Daily Community Chat Megathread

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-16T18:53:36+00:00

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdG8qU6L/?k=1

Did she get some kinda work done or do you think it’s a natural transformation from lifting and bulking up?

Slipthe · 2022-05-16T18:46:05+00:00

I've finally started curling my hair and putting on makeup just to run errands, and I'm actually getting double takes from people in the wild.

The one downside was eating corn on the cob and getting lipstick all over it.

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-16T18:45:31+00:00

What exofiliants do you guys use or recommend?

I hear a lot of negativity about physical exfoliants, but I personally like them, do you guy have any recs?

What about chemical ones?

I have this tan that I really really want to get rid of, and exfoliation would really help with that.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-05-16T18:24:30+00:00

Are incels completely harmless or does a rise in sexless young men increase crime

Traditional_Drive922 · 2022-05-16T17:52:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/uqud9p/bf_cheated_on_me_because_of_my_sexual_past/

Every single woman in that thread spouting the same old "tHE pASt DOeSn't mAttER" refrain. People always tell me I'm wrong because I don't believe the average lifetime n-count is somewhere in the neighborhood of 7, but women can't help but tell on themselves.

figuringMylife · 2022-05-16T17:39:51+00:00

what percent of ppd is cap?

i really be wanting to believe most of what i read on reddit because life is more fun that way but some stuff i’m just like cmonnnnnnn

rubisco-red · 2022-05-16T17:30:25+00:00

all the unhappy single guys here says girls love criminals but i don't see any of them commiting to a life of crime

smh where's the effort, y'all?

scwizard · 2022-05-16T17:19:53+00:00

So you think those girls lounging around on the grass in their bikinis in the park are single?

It's a tantalizing possibility. But no way in heck am I gonna ask any of them.

baresquad · 2022-05-16T17:10:05+00:00

How can men who struggle with dating know so much about men who don’t?

Everything down to hypothetical red flags, he’s an asshole, he’s Chad, he’s a bad boy etc.

If these 2 men experience extremely different dating realities a person that struggles can’t speak for somebody who doesn’t, and vice versa

Slipthe · 2022-05-16T17:06:54+00:00

If you could do one thing to a scammer short of killing them or injuring them, what would you do to give them a bad time?

sritaunicelular · 2022-05-16T17:02:53+00:00

I really do believe both TRP and FDS are in many ways similar and meant for each other, like a match made in sexy extremist hell.

They're both opposite sides of the same dating coin: reactionary, mostly radicalized movements that emerged after they've realized how broken the current dating world is.

They both advocate for going back to "traditional roles" they have a long list of demands/requirements (for a potential life partner) they both advocate for keeping people around for casual sex and fun, they both think the other gender is mostly broken and responsible for their troubles. They both advocate for forms of self improvement, they both teach playing games that can get them exactly what they want, and they're both a circle jerk that doesn't allow external opinions.

scwizard · 2022-05-16T17:01:16+00:00

These age differences bely huge differences by gender. Among men, those younger than 30 are by far the most likely to be single: About half of men in this age group (51%) are single

Meanwhile:

Roughly three-in-ten women ages 18 to 29 (32%) are single.

And on top of that only 61% of single women that age are looking for anything. Which brings it down to 1 in 5.

1 in 5 isn't too bad actually.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-05-16T16:44:29+00:00

FDS: don’t shame women for Onlyfans and E-girl work! They should be allowed to do whatever they want.

FDS in my DMs: you are exactly what’s wrong with men: fratboy who dated a stripper! Scrotes like you are the problem!

Like, what?!

scwizard · 2022-05-16T16:42:03+00:00

Chads of PPD how common is it for her to have a boyfriend?

Would you still wanna sleep with someone if you knew she was in a relationship?

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-16T16:36:38+00:00

Damn one of my YouTube comments is at 9.9k likes, is this how it feels like to be famous?

scwizard · 2022-05-16T16:35:44+00:00

I feel you I’m so glad to be out of the dating world. If me and my bf don’t pan out for some reason then I’ve decided I’m gonna stay single forever

...

Yeah I’d stay single, or only date women (I’m bi) or adopt 4 cats. I’m leaning toward 4 cats atm.

Thank god I met my partner irl juuuuust before Tinder became the norm.

...

Big same. If my partner and I break up I’ll probably never date another man. I’m going to lean hard into my unfulfilled sapphic fantasies.

