jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???

SakuraGirl88 · 2021-04-10T02:40:56+00:00

That's a lot of words for "I just want free pussy".

shinyjewels · 2021-04-10T02:03:40+00:00

Lmao imagine being a 27yo Holden Caulfield

Shinygoldendragonfly · 2021-04-10T01:42:54+00:00

Oh no ,the struggles of this poor man🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. The last line hit me hard, how could society be so cruel. He can't even enjoy the dating experience he missed out on in his teens.

West-Cook · 2021-04-10T03:02:17+00:00

Isn’t that the point of dating??? Job interviews for partnership? That’s what I was always taught dating should be.

spiderunderweb · 2021-04-10T01:59:44+00:00

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randomgirlimok · 2021-04-10T01:44:11+00:00

You’re 27, not 17. Sorry too late

Spiritual_Cockroach · 2021-04-10T01:49:44+00:00

Why can't I just get access to women's bodies for free without putting in any effort to be a decent person or suitor?! Why won't women just wet muh peepee for nothing in return it's not fair!11!! 🤡

electroloop · 2021-04-10T01:40:51+00:00

This guy is 27! Most women in your appropriate age range have their shit together and are absolutely looking for high quality partners they can eventually call their husbands.

Women treat dating like an interview because we have so much to offer and so much to lose at the same time. If he really wanted to have a “care free dating experience”, why did he choose to pursue this in his late 20s? As women collectively, we also want to avoid you, too.

fancypantsdance92 · 2021-04-10T03:17:40+00:00

He should stay single.

In Australia, common law dictates that property amongst other things is split in a break up after a mere 6 months of cohabitation. Not like any woman wants to take his 2 plates and outdated PlayStation anyway but I suppose it must be a real fear for some of them 🙄

witchingsauce · 2021-04-10T03:00:18+00:00

Another Peter Pan wannabe. Also, doesn’t tinder exist?

Novemberinthechair · 2021-04-10T02:10:45+00:00

Oh no! Women my age have standards! I can't believe I'm expected to bring something to the table now :(( My poor peepee!

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-04-10T03:35:53+00:00

In other words, “waaaaah! I want sex without commitment, and I have no interest in the women I’m actually dating. I’d waste their time using them for sex and offering nothing in return with regard to love, compassion, commitment, or romance. And I sure as hell am not interested in giving her an orgasm, so she wouldn’t even get to enjoy that. Waaaaah! Why won’t women let me use them at the expense of their time?! I’m a viCtiM of MiSaNdRy somehow.” 🤡

islandmaiden · 2021-04-10T01:59:28+00:00

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bizzybumblebee · 2021-04-10T04:04:53+00:00

spoken like a true incel. guess what? these women want to avoid you too LOL

AnniaT · 2021-04-10T04:06:15+00:00

Stay mad scrotes, we have standards and choose the best partner for us. Want carefree dating? Go to places and websites where women are also looking for fwb and casual sex/dating. But that's not as fun as making us waste our time and try to have sex with relationship or marriage minded women as quick as possible, right?

Muffcakelord · 2021-04-10T01:49:23+00:00

"That everyone else got to experience" bro what

pikkpie · 2021-04-10T02:15:56+00:00

What is youthful style of dating anyway? I am 19 and I intend to never give "youthful" dating a chance. Like, it's just a waste of time. Young men my age expect to have sex and benefits of a girlfriend without giving anything in return other than cheap coffee dates.

purasangria · 2021-04-10T02:30:39+00:00

"I just want to experience the casual, carefree dating..."

Translation: I just want to have casual sex with lots of women who have zero expectations of me."

"I just want...more of a 'let's see where it goes' kind of deal."

Translation: I just want to waste women's time, and lead her to believe that I want a relationship so I can get sex when I want it, but not have an actual "commitment" to anything.

