have friends who keep clapping for them when they date trash guys, they will keep dating trash guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:10 PM
3

Now she should just leave him and live off of her 7k/month salary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:06 PM
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Every day I learn something new. Lol. Not wanting to procreate with someone with a poor medical history is a personal choice. So are they saying that sperm banks not allowing old and mutated sperm is eugenics as well??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:02 PM
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It seems like you’re defending him though. We don’t diss women’s appearances in this sub, even if they had surgery. Your comment was out of line which is why I responded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:00 PM
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And? At least she’s investing in herself. She also spends a lot of time with her kids. No amount of procedures could fix his saggy belly. You also need to keep working out after procedures, you can’t just let yourself go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:36 PM
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Psychopaths don’t care if they rape or not. But lots of rape is caused by drunk college boys who think that if a girl is passed out in her bed then she wants to fuck!! These are the people that need to be taught not to r*pe and need to be watched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:34 PM
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This should be NSFW 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:29 PM
8

I was blonde arm candy to a rich man. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:25 AM
7

Yes exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:20 PM
38

I agree with this to an extent. You still see people with abusive childhoods out here cooking and cleaning. We see people fail in society due to substance abuse issues, abusive childhoods and partners. Sadly that’s the reality. But then these people are not obligated to date or procreate, or even be a functioning member of society (which they are often not). I’ve met a few people like this through things like renting out my apartment (going through applicants) or working customer service in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:36 PM
5

Exactly. It stops being worth it if you’re worrying about a late period or STD. Not. Worth. It.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:57 PM
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I struggle with this a bit. On one hand, I want someone who has a career they enjoy like I do, but on another hand I don’t want them working insane hours. I have a friend who met her husband at work. She fell in love with him because he was so ambitious and was a great employee. They got married and everything was fine, they were both passionate about their jobs. But once they had kids she realized that his one true love was always going to be work. He did not adjust his schedule whatsoever when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:34 PM
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I truly have no idea. My father is an amazing cook and I grew up with that. I’ve only dated guys who knew how to cook. A guy should have at least 2 staple meals, if he doesn’t then how the hell has he survived up until this point? An ex of mine knew how to make a bomb breakfast, burritos, and steak. We never lived together but whenever I slept over at his place he took care of wine and dinner. How do you get to the point of moving in with someone when they’ve never even made you dinner? My answe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:31 PM
24

So we can’t get state-assigned housing but they want state-assigned gfs? So literally a Handmaid? Kk cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:54 PM
21

If he asks you for a walking date = you can’t upgrade. Just unmatch. If he asks you for a coffee date = you can attempt to upgrade, but it’s best to just leave it. If he asks you for a drinks date = sometimes “drinks” mean “drinks + light meal”, for some reason guys are afraid to ask for a full dinner. I’ve been on “drinks” dates that turned out to be full dinner dates lol. With this one you can just ask “that’s pretty late, what about dinner a bit earlier?”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:09 AM
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He wrote in one of the comments that the plan was to go to a coffee shop, then trail, then to a bookstore. Could be cute if everything else is closed due to lockdown. But when they met up she didn’t want to go to the coffee shop, and after the walk she said she had plans so they didn’t go to the bookstore either. It sounds like she wasn’t into him, he got this vibe, and decided to cut her off first so that he didn’t end up being the one “dumped”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:13 PM
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I’ve actually done this before, especially with one night stands back in the day. I would finish and tell them to either leave or finish in the bathroom and then leave. Now, if I finish early with someone I’m seeing, I tell them to hurry up because I’m done and they finish within a minute or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:55 PM
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No one is against masturbation, but can’t you do it using pictures/scenarios in your mind and not real porn? I never understood this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:23 AM
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I think it was something like A I T A for not knowing about my own wedding? From the girlfriends perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:13 PM
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It was shared here a long time ago! I wish I remembered the title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:46 PM
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This reminds me of the post about the guy who thought that his girlfriend was planning their wedding when in reality she didn’t even know that they were having a wedding. He thought she was doing all the planning because she was working at her computer a lot and she said yes when he had casually asked her if she wanted to get married. She thought that it was just a discussion and not an actual proposal. A proposal doesn’t have to be expensive. A wedding doesn’t have to be expensive. If you care …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:26 PM
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Living with someone for a long time is a wife benefit imo. I’ve never lived with anyone and I don’t plan on moving in with someone if we don’t agree that there will be a proposal within the next year (ideally 6-8 months) after we move in together. I have moved around a lot, I’ve had a lot of roommates, and I do not need one more. That is how I would explain it to a future boyfriend who wants to move in together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:58 AM
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It will be hard but you will thank yourself down the line. All you need at the moment is work, the gym, a therapist, and 1 friend or person to talk to. That’s it for the moment. Looks like you have 3/4. Obviously a good group of friends helps but you will not pass away if you don’t have one. You mention that your relationship “wasn’t awful”, so I wasn’t prepared for what you were going to tell us next. He cheated?? That’s the definition of an awful relationship. You should be happy that you’re l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:28 PM
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You said it yourself, you haven’t gone on trips yet or stayed overnight, leave that to the relationship. Do you have a general idea of when he’s going to ask to be official? I personally stop talking to someone every day and seeing them multiple times a week after the 2 month mark. It’s a waste of time if we’re not looking for the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:21 PM
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I’ve experienced this so many times, i truly want to start doing this as a “test” to weed the bad guys out. I made a post last year where I walked my dog with a guy who was interested and I later got sick, he couldn’t care less and then proceeded to keep asking me out. In January I had a phone call planned with a guy I met online, I randomly got sick that morning and told him I didn’t think I could make our evening call, he left me on read until the next day when he asked if I wanted to try anot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:43 PM
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This sounds like incel fan fiction to me tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:35 PM
158

“Maintain their personal independence and support systems” = I’m never going to introduce you to my friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:31 PM
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The top comment was telling him how he made a great choice, but all the other comments ripped him apart. If you’re with someone for 8 years and he clearly doesn’t want to commit, it’s natural that you will also start to look for someone on the side under the disguise of an open relationship. Comments were telling him that he spent 8 years working on his business instead of the relationship. Also, he’s way too quick to break up with her after she offered that, they barely discussed it and he’s re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:28 PM
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Good for you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 A month is practically nothing and is the bare minimum that someone should be waiting. If you’re seeing each other once a week, then a month is only 4 dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:41 PM
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Plus, men’s and women’s bodies are different. Why would I want a man as my trainer? I would want a woman with a body type closely resembling mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:30 PM
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Oh absolutely. I’ve seen plenty of awful comments over the past few days and they must have been from women because they had the “FDS Disciple” flair. Mods need to be removing people’s ranks if they comment misogynistic things. However there are some posts or comments which are so so obviously a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:17 PM
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The things is, women are facing everything in the last pic too: those of us in large cities with skyrocketing property values don’t know if we’ll ever own property either, the younger generation doesn’t have job protection either. And on top of that we’re women and face sexism in the workplace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:21 AM
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What’s the sidebar method? This post sounds like a wet dream of a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:19 AM
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Stop with this bullshit. Everyone knows men change after dating for a long time. And even if they don’t, let’s say he actually was like this before marriage, let’s not victim blame the wife ok???? There’s such a thing as emotional and narcissistic abuse when a man won’t do shit and tell you you’re the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:21 PM
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This has nothing to do with FDS. This would be better suited in relationship_advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:11 PM
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Huh? Yes, now copy the rest of my post here where I say that I can both cook and fix things/do plumbing and I keep meeting men who can’t do shit and also barely make money. So why do I even need them in the first place? I spoke more about my handywoman skills than my salary. I don’t drive a Porsche either, I have no clue what that even has to do with anything. Also, FDS standards = high standards. We all should have high standards and keep vetting men. The point of FDS is to keep vetting and bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:19 PM
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That sounds like my post. I thought I stressed in the post the fact that I’m very handy and I know how to cook. Yes, money is great but I also physically don’t need to rely on a man because I can do the heavy lifting myself. And I meet a ton of met who can’t do either so why would I even need them? FDS should not be about money. We should work to become as independent as possible so that we don’t have to rely on anyone. Nothing is stopping you from watching free YouTube videos on how to fix a to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:43 PM
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Of course I’m looking for a HVM...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:09 PM
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I’ve been stumbling upon more and more men with great jobs who are not good people. It doesn’t take much to have a decent job nowadays if you’re a white man born into an upper middle class family. I once talked with a guy who worked at my company (I work at a large company so we would never cross paths, he worked in a completely different area), he was a bit senior than me so probably made 15k more. Yet he did not respect my boundaries whatsoever and when I turned him down he did that thing wher…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:07 PM
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Why resent? They can’t match up? And how do you distinguish this resentment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:47 AM
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I really do enjoy the couple things! This is why I made this post. I think a relationship has to offer something more than just the “couple things”. I, for instance, can cook, can give good gifts, can take the person out for a nice dinner. I am a supportive person and I love hard. I am simply looking for someone to match what I have to offer or offer something that I don’t have, but it’s been difficult so far. Why would I date a guy who can’t fix things, can’t cook, can’t clean, can’t earn money…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:45 AM
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It really is refreshing. Example from my life: guy 1 remembers details about me but I can tell he doesn’t really care, also doesn’t pay for shit. Guy 2 (only 1 date) doesn’t remember details and can’t pay for shit either. Guy 3 memorized facts about me and paid for a dinner of my favourite cuisine. There are plenty of men to go around. I can’t stress this enough. Why be with someone that doesn’t care about you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:59 AM
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I haven’t met a guy against condoms in a while and I’m glad. The last few guys I was dating were definitely pro-condoms. Next time he says that he can’t feel anything with a condom, tell him “great, then you’ll last longer”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:45 PM
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A walk is the absolute bare minimum now that everyone is going on picnics or to patios. If your bring up a picnic and he still says he wants just a walk, bye. Also a picnic isn’t an excuse to not do anything: one time a guy said that he was going to bring some wine to our picnic. I was expected to bring everything else: blanket and food. Lol. A picnic can be romantic with nice food, drinks, flowers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:43 PM
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Oh my GOD. This reminded me of my ex from a few years back. He was constantly “deleting” photos and messages. I would catch him in a lie and he would delete any proof of the lie. Or he would say that he wasn’t lying but he deleted proof that he wasn’t. This actually triggered me. Anyone who constantly deletes shit (why would he delete texts if he messaged you?) is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:21 AM
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How am I this girls age yet I make more than the 38 year old? “Big earner at 50k” LOL! I’m currently fine dating guys making 50k since we’re all starting our careers, but dating someone older than 30 making 50k (unless he’s a teacher or in research) is a big no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:52 PM
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Who is creating these websites and apps? There are intelligent women developers but the creators of porn sites are all men. Stop blaming the actresses and the women getting paid/exploited, blame the platforms instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:29 AM
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I truly think that I would have a child before hitting 30 if there was stability in the birthing process (aka I wouldn’t become disabled after a traumatic birth) and cheap or free childcare. I think the costs of childcare worries women a lot but also the birthing process itself. It’s not something women want to go through nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:36 AM
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If you’re in college and can’t afford at least a $40/$50 ring, then don’t buy one. It’s pretty simple. At 20 years old you should not be giving out “promise rings”. This definitely seems cheap, and her friends and family probably don’t like him because he has other cheap tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:39 PM
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You can walk alone, with friends/family, or chat on the phone with your friends and family. You can also walk with your boyfriend of many months or husband. You can’t “go for a walk” as a first date. I love to walk. I have a park near my house that I go walking in for hours. Would I do that with a boy I’m not in a committed relationship with? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:29 PM
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As someone else had mentioned, this is a holiday to celebrate specifically soldiers and those who have been in the army and fought for their country. Since the army is mandatory in Russia, this has slowly turned into a “men’s day” because lots of men had gone to the army. Additionally, men who have not gone to the army celebrate it as well because the holiday is just so heavily celebrated. It’s really sad and can get pretty sexist. However international women’s day is heavily celebrated as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:38 PM
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She’s a millionaire... maybe she just wanted a baby and didn’t want to get married. We don’t know her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:02 PM
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My ex was extremely wealthy as well. I must admit, I stayed with him longer than I should have because he was always throwing gifts at me, buying me clothes, and taking me travelling. We partied a lot and really lived that lifestyle. Things to watch out for: everything that doesn’t concern money. Pretend he doesn’t even have that money. What does his wealth have to do with who he is to you? Set firm boundaries and walk away at the first lie, neg, whatever. When he fucks up, he WILL come running …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:58 PM
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I thought he was bad enough in the proposal video, but I watched some other videos and holy shit, he is sooooo ugly and it looks like he has grey hairs already. This girl is a 10/10, the only way a guy like him could’ve gotten her is by emotional manipulation. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:23 PM
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Do you know how old he is?? Is there an age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:17 PM
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How old is he?? If he’s also in his late 20s then that’s a ROUGH late 20s. Good for her for leaving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:15 PM
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Lmfao if my husband fought an actual war and came home I would treat him like a king. But the thing is, not many husbands go off to war nowadays, yet plenty of women still almost die during childbirth. These arguments are irrational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:08 PM
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Damn that’s cold.... seems psychopathic to me. He definitely has issues. Who can’t plan a little surprise or gift for a birthday, Christmas, or Valentine’s Day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:23 AM
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Weak women are not born. Weak women are created over time. Weak women are strong women who got torn down by their exes or family members who claim that they need a man. Weak women are stuck in financial abuse and can’t afford to leave. Do not blame “weak” women for men’s actions. Men have created weak women. This is a shit, victim-blaming video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:45 PM
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Exactly. Some weak women are just strong women that have been torn down by ex-boyfriends/husbands or my their family members who tell them that they need to have a man by their side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:43 PM
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It’s sad to realize that the people you grew up with are awful and toxic. I have a friend that I quote literally grew up with, we were always family friends. She was a total brat growing up, and we were both awful teenagers. Now we’re adults with full time jobs and there are still instances where her bratiness jumps out and when she’s just an awful person. Know when you remove yourself from friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:56 PM
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Good for you for recognizing the red flags early on and cancelling. I should’ve cancelled the day before too. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:54 PM
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Couldn’t agree more. We need to stop assuming that guys are just shy or nervous and realize that they’re most likely lazy or not interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:36 PM
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To that question just answer your fave type of cuisine. Like “my favourite restaurants would have to be Italian or Indian”. If he keeps asking after that, then it’s an indicator that he’s too lazy to google restaurants himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:30 PM
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Hmm, interesting point but I don’t think it was intentional. Seems like he’s just low maintenance and doesn’t plan dates. At first I was wondering why he was still single since he seemed like such a catch, now I know why! If he put that much effort into someone he spent almost a month video calling with, I wonder how much effort he puts into someone he just met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:14 PM
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Exactly, though I’m still upset at wasting even 1 “date”. This is a reminder to block at the first notice of date planning incompetency!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:37 PM
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It was awkward because the server was right there lol. The server even threw a bit of share at him after so I guess I could’ve said something but at that point I was mentally checked out and just wanted to go home. This is the first time I’ve paid for myself on a first date in years so I was shocked and not expecting it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:36 PM
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Agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:03 PM
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Exactly! If my friends and coworkers can plan something, why can’t a guy allegedly interested in me? It’s so simple to choose a place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:38 PM
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Looks like it pulled over after. Hopefully they pulled over and went to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:51 PM
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That is being pestered LMAO!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:08 AM
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I’m entering that six figure phase too - how do I protect myself from not only gold diggers but also those who want a personal chef & maid instead of life partner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:35 AM
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Honey...nobody is undervaluing themselves here. My parents gave me the best portions for 18 years while I was growing up, so I am reciprocating now that I am an adult and know how to cook well. & yes, my cousins and other family members also treat me well when I visit, everyone treats the guest well when they visit. It’s basic decency to your loved ones. I’m done with this conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:42 PM
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Lol! No I don’t have kids. I wrote that when my family is visiting and I cook for them, meaning when my parents, siblings, or cousins visit. I put “worst” in quotation marks because usually there’s no worst portion. I’ve never over or under cooked something. I mean that I’d rather my parents have larger portions and I’ll have the smaller one, or they will have the portions with the most meat, veggies, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:21 PM
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A ring made from glass for everyday wear would be cute, I could see myself appreciating the time that went into it and wearing it to brunch and to the mall. A ring like that as an engagement ring which is meant to last the rest of your life? Hard NO! And that’s not gold digging at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:12 PM
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I agree that with guys it’s different. In all the past experiences I’ve had, the guys would give me the better portion (if there was one). But around family it’s different, I want my family to have the best. Especially if I’m cooking since I can always make myself this bomb meal again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:08 PM
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Wow. Even college guys living in their dusty frat house know to clean this up or else they’ll get in trouble (with the landlord). This is absolutely beyond me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:47 AM
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The steak scenario is such a small thing that shows how much someone actually cares about you. Whenever I have family over and cook for them, I always give myself the smaller and “worst” portion because I want my family to enjoy their dinner and I can always cook for just myself later. If someone cooks for you and gives you the worst part, that’s a red flag that needs attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:40 AM
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Spoiling your man is completely normal. I agree, if you have a HVM that you’ve vetted over a long period of time (not like 6 months) then you should also treat him. No word about that! But I don’t see how showing up in hot lingerie but not getting him a large gift on Valentine’s Day when my bf gets us a hotel room is treating a man like shit. I’ve actually never had a boyfriend or guy I was dating want anything on Valentine’s Day, usually he got me some gifts and just wanted me to be available t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:04 PM
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FDS isn’t a relationship dating subreddit. It’s a sub with specific values. If you have different opinions (which is completely fine, I have different opinions about other things as well), don’t give that advice on this sub since it doesn’t align with FDS values. You are welcome to give that advice on relationship subs, but on the FDS sub you should stick to FDS values. We don’t want this turning into another typical dating sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:58 PM
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Welcome to FDS. Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:51 PM
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Lol I see Valentine’s Day as a women’s day. The most I’ve ever gotten anyone for Valentine’s Day was a card, while my ex got me flowers, gifts, jewelry, and a hotel room stay. Getting your man an actual gift on Valentine’s Day (so not a card, socks, you in lingerie, cookies etc) is pretty embarrassing. Why would I get him a gift when Christmas just passed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:20 PM
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Lol I see Valentine’s Day as a women’s day. The most I’ve ever gotten anyone for Valentine’s Day was a card, while my ex got me flowers, gifts, jewelry, and a hotel room stay. Getting your man an actual gift on Valentine’s Day (so not a card, socks, you in lingerie, cookies etc) is pretty embarrassing. Why would I get him a gift when Christmas just passed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:20 PM
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You can still discuss marriage even though you’re not ready for it. If you know this is the person you want to marry at a certain point in time, then ensure that he also wants the same. You can wait as long as you want to as long as you know that your bf is waiting for you to be ready and is not taking advantage of wifey privileges/not looking to get married ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:55 PM
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What’s an “interest of a few years”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:35 PM
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Small lies. Small lies here and there turned into him becoming comfortable about big lies. Ultimately left because he wouldn’t stop lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:13 AM
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Sometimes this is a safer bet because the guy will know that the woman will contact him if she’s interested. It also eliminates any awkwardness of him asking for your number, it doesn’t put any pressure on you to give a fake number or whatever. This doesn’t automatically mean that he’s LV. What to do: if you like the guy, ask him if he has the means of communication you would prefer (for instance, Facebook or Instagram). If you’re comfortable, give him your number back. If I get good vibes from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:42 PM
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That’s the worst!!! I don’t understand that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:25 PM
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Unless my future husbands last name is something great like Kennedy or Schwarzenegger, I won’t be changing my last name. It’s pure laziness, I don’t want to be running around government offices trying to change the last name on all my documents. Why should I? And also the patriarchal concern - why the hell should I change my last name? If I’m having kids, why should they be given my husbands last name if I’m the one having them? I actually used to hate my last name, now I’m attached to it and wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:20 PM
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Oh my gosh, FINALLY!! Sometimes her posts pop up on my feed and I’m disgusted. He’s absolutely disgusting. And she has posts dedicating her love to him. I’m praying she has a young hot lover hidden away somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:58 AM
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Absolutely. Misogyny and treatment of mothers in hospitals. Not taking PPD seriously. If there was a better way to give birth than an epidural and if there were more women doctors delivering the babies, I might rethink it. Until then, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:44 PM
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I agree to an extent. Although my dad has his issues, I see how he treated my mom and me and I won’t settle for anything less. He’s extremely handy and is always there for me when I need him. He’s ambitious. I know that men like that are out there and to not settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:15 PM
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I don’t understand how this happens. Was it not obvious that he was messy before they’ve got married? Or did he get messier over the years because he assumed she would pick things up for him? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:36 PM
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Well said - this is giving too much access to someone who hasn’t proved himself. My time is limited, I am not spending my Friday night on a first date with a guy I barely know. Good for you for also realizing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:24 PM
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The first step is recognizing the pattern. Then you should take some time from dating. Then when you’re encountered with a guy you think is attractive, ask yourself: what attracts him to you? Does he do drugs? Does his family do drugs? This is especially crucial if you’re on dating apps. If you realize that you like him because of the mentioned, try your best to block, delete, left swipe, whatever. Just don’t talk to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:17 AM
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If 27 is too old for him, what’s the right age? 25? I’m that age and I will never date a 34 year old. All my friends are in good relationships with guys our age or max 27. Plus, the 34 year olds at my work are already married with kids. I saw this tweet and I’m assuming this is L.A. or any big city where guys think they’re still babies at 35 and will only think about settling down in their mid-40s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:02 AM
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You can hire a maid off the books, just someone to clean for $20-$30/hr. There are plenty of professional maids who advertise their services online and clean for cash. Obviously it’s way more expensive if you hire a maid from a high end cleaning company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:43 AM
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I read this too! Didn’t expect that level of aggression in the answer. Holy shit. It’s embarrassing for your kid to walk around with an awful hairstyle and mismatched clothes. He should know that, but chances are she’s the one that takes the kid to the playground and not him, he just spends 5 minutes in the morning dressing her up and calls it a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:54 PM
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This is something I would wear to work. This is a ring that you can wear on your ring finger without people assuming you’re engaged. An engagement ring has to make a STATEMENT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:39 PM
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I live in a large city near a park. Sometimes when walking home from the nearby store I could cut through the park, it saves me about 10-15 minutes. Think how you can cut through Central Park in New York instead of going around, that’s kind of what it’s like. When it’s dark out I go the long way and avoid the park because I don’t know who’s hiding in the bushes. I had a male friend visit me pre-covid, and I will never forget how he said the park scares him because there might be animals there wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:05 PM
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I’m around your age and the 18 month rule is too soon to me too, but I would not date someone for more than 3 years without a proposal. I think by year 2 it is obvious whether you want to marry them or not. And you could always get proposed to and take an extra year to think about the marriage while you plan the wedding. I made it a goal of mine to not waste my 20s in a dead-end relationship. If there’s no discussion about marriage by year 2, I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:27 PM
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I never used OLD to find a relationship. I’ve had a lot of fun dates using it though. Once I met a guy who lived in a different state and he would drive 4 hours one way to see me on a Friday night and take me out to nice dinners. Here’s a story: I met a great guy. Decent looking, great job in a field similar to mine, educated, not overly sexual like most, & we shared a bunch of hobbies. He persisted me for a month and was a total gentleman: dinners, drinks, romantic picnics, flowers, gifts, resp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:19 PM
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I see this a lot as a North American thing! My old roommates used to do that! I pour everything down the toilet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:42 AM
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I read that his wife was also fired by the church. What the hell did she do? She got punished for no reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:29 AM
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I see this post so much but I still love reading it and seeing women reinforce their standards. For context: my standards are what I can offer myself. If I say I want a guy who’s projected to be making $x in 5 years, that means I am projected to earn that much in 5 years and I want an equivalent partner. I’m not writing down the obvious FDS standards (non-abusive, no ex drama, clean etc). Here are my standards: -decent job, if it’s similar to my field then that’s a bonus. Is smart with his inves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:12 AM
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It truly comes with time, maturity, and experience. I don’t have the time or energy to text long messages anymore. Sometimes I still want to, but I go workout or cook and leave my phone in the other room. Block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:24 PM
2