Talk is soooooo cheap. That is all.

scwizard · 2022-05-16T16:24:15+00:00

I was 124 lbs when I was 11 years old, that dude is a SHRIMP

124lbs at age 11 is extremely obese. Isn't it?

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-16T16:14:59+00:00

I’m gonna get flamed for this, but it kinda sucks that I can’t wear anything rainbow themed or rainbow coloured without people assuming I’m part of the LGBT community.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-05-16T16:14:39+00:00

Unpopular opinion but a lot of guys are struggling with dating because they are actually not enough of a loser

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-16T16:03:10+00:00

I knew a woman who said she used to rub her partner's semen on her face because it contained some shit called "spermine", which allegedly helps with anti-aging, wrinkles, etc.

Is this something that women do? I've never known a woman who did, but I was curious whether that's just because I hang around different social circles.

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2022-05-16T15:38:28+00:00

Is there anyone who isn't from the USA on this subreddit? It makes me wonder why am I even on this subreddit as someone from the UK, when there's almost no one from the UK on here. Granted the UK is quite similar to the USA in terms of culture and dating. The subreddit should be renamed "USAdatingdebate".

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-05-16T15:33:16+00:00

Does that mean he doesn’t want a blow job ever either? Or is it different when it’s your own cum?

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/uqma6j/what_are_the_chances_that_my_gf_sucked_another/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-16T15:05:14+00:00

How many of you enjoy the rain? I remember reading books written from European authors and wondering why they used negative words to describe the weather when it was dark, gloomy or raining. How much they liked summer.

While in the equatorial countries… with the hot sun burning us most of the time rain is such a nice respite. I personally find rain super fun.

rubisco-red · 2022-05-16T14:36:14+00:00

what's up with the IQ-obsessed subgroups of the internet? It also seems correlated with "nice guy" types.

I never meet people who are obsessed with their own intelligent irl... including professors and students in university who are literally among the most intelligent people in the world.

lepengwin · 2022-05-16T14:33:31+00:00

How often do you think "pity dates" happen?

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-16T13:56:37+00:00

Why do kids bully other kids in school?

figuringMylife · 2022-05-16T13:41:44+00:00

should women put up with cheating from specific men?

and if your answer is yes, should they just have an open relationship?

my biggest concern would be kids outside the marriage and baby mama drama. honestly, when i first came to reddit i thought i would potentially be more ashamed of my past because all the n count threads and hate. i was really open to having my view changed. after 2 failed LTRs, 1 engagement i just wanted to kinda know if i was the problem. compatibility is the biggest issue.

but genuinely the more time i spend on here the more i realize that nothing matters. absolutely nothing. shitty men will be shitty and good men will be good. i’m still not ready to date and it sucks because i’m so ready for kids.

extra questions; what’s the hardest thing about dating and what are you currently willing to compromise on?

scwizard · 2022-05-16T13:29:27+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/redditsecurity/comments/tyiymt/prevalence_of_hate_directed_at_women/

Does this mean ppd is at risk?

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-16T13:22:21+00:00

Gonna sound weird but does anybody else have a really hard time jerking off while standing up? I had to get one out at work so I went to a work restroom stall and tried to do it but it doesn’t feel right while standing up

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-16T12:48:14+00:00

Breakup over laundry

So this is gonna be minimizing but I feel like that was their 1st fight and they're in for a rough time if that was their reaction.

Q4A: How do you process an argument? How do you cooldown from being mad at your spouse?

I know everyone is different. For me, I tend to just separate for a while and think about how I'm going to word what I really want to say vs. being emotional and saying the wrong thing. It may come off as silent treatment, but it's not.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-05-16T12:39:12+00:00

So, I'm on vacay down here in the good ol' Orlando

I'm thinking today will be a good time to post my first ever shirtless pics! (well, not the first ones I've taken, but the first ones that will be shown to the public.)

It all depends on the timing (as in, what time we go to the beach/pool) and if the angles I can get are flattering enough!

Also Florida thunderstorms feel so different compared to the ones that happen in North or South Carolina or Tennessee

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-16T12:31:05+00:00

I want to put something witty here

But my brain is going 2 mph from this antihistamine

NalkaNalka · 2022-05-15T18:50:05+00:00

Hearing "I wouldn't consider a single mother because that means she has bad judgement" from self declared undesireable men is kinda funny when you consider that woman having bad judgement is the only way she is going to get with you in the first place.

