I’ve noticed a recurring theme in discussions here and elsewhere: some men interpret women simply not wanting to date them as an act of cruelty or even oppression.

There are frequent claims that women "see men as monsters," or "hate men," or are "disgusted by men," when really, the only “offense” is that a woman declined romantic or sexual interest. I’ve even seen comparisons made to historical oppression — as if being ignored on dating apps is somehow comparable to centuries of patriarchal control.

What’s striking is that these men rarely point to actual harm being done to them by women — it’s often just that women aren’t giving them attention or validation or that women as a whole have decided they arent interested. That absence alone is framed as an attack.

So I’m curious — where does this mindset come from? Is it entitlement? Loneliness? A cultural narrative that tells men they’re owed something from women? And how can we talk about these issues without turning women’s autonomy into the enemy?