What Makes a Man Creepy?

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-02-08T19:31:17+00:00

There is a few things I can say can be perceived as creepy

*Unfortunately being unattractive. If you are poorly dressed groomed balding. (I'm thinking looking like Karl from Aqua Teen Hunger Force). You may be automatically seen as creepy. It sucks but it's life.

*Not reading the room. If you are sitting there shooting your shot and the person is not picking up what you are putting down. Don't keep trying.

*Not taking no for answer. If it's a "No" that's a full sentence. You don't need a 5 paragraph essay. Is to why it's a no. You don't need an explanation. It's a no.

*Being overly sexual or pushy about sex.

hearyoume14 · 2025-02-09T00:50:32+00:00

As a woman who has been called creepy poor social skills and not respecting boundaries are a big ones. Yes more attractive people can get away with more. I’ve seen above average, for the area, men who struggle to get dates or make friends because they are just so unlikable as people. As for Autism and related disabilities traits can definitely come off as creepy especially if you’re on the side less or more expressive side. I’m on the my face gets me in trouble because it has no inside voice side.

rustlerhuskyjeans · 2025-02-08T19:04:35+00:00

Creepy acting guys don’t read women well and try to be sexual or overtly romantic without her choosing signals first. Which is weird because that’s such a low success rate method.

If you look creepy you’re just odd looking without being cute or manly enough.

anotsmallthing · 2025-02-08T22:19:04+00:00

Posting on PPD.

Nah, it’s a vibe. The best insurance against being seen as creepy is socializing a lot so you’re good at it and reading vibes

Axeml · 2025-02-09T00:12:43+00:00

I was treated very differently when I was fat vs now. The same behaviors I do now were viewed as creepy when I was unattractive.

Sadsad0088 · 2025-02-08T22:52:56+00:00

Being ugly, socially awkward and doesn’t pick social cues

Commercial-Formal272 · 2025-02-08T23:52:54+00:00

Someone is creepy when there is something "wrong" or "off" about them but the cause of that feeling isn't readily apparent. Now, that isn't to say you can't find out the cause and realize the dude is mentally disturbed, but most of "creepy" is being about telling someone isn't a healthy "normal" person and being instinctually fearful of the unknown.
Being noticeably weird in an understandable way bypasses most of that fear, and allows the potential to be "quirky" instead, or at least only "weird" rather than creepy. The guy who is strangely obsessed with anime is less threatening than the guy who seems to be hiding something (an anime obsession) and is pretending to be normal. It's a similar idea as how the best disguises have a distinguishing feature to draw focus away from the rest of your appearance.

giveuporfindaway · 2025-02-09T03:59:28+00:00

If two men do an identical "creepy behavior" then identify the differences. It obviously has nothing to do with behavior.

PuffStyle · 2025-02-08T20:21:31+00:00

You don't understand rule #1 of creepy. HV men can do anything without being creepy. The lower your value, the more you'll be perceived as creepy.

That's why you can see women swooning over pictures of good looking violent criminals who have "anger" in their eyes.

The proof is that whatever example you can use to claim someone is creepy can be met with a counter example of an HV doing the same who is not perceived as creepy. This obviously breaks down with the most extreme antisocial behaviors like child harm. And each woman has different attraction factors so you'll always have the "not me" responses. For some women, looking angry is a turn on, but for others it can be scary and a turn off.

Also, this is not to discount that sometimes people can sense, through micro-expressions, someone's psychopathic disdain for them or humanity in general or mental illness. It's just that women vastly over diagnosis this and will look over it for good looking men.

Logos1789 · 2025-02-08T19:04:57+00:00

Even though any man can be creepy, here are things that increase one’s probability of being perceived as creepy:

Being physically unattractive
Being poorly groomed and dressed
Having unusual grooming and style
Being alone
Being somewhere that the majority of people are women and children
Having an unusual gait and body movements
Appearing to be loitering or walking aimlessly
Looking in any particular direction for too long (staring/leering)
Holding eye contact for too long
Not holding eye contact long enough
Being soft spoken
Being brash and loud
Standing too close to someone
Standing too far away from someone

Basically, if you aren’t like most other people and your intentions aren’t clear, you will be more likely to make people feel like you’re creepy.

Efficient-Baker1694 · 2025-02-08T19:40:04+00:00

Being ugly, being neurodivergent (especially autism), bad body language, bad personality.

Kreeps_United · 2025-02-08T23:59:24+00:00

But also, I could see the festering anger in his eyes.