Netheral · 2022-05-15T19:40:34+00:00

"It's not about getting them laid, it's about encouraging them to be well adjusted members of society. Sex will follow."

Do people actually believe that 30% of young men are unadjusted members of society?

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-15T20:26:14+00:00

Suicide is a leading cause of death in the United States, with 45,979 deaths in 2020. This is about one death every 11 minutes. The number of people who think about or attempt suicide is even higher. In 2020, an estimated 12.2 million American adults seriously thought about suicide, 3.2 million planned a suicide attempt, and 1.2 million attempted suicide.

Men are like 4 times more likely to die by suicide.

Suicide claims more lives than war, murder, and natural disasters combined. We have an ongoing mental health crisis.

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-16T01:27:26+00:00

The suns sub made their sub private LOL.

I think I’m gonna ease up on trolling my suns fan friend tonight.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-15T20:06:38+00:00

I’m a security guard and ain’t no way am I ever risking my life doing this job like the security guard in the Buffalo shooting did. If there was in active shooter in the building I work I’d be on the subway back home in like 4 seconds

rivetcitymayor · 2022-05-15T23:24:37+00:00

Anyone who takes the sub true rate me seriously is a raging idiot .

The Girl be a cutie and the ratings are like “ meh 5“

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-05-16T01:43:53+00:00

Podcast ho’s talking about how the competition isn’t that stiff for guys, just be confident

Second comment killed me, great advice from two mids lol…like yea obvi neither of you are that hot in the first place, they see the competition as weak because the see the guys coming up to them as below their leagues

fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-05-15T19:08:13+00:00

Man what I've learned in the last few "income vs Labour" threads is that so many people here do not actually love their partners.

Lmao. Thank god I'm married, I'm totally just going to tell all my single friends to bring up division of labour before committing to a relationship, and if the man lies to them to remember that conversation so that they don't feel bad when they leave.

Cause my proposal of " just hash it out so you're on the same page" never seem to get any replies except for "hypergaaaaaaamy". Like just fine someone who has the same values as you do, otherwise it's like forcing a square peg into a round hole

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-05-15T19:25:30+00:00

I don't know why some guys who think sex is important in a relationship also want a trad woman considering alot of them have hang ups around sex

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-15T20:25:32+00:00

The appropriate response to getting a blowjob:

1: "Thank you madame"

2: "That was swell"

&

3: Just giving a thumbs up

purplish_possum · 2022-05-16T03:30:13+00:00

Your crazy ass GF won't get out of your car? Drive to the carwash and blast her out with the high pressure wand.

I love my job. My clients never fail to entertain.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-15T19:08:53+00:00

Guess who finally made it to the green ranks in Tekken 😎

RatDontPanic · 2022-05-15T21:27:06+00:00

Incel this, Incel that. All these dudes on here rant about how hard it is to get a woman.

If only you men knew the hell awaiting you when you actually get her

scwizard · 2022-05-15T22:10:54+00:00

Did you know women can be sexually attracted to and enjoy having sex with guys who are not "chad."

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-16T00:59:08+00:00

With how popular big butts are now you would think we would see more actresses with fat butts but all these popular actresses are stick thin, why is this?

IveGotIssues9918 · 2022-05-16T01:03:00+00:00

I wanted to expound on the comments I posted yesterday about the whole "women have inflated egos bc they won't fuck guys in their league" and using college admissions as a metaphor for dating:

Let's assume that the guy saying "I'm an 8 and she's a 6 but she won't suck my dick, fucking slut must think she's a supermodel!" is actually being accurate in assessing his own attractiveness and the attractiveness of the woman. This is a MASSIVE assumption, since people who think like this tend to be hyperaware of minor physical flaws in men AND women (but especially women).

Just because she turned you down does not mean that she thinks she is better than you, because just because something is "high status" does not mean that it's automatically everyone's ideal option.

Using college admissions as a metaphor, it would be like someone assuming that I didn't apply to Harvard because I thought I deserved BETTER than Harvard somehow. No, I didn't apply because I didn't want to attend- Boston is a weird city, it's cold, Harvard's campus is austere and unwelcoming, they're one of the worst top-ranked schools in terms of financial aid, and they didn't offer the major I was applying for at the time. Likewise, some dude may be a perfect 10/10 physically, but he might be weird or frightening or his grooming/fashion sucks or he's one of those guys who would propose with a Ring Pop or he just doesn't have anything in common with her whatsoever. It has nothing to do with thinking that she's "above" him and everything to do with him simply not being the best option for her.