Your SO and not your husband?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:58 PM
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Exactly. If I’m going to a nice restaurant and paying for myself I’d rather go with a girlfriend or a family member. Why would I waste time and money at a nice place with a random guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:04 PM
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Lol the cringiest thing is seeing someone split the bill at a high end restaurant unless it’s a group of friends. Most people that go are couples, families, or colleagues who charge the dinner to the company so one person pays with their company credit card. I once witnessed a guy ask to split the bill with a woman at one of the best restaurants in the city and I PRAYED they were colleagues whose company wasn’t covering the dinner and that it wasn’t a date. So bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:02 PM
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That was definitely the approach I took at the beginning. I would ask him “would you want your dad to do to your mom what you just did to me?”. That would shut him up because he knew he was in the wrong and his dad was a good man. But after a while it got worse and it would catch me off guard. He would bring back an argument a full week later saying “my sister thinks you’re crazy, my mom thinks only crazy people do ______” and my arguments wouldn’t stand. This isn’t LVM, this is emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:12 AM
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An IB job is still acceptable. Now if she were a model working crazy contracts, a chef, or was babysitting for a rich family, that wouldn’t be acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:13 PM
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I feel so sorry for this amazing person. When your bf/husband starts bringing their family into your relationship, that’s when you know the gaslighting has hit its peak. My relationship with my ex was perfect for around 1.5 years, and then within the last year he would bring his family into the story when I was upset at him. We would have a conflict, I would express what I was upset with, and then the next day he would come back saying “my mom and brother/sister think it’s crazy that you’re ____…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:10 PM
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My dating goal is to put my work first and have dating come second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:19 PM
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Congratulations! But please be married before buying a house for legal reasons. Or if he buys the house, he pays the bills, mortgage, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:46 PM
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Exactly! And now he’s playing the victim on reddit to feel better about himself, hoping for some nice comments telling him he’s NTA to then shove in his gfs face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:02 PM
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This isn’t necessarily an ask, more of an observation and a place of discussion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:55 PM
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He looks fairly young still, I see promise rings being used in university as a promise to propose and get married when both are graduated, mostly because who can afford a real engagement ring while studying? After uni- nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:47 PM
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My friend who lives with her bf had his gift wrapped and placed under the tree by December 2nd. The gifts for a gf/bf/husband/wife/family should be bought by the end of the first week of December LATEST. If a guy I’m seeing doesn’t bring up that he’s getting me something for Christmas by the end of November, I’m assuming that he’s either not getting me anything or he’s getting me something random that I don’t need. Things for these holidays need to be prepared in advance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:33 PM
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Even if you’re not paying your own bills, no one gets to tell you when/if you’re having a baby. Even if he’s a billionaire, no one gets to tell you when/if you’re having a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:26 PM
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She knows that the guy outed her- he took the interview from her. She either tweeted or indicated in another interview that she wasn’t comfortable talking to him at first and only opened up when he said that it would be anonymous. Then the article came out with her name and photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:58 AM
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There’s a difference between not wanting your kid to work somewhere and prefering they not work there. If I had kids, do I want them to work fast food? No. But if they were teens/young adults and needed a job I wouldn’t stop them. Do I want my imaginary kids working in p**n? No. Would I stop them if they tried working in it? Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:43 AM
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Can anyone dm if they receive the app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:03 AM
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This is so disgusting. He’s putting a blowjob over his gf and HIS OWN personal health. so deranged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:56 AM
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They should hire a young sexy guy as a babysitter. Let’s see how uncomfortable the husband feels then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:53 AM
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Lmfao. I earn more than most guys I date and I still love being treated. Ladies, allow yourselves to be treated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:51 AM
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How do you know if it’s medication-related (ex: antidepressants) vs porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:42 PM
1

This is cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:04 AM
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LOL’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:06 PM
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I’m definitely codependent and I’m working on it. I’ve also been in a relationship with a narc as other commentators mentioned. It really fucks you up. I make good money (usually more than the guy I’m dating), I can buy myself flowers, jewelry, anything! But when a guy starts getting me these things, driving me around, taking me to dinner, I get a little bit codependent. It’s getting better though. Work on yourself, lots of a therapy, and you will grow out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:04 AM
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This is the thing, the guys that treated me the best (expensive dinners, gifts, trips, etc) were the most crazy and had the worst history! Ended up in awful breakups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:01 AM
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Wtf? I cut myself while cooking twice a week. Do I write that in the group chat with my friends??? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:00 AM
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Definitely a self-esteem issue. Such low self esteem that they want to be degraded even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:55 PM
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So much gaslighting in the comments!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:54 AM
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3 kids but somehow has time to date? I don’t have any kids and work full time (also in “IT field”) and I barely have time to date. I wonder who’s doing all the work with the kids? 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:47 AM
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Can’t believe this is even a question. Are we 16? I guess I’m so trapped in my high end restaurant bubble that I didn’t realize someone can even ask this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:15 AM
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Huh? Women’s day actually has a history behind it in multiple countries and goes back half of a century. What does men’s day have? Has it been created just bc men were pissed that we have a womens day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:05 PM
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And I want my partner(s) to go down on me for 40 minutes using a very specific rhythm when using their finger. But I don’t get it every time I have sex. Do you see me going to prostitutes? Divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:00 PM
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It’s extremely important for you to have the same love language as your significant other and (hopefully) future husband. This is a recipe for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:10 AM
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I do this too!! This is my exact method: no sex during ovulation and using condoms when I’m not ovulating. Would recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:39 AM
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If this is a real profile, she can be charging guys to do this. Why do things for free?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:37 AM
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I had a friend who was a huge feminist, worked for the Democratic Party and was fairly left-leaning, but would regularly call women bitches. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:10 AM
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You can be a feminist and still expect men to pay for the first few dates. Feminism is about equality in genders, in the workplace, childcare, etc. If a man wants to pay, let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:57 AM
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I think this spices things up after years of marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:23 AM
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You don’t need to lose your standards or self respect to have fun. You can date multiple guys and have a great time while still maintaining the same standards and respecting yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:31 PM
3

Find out who his coworkers are through the website and send the screenshots to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:29 PM
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So instead of celebrating female orgasm day with articles about various orgasms, how to achieve orgasm etc, they pull this shit? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:34 PM
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Manipulation from his side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:30 PM
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This is an abusive relationship and Cardi will leave when she’s ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:28 PM
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Ouch! This hurt to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:25 PM
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This is not FDS related
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:16 AM
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It depends on your age. I’m in my early 20s, met a younger guy who seemed extremely mature and who said that he wanted a relationship and marriage in the future. Not sex. He wasn’t sexual at all. Then he cut me off after a few weeks, I assume that he figured out he wasn’t ready for a real relationship bc he’s so young. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:18 PM
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Thank you! I can’t believe I didn’t go on reddit on my cake day! I created this account just for FDS one year ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:19 AM
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Who is asking for a $3000 Chanel bag? We get called gold diggers when we want a dinner and some flowers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:07 PM
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She’s so young, she has her entire life ahead of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:57 PM
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10 YEARS? It’s better to buy new pillows at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:21 AM
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I stopped liking bad boys and guys who didn’t have their shit together after college. If I was able to have a “real” job at 22, have my own apartment and have a generally stable life without my parents help, I expected the guy to have the same. I still partied etc but I wasn’t interested in guys working full time at a coffee shop or as a bartender unless they were getting their masters degree. It took some time and trial and error. I kept seeing guys who didn’t have their shit together, they tre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:57 PM
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I find that you can’t quite compare European men to Americans. There needs to be a separate FDS for Europe, particularly France, Spain and Italy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:49 PM
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The best part for me is being gorgeous. I can sit in front of a mirror and admire my naked body for hours. I think women’s bodies really are a work of art. I can’t remember the last time I didn’t check myself out before getting into the shower. Additionally, I totally believe in women’s intuition and emotional intelligence. I just wish it was valued more in the world. Women are proven to be better investors, yet the financial industry is still dominated by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:19 PM
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The second you make a whole new account to talk about your relationship problems, your relationship is over. Speaking from experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:25 PM
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Thank you. The thing was that he was adding value to my life. However, it’s been about a week since I’ve made this post and I realize that he had hidden personality traits which made him low-value. My further question is, how do we tell that a man who adds value to our life is actually LV?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:18 PM
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Isn’t the rule 3 months salary? I want a fancy engagement ring, but a simple wedding band to wear every day which would probably be like $2000.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:07 PM
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As you said, I don’t know if I could be so detached if seeing a guy I really liked. In a way I was detached - he knew that I was still on the dating app, the only downside is that we saw each other often. You and the other commentators are right, we saw each other way too often and moved quickly. We had a lot in common so it was easy to see each other a lot and talk on the phone often, it came naturally. I can easily be detached with guys I’m not too interested in. I actually didn’t even want a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:47 PM
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Being overly critical of things and clearly not being able to discuss his emotions/feelings properly as I had now found out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:53 AM
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Wow it’s like the same guy! In a way being told that it’s not gonna work is better than stringing someone along. How long have you been going out for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:29 AM
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I’ve read the handbook plenty of times, thanks. I’ve been part of this sub for almost a year. I think I’m allowed to turn to my favorite sub for a pep talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:42 AM
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I know he did me a favor. He had a ton of red flags himself. I just can’t help being upset. And by clicking I meant we had the same interests, similar opinions on things, we were in the same field of work, lots to talk about. We could talk non stop for hours. We just got each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:41 AM
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I used to think that people with mental illnesses still deserve love. I used to really struggle with depression so I know what it’s like. But after getting lead on and my heart destroyed by a guy who was anxious/depressed/possibly had adhd and wasn’t getting treatment for it, I will not date anyone who has the same struggles but isn’t in therapy or medicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:55 PM
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Long term breakups hurt like hell. I was almost passing out and throwing up after my last breakup, I lost like 5 lbs. It’s normal to feel physically sick and IT DOES GET BETTER. You will thank yourself. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings for as long as possible. Don’t suppress them. Have a proper cry for a few days, let it all out. If you don’t deal with these emotions properly, they will bite you back in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:33 PM
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I don’t want to waste a few months hoping that one day he’ll drive me to the airport. I’m seeing a guy who’s nice, takes care of me when we go for dinner etc, but is not offering to do anything beyond that. He has a busy lifestyle so I’m wondering, is he simply too busy to date? Or does he not want to go beyond the typical nice dinner and flowers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:01 PM
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At which point would you start to expect these things? 4 weeks? 5 weeks? If a guy throws gifts at me and drives me everywhere from week 1 that’s love bombing. Been there done that, no thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:03 AM
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I think your questions are suited more for other subs like r/narcissisticabuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:48 AM
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I truly don’t know. In my situation I literally “woke up” and realized I had to leave and cut contact. It took way too long, but there was one particular day where I thought to myself “why am I putting up with this shit?” And I just left. The person needs to be ready on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:52 PM
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You’re just not mentally ready. You’re so abused and gaslit that you think you’re the bad guy in the relationship. Your self esteem is down and you think you can’t do any better. There are a million reasons. You’re never really “free”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:40 PM
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Good for you for having the guts to leave right after this lie! This sounds exactly like my ex. He lied about the dumbest things and then went full DARVO on me like you said. I’ve definitely called up a coffee shop or two back in the day to verify his story - this is something I’m not proud of. I wish I would’ve left the second I had to go out of my way to call a store and they confirmed that he was lying. Again, congratulations on leaving. Block and delete him everywhere. Best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:41 PM
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This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:30 AM
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FDS can be applied to anything and everything. I just had an electrician cancel on me and ask to reschedule. My time is valueable, I called up another electrician who was happy to do the work and was at my doorstep within an hour. I wasn’t going to wait around for the first guy, nor was I going to put up with a power outage in one room for a few days until he got his shit together. If there are red flags in anything, leave and look for better. Don’t stay with a job just because it’s comfortable.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:57 PM
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It shouldn’t hurt if you’re relaxed and there was proper foreplay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:33 AM
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Just because he’s attractive doesn’t mean he’s a good person. It seems obvious but when you’re in the presence of an actually gorgeous man you can brush away the red flags. I dated a guy who looked like a young brad Pitt, hottest guy I ever dated, but he also was the rudest I’ve ever met. He brought me to tears. I went on 4 dates with him until he made me cry and then I blocked him. Looking back, I think he was a PUA. If a man has shitty friends, he himself is shit. There is a reason why you hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:33 PM
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You should’ve have gone out with him the second time. As someone else mentioned, paying is the least of your worries, this guy was rambling about himself. Don’t go out with him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:20 PM
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It’s very important to me. I take financial security extremely seriously. Someone who makes a stable income and doesn’t spend his money on dumb shit is important to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:13 PM
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We already get hit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:38 AM
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Most guys have texted me right after the date. Some text the next morning. If it’s been almost two days, either he’s playing hard to get (dumb) or he’s not interested/has other things going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:17 AM
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It’s ironic because a lot of guys who paid for me on the first and second dates didn’t make a move that indicated that they wanted to sleep with me. There was a goodnight kiss and and ask for a second date. Not every guy pays for dinner just to fuck that night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:56 PM
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Why do you have to teach a grown adult anything? Who doesn’t know how to clean up some crumbs off the table?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:20 PM
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Money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:20 PM
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It’s literally so easy to get a box of chocolates ($8), movie tickets ($15), bottle of wine ($15), drug store massage oil ($7), flowers ($25) once in a while if you’re broke. Asking for a small gift once in a while is not that crazy. I’ll never understand someone who doesn’t give or expect gifts in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:51 PM
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I try to get the general vibe of the guy before meeting in person. Even before covid I would have phone calls before meeting. If I wasn’t enthusiastic about meeting the guy, we didn’t go out. If the dude is still boring, I usually finish my meal and then say I need to go home because I have to get up early the next day. If he’s offensive (this happened once), I call over the waiter and get the bill and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:33 PM
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I make a good salary. I tell guys what I do for work so if they have a brain they know the approximate range for my salary. They still pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:43 PM
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I’m all for living with someone up to a year before marriage. I need to see what the person is like before getting married. But buying a HOUSE as a bf and gf??? I also know a couple like that. A house is just as important of a legal obligation as a marriage is. So you’re ready to take out a 30 year mortgage with your girlfriend but not ready to marry her? This is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:39 PM
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Exactly. I feel like someone working in such a high position making 200k wouldn’t care about strangers opinions and wouldn’t have time to draft something like that up on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:30 PM
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Think about why you’re doing this. Are you scared of losing the guy? Are you dickmatized? Are you scared that even when you give the right argument, he’s still going to lie to you? Figure out what you’re worried about and tackle that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:26 AM
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That posts sounds like a load of crap written to get karma and create drama in the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:49 PM
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LOL this reminds me of a date I went on. He was very socially awkward. He split the bill but there was a problem with the machine/personnel so we had to get one bill (I secretly hope the waitress played dumb just because she couldn’t believe he was splitting a ~$30 bill). Right when he finished paying, he looks at me and says “well, now you can pay me back with a beer”. We go to a bar and he told me which beer he wanted and waited for me to get in line and get it for him. When he finished his be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:33 PM
17