Still want to play, ladies? 🤡🤡🤡

Edit: The issue with men -- of all ages, it seems -- is that women want a relationship, and men don't. The men want sex, and that's it. If it feels like an interview to him, it's because we are trying to weed out the 99% of men who are intending to use us as fleshlights, because we don't want to spend time with men like that. There is a total mismatch between what men want and what women want. We've learned it's not worth trying to give them what they want at the expense of our self-esteem. We know we're worth an actual commitment, and actual effort. And if we can't get that, then why try?

Stuffnthings1840 · 2021-04-10T05:59:43+00:00

It was never carefree for us. One late period and shit was real.

jargon_explosion · 2021-04-10T03:43:58+00:00

I have never experienced carefree dating. That sounds like elementary school stuff when you don't actually understand what dating even is, you just have a girlfriend or boyfriend you hold hands with.

He probably means hookups though let's be honest.

Platipus6 · 2021-04-10T01:42:38+00:00

Build a time machine, go back in time, and don't be a fuckup 🤷‍♀️

2021-04-10T03:55:20+00:00

Carefree dating? Spread the STD around?

Entitled 🤡

Don't date then.

You'll do us all a favor

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-04-10T02:37:23+00:00

"I want hookups only"

Could've saved himself that scrotes alphabet soup

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-04-10T03:19:10+00:00

lmao This is gold class comedy! So rich! Exquisite!

Can I still have no strings attached sex, use women as a cumdump, and think about signing up to a full time bandmaid to look after me later? Coz if not - No Fairseys! I'll show them! I'll remove myself from the dating pool and these women who want more than mediocre ONS will be SOooRrY !

bahahaha. what a legend. so funny

Meccha_me_2 · 2021-04-10T02:17:30+00:00

What’s funny is he’s totally missing the point. We’re not asking these questions to qualify you as a potential husband, we’re asking them to weed you out as soon as possible you absolute knob.

All high value people that I know have busy lives and dealbreakers. It’s better for busy people to know about incompatibilities up front so they don’t waste valuable time dating someone like this guy. We don’t have time for this casual carefree bullshit.

Don’t want to ever get married? Incompatible? Want kids? We’re incompatible. In massive debt? Wont happen, I have none.

eveloe · 2021-04-10T06:08:49+00:00

Let me know you’re ugly without saying you’re ugly.

“That everyone else got to experience”? Only hot guys get to experience women throwing themselves at them, when will these dudes learn??

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-10T01:49:41+00:00

Quarter life crisis

carlther · 2021-04-10T02:11:33+00:00

It's really funny that he complains about this; I have been on SO many dates that have felt like an interview. I gauge their intelligence through conversation, scrotes will just ask "are you smart?" I think it's ironic that they believe that I have something to prove to THEM. This guy probably doesn't even know what an interview looks like, I'm guessing he doesn't even have a job.

working-girl- · 2021-04-10T03:11:15+00:00

“I want to not have to offer anything and I am not okay with women not being okay with this” - why would a woman waste type with a stupid ass man like this ? Like what’s the point ?

eveloe · 2021-04-10T06:11:28+00:00

Diary of a Dusty Kid

superderpina_ · 2021-04-10T02:14:57+00:00

You‘re too old for the market of „casual dating“ bruv. Just get your life in order.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-04-10T02:31:34+00:00

Geez all this guy needs to do is state what he’s looking for straight out the gate; I hear women all the time being open to this kind of scenario.

Also, it’s another case to abandon coffee dates. If you don’t want it to feel like an interview, nay on the coffee dates!

OrangeyPanda · 2021-04-10T06:05:54+00:00

Him: I'm avoiding women who have standards

Also him: gets no dates wait- no, you were supposed to lower your standards

islandmaiden · 2021-04-10T03:44:46+00:00

Ladies, this is why we don't date men who don't have their life together—have stable finances or aiming for it, and have stable career or job they love and are committed to—because they also won't want a committed relationship and will choose for a casual relationship that don't add anything to your life whatsoever. These are relative to each other. If he doesn't put effort into his life and himself, what makes you think he'll put effort into you? Heck, some men with put-together lives don't even put effort into dating. That's why we vet for financial stability and career, because we can indirectly vet for character as well. You don't want to be stuck with a wishy-washy bum who refuses to grow up when you already have your life together at his same age. The only women he'll encounter who'd want to be in a relationship with him are also women who don't have their shit together. Huh, good luck with that.

zazaleaz · 2021-04-10T03:38:44+00:00

What would any woman get out of this arrangement he desires? The joy of his wonderful company?