You can be the most "objectively" attractive man in the world (which isn't even possible since attractiveness is inherently subjective) and you still won't be every woman's ideal option. And even if you ARE someone's ideal option at first, you can still fuck it up.

Lysa_Bell · 2022-05-16T06:29:31+00:00

"not even the fat girl wants to suck my cock. OLD really inflated the ego of these sluts" 🙄

And guys that talk like this are surprised not every woman wants to jump on their dick when they shame every woman for jumping on dick.

lulll · 2022-05-15T19:10:23+00:00

hello women please put the fucking cute sundress on now why arent you wearing a sundress are you STUPID?

eye_fuck · 2022-05-15T19:44:13+00:00

You, sluts, are not bad people. At least some of you. Some sluts I know have genuinely nice, charming, kind personalities. But some of the stuff they did is just icky. And that's okay. Not being desirable for everyone is okay. Being judged for your behaviour and past actions is okay. Don't be mad

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-15T22:51:15+00:00

Who exactly is a child free person being selfish towards? I only ask bc when I say I’m on the fence my family is bewildered and goes “Not even one? That’s so selfish.” To who?

It’d be selfish to bring a kid into the world when I can’t take proper care of them.

figuringMylife · 2022-05-16T00:45:03+00:00

i wish i were sucking an average fat chad dick rn. i hate being alpha widowed 😩

SSCookieLover · 2022-05-16T02:36:25+00:00

I confessed, she said yes, I said kek now I got a gf.

yeoldname · 2022-05-16T03:29:09+00:00

I got lost on the dark web and realize that crime is very alluring. The thought of being capable of counterfeiting money sounds so….fun.

bludkraze · 2022-05-16T05:16:26+00:00

Spent weekend at the pool and grill with family and friends and now i caught a cold for some stupid reason. Maybe AC dunno... Perfect weather and i am sick.

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-15T22:24:22+00:00

It always makes me laugh how some men bring up “if women can get abortions without a man’s say, then men shouldn’t have to pay child support if they don’t want to”.

They say this like this is a serious problem that most men actually suffer from. The vast majority of men are not getting baby trapped, you aren’t Cristiano Ronaldo ffs. No woman wants to have a baby with your bum-ass, get over yourself.

scwizard · 2022-05-15T22:37:00+00:00

Question for single women, are you interested in a long term relationship right now, or are you waiting until you're older before looking for that?

If there are any single women here still.

AquaChip · 2022-05-15T23:29:14+00:00

Pasta, garlic, chili, oil, parsley and Parmesan is a great dinner food if you don’t feel like spending forever in the kitchen but you want something filling

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-16T00:03:17+00:00

My 3 yo made this today. I’m so proud of her😊

Slava Ukraini!!

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-16T00:52:37+00:00

Can someone provide me a conservative TV show, podcast, stand-up comic, YouTuber, ANYTHING that is actually funny?

I'm just starting to think conservatives are lacking humor and that's why they suck.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-16T02:44:38+00:00

Do you think liking kinda chubby girls makes it easier to get laid? Guys on this sub keep saying different things. Sometimes they say that even thicker girls only want Chad and sometimes they say”You only get laid because you like chubby women, they’re easy to fuck!” Which is it 🤔

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-05-16T11:01:43+00:00

People here underestimate the power of word choice.

People are not going to understand you if you improperly use words and disregard their meanings. So yes, semantics matter. We are not mind readers. It's your job to properly describe what you're talking about.

Just like if someone asks "Do I look fat in this dress", saying "You look like a land whale in it" and "Lets get you a bigger size" will get different reactions, even though both answers are basically "yes" and just being honest.

Will have a bigger list later.

meteorness123 · 2022-05-15T18:18:31+00:00

Having a good physique in your thirties and forties is far more important than having hair in your thirties and forties.

Not just for asthetics but for your health. We all think we're going to be young forever but we won't. Our bodies age. Take care of it and don't waste your thoughts on superficilaties such as hair.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-05-15T18:35:39+00:00

Obviously it could be either gender but I'm just going traditional set up here

Obviously it depends on what you decide to do as a couple but if your guy is bringing home enough money to take care of both of you as well as any potential children you may have, yeah you can dust up the house, be the primary nurturer for the kids until he gets home ( and let's be honest, outside of any outliers they're going to be at school for a long portion of the day as well as whatever extracurricular activities that they're signed up for) , having a hot meal on the table throughout the week, as well as keep him sexually satisfied to a respectable level.

