Like sincerely, dating/flirting/getting laid, is hard for me as an average guy, but not as impossible as it seems, it is risky business reputation wise and is mentally and financially costly, but i get some return sometimes.

However, when i went clubbing with a FWB who is quite attractive, and DAMN, she got a LOT of attention, and i didn't get mad that others were flirting with her, as she dismissed everyone (so happy/lucky on that), but damn i got so JEALOUS.

Like i only get that kind of attention, gazes, compliments from people i am basically already fucking, and since she is a bit older, i saw that she was happy to say no, but knowing she is still hot.

And man, that may be a reason why guys have such shit self esteem, certainly my case, bro i would love to get any attention like that, even when you say no, the confidence boost is huge.

Like if sometimes others do the first step, you don't feel like a dirty salesman trying to scam people, you know the product (you) is valued by some.

But if you always have to engage, and even the best get no's most of the time, it really impacts your self confidence and ego honestly.

This is a bit ranty, but do other guys feel this way too?

Hell i fell dirty admitting that sometimes i do flirt with girls just to get some positive attention and well if i initiate it doesn't really work.

Any thoughts.

Girls feel free to weight in too, what do you think?