I see this over and over again here—men are frustrated not because women are wrong, but because women aren’t behaving like men.

Some implicit complaints I’ve seen:

• “Men are attracted to most women, so women should be attracted to most men.”
• “Men are expected to approach, court, initiate, so women should be expected to approach, court, and initiate.”
• “Men know immediately if they’re interested and ready for sex, so women should be too.”
• “If a woman expressed overt sexual interest in me, I’d be flattered—not creeped out. So women should feel the same.”

For the love of God—women are not the same as you.
A woman’s standards aren’t “too high” just because they’re higher than yours. Most Women aren't attracted to most men, that's true but that's not unreasonable just because that isn't how most men feel.

Equality doesn’t mean sameness. A great example: recently there were multiple posts where women pointed out that if men really want the same kind of sexual “options” women have, they’d have to date men. That’s because most of that attention women get from men is as unwanted as the attention men would get from other men. But many guys here bent over backwards to argue against this reality. They kept insisting that women having endless sexual options, even options they didn't want is a benefit for women. Men who think like this are projecting: Dating as a woman is so easy because you have so many options, men think. They ignore the obvious reality that women have so many options WITH MEN. And if they wan to co-op women's dating experiences including the sexual access and wide spread interest women receive, they need to be open to what women do: which is dating men, instead of expecting male behavior from women.

I keep hearing about how “oblivious” modern women are, but it seems like too many modern men have forgotten something older generations understood: cis straight women, by and large, don’t act the same way men do—and that’s not a flaw to be fixed.