Paying for dinner is the standard, it doesn’t mean someone is high value. I hate slow texters. I actually lose interest. If you don’t mind that he takes long to respond, that’s fine since that’s your decision and standard. I personally think it’s a bit of a red flag unless they work a job where they physically cannot be on their phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:13 PM
14

Take some time to yourself first! It’s too early for you to date. Treat yourself well for a few months, figure out your hard standards, and then based on what you want you’ll figure out where to find good men. For instance, if you want a guy without kids, you’re not going to be looking for them at a playground. If you want a fit guy, you’re not going to look for him at McDonald’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:14 PM
36

Tell her parents. If I was dating a 30 year old when I was 17 my dad would’ve beat the shit out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:09 PM
8

Stocks are volatile. If he trades stocks for a living, he needs to have a good amount of money in savings, mutual funds and other stable investments. If he’s blowing his money on cars and clothes then that’s a no for me. I wouldn’t go further than having a fun fling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:52 PM
8

Proper eviction notice. If he’s not gone by Sunday serve him with a legal eviction notice. If he doesn’t leave by the end of the time period (whether it’s 30 days or whatever), call the cops. I don’t know where you live, but where I live, if you own the house you don’t need to give your tenants 30 or 60 days. You can give them a 1 day notice and if they’re not out you call the cops. You’re just telling on yourself that you want him around still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:57 AM
2

Maybe his friend had said something to make him think that you weren’t compatible? Regardless, it sucks. Treat yourself, and try to get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:45 PM
3

Don’t you have your photos on okcupid? Personally I understand his point of view, I would be reluctant to chat with someone if they had no social media or photos of themselves on whatsapp. However I understand your point of view as well. Your okcupid photos should be good enough if you have multiple pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:51 PM
25

The bar is in hell. I’ve never even thought about it. Smashing the cake in someone’s face is a dumb tradition, I would not allow it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:23 PM
6

I buy it for myself! I wear it to feel sexy under my regular clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:21 PM
7

I’m so thankful I’ve never had anyone pressure me into it. Sometimes going #2 hurts, I can’t imagine fitting a penis inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:22 PM
2

I don’t think it’s that bad since he paid for the evenings activities and drinks. He’s still putting effort in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:08 PM
1

I’ve always made excuses for guys who were not good texters. The last guy I was sort of seeing was an awful texter, I would forget what we were talking about by the time he texted me back. I’m now seeing someone who’s also a bad texter, I saw his phone and he has like 40 unread texts, 30 unread Facebook messages, 45 unread whatsapp messages, yet he always makes an effort to text me back at a reasonable time and we have fulfilling conversations. He texts me good morning and good night. If they ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:49 PM
7

When I was in college I dated college guys and didn’t pay for a single date in over 3 years. Going out once a week is not that expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:26 PM
1

Yep! The right guys gave me flowers consistently after I told them just once :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:57 PM
17

Things can get messy with fwbs. You should’ve discussed the relationship back when he first started holding your hand and established proper boundaries. Forget this guy. He has other things going on in his life. Not to mention the fact that he sent you nudes and blocked you when you reacted? Wtf? LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:52 PM
11

I think this is being a bit unreasonable. If your schedules don’t match up, he’s not obligated to drive you. Think of it this way: if you were living with your parents/best friend and their schedules were completely different to yours, would they drop you off? My parents love me a lot but they wouldn’t: they have their own jobs and stress and don’t have the time to drive me around. I would recommend getting a cab/uber in the mornings, or taking one bus and then getting an uber. You can ask him t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:37 PM
22

LOVE the 1.6 rating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 07:31 PM
4

I’m not OP but when I start seeing someone semi-seriously i let them know that i love flowers. I don’t demand it, I don’t hint, I just flat out say “I like it when guys get me flowers, I think it’s so romantic”. Most guys end up getting me flowers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:28 AM
5

She went back to him once he was probably 60 and couldn’t get it up anymore lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:47 AM
5

This is a huge age gap. At 30 you have your shit together (presumably), at 22 you’re just starting your adult life out. Some 22 year olds still live with their parents. I’m in my mid 20s, have a lot of years to go until I reach 30, and I wouldn’t date a 22 year old. I have no interest in hearing how their internship or job hunt is going, or how annoying their roommates are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:59 AM
1

He’s in great shape but he’s insecure about his weight. And I guess you’re right: being nervous doesn’t mean insecure. I didn’t think about it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:42 AM
1

I do not have to constantly reassure him. It’s little insecurities here and there. He’s in great shape but he’s still insecure about his weight, things like that. I guess I made this post because I never met someone who was so open about their insecurities. Or I judge by myself - im insecure about certain things and I’ve never told anyone about them, not a long term ex bf or even a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:40 AM
5

Google the basics of fine dining, there are plenty of articles and even videos on YouTube on how to order steak, wine, which fork to use for what, how to read a menu etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:58 AM
10

THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:25 AM
34

I have a gut feeling that he just doesn’t want to date you anymore so he’s using this excuse. If he’s not, tell him what you wrote here: that you wanted to be celibate as well. You can build a relationship and be celibate, you could attempt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:16 AM
2

It’s definitely social anxiety. There have been no red flags yet! He’s very respectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:13 AM
4

So far there have been no victimization on his part. He apologizes when needed. By insecure I don’t mean that he’s so insecure in himself that he thinks I can do better and brings me down/negs, I mean that like most of us he has his general insecurities and is an anxious person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:23 PM
6

Kissing a girl in a crowded room “even if you’re straight”, hooking up with your best friend. This is awful. The author talks about “coming out” but it seems like she’s straight and just had sex with women to say that she did it and to appeal to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:55 PM
28

Dates without food or something exciting are just phone conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:58 PM
16

This was my ex. This is also 80% of politicians (especially republicans).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:12 PM
4

This feeling comes and goes for me. I get tired and disappointed in men. I’ve never felt it for more than 6 months though. Sometimes healing takes a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:43 AM
2

I can. Lol. I expect from guys what I can give to myself/my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:55 PM
4

This is such an outdated concept. I’m in tech and work long hours. My boss and the majority of my team members are women. The majority of nurses working 12 hour shifts are women. When I started working in tech I lost all respect for guys who would go on dates and brag about their job and how they work 80 hour weeks. When I tried to bond with them over that, it seemed like they didn’t want their date to relate, they wanted their date to look up to them in amazement and feel just sorry enough to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:56 PM
18

Who makes reservations the day of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:29 PM
20

Definitely negging and manipulation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:25 PM
23

Stop thinking about these kinds of people. Why do you allow them to exist in your thoughts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:45 PM
4

If the bond is more than $500 I will never bail a man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:44 PM
3

The difference is that one costs money. Plain and simple. Both are shit, you have to wait for both, but only one costs money. I would rather have free healthcare any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:10 AM
1

I’ve never been in this situation and I don’t know anyone who has. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:50 AM
15

I vet sexual compatibility through kissing. If I’m turned on while kissing him and get wet after, chances are the sex will be good. Some of the best sex I’ve had was with a guy that kissed like I was kissing myself, it was so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:41 AM
11

Higher standards. Swipe/like guys who you would want to go out with. Really think about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:32 AM
2

What the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:01 AM
5

I’m a feminist but that hasn’t affected my dating life. There are PLENTY of men who want to pay for and pamper their wives/gfs and also think that women should have equal rights. It’s not either/or. Paying for dates has NOTHING to do with equality. When will these idiots understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:57 AM
5

It literally takes 20 minutes or less to clean. What the hell is this? A dirty apartment stopped being cute after my freshman year of college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:27 PM
38

It happens so often that I can’t even think of one specific time. Probably the guy being weird over text, being insecure. Once this guy asked me out and then asked me how many guys I’ve been out with from the dating app, I asked why it mattered and he got really upset and wrote a bunch of stuff in all caps because he was so insecure. I stopped using dating apps after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:38 PM
5

If you’re in the US, stay at home. This is ridiculous. Your cases are the highest in the WORLD! Stop dating, stop seeing your friends, stop going out. Stay at home and put your health in priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:04 PM
1

Yessss 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:30 PM
3

Way to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:03 PM
11

Thanks for replying. Way to go on the French! I grew up speaking Spanish so I might get on that! Being alone during covid got real and I had to figure out my emotions. There was healing also. Now I realized that if I can be 100% alone for months, I can continue being indifferent to energy that doesn’t serve me going forward (as you put it). I might have high standards but I maintain these standards for myself, why should I change my daily routine to something below me? Just for some dick? Just f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:01 PM
2

Way to go! I’ve also bought more expensive face cream and face masks. I’m thinking of getting a kitten too, they seem so cute. I’m worried though that I would have to go back to the office soon and won’t be able to give it enough attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:56 PM
2

My ex was a LVM. He lavished me with gifts and trips though. My best story is probably a random, last minute weekend getaway or a week trip to an island that he paid for 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:37 AM
9

If it was a suicide, what a coward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:24 AM
3

The least my ex did for me was pick me up and drop me off at the airport. My flight once got delayed for over 5 hours and he picked me up in the middle of the night. It’s a given.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:23 AM
47

Isn’t this owned by barstool? Of course its going to be misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:15 AM
-4

Try to reset the clock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:36 AM
3

Huh? I’ve never heard of this before. You’re right - he gets a wife for (hopefully) the rest of his life. He’ll get a beautiful wedding. He’ll also get a wedding band in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:30 PM
13

Don’t fall in love with potential. Some people shouldn’t date if they’re so broke that they can’t pay for a meal at least once or twice a month. I was a VERY broke student but I still bought my friends food and little gifts here and there, also bought my bf gifts. If im seeing someone who’s still in school, I hold them to the same expectations because if I did it, why can’t they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:45 PM
3

Guys would fall in “love” with these girls and then when she actually asks them to take her to Disneyland they call her a gold digger ☕️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:54 PM
6

Lol I was seeing someone who was SO good on paper. Great job, nice guy. I went over to his place before a date and it was pretty gross. Completely killed my attraction to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:53 PM
90

Oh my... I’ve never seen photos of her father. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:49 PM
5

I put my phone down and stop responding to not allow gaslighting, then when I’ve calmed down by the next day I delete the chat. It’s good to wait before making any moves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:47 PM
63

Blocking someone, then when he messaged me again a year later writing him a one-line “you’re a creep.” and blocking him again. Saw him on the street years later, he’s in his 30s and now ugly af, he waved to ME while I walked by pretending not to know who he was. It’s been like 6-7 years since the first time we met. What a weirdo. For the majority of the guys it’s just blocking them. ETA: its creepier if you know the details. We never dated for a long time, we only went out a handful of times. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:39 AM
72

Hahaha I hate how people are calling this guy “Silicon Valley CEO”, “Silicon Valley entrepreneur” when his company is a handful of people in his parents basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:34 PM
268

It bugs me when people don’t know world history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:33 PM
21

She’s allowed to want anything! That’s why it’s a red flag: this guy clearly doesn’t want to pay for a restaurant and proposes a picnic because it’s not dangerous. When, in reality, it could also be dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 07:10 PM
8

The comments on the DatingOver30 post that say you’re NOT overreacting are downvoted. It’s clear what kind of people use that sub. You would think that people over 30 would realize how dangerous the world is, especially such a city like LA. I’ve lived with roommates who have locked our door when leaving during the day when I’m home. My landlords have always locked our door after leaving during the day. I can’t wrap my head around a 30+ year old man leaving in the middle of the night and not lock…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:57 PM
3

Report her to tinder. This is awful. I HATE when couples look for a third on dating websites, especially when you stumble upon couples when looking strictly for guys. Why would they advertise as a “male” to straight women (women looking only for men on the app)? Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:45 PM
2

Block him everywhere so he can’t contact you anywhere. Block Instagram, snapchat, EMAIL, everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:43 PM
82

A picnic is a good idea if he puts thought into it. You can have a romantic picnic with good food and alcohol. I do think this is a red flag though, he shouldn’t be bringing people over if he has a toddler at home. He shouldn’t be even dating at this time and put his toddlers health first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:33 PM
17

He’s doing the right thing by not dating right now. His grandpa just passed away and you want him to take you out? He might be miserable and use you as a therapist. I would give this guy some space and accept the loss tbh. If he comes back in a month, ask if he has gone to therapy or dealt with the death in any way. If he doesn’t come back, it wasn’t meant to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:35 AM
4

Lol 🤡 the way this was set up I thought it was real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:56 PM
10

If you like to hang out with kids at a safe distance and teach them things (it’s truly interesting)....just....keep teaching them? Why be pressed about one comment on Reddit of all places? Seems like this dude got hurt and is trying to justify it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:32 PM
7

This is bittersweet. On one hand, good for her for setting the story straight about how she was not interested in him at all. On the other, they were 18 when they met. It’s been a long time and their connection wasn’t even real, they never dated. Why bring this up? Are Avril and the guy even still together? I always assumed this song was about multiple ex girlfriends, not one. I guess it was about this one all along! Was the guy still in love with her when him and Avril began dating? I have so m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:08 PM
6

Lmfaoooo wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:25 PM
3

Lmfaoooo I was also working part-time in uni? And?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:44 PM
5

Can you link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:42 PM
0

If you’re in North America, you can start by not attending parties while there’s still a pandemic going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:38 PM
6

This reminds me of the girl whose boyfriend told her to not accept a masters abroad, and then dumped her when HE got a job/masters abroad. Always chance the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:37 PM
1

Discussing height is normal to me. I usually wear heels and sometimes a guy and I would naturally start talking about our heights, parents heights, so on. I’m really interested in genetics. Someone giving you an unprovoked comment about your height is a red flag. Even if a guy is really tall, I don’t say “wow you’re so tall!” Because I have a brain and I assume that he gets that all the time. It was really inappropriate of your friends dad to comment on how tiny you are, ew. Stay away from guys …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:34 PM
4

Where I’m from, it’s common to at least get flowers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:51 PM
2

I’m not in college anymore. If I wanted a broke dude I would be dating 20 year old college boys again. Honestly, not even college. This is what my friends and I did in HIGH SCHOOL. We would pool our money ($10) and order a meal for the two of us lol. If I put myself through school and got a job, why can’t I date guys in the same category?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:58 PM
1

I’ve definitely felt it. But the important thing is making sure that this spark lasts past the first few dates. I’ve felt a spark on the first date, then didn’t feel it anymore on the second. I’ve also not felt a spark on the first date, yet started feeling one after that. I’ve also felt it through text. To me it’s just having chemistry with someone. Having similar interests, talking a lot, feeling comfortable with the person, no awkward silence. Being able to be yourself. There’s this moment of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:49 PM
26

This is awful. Having a friend stay in a bad relationship made me stay in my bad relationship longer. We bonded over the fact that our boyfriends were both trash. My ex was emotionally abusive but he was still much better than her boyfriend, so I stayed longer than I should have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:32 PM
5

I knew a guy who had a fun bachelor party filled with a nice dinner, lots of bars, paint ball, and other outdoor activities. I don’t really get the point of going to a strip club right before getting married. Why are you getting married then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:11 PM
7

I agree. 40% more is a large chunk. I’d like to know how much he makes though. Him making $30k and her making $42 is way different than him making $60k and her making $84k. If it’s the latter then yes, changing the deal last minute is unfair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:05 PM
3

Mostly just Facebook. At a time when I didn’t respond to guys but I wouldn’t block them either, this guy kept messaging me every few months for YEARS until I finally told him that he’s weird and to fuck off, then he blocked ME lmao. Learned my lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:15 PM
3

So sorry this happened to you. You’re not the problem - he couldn’t keep his dick in his pants. Take some time away from dating and focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:46 PM
3

My ex was jealous whenever I talked to other guys and it took me a while to realize that jealousy was the reason for his awful moods. We could be at a bar and I see a coworker I’m close with or a good guy friend, and my ex would turn sour for the entire night. One time I invited a friend to sit with us and my ex was bitter to the dudes face. It was embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:33 PM
2

Clearly I don’t know enough about these trad wives lol. It’s sad to say, but children are temporary. Unless you have your last child at 40, they’re going to be teenagers who can take care of themselves while you’re still able to go to work and have a career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:15 PM
11

Yay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:05 PM
6

I think I’m in the process of letting one go, or at least distancing for a while. She’s such a strong, smart woman but when it comes to guys she’s weak. She idolizes relationships. If her man messes up, she deals with it on her own and doesn’t tell anyone. She stayed in a relationship with a guy for years because she simply didn’t realize that what he was doing was wrong because she never talked to anyone about it! Then she dated another guy and was really needy. She planned out their entire fut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:59 PM
15

I don’t know how someone’s entire life can revolve around cleaning the house and serving their husband. If the couple has young kids, that’s fine, but if they don’t have kids or once the kids are school age? Pass. If I had a wealthy husband and I didn’t “need” to work, I think I would fill up my time with various classes ranging from cooking to salsa and I would like to go back to school. Maybe open a small business. Do some consulting work on the side. Work part-time at my current job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:54 PM
1

Update us! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:38 PM
2

One of the reasons I will never go on birth control unless my husband gets a vasectomy so that we have double protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:45 PM
35

Is his reaction valid? Why is he getting anxious when seeing the roommate? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:34 PM
19

If he didn’t know it was your birthday beforehand (you never mentioned it), it’s not a big deal. He didn’t know. But he’s still wrong in not taking you out - he can make plans for an upcoming weekend. If you mentioned multiple times that your birthday was coming up and he forgot, that’s a red flag. I would see if he offers to make up for it with a celebration. If he doesn’t, drop. Huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:34 PM
92

Congratulations! Sometimes it’s hard to see emotional abuse and lying from within a relationship. Don’t blame yourself for staying with him for that long. He led you on. Congratulations on getting out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:29 PM
2

I’ve never had this happen and this is one of my nightmares. I’m in my 20s so if guys are using photos from years ago it’s pretty obvious. I usually follow their Instagram before meeting them so I can see what they looked like in their most recent pictures. If they don’t have any photos, I don’t meet them. I’ve had the opposite situation - a guy with only like 3 Instagram photos turned out to be more attractive than the photos. Not sure what to do at the scene. Some people say to leave right awa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:32 PM
88

This is why I stopped putting effort in. Back in freshman year of college I had a guy look deep into my eyes and say that I looked so beautiful despite “not wearing any makeup”. I was wearing a full face of makeup. I feel just as confident wearing mascara and jean shorts as I do wearing a full face of makeup and a new outfit I just bought. Why go through all the trouble for guys when they can’t even tell the difference?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:52 PM
2

