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SerpentCypher · 2022-04-07T07:01:43+00:00

One thing I don't get on PPD. Women will ask a question like "What are some of the things women do that men find annoying/upsetting?"

So you respond and say what you don't like and why you don't like it.

Then the woman responds with something like "OMG why are you directing this at me? I personally don't do any of this stuff so leave me alone."

And I'm just left thinking "Uhhhh, you asked the question you lunatic. Wtf."

Why are some of you like this?

Reisiluu · 2022-04-07T15:01:42+00:00

I got down voted for saying I've never been pumped and dumped lol. Someone's mad about women getting what they want. 😘

You can really infer a lot of things about this sub's users from the votes.

Kaisha001 · 2022-04-07T08:06:49+00:00

I love how in the thread: 'Regarding the post about women being “paranoid” about assault, what are things that women do in this regard that upset you?', there is page after page of well written and well though responses, going into the nuance of what both sides experience.

And the BPs/women response? We don't care, men iz bad!!

Never change PPD.

lulll · 2022-04-07T14:31:15+00:00

and once again i see another the west is in decline end times apocalypse thread lol. put your money where your mouth is and go live in a fucking survival bunker. these people are always the same, demoralized manosphere addicts who still watch pick up artist bullshit while at the same time getting their rocks off talking to other schizos about the big decline lol. holy shit some people should just not be allowed on the internet

dbz19 · 2022-04-07T10:52:17+00:00

Why is the go to insult for a woman you disagree with "slut" and "whore", whereas the go to insult for a man you disagree with "virgin" and "incel"? Its like polar opposites. How can you say both male and female N count are the same and have the same implications when what's considered the most shameful sexual status for either gender are at complete polar opposite spectrums?

-Giga- · 2022-04-07T12:34:48+00:00

The issue with this is that it's not a fair split.

I can fuck other women and still love my wife, want to be with her, support her etc.

Her version is she leaves me for another man.

How do so many men think things like this and be baffled about why women dont like them

LetsDelveIntoIt1 · 2022-04-08T05:44:43+00:00

Q4All: Rate this Capital One "Where next?" commercial guy.

For me, he's 10/10 (purely physically speaking ofc).

2022-04-08T05:41:02+00:00

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JohnDoe_Rip · 2022-04-08T04:48:10+00:00

Lmao I’m having a blast replying to people with the biggest smile on my face trying to throw shaming tactics because I stated my boundaries in my relationship.

“You’re insecure “ oh.

“You’re not that bright” nah fr? Lmao y’all can say I’m anything in the book I’m not gon argue with anybody on Reddit about my boundaries that I’ve set Cmon man be fr.

PunjabiPrettyBoi13 · 2022-04-08T04:22:01+00:00

u/FlamingCoochies- The gift that just keeps on giving.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/tyq0en/why_do_all_of_the_jerks_get_to_take_girls/

lulll · 2022-04-08T04:10:58+00:00

sonya from crime and punishment is proof literal whores are the best

YouBanAway · 2022-04-08T04:10:47+00:00

The chick on the social media harassment thread bitching about Instagram not doing enough to censor mean people is also literally unironically just blocking everyone (hmm, it's almost like this is what you should do to mean people on social media) who's arguing with her (which is rule breaking I might add). So many levels of irony and comedy to this.

cc: /u/decoy88

Orange_Paisley · 2022-04-08T03:59:53+00:00

This is Karma. Karma does not eat like a normal cat. Instead of putting her face in the bowl and eating, she dips her paw in the bowl, scoops out a pawful, and eats it. She’s a diva for sure.

https://imgur.com/a/W56igqf

AnActualPerson · 2022-04-07T05:13:29+00:00

TRP back in the day: Self improvement, women are not automatically nice or wonderful, confidence.

TRP now: Incels. Just crying Incels. Fringe crazy Incels.

What the fuck happened?

purplish_possum · 2022-04-07T05:37:41+00:00

There was a cute cop at my school the other day, not our usual one who I’m friends with. We chatted a bit he said he’d love to get to know me but nothing else too crazy

Usual cop was back today and I said that other cop was super cute, is he married? Usual goes…”well what did he tell you” I said “oh I didn’t ask yet” Usual: “well you should ask him” then changed the subject

Hmmmmmmmmmm sure seems like he’s definitley married and this usual cop isn’t trying to cockblock his buddy right?

-Giga- · 2022-04-07T09:55:10+00:00

So can anyone explain to me the blatant inconsistencies in moderation on this sub and what the formal process is to get the entire mod team on the same page

Bc I am pretty confident a review of a mod or two's bullshit actions will easily demonstrate long standing personal vendettas as they play with peoples accounts. Or do we just not even pretend to care about around here? Just so I know what to do next

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T11:11:23+00:00

Some people should never be parents CMV

edgyny · 2022-04-07T11:56:33+00:00

Is there any interest in a more team-based type of PPD?