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-04-10T05:40:39+00:00

He wants to hide the fact that he’s not looking for anything serious but with all the benefits of a serious relationship lol

Novemberinthechair · 2021-04-10T07:03:15+00:00

He used the word "carefree " at least three times. That's code for, "I want free prostitutes until I become emotionally vulnerable and may need a girlfriend. Until then, I just need me women to service me until I decide they need to service me in another way as a bangmaid/wifey/therapist."

A proper date? Dinner? This guy finds that fucking outrageous!!! Why should he have to worry about women's needs or expectations? Women exist to serve him.

frostedgemstone · 2021-04-10T08:37:02+00:00

Is this new or have scrotes always thought they were too good to ever commit to someone. I notice most men now refuse any form of commitment and the root cause is they think they’re better than every woman/no woman is good enough for them. They act like their options are endless when they struggle to even get one woman to give them the time of day. It’s laughable, when you think of the average man’s looks/personality/income

msinclaire · 2021-04-10T03:20:10+00:00

Lots to unpack here. I can understand not wanting the relationship to focus on money - but why can’t anyone ask? He makes it sound like it’s the most annoying question he gets, or that it’s brought up on every date. This seems like a red flag to me, like he may be unemployed or only working part time. Which is weird for 27.

“I want to avoid women who... treat dating like an interview for a potential husband” uh, what else is dating except looking for a partner? With all this talk of being “carefree”, uncommitted and “seeing where it goes”, I wondered why he didn’t just make some friends. And then it dawned on me - friends don’t come with “benefits”.

And I can’t fathom wanting to be someone’s friend with benefits at 27. Which is probably why he’s having such a hard time finding someone.

And one final thing: why wait until 27? He has “little to no experience” which means no experience dating. Suppose he started at 18 - thats 9 years. So he’s spent nine years not focusing on his career (or he could talk about it), not focusing on relationships, and given his desire to act like a teen, not focusing on himself. I feel bad for saying it, but I wouldn’t take a chance on someone like that.

AyemHerself · 2021-04-10T03:25:38+00:00

You're 27. You don't get to be carefree.

aquietsword · 2021-04-10T05:55:36+00:00

Lol the entitlement is real. Just don't date then? We won't miss you.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2021-04-10T09:31:46+00:00

He's 27, that's wedding season for most people. It's too late now to date like a teen.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-04-10T09:39:28+00:00

"Carefree, youthful style of dating". You aren't a high schooler anymore, scrotey. He just woke up from coma or what.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-04-10T05:47:57+00:00

Why doesn’t he just come out and say he’s seeking only casual sex.

hellacliterate · 2021-04-10T06:15:17+00:00

Do us all a favor and just be done, no more stress for you . (Or the women doomed to cross your path )

Bubbly-Manufacturer · 2021-04-10T01:54:26+00:00

Wtf is “casual carefree dating” ? Just be fwb.

PurpyPops · 2021-04-10T06:55:41+00:00

That's a lot of words for "I just want to be a fuckboy"

Lavender_flow · 2021-04-10T08:17:38+00:00

Hs sounds like one of those mgtow. He has never dated at age 27 but now he wants some pussy. Pathetic

ItsFreezen · 2021-04-10T11:12:12+00:00

Who Cares. Not Our Problem.

Pasdepromesses · 2021-04-10T11:27:54+00:00

‘That everyone else got to experience’.

The most privileged and entitled always feel like they’re the ones getting the shorter end of the stick.