The first few night I spend with someone, he stays at my place. Once I’ve visited his place a few times during the day and know I would feel safe there I go to his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:48 AM
3

Happy for you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:13 AM
15

I hope he’s either also overworking like crazy so he can’t cook OR paying the maid out of his own pocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 05:48 PM
1

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:12 PM
3

One guy kept wanting to go as walks as a date. Then one day he offered to bring dinner over to my place and asked me to send him money for it in the same sentence. One guy, super cute nerdy guy who seemingly had his life together. We went out and had a great convo. Halfway through the date he asked me if I wanted to go home with him, said he got the “vibe” that I did. One guy was a mess. Again, it seemed like he had his life together but I’m 99% sure he was a mgtow and had a God complex. He was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:04 PM
5

If this is even real, this is what I have to say: He thinks they’ve never caught him, but the phrase about how he can “weasel out of it” even when caught with evidence tells me that he’s been caught and dumped. Or the women just walked away because they don’t want to waste more energy on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:57 PM
8

He can still plan a date despite restaurants being closed. Meeting up, gifting flowers, going for a walk/picnic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 01:44 PM
5

ADD TRIGGER WARNINGS PLEASE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:22 AM
31

I cannot even fathom living like this when you’re over the age of 21. Most people have a messy college/early adult phase, but throwing your towel on the floor? Not putting your laundry in the hamper? Are you 11 years old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:14 AM
2

What did she do to disrespect the queen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:11 AM
5

What your friend said to you is a neg. Don’t let it get to your head (I mean this in the best way possible). Next time you can say something like “clearly you’re not surrounded by regular women”. The hurdle I face is having a smaller pool of guys to choose from. A lot of high-performing, well-educated men are either psychopaths or just want something very casual because they think they’re such a catch. I feel like most of the good guys are taken even by like 25. I find that everyone is “alpha” i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:32 PM
2

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:09 PM
1

80% of the time they don’t even know how to use them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:38 PM
6

Lol blaming girls for unmatching him because he’s boring and can’t compete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:32 PM
-4

If it’s just dinner I usually just say “I had a great time tonight”. If it’s dinner + drinks and he pays for both, I say “thanks for the drinks/dessert/whatever we had”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:33 PM
4

My take is the first three dates for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:58 PM
11

Pro-lifers are a HUGE! red flag. Leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:53 PM
16

I don’t think this is too clingy, the guy just isn’t interested and is trying to make it seem like her fault instead of his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:34 AM
22

Omg tragic. This reads like a car crash in slow motion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:57 PM
12

This dude is creating excuses for not wanting to get married. No money? Have a cheap wedding. Get married at the court house, in your backyard, at a friends backyard, etc. Some backyard weddings actually turn out really well. Social anxiety? Invite 5-10 people to the wedding. Parents and closest friends. Problem solved. Weddings are about compromise. It’s rare that the bride and groom want 100% of the same things. The guy is just lying to himself and his gf. He clearly doesn’t want to get marrie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:00 PM
7

Is it the husband or the wife asking though? Some comments are from the wife’s name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:58 PM
4

Height, muscle or % body fat (I won’t mind a bit of a chub tbh), most jobs, no car (I live in a big city so most people don’t have cars)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:48 PM
21

Check out their post history, holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:05 PM
8

I think things like than come in phases. It’s covid, a tough time, it’s natural to have boring periods. You can’t have excitement 100% of the time. But if you find that your relationship is 80% boring, 20% exciting, it might be time to re-evaluate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:00 PM
163

What the fuck? No, it’s not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:26 AM
24

Get rid of the man then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:04 PM
5

How is this a patriarchal standard of beauty? She’s just wearing some mascara, concealer, and lipstick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:19 AM
41

What the fuck lol. CRAZY bullet dodged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:59 AM
3

It was mostly lots of articles, thinking and therapy. I didn’t read self-help books, only regular literature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:41 PM
6

Wait, he said that he split the bill with her?????? Can you link the vid please? I’ve seen a few of his videos and while he was stingy, he said that they had gone on some nice dates and even went travelling. I assumed that he was paying for the dates and that she was the smartest gold digger I’ve ever seen. He’s stingy because he’s putting his money towards investments. I thought he would’ve been fine as a boyfriend because he seems nice and definitely has the extra $200+ to spend on a nice dinn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:53 PM
3

After dating them for a bit you should bring up your expectations. Discuss things like marriage and kids before the one year mark, maybe 2 year mark if you’re young. That way if someone doesn’t want to get married, you can leave the relationship without losing that much time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:39 PM
6

This^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 08:30 PM
36

Speaking from experience: This post hit hard. I was in the same shoes about two years ago. I made a reddit post about my toxic narc of an ex and the comments made me break up with him. I owe who I am now to those commentators. Breaking up with a narcissistic boyfriend like that is tough. He’s all you have. It feels like your body is addicted the highs of the relationship. It’s rough, but I can promise you that you’re gonna thank yourself a year from today. He will never stop cheating on you. He …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:49 PM
1

It depends on how much you’re attracted to someone else. When I was in a relationship, I still found my coworkers and other people attractive. I have eyes, I know when someone’s hot. But it wasn’t a red flag until I started to have a crush on someone. It was weird. I think as long as you don’t act on it you’re fine, but you might also want to rethink your relationship if you’re really attracted to multiple people outside of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:16 PM
21

The last point is too real. It’s kind of hot at first when a man is so secretive. I definitely loved this as a teenager. Now as an adult, I realize that if someone is hiding is past, they probably made some huge mistakes that you shouldn’t know about. Not so sexy anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:12 PM
6

Love this post. Don’t apologize for the rant. I’m happy you found someone who isn’t like your father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:07 PM
22

Yeah definitely high standards more than anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:31 PM
86

My dating history has been pretty lucky, the number of good men I’ve met outweighs the bad. But just so you ladies can have a laugh, last year I met a guy who wanted to bring some food and alcohol over to my place, and in the same phone call asked me to send him the money for my share! He had a good job, lived in a good area, was well educated. I noped out of that one really fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:55 PM
8

Don’t date anyone then. Focus on your last year of school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:30 PM
28

Does he do this to his friends? If any normal person did this to their friends, they will be alone forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:19 PM
7

I agree with you; I never said he’s right about giving her shit. In my last paragraph I stated that he should just leave the relationship if this is making him so uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:11 PM
27

This situation is different than if she had worked hard for that money. Her parents worked hard for that money, not her. That being said, sometimes dating someone out of your social class is difficult. I think it’s natural to get a bit jealous of someone who has life handed to them when you worked full-time while going to school in order to afford rent. My ex came from an extremely wealthy family and he just didn’t get basic stuff like buying cheap food, saving money, only having $20 to your nam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:59 PM
3

Just found her, her ig is bunnbree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:15 PM
10

Her name is Brie/Bree I think? This was like 4+ years ago, she had a tumblr account so that’s how I knew. They both lived at NY at the time. He was all over her instagram and then when they broke up, she answered some questions on tumblr about their relationship and said that it was abusive. I’m sure you can find screenshots with a google search.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:45 PM
2

I think it’s similar to your alimony comment though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:03 PM
5

Put on cologne? What the hell is this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:52 PM
3

I’m pretty sure that unless you get a joint bank account, he won’t “know” of your assets. You can also open up a new account with a different bank and store a small sum there for him to see. If you do get a joint bank account, hide your personal debit card at your parents house or anywhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:49 PM
49

Nah.... his ex said that he was abusive towards her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:44 PM
61

That sub is so trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:44 PM
3

It varies by country sadly. In some countries, if a couple lives on the property owned by one of the parties, the other party can try to claim it in case of a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:43 PM
5

How intense is your lockdown? The bare minimum he could do is order some food or get chocolates from the grocery store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:58 PM
19

Why is he crying instead of planning you a date ASAP? What the hell? My ex was like that. He would get all sad and emotional when I stood up for myself and told him what I didn’t like. Most of the time it ended with me apologizing because I felt so bad for him. #manipulation If your bf really wanted to change and actually cared about your feelings, he would start planning something ASAP, not moping around getting you to feel sorry for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:57 PM
18

I plan to own property before getting married, so I’m pro prenup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:52 PM
2

I’ve never, ever had a guy I was seeing criticize my appearance. Even when I would point my pimples/weight gain/whatever (casually, not in a self-deprecating way), they would say “where? I don’t see anything”. Random people? Yes. But never anyone I was seeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:13 AM
2

OP, I recommend to message the mods privately regarding this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:21 AM
2

I agree, this is necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:57 PM
8

I’ve seen posts made by mods without trigger warnings. You literally shared a post about r*pe 5 HOURS AGO with no trigger warning. Please enforce them more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:55 PM
55

These type of people see boys and girls as different species. My dad treated me no different than a boy: we played sports, went hiking, biking, went to science museums. Same with boys: you can cook with them, play dolls with them, dance with them. They’re children. Growing up I knew a boy who played sports but also loved his sisters barbies. Gendering things meant for children is unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:54 PM
9

So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:10 AM
23

Hire an actual lawyer for this. I would put something regarding children in there: x% of child support, $x,xxx given upfront per child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:00 PM
6

Can you link please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:04 AM
3

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:24 PM
5

This is alright for me in a relationship. Obviously I would prefer if he fully pays, but I can treat with some snacks or dessert. It’s no big deal. However, some guys completely refuse my payment! I’ve been on dates where we went from restaurant to bar to dessert place and when I tried to pay for dessert, the guys shut me down and paid themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:24 PM
7

I don’t know if I want my own kids. As of now i won’t mind dating a man with kids as long as he’s a decent father and he has either full custody or the majority custody. However I’ve met some divorced men and they’re extremely bitter about their ex wives. There’s also so much drama involved. I worked with a man who would always speak in a passive aggressive tone when referring to his ex. He would also be hypocritical - get pissed off at his ex for doing a certain thing yet then go ahead and do i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:02 PM
2

I’m sorry to hear that then :( they should really be testing people more before handing out birth control so easily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:34 AM
14

If you have a predisposition to blood clots, you’re almost certainly going to get a blood clot. This predisposition needs to be tested in every woman before putting them on birth control. I can’t believe doctors don’t test for something that can KILL you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:55 PM
63

Who calls a person a “shelter rescue” Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:40 PM
11

I’m torn between this opinion and OPs. On one hand, they stay away from real women, but on another, they might go insane constantly fucking this machine and might confuse a real woman for a machine as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:59 PM
2

Lol. 24 hours max. After that I assume he’s not interested. After 3 days I assume he’s dead or is completely not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:46 PM
1

Holy crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:43 PM
3

Offered to buy you a vibrator? Huh? I’m all for men who are open to toys in the bedroom - I use a vibrator about 90% of the time and my ideal partner would also enjoy it. But him offering to buy you a vibrator the FIRST time you have sex is a HUGE red flag!! What on earth!!! By “get mine”, so you mean get you orgasm? Because if that’s the case, then not only is he crossing boundaries, but he’s also lazy and doesn’t want to try to make you cum. Stop thinking that every guy is a HVM. Stop thinking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:33 PM
55

Don’t feel guilty when someone does nice things for you. Enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:30 PM
2

Exactly. I miss that spark. There are tons of good guys around me but we’re not clicking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:57 PM
2

I definitely agree with the latter. I believe our friends can be soulmates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:56 PM
2

Right on about the bullshit comment. I think I’m more wary as well and I’m not clicking as easily with people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:20 PM
3

I think this way as well. I think we have multiple soulmates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:16 PM
6

They’ve been together for over 4 years and she’s 30. Can’t imagine being 25/26 dating a 40 year old married man with multiple kids. 26! And move in with him at 27!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:19 PM
2

Not sure how this is a red flag UNLESS you’re looking for a serious relationship. When I got out of a long term relationship, I was ready to date within 6 months. Was I looking for a boyfriend again? Not really. But I was open to talking and possibly committing if I really liked the person. Plus, it’s quarantine. Keep chatting until you’re able to meet in person. Don’t overthink this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:11 PM
4

Yes, and a vasectomy takes two days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:04 PM
3

What does your body count have to do with this? No one is able to tell what your count is, so why does it matter? What consequences does a high body count have aside from STDs and pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 12:26 AM
10

Maybe not a red flag, but it’s definitely just corny and offputting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:42 PM
1

I’m in my early 20s. I would hookup with someone as young as 20, but I would only date someone my age + 3 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:25 PM
13

Clearly she’s that way because of her abusive mother. She believes that she’s worthless because of her mother and so she latches on to whatever boy would date her. She won’t change unless she moves out and goes to therapy. If she gets an abortion, what will change? Her mother will hate her and abuse her even more. If she has any savings, this is the time to abort and MOVE OUT. I’m not telling you to give up on your friend, but....she needs therapy or she needs to work really hard to realize what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:39 PM
22

Nah that’s not even the same person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:07 PM
22

I was “woke to the game” before I found FDS. I randomly stumbled upon this sub when we had only like 5k followers and I realized I belonged here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:40 PM
4

At least the comments are sane. It shouldn’t even be a question that he pays more because he has not one, but two kids. That’s a higher electricity bill, larger grocery bills, more water used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:02 PM
8

99% of my cheap men stories come from one guy I “dated” for only like 3 weeks. I was into more casual dating back then so I asked him to call an Uber to my place, he said he didn’t use Uber. We walked to my place since it wasn’t far. He slept over (no sex or anything else), and then called himself an Uber in the morning to go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:49 PM
3

LMFAAAOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:47 PM
3

Delete him off of snapchat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:38 PM
16

He’s not into you. He didn’t text you for what, 3 days? That’s too long. Also it’s quarantine, why are you going to his place and sleeping with him? This is a good time to play it medically safe and stop seeing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:42 AM
2

Can you link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:40 AM
1

Please block him and good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:34 AM
6

It’s either the post that’s shared in the comments or it’s an illusion. Their relationship just started so he could cheat down the line. He could also be currently cheating but you don’t know about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:42 PM
25

Most cops are definitely LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:07 PM
11

Only after my relationship. Which really sucked. I wish someone had told me during my relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:03 PM
7

Consent happens in the moment. Someone could revoke consent in the middle of sex. If you come over at 2am, you can still leave without having sex. Forcing someone to have sex, even if they came over at 2am, is rape. Point blank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:43 AM
9

Op is TA if she is an adult with her own money and not living under her parents roof. She can help out with money and try to get her sister out of prostitution. It’s not her place to out her sister like that. Someone in the comments mentioned how some parents will literally murder their child over something like this. However, if they are both young and living with their parents that’s a different situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:05 PM
2

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:03 PM
8

Lol I went out with a guy who said he was 5’5, he was probably 5’2 and waaay shorter than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:58 PM
1

Typical Aquarius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:58 PM
57

One day you just get tired of it. It just happened naturally for me. I stop caring and don’t respond. It also has something to do with the fact that I’m pretty busy and don’t have the time or energy to be writing up paragraphs going off on the guy. Worst case scenario, I write it up, then take a deep breath and delete it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:52 PM
20

I actually get a salad sometimes to either play it safe at a restaurant I’m not familiar with or if I’m in the mood because it tastes good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:14 PM
4

Congratulations on getting out! This guy isn’t any better though :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:53 AM
7

Couldn’t keep the same number? Did this girl not know about SIM cards? Did this guy really convince her that she couldn’t transfer her number over? This whole caption is a mess. Why did he think that was a good idea?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:46 PM
6

Please stop thinking about him and interacting with him. It seems like he just sees you as a friend. He doesn’t respect you and he doesn’t even seem to like you. You guys aren’t even dating. Stop letting him make you cry. Cut contact NOW. If you want someone to manipulate and degrade you, at least find someone who’s crazy about you and thinks that you’re his type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:29 PM
67

Racist people are automatically LV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:59 AM
4

Are they his comments or are they other people coming to conclusions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:19 PM
42

I’m confused - where did he write that he thought she was a gold digger?? I just see that word in your comment and in the title of this post. I don’t understand why she would want to get rid of the prenup tbh. Getting rid of it would make things very messy in a divorce if the both of them have a lot of assets. Unless there’s a clause in there that benefits him in case of a divorce, getting rid of it is making her look bad and wanting some of his assets in case of a divorce. In this case the smar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:55 PM
11

What’s a normal amount of condoms for anyone to have? I think having more than a box is too much unless you’re in a committed relationship and stock up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:26 PM
20

I feel like it’s fine if he bought a large pack once for his ex gf or female family member. But if he constantly updates it and thinks about it, that’s a little weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:24 PM
5

Exactly! You figure out that he’s a HVM when you’re dating, so you have no fear moving in with him early since you know that he won’t treat you like garbage once he has “access” to you. Thanks for proving my point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:34 PM
34

As someone below wrote, you really get to know someone after spending 24/7 with them. Marriage is a serious, legal document. If you’re dating someone and are worried that by moving in with them before marriage, they’re going to use you or get tired of you, you shouldn’t be marrying that person. What’s stopping them from using you when you’re married and then getting tired and wanting a divorce after 2 years? I truly don’t understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:38 AM
63

To each their own. Living before marriage is a good idea because you get to see if your man is a real HVM or not. The ideal situation is to move in once you get engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:35 AM
3

I this sex is a part of a healthy relationship. I wouldn’t want to continue dating someone if there was no sexual connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:48 PM
3

Don’t give up! Take this time to step away from dating for a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:09 AM
7

Lol I don’t want to hear any more about this dumbass convention so I don’t even want to search it. Just search “make women great again 2020 convention” in YouTube and watch the first results. I think drew gooden had a video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:45 AM
10

I’ve only had one guy in my years of dating from 19-23 not pay for me. And I’ve gone out with a lot. I later found out that the guy that didn’t pay for me was dating 4 women at once, so that’s probably why he wasn’t paying for his dates. Poor students would pay on the first few dates and then ask to split after. I didn’t really mind that since we were both students. I’ve even offered to pay a few times - they would turn it down. The ideal scenario for me was him paying for dinner and if it went …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:40 AM
3

The guy had this first kid at 22 then. That’s not too young for an unplanned pregnancy. I know a few couples that got pregnant in their senior year of college and did fine. The dads worked a ton and the moms stayed home for a bit and then went to work. Of course, an abortion is better if you’re not 100% prepared, but it’s not as bad as having a kid when you’re 18 or younger - you’re an adult at 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:28 AM
11

A lot of youtubers made reaction videos calling these guys out for how stupid they are, watch them and laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:22 AM
5

She can sue for this depending on what country she lives in. If someone is aware of having an STD and doesnt disclose it before sex, it’s a crime. I hope she lawyers up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:26 PM
10

European men are just like American men except you pay for your own meal half of the time. They’re gorgeous (like OP said) so they think they can get away with it. They’re sleazy. They’re emotional. It’s also the fact that European men see American women as those who will sleep with them no matter what, so they treat us worse than they would a fellow European woman. They have extremely large egos so they can’t take any criticism, ESPECIALLY in bed. Multiple guys got offended when I would either …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:21 PM
8

Lmao total weirdo, cut him off. It’s quarantine, you wouldn’t be going on a date anytime soon anyways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:52 PM
4

