Stay aware

heleninthealps · 2020-09-25T18:33:51+00:00

He's literally describing love bombing. It's scary if they can keep it up for 5 months, but that's why I'm extra sceptical to everything before 6 months. Usually they can't keep it up longer than that before the mask starts to fall off.

daisy_0720 · 2020-09-25T19:21:20+00:00

This is why you WALK at the first sign of disrespect. No second chances, no trying to rationalize his behavior, no conversations.

A man has ONE chance with me. If he fucks it up, I'm gone.

eveninghope · 2020-09-25T17:55:03+00:00

How can anyone be this emotionally depraved?

ello-motto · 2020-09-25T17:55:44+00:00

That's why, make access to your time, sanity, approval and emotional commitment expensive. 👏👏👏

2020-09-25T17:53:01+00:00

No empathy

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-09-25T18:31:53+00:00

Imagine being such a miserable, self-loathing piece of shit that you do this intentionally and repetitively lol. Did it make you any richer or your dick any bigger? No

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-09-25T19:10:21+00:00

There are men that do this. I've experienced it. It's called love-bombing.

Except I become a raging bitch when I'm pissed off and there won't be no more sex from me, only nasty arguments until one of us gives up and the relationship crumbles and dies and becomes the dust it was meant to be.

That was before. Now, I just don't deal with it. You don't wanna talk to me? Fine. I'll find someone else who will. Peace, homie.

night_glitter · 2020-09-25T18:21:03+00:00

This is one of the reasons I think Good morning texts are 🚩🚩🚩 Low effort pleasantries that require almost no thought are a NO from me. It’s a way to get you to engage without saying anything meaningful.

DangerousLeopard7116 · 2020-09-25T18:59:42+00:00

Imagine if a woman said this about men. It'd get reposted 40 times throughout a week, get on r/all three times, and have 40k likes with 200 awards and 5000 men all bitching about women under it.

OrangeyPanda · 2020-09-25T19:09:28+00:00

I mean men like this are basically saying "my dick is so fucking disgusting and I got a stupid woman to touch it! Hahaha what a dumb woman, touching my smelly gross body, when will women ever learn." Like imagine thinking a woman should be ashamed for touching you 🤣🤣

Maude2010 · 2020-09-25T18:17:43+00:00

This is sociopathic.

heythere360 · 2020-09-25T19:48:27+00:00

Ladies, we gotta let go of the honeymoon phase and all the dreams and treat each day like a new one.

All human beings manipulate their image to best suit their needs. Men, particularly older men, know what’s attractive to us (pays, attentive, sensitive, fun, not jealous) and play that role to the gods.

Their mask usually falls off. Took my ex 2 years. Don’t run from it or explain it away. It’ll start to impact your mental health, sex life and self image. Walk away when it’s time.

SundanceDog · 2020-09-25T18:59:07+00:00

What he's describing isn't being emotionally weak - it's being emotionally human. What is wrong with men?

burn_that · 2020-09-25T18:31:48+00:00

I already said it, but this is abuse and should be punished by the law. Period.

hypointellectual · 2020-09-25T18:18:20+00:00

He probably can’t hold a job because he’s too busy doing this stupid shit

Woman_on_Pause · 2020-09-25T20:13:14+00:00

This person is exactly why this group exists.
You can do everything right, and then BAM he dgaf and you're confused.

ughhhhhhhhhhhh

Lavender_flow · 2020-09-25T20:53:26+00:00

It is called love bombing and is emotional abuse which narcissists and psychopaths employ. Stay aware. These men are fucking psychos.

RiasXgremoryX · 2020-09-25T18:13:11+00:00

"Women with low standards ruin it for women with high standards."

jeneprometsrien · 2020-09-25T19:19:37+00:00

He is probably one of these men who rates women on a scale of 1-10 🤮🤮🤮

The_Moon_Piece · 2020-09-25T22:08:34+00:00

That’s what The D.E.N.N.I.S. System is, in pop culture. Sociopaths/narcissists are insidious but after you’ve cracked their code they are ridiculously predictable, it’s like they all read the same manual.

MACMUA · 2020-09-25T19:30:33+00:00

I hate this guy

berned-out · 2020-09-25T23:57:44+00:00

Most women in domestic violence situations talk about this yo-yo of emotional abuse, which almost has to include the honeymoon phase. What's not said in the guy's comments was that he won't stop doing the yo-yo. It's implied he ditches her and moves on, but no, men hate breaking up and losing the dog they like to beat. He'll continue getting his jollies abusing her, which is textbook domestic violence dynamics. When ppl casually dismiss it as just boys being boys, they should be slapped with the reality that a fuckton of women take beatings every day in this world at the hands of these good old boys. And it's spreading because they love to share with each other what they trick women into. It's funny and a sport, all the way from just scaring your neighbor by catcalling her then chuckling with your son about it, all the way up to the collections of women's nude pics that are being catalogued. I see why cultures throughout history would send a 13 year old boy into the wilderness to become a man now. Because when you don't, they stay children forever. People decided their own kids and their own society were better off dying in the wilderness than being subjected to the eternally-pubescent male.