A " MoMmY mCBaNg mAiD" as the FDSers used to call it lol

Nobody's saying it's not hard work being the traditional wife in a relationship and I know that with times these days in particular that kind of lifestyle is harder and harder to obtain, I just think it's funny when these females DO have these scenarios or talk about wanting them, they talk about "you can hire somebody to clean the house", " we can go out to eat more", " you're not entitled to sex", etc., basically just continuing to give another reason why she in particular is not needed lol

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-15T18:42:24+00:00

There are two distinct ways in which a person can be insane, divergence from the common beliefs and axioms held by his community/society will cause him to be labelled crazy. Usually this divergence will be away from the truth because most individuals are not that much smarter than accumulated wisdom of his ancestors, tested against nature. There are also many many ways to be wrong and only one direction which is right.

But it's also possible to become "saner" than most people and see the world with clarity. Such rational people would also technically have beliefs that diverge from the consensus but would be more true and thus more sane. But as far as most people are concerned, they are also equally crazy.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-15T18:46:26+00:00

Genghis Khan is metal as fuck. He killed so many people that he lowered global temperature by a few degrees (environmentalist?). Also, most people in Asia are descended from him (harem?). This dude is doing it right.

RatDontPanic · 2022-05-15T19:14:06+00:00

What Happened When I Traded Passion For Comfort In My Marriage

biggestuzifanea · 2022-05-15T19:51:47+00:00

I dont see any attractive girls at this abortion protest, they're all big, not into men, too old for kids or not born with a uterus

rivetcitymayor · 2022-05-15T20:46:33+00:00

Every dude Who gets posted here, the women be like : “ meh 5-6/10 “ so who do y’all find attractive ? Physically only

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-05-15T20:47:45+00:00

The subreddit for redpilled women makes no sense to me because if you agree with the red pill and think sexual strategy is genuinely amoral shouldn't they encourage women to do things like lie about their sexual past, keep obiters around for free stuff and engage in AF/BB?

Siukslinis_acc · 2022-05-15T21:11:14+00:00

Day 32 of music sharing. The HU - Yuve Yuve Yu Some mongolian throat singing.

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-15T21:56:42+00:00

I think I realized an important trait that TRP should be emphasising more, Dignity.

The appearance of dignity is when you don't externally get angry or emotional at people for behaving the way they ought to, even if those actions hurt you. This can be them calling out your incompetence, giving you constructive criticism, rejecting your sexual advances.

True dignity is not even blaming them or feeling resentment internally for this slight. Not even subconsciously taking revenge in the future.

This is an important trait to cultivate because people are comfortable in your presence. They don't have to tip toe around your fragile ego.

Girls can date you and know that they can always back out. They know you are laid back and chill. You respect yourself enough to hold yourself to high standards of behaviour.

You won't spread bad rumours, stalk her, make it hard. You are low risk to date and see where it goes.

EDIT: I guess this is part of being stoic and maintaining frame.

scwizard · 2022-05-15T22:24:19+00:00

He shouldn’t worry. My husband was concerned himself but quickly realized nobody cares out there, we’re all equal. It isn’t meant to be a sexualized environment so- penis size isn’t much to be paid attention to. My husband isn’t particularly hung, and after getting out of that cold water there isn’t a porn star around who wouldn’t giggle 🤭 😂 never me though! 😉 Lol and that’s okay, we’re all natural and enjoying our natural beauty. That’s what it is! Uniqueness is beauty!

Edit: This isn’t an invitation to send me dick pics guys can’t believe I have to say that

Lmao I'm fucking dead.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-05-15T22:33:10+00:00

Q4A What animal do you think represents you best? I feel like for me it would be a monkey. Does that sound correct?

scwizard · 2022-05-15T23:54:42+00:00

I swear all horny girls are the same, Ainsleygz hitting me with the "boring" just like figuring did when I wouldn't sext her smh.

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-16T00:59:03+00:00

Suns fans watching this game right now.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-05-16T01:24:51+00:00

I'm gonna have a break from the partying for a bit I feel pretty lousy today, Thursday we had a spontaneous thing where the girl walked over to my house and we drank, Friday we went to a sports game (randomly met my co workers which was cool) and drank, and then yesterday we went out to the bars which was our main weekend plan, and that grand finale involved a lot of drugs and alcohol.