No you can't. I say that as someone who doesn't steal and gets followed in every store, my own mama can't read my emotions. Some people can't be read, especially the most dangerous predators who fool people all the time.

woodclip · 2025-02-08T18:45:07+00:00

PS If you're just going to say the tired old "creepy just means the guy is ugly" save your energy.

But it's true. Guys who are labelled as "creepy" are almost always ugly.

If an ugly guy stares at a woman, it's "Eww. He's being a creep!"

If a Chad stares at a woman, its "Wow. He knows what he wants and is so confident!"

Rudrahp72 · 2025-02-08T18:26:52+00:00

PS If you're just going to say the tired old "creepy just means the guy is ugly" save your energy.****

That really is just it in the vast majority of cases though. Being shorter than around 5'7, not being conventionally attractive, being the wrong race, having hobbies that interest him and aren't stereotypically "manly".

There are actual creeps too, but the line for "Creepy" is absolutely affected by how good looking the man is.

PIF_Daddy · 2025-02-08T21:24:29+00:00

Naw. Creepy means ugly.

Cut the BS.

Eyoshias · 2025-02-09T00:02:11+00:00

I looked at the guy's picture and thought, "No you aren't ugly, you're just creepy".

But also, I could see the festering anger in his eyes. I feel that more times than not, this is what keeps a lot of these men from having success. It's that they are plain old creepy, unsettling, disturbing, off-putting, unpredictable, fill in the blank.

You read his posts first before seeing his picture so obviously you are biased. he's not ugly but he's not attractive enough to be misogynistic. No woman who meets him on the street can see his post history and "festering anger in his eyes" is again based off your biased opinion. He simply isn't hot enough to get his foot in the door and is insecure.

woodclip · 2025-02-08T18:48:38+00:00

Obviously, his obsession with being rejected by women is off putting to say the least, someone who harbors resentment and anger towards your gender is not an attractive quality.

There's nothing wrong with the have-nots resenting the haves. It's human nature.

I, as a man, wouldn't even want to hang out with this guy for coffee,

That's because you know he has a history of being rejected and so your perception of him has been shaped by that information about him. That's why you see him as deficient. If he were a Chad who easily got dates and hookups, you'd think he was normal and well-adjusted and would want to hang out with him.

Eater0fChildren · 2025-02-08T19:22:49+00:00

PS If you're just going to say the tired old "creepy just means the guy is ugly" save your energy.

It doesn't matter if you think this is a "tired old" argument, where women place guys on the creep-o-meter is 80% dependent on looks, and that's the truth. In my teens I was always seen as creepy, I did have below average social skills for sure, but I was also short, very skinnyfat, with a soft and pudgy face. I entered my 20s during COVID and started looksmaxxing whilst completely isolated, when COVID finished I ended up as a 6'2 man with a lean, muscular body and more angular, defined face thanks to the leanness. I started trying to date despite being a virgin and having next to no social contact for the entire two years of COVID. Despite being objectively socially awkward, girls were never that put off by me, not saying I scored with every single date, but even with the dates that didn't go well they would never treat me with the level of disdain I received when I was younger. Humans are shallow and superficial creatures, this isn't the answer you want but it's the truth nonetheless.

Eschew_Sloth-232 · 2025-02-08T19:35:46+00:00

Actual abusive, destructive, narcissistic men have no issues attracting women. This supposed ability to read creepiness is just a way to vilify unattractive men without feeling guilty.

Cute_Ad4567 · 2025-02-09T03:59:07+00:00

Not being hot. Outside of literally being a creep and stalking people in the bushes and digging through their garbage. 99% of the time it means " This person is below me how dare they show interest in me."

Its a sad truth women do not want to discuss. They believe men are below them and will put on a grand display of rejecting a man. She's signaling to other women of her virtuous action of putting that lesser man in his place.

Thanks to modern dating apps men have seen what its like to be in "Chads" place. How women actually respond to chads. And 99.9% of all the virtue signaling about what women want is a lie. Women being innocent flowers wanting "love" and men are just pigs wanting sex. All Chad has to do is match, Ask "Wana fuuuuuuck?" and 90% of the time he will get positive responses from women. There is no endless conversation. No asking about her interest. No needing to jump through hoops courting her because her profile screams " No hook ups". She will respond quickly and endlessly even though she's "bad at texting".

Women "Lie" because women do not use words to understand reality in order to explain it and make calculated choices. Women use words to make reality what they want and when that doesn't happen will shame and lie until it is.

