Please don’t judge me, I’m really just trying to understand women’s perspective on this.

So for some context I am a single young man in the military who has been thinking about paying a sex worker. Here there’s very few new girls I meet, and most of them are already dating or married.

So I was just wondering about women’s perspective on this and by what I researched majority of women says a hard no, but most of the time there’s no answer. And I know this question has been posted before, but like WHY would you not date a man who has paid for sex before? What is the actual reason?

And I’m not ignorant, there are good reasons that I heard why you would not date someone like that. “The sex industry involves a lot of trafficking and addiction”, “men who paid for sex tend to objectify both sex women abut also regular woman”, and these are legit reasons. But most of the time it seems very black and white. Like what if the lady is working in that industry by her own will and actually likes it? What if the men is really nice to them and make both their experiences enjoyable? What if he is just lonely or a virgin and wants to get that out of their way? And it confuses me to since this woman in general tend to be really pro sex worker, but shame the market that pays them in these sex workers in the first place.

And I just to make it clear I respect real sex workers and I believe that, if there is no coercion or abuse, it’s an honest service like any other and sex worker should be treated with respect. And I thought it would be relevant to ask here since both the red pill and feminism have really weird hypocritical views on sex work in general.

But yeah, I’m really just curious and I really appreciate you for taking the time to read and for your answers .