One week break! Lmao

MrMushySauce · 2022-05-16T01:39:28+00:00

Inspired by seeing a comment I made in a similar vein got some upvotes but not worth its own thread:

In my opinion the biggest con to dating after you're ~22 is how difficult it is to not discuss your occupation with dates. I don't know about y'all, but I feel like since I became a "real adult" (24 now) that's like one of the first 3 questions I hear from strangers (including but not limited to women) extremely consistently.

And I'm just mentioning that in comparison. Back in college on dates I always talked about... crazy shit I did with my friends, a bunch of interests like in music, sports, writing, maybe some sort of local event I'd been to recently, basically... I talked about my leisure time on dates, and that was totally cool with everyone. And to me that makes sense: I see the person I date during leisure time, so I want to talk about my leisure time with them. That's when I see them. If we connect and bond over that kind of stuff we'll probably get along well.

Idk, the whole 'so what do you do' and follow-ups often just feels like fishing for info to make a "rational decision" rather than an emotional connection. I am a more "soulful" person--and yes, I know it's a sign I'm not compatible with said people who are like this... but it's kind of a PSA to every adult in the dating world that like, yo, honest question: do you want a real, legitimate connection? Yes? Then leave the checkboxes alone and look at what's in front of you. Y'all got chemistry? You attracted? You feel comfortable? That's what matters... stop asking superficial shit, or I'm gonna start asking y'all your bra size and weight smh

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-05-16T03:13:31+00:00

Multiverse of Madness more like Multiverse of Mid am I right????

tgirlbreeder90 · 2022-05-16T03:41:27+00:00

Met a transwoman about 3 weeks ago. Going on our 5th date tonight

scwizard · 2022-05-16T04:10:57+00:00

Maybe it's cause of the breeding fetish thing but I think I'm the only guy in existence that doesn't like blowjobs.

Maybe I'd change my mind if I had one but just the idea of them is a turnoff.

Habil13 · 2022-05-16T10:42:18+00:00

This video is something I’d like to share.

DivineDaedra · 2022-05-15T18:00:22+00:00

FIRST

buncrumbs · 2022-05-15T19:07:35+00:00

I'm 23F and I feel like I've missed the boat. I don't have hope I'll find love and the person I'm looking for if I leave my current relationship. We are compatible in many ways and I love him so much but he's done some hurtful things like lie about porn use and searched up random acts of sex acts subreddits in his area but I don't think he cheated. I'm almost done college, I will have an employable degree. I don't think I'm a bad catch. I'm decently attractive (but getting older), dress well, am caring, have no health issues, don't want to hurt others, don't have serious mental health disorders, only slept with my current bf ever. I guess I was lucky (or not) to be in at least the 98th(or at least 95th) percentile intellectually as I was transferred to gifted public education in grade school. I just don't think I will meet someone who is on the same intellectual level, attractive to me, healthy, dresses decently, with a personality that fits mine, AND single, and probably my best chance to find someone like that is just gone since I'm graduating soon. My downsides are that I grew up in a poor and dysfunctional family, have been picked on by non "gifted" peers for my social anxiety, and probably have self esteem issues, which have gotten worse in my relationship. i don't think I'll meet anyone because my social skills are not good so it just feels like my only shot at love and marriage. Realistically, I don't think I have choices and I don't really know what to do. Life has been sad so far and I've lost a lot of hope and gained this terrible fear of time passing by and aging. So I can stay in my relationship, but every choice is scary to me.

DonQOnIce · 2022-05-15T20:15:13+00:00

Imagine being a Constitutional Originalist with a straight face.

Anhilator26 · 2022-05-15T20:46:06+00:00

Why is there such an inverse between intelligence and romantic/ social success? And which side would you rather be on?

(For the record I know there are outliers of people who excel in both, but going off generalities…)

2022-05-15T22:27:59+00:00

I just watched some of the videos of Sam Hyde coaching the guy from Epic Meal Time on how to box and it was weirdly inspiring, and it makes me want to do boxing. Maybe I’ll give it a shot several months down the line. I’ve got a decent amount of muscle but want to keep building and hopefully address my back, which I feel is a weak point for me right now

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-05-15T23:43:46+00:00

Still baffles me how so many people are delusional enough to believe in the Disney fairytale of finding "The One"

They don't exist.

slickle13 · 2022-05-15T23:45:18+00:00

My FWB caught me talking to my plants as I watered them. She hasn’t said anything and probably won’t but I know she saw and heard

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-16T00:12:01+00:00

Is it naive or odd of me to think missionary would be my favorite position. It always seems like it is referred to as the "boring" position, both on reddit and by my friends lol. But it seems like it would be great tbh. Maybe my inexperience is showing lol.