My thoughts are basically rather than individuals posting, there would be registered "teams" who collectively formulate replies. The teams coordinate and discuss their own "official" team responses elsewhere (private sub, discord, whatever) and each team has a designated poster that submits the team's responses. It seems like a way to scale the participation in the sub but maintain a more debate style focus without getting into spats. Moderators could then just focus on whether teams are following rules on the subreddit.

Anyway just brainstorming a literal showerthought and interested in other people's opinions.

platinirisms · 2022-04-07T14:55:43+00:00

My account was permanently banned from reddit with no warning or reason. I don’t even remember saying anything bad. Just been talking about the generic stuff this subreddit says every day.

I’m sad :(

purplish_possum · 2022-04-07T12:41:33+00:00

Idk why I was so scared to start going to the gym. Everyone has been so nice and helpful

DerekMorganBAU2 · 2022-04-07T12:48:16+00:00

They played One In A Million by Aaliyah on the radio today omw to work and that shit hit different can’t lie.

Rip Aaliyah you’ll always be my number one 😭

Reisiluu · 2022-04-07T13:54:36+00:00

My takeaways from watching The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On:

Relationships where one person isn't sure about marriage are usually dysfunctional and the reasons they give for not wanting to get married are surface level bullshit.

People who feel like their partner needs to work on themselves and hold it over them typically have serious flaws of their own.

Few people go on a show like this because they want to convince their partner to get married or make the relationship stronger. They are looking for conflict and an excuse to break up.

Getting married should be an easy decision. If it's not, you're with the wrong person.

And lastly, assholes can put on a really convincing "nice guy" act. Wow.

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T17:32:05+00:00

So I've been shitting on women demanding safety a lot without giving anything in turn but I wanna switch up.

Incels like to insist that the world would be better if women just listened to men but why do you think a woman owes you submission when you can't even keep her safe.

Most incels/nice guys, I see running if 5 man pull up tryna rape his girl right in front of him.

EDIT: I see them dipping if even one man pulls up tbh.

Your short can't even do 20 push ups, never gone to a martial arts class. Don't know how to make mad money to at least afford a more secure lifestyle.

Why should women submit to you?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T18:13:37+00:00

Given my comment on cat calling and the ages being so young I'm down to campaign against this shit.

The majority of you were teenagers that's disgusting.

20+ peeps on your own though count me out.

tired_hillbilly · 2022-04-07T05:18:40+00:00

I attended a little league softball game Saturday, to watch my cousin play. It was fun. Total blowout, my cousin's team won 10-1. They have one girl who is definitely gonna play in college, she's a stone cold killer. It was really cold though, and now, two of my fingertips have been kinda numb ever since. They're not frostbitten, just looking at them you'd never know anything was wrong. But they feel partially numb, almost like when you get novocaine at the dentist, and it starts to wear off.

Habil13 · 2022-04-07T08:48:49+00:00

Can’t believe my shitpost have been gilded lol.

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-07T08:51:23+00:00

I don't understand how shitpost filters work....

Is everything I post marked as shit?

Do I use some words that trigger it?

How many of you all made posts that hit the filters?

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T09:29:11+00:00

I had a co-worker tell me last week that if you don't drink during the week you're "boring".

I mean the guy's cool and all but come on, most people who drink multiple times a week for their 20s are going to end up with beer bellies by the time they're 30, that goes for men and women. I drink maybe once a month because that's the healthiest way to go about things. Even drinking once a week on the weekend will end up with you having a beer belly down the line, it may not show up now but it'll come over time.

Like, do you really want a beer belly??

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T09:51:20+00:00

Q4All: Is anyone here capable of having a DEBATE like an adult?

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T10:09:27+00:00

People should add disclaimers to their posts to prevent accusations of bad faith, misogyny, misandry, straw manning, gaslighting, manipulation and whatever other thing people here get accused of.

CMV

Habil13 · 2022-04-07T10:21:05+00:00

Throughout the last month I’ve had a couple of people pm me, and it has always been a blast. Yesterday I was talking to a guy who claimed the bottom 25% shouldn’t be allowed to vote (including pregnant women). If you have similar crazy ideas my dm are open!

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T10:28:15+00:00

Q4All: How many of you have a diagnosed mental illness?

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-04-07T10:58:05+00:00

These online dating scammers are really easy to spot unless your flat out dumb or thinking with your penis. If you match with a chick and after y’all match she’s immediately asking you to send her money that’s an obvious red flag. But dudes still send money anyway lol.

My girl didn’t ask me for money until like 2 months into our relationship and I remember it was just to spot her for gas and paid me back the next day

Habil13 · 2022-04-07T11:46:40+00:00

Thoughts

poppy_blu · 2022-04-07T11:54:40+00:00

Q4M:

What if her count was 5 but it included a two way and cheating with her bfs best friend?

What if her count was 2 but she had 10 relationships where she was dumped rather quickly by the man?

