Let’s speak plainly. “Husband material” = I will NOT fuck you unless we are committed or you have shown me more of your provider qualities.

LightGlows · 2021-09-24T16:38:14+00:00

I think being called husband material when you are not being fucked by said woman is insulting

Being called husband material by a woman you are being fucked by is a compliment

Women here are thinking of the latter, men are thinking of the former

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-09-24T16:34:31+00:00

Well it goes back to two things I always say on here, number one guys should focus more on being the kind of guy that women want to fuck as opposed to the "you're going to make somebody really happy one day"/"husband material" guy, that way you can potentially get the best of both worlds

And to do the same thing in terms of life , I've always said if my lady doesn't want to be both my lady and my whore, then there's really no need to keep her around

And I do agree with a some of this, there's some guys that are genuinely both but just seeing a good bit of social observation and Common Sense, everybody wants to be desired and it doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't attractive but if you find out your wife or significant other doesn't LUST For You the same way that she did for somebody else from her past, I can imagine that don't feel great, I didn't watch that show sex / life but I got the general premise and I've seen that Dynamic play out in real life enough times to know it's a real thing , more than some people are willing to admit

poppy_blu · 2021-09-24T19:28:21+00:00

I think the issue is this:

We acknowledge when you’re a dude struggling with women and someone says to you “don’t worry, you’ll make a good husband someday,” it’s an unintended insult.

Not because good husband material is a bad thing. Because what they mean but aren’t saying is you’re so unattractive to women that your only hope is to get a wife who will settle for you in exchange for support.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-09-24T22:23:46+00:00

If anything the fact that women fuck men who they don't see as husband material would suggest that husband material is a one way ticket to blue balls.

Karmanger · 2021-09-24T19:52:44+00:00

A man who is a FWB or fuck buddy has an easier time of gaining a relationship and jumps through less hoops (no 30 day or 3 month wait) with said women than a man she calls Husband material (normally has the 3 month rule applied to him).

Also I don't know about you guys but the women that always claim a guy is husband material is always the women who doesn't want to date that guy.

jbo99 · 2021-09-24T19:29:55+00:00

Yeah I mean I think women can mean different things with stuff. What I know for sure is if a man is obvious casual sex / typically masculine and sexy AND husband material women lose their minds and will do whatever it takes to lock him down. I think men need to focus on being both

neetykeeno · 2021-09-24T23:03:24+00:00

Generally if a guy truly is at the point of having become husband material he is going to not accept first date sex anyway. That's part of fitting that description....sexual but not overly sexually needy and with a strong sense of future and what is and isn't a good idea. He isn't going to accept some strange woman's mouth round his dick because the women who do that are often trouble on multiple levels. No matter how hot the idea is it is unwise. And husband material is above all, wise.

Seems to me a lot of the guys who complain about the thought of being described as husband material aren't actually husband material. Sorry you got mistaken as such and it upset you. You don't have to feel obliged to fit any of the categories of man who women will have sex with. I mean obviously you aren't going to get sex unless you do but that's not the end of the world.

IcarusKiki · 2021-09-25T01:32:08+00:00

No. It means "I won't fuck you period so please don't try anything and embarrass me". It's pretty much a nice womanese way of calling a guy a beta.

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-09-24T22:49:21+00:00

For the modern guy, if you are "husband material", it just means you need to be prepared to break up over sex, and continuously do so until you find your "wife material".

You need to be wary that women now have trouble maintaining interest in the one guy.

So, after the "NRE" phase of the relationship (1-2 years), if they lose interest in sex just break up because it's far easier and better to find someone who doesn't have this problem.

This is the modern problem for guys and marriage.

gojo_satarou · 2021-09-25T05:11:43+00:00

Husband materials are those Men who are simps and beta males and who are bluepilled af.

They orbit around women, becoming an emotional tampon to them and get friendzoned and are spineless.

razormachine · 2021-09-24T18:04:18+00:00

Woman which are "wife material" do not go around screwing fuckboys, and this solves the entire problem, simply do not marry women which are not "wife material" and you do not have to "pay" for something she was giving away for free.

Woman - You are a husband material.
Man - Well sadly you are not a wife material. *goes away

md8716 · 2021-09-24T16:30:47+00:00

Whether a girl is turned on by you enough to immediately want to have sex with you is independent of your perceived fitness as a husband.

Hell, my wife was very strongly physically attracted to me at first, but then she learned about my husband potential later on, which put her over the moon.