AquaChip · 2022-05-16T00:13:50+00:00

New Kendrick album is 😘👌

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-16T00:15:15+00:00

Q4A: Which celebrity (that is widely considered attractive) do you personally not find attractive?

For me it has to be Scarlett Johansson. She looks so weird to me.

BallisSTLife · 2022-05-16T00:29:18+00:00

Q4M would u rather have a 4 inch dick with balls or a 7 inch dick with no balls?!

rivetcitymayor · 2022-05-16T00:33:15+00:00

Everyone knows here i am body man but if she look like Rosario Dawson from the movie men in black , her body can be regular

figuringMylife · 2022-05-16T00:41:21+00:00

every day i think, do i really need to get married? could coparenting be just as efficient?

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-16T01:17:00+00:00

This makes me happy for the guy and I was smiling while reading this post but I also can’t imagine going through another ten years waiting for this lol.

Bandit174 · 2022-05-16T02:15:11+00:00

Q4M

would you support your girlfriend if she wants to get plastic surgery for something she's insecure about?

SKY_ACTIV3 · 2022-05-16T02:19:18+00:00

Q4M: do you value confidence in women?

I’m sure this has been asked a billion times before but I’m too lazy to search ngl

IveGotIssues9918 · 2022-05-16T02:31:09+00:00

Since the concept of "settling" is talked about on here constantly, let me share my own story of "settling". Here I am using "settling" to mean being with someone who you have no physical and/or mental attraction to simply for the sake of having a partner, not to mean getting with someone who doesn't check literally all of your boxes (i.e. "I like guys over 6 feet but I'm 'settling' for a 5'11" one who's perfect in every other way").

I definitely wasn't thinking that he was below my league in terms of looks, although I realized after getting to know him that he was far below my league in terms of intelligence and ambition. I wasn't physically attracted to him, but I definitely didn't think I deserved someone better. I was also still going through puberty (15) when this began, so I didn't really have a good grasp on what physical attraction even was (idk whether I was a late bloomer on this, but lust for a specific person was pretty much just a hypothetical for me until I was about 16).

We never had sex or did anything physical, although at the time this began I was knee-deep in purity culture, so I think that "dating" someone I didn't want to have sex with was subconsciously part of the point (because then my "purity" was "safe"). But that wasn't even close to being the worst part. We didn't really have interests in common, so hanging out felt like a chore where I had to pretend to laugh at shitty iFunny memes and he had to pretend to care about the upcoming presidential election. There were a lot of awkward silences and a lot of me forcing myself to watch some stupid YouTube video he was showing me only for him to not be willing to watch what I wanted to show him. And then there was the intelligence/ambition gap. I'd be worrying about an exam I just took and he'd be like "but did you pass? then why are you worried?" We argued about me not declining to take AP classes so that we could be in the same classes (the non-AP classes at my school were a fucking joke, and I needed to take as rigorous a schedule as possible so I could apply to top-tier colleges). Obviously, he wasn't keen on celebrating my accomplishments with me, but none of my so-called "friends" were- I'd learned to feel bad about succeeding because they treated it like an inconvenience to them. Because all of my peer relationships felt performative and like work, I didn't realize the extent to which something was wrong with the romantic one.

If he had looked the same but had a personality better suited to mine, I feel like we could have at least been good friends, and at that point in my life a romantic relationship would have probably still worked. If he had been more attractive to me physically but had the same personality... well, I didn't really have use for a "sex-thing" at that time in my life, or even now for that matter, so it wouldn't have improved anything besides giving me a better "status symbol" to show off to people outside of school.

My opinion is that no one should consciously be settling with someone if the physical OR mental attraction is not there, never mind neither being there. As my principal said at graduation after this was all said and done, "It is better to be alone than to be in bad company."

AutoModerator · 2022-05-15T18:00:12+00:00

Attention!

You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message.
For "CMV" and "Question for X" Threads: Parent comments that aren't from the target group will be removed, along with their child replies.
If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view or if the question is not targeted at you, post it as an answer to this comment.
OP you can choose your own flair according to these guidelines., just press Flair under your post!

Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion!