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-04-07T12:07:16+00:00

The real dating scam is the fact that the time that it's easiest to meet people and form romantic relationships is also the time where it's easiest to be single

Well, less of a scam and more of a cosmic joke, since this is always how it's been and no one can really change it

chilikettlechips · 2022-04-07T12:14:56+00:00

Q4M: have you ever thought about true love? Check mate.

MalePsychopath · 2022-04-07T14:10:10+00:00

Q4W: How do you define "creepy" behavior?

chilikettlechips · 2022-04-07T14:55:51+00:00

ho ho. OP claims to have been reverse Gone Girl'd by her master manipulator abusive toxic husband!

I just need to get this off my chest. I have never heard of anything this bad. And For a whole year I have no idea how I have survived or not ended up in a psych unit.

One year ago my husband of my 2 year old girls planned the divorce for a year. He would provoke fights during covid while I had the newborn girls with colic and basically asking for help. I texted him things like I can't do this, please take them to day care, I am struggling and need help etc.

We would get in to text fights that he wouldn't respond and wouldn't answer calls etc. So I would text him more. Never in my life did I think he was collecting all of this to win a divorce case and use my kids against me.

On the day I got served restraining order, divorce, protective order and CPS filing alleging that I am mentally unfit and cannot take care of my children and because I texted such things CPS ruled it as neglect.... because I TEXTED THIS. I have never hurt them, left them alone, never touched them and have yelled out of frustration ONCE in a whole year.

He hired 2 attorneys who are expensive and basically nailed me to the wall with all these allegations so I have had to back track to "prove" that I am not actually crazy. I have a career, no mental diagnosis, I guess just a sociopath for a husband. He has spent 100k so far from my account which I can not close due to pending divorce. Actually more than that now. I am drowning and can't afford any more lawyer bills. He won't sign the papers, and because he filed all that stuff at the same time he moved back in to the house, hired a full time live in nanny and literally has treated me like a piece of trash on earth. Torturing me that I have to be supervised, saying on the app that I am dangerous all for the court etc. This has been the worst year of my life.

He has continued to prolong and not send or accept any settlement because he is graduating residency and just got a job offer as a physician. I put him through school.

Guys, I feel like a complete fucking lost person thrashing around without my kids. One day I woke up and he just took the kids and used them for a year. Saying shit like oh if you were nicer you could see them for Christmas. And it's my problem if I dont have a supervisor, or that he isn't leaving the home that I bought with all my money for us while I worked 80 hours a week to support us last 4 years.

The shit he says to me on the app is so robot like, so hurtful but legal. His sister is a lawyer. And I am exhausted. He beat me to the ground and still kicking. So I don't know what to do. I have ran out of finances and he just continues to spend 10k every month on lawyers to do absolutely nothing and to not respond or to send more letters saying what next thing he wants me to do.

I have never seen or heard of the scenario of a man doing this to a woman, but I this is horrific. The fact that I slept next to someone in bed and he was planning this and I had no idea or using my miscarriages and crying about that as proof of instability, or asking for help etc and JUST TEXT MESSAGES. Is purely fucking evil.

I don't know what I am getting at but I want to get this out there, because I can't really tell anyone because this is so so so fucked up, so embarrassing, and I have been beat up to no return. I even told him you can have anything you want, please leave SOMETHIING for me to live on please you can have anything you want. And he refused and won't speak to me, degrades me calls me unstable and that these "episodes" aren't helping me.

The fact that he has no concern for my kids growing up without a mother because he wanted the house and the money is absolutely sick.

Does anyone have any advice, or been through anything like this? I am so so broken and lost. And I miss my children. I was agreeing to everything because I literally didn't believe he can be capable of it, but we had a hearing to just for him to cry for the first time and literally tell the judge, I am a physician, and if you let her have kids unsupervised she will kill them and you'll end up on TV. So she didn't even hear our side and ordered some psych eval that costs 10k. I have a therapist and a psychiatrist who have been helping me through this year but this is so beyond fucked up. I just can't do it anymore, but I know I have to just do it for my kids and lose everything in the process.

I am lost. And I am broken. So I for sure belong in the bro mom sub, so help me out. Tell me your stories. Tell me if you have any resources for altruistic donations for something like this, tell me this will be over somehow, tell me my girls will know the truth when they are grown.

Tell me something.

Thank you for listening.

Q4W: Does any part of you wonder if the husband is legit and OP is the crazy one? Unfortunately that subreddit has banned anyone from ever criticizing the OP. Also if you link it here in ppd /u/mrs_drgree will kiss you with the ban hammer. So no linking.

lulll · 2022-04-07T16:43:26+00:00

me in every relationship I’ve ever had

thetruthishere_ · 2022-04-07T18:39:23+00:00

My cat killed four snakes this week. Brought them into the garage for me.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-04-08T03:54:56+00:00

I wanna have a gf I can wrestle with evenly but that’s pretty much impossible to find :( Why do women have to be so physically weak???