StereoFood · 2021-09-24T17:09:34+00:00

Omg I totally understand now.

Basically, the girl may put out for the fuck boi because she knows he won’t commit so she’s getting sex while she can.

If she doesn’t put out for the “husband material” it’s Basically saying that there’s a chance he’ll stick around because he’s not as desired as the guy she knew wouldn’t stick around.

This isn’t always the case but I think there’s truth to what im saying and that’s why some “husband material” people are offended

Wildhouse83 · 2021-09-24T17:47:37+00:00

Husband material = Not attractive but dumb enough to provide resources, stability, emotional support etc. Sex may only occur on a transactional basis and will decline in frequency but rise in cost after marriage. Basically used to control the guy. Divorce very likely, just like cheating. Risk of paternity fraud increased.

goneaway2thewind · 2021-09-24T18:55:34+00:00

Yes pussy is their leverage

The guy either gets a lot of it, so they try to get him addicted to hers exclusively. AF

Or the guy doesn’t get much, so they get him locked in through “commitment” upfront. BB

Husband material, is the Beta Bux, meaning he has potential to be squeezed for value through commitment for the long term.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-09-25T00:20:15+00:00

"Husband traits" are irrelevant. There are plenty of ain't shit men that are husband material, but unattainable by (men's arguments) because of reluctance to commit, speaking to a redundancy on the uninteresting fixation on 'husband traits' alluding to some sexually undesirable man.

It is simple to marry, and free to fuck a woman's senses out. Those that have no opportunity to fuck women are not any objectively interesting form of husband material than the "fuck boi" but instead a last option relative to what is attainable.

Women's (physiological) desire to bare children and (socialized) desire to marry very well may be stronger than the desire for a 'good beta man, the fuck boi/alpha man' or to be his "wife". Telling that 'beta and alpha traits' (by popular definition) afforded no significant protection against divorce initiation and long-term desire to be 'wifed' by a husband of any universal set of traits.

greyman0425 · 2021-09-28T21:07:34+00:00

Husband material = wallet and free labor. Make no mistake about that.

ashpr0ulx · 2021-09-24T16:19:06+00:00

plenty of us want husbands we enjoy fucking. shit, that’s like half of why i want a husband- good dick on tap.

63daddy · 2021-09-24T16:28:54+00:00

Men are seen as providers. Sex is often used as a means to secure some sort of provision from a guy. This can be short run such as a prostitute or sugar baby or it can be in hopes of securing marriage and the long term providing that comes with triage and divorce.

EstablishmentKooky50 · 2021-09-24T20:34:47+00:00

If i wouldn't fuck the girl - I've later married - early on, she would have ditched me, thinking that something is off with me or i don't find her attractive enough. All of my exes wanted to be sexual with me very early on and many of them were from different cultural background. They always initiated, and I've never pushed for it.

Any time i wanted to slow things down or turned her down, that was the end of things and i was ghosted the next day.

Women are just as sexual as men, given that you are the right man.

Having sex early on shows nothing negative about being a husband/wife material, but it indicates the presence or lack of desire, without which no one is LTR material.

Insidious-Sid · 2021-09-24T21:05:54+00:00

Thank god I am not husband material.

Willing to get into a "sex for resources" deal where only I am held to account LEGALLY for my end of the bargain.
Seen as an employee at "Relationship Inc." where she is boss and CEO.
Seen as an ATM and chore-boy.
Being told what I am "allowed" to do, or who I can spend time with.
Asking "permission" to buy tools or a new golf club. (FUCK THAT SHIT!!)

If I ever want sex again, I'll pay by the hour. It's the single least expensive (and annoying) way to scratch the itch.

Moving a woman into the house? Patently bad idea.

DeliciousPussyNectar · 2021-09-24T23:21:54+00:00

Husband material = beta

tiposk · 2021-09-24T16:20:36+00:00

I couldn't care less about providership or your boring-ass office job, but you need to have something else going on for me to tolerate you outside the bedroom. That's what husband material means to me. I want to fuck both, but don't want the fuckboy around for non-sexual activities. It's not my problem if some men think this is offensive. They're free to stick to casual sex or avoid ltrs.