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

ppd_reject · 2022-05-15T20:27:09+00:00

I'm really tired of these e-thots taking half-naked pictures to get their point across. Have some self-respect and cover those. Nobody wants to bring someone like this to their momma.

Mark_Freed · 2022-05-15T20:34:23+00:00

Damn that was sad… feels like a super villain origin story 10:13 has the conclusion.

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-15T21:33:26+00:00

When you hear sex is not that big of a deal and then you read stuff like this. I do feel bad though. I think she might have to end the relationship.

Remarkable_Sort_1706 · 2022-05-15T21:46:00+00:00

Q4W- Is it a turnoff during sex if a man asks if you are enjoying a specific act? Like if I was fingering her and I asked "Does that feel good?" or "Do you like that?"

I have been told if I am going to ask stuff like that to phrase it in a specific way or to keep it sexy. How can I ask a question like that without killing the mood?

ppd_reject · 2022-05-15T22:16:09+00:00

Boyfriend material: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFbkUAgxK4Q

You guys should raccoonmax.

scwizard · 2022-05-15T22:46:37+00:00

I made a Q4W thread to see just how not single the not single women here are.

How many of them plan their thing to be for life and how many just want someone to cuddle with until The One shows up?

DonQOnIce · 2022-05-16T01:43:06+00:00

Old was a very weird but good movie. Revitalized my weekend full of shit movies (Firestarter and Morbius) before this.

tired_hillbilly · 2022-05-16T03:47:58+00:00

Earlier in the daily chat I mentioned that I saw videos of Sam Hyde coaching someone for a boxing event and thought it was inspiring. Well, I went on to watch more of his stuff and I’m pleasantly surprised to find that he seems to be more genuine in his speech now. I don’t know if it’s a real change he made or if I just never kept up with the guy, but I think a lot of the stuff he says resonates with guys like me that didn’t grow up with a real, admirable role model or father figure.

Sam Hyde himself is kind of an enigma, in the sense that it can be hard to tell what is satire and what is genuine. I think that he makes for a better motivator than a lot of other influencers trying to sell you their products because of one key difference. Other influencers want you to be like them; you follow all their advice to become like them, to become more manly, whatever. With Sam Hyde, he serves more as a cautionary tale of what not to be. Taking his image at face value, he seems to be a mess, maybe racist, anti-Semitic, you name it. I don’t know how much of that is true and how much of it is ironic, but what does seem real is that he has been around long enough in similar situations as a lot of Gen Z kids are experiencing now to show you that the other influencers have it wrong and there is no magical solution that Jordan Peterson or whoever can sell you.

Sam’s brand of crazy isn’t quite the same as mine, but it’s close enough that I feel like some of his advice is poignant

Drunk rant over

scwizard · 2022-05-16T05:23:34+00:00

Wow apparently a lot of girls on twox have had dads that have called them an s word.

That's so tragic...

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-05-16T06:23:12+00:00

Now that I've seen all 5 movies from Phase 4 of the MCU I can properly rank them:

Spider-Man: No Way Home
Shang Chi
Multiverse of Madness
Black Widow
Eternals

4 and 5 can be interchangeable because they're both fucking ass cheeks.

meteorness123 · 2022-05-16T09:23:48+00:00

I'm so jealous of beta buckses. You guys get to have a family and children. Basically what really matters.

All the fucking in your twenties is utterly useless.

YourMomGarglesMyCum · 2022-05-15T22:03:33+00:00

What point is there to dating and sex if you’re not Chad?

Wouldn’t any woman just be settling for you? I wouldn’t want a woman to be with me just because she can’t get anything better.

bussy_decimator · 2022-05-15T21:01:25+00:00

Just recontacted with my cousin after a long time.

Amazing how she still doesn’t hate me even though i made her uncomfortable with weak sexual advances and made fool of myself a lot of times next to her. I cringe to myself thinking about those moments, the shame is real, but somehow she doesn’t remember or care, how?? All would have ended with any other women + they would hold against everything stupid and unmanly things i did and humiliate me for them, because that's how women work, never thought a single human female could be ontologically capable of tolerance and indulgence.

Maybe that's why i adore her, keep her above other women, she is fucking elite.

Daily Community Chat Megathread

Comments

a feminism.

Title	Daily Community Chat Megathread
Author	AutoModerator
Upvotes	5
Comments	1642
Date	May 15, 2022 6:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/uqbm6q/daily_community_chat_megathread/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/daily-community-chat-megathread.1114130 https://theredarchive.com/post/1114130