Good that you’re learning! Guys who are confident in themselves will take note of what you like and listen to you. Tell them to go slower, faster, higher, etc. Good luck :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:51 PM
9

If you use vibrators on your own, have no shame of bringing one into the bedroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:16 PM
15

This is clearly a creative writing exercise by a loner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:15 PM
3

Lmaoooooo what a dumb take. Wear whatever you want. Guys who aren’t insecure would start to dress nicer for you when they see that you’re dressing well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:44 PM
22

Your first paragraph is great. HVM don’t need to be trained. To answer your question though, the difference between nagging and training and that when someone nags, they explicitly ask for something. When someone trains, they don’t ask for it - they hint at it and then when they receive whatever they ask for, they reward the gesture. Don’t listen to some comments. Also these “what traits do you value in a HVM?” need to STOP. I swear since FDS has grown, there’s a new post like this every week. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:38 PM
131

Also if they’re teens then they’re underage. They should learn that their nudes still count as child pornography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:52 PM
29

Girrlllll I don’t even read their full messages, just block and delete. Can’t believe someone has the time to be writing up paragraphs like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:01 AM
2

It depends on why you broke up. If it was because he did something wrong (cheated etc), then it’s not necessarily shady but kind of sad. If it was a healthy relationship but a mutual breakup, I don’t see it as being shady. I have a few photos of my ex from like 5 years ago up on social media but I’m completely over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:55 PM
106

The age difference doesn’t even have to be that big. Anyone over the age of 21 who is interested in 18 year olds is disgusting in my opinion. I’ve never met a decent guy out of college who was still attracted to college freshmen. Everyone I know that’s my age is attracted to people only our age or older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:37 PM
13

Yay congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:17 PM
5

That sounds like my ex. It’s just an ego boost for him. Get out of this relationship NOW. Cut ties ASAP. It’s not going to end well - speaking from personal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:18 PM
3

Just block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:17 PM
32

Most people don’t think about having kids with the person sitting in front of them on the first date. Yet, some guys still pay for the entire bill. Kids or no kids, that shouldn’t be a factor. If a guy is a gentleman and wants to pay, let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:08 PM
18

Depends on what “standards” you mean. Sometimes I find guys who are conventionally unattractive VERY attractive to me. A guy can’t change his face, but he can practice good hygiene, have a good haircut, and keep his facial hair in line. This is what I look for. Some guys, however, are just unattractive to me no matter how much money they put into upkeeping their faces. I will not give them a chance since I’m simply not attracted to them, that’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:31 AM
6

Definitely. Take the time to read some budgeting hacks - everything from what food to eat to how to save money going out. Start taking note of how much you spend. Stop shopping as much, or if you do, invest in quality things rather than cheap things that you will throw out soon. There are budgeting hacks for each level of income. There are lower level hacks like “eat beans bc they’re cheap” and then higher level hacks regarding prioritization of specific investments. Do a quick google search and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:21 AM
17

Hmm don’t think so but interesting observation. The point of this post was exactly this - crisis reveals character. Thanks for understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:25 AM
20

I hope that others can learn from this post. I’m also extremely glad that I dodged a bullet and never went out with him romantically when he was interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:53 AM
14

Dw I’m definitely owning it. The point isn’t that I gave in and went, it’s that he didn’t even bat an eye when I got sick after he had repeatedly asked me to walk together. As I mentioned, I would’ve helped out a neighbor had she gotten sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:39 AM
9

That’s exactly why I’m not even considering a lawsuit? I wasn’t the one that brought the lawsuit up. The point isn’t that I gave in and went, it’s that he didn’t even bat an eye when I got sick after he had repeatedly asked me to walk together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:37 AM
13

Don’t think so. The first people in line for lawsuits like this would be employees who got sick because their employers asked them to keep working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:28 AM
7

I think this is just a general bad time where all your problems seem 10x worse than they are or were in the past. Take these next few months to focus on yourself and then you can “level up” later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:26 AM
68

Some are still oblivious and get too close when waiting in lines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:35 AM
2

Do you know what she posted to her story? Did she post about us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:00 PM
3

My ex asked if I’d wanted to try anal, I said no, and that was that. We had times where, during missionary, he aimed his dick a bit too low so it hit my anus, but it never went in or anything. I don’t believe he was trying to put it in since he generally didn’t want to try anal either. If anyone asks more than once or has their dick “slip” to the point where it’s painful and goes in your butt, that’s a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:56 PM
2

If he just asks, I’m not offended. I say that I’m not interested, that I have hemorrhoids, and go on with my day. But if he keeps persisting, then that’s a deal breaker and will lead to a break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:51 PM
3

No response is a response. It’s though to not message him, to not say all the things you want to say, but you have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:43 PM
2

What’s her insta? I watched only one of her vids where she says that he doesn’t want to be in her vids. That kind of weird. If he was concerned for his job or something, he could at least wave to the camera. Idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:02 PM
8

Love-bombing, constant (and I mean constant) lying, lots of jealousy issues (always needed attention), blamed me for problems - when I would catch him lying he would say “yes but you do xyz so I’m not as bad”, lack of empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:04 AM
13

Yep. My ex was a narcissist but he sure treated me well. Flowers, massages, good morning texts, always made dinner reservations, would order me food if I was hungry, made me lunch for work, held doors for me, went down on me for half an hour, had a clean car and apartment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:40 PM
16

Seems like he made up that lie to her or something. Everyone knows that getting married has tax benefits - I’m pretty sure in every country you either get taxed less or the same, I don’t know of a country where you get taxed more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 10:35 PM
5

LOL, I didn’t think people did this on the first date, but a few weeks ago I went out with a guy who tried to grab my hand on the first date! I was so confused at first, I thought he was just accidentally hitting my hand or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:11 PM
44

Virginity is a social construct. You didn’t “give” or “lose” anything to him. He’s just the first dick that entered your vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:10 PM
19

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 01:14 AM
38

A lot of them have husbands who engage in drug use and smoking in the house. This is something I have never even encountered with a guy. I have never thought about putting “no serious drug use” in my list of standards because that’s just implied! These are probably the type of guys who say that our standards are too high because we want a normal guy who isn’t abusive, has a stable job, is nice, has a good family, etc. We’re clearly excluding them so they get upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:19 PM
40

I’ve never heard of this sub until now and wow. This is worse than r / relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:54 PM
26

For a manager position too? Get rid of him - don’t even bother answering back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:44 PM
4

“Together for 8 years” yep it’s either a guy or a fake story. If you look through her comments, she wrote something about her ex from a few months ago and how she recently got out of a relationship. It’s fake and I can’t believe people buy into this shit. If you scroll down on the TIFU post, even some comments were like wtf is this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:35 PM
6

What the hell is frozen corn and how do you spice it up?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:52 PM
8

It could just be a new way of saying girlfriend. I have friends who call their gfs wifey or who ask their friends “how’s the wifey/wife”. It implies that your relationship is serious. It’s cute, but I would discuss it to make sure that you’re not a forever girlfriend and that you’re progressing within the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:50 PM
5

This is why we get a prenup if we make more than men or own properties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:46 PM
2

Don’t spend two hours getting ready! Match their effort. Even if it’s a dinner date - if they don’t like you for who you are, they’re not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:47 PM
8

Aside from staying with my ex which was just a toxic relationship full of his lies, this quick one from a few years ago: I went out with a guy who had a decent position at a good company, he was also gorgeous! His looks definitely made me look past his actions. We went out and he split the bill. The place was a bit high end so I wasn’t that upset. Next stop, we see a cool bar and decide to go in, the beers there are like $6 and he couldn’t even buy me one there. I find out he lives with his pare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:45 AM
3

You’ve talked for a few months and you haven’t asked him for his social media? At least ask him for his instagram! If he says he doesn’t have an account, ask him why. I don’t have a lot of social media channels and constantly get asked why, it’s not that big of a deal and doesn’t come off as a weird question. The fact that you’ve been talking for months but don’t know whether or not he has Instagram or Facebook is concerning to me. I don’t know how old you are, forgive me if you’re a bit older a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:34 AM
4

Also to add: there are a ton of young guys who are where you are emotionally. There are lots of mature young adults. No need to date 28 year olds who clearly can’t date women their own age and then justify it by saying that guys your age aren’t mature enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:13 PM
29

This is the difference between HVM and LVM. There are people out there who understand that porn isn’t real and aren’t interested in recreating those acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:32 AM
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You’re 20. Stay single. Don’t hop on the first guy with a stable job that you meet. Having a stable job and house/apartment at 28 is nothing surprising. That isn’t a quality of a HVM. You’re probably not used to that since no one really had that at 20, but I can tell you that’s nothing to brag about when you’re 28. Everything that you described screams LVM. Dating him will make you end up in the same situation you were in with your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:09 AM
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I also find it personally insulting that they gave their daughters the baby daddy’s last name. Especially Khloe - she found out that Tristan was cheating on her while she was in LABOUR. What kind of a last name is Thompson vs Kardashian? Her baby could’ve had an iconic last name, yet now has the same last name as a 19 year old hockey player and probably 30% of middle aged men in Ohio. Insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:04 AM
2

Thanks! I’m talking about 22-25. After 30 is a big no, this person clearly didn’t handle his finances well in his 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:07 PM
3

Yeah not sure why you got downvoted. However, healthy families help each other out - if parents see that their kid is paying $2000 in rent when he can be saving that and buy an apartment in a year or two, I think they’ll consider letting him live with them. I haven’t relied on my folks in a while either but that’s because they don’t live in the same city. If they did, I think I would rely on them more tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:02 PM
3

You can’t date potential. Thanks again for reminding me. That’s totally right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:00 PM
9

Thanks for your opinion! 5 years is a long time when you’re 30!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:53 AM
5

I’m from a background that has a history of collectivism, where people lived with their parents until they had their own kids or sometimes even lived altogether even after they’ve had kids. However nowadays that country is changing and it’s more common for people to not live with their parents once they hit 25. I now live in a culture where people don’t really live with their parents. But even if I still lived in my home country, I would have the same question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:31 PM
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I wouldn’t use the word “exception” here. I wanted to hear other opinions on building a relationship if the guy lives with his parents. It could be a benefit: you meet the parents, he has a large chunk of money saved up, living with parents usually means he has a good relationship with them, no weirdo roommates etc. Regarding your last paragraph: if you read the end of my question, I wrote that I’m worried about having to spend a lot of time at my place if the relationship progresses. I won’t wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:46 PM
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I’m not sure if I think living with parents in a very expensive city is a “struggle”. I have girlfriends who also live with their parents, it’s not uncommon, especially if they’re currently pursuing higher education. I agree with the friendship part - keep them as friends until they’re ready to live alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:38 PM
8

So? Her looks give her husband the right to say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:14 PM
15

Can someone link the post? Wow. I think my heart would shatter into a million pieces if a boyfriend had said that to me. I’ve never been in a situation where the guys jaw didn’t completely drop when he saw me dressed like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:11 PM
25

Not texting first (he’s not busy, he just doesn’t care), cancelling plans for his friends, bringing me to an event but then spending the entire time with his friends, yet gets mad if I leave him for 5 minutes to go mingle with other people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:04 PM
6

This is like Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively. A funny pic or two would be okay, but posting a bad photo ALWAYS would just piss me off. It’s over the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:02 PM
9

It really depends on the kind of relationship we are in. If this is a perfectly healthy relationship heading towards marriage, I would stay. If he had done some shady things during our relationship (talking to other girls, lying, other red flags) I don’t think I would. One big fight and I would be gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:59 PM
18

Why not kick him out now? No one knows how long this is going to last, we might even go in full lockdown mode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:55 PM
3

Huh? I don’t know how old you are, but you shouldn’t be dating someone who’s so broke they ask for money. It also depends on context - did he just forget his wallet at home? Is he getting paid tomorrow and just made a large payment on his student loans so he doesn’t have cash? I wouldn’t lend anyone money unless it was a long and healthy relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:54 PM
13

It depends on the type of guy. I know some guys who have gone to extremely cultured capitals of Europe and ended up hiring hookers. I know others who went and just smoked weed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:51 PM
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If you’re in a healthy, long-term relationship, this is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:48 PM
3

You were too nice to him at the end. There was no need for that last text - leave him on read after he says sorry. That’s it. And don’t text him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:42 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:15 PM
3

Can you elaborate a bit more for those of us who aren’t in the loop? What do you mean by “that guy”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:35 AM
1

Can you send me the link of the most recent one if it’s still up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:31 AM
1

I totally forgot about Steve cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:25 AM
3

Do you have the link to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:56 AM
15

Carrie was sooooo bad. I remember watching this at 15 and asking myself “what the hell is she doing?”. I still can’t believe she took him back after he publicly stood her up at their wedding. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:51 AM
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I think it’s natural to me because I simply won’t be interested in someone who doesn’t have at least a university degree, at best a masters or a certification. My social circle is people within the same class as myself, I’m not friends with anyone who doesn’t have a university degree and isn’t progressing within their careers. It’s natural because we want to be wowed, we want to have something to talk about with the guy. Naturally, guys in higher classes have more education, more knowledge, more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:41 AM
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My standards are what I bring to the table. -university degree -job with career growth in the future -doesn’t live with parents -no anger management issues -not a liar -good hygiene (to think you have to spell this out for some people) -doesn’t smoke -obviously not racist/sexist/homophobic, ideally we would have similar political views -good sense of humour -knows how to cook -has friends but isn’t the typical “bro”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:33 AM
3

I’ve been part of FDS for a whiiiile and I’ve seen a ton of commenters attack those who post that they know a man is HV after just one date - that’s why I don’t write that! I’m not sure whether he’s HV or not, he seemed like a nice guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:49 AM
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They’re not delusional, they’re being gaslighted and lied to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:00 AM
13

The day after our date, people got told to work from home and malls shortened their work hours. Then another 2-3 days later, all the layoffs started to happen and the malls closed. It varies from state to state but that’s how it was in my city. I messaged him a day or two after our date to see if everything was alright. This whole situation blew up overnight so I was also worried about him. We’ve known each other for a few years so I didn’t feel weird reaching out first either, it’s not like a d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:58 AM
3

I make a good amount of money (thank God) and I started to value guys that pay for me even more. I can definitely afford my own dinner, I can even afford to pay for the guy, but why should I? What value is this person bringing into my life? If I have to pay for my own steak, what was the point of this? I could’ve gone for dinner alone and with a girlfriend and had the same result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:59 PM
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If he’s staying home, then that’s fine. They should FaceTime. But if he’s going out and seeing other friends but not his gf, then he’s not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:39 PM
1

How is this FDS related?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:38 PM
6

This is the fakest thing I’ve read on here lol. I know a football player with a 3 inch dick. I know a ton of skinny guys with fat, long dicks. I read on twitter that skinny dudes have the biggest dicks and that just might be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:37 PM
5

I’m an analyst and his answer isn’t really offensive. It’s not necessarily true, but whatever. This guy clearly wanted to mention a nurse and doctor for some reason. However, no one in their right mind would ask someone what the difference was between a data scientist and analyst. Unless this job was for an intern position, no one would ask this. This dude either made it up or he’s 18 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:35 AM
3

This is a no for me. Either he’s insecure and didn’t want to get shot down after asking you for your number, or he wants to be chased. Both are not my type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:30 AM
3

Thanks for this reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:51 AM
15

This sounds so much like my ex... lying and then shifting the blame/making me feel like the asshole, denying the lie until she comes at him with receipts. He’s probably done this before, this is just the first time she’s caught him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:55 PM
1

Have you read other posts on this sub? What’s the point of making a post like this if you’re not prepared to receive comments which “pit you against a stranger”? Were you expecting only comments telling you to go for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:12 AM
1

Idk what your first paragraph is even about. I said that they’re psychopaths IMO*. This guy could be different, who knows? You’re clearly interested in him so if you continue to get good energy from him, just go out, but make sure that you’re not wearing rose-coloured glasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:11 AM
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1) the guys in fraternities almost always pay for their date to their function. He wasn’t being generous. 2) I’m personally not a fan of frat guys. Especially if he’s the president. Ask around about his frat - do they have any scandals? If he’s president he had handled all these scandals or might even be the reason they exist. Frat guys are psychopaths imo, unless it’s actually a decent fraternity (like there are some religious ones where there’s no hazing and minor drinking). I don’t like their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:04 AM
2

Lol I commented and got called out and downvoted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 09:57 AM
3

He wasted your time for 6 months. Don’t let him waste another second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:17 PM
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I expected the comments to be full of yta’s, but what I didn’t expect is for people to bring FINANCES into this!! How on earth is that related?? What does her getting a job even have to do with the delivery room??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:05 PM
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Keep in mind that not all women want to help younger female colleagues. It’s the same of any gender, but for some reason I assumed that ALL females look out for one another in STEM or engineering. Hell to the no. Remember this and you’ll be fine. Your future mentor is out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:55 PM
23

This! Technically they can sleep with other people because there’s no exclusivity, but once we do it it’s over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:53 AM
63

Exactly.... if you won’t compliment your male coworker with blue eyes don’t do it to a female coworker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:19 PM
16

I’m guilty of this. A general rule is that if they don’t message you the night before or at LATEST the morning of, it’s not happening. However if the guy is really cool I sometimes do find it a bit difficult to follow that though. :\ next time, straight up block and delete the number of a guy if he doesn’t message you the day of to ensure that you don’t message him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:28 PM
5

There’s no need to reach out or anything. Delete the convo and/or block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:12 AM
5

It’s not even about money - drinks are expensive. You could have 2 drinks each and it’ll be the same price as a meal at a restaurant without alcohol. He literally just doesn’t want to go on a proper date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:27 AM
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It’s a red flag to me when a guy doesn’t care about his girlfriends/wife’s career. This is the type of guy who could be CEO but would date a kindergarten teacher or a hairdresser. I’m not saying that those are bad jobs, I’m saying that these guys don’t want to be challenged. They don’t want a woman on the same - or higher - level as them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:22 AM
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I honestly miss when this sub wasn’t as popular as it is now. Some recent posts have been posts that someone should write in r/relationships, not FDS. We are not a relationships subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:11 AM
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I was a feminist and almost a man-hater even growing up. I was around 8 or 9, prepubescent, and I still realized that guys get away with much more in this world that we do. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:55 AM
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When are people going to understand that men play just as large of a role in child development as women do??? I grew up with traditional grandparents, telling me to dress warm because I’m going to have kids one day, to eat well, to not sit on the ground (bc of the cold), to exercise, to not drink, etc. It drives me nuts that dudes never hear about this. They drink and smoke and want to have kids at 45!! People genuinely still think that a woman’s “window” is until 30, whereas a mans is until 50.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:53 AM
6

He’s insecure and honestly not worth the stress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:49 AM
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I’ve never had a date that bad that I walked out in the middle of it. I’ve ended dates early though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:46 AM
2

I spend money on beauty for myself and ONLY myself. I don’t put on makeup for a guy to pay for dinner, I put on makeup because I like it. I get your point - but we have to start letting guys see us as we are. I can’t remember the last time I spent more than half an hour getting ready for a date. If my date doesn’t like the way I look, then it’s his loss! If he doesn’t pay, it’s his loss and I don’t even get upset since I don’t invest that much into a first date. I think we should separate how mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:02 PM
13

