I noticed in a previous post when the discussion of undesirable men came up, the common response was to talk about looks even though looks was not the main point in the post. The claim surrounding people’s obsession over looks seems to come from projection. To this subreddit, a man who fails with women is a victim. “He’s a sweet guy but he’s not conventionally attractive, so women hate him and want hot assholds instead”, or “Its sad women call you creepy all the time” or “He’s just a little awkward and lonely!” But when women give their side of the story how those types of guys were assholes, women are told to choose better. Perhaps when men tell women to choose better, they automatically assume the guy was conventionally attractive. 

This sub really struggles to understand good looks doesn't mean bad personality and bad/average looks does not mean good man.