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-08T03:50:27+00:00

Men go out to nightclubs to get laid

Women go out to nightclubs to get free attention

That's the way it is, you can try and justify either gender by going "I'm just turning it up with my friends!!" Ok, go turn it up with your friends back at the house, you don't need the club for that.

You go to the club you know exactly what you're doing. 99% of guys that go to the club are looking to get laid and 99% of women going to the clubs know they're going to be showered in compliments and given free drinks all night.

Once you enter the club you're no longer in a relationship for that time.

Is that black and white thinking? Sure, is it accurate most of the time though?? Yes.

Willow-girl · 2022-04-08T03:32:28+00:00

So the place I've been temping for hired me to work weekends. Cool! I was supposed to start this Saturday, then my boss realized I would already have 40 hours in during the week, and he didn't want to pay me overtime, so he changed my start date to the following Saturday instead. OK, I can be down with that. Then tonight I heard from the girls that he plans to have me work on Sunday instead, doing the work I would have been slated to do Saturday, but since it's a new week, he doesn't have to pay me time-and-a-half. I had been waiting to see if he would figure that out ...

lonely_mixtape · 2022-04-08T03:12:52+00:00

What percent of people actually end up with everything they've ever wanted in a partner. Down to the last letter. I'm thinking more specifically personality-wise here. I'm sure plenty of people can find someone they will genuinely enjoy spending the rest of their life with, but it must be very rare, if not impossible to find Mr/Mrs. Everything.

SoulsLikeBot · 2022-04-08T02:17:33+00:00

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SeaSquirrel · 2022-04-08T01:59:24+00:00

So far in 2022 I’ve used my degree arguing on this subreddit more than in my job.

decoy88 · 2022-04-08T01:49:31+00:00

Okay. So do women nowadays specifically dye their hair blue as a way to signal their political stance? The correlation is way too high.

PunjabiPrettyBoi13 · 2022-04-08T01:47:15+00:00

Is FlamingCoochies banned?

I miss him ngl.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-04-07T05:12:03+00:00

So who's your MVP? : Giannis, Embiid, Jokic, Doncic ? Other?

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T07:29:18+00:00

How I feel about the Red Pill…

Looks in fact, do not matter at all.

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T09:20:35+00:00

To conclude my post about men and their trust issues or safety concerns around women:

Turns out both genders have an equal amount of distrust in each other. Anyone wanna talk about that or are we gonna play a bunch of stupid games like usual?

Edit: Since some of you either can't read or just have a hate boner, this is not a dismissal of men's experiences here, but I have to add this disclaimer because the people here are argumentative and like starting shit.

2022-04-07T10:07:42+00:00

Reeeeeeee

dbz19 · 2022-04-07T10:57:00+00:00

/u/januaryphilosopher, as someone who finds virginity in males to be a desirable trait, what do you think of when people use "virgin" as a casual insult?

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T11:42:35+00:00

And it's time to watch some steeplechase, hope there are no falls today or no rider's tosses.

DerekMorganBAU3 · 2022-04-07T14:15:40+00:00

Reddit is on my ass that’s like 3 accounts they locked up 😂

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T14:27:06+00:00

I'm tired as fuck who's looking to cuddle? I call big spoon.

spunkystoic · 2022-04-07T14:56:16+00:00

That data about male fatherhood made me chuckle...

Some very...aspirational...data interpretation going down on PPD today lol

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T15:23:21+00:00

Q4W at what age were you catcalled the most?

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-07T16:04:08+00:00

Q4M: How do you react to gay men hitting on you?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T16:44:05+00:00

This girl is so fit fam

rosesonthefloor · 2022-04-07T16:49:00+00:00

Food you make at home just hits different. Like the sandwich and salad I had for lunch today is miles above anything I could get at any sort of fast food place, even if they both were super simple.

buffin-big-bowls · 2022-04-07T17:11:39+00:00

If I was a girl I’d be having nothing but the best sex with the hottest dudes. I don’t know how you ladies make it so hard for yourselves

scwizard · 2022-04-07T18:23:35+00:00

You can come over to see me, but ya gotta leave cuz I ain't washing your clothes or dealing with any bullshit games ya running. Fuck me, feed me and then just go. Please.

Ahh so what women want is a nice dinner, slow passionate sex that gets them off, then for you to go home at night?

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mackenzie013_02 · 2022-04-07T05:06:04+00:00

Maybe this time?