They still have to market to women or else the dudes will stop using the app. We’re a chip in the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:51 PM
3

So much is wrong with that part!! Why inject serum in the vagina? What the fuck? Either they were raped by soldiers or they were raped by the doctor that “injected serum”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:20 AM
5

If he didn’t reschedule right away, chances are he’s just not feeling the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:28 PM
8

Exactly. What the hell is he sewing up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:22 PM
7

Make it clear. If he suggests another coffee place or park, say “what about xyz restaurant? I’ve heard they have good spaghetti/lasagna/sushi”. If he fumbles, you got your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:11 PM
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This sounds exactly like high school. At least you learned your lesson - don’t get involved with coworkers!!! Or at least wait for them to properly ask you out, don’t make the first move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:52 PM
3

Trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:30 AM
6

It sounds like a bootycall or really casual dating. If I were you I would either leave it alone or briefly mention FDS to your cousin. Don’t go stressing out over someone else’s dating life, focus on your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:04 PM
16

You should
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:32 AM
14

Also I’m assuming they don’t mind wasting time since this is their one date a month. If I go on a date every week or even twice a month and cannot be wasting precious time walking around downtown saying “what about this place?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:18 PM
7

Check out the post history of the second posts author.... so sad. They’ve had problems for years yet they still got married and had a baby. Regarding organizing dates, the one thing my awful lying ex did right was organize dates. He knew how important it was to me so he organized all the dates, and on special events such as Valentine’s Day and my birthday he went above and beyond. Then I once agreed to go out with this dude who was 30+. Professional, high up at work (assuming he was good at time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:12 PM
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I don’t understand how this isn’t a waste of time for THEM! We’re both working professionals, I would rather meet up at the spot at 7 to save time, not meet up somewhere downtown at 7, walk around trying to find a place, finally sit down around 7:45, get our first meal past 8pm. Doing the latter wastes THEIR time too, do they not understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:16 AM
3

Why bring all men into this??? What a dumb response. Someone asked a specific question - answer the question, don’t bring a whole gender into it. The columnist clearly just wanted to state how much they DONT hate men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:56 PM
2

Yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:54 PM
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Jesus fuck. Any guy with at least one braincell would buy plan b (pay for the entire thing) without thinking twice. Even most broke dudes in college would rather spend the $60 than risk an unwanted pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:55 PM
34

Reply good morning back. It’s not a red flag unless he completely stops putting effort in and resorts only to “good morning” texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:50 PM
5

“If you know what you want and are going to go for it, why’d you ask me like that? Going for something you want isn’t wasting time” what I would’ve written He essentially wrote that him pursuing you if you aren’t interested is wasting time. He wants you to know that every minute spent with you without sex or exclusively is time wasted. He could’ve asked you out like a normal person or just wrote “hey are you still interested? Just want to be on the same page”. This would be a turn off for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:18 AM
7

Just an order of flowers isn’t enough. He could’ve at the very least brought them to you, damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:14 AM
3

What should we respond to that if a guy says that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:52 PM
2

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:20 PM
5

I’m travelling with a girlfriend :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:06 PM
3

Firstly, all the good restaurants are booked by January. You might as well stay in and have him make you a nice dinner. I would be upfront and say that I want to go out and dress up, you could “celebrate” Valentine’s Day on a different day at a nice restaurant. I would also say that I’d like flowers. No hints - just be straight up. If he doesn’t come through, you know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:04 PM
3

How do you “accidentally” hit someone????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:14 PM
1

I do all of these (maybe except the last one) on every date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:13 PM
1

I’ve never dated a gamer and I never will. Being a full-on gamer in your early 20s was somewhat acceptable (imo), but I would not marry someone in my late 20s/early 30s who’s a gamer. I’m okay with the dude playing video games from time to time, maybe once every two weeks tops. But a dude who constantly plays and spends a ton of money on new games is a hard no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:27 PM
37

You shouldn’t care what he thinks. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:17 PM
210

What did the immigrants do 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:59 AM
20

By “adopted donkey”, I thought you meant a guy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:56 PM
33

What the fuck??? Dude is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:54 PM
2

He might be dumb enough that he won’t get the message. If he’s not interested in her then none of her hints will make him think “oh, I need to propose asap”. She needs to ask him a yes or no question, does he see himself proposing in the next year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:15 PM
3

Has she brought up marriage? What’s his outlook on it? I’m asking if he’s even brought up the fact that he wants or doesn’t want to get married. She should lay the facts out. Say that she was expecting a proposal and that she wants to get married within the next year or so. No dropping hints, she needs to be straight-forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:31 AM
4

uh lol probably not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:30 AM
8

LOL I sometimes read those subs and think “thank GOD I’m not in a relationship”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:22 AM
7

Are your friends in quality relationships? It might feel lonely when you can’t really contribute to the convo when your friends are talking about their boyfriends. Keep your head held high and don’t start dating around just because you feel lonely. I’m the same age as you and this is the perfect time to study and get a head-start on your career. You’ll find someone closer to your mid-20s or even late 20s, and you’ll be happy that you didn’t spend your early 20s in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:21 AM
12

It’s hard to realize manipulation in the moment. Glad you realized now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:18 AM
13

Say you’re not getting engaged unless you know where his money is coming from, and how much is coming exactly. He could be a drug dealer for all we know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:52 PM
3

Less than 6 months is still a decent amount of time. He should, at the bare minimum, book the evening off for you and treat you to dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:05 PM
1

Update us if he does this again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:57 PM
0

The most I would do is take one of his things and then sell it. But don’t make it obvious that you took it. Also I don’t get it, are you going to be at his place alone without him? If yes, I would make myself a nice meal too lol. Other than that, take the high road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:22 AM
5

Some people do have “sleeping disorders” or just flat-out depression. When I was severely depressed I would come home at 4pm, go straight to bed, wake up around 10, have dinner, and go to bed around 11:30. That was my week. I was sleeping around 13 hours out of 24. If this is him, he is NOT ready for a relationship. I wouldn’t go to his place after he “woke up”, but I wouldn’t drop him either. Get him to plan a different time to hang out with you. If he falls asleep again, it could be a disorder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:53 PM
55

I don’t associate myself with very religious people, but from what I’ve seen a lot of religious people (both men and women) are hypocrites. You’ll find more religious men protesting abortion and gay rights than non-religious. And they’re almost always all white (catholic, Christian). Of course there are a TON of progressive and cool religious people, but I think the chances of a man being LV is higher if he’s religious. Just my two cents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:44 PM
30

The worst I’ve ever seen was in London. You either have trash dudes with no education or complete fuckboys with gelled back blond hair working for a bank. It’s like there’s no in-between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:28 AM
4

Oh lord. If he’s such a bro that he and his boys go on a camping trip on Valentine’s Day weekend (meaning his boys are either single or just don’t care about their gfs), drop him. A mature man would not miss Valentine’s Day for a trip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:25 AM
14

Don’t beg him and don’t bring it up yourself. Don’t make yourself available - you don’t need to make it known that you want exclusivity. Make him ask first. Also, date around while he’s gone!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:32 PM
1

Lol. I work too much and barely take lunch. Him too. We’ve had coffee at work on break before though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:03 PM
2

I am wary! And yeah, I think he’s smart enough to not ask a coworker out for dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:01 PM
1

Thanks for your take! Where I’m from, meeting for coffee doesn’t make someone look bad as a professional. Everyone networks. I go out for drinks and dinners with my team. Once I went out just with my two male coworkers. So becoming friends with the people you work with is important. However I’ve never hung out with a coworker over the weekend - this is where you might be right about it not looking professional. But that’s why I think he suggested coffee and not a dinner. A dinner on Saturday wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:51 PM
2

Yeah it’s in the afternoon. I’m going to do it and then run errands probably. And I didn’t mention, we’ve had casual chats over coffee at the office. This is the whole point of the post - I think he wants it to be a date but he’s just playing it safe in case I turn him down for dinner. Dating within my company is allowed. I just don’t really want to do it. The guy must be husband material for me to risk my status at work by dating him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:44 PM
6

This is my outlook on it too. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:41 PM
4

Why lay out ground rules like this? Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:03 PM
5

The “coffee date” at the end sealed the deal. LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:01 PM
7

Literally just be yourself and allow him to keep asking you out on dates. Don’t freak out, don’t sleep with him too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:00 PM
69

LOL this is my favourite take. He deposits his cash in the ATM twice a month, meaning he invests his money in the bank, meaning he does investment banking. Or he could be buying up stocks and count that as investment banking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:17 AM
5

I’m not sure if I would marry yet. However I’m too scared of the costs of divorce. I wouldn’t want to buy a home together and out everything into it just to end up with half of its price in cash after a lengthy divorce. Edit: I thought the question was NOT want to marry. My bad. I would want to marry for support and for tax purposes. I’m an only child so I want someone I can rely on. I also want a dual-income household, I literally dream of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:57 PM
268

What exactly is “doing investment banking”?? What’s his exact role? Some dudes simply work at a bank and call it doing investment banking, smfh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:07 PM
1

Did he mention it was FDS? Or did he just say that he saw a post on Reddit? It could’ve been another post in another sub and he felt so insecure about not paying that he thought it was you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:49 PM
1

Did he mention it was FDS? Or did he just say that he saw a post on Reddit? It could’ve been another post in another sub and he felt so insecure about not paying that he thought it was you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:49 PM
1

Did he mention it was FDS? Or did he just say that he saw a post on Reddit? It could’ve been another post in another sub and he felt so insecure about not paying that he thought it was you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:46 PM
11

This!!! If a guy thinks you owe him sex after dinner, he’ll assume that you owe him sex after coffee too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:29 PM
3

To each their own. If you’d like a coffee date, make sure he takes you to a nice place, not just your local Starbucks. I just finished school too, but if a guy asked me out for coffee I’d assume that he wants to network. No joke. I’ve never been on a coffee date and never will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:28 PM
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-cook for him (and other things like cleaning, laundry) -finger his asshole -allow him to make you feel bad for not spending enough time together. Drop him if he does this -pay for the date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:26 PM
11

My ex was rich af, took me on travels and to dinner and bought me anything I wanted and I’m STILL embarrassed that I dated him. Had he not done all that I would’ve been more embarrassed though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:23 PM
4

You haven’t talked since your encounter. Leave it at that. He’s just trying to make you jealous, and he’s also a dumbass for thinking that you wouldn’t ask your friend about whether they hooked up or not. Drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:34 PM
28

If it’s only $25 and he seems eager to pay, let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:16 PM
2

Usually there’s a nurse to prep you, hand the tools over to the gyno, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:28 AM
3

I have hemorrhoids so that will never happen. I almost pass out from fear when I go to my proctologist and I’ve declined a colonoscopy multiple times - so why does a dude think I’d want his dick in there? My ex asked only once and that was it. Any guy who has to ask more than twice will be broken up with, it’s so disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:03 PM
5

We don’t blame the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:58 PM
3

Oh okay! If he’s able to come over to your place I would still ask for some chocolates or another craving of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:52 PM
5

Some of our grandmas simply lived in another time and culture, especially if you live in a developing country. I don’t know if I would call her a pick-me since being like that is so heavily ingrained in her culture and her brain. It’s how she grew up and how she sees the world. There was a time (again, especially in developing countries) when men were the prize. A woman had to get married - a single woman older than 23 was a shame. Women sometimes went to university JUST to find a husband and se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:48 PM
3

I would ask him to bring me some chocolates, give me a back rub, run me a warm bath etc. If he’s overworked you could still sleep over at his place where he could give you these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:37 PM
2

Oh LOL. I have a rabbit and also a bullet vibrator. I lube up the rabbit, put it to the highest setting and I’m done in 20-30 seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:07 AM
1

Huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:10 AM
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I started watching soft-core porn, porn made for women, etc. I wouldn’t allow myself to think of BDSM or watch any videos. Then when I got used to finishing to women enjoying themselves and not being humiliated, I stopped watching porn altogether. Another thing is that I had a really strong vibrator which would make me cum in 10 seconds, so I didn’t even have to think about anything to finish. That definitely helped. This took months, maybe even close to a year. It takes time but it’s worth it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:05 PM
88

She got 38 billion. With a B.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:12 PM
13

I’ve never heard that before. If these are men you work with, go straight to HR. If these are your friends, stop talking to them. If these are random guys, why are you even talking to them in the first place? Drop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:11 PM
13

Yeah... I truly don’t care what men currently like. Hopefully most women also stopped caring and will one day stop wearing itchy underwear and lingerie for random men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:51 AM
2

If you let their mouths run long enough they will expose themselves. Same with any person and any viewpoint. It might happen on the second or third date, but it will happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:16 PM
4

I can’t think of more direct questions I ask on the date. I try to figure out who’s in front of me just through the conversation. I don’t directly ask “what are your values?” but I drive the conversation in a way so that I find out his personality traits: is he kind, etc. Political views are also important to me. Maybe not on the first date, but I’d also want that to come up. A big one is how he treats women and if he intrinsically respects us. Each dude can say “psh, yeah, of course I respect w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:49 PM
3

Also, tip for you ladies: if you can’t afford a $100+ vibrator, some pharmacies sell little bullet vibrators for around $20-$30. Obv depending on where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:26 PM
2

I have a rabbit and it’s amazing. Rabbits also come in different shapes and sizes. I got a smaller one and it makes me almost pass out after using it for 15 seconds because it’s so small and it doesn’t reach past the g-spot. 10000% would recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:25 PM
15

Before: where he works, which area he lives in, whether or not he has roommates, whether or not he has a car, where he went to school, maybe even his family situation (how many siblings etc.) On the date: plans for the future, what he wants to do with his career
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:38 PM
131

This is that post in r/relationship_advice where the guy wanted his gf to wear sexy lingerie to bed instead of comfy boxers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:36 PM
21

Dating skills - not sure. But if you want to feel like a badass, watch Gone Girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:46 PM
6

In that case, just enjoy yourself. If exclusivity isn’t something you want right now, then he’s doing you a favour by not being too clingy. Go have fun with this guy (on his dime). ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:40 PM
13

Tricky situation. Oh one hand, you guys are BOTH dating around. You have a FWB. On another hand, I think that if he saw you changing your photos and he was interested, he would’ve brought up exclusivity with you instead of changing his own pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:26 PM
24

Most gyms actually take these kinds of complaints seriously now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:36 PM
3

I’ve never used anything except condoms. I can’t wait for male birth control to hit the market - any guy who wants to marry me will have to take the injection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:21 AM
22

The amount of awards.... I’m dead omfg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:01 AM
17

LMFAO!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:00 AM
30

Your ex was a douche. He saw your weight when you guys started dating yet he continued to call you out on it. Normal guys don’t do that. You’ll find someone who will appreciate every inch of your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:59 AM
1

I mean, sounds more like she lost interest since she was ignoring him and not so much like trash taking itself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:57 AM
2

What? How is this relating to my comment? We weren’t even drunk. The sex was really good actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:28 PM
11

French fuckboys are like American fuckboys but more sleazy. I found that if you give off the smallest hint that you might be into sex, they won’t treat you well, won’t take you out, etc. I’ve also found that they see women who are not French as some golden ticket to sex. I know that we’ve been conditioned to think that French men are so romantic and that Paris especially is so romantic and I’m here to tell you that that’s the furthest from the truth. Please don’t get your hopes up. I truly hope …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:14 PM
6

Water on a nightstand too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:44 PM
46

LOL this made me laugh. Is it not normal? Guys happily do it, it’s common courtesy. We’re both thirsty during and after sex so I just ask them to get me some water. I’ve never, ever questioned it until this guy. I don’t do it to be alpha or anything, I’m just genuinely thirsty/uncomfortable/cold/hot/light is too bright so I ask them to take care of it. Also, this was at the guys house, so there was no way I was getting up and getting my own water in someone else’s house. ETA: an ex of mine would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:08 PM
3

Which app is this on??? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:52 PM
6

What a dumbass oh my....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:41 PM
6

I used to think this way too. However, My ex was from a perfect upper middle-class family. He had a great relationship with both of his parents, didn’t grow up with any childhood trauma, didn’t have any lack of attention or anything like that growing up. Had two sets of amazing grandparents. Literally perfect upbringing. And he was a narcissist and liar. I still don’t know how or why he was a liar. He didn’t have to lie about anything during his childhood. Psychology works in mysterious ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:24 PM
2

Don’t bring it up. Everything seems fine now - he isn’t treating you any differently. Go on a few more dates and I’m sure he will bring it up again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:20 PM
10

Thank God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:15 PM
66

Oh my, this is the worst. This reminds me of a guy I hooked up with. To preface: I tell guys what I want in bed. Every guy I’ve hooked up with (double digits here) told me it was hot. Every guy. Even one night stands. Now I hook up with this guy, it’s good, but as usual I tell him how to move his hands when eating me out, what to do, I asked him to turn the lights off and give me water, asked him to go harder, etc. Usual stuff. The next time I wanted to hook up with him, he told me that he didn’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:06 PM
60

The husband is overweight and doesn’t want his wife to blossom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:00 PM
18

Newsflash! Women aged 30+ can still have kids. I don’t know about your city, but where I live almost no 25 year old woman is even close to ready to having kids. These dudes are dumb af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:11 AM
6

He might be a high value man, but just not the high value man for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:27 PM
6

LMFAO. Oh boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:11 PM
40

100%. I don’t even write “this is”, I just write “inappropriate”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:31 PM
3

So far I’ve never dated someone without a university or college degree and I plan to keep it that way. Even if someone is a manual labour worker, they had to go to college for that, so I’m not limiting my dating pool by a lot. So to answer your question, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:27 PM
1

Absolutely get a vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:55 AM
3

Depends what “significantly less” is and what he’s spending his income on. I don’t have a lot of disposable income because I’m paying my student loans off, so technically a guy making 20k less than me could have more disposable income since he doesn’t have a large chunk of it going towards his loans. I’m also in my early 20s so a guy could easily be an intern at a company making a few bucks above minimum wage. At this point, as long as he has a university degree and budgets wisely that’s fine by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:51 AM
9

Also, a lot of guys enjoy a vibrator in the bedroom because they feel it too. Guys actually get pleasure from it too, whereas a plastic vagina isn’t benefiting the girl at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:40 AM
7

Lol girl good thing you blocked him because he WILL reach out when he gets back. These type of guys need to be almost trained. No long texts saying that he needs to respect your time and that “you are not an option”. No texting him first. If he doesn’t book a specified time with you, you are free to make plans for that day and time. Wait for him to text you the day of and simply say “oh, you didn’t specify what time so I made other plans”. This is exactly what you did go good job. I had a guy (f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:31 AM
6

This is one of my pet peeves. I’ve dealt with this in high school when boys were actually shy and I honestly thought that was over. But no, turns out that people of all ages do this! Unless you’re positive that he’s a 10/10 guy and a HVM, I wouldn’t ask him out. Who knows, maybe if you ask him out he’ll then be too shy to pick a spot, to pick you up, to pay for dinner, to kiss you, etc. Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:22 AM
3