Women will chase 1% of men and then label "ALL" men based on the actions of the 1% they choose to deal with. Because to women 1% is all there is. The rest of the men do not exist. Men will deal with 80% of women and have the same experience 99% of the time. But will be shamed for making "Generalizing comments" if they point out their experiences. Because women do not want to face the reality of the truth and being able to victimize themselves gives them power.

G4M35 · 2025-02-08T22:22:30+00:00

The word "Creepy" is a discriminatory slur.

Analyze it objectively and you will come up to the same conclusion.

Alas, the world that we live in, not only gives it a pass, but also promotes it.

And that's why we are where we are.

GloeSticc · 2025-02-09T07:06:13+00:00

Men are at an advantage physically while also representing a higher level of aggression. I would think that, given this circumstance, it would seem natural for women to portray some hesitation to men. This distinction strikes me as important because most people generalize when labeling people, and the word "creepy" is usually used as a sweeping statement to clarify the various aspects of a person feeling "off."

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-02-09T10:21:11+00:00

Researchers have looked at creepiness and i think we should go with that, instead of taking eveyone's gut feelings about what creepiness is or isn't. We don't need to reinvent the wheel and possibly fail at that. Concerning the guy: solution would be to make him understand creepiness and make him see how he is received as creepy by women and what he can change to address this.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0732118X16300320

https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2022-17083-001

https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2017-00704-006

https://scholarlypublishingcollective.org/psup/style/article-abstract/57/3/322/382516/Creepiness-and-the-Uncanny

Boniface222 · 2025-02-09T11:02:43+00:00

I think the raw essence of "creepy" is similar to "prying". Like, someone who seems to want to know more, or control more than is consented to.

Someone who might cyber stalk someone or otherwise try to leverage an unfair advantage to blackmail or make someone do something.

It's hard to say for sure. Sometimes you just get that "creepy vibe" but I think that's part of it. Someone who looks like they don't respect boundaries. Maybe they lack experience with boundaries to know how to respect them in the first place.

Odd-Fun-9557 · 2025-02-10T21:25:57+00:00

I find it creepy when men don’t take no for an answer I find it creepy when they keep driving things to be sexual ( I actually matched with a guy who thought was super hot. , I was looking for an Fwb or some casual dating and the dude just kept saying graphic sexual stuff I told him to chill out and that I thought he was hot but I didn’t like the way he was talking to me he kept going so I just blocked him . Him not listening made me feel like he didn’t give a fuck and if we met in person he was going to assault me )

Former_Range_1730 · 2025-02-08T19:33:20+00:00

Being unattractive while showing even a hint of sexual desire.

Thats pretty much it.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-02-08T21:39:30+00:00

A lot of it is not backing off when a woman shows she isn’t interested

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-02-09T00:06:08+00:00

Leering. I find it creepy when people stare at me, even if they don't have a Filthy Frank grin plastered on their faces while doing so. Not respecting my personal space. Not taking "no" for an answer. I had one dude take my earbud out on the bus once because he wanted to talk to me, that was creepy.

escape12345 · 2025-02-09T03:38:11+00:00

Being unattractive. 100% that's all.

If you are 'attractive' to any woman. You can do virtually anything and it will be deemed sweet.

If you are 'unattractive' virtually anything you try WILL fail and you will be considered creepy.

Attractiveness is also individually subjective

catdog8020 · 2025-02-08T23:32:21+00:00

Sorry but unattractiveness = unsafe = creepy.

retainingdeeznuttz · 2025-02-08T21:11:01+00:00

Creepy is some times an energy. You know like gooners.

_phe_nix_ · 2025-02-09T02:27:59+00:00

The opposite or creepy is a guy who's relaxed and easy going, come what may, live and let live, comfortable in his own skin, and happily going about his life. Take that for what you will.

missmireya · 2025-02-09T02:40:32+00:00

I've had lots of creepy encounters with men since puberty, but I'll just talk about the most recent one...which was a few months ago-

Was shopping at the store, and passed by a man with my shopping cart (the aisles were narrow) and said "Oops excuse me" very politely. I didn't think much of it. Maybe I was being too polite? Yeah, I don't know.

So I went into another aisle where the same exact dude was. He gets way too close to me, and starts blurting out-

"Hi hi hi hi. You need a ride? I give you ride." Without even blinking. The dude was just staring straight at me talking a mile a minute like he was coked up or something. I was creeped out x10.

And yes, he said "Hi" a bunch of times in a row. The overall encounter was fucking weird.

I told him NO and went up near the registers.