You have a specific definition of husband material that implies lack of attraction. There's not much we can say to change your view. You already convinced yourself that the hubby is the guy women settle for.

sosayeth · 2021-09-24T17:04:13+00:00

How men think: "wifey" == I want to fuck you senseless every morning and night + you have qualities I desire in a wife

Both are necessary to be "wifey"

How women think:

"husband" == you have qualities I desire in a husband
"attractive" == I want to fuck Chris Hemsworth senseless every morning and night

Two distinct characteristics and both are almost never experienced by most women at the same time.

Barneysparky · 2021-09-24T16:06:46+00:00

How many wife material women give blow jobs to strangers the first time they meet?

sine120 · 2021-09-24T16:25:00+00:00

If you're quality husband material, you're talking to a woman who's interested in those qualities, and she's "wife material" enough for you to be having that conversation, even though she won't give up sex immediately, it's an equitable match. There's tremendous value to having husband material qualities if you're interested in monogamy, it means you can secure a woman who'd make a good partner. I could have messed around with lower value women and had slightly more sex in college, but now I probably get way more and better sex, have a good partner and way more money, because I was husband material. Sell your goods to the right buyer and it's a good investment.

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-09-24T16:17:28+00:00

I'm more husband material than fuckboy and I've had blowjobs without even saying hello.

Husband material doesn't mean boring or bland, it means long term traits like stable, good job, is good to me.

Its very possible for guys to be both, and those are the guys who women really want to marry.

You can have a good job and smack her ass.

WretchdFlesh_Redeemd · 2021-09-24T18:52:54+00:00

You can have alpha qualities and still be “husband material”.

Why are you making this distinction like it’s a set in stone black and white issue?

ffandyy · 2021-09-24T21:45:38+00:00

Jesus literally everything is about sex with you guys.

gojo_satarou · 2021-09-25T05:15:25+00:00

Equivalent of guys who wanna have fun and sex with those hot and sexy girls and then settle for an average looking girl and calling them a "wife material".

Husband/wife material if said by the opposite sex to you, when you aren't fucking them is an insult.

Your girlfriend's gotta ask you after fucking : "babe when are you gonna wife me?" That's when you're a husband material, not when your crush is getting railed by a Chad and you're giving her advice.

BoogersAndSugar · 2021-09-25T11:28:52+00:00

Gotta screen out the settlers. If she doesn't find you hot enough for something casual, she absolutely cannot be trusted for something serious! Settling is the main culprit behind so many relationship problems - high divorce risk, dead bedrooms, entitled attitudes, excessive demands, relentless "shit-testing", resentment, etc, etc. Yeah, she might be out of your league. Yeah, she'll fuck you (grudgingly, and only after jumping through enough hoops). But she'll give you years of misery before she finally cleans you out in divorce court. It's far, FAR better to be with a plain looking 40 year old whose actually into you than some settling ass bimbo.

superlurkage · 2021-09-24T16:37:49+00:00

Plenty of people fuck early and marry, what delusion is this? We’re not in Saudi. Also, women work n shit, which is the real reason why we’re not marrying and dating as much — the decline of providership

lemon-fiend · 2021-09-24T16:16:54+00:00

Do the men here really believe that there’s NOTHING more to marriages except sex? Cause that’s what it seems like

lingualistic · 2021-09-24T19:34:31+00:00

It's so funny dudes think we actually think men we don't want to fuck are husband material. I make enough money to support myself just fine. I do want a man with some level of ambition/drive and success, because that's attractive and interesting. I have ambition/drive and success, and I want a likeminded person.

But IDGAF if you're the CEO of a major corporation making millions, if I'm not willing and actually kinda excited to suck your dick on the daily (with reciprocation, of course) you ain't husband material.

Has to be both. One or the other is not acceptable.

I would never have sex with a man I'm not attracted to, let alone sign up for a lifetime of regular sex with him. I would never enter into a marriage and then refuse sex except once a month duty sex or some such shit. I love sex with a loving partner that I'm attracted to and it's a huge part of the requirement to become "husband."

Believe me, if I called a dude "husband material," it's because he's a good person, with compatible values, hardworking, educated, etc--- that I wouldn't mind sitting on his dick every day to few days the rest of my life, and in fact would enthusiastically enjoy it. Anything less and you're setting yourself up for failure, and I think young women nowadays are aware of this.

0ne0s1x · 2021-09-24T17:38:22+00:00

I won’t fuck anyone unless we are committed. I’m not sexually interested in anyone who isn’t “husband material”

michael1962-01 · 2021-09-24T19:05:20+00:00

All women want to change Chad into husband material.