I live in kind of a college city so dating in my early 20s could be difficult because a lot of guys are casual. I still found a few decent ones, but a lot are in college and don’t want to take girls out on dates or actually invest. We have a pretty casual downtown area which doesn’t help - we have a ton of places like Applebee’s so a guy could technically take you to a “restaurant”. This results in a lot of girls dating dudes who put in the bare minimum by taking them to a $40 dinner twice a mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:22 PM
46

I’d leave it at the grocery store and buy a different one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:25 PM
7

It’s a bad first or second date idea because it shows that the guy isn’t willing to invest in you. He doesn’t want to impress you. He wants to take you on a free “date”. If date #1 is a walk in the park, where’s date #2 going to be? I love walks in the park just like you. I think a good first date would be dinner + walk in the park (if there’s a park downtown). I also LOVE hiking, so a hiking date would be awesome for me, but again, not on the first or second date. If you like walks in the park,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:33 PM
4

Drop the dude AND your male friend. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 01:09 PM
31

The comments said that they’re getting married this year :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:53 AM
4

Lol let men die in their own waste then. Hopefully most of the women posting in that group are single. The ones that are in a relationship and doing all the work ..... ugh 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:06 PM
4

And then guys like this complain that they don’t get matches...... hmm I wonder why...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:13 AM
4

Yes, so many times! I’ve seen girls looking for everything from apartments to jobs for their boyfriends/husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:12 AM
14

LMFAOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:08 PM
5

If her previous guy was naturally good, she didn’t have to need to communicate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:07 PM
11

yeah comments are trash. i know the video is satire but there are guys irl that probably do this 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:48 PM
2

Unless he asks, don’t tell? If he asks you out on a day when you already have a date, say “I have plans”, then if he asks if you’re going on a date, say yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:50 PM
13

You can still be girly and have an MBA! You can get an MBA and then open your own hair salon and act as girly as you want. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:38 PM
20

Do you not have any other matches? Why do you want to meet up with this guy? I’d write something like “lol, I’d prefer to ‘see if we vibe’ over brunch and then check out xyz” - quotations around the ‘see if we vibe’ so he gets the hint that he’s not 20 anymore and can’t write shit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:34 PM
23

“Let’s hang out” “When do you want to take me out?” (jokingly) Also, I think coffee is a low-value date. Unless he takes you to some nice local tea/coffee place with pastries, it’s a low value date. Starbucks is a low value date lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:28 PM
11

Some guys want to smoke on the first date and then fuck. They call it “smoking a girl out”. If you like to smoke then it’s hard to turn down some free weed, so guys use that as a first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:40 PM
27

Soo many guys ruin their chances with that line. I’ve seen profiles of seemingly decent guys with good bios, and then at the end of the bio they write that. Um, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:37 PM
8

Oh my God I HATE!!!!! THAT!!!! I cannot even begin to tell you the amount of times that that had happened to me. I’m young, so I pass it off as young dumb guys being young and dumb, but it seems like this guy is at least 30 since he has multiple kids. He has no business acting this way. Drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:57 AM
4

My stance on this is to move in with talks of an engagement. I will only move in with someone I know I want to marry. I am not wasting time and money moving all my shit into an apartment to then break up and move out. When I move in with someone I’d want an engagement within the year. And to address your point about not knowing how the guy will be in the household: I agree. However, if you’ve dated for long enough, slept over at this house etc, you should have an idea of what he’s like. Does he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:09 AM
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I have a friend whose dad is a complete whore like the one in the post. He had a kid or two in his early 20s, then got married to my friends mom, had two kids within the marriage, and then had two other kids when my friend was around 5-10 years old, meaning my friend has younger half-siblings. My friends parents are still married even though the husband is essentially paying child support on two kids he had no business having. Trash like this exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:59 AM
32

You guys need to implement trigger warnings, what the fuck? The NSFW tag isn’t enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:09 PM
6

They should’ve been banned after the shooting in California years ago and ESPECIALLY after the Toronto car attack. In both cases the guys had been active on those subs minutes before the attacks. The California shooter specifically targeted women. It’s so fucked up. Monitoring those subs isn’t enough, they should be banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:46 AM
5

I usually go through their Instagram previously so I know of some of his interests. Usually the convo initially starts off with talk about work and how the week has been for the both of us, and that leads to talking more about our careers and interests. The guy should be trying to impress you, not the other way around. In an ideal situation the convo should just flow, he should have some stories up his sleeve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:35 AM
11

I wouldn’t have even mentioned the fact that I don’t sleep with people fast. Is that wrong ladies? Next time just write “I had a good time” AFTER he already messages you the next day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:35 PM
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Chances are he’s not going to progress even if you sleep with him. Stop talking to him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:31 PM
10

Good looks, GOOD HYGIENE, respectful, no games, goes down on me, the fact that we could go on dates without it being weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:04 PM
13

Hahaha I want to post every other post from r/niceguys here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:56 PM
4

Also, about your “dating dusties” comment: I have dated rich. I thought that a rich guy who bought me stuff and treated me to dinners and trips = HVM. That’s the FURTHEST thing from the truth. Please protect yourself. Stop thinking about his money. Think about who he is as a person, is he a genuinely good person? Can you offer you physical and mental support, not just financial?? That’s the big question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:17 PM
3

Can you add what you wrote in your original post? You deleted it. How did you meet this man? Why are you flying out to him? There have been discussions on this sub about flying out - and the answer was to never fly out to meet a man you don’t know very well. How did the night end?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:15 PM
29

Preferably DM so that random people don’t figure out the name and use the app to harass girls by their personal phone number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:10 PM
9

I love talking about my volunteer work and my job. I wouldn’t talk about things like my n count, my salary, whether or not I own property, the relationship with my parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:04 AM
86

Exactly. How is she a queen in this situation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:32 PM
75

Saw this on Twitter a few hours ago and the first tweet is GOLD. Fuck Kevin. I didn’t even see his documentary but if he even places a bit of blame on his buddies - he’s trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:31 PM
9

The genders switch around paragraph 4 - I’m a bit confused. Is this a troll post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:29 PM
8

“Not all relationships that hurt us are bad” It was definitely a bad relationship. Part of me thinks it wasn’t worth it. Cheating and lying is almost never worth it. Yes, the guys in both my case and yours were rich, but you can’t put a price on dignity, mental health, and trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:08 AM
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Yeah, how long has it been? He texted you right in the morning which was fine. That’s how dating works. It he had messaged you a few hours before the date that would’ve been different and you would’ve been in the right to tell him you made other plans. But first thing in the morning is fine IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:17 PM
15

I dated my ex for a few years throughout college. I definitely needed the moral and financial support. He was my counsellor (not the other way around), he fed me, clothed me, took me on trips, and I pretty much lived at his place to get away from my psycho roommates. But now I’m broken and have more trust issues than ever after the breakup. I’m questioning myself: was that relationship worth it? I was also extremely depressed so I think I might of killed myself or done really poorly in school ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:14 PM
6

I can’t stress volunteering enough. I also recommend book meet-ups, sports, and maybe even taking some sort of classes - this way you’ll learn and also meet people! Check if there’s some sort of speed dating for friends in your town. I’ve heard of it happening but it’s not everywhere. Best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:01 PM
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Yes. I gained at least 10 lbs in my relationship with my ex because he hated vegetables and just ate pasta all the time. I would sleep over at his place a few times a week and therefore also eat pasta or ordered-in Chinese food or pizza.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:48 PM
25

Yesss!! Don’t look back. It’s going to feel soooo good in a few weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:38 AM
6

Amazing response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:44 AM
8

100% yes. In college I would study all day, then have a fwb come over at 10pm (with food), have sex, he would leave around 11:30 and I would keep studying throughout the night. Guys never interfered with my studying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:34 AM
6

I did a bit of both. I got more matches by liking guys and then they would like me back and we had a good convo and even dated. Some guys who liked me would just be weird and/or sometimes not even message me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:23 AM
14

And make sure to keep checking your status as I’ve heard that people have been randomly getting their voting status revoked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:20 AM
1

This !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:12 AM
18

It’s his pleasure to meet you for dinner!? I would’ve wrote “I don’t meet people for dinner, I get taken to dinner” and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:52 AM
7

Seems like it’s either revenge or this guy really, truly doesn’t give a shit about OP. Ditch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:48 AM
13

Never said your friends situation was toxic - just said that I had a close friend who was in a toxic relationship. The guy wasn’t necessarily LV, the whole relationship just got toxic af. It got super frustrating because almost every time we hung out she would complain about him and I had nothing to say because there was only one answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:16 AM
18

Yes. If he won’t move forward, you’ll find someone who will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:11 AM
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I had a friend who was in a toxic relationship also and it was just frustrating. After a certain point there’s nothing you can do and just wait for her to figure it out on her own. Maybe suggest some therapy so her therapist can use tactics to ease the process for your friend. Ultimately saying “you’re too good for him, you’ll find someone else” sometimes doesn’t work. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:10 AM
6

As another comment already said, some guys in those countries prey on white girls because in their minds, white girls are all whores and will sleep with them. My tips for you are to have high standards. Don’t take any shit. Don’t take any joke. Forget about three strikes - one red flag and he’s out. Find places where HVM will hang out. Make HV friends who will lead you to these places. But always remember that just because someone is rich and educated doesn’t mean that he’s HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:15 AM
5

Definitely within like three days, but the sooner the better. Let’s say we go out Friday night. If he doesn’t ask me out again my Monday or Tuesday morning latest, I’ll already have my Friday and Saturday nights booked with my girlfriends. And I feel like waiting for over a week for a second date is way too long, I would forget about him by then. From my experiences, if a guy didn’t ask me out again either right away or within two days, he wasn’t interested and there was never going to be a seco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:05 AM
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Just don’t message him. Don’t drink too much alcohol if you think you might drunk text him. Don’t message his friends. Don’t stalk his and his ex’s social media - please. Work on yourself. You now have so much free time! Start working out, go out with your girlfriends, take on more responsibilities at work. Give yourself space for the occasional cry. Move in silence, don’t post about how you’re moving on all over social media. Good luck, you got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:58 PM
93

It’s crazy how someone could read a sentence and their brain comes up with things that the other person didn’t even say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:53 PM
10

I’ve met some accountants that need to get off their high horse. I think dating accountants in their 30s is completely different than dating accountants in their early 20s. They just got into the industry after years of school and, especially if they work for the big 4, they’re cocky as fuck. The amount of workload kicks it out of their system over the years though lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:20 AM
6

I pretty much write what you wrote. Sometimes I’m not as nice, I just write “hmmm that’s really far for me, can we do someplace in the xx area?”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:18 AM
5

You definitely need to work on your self-esteem. You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to your partners ex’s. and definitely don’t let him see that you’re insecure about it. He definitely shouldn’t be following her and watching her stories. Have a discussion with him about that. Regarding breakup, I really don’t see why you want to break up with him. If it’s to mend your own insecurities before getting back into the dating pool, please do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:15 AM
30

Date other guys, make room for treating yourself, go out with your friends, and don’t go girlfriend things for a guy until he asks for exclusivity. Exclusivity only benefits him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:09 AM
32

Those are the type of guys who then turn into incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:06 AM
7

How do you know if you’re in the starter relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:27 PM
17

Wtf, a surprise rectal exam?? Shouldn’t they use lube for that? He should lose his medical license. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:47 AM
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There’s only been one date. Don’t overthink it. Since you said the ball is still in your court, there’s no harm in asking for a second date but this is the last time you’re doing this. But with all honestly, I would wait a few days and see if he asks you out or messages you first. If he expects you to do all the work that’s a red flag. When he messages you first, you could write something like “it would be nice to go for dinner this/next week. Want to pick a date and place?”. This subtly makes h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:44 AM
38

Adding to the first one- his friends’ hurtful comments towards you. Same thing - he monitors your reaction to see if he and his friends got away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:33 AM
23

Aidan from sex and the city!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:23 AM
35

Lol no.... if a man needs to be “led” by a woman to be better for her he’s a LVM. Don’t put the blame on women for not “leading” their men well. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:22 AM
16

So sorry this happened :( what an ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:19 AM
5

I guess this post was more of a rant since they seem so happy but social media can be deceiving. Did you think the same way in your 20s? Does any part of you regret your marriage? Is being in a LTR with no legal commitment in your 20s and early 30s a good idea?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:56 PM
20

I’ve had the idea of living together only after engagement & serious talks of marriage years before FDS. Moving in together is a huge financial as well as mental risk. You might stay in this relationship for longer because you’re too scared to move out and are simply comfortable. Worst case scenario, we have an engagement timeline: for example, he says he’ll propose in 2020. We move in. If he doesn’t propose by the end of the lease I move out. This is just me. A lot of people are fine with movin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:52 PM
21

Sooo many guys say that their workload is 10x of what it really is. At any age. It’s so stupid. I’m in my early 20s, meaning everyone is working entry-level jobs straight out of uni. One dude who works in a company where probably 5-10 people from our graduating class work told a girl that he got promoted to some top analyst and is now managing a team. It probably took a week for her to accidentally debunk that by telling one of her friends about this new guy she’s been seeing. It was hilarious, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:46 PM
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I think even older guys who pursue girls in their early 20s (especially college students) is gross. There’s a reason a 30+ year old guy can’t get women his own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:50 PM
3

I don’t even know if he was telling the truth about therapy. He went to three different therapists over the course of about 1.5 years. He told me all his problems were solved after the first time (don’t want to get into the issues bc I don’t want to dox myself). Everything was amazing for like 7 months, then I caught him in multiple lies that stretched out those entire 7 months, and he swore he would go to therapy again and fix all his problems. He couldn’t answer my question: “I thought you got…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 06:32 PM
6

Yes. Always!!! I’ve seen posts like this all the time but I had to really learn to trust my intuition the hard way. I had a similar situation with an ex. He then went to therapy and “changed” and wanted to get back together and marry me. My gut was telling me that even if he doesn’t fuck me over now, it might be five or ten years down the line in our marriage. We talked as friends for about a year and then he kept lying and the trash took itself out....so glad that happened when it happened and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:55 AM
13

There’s an incel term for that and it’s not negging. It’s pretty much complimenting you enough so that you’re satisfied, but leaving that little bit of room so that you doubt yourself and want to keep appealing to him so you try hard and stick around. It’s disgusting and I hope you blocked him the second you left the place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:51 AM
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Try to push for drink dates if you are comfortable with that. Same idea, you can leave after finishing one or two drinks if you aren’t feeling it. The trick is to have only one drink though so that you don’t let your guard down due to the alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:44 AM
12

Nah. Also have small dicks that smell (bc washing ur dick is gay)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:09 PM
10

Don’t reveal your cards. Let him think that you want to have sex on the first date and then don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:24 PM
7

A true HVM knows that beauty is 1) subjective, and 2) won’t last a lifetime. You don’t have to be a model to meet a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:04 PM
24

I once didn’t want to date a middle eastern man because of what you just described, and he flipped it on me and called me racist. Even though he was almost white.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:02 PM
2

^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:00 PM
9

^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:00 PM
41

Eastern European men are very traditional. They split into two groups: 1) guys who will treat you like a queen and expect sex, the house cleaned, etc, and 2) guys who WONT treat you like a queen yet still expect all those things. I find group 1 men are fun to go out with and maybe kiss and that’s it. They pay for you, might even get you flowers, but they’re misogynistic. If you need an ego boost and to feel pretty these guys are for you. But more than two or three dates is too much. Don’t get in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:00 PM
10

Some French men are a waste of a pretty face. You used the words I’ve been searching for - coy, sneaky, sleazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:48 PM
3

What did you respond to him when he asked you to make a reservation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:26 AM
18

My ex was also there for me with for my dentist appointments, surgery, and ultrasounds after we had broken up. We broke up because he was a piece of shit, liar and cheater. Just because someone is willing to help you post-breakup (which is his fault) doesn’t mean he’s a good guy. Finding a genuinely good guy is tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:11 AM
13

Some comments are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:33 AM
8

Wow we found a victim blamer!! Ding ding! Why can’t he leave? Why can’t he stop? She actually enforced her boundaries (using your lingo here) by saying no not once, but THREE times. Most normal guys get the hint after one no. After the second no, he could’ve either stopped making out because he could tell she didn’t want to do anything, left, or proceeded to just make out and not do anything. I’ve been in the guys situation before. I was making out with a guy, he was hard so I went and touched i…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:24 AM
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There should be info about this in the sidebar, but here are some general rules: If you can afford to get to the place on your own, meet him there. Safety 101. Have him pay. Don’t even offer to pay, don’t reach for your wallet. Definitely don’t have sex on the first date. If you’re only looking for a FWB, still wait it out. You don’t even know it this guy is clean or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:17 AM
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Probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:15 AM
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London and Berlin are different than the rest of Europe. I’ve lived in London for a bit and London actually had sooo many fuckboys on OLDs with “Investment Banker” in their work title. However you’re right, people were pretty respectful. I noticed though that a lot of guys didn’t message first, so maybe that’s why. I didn’t talk with a lot of guys as I would only talk with those who messaged first. Dating in Southern Europe was trash. Worse than in the US. Guys would treat it as a way to get lai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:14 AM
8

Tax purposes! Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:40 PM
3

That will never be me as I will simply get bored. I wouldn’t mind doing most of the housework if I somehow worked 20 hour weeks while my partner worked 50+. But I do agree with the wife receiving all the money and seeing how it gets distributed. It’s important to know how much your partner makes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:40 PM
4

If your gut is telling you he might leave you, trust your gut. Don’t waste any more time on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:23 PM
15

Its disrespectful. If a single dude goes to strip clubs he’s automatically LV, if a taken guy goes to a strip club he’s just trash and a cheater. I understand that no boundaries were discussed, but clearly your values surrounding female objectification are different and that alone is grounds to breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:36 PM
14

Oh my gosh LOL!! Amazing catch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:34 AM
17

To me personally, a coffee date has never been and will never be a real date. If a guy asks me for coffee, I will in all seriousness assume that this is a networking opportunity. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I’m fresh out of college and I only went to coffee shops when I needed coffee, needed to study, or was meeting someone such as a mentor or classmate. I would personally prefer video chatting as a vetting process and then having a nicer date. My usual first date is just dri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:29 AM
3

Congratulations! :) don’t be embarrassed, be proud. And don’t talk to him anymore - even as friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:38 PM
12

It’s so refreshing when a guy doesn’t play games! A while ago I’ve officially adopted a zero bullshit policy for guys who play games. If he takes a long time to answer because he wants to seem like he’s uninterested or plays other mind games, I’m out. Back when I was in a relationship, I was FRIENDS with a guy who played games. We would be talking about scheduling something for a certain day, he would ignore me for 4+ hours, and when I would reply “ok nvm, just made plans with a girlfriend that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:14 PM
5

It’s unprofessional. I worked food service when I was in college and we had a million hot college guys come in, yet I didn’t go out of my way to try to sleep with them because I knew I could get fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:00 AM
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This is so incredibly disrespectful and break-up worthy. Why ruin Christmas like that? Even ANY gift replaced with a “haha you thought” note is rude (such as an empty iPhone box or something like that). Fake-proposing like that is so, so sad and mean. What a psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:24 PM
48

u/danxingdasies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:21 PM
13

In theory, I wouldn’t mind a SAHD if he actually does stuff around the house. But in practice, I want a man to take care of me. I have a decent salary now so I could get myself whatever I want, but I’d still want a guy to get me things. I want a man to support me. I could be a millionaire and still want a guy who, even if he earns less than me, can surprise me with things bought with his own money. I guess the only way to do this is if the guy has family money and could stay at home and spend hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:34 PM
32