AnActualPerson · 2022-04-07T05:36:19+00:00

My lease is up at the end of July. I was thinking about moving into a place of my own, or possibly back in with my brother and mom. I like my roommates but I feel like I need more space. A solo apartment would do wonders for my dating life, but moving back in with my family I could put more money towards paying off my fucking student loans. Also my bro lives in a pretty big house in a rural area away from the city, and he said he wouldn't change me rent. What do?

mackenzie013_02 · 2022-04-07T06:05:40+00:00

I am once again hyperfixating on a random musical I stumbled on right before exam week. Time management will be an issue.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T06:18:40+00:00

I've just baked a fresh batch of chocolate chip muffins, who wants one?

lordofcin_2 · 2022-04-07T06:35:05+00:00

I had a girl flirt with me a bit the other day, I’m not the greatest at going with that stuff so I struggle to play along but I also wasn’t really in the mood/didn’t feel like it was right because I just came out to myself as trans. I was really flattered by it tho, made me feel a bit more confident about myself:)

bighuddi · 2022-04-07T06:36:43+00:00

is it just me or are women seemingly trying to emulate the first couple of boys that broke their hypergamous heart & nobody has it in them to tell them it's unattractive? but oh well.

also i did the math & you can get theoretically bonked & plonked by brad & brayden from age whatever to 70 & never run out of brads or braydens. (& then as if its in your best interest, continue to complain about them) & ig that's legit what they wanna do. 💩furthermore, is someone gonna tell all these girls that just cause a guy is freakishly tall or has blue eyes it doesn't mean he can lay better pipe? anybody??????

techr0nin · 2022-04-07T07:16:52+00:00

Is there any plausible reason for women to have evolved concealed ovulation besides the dual mating strategy?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T07:37:29+00:00

Yet another scenario of a woman calling men bad for not risking their own safety to confront some creep

SerpentCypher · 2022-04-07T08:19:12+00:00

As much as people will deny it, a fair portion of humanity is polygamous, polygynous or polyamorous. As more people explore this or pursue such relationships some levels of male sexless are going to drop, the rest are going to rise due in part to men having multiple women. Almost similar to some animal groups/packs where one to occasionally upwards of three males have multiple females. Humans will begin doing this again more openly, there will be pushback and pendulum swings but this is inevitable.

The men left behind will sadly be genuinely nice folks who simply didn’t get the girl, some will just be socially awkward people who miss cues but are harmless and the men found unattractive. Some of these unattractive men may include the ones who actually are awful people. All I’m saying is just brace yourselves.

OfCatandPagan · 2022-04-07T09:27:05+00:00

Q4All: How many times are we all going to argue, cry, bitch, rant, accuse and derail meaningful conversations and discussions here?

JohnDoe_Rip · 2022-04-07T10:22:01+00:00

Be fr, y’all think Lebron has cheated on savannah?

dbz19 · 2022-04-07T11:11:42+00:00

Qs4M: Why do men who have “options” always seem to end up with women who are transparent about being shitty?

Broken pickers?

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T14:34:04+00:00

I feel lazy eye girl is starting to become attached, I made it clear when we were hanging out and fucking this week that I'm not looking for a relationship and I'm just happy dating around/having fun, she agreed, but her actions tell a different story, she's double even triple texting multiple times a day even when I don't have time to respond, sending cutesy messages and all that. Don't know whether us having sex played a factor in her becoming attached but she doesn't seem to be just wanting to be casual.

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T19:02:53+00:00

What do you think this girl should do?

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-08T01:47:00+00:00

CMV: Men shouldn't be allowed to have preferences, and should just have to fuck/date whatever female chooses them

VirginAndIHateMyself · 2022-04-08T01:45:30+00:00

I feel like this subs pretty much run its course, theres very little discussion about "pills" or modern dating.

Feels like it's nothing but people either telling the opinions about the opposite sex or just shit completely unrelated to dating.

livs4dietdrpepper · 2022-04-08T01:13:55+00:00

Men stay openly flirting with me while clearly wearing a wedding ring 🥴🥴 how embarassing

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-04-08T01:01:25+00:00

Sometimes I kinda miss being religious

Most of the time I'm perfectly comfortable with the idea of no god, no afterlife, no real purpose, because ultimately those things mean a high degree of freedom

But then sometimes that train of thought gets flipped on its other side, and then I think about how alone we are and that no one is coming to save us and I think to myself:

".....Fuck....."

throwaway213091345 · 2022-04-08T00:09:09+00:00

Cucked by PPD again, but now I am back.

Anyway, mods why did you ban bunny ears for so long? He's actually a wholesome guy and a few days before he was banned, he wrote about how this place gave him comfort. 🥺

Yukbghhjj · 2022-04-08T00:02:15+00:00

I was gone for three days and nobody even asked where I went 😔

redder_man · 2022-04-07T23:47:51+00:00

So I’m an insecure guy who’s gf is willing to honestly answer any question about her past especially her last relationship with her bf. What question(s) should I ask?

JohnDoe_Rip · 2022-04-07T23:44:04+00:00

Wanna make a dumbass claim but have no proof? Just claim it’s biological.

SerpentCypher · 2022-04-07T09:41:10+00:00

Women of PPD.

Imagine for a moment you were talking about your own experience with a man who had done something bad to you.

Then imagine that every single response from a guy was "Well, I've never personally done that to a woman so I don't think this has ever happened to anyone even once and is not a problem."

Annoying right?

This is basically how you constantly respond to men on here who detail experiences they have had with women. Or situations they have personally witnessed.