..... :)

Will nevet happen...

wtknight · 2021-09-24T19:07:47+00:00

Women often don’t have sex right away with “husband material” men because they don’t want to be pumped and dumped, not because they don’t sexually desire these men. Sometimes the guy is an actual beta with few to no attractive qualities, but most of the time she’s just as attracted to him.

The problem is that most men don’t like waiting for sex knowing that other men didn’t have to. Some men probably won’t mind if they’re having sex with other women on the side, so her hope is that she meets a guy like this. Otherwise, she’ll have to keep her casual sex history secret and hope that he doesn’t find out or suspect it.

But in short, making a man wait and saying he is husband material is often just a pump and dump defense, and not indicative of a lack of desire, although it’s possible that the sexy part of her does desire the guy who she has first night sex with more, but she knows that this guy just isn’t compatible with her.

ilovepetya · 2021-09-24T20:28:17+00:00

If a woman ever calls me husband material I will dump her on the spot. I have no time for women who don't actually love me and want me to be their provider instead.

Cuntwaffe2 · 2021-09-24T16:53:42+00:00

I don't do casual sex, but: If I see a guy who might be husband material, I might wait awhile to see if he is, while trying to portray myself as wife material. I may want to fuck him immediately, but if I do, there is a chance he will not see me as such(or never did).

If I see a guy who ain't shit, I'd get that bread, get that head, then leave. What he wants doesn't matter to me.

pink-summer-sky · 2021-09-24T16:37:08+00:00

Y'all are so delusional here, lol. Husband material to woman is the whole package ... handsome, incredible, sexy, successful. Just because wife material to men means some asexual woman who will cook, clean, and birth your children does not mean it's equivalent to women in the same way. Husband material is goals, and 90% of you all are not even close.

quiturbitchn · 2021-09-24T16:28:26+00:00

Nope for me it means you have fuckability plus everything I look for in a LTR. If you don’t pass fuckability you’re neither fwb nor husband material. Why exactly would someone not want an attractive husband?

Mimoxs · 2021-09-24T17:18:25+00:00

How many husband material men have day 1 blow jobs or back seat car sex?

Lot of em. How do y'all always forget men can have good "provider" qualities and be hot... It's like you guys split dudes into a weird binary where they're either hot and horrible or ugly and good. A guy can be a good guy and have attractive features and be fun etc.

Also backseat car sex is very much more a LTR thing than a dating or fwb thing. Like... What

Rosifer433d · 2021-09-24T18:47:19+00:00

I don't get it. Why do you lot make it seem like a husband isn't fuckable? It's not that hard for a guy to be fuckable by a large percentage of (attractive) women. Work on yourself. Have a job. Your own place. Don't be overweight. Take care of your teeth and skin and hairline as much as possible.

Have some basic social skills. Go out. meet women. You will come across women who will fuck you. They will probably not fuck you as soon as they lay lies on you but so what? It's not real attraction if you aren't having casual sex within the second of being introduced to her/approached her?

toasterchild · 2021-09-24T21:11:30+00:00

Another post showing the men hear have no idea what gets guys laid. Sure being hot will get you more swipes on dating aps but once you got the date you need some social skills and moves to get sex faster. So many men are totally obtuse, they have no idea how to get sex on the table and even when it's on the table they don't even notice.

YveisGrey · 2021-09-24T17:14:03+00:00

"How many husband material men have day 1 blow jobs or back seat car sex? "

Lol what? How many ever get that at all? This is a ridiculous barometer for the most part having sex right away is something that people on drugs or under the influence of alcohol do. I am so tired of this narrative that some man out there has some elusive quality that makes women jump his bones one sight. Seriously y'all it's called drugs and alcohol if you aren't in the party scene and you don't get down like that it's highly unlikely anything like this will ever happen to you. Stop giving this more credit than it deserves. And yes those men aren't husband material but neither are the women they deal with "wife material" it is what it is.

