My understanding is people in the manosphere believe that women are devalued, ruined or made impure for having sex with men, and each man she has sex with increases the magnitude of said devaluation or impurity. This appears to imply, whether intentionally or inadvertently, that sex with men necessarily makes a person worse off.

Two things: we know that "sex with men makes a person worse off" specific to men, and not women, because these people do not believe that men are made worse off when having sex with women; rather the opposite effect happens. We also know that the "making worse off part" applies to both men who have sex with men and women who have sex with men, because, one, sex between men is viewed in the same way in that it is dirty and disgusting and, two, sexual contact between women is viewed as the opposite.

All of this points towards a dichotomy between men and women such that

  • (a) men are the sexually disgusting gender, and sex with men makes people worse off; it taints, ruins and impurifies them. The implication is that sex with men should be avoided, and the less sex with men one experiences the better their quality of life
  • and (b) women on the other hand are the sexually beautiful and desirable gender; sex with women does not make people worse off, and especially in the case of men, sex with women increases their value, their worth, their happiness and overall health.

This dichotomy actually explains a lot of the phenomena in society. For example, (b) helps explain why SA by women isn't really taken seriously, especially when done to men, because the assumption is that SA couldn't possibly harm the man given that women are so beautiful and desirable. Likewise, (a) helps explain why parents are far more scrutinizing of the boys that their daughters date compared to the girls that their sons date; their assumption is that men pose a threat to the women in their lives while women don't pose a threat to the men in their lives. This example is credited to a relevant thread I read:

Men are inherently tainted or “dirty” while women are inherently pure like an unblemished like a sheet of snow. A woman becoming sexually involved with a man is equivalent to running a white dress through the mud or cow manure. While a man getting involved with a woman is like being dirty and taking a nice bath. No one knows this more than men themselves.

My question is, men, does (a) remotely offend you? You have sex with a woman, and now people think she is tainted, worse off, and dirty specifically as a result of you & members of your gender having sex with her. Obviously, she would feel offended by this, but my question is, would you be offended too?