Anyway, that's the prime example of a creep.

sherbert-yum · 2025-02-09T04:41:29+00:00

I know a really good video on what things make someone creepy from a scientific perspective. I’d say this is pretty bang on accurate. He talks about everything from physical and personality features that make someone more or less creepy and what jobs and behaviors can make you labelled creepy and what ones get rid of being labelled creepy.

Video: How to appear less creepy|The nature of creepiness - Dr Grande

KinkyPrincess33 · 2025-02-08T23:38:25+00:00

Most guys who are creepy come off that way bc they can't read a damn room. They make women uncomfy by being pushy, over sexual, and refusing to give a shit enough about her to realize she's not into it.

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BonesAndStuff01 · 2025-02-08T19:01:52+00:00

Remember the Blackpill / inkwell Messiah Jeremy Meeks? The hot felon who after he got out of jail became a model then married and divorced a billionaires daughter ?

Just picture him as a short bald Indian janitor. Looks are 90% of how people get treated and even really stupid , annoying good looking people will get cut slack or have excuses made for them.

That's life.

ZoneLow6872 · 2025-02-09T03:12:05+00:00

YOU GET IT!!!

zi_ang · 2025-02-09T13:55:16+00:00

Mostly associated with low self-worth. You appear creepy when you are subconsciously feeling that you’re reaching for something above your level. This is why nice guys often give off creepy vibes even just by being nice.

Creepy doesn’t mean ugly but unfortunately there’s a huge correlation. Attractive people are usually confident, because they consistently get positive feedbacks from people. Obviously ugly people with charisma do exist (hence not creepy), but these are usually rare and sometimes contrived.

sniper1905 · 2025-02-09T14:56:22+00:00

I think what makes a man creepy is:

Objectively Unattractive
Socially Awkard/Unskilled
Coming across as a sexual option aka pursuing women sexually instead of just being a platonic person.

Rarely is someone going to find you creepy if you're just unattractive. If you're unattractive with your friend group, you're not creepy. If you're unattractive but not hitting on a woman, she'll talk and reciprocate. But she won't reciprocate feelings of attraction back most of the time. Some of the time, she might just keep you at arms distance but not as a creep, just because she doesn't find you attractive.

You can have all 3 and sometimes still not be a creep. Women vary on being quite forgiving to very unforgiving.

Dertross · 2025-02-09T16:22:06+00:00

You can't judge someone based on their internet behavior. You thought he was creepy because he was ugly. You're projecting his irl behavior based on how you perceive his looks and his online posts. It's really that simple.

Fickle_Friendship296 · 2025-02-09T17:21:18+00:00

Then I started wondering why I feel that vibe. Obviously, his obsession with being rejected by women is off putting to say the least, someone who harbors resentment and anger towards your gender is not an attractive quality. It's actually a means of self-preservation to avoid someone like that.

But also, I could see the festering anger in his eyes. I feel that more times than not, this is what keeps a lot of these men from having success. It's that they are plain old creepy, unsettling, disturbing, off-putting, unpredictable, fill in the blank.

There are men who are generally "successful" with women, i,e. womanizers, who fit this mold exactly, and they have a far worse track record of disrespecting and sexually exploiting women than all the self-proclaimed incels on the planet combined.

Ironically, the incels hate Chad, but they all want to be him out of spite that they aren't "getting women."

You worry about being a creep? It's super easy not to be one: just interact with women the same as you interact with guys. It's really that simple.

SadCahita · 2025-02-09T17:56:05+00:00

creepy just means the guy is ugly, you have no way to explain it otherwise

BiffTannenCA · 2025-02-09T18:12:24+00:00

As a man who has been repeatedly sexually harassed, 'creepy' behavior is hardly exclusive to men.

In fact, I'd argue that when a woman is creepy, it's even worse. Since lewd comments, groping and sexual aggression are laughed off when they do it.

Sadismx · 2025-02-09T18:24:52+00:00

I consider myself creepy, but I think there are different types of creepy so there isn’t going to be 1 singular answer

GKilat · 2025-02-09T22:00:16+00:00

It's making someone uncomfortable. Certain actions can feel threatening for your own safety. If someone's actions are too assertive that they are crossing a lot of boundaries, it can give off a creepy vibe no matter how you look.

itsjustniki · 2025-02-10T02:18:17+00:00

Usually women as the weaker gender, we walk through life with more fear and a lower risk tolerance. So even small things like poor social skills displayed by a man can make a woman feel scared of “what is there to come”. Often she realizes that the probability of her getting scammed/hurt or else is low so logically there’s nothing to be afraid of, he is not a serial killer (most likely) but this duality of what is probable and logical vs what feels scary to the person can lead to be labelled as creepy.