Flat_Plane_V8 · 2021-09-24T16:29:40+00:00

This is why I say to men in the West AND this goes for women too....DONOT become edgy atheists, in your late teens only to find a desert of insanity, inter-gender relationship wise...I was that guy, who became atheist because I was too lazy to research the contra-points to New Atheism when it was blowing up end of 2006 and early 2007 on youtube (The God Delusion docu)....In the end , what I got was probably a dozen make out sessions in clubs, and three GFs out of which only one was sane (and virgin and still my best friend)....I was saved from inceldom because of my height and normie face and hair (women on PPD have seen and rated my pics)....but now at age 36, and again single from the last gf (multiple issues, could never really recover from her abortion and being cheated upon by her first bf with his ex) I think my life is pathetic because of no wife and kids...and most of the guys in the church I was part of have sons who are entering teens now.....This I say to the really young ones here (man or woman doesnot matter), stay in your religious group...observe sexual purity (including no porn), and do intensive study why the case for God or a Spiritual Reality makes sense....you can of course find your flavour of spirituality after that....If you are into New Age, at least go the extra mile and commit to the sexual discipline of Hardcore Buddhism or Hinduism and not get stuck in airy-fairy land...live this life for a few years and you will know and be spiritually equipped to find a person suitable for you , and no a Chad or a single-mom won't be able to use you when you have a semblance of spiritual power and spiritually equipped...I have seen many good-looking Handsome 6'3" men from Church who just committed to Stacy at the altar at age 21 even though each one of them could have run through busload of women......As for me I have started reforming myself, so that I donot attract women who are fundamentally out-of-balance at the moment......If I find somebody by next year, whom I truly confident of being my life partner (past history taken into consideration) I will think longterm and children....else if I see my project has come to a naught by 37th birthday, I am going for Hardcore Buddhist lay celibacy at this point....with the intention of ordaining as a monk when I retire

Dagenius1 · 2021-09-24T17:35:04+00:00

Well..I’m happy that there seems to be a bit more honesty on both sides in this rehashed topic as opposed to the first time.

houstongradengineer · 2021-09-24T18:38:07+00:00

When are men going to realize that us wanting to sleep with you has NOTHING to do with you being hot or special, unless being a husband material is a necessary factor for all sex. Casual sex is about convenience and discretion for us (maybe also your oral skills), it's not about some guy's dick being super hot and validated. Get over yourselves.

Crook56 · 2021-09-24T18:40:06+00:00

Tip: it’s not casual sex if you’re seeking validation.

WretchdFlesh_Redeemd · 2021-09-24T18:59:41+00:00

Also, self respecting “husband material” go for “wife material” women and “wife material females don’t suck you off first date or have sex with you until they love you.

My 2 cents.

DXBrigade · 2021-09-24T19:17:39+00:00

No "Husband masterial" is a guy who has it all whether it's looks, status and personnality.

Rosifer433d · 2021-09-24T19:42:20+00:00

My mother approached my father and asked him out. According to my dad she was the one who initiated the sex and they both say I was conceived in the backseat of my dad's car.

My mom's a former fashion model, so I'm pretty sure she had quality options in men, but she still liked my dad, who is nothing special to look at. 5'10'' at 170lbs with a flat stomach, which means that he is skinny, and he was skinnier still back then when he was young, from the videos and videos I've seen of the both of them.

He was working part-time while spending most of his time surfing at Santa Monica beach, so no, dad wasn't and isn't beta buxxxxxxxx omgggg.

My parents have been happily married to each other for longer than most red pillers have been alive for.

Women, attractive women, will fuck husband material men quickly if they are attracted to them. The problem is that red pillers aren't fuckboy material and they are certainly not husband material, as they are as mentally and as emotionally developed as a feral adult who was raised by wolves.

Bottom line is, red pillers are out of luck, as women don't want them for long-term relationships, and why would a woman fuck a red piller when there's lots of good-looking men around? LA. Milan. Rome. Florence. Paris. Barcelona. Sydney. Rio De Janero. The world's filled with hot dudes. Why tf would someone have sex with a loser who needs to go to a gym to lift for any woman to notice him.

Ok_Butterscotch1996 · 2021-09-26T15:56:11+00:00

So many dumbasses here!!! I THIS IS WHAT I MEAN WHEN I CALL A MAN ‘HUSBAND MATERIAL’:

No you dumbass, it means you’re not an ahole Chad you will use our bodies as a disposable item and then run off into the subset. When I call you husband material, I’m telling you I think you’re someone genuine who really cares about the finer things in life like feelings and emotions and quality time with someone, growing old together.

plplokokplok · 2021-09-24T16:39:58+00:00

I'm what most girls value as "husband material". That has never stopped me from having sex with a girl who felt that way about me. If anything we had more sex more often. Early in the relationship too.

DerekMorganBAU · 2021-09-24T16:14:10+00:00

You’re saying it always results in the guy having to wait for sex?