2021-04-10T12:53:16+00:00

Dating has never been and will never be carefree for women but I guess someone forgot to roll the red carpet out for this brat.

Splatzy19 · 2021-04-10T03:09:14+00:00

Are you looking for a girlfriend or friends to go out and have fun with? Because what you may be looking for is friends to do interesting and fun things with. We have enough friends thanks.

2021-04-10T12:06:40+00:00

"Where are all the free prostitutes?", version 10,001

v0ta_p0r_m0ta · 2021-04-10T13:34:48+00:00

Our spouse is the Only family member we get to choose. Daaaamn right im gonna be interviewing mofos!😳 Dating is for Dataaa.

pretty_kill · 2021-04-10T13:20:23+00:00

Ah yes, another guy just looking to waste women’s time to satisfy his own needs. Chances are he doesn’t have his shit together and doesn’t want to work on it. He will trap some poor, probably younger girl, into being his forever girlfriend while he never works on improving his circumstances, and steals her time where she could be improving her own and finding a man who does want a life with her. And when that relationship ends in 5-10 years, he will be back on Reddit complaining about women again, because men like this don’t change, especially not if they got to 27 and still haven’t even taken a step towards getting it together.

AimiHanibal · 2021-04-10T14:17:36+00:00

He says he’s 27, but he sounds like a child

Inthefullspectrum · 2021-04-10T14:37:15+00:00

Good, avoided them. You would do everyone involved a favour.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2021-04-10T16:37:06+00:00

This is a man who gets his ideas of what dating is from teen movies and fantasies online of men saying they had crazy sexual experiences in a single night.

PrimarySupply · 2021-04-10T16:42:24+00:00

He thinks marriage is too risky but “just seeing where it goes” isn’t? lol

darkhorse8419 · 2021-04-10T18:11:57+00:00

Men are pathetic. They don’t want to look for the women who just want hook ups because he can be the only one bringing diseases to the table

Nice_Pass2393 · 2021-04-10T02:14:38+00:00

I honestly feel the same way about dating. I hate feeling like I'm being interviewed about where I live and how much I make. I just want a good time

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-04-10T12:09:18+00:00

Then write "casual dating" or smth like that in your profile dude and only swipe right when a woman has this on her profile. Swipe left if she has "serious, boyfriend, marriage, family etc..." in her profile. He just has to get over the fact that he won't have as much of a choice if he searches more specifically.

Maybe he has to grow up and not be so entitled to casual sex. And he certainly has to stop treating it like everyone had it and likes it. This is not an experience everyone must have had. He is not missing out.

Plus, he will try with "carefree 16-year olds" next. He also has to understand that this would be gross, even illegal in some places. And he has to deal with the fact that young women might not want him. He is at worst an abuser in the making, who will chase after barley adult young women and manipulate their self-esteem, just to get sex.

frenchroast67 · 2021-04-10T15:06:56+00:00

See the thing is, dates SHOULD be fun. I’ve always taken the approach that the point of going on dates is to have fun (and how much fun you have is largely contingent on if the person is friendly, generous, a good listener, etc). The reason dates feel like job interviews to him is because he perceives that women are constantly judging his worth and looking for flaws...he’s clearly extremely insecure.

2021-04-10T18:37:49+00:00

Be done, then, scrote. Stop wasting other people's time.

Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-04-10T18:50:44+00:00

Wtf is carefree dating? Don’t most of them show up looking homeless half the time already? That sounds like carefree dating to me

adalovelace1793--- · 2021-04-11T09:53:36+00:00

Boo hoo LVM!

Human_Summer_1709 · 2021-04-22T14:05:00+00:00

This is the type of guy who will turn around in 2 years and complain about all the "over the hill 29 year olds" who spent their 20's on the "cock carousel" and don't appreciate a "Nice Guy™" like him.

Title	jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???
Author	snugglebunbun
Upvotes	390
Comments	165
Date	April 9, 2021 11:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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