"I don't do X so X is not a thing"

SerpentCypher · 2022-04-07T09:05:49+00:00

Q4W- Can any of you actually separate yourselves from the hypothetical? Do you understand that people talking in generalities is a thing?

If you ask a question about "women" and you receive answers talking about "women", you understand they aren't talking about YOU specifically right?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T13:17:16+00:00

You ever be in another sub and see an avi that's identical to one of the regulars here and before you even check the username you know it ain't them cause the comment's too normal

edgyny · 2022-04-07T16:31:20+00:00

A nice discussion about women's safety courtesy some guy trying to buy a woman's used iPhone:

Tell me your home address?
Women make such an unreasonable deal out of safety.
I'm an nice guy, y'all women are just cruel to nice guys.
Rape is very uncommon, not worth all this paranoia.
I'm hard. If you saw my dick, you'd want to be raped.

(via TBP/justneckbeardthings)

Habil13 · 2022-04-07T11:15:30+00:00

No way lol

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-04-07T17:57:44+00:00

The age range on this is nuts. It's THAT common at THAT young. I would've assumed there are creeps that do it to 16 year olds but my gawd 12! Fucking hell that's crazy. I don't know how some of you don't turn agoraphobic. What advice would you give to father's of daughters?

superincongruent · 2022-04-07T05:39:28+00:00

One thing I think men on this sub don't realize is being "pumped and dumped" is a better outcome than being "pumped and stalked". Like a big part of women's aversion to hookups is not just the bad sex or being ghosted, it is how are they going to get rid of this guy.

dbz19 · 2022-04-07T11:05:09+00:00

Triple dipping to unleash all my mental vomit.

You know how TRP says that "men are the guardians of relationships, women are the guardians of sex"? I don't completely agree with it but I think there's some truth to it.

I was thinking about how lots of guys (not all guys) care about N count and think high N count has negative implications for a woman. I.e. thinks like she's a slut, she's damaged, she's used goods, she's unfaithful, she has mental issues, she can't pair bond, etc. etc. Not debating whether those are true or not, but obviously when a woman has a high N count, the first the a guy thinks is "why?" and what are the implications? Like what is the reason her N count is so high and what does this mean and how could this impact my relationship with her?

Now I don't think women care as much about N count in guys as they say they do, at least not to the degree that men care. Women who say that they don't trust a guy with a high N count will mean a guy with an N count of like 50, whereas a guy will mean a woman with an N count of like 5 or 10.

Now, I think there is an equivalent for women, but it's not N count. It's his past and whether he's had girlfriends or serious relationships or things like that. A woman won't care if its a guy who can get girlfriends but chooses not to have sex cause he's saving himself for the right person. She will care if he's someone who can't get girlfriends at all.

It goes back to the whole guardian of relationships/guardian of sex theory. Women are the ones who decide whether sex happens, if a woman is giving it to everyone then guys see as something wrong with her.

Meanwhile guys are the ones who are supposed to determine whether a relationship happens or not. If he can't do the basic task of pulling a girlfriend, he's low quality. Just like how men will ask a million questions if a woman has slept with 50 guys, like "why has she slept with 50 guys? Does she have personality issues? Is there something wrong with her?" A woman will ask the same questions if he's never had a gf or been on a date. "Why hasn't he had a gf? Can't he pull a gf? Is something wrong with him? Is his personality or mentality somehow defective that he can't do the basic task of getting a relationship, which should be easy for a man?"

JohnDoe_Rip · 2022-04-07T16:53:33+00:00

Who are you guys tryna convince with these “personality matters” posts? No shit. But if a woman has 0 attraction towards you and I mean 0 you could be the funniest man in the world & have the best personality that shit won’t matter because she has no attraction towards you in the first place.. you’re already banned from the party before you even step foot into it.

If you’re an average guy with a shit personality you will get dubbed because you’re no lost to her she can easily replace you with another average guy with a great personality.

Now if you’re an attractive guy with a shit personality you can probably get away with a little bit more but she’ll probably put you in the fuck zone.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-07T17:41:29+00:00

My wife bends over and spreads her cheeks to signal she's ready but when I do it, I get nothing. Feminism is a lie.

Anhedonihilist · 2022-04-07T23:39:02+00:00

I forgot about this guy. Talk about taking the bull by the horns

lulll · 2022-04-07T23:32:05+00:00

this man is living like a king

FenaPugi · 2022-04-07T23:16:25+00:00

Going to start calling birthgiver 'AutoModerator'.

Will report back in 24 hours time, hopefully I won't be in an obituary by then...

/s

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T23:05:17+00:00

Has anyone bought this? BusinessofApps Dating App Report 2022

I looked for a free pdf version but to no avail. I really wanna see that data.

This is all that’s available of that info. Fucking paywalls!

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T23:03:10+00:00

So I just found out one of my co-workers who's been at the place we work for about half a year longer than me makes less than me an hour, that's pretty fucked up. And they've now kicked him from his filming position too and moved him exclusively to bar which sucks because the whole reason he was brought there was go filming.