Anantha1996 · 2021-09-24T16:28:20+00:00

To be fair a lot of the "husband material" guys are looking for commitment like "wife material" girls. It's the people who indulge in casual stuff that don't qualify as either that would have an issue being characterized as such.

I mean a lot of the husband material guys would be looking exclusively for wife material girls. Wife material girls don't put out early regardless of their partner so it doesn't affect anything. Those guys don't mind waiting for sex provided they think the girl hasn't been more enthusiastic with other partners.

jetpilot87 · 2021-09-24T17:09:56+00:00

I agree with comments that point out the solution is to have traits of both, leading to win-win for everyone. Then, the benefit of having some provider qualities is you could really lock down that girl you connect with physically and sexually as well. While I agree "choreplay" isn't really going to turn a woman on the way we want, and just being a good provider isn't enough, its overly simplistic to say being a good husband can't ever turn a women on sexually. I think it can really complement a great sex life. Also, just accept that physical attraction is important to both genders.

SpanishM · 2021-09-24T17:24:02+00:00

You can say "husband/wife material" for different reasons. People have very different views and speak in different ways. Given the lack of context, we can't tell what it really means.

Saying that it always means "A" and not "B" is a projection of your own thoughts.

HarryLillis · 2021-09-24T17:48:33+00:00

Nah, when they call you husband material that's when you dick them like your wife. You have to be chill, though, and if you're an American white fellow you are most likely not, since our culture is inferior to most other cultures. Experience some cultural exchange, even if you can't travel, get a beginner's mind mentality and talk to foreigners online.

SaBahRub · 2021-09-24T16:33:54+00:00

I suppose love and affection doesn’t exist in your world, or is at least worthless compared to an NSA BJ, threesome or anal

That’s fine, but it’s a little arrogant to think that men all think like you

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-24T16:17:12+00:00

Look it's the same as the sweet and innocent girl that every guy wants to protect and bring flowers to and treat like a queen while in actuality she wants be tied up, gagged, and banged by five different guys. If you are projecting an image that is not making women want to hop in bed with you, the problem is with you not them. What is so fucking hard to understand?

Sharp_Slide6806 · 2021-09-24T18:22:42+00:00

Being called “husband material” is justification from the woman for having to settle with a man they aren’t that physically, mentally and sexually attracted to. As a male, you certainly want to be a husband and procreate with an attractive female mate - but without being classified as “husband material”.

“Husband material” is simply a euphemism for “he’s the only guy that would pick me in the end so I better pony up and live with it”.

Ideally, the optimized male is more like a viking raider or some type of warrior figure (intellectually or physically) that will protect his woman and impregnate her many times because she’s begging for it, but he’s definitely not “husband material” , yet he does fulfill that role, if that makes sense.

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WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-09-24T18:37:56+00:00

It can be this, but it's partially means that she wants you to respect her.

Willow-girl · 2021-09-24T18:49:34+00:00

No, "husband material" means I'll become a shameless pickmeisha in hopes of winning your love, lol.

Aimeekins · 2021-09-24T20:10:43+00:00

Ahh, I feel precisely like this.

Baelinator · 2021-09-24T21:05:42+00:00

Relevant clip: Here

LittlePurr76 · 2021-09-25T00:18:23+00:00

This is why I don't subscribe to FDS. Husband material means emotionally supportive, and willing to kindly tell me when I'm in need of compromise. A man who's looking for a life partner, not a silent accessory or a trophy.

Which is why my legal single status is on a timer...we both agree that, after a year of living together with more peace than argument, it's appropriate to move forward.

FabulousFuchsbau · 2021-09-25T14:47:38+00:00

Husband material just means you’re not a fuckboy or player, they’re not a reliable relationship option and would be a terrible role model for children.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-09-26T10:37:16+00:00

When a woman says "you are husband material" what she's stating is "you are equal to me (or below), I can make you stick around, I know you won't go away if you don't get sex and even if you do I'm not losing anything because your sex is not good enough and I don't find you sexually arousing enough to make up for the lack of other better qualities."

Title	Let’s speak plainly. “Husband material” = I will NOT fuck you unless we are committed or you have shown me more of your provider qualities.
Author	DerekMorganBAU
Upvotes	249
Comments	657
Date	September 24, 2021 4:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/pumsjl/lets_speak_plainly_husband_material_i_will_not/
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