MemberBenefits · 2020-09-25T18:00:40+00:00

It’s life, Jim, but not as we know it.

sbb1896 · 2020-09-25T19:00:47+00:00

This was me as a late teen, I’m embarrassed but I have since found the light!

Snapsforme · 2020-09-25T22:07:56+00:00

Ha, don't fall for that shit.

A guy I was dating for a while stood me up for a date once. I called him one time, sent him one text message asking what was up.

About 3 days later, he started texting me again and I ignored them all.

A few days after that, he shows up at my work with a bouquet and an apology. I threw that shit in the trash and told him to stop texting me. I worked at the DMV with a bunch of old ladies and they were all horrified and called me ungrateful

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-09-25T23:46:17+00:00

We not doing this anymore.

Pyllytar · 2020-09-25T18:01:09+00:00

Cool story bro, but I'm positive the only woman who he has been in close proximity with is his mom.

2020-09-25T19:49:33+00:00

Straight from the horse's mouth. This is disheartening and depressing.

themintmitten · 2020-09-25T23:19:43+00:00

Its like these dudes have nothing else to brag about so they just brag about how shitty they are as a human being😅 A new low, thats for sure!😂

rebel4acause · 2020-09-25T23:31:54+00:00

A "HVM" can prove himself to be a LVM in seconds.

This is why you need to maintain the same full life you had when you were single and be ready to walk away at any moment.

Feminineprincess · 2020-09-25T23:36:37+00:00

Omg, thank you loser for proving me right as to why I don’t chase after men, and don’t overreact when he leaves.

-captainhook · 2020-09-26T00:20:05+00:00

Men love to blame women who have been abused and mistreated by saying we have bad taste, asked for it, are shallow and only attracted to asshole “Chads,” etc, but they fail to realize how many shitty, abusive men manipulate women into thinking they’re one of the good ones. Obviously, there are pickmes and women who are attracted to shitty men (but because of trauma/mental health/conditioning...no normal person wants to be treated like shit), but it’s much more common that the women are manipulated and lied to. Manipulation is textbook abusive behavior.

That’s why saying “not all men” is bullshit. Obviously not all men, but shitty men are SO common and often mask their shittiness, so we need to assume that they are like one of the shitty men (because chances are, they are) or we end up with dudes like this 🤢

penelopekitty · 2020-09-26T00:52:44+00:00

Never think they don't know what they're doing. Fucking sociopaths.

cherrypepsilvr · 2020-09-25T22:38:00+00:00

Hey, my ex is back on Facebook.

pao664 · 2020-09-26T00:28:50+00:00

I feel sick reading that. Men are evil.

mscristalconnors · 2020-09-25T22:47:51+00:00

talking stage

An absolute NO from me. We are not going to talk. You need to invest in me from the get go. This is how I weed out dusties.

mostdefinitelynturs · 2020-09-26T01:33:22+00:00

Narcissism.jpeg

He can eat shit.

myousername · 2020-09-25T22:15:41+00:00

This guy is acting like he just discovered some sort of epic #relationshiphack when actually he's just describing love bombing, a tactic used by emotional abusers since the beginning of time.

pizza_connoissieur · 2020-09-25T21:37:43+00:00

I honestly think young ladies need to have this subreddit recommended to them. As someone that's never officially had a boyfriend, this shit hits hard. I never realized how low effort saying good morning is. I always thought it was sweet, but heck. He was low value, low effort, low everything.

Continue to glow up and become the best versions of yourselves, ladies! You deserve it and are worth it. ❤️

balladwilds · 2020-09-25T20:08:59+00:00

this is so incredibly mean and weak

2020-09-25T19:29:30+00:00

This literally happens also just from 1 good date 😨 the bar is so low 💔

hail_galaxar · 2020-09-25T21:41:20+00:00

Where the hell are their moms? Are they scum bags too that it’s okay that this is what they raised? Or was their dad the one that taught them to be abusive narcissists.

Dancer84839291 · 2020-09-25T23:23:41+00:00

Holy shit I can’t believe he admitted that and posted that

LadyGrimes · 2020-09-26T00:39:52+00:00

A man can try to "pretend" to be the guy a woman is looking for but if she asks him to stop watching porn THERE is no way in hell they can pretend anymore, especially when a woman's intuition kicks in.

nothingwasevertrue · 2020-09-26T01:58:09+00:00

What he describes is narcissist behaviour.