In other words, creepy is when something feels off but I don’t really know what and how to handle its consequences if I was right. You can apply this to situations as well, when you walk through the woods alone and hear a human scream: that would feel creepy but the probability of it being something else, an animal or branches falling off is high but you still feel creeped out. I think the difference between creepy and scary is that you know almost for sure that you are not in danger.

As people mentioned earlier looks can be creepy because someone’s physical health often correlates with their mental health and state of mind. There is a reason why drug addicts or alcohol abusers look less attractive (and potentially more dangerous from a woman’s perspective). Unfortunately some people are born with a disadvantage but if you generally take care of yourself, I don’t think below average looks would be the main problem.

Poor social skills can also send signals to a woman that she should handle this situation with more awareness because she might be in danger. If a someone doesn’t behave in a way society expects them to behave, it could also mean that they are willing to do something that is harmful to the woman because they are more unpredictable than most. Again, introverts, socially awkward people are at a disadvantage here and can be often mislabelled as creepy while they just want to make new friends in an unconventional way.

I want to mention that if you hear that you are a creep from a young teen who is “well protected” in her group of friends, take it with a handful of salt. It can also be just mean girl behaviour where they want to bond over someone else’s ridicule.

barry1988 · 2025-02-10T06:52:13+00:00

I said the same thing to 5 different women. 3 thought I was creepy the other 2 really liked it. Thoughts?

t1nyt0ad · 2025-02-11T10:31:02+00:00

Men who hit on women who are significantly younger or more physically attractive than themselves. People don't want to say this out loud but it's completely true. Especially if the women you are hitting on have not given you any real indication that they are interested which will be the great vast majority of the time.

Men who ignore a woman's boundaries. If a woman has said no and you continue to bother her then she's going to find you creepy.

Negging

Becoming too sexual too soon. Those men on dating apps who go straight to saying something sexual. Those men that can be sat at a table in a restaurant on a first date and haven't even kissed the woman yet but they start talking about sex. Very creepy.

Being generally callous or cruel. Saying unkind things to a woman. Talking to a woman like an object with no care for how she might feel.

Exploiting a woman's desire for intimacy and connection to obtain what it is that you want.

Specialist-Wing-458 · 2025-02-11T16:47:00+00:00

A good looking man that stares too long can come off as creepy.

RoseyButterflies · 2025-02-12T10:06:45+00:00

Creepy is unwanted sexual attention after I told then to stop.

acromegaly_girl · 2025-04-29T01:28:41+00:00

this is pretty stupid because you can't tell how someone truly looks by a fucking photo. You need to meet people in real life and spend time with the to determine how unattractive they are. This is a victim-blaming, just-world fallacy POS post.

James_M_Croft · 2025-02-09T00:10:13+00:00

Uglyness.

TrappedInThisWorld_ · 2025-02-09T02:00:27+00:00

Don't be fat, don't be bald, Don't be short, don't be ethnic, don't be old, don't dress weird, don't smell, be well groomed, smile, make eye contact, learn to take rejection well because you're going to face lots of it unless you're in the top 10 percent of men

_weedkiller_ · 2025-02-08T21:21:47+00:00

This is interesting because I came to this post right after seeing a post on another sub about how to tell if people have been through some shit, and one of the things that came up was eyes.

People say “The eyes are the window to the soul”.
There is definitely something currently undefinable that we can see through people’s eyes. Sadness, desperation, contempt, joy etc.

When it comes specifically to the “creep” factor… it makes me think of how neurotypical people rate autistic people as less likeable based on image alone. I wonder what that has to do with it?

For me personally a creepy man is one whose eyes are suggesting contempt, desperation, ruthlessness.

Corbast7 · 2025-02-08T23:30:22+00:00

Being creepy to me means someone who seems suspicious. Their actions seem sus and like they could be dangerous. They seem not trustworthy.

Yes, being more attractive and normal looking helps in people being less likely to perceive you as suspicious. But unlike what a lot of guys say on here, looks are far from being the only factor.

Also someone can come across creepy but not necessarily have done something bad. It can be akin to being very bad at reading the room.

wappe97 · 2025-02-09T00:33:12+00:00

sending out uncertain signals. if you think a girl looks good go up and hi and talk like a normal person, it's hard to be rude to someone who is friendly.

Weird-Recognition530 · 2025-02-09T06:13:25+00:00

Depends, my heart has melted when a woman took the time, and I’ve always had to let them go when they just ghosted me, It’s life, and at this point, the company is nice to have even if only for a little while.

Title	What Makes a Man Creepy?
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