?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:27 PM
64

Exactly! And so sometimes the vagina is darker during certain periods of your cycle. I’ve read that it also gets dark if the woman gets pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:17 PM
14

yeah, what job doesn’t allow people to show their face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:09 AM
13

I’m sure he treats you well, takes care of the house, etc. But I think coming over at 4am is too much. That’s simply ridiculous. If I were you I would say “I’m going to sleep at 11pm, don’t come by after that because I’ll be sleeping”. That’s not rude, there’s no harm in saying that - you genuinely need your sleep and it’s inconvenient that he expects you to wake up at 1am or 4am to buzz you in. He’s walking all over you. Edit: just read that some days he gets off at 12am. I would either not hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:36 AM
2

Just realized I wrote “his take” instead of THIS take. Wow. I meant this take^ replying to the comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:26 AM
5

Yeah I agree that OP should do that as well, letting him know that it’s not ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:12 PM
2

He’s only used it once so I would give him the benefit of the doubt. Just this once. I don’t think disclosing disabilities is something you should do when you first meet, you should bring it up in a proper manner when you’re comfortable in the relationship, not as an excuse though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:02 PM
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I have hemorrhoids, so that’s a big no. I like the occasional finger but I will never have anything larger than that up there. The issue here is not anal sex but the fact that your ex didn’t respect your boundaries when you said no. If you’re not comfortable with something, stand your ground about it once. If they keep asking you about it, leave them - what a headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:18 PM
15

This is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard. Go get that cat and love the hell out of it, plenty of guys love pets as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:16 PM
4

I would be fine with that as long as it’s not cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:13 PM
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I agree with his take. However, I don’t like that he brought it up as his defence in an argument. Are you sure he won’t be saying “sorry for xyz, you know it’s the autism” years down the line for larger mistakes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:11 PM
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Lying months before we even started dating. Lying again about small things a few weeks and months into dating. Not respecting boundaries. Getting upset when I didn’t want to hug/kiss him. Asshole friends. I thought things would change over time but they didn’t even after a few years. Not having my back in literally any way, shape, or form. Someone could hurt me (and they did) yet he wouldn’t do anything. Not at day 1 in the relationship, not at day 600. Wanted to be “exclusive” yet not call me h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:06 PM
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Wow. This is just being a plain dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:01 PM
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If he tells his parents every time you fight, run. My ex did that, obviously painted a story about how I was wrong (when he was the wrong one), and his mom and family would kiss his butt and reinforce how I’m the wrong one. Then he would come to me, tell me how 3+ other people thought that i was wrong, and that shut me up. That’s manipulation. He shouldn’t be telling others EVERY time you fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:08 AM
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Yes, women are expected to work yet somehow maintain the entire house, while also getting barely any time off. Also the population is aging so most of these millennials and even Gen X are supporting their own parents who are retired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:53 AM
5

Yes it’s that comment! I meant that we should spill something on ourselves, not the guy spill something on us. Therefore we seem more clumsy and the guy gets less nervous (how tho?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:50 AM
2

So sorry to hear that :( these types of situations suck so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 07:53 PM
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Someone literally wrote that we should be clumsy and spill something on us. On purpose. It got 1.1k likes. I’m done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 06:50 PM
28

Exactly. I used to think this way until I got q-u-a-l-i-t-y PIV that made me almost pass out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 06:13 PM
29

Wow the posts on that sub are so.... sad. :( I’ve hooked up with two guys with small dicks (had sex only with one) and they completely made up for it in other ways. All these posts saying “I can’t get women because I know I’ll disappoint them”, “I’m 100% sure this girl at the bar was going to go home with me but I was just too scared” are pretty devastating. Confidence is key, boys. Some of these post authors clearly need therapy to settle their insecurities. I thought they were talking about mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 06:11 PM
3

Is there a manager you could tell? I had a manager that would be okay with us telling dudes to fuck off and that they would handle it if it went to corporate. Once this decent-looking guy came in and asked for my number. I rudely told him I could give him the store phone number if he was interested in our newest collections. He blew up, said that “usually girls at [the mall] SMILE when I ask them for their number, why can’t you be happy” then wrote his own number on a random piece of paper and l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:35 AM
37

Someone here once told me to not go to their house until you’re ready to make out/hook up/have sex and that can’t be more true. Going to their house = at least hooking up after dinner. It’s different for everyone, but FDS rules it to be at least 3 months without sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:04 PM
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh my gosh Wowwwww the audacity.... Guys get so close to going on a date and then blow it in seconds and spend the evening alone. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:28 PM
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Other users have described a hvm so I’m just going to touch upon the dinner part: I’m in my early 20s too. Somehow I’m able to find guys to pay for drinks and dinners with me. When I was in college we simply wouldn’t go to really expensive places or we would go for happy hour drinks (not sure if you have that where you’re from). The bill was probably $40 max. If a guy can’t spend $40 once a week on us, I didn’t see him as a match. Also, guys can get creative with picnics or stuff like that. I on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:29 AM
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I made a post like this a while ago!! Had dinner plans for days, then the day of he asks if we could just hang out at my place. Do guys really think that’s gonna work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:32 AM
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I was going to write peeing before reading the text. I cross the line at peeing. Non-consensual slapping, choking, holding down, ejaculating etc - I don’t even kink-shame, I straight up tell the dude to fuck off. So sorry you had to go through this. Edit to add: regarding what your friend said about how there are women who like those kinks - the thing about sex is that it’s CONSENSUAL. You can’t pressure your own kinks onto someone else and you need to respect your partners boundaries. It seems …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:07 PM
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Good luck! I’m hoping that he and his wife are genuinely happy in this arrangement. If it’s as beautiful as you described - that’s amazing. Use this polyamory to your advantage without feeling guilty. Let things occur naturally. If you find a man who meets all your needs (you need to ask yourself- what do you want in a relationship? What do you need?), commit to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:04 PM
8

At this point time is the only answer. You’ll reach a point where you won’t even flinch when you run into him on the street. Try your best to not think about him and it’ll pass. Also, stop trying to fill the void with guys, I’ve found that it makes it worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:01 PM
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If it works for you keep doing it. You are still seeing other men at the moment. I would keep seeing multiple people (including the mentioned guy) until you find a HVM who is ready for marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:59 PM
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I agree and I’m the same way as you. However, you can’t turn a LVM into a HVM. You can lay out your expectations and get called a gold digger or a bitch. Some pickme’s get lucky with guys who want to pick them up, treat them, buy them flowers. Right place at the right time I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:01 PM
10

How would a woman be nonchalant about a dinner or drinks date? Men split the bill and then still expect sex since “iTs A dAtE”. I once ran into a guy I was going out with on my way to get groceries and he paid for my groceries. It was only like $20 though but a fact is still a fact. If a guy wants to pay, he’ll even pay for a lunch date, coffee date, an ice-cream date, anything. If a guy doesn’t want to pay, nothing will make him pay. It’s not the woman’s fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:54 PM
6

Even if we’re dating for entertainment, guys pick up the bill. Even if the guy knows this is going to be a one night stand or a two night stand max, he still picks up the bill. I think some guys simply want to pay and feel like a “man”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:51 PM
22

I didn’t give you an exact answer to your question because there are tons of answers on this topic in this sub. However personally I actually get turned off if a guy doesn’t pay. Like my vagina dries up and I can’t have sex. I’m not even joking. I think it’s so common for guys to pay in my life that when the odd ball doesn’t pay I’m like “ok, on to the next guy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:30 PM
23

Stop messaging him. And for the future, don’t message a guy asking if something “is still on for tonight”. I know sometimes it could be difficult and nerve-wracking, but usually if a guy wants to see you he’ll message you and confirm plans. He pretty much fell through twice, I wouldn’t entertain this anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:07 PM
14

OP asked an open-ended question. I know that there are tons of other threads about this but if OP is new to FDS, be welcoming and allow her to ask away. She seems open-minded and didn’t say that it didn’t resonate with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:04 PM
59

Guys are so worried about the “gold digger” types, yet have they ever encountered them?? When I was in elementary school we learned a lot about quick sand. I probably live at least a 6 hour flight away from the nearest quicksand pit. Nevertheless, we had multiple classes on how to get out of quicksand. I thought these were valuable lessons and that I would face quicksand a lot in my adult life. That was far from the truth - I’ve never seen quicksand in my life. And yet I spent years learning and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:00 PM
6

Probably the latter. If they feel bad but don’t fix their actions, they don’t feel bad. This is about any person or friend, not just men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:11 PM
11

Tying up loose ends or already had a date to a New Years party he’s going to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:11 AM
47

That was definitely my very first high school boyfriend. Some girls put in all the work and the guy just goes along with it, and bam - you are in a relationship. And the guy doesn’t want to break up with you because he’s comfortable. I broke up with my first bf and he literally said “yeah I agree” and that was that lol, it’s like he was waiting for me to break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:09 PM
49

100% yes. I saw red flags in my ex when we were still friends and weren’t even interested in each other, yet I ignored them and they came to bite me in the ass YEARS later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:06 PM
2

Thanks for the recommendation but I’m good with just drinks on the first date if it’s my first time meeting the guy in person. It’s a security thing. I can leave whenever I want. If I know this guy then obv we go for dinner. Also, a nice romantic bar for drinks > a cheap restaurant for me personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:39 PM
6

Lmao what? Are you sure he doesn’t just think that you’re a friend? Cut contact with him or start treating him like a friend also. No dinner dates, other dates, nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:42 PM
8

I’m in my early 20s too and there has been only one guy who split the bill with me since I had turned 20. One. Out of maybe 15-20 guys. It was hilarious because 1) he had a pretty good salary, 2) he still lived with his parents so he wasn’t paying rent, 3) I ordered two glasses of wine and my bill was like $16 + tip whereas he ordered probably 3-4 drinks and his bill was much higher. I was positive he was going to pay because my bill was literally pennies compared to his yet he didn’t. As studen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:27 PM
13

I don’t mind splitting the bill for a casual lunch when we’re actually seeing each other, so maybe after date 10. Regarding dinner, I could be in a relationship for years (and I was), the guy always pays. I think it’s quite embarrassing to go to a high end restaurant and split the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:16 PM
49

“His friend has advised him to break up with me” I thought he didn’t tell his friends they were dating? What are the chances he’s just saying that to her to that she shuts up and accepts it. What a manipulator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:04 PM
108

It’s sad that I have to wear a bra to the office but this guy doesn’t have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:37 PM
13

If you send feet pics, at least charge for them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:10 AM
33

This is not normal whatsoever. It’s a pretty sociopathic thing to do tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:08 AM
6

Perfect, then you answered your own question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:10 AM
20

Are you seriously asking this? How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? If he comes to see you, he doesn’t know where you live, you meet at a restaurant and if things go south you go home or go to a friends house. You have a support system at home which you don’t have in another city. Having him control your flights in and out of his city is extremely dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:39 AM
10

This is simply dangerous. There’s nothing FDS about it, this is simply dangerous and dumb. Don’t agree to this. Someone mentioned him flying out to see you — tell him that’s the only way you’d see him. If he trades stocks, he can do it over his laptop in your town lol. His job is not that crazy, don’t listen to him too much. At the least, if you do agree to this, make sure you get your own hotel/Airbnb which he DOESNT know about. But then again, why would you be paying for a hotel just to see a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:37 AM
5

If he has a dumbass group of friends who will 100% not only go to a strip club, but also order the dude getting married a stripper as some sort of “farewell freedom” prank — NO. If his friends are normal - probably will let him go. I’ve seen bachelor parties where they just bar hop, actually celebrate the fact that the dude is getting married, & play paintball or something like that. I would be fine with that. In short: If his friends see it as his last “single” night - hard pass. If his friends…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:02 PM
17

What does “the end of women” even mean? Women will still be born. Women will still be climbing the corporate ladder as always, this time at an even faster rate since they don’t need to take time off of work to have kids, and men would still want women for sex. What do they even mean by that sentence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 10:14 AM
5

A week = forever! Let’s say we go out on Friday, if we text over the weekend and he doesn’t try to make plans by Tuesday latest, I can’t see him because that’s when I make plans with my girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:52 AM
73

Does anyone have stories of them or someone else actually waiting 3 days to text? Perhaps someone older who didn’t have smartphones in their 20s? If I don’t get a text saying goodnight or a quick text the next morning saying something like “I had a great time last night”, I assume the guy is not interested. People are constantly on their phone nowadays so if a guy waits over a day to text me he’s either 1) playing games, 2) not interested. Am I wrong ladies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:06 PM
5

So happy for you! Confidence is really attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:01 PM
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Both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:29 PM
34

My ex was ugly as shit. His own best friends told him that I was out of his league. But he ate my pussy like it was his only meal of the day, took me out whenever and wherever I wanted, got me whatever I wanted, & genuinely “cared” about me, and my dumbass stayed with him despite a ton of other red flags. He turned out to me a liar and a cheater. The amount of lies he told was disgusting, he was so far up in his own lies that when I would call him out he would play the victim and threaten to lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:26 PM
8

Maybe wait until the new year to reconnect? He’s grieving and that might create a codependent relationship/he might use you as a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:13 PM
16

Yes sadly it’s not :( I’ve only met one short guy who was secure in his height. A long time ago I met with extremely extremely wealthy man online. He told me he was 5’4. I’m around 5’1 and I told him that. I show up and he’s shorter than me lol. He was just strange overall, clearly his professional and financial success didn’t compensate for his height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:46 PM
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I found that a short guy is either extremely insecure and is just a walking red flag, or is so secure in himself because he knows he has other things to offer than his height. The latter is a huge turn on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:34 PM
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I agree. You should never see yourself as in competition with another woman for a man. OP, just because your date didn’t look at a younger woman doesn’t mean you “won a competition”, it means your date wasn’t an asshole who would stare at other women on a date. Stop pitting yourself against other women, especially when it comes to men. If a man leaves you for another woman, you didn’t “lose a competition”, you lost a sad piece of shit man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:32 PM
3

Keep your guard up. Treat it as a date with a friend. Maybe ask again about what he’s looking for and if he says nothing serious, then he’s not a match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:26 PM
7

If you have nothing else to do, go on the date and chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:13 PM
34

Hahahah I love when people post screenshots. I wouldn’t reply anything. Thanks for posting, this made my morning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:41 AM
2

Good luck! Sounds like he’s a good one :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:49 PM
9

If I learned anything from relationships is that you have to stand your ground regarding your personal values. We’re taught and conditioned to giggle and to downplay situations — break the cycle. If you say it in a teasing way, he’ll respond in a teasing way. You could be nice about it and say that exact sentence but not necessarily tease him about it. If you being nice will come off to him as you telling him what to do - he’s not the one. But if he’s as great as you’re telling us, he should rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:37 PM
8

There’s a difference between having respect and being a mammas boy. It took me a while to realize that. A mommas boy will tell her your relationship problems and cry to her and have her take his side, a regular guy won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:08 PM
18

I hope they take this seriously..... knowing some churches they don’t give a fuck :( send this to your grandma and other people who attend the church as well. Best of luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:59 PM
11

I agree with your last sentence. I think that’s a good way of putting it. If he hides them by then, bring it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:56 PM
2

I edited and added ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:34 PM
31

HHAHAHAHAHA WHAT to your second paragraph!! Oh my gosh!!!!! So rude!! Please tell me you never saw him again!! He could’ve just said “just for my meal, thanks” without the second part. Just pay, don’t say anything, and leave. I would’ve said “you didn’t have to be an asshole about it” before leaving. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:29 PM
21

Most situations I have been in, the guy whipped out his wallet extremely fast and paid. Also, not sure where you’re from and if this happens in your country, but where I live waiters ask if we want one bill or two bills. If the guy says one, I sit back and relax, I don’t say anything. If he says two, then I pay my bill and never see him again. However let’s say a waiter assumes we’re a couple and brings one bill. sometimes I reach for my wallet, sometimes I don’t. It really depends on my mood. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:28 PM
10

If you think he’s gonna message you again and harass you or whatever, block him. If he disrespected you, block him. If youre uninterested and you think it’s just a one time thing, just delete the text thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:19 PM
35

Context: young 20s Aside from the obvious (liars, players, racist, sexist, hates feminism, etc): -much older men -guys who downplay my career when I probably make more than him (this could actually be very subtle and you don’t realize it’s happening unless you’re looking for it) -guys who only talk about their careers -someone who doesn’t like exploring and just wants to sit at home or Netflix and chill -doesn’t have bachelor degree -doesn’t pay on dates -doesn’t take care of appearance -GUYS WH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:16 PM
35

I personally suffer from depression so I am not discriminating when I say that it’s better to leave him be. Dating someone who is not mentally healthy will lead to a codependent relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:04 PM
15

Is he in therapy? If not, no. If yes, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:56 PM
33

Carrie cheating on Aiden ruined the show for me. That was pretty low. The amount she jumped through hoops for Big was disgusting and sad. Not sure how that affected the shows number of views, but I think they could’ve had a better storyline with Aiden or even another man instead of Big. This storyline pretty much teaches people to forgive a man for years and years and then finally he’ll marry you and move in with you. Gross. I thought when he left her at the altar that would’ve been the end, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:35 AM
4

Yeah, he could’ve at least started a conversation before asking her out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:26 AM
7

This is true. Although this message is somewhat respectful, some dudes treat LinkedIn like tinder and it’s disgusting. If this guy was smart he would’ve asked OP for her Facebook or even Instagram account, another social media account to make a move on her. She could easily send this to his boss saying “don’t let this employee go to networking events since he clearly can’t keep it in his pants”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:25 AM
12

That’s the worst! I swear some people just get off to trapping employees where they can’t say “fuck you” or something like that cause they’re at work. Once when I was working retail this guy asked for my number and I said that I can give him our store number or corporate number if he had any questions, and he told me to fuck off (in front of my manager lmfao) and that “usually other girls around the mall like it when I ask them, you don’t have to be so rude”. I swear these type of people power t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:21 AM
3

Aw glad I can help. Don’t lose a good thing and pressure him in. Valentines Day is right around the corner so maybe it will come around February!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:14 AM
25

Hahahaha this would actually be a valid response. Something along the lines of “hi! Can you remind me which event? I attend so much I simply cannot remember”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:23 PM
10

If it’s from OLD, maybe they found someone else or are just not interested anymore. Once I made plans with someone for a Friday and he told me last minute that he forgot that he had made plans with his boys that evening...... right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:35 PM
10

My parents didn’t really talk about relationships with me so my upbringing didn’t necessarily influence my decisions. However, what did influence my dating life was that for my parents and family, the only type of abuse was physical and maybe name-calling. When I got my first boyfriend as an adult (meaning after my dumb high school flings), my dad would ask me if he hits me or if he was mean to me. My boyfriend seemed like a godsend, he put me on a pedestal, he was never rude to me. And my dad w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:30 PM
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