Fetus92 · 2020-09-26T02:21:03+00:00

It’s honestly sad that this is something he brags about. Congrats dude, you’re going to die at age 40-50 probably of liver failure because you’re also probably an alcoholic/drug addict, you’ll die alone with no one by your side and no offspring to carry on your legacy (thank god) because being a shitty human being stops working after a certain point when we all realize we don’t need to take this shit. Women are consistently evolving to become more independent and to take no shit, especially with the help of places like FDS. I see more and more women stand up for themselves and help their fellow woman stand up for herself. This mentality is pathetic, and just leads to the dude posting shit memes on facebook when he reaches his mid-late 20s about how “there’s no good women out there” “Ride or die bullshit” and eventually attention seeking posts trying to lure pickmeishas in (who all eventually level up) because no one worthwhile will give them a single ounce of attention with their meth-head demeanor and fucked teeth.

LondonDaPink · 2020-09-26T03:11:00+00:00

I know a guy is full of shit when he sends me good morning texts. It's extremely disingenuous, especially since we not even dating or anything.

favoritesound · 2020-09-26T04:29:26+00:00

Let me brag about being abusive, include a bunch of laughing emojis on it and throw it up on social media to broadcast how little self awareness and morality I have!

BarbaricBlondie · 2020-09-26T00:59:06+00:00

This just makes me so sad

rosepinks · 2020-09-26T01:48:58+00:00

This is so depraved wtf.

chinchaslyth · 2020-09-25T20:58:08+00:00

Someone has too much time in their hands.

Get a therapist and a hobby. So sad.

OrchidLion · 2020-09-25T22:38:25+00:00

He says as he continually chooses emotionally weak women to do this to.

Try this on one our FDS Queens and see what happens you little cvnt.

And notice how proudly he declares his psychopathy. He needs to be neutered and hanged.

Substantial-Ad-1745 · 2020-09-25T19:33:41+00:00

Classic perverse behavior. It’s textbook and it’s very unsettling the first time it happens to a girl. A woman wouldn’t look at them twice.

starsheepie · 2020-09-26T00:33:50+00:00

Basically my ex.

WeWereOkay · 2020-09-26T03:13:24+00:00

What is even the point of this? A blow job? A couple of blow jobs? Hard to see how there is any benefit in doing something like this (not that I believe this dude is telling the truth) other than to enjoy harming someone else...

2020-09-26T05:01:52+00:00

To that, I say this:

Ear shit and die, no grown ass woman wants your pathetic ass, have fun manipulating 18 year olds and being a miserable sack of shit your entire life.

mostdefinitelynturs · 2020-09-26T06:26:29+00:00

Ya until I go on a date with someone else then you're gonna tell me that IM disrespectful. True story🙃🙃🙃

mostdefinitelynturs · 2020-09-26T06:42:23+00:00

Thanks for telling the world that you're an insecure rapist 🙄

lubabe00 · 2020-09-25T22:15:59+00:00

Hes finding those low self esteem and desperate woman or hes a big liar.

curlygirl507 · 2020-09-26T05:15:19+00:00

🤮

Thanks for posting; this is extremely important

GlitteringAdvice2020 · 2020-09-26T10:49:02+00:00

They pull this shit you leave. They don’t get to emotionally abuse us anymore

Hipster-Aurora · 2020-09-26T11:45:48+00:00

This fool realized after one insecure girl let him get away with nonsense he can do it with others and thinks this somehow makes him seem like a genius to other narcs in the making.

HotTrouble0 · 2020-09-26T21:15:04+00:00

Wow. Just wow. This really opened my eyes.

thejigisup88 · 2020-09-26T02:07:54+00:00

So hold up, is it just me who can tell it’s all an act? There is no emotion behind it or authenticity, and I can sense it every time. Sociopaths like this can’t really succeed.

missamourcali · 2020-09-25T18:02:05+00:00

In other things that never happened, my student loans were forgiven and when I woke up today my breasts grew two cups 🙄

Whoever wrote this hasn't had oral from a biological woman since maybe that one time sophomore year and hasn't stopped obsessing over never having it again.

amiexistential · 2020-09-25T21:53:17+00:00

sounds like a sociopath

2020-09-26T01:32:54+00:00

Ladies, we all date one of these guys at some point. That's why this type of guy likes younger women. They fall for it! Sad.

monaaloha · 2020-09-26T02:33:54+00:00

this is exactly my ex. what an asshole. to think i was so genuine and loyal and trusted him so much. i don't get angry a lot and i rarely hate people. i don't hate him. but such an imbalance in the world, where one human can go through so much pain for no reason.. he will feel the pain. maybe not this year. but some time in his life.

Levelupmama · 2020-09-26T11:11:23+00:00

Wow.

bossbabekaren2point0 · 2020-09-28T10:40:51+00:00

And then you have these goofs screaming “well if she got with a good guy, she wouldn’t be treated like this!”. Disgusting.

Title	Stay aware
Author	nycgirlhere
Upvotes	1026
Comments	186
Date	September 25, 2020 5:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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