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My fellow men on this subreddit who love to complain about how sex starved they are often point out to the fact that the average young man is sexless and partner-less. This absolutely makes sense when you consider just how sub-par the average man is in the eye of women. The average man

• Is not very masculine at all; lacks healthy competitiveness, decisiveness, ambition and assertiveness or leadership, and if he does he often uses it in an immature fashion rather than a way that makes him admirable instead of intimidating to women. If you are genuinely a non-masculine man thats fine but you should seek masculine women in this case.
• Has poor hygiene, this includes a skin routine and hair routine, bathing and scrubbing their body regularly and maintaining good dental health
• Has poor style; doesn't dress in a way that suits his body or in a way that maximizes his good qualities and minimizes his less flattering ones
• Doesn't have a haircut that suits his face
• Doesn't gym CONSISTENTLY or effectively (In 2019, only 20.7% of men participated in sports, exercise, and recreational activities every day according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics), so hes out of shape
• Doesn't train to increase his muscle mass while being as lean as possible to reduce facial and overall body fat which will make him more attractive. Doesn't increase the size of his shoulders/back/forearms/trunk (the most attractive areas to women) so as to make himself more visually attractive
• If they do gym consistently they often don't eat and or sleep properly to actually see gains or lose body fat
• Is addicted to porn and or video games
• Has a warped view of women and relationships in general or holds a sense of entitlement with regards to sex
• they don't act like the man they would want their girlfriends to desire, they try to act like other men who attract the women they truly despise and only want to use for their bodies
• Lacks a genuine hustle and ambition in regards to his goals and career; you don't need to be rich to get a girlfriend, but most women want a man who displays a hustle and drive in regards to achieving their career goals, so if you don't have money, at-least show that you are actively trying to get it

This is essentially the core argument of the looksmax red pill, but if you fix half of these you are already much better than the average man. Its not easy but nothing worth having is easy in this life. You should be THANKFUL that your peers are so unappealing that you only have to do a few things (with DEDICATION) to put yourself far above them.

If you add in the intangible aspects of fixing your mental well being by practicing good mental health habits such as mindfulness, and cultivating a genuine, kind-hearted personality that captivates and is charismatic to those around him and doesn't expect rewards just for being kind but sees kindness as its own reward, you'll be far and away better than most of your peers. Yes, you can be jacked and have a high paying job but if you're a dickhead or lack an actual personality and interests, you won't get very far with the majority of women. You may have unfulfilling and meaningless vapid sex with soulless women but thats about it.

Lastly, stop placing such a value on smashing your genitals together with someone. All you're doing is contributing to the downfall of your fellow man when they perceive they aren't getting the correct amount of sex or attention from the opposite gender. It is much more noble and manly to conquer a single woman for life, and you do so by becoming the most optimal version of yourself so as to attract a woman whom you can have a meaningful relationship with.

Counter arguments:

Why is the onus on me, the man, to improve myself just so i can get a woman? Most women don't have to do anything to get a date or sex

1. You should seek to become the best version of yourself not just to find a suitable partner, but because it will have benefits to your physical and mental health and personal and professional life as-well, there are plenty of studies that show the benefits being attractive has on life
2. You and the rest of men are responsible for collectively having such low standards for whom you'll smush your genitals with, tell your male friends to raise their standards not just in looks but in personality and values and everything else for the women they'll sleep with. Women generally have higher standards for who they'll have sex with, men have higher standards for who they'll commit to, I say have high standards for both.
3. If men as a whole were more selective with who they slept with women would probably be less selective with whom they sleep with. Alas, we are not. So this is how it is.
4. As a man you should relish a challenge and the opportunity to prove you are better than your peers, not complain that you actually have to put in work to attain something you want as though pussy or a girlfriend is supposed to fall upon your feet like you're a 70s rockstar

I've done all this/I'm the perfect man and still can't get a date or sex

No you haven't. I truly do not want to hear that you are a 6'2, jacked, handsome white man with a well paying job who is also charismatic and warm/friendly but for some reason you cannot get past a second or third date, or get a date at-all let alone a girlfriend. Odds are you're not that handsome or jacked or tall, and you probably are not nearly as charismatic or interesting personality wise as you think. Worse yet, you may lack social awareness or have made a critical oversight in your appraisal of yourself. I am a 5'9 average looking on my best day black man who is on the skinnier side and I have had no issues having relationships or getting interest from/with average women in a large city.

If you truly know that you embody all that I have suggested yet still cannot get a girl in any capacity then my hats off to you for being a statistical anomaly and you should probably never gamble any amount of money being so unlucky.

I can get girls/attention from girls just not the ones that I truly desire.

You attract what you are worth and what you reflect.

I am a 4'11 ugly/disfigured man

God bless you but you are not the average man and therefor not the target of this post, you are a very very small statistical minority who truly has the hardest road towards maximizing your attractiveness and getting a girl. I wish you luck and I have seen men like this (who are not rich) still get a girlfriend, but the vast majority of men do not fall under this category.

If you do not fall under this category please do not say that you cannot become attractive.

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