I love my job but the owners are fucking scummy people.

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T22:50:34+00:00

Women Are Being Stalked With Apple AirTags Across the Country

Apple: innovating stalker technology since 2007.

livs4dietdrpepper · 2022-04-07T22:41:18+00:00

Held a baby today and now my ovaries are throbbing

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T22:41:13+00:00

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Dulce__Criatura · 2022-04-07T22:30:36+00:00

Is the new Batman film worth it?

I haven't see the Nolan stuff but I liked the few clips I saw.

simeneta_two · 2022-04-07T22:26:17+00:00

Having this foster puppy has made me realize I am not cut out for puppies. He's not even a particularly difficult one--he's quiet in his crate, sleeps through the night, got potty trained quickly and doesn't have any behavior issues. I just can't stand an animal that needs my attention 24/7.

From now on its cats and chill adult/senior dogs only.

2021sexodyssey · 2022-04-07T21:54:49+00:00

throw back thurday to that time when social media darling and "call her daddy" podcast host alexandra cooper made out with her dog only to delete it later.

take the dogpill lads.

🐶💊

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T21:46:08+00:00

You know how TwoX is always going on about men needing to learn more about consent. While that may be true I do think a lot of women need to learn about what exactly constitutes an assault too.

At least here in the UK (England and Wales I'm very unfamiliar with Scottish and Irish law tbh), the law is essentially touching or penetration of a sexual nature without consent, which they seem to get, but also without the reasonable belief that consent exists on the part of the accused, which they don't seem to get.

More and more people today seem to believe that just because the dude went for it, the girl hadn't explicitly asked him to and she feels violated it's r*pe or SA but ignore the additional element. Like with Aziz Ansari. I think that's the disconnect between surveys of women who feel assaulted and the conviction rate.

Granted the defence used to ask stupid questions related to the element of reasonable belief, eg what were you wearing implying she communicated she wanted it because of what she was wearing.

But there are more ambiguous things that can be reasonably seen as consent. In a world where people consent all the time through physical cues without any verbal indication ( eg last girl I was hooking up with we didn't say a word just gave each other a silent look and started tearing each others clothes off after we'd been hanging for a few hours) It's easy to get things confused without an explicit no!

ScrimmyBingusTwo · 2022-04-07T21:44:58+00:00

Was Seinfeld the most bluepilled show in existence?

empresa_josefina · 2022-04-07T21:31:35+00:00

I'm having trouble taking a woman's perspective here. Is getting pumped-and-dumped so much worse for women than for guys? I've had women break up with me and say they don't want a relationship, it sucks but I didn't overhaul my approach to dating to prevent it.

I have had several late 20s women say that they got hurt or heartbroken in the past, so now they wait X dates and the guy must pass Y tests. It seems like a huge overcorrection. I usually just end it with these girls and meet someone who is open to experiencing a new relationship and not just nursing past trauma.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-04-07T21:26:00+00:00

My fiancé comes home tomorrow and I’ve cleaned the whole house like 4 times. I feel like a huge ball of nerves. My Apple Watch keeps yelling at me about my heart rate lmao

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-07T21:22:45+00:00

I feel one of the things I did wrong in past relationships was a lack of caring when it came to defending my girlfriends when people were being assholes to them, instead of going up to or confronting them I had very much a "Sort your own problems out, don't get me to fight your battles" attitude. I was very much the type to believe if you have a problem you go fucking sort it out yourself, don't go hiding behind someone.

Obviously that's not a healthy way to go about things but at the same time I feel there's a level of truth in that you shouldn't have to get others to sort shit out for you.

6negative4 · 2022-04-07T21:06:21+00:00

"People" love to judge you on the most trivial and/or immutable things but get upset when you judge them for their life choices 🤣

Barely-moral · 2022-04-07T21:02:27+00:00

The argument was that a domestic violence registry would not be bad because the legal definition of domestic violence is strict. I asked to be told which legislation are we talking about.

UK legislation. I went in. I found it funny. It is buried in the thread so lets have it buried here as well.

Here we go.

This could go for a loong time so I will just refer to the worst and more easily found mistakes in that law.

UK Domestic Abuse Act of 2021...

Definition of domestic abuse.

Behaviour of a person (“A”) towards another person (“B”) is “domestic abuse” if (a)A and B are each aged 16 or over and are personally connected to each other, and

(b)the behaviour is abusive.

Ok. Lets go for the definition of abusive next.

Behaviour is “abusive” if it consists of any of the following—

(a)physical or sexual abuse;

(b)violent or threatening behaviour;

(c)controlling or coercive behaviour;

(d)economic abuse (see subsection (4));

(e)psychological, emotional or other abuse;

Now. Just to make things short lets go for the definition of controlling or coercive behavior. I went there because I am used to look for bullshit in that section of the law no matter what country's law I am reading.

