The most common dating advice for men is get yourself out there and do a bunch of different activities and events. I think its the best advice we got but what people fail to realize is women just do not go out that much.

After a year of constantly getting myself out there every day I had various success but kind of came to the conclusion that because my new mid-size city that I’m living in is not Chicago, LA or Miami, it just doesn’t attract that many young women, especially evident this past winter. I do a lot of social activities and stuff you think would not be male dominated like dancing but everything is mostly men.

After months of my downtown in winter looking like a ghosttown we are finally in summer and now come the outside activities and wow everything is super full and lively. There’s actually a normal ratio of men to women and sometimes more women than men.

Correct me if I’m wrong but I think it’s accepted fact that men go out at night a lot more than women and obviously outdoor places like a downtown are more full in summer. There’s a lot more happiness in the air in the summer. I’m not trying to point out something profoundly new, just that there’s a major flaw with get yourself out there.

We have a society in the US focused on existing in private spaces while in other places people exist more in public spaces. It’s kind of hard to get yourself out there when everybody else is not. That’s my explanation for the loneliness and third place discussion as well.