Can't be found in that ACT. But I am not a complete ignorant about UK law. I know that I must go and look at the previous act that the Domestic Abuse Act of 2021 is partially changing. So lets go to the current version of the Serious Crime Act of 2015.

Section 76 for those that are reading the law with me.

View outstanding changesstatus warnings 76Controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship

(1)A person (A) commits an offence if—

(a)A repeatedly or continuously engages in behaviour towards another person (B) that is controlling or coercive,

(b)at the time of the behaviour, A and B are personally connected,

(c)the behaviour has a serious effect on B, and

(d)A knows or ought to know that the behaviour will have a serious effect on B.

Cool. Lets focus on the definition of serious effect. Same act.

(4)A's behaviour has a “serious effect” on B if—

(a)it causes B to fear, on at least two occasions, that violence will be used against B, or

(b)it causes B serious alarm or distress which has a substantial adverse effect on B's usual day-to-day activities.

FEAR. FUCKING FEAR. We are using the most irrational and subjective feeling to define domestic abuse... but maybe I am absolutely wrong. I must be missing something. I should go looking for the ways the accused has to use in their defense. Same act.

(8)In proceedings for an offence under this section it is a defence for A to show that—

(a)in engaging in the behaviour in question, A believed that he or she was acting in B's best interests, and

(b)the behaviour was in all the circumstances reasonable.

(9)A is to be taken to have shown the facts mentioned in subsection (8) if—

(a)sufficient evidence of the facts is adduced to raise an issue with respect to them, and

(b)the contrary is not proved beyond reasonable doubt.

Oh. That sounds reasonable. Seems like the legislators knew something about writting a law.... oh shit... I kept reading.

(10)The defence in subsection (8) is not available to A in relation to behaviour that causes B to fear that violence will be used against B.

So B's fear can remove all the defenses that A had.

And this law would be used for a Domestic Violence Registry.

This was not an exhaustive job. It was a thing I did for shits and giggles.

Infammo · 2022-04-07T20:58:04+00:00

I just pet a dog today was a good day.

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T20:52:20+00:00

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DaphneDK42 · 2022-04-07T08:57:06+00:00

Q4W: How much can you lift with your vagina?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T20:48:57+00:00

Anyone have any books on affirmative consent?

Or good articles.

I'd like to incorporate it into my life while still maintaining that I have a spine and am not at the retarded end of autistic.

Anything I can find just goes on about it's importance and doesn't really acknowledge how it's inherently a bit socially dumb.

chilikettlechips · 2022-04-07T20:48:14+00:00

lotta talk this week about women and safety and yada yada. Reminds me of this goldmine of a thread a few months ago. What's the hardest you have ever seen a women Simp for a guy she wasn't seeing/dating?

women write the dankest of pills.

poppy_blu · 2022-04-07T20:39:28+00:00

There such a weird A=B type of thinking that goes on here.

If A exists the cause is B.

If a man has sex with you and doesn’t make you his gf then you got P&D and are not relationship material.

I find it odd on a sub where men come to lament that womne don’t pick them specifically for the casual sex they swear the whole world is having 24/7 they also act like all men are actively seeking relationships (except for them I guess?)

PunjabiPrettyBoi13 · 2022-04-07T20:31:25+00:00

Q4W: Do you really get offended by a woman being called a female? I have three sisters and none of them give a shit, it seems like it’s just a Reddit thing.

Open_Olive911 · 2022-04-07T20:25:46+00:00

How do you talk to a girl who is with a group of other girls?

LetsDelveIntoIt1 · 2022-04-07T20:18:38+00:00

What is so wrong about these hiring techniques...?

LetsDelveIntoIt1 · 2022-04-07T20:13:28+00:00

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Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T20:05:20+00:00

Okay 5 was an exaggeration but do any of you imagine most incels fighting even one guy who's threatening his girl? If he lucked himself into one

purplish_possum · 2022-04-07T19:46:55+00:00

Looks like I just bought a 140 year old house in Vermont sight unseen. I've either got smoking deal because the bank wanted to get rid of a foreclosed property or I've just blown four months salary.

Mimoxs · 2022-04-07T19:40:24+00:00

To what extent do you think "I can fix him/her" disease is attributable to some paternal/maternal instinct stuff going on?

BennyHillThemeStops · 2022-04-07T19:33:48+00:00

I go on dating apps in cycles (delete after 3 months if I have no luck) and start to recognise the same women who've been on there for months if not years. I've only had one person recognise me though.

scwizard · 2022-04-07T19:26:50+00:00

Honestly, I maintain that in the next 50 years or so, women will opt out of living with men. Straight men, anyway. I can imagine either women living alone or for those who want kids, raising their kids in a community that does not include straight men.

Feminist "uptoia" imaginings always make my head hurt. You realize that children often end up growing up to be teenage boys and eventually even men.

lulll · 2022-04-07T19:12:36+00:00

ya know what, she has something dirty on will doesn't she?

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-04-07T19:09:39+00:00

u/Mrs_Drgree ru crazy lol you can't even name a rule

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