What are The weirdest dating preferences that you've heard from any gender ?

kalashhhhhhhh · 2025-02-01T23:30:18+00:00

The spoiled brat who turns down people because they don't have an iphone lol

Eater0fChildren · 2025-02-01T21:43:07+00:00

It shocks me the amount of women who take astrology very seriously. I am a male gemini which is apparently the worst thing you can possibly be, and several women have admitted they've almost refused to date me because of it.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2025-02-02T00:18:18+00:00

One that people don’t seem to call out but it’s kinda the weirder you think about it

People who talk about how they want their thug/gangbanger/hood dude but seem to want a fairytale ending with said dude (If you know, you know)

Not to say it’s impossible, but it’s such a “Really?” moment

Generally, anytime your preferences lack congruency it’s gonna turn out kinda weird in its own way

operajunkie · 2025-02-01T21:42:49+00:00

People who have a gaggle of kids and absolutely insist on dating someone with no kids baffle me. Like sir or madam, be serious.

CatallaxyRanch · 2025-02-01T23:49:41+00:00

The guy on this sub years ago who said he wouldn't date women who use menstrual cups because it demonstrates bad character.

Big-Sir7034 · 2025-02-01T21:24:23+00:00

Only weird one I’ve encountered personally is not wanting to date bi people when the person themselves is bi.

A-Queef-In-The-Night · 2025-02-01T23:56:34+00:00

A woman once stopped talking to me because I informed her I would not be cumming in her mouth so she could then spit it back into mine.

That was her dealbreaker.

RocketYapateer · 2025-02-01T21:41:48+00:00

For men, I once knew a guy who was extremely fixated on teeth, to the point where a Miss America pageant winner would be 1/10 to him if she had bad teeth or crooked teeth. He was a coworker, so I don’t know what happened to him or if he found his perfect toothed other half.

For women, an odd duck I knew when I was younger who spent 100% of her free time playing Magic the Gathering, and absolutely refused to consider any man who didn’t play that card game. She found one and has been happily married for over 15 years.

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-02-01T21:13:41+00:00

Had a woman one time who wanted to choke me while she rode me. I was in my adventurous era but on that day I learned I am indeed not a sub.

qwertyuduyu321 · 2025-02-01T21:20:53+00:00

What are The weirdest dating preferences that you've heard from any gender ?

I had a fairly attractive woman asking for a picture of my belly button....

abaxeron · 2025-02-01T22:44:42+00:00

Astrology/MBTI compatibility, when required by women with STEM, psychology, medicine, or sociology degrees. Like... wth, are you proudly signalling your professors wasted years on you?

Shaman_stamen · 2025-02-01T21:03:45+00:00

Once heard a woman say a “man in a starched shirt” - granted we were at a Christmas party in a wealthy neighborhood.

DoubleFistBishh · 2025-02-02T00:13:07+00:00

I went on a date with a guy and we went back to his place to watch a movie. We got hungry so we went to go pick up some food. On the way back he told me I couldn't eat any of my food in his car which was fine. It's his car. Only thing is he ate almost his whole meal while we drove back to his place. We both ordered the same meal.

aslfingerspell · 2025-02-02T06:09:06+00:00

I knew a bisexual guy who had a thing for "pre-cum", but not semen in general. Very specifically pre-ejaculate fluid. I know the whole point of a fetish is to be obsessive and specific, but I have never seen or heard of anyone else who makes this kind of distinction

I knew a woman who liked "institutional bondage", because of the overwhelming power of a government, society, or organization.

Like, imagine your fantasy is being arrested during a protest of an authoritarian regime or being committed to a mental hospital.

Direct-Alternative70 · 2025-02-01T21:43:49+00:00

Since I date both I’ll give an example for each

Man- I want my woman to be okay with me giving her shit in front of my friends. : I asked for more details and essentially he wanted to pose as the guy that can talk to his gf/wife in a rude way to impress his friends.

Woman- I want my gf to like licking my toes. : when I asked for more details she said she enjoyed having her toes licked after she showers.

Sholnufff · 2025-02-02T02:12:43+00:00

One girl did not want to date me (Latina girl) because I wasn't the right skin tone of black. She wanted really really dark men.

So I introduced her to my Kenyan homeboy and he piped her till he had his fill and tossed her to the side.

Natural-Tear-2899 · 2025-02-02T04:27:49+00:00

People who won't date someone w a high body count, but have a high body count themselves. So glad people finally shut up & got over that

BeerNinjaEsq · 2025-02-02T00:22:36+00:00

I knew a girl who said "I don't like confident guys."

I thought that was very odd

Digitalidentity · 2025-02-02T03:14:28+00:00

I once heard a homie say "Its a huge turn off if I see her wear the same outfit twice". That mf had me flabbergasted.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-02T03:39:45+00:00

I can’t fuck a woman who has bad nails. Like chipped, not taken care off. Ewwww. Gross.

Filmguy000 · 2025-02-02T04:23:22+00:00

I met a staunch atheist girl that told me that she is open to dating most types of men if they click. But her one exception: she will NEVER date Capricorns.

ReflexSave · 2025-02-01T21:34:49+00:00

I've really never understood preferences based on wealth, status, or achievement. It's very common so I don't know if it counts as "weird", but it's always seemed very strange to me and missing the point.

Preferences around unhealthy body composition is another strange one, be it unreasonably skinny or obese.

BeginningOk3333 · 2025-02-02T00:54:41+00:00

short women not dating non-tall men

X race man/woman not wanting to date someone of their race

fat women not liking fat men

autistic women not liking autistic men

shy/introverted women disliking shy/introverted men

Key-Faithlessness-29 · 2025-02-03T05:24:31+00:00

Men wanting virgins. It always baffles me as a man. W

"Why would you want an inexperienced girl who doesn't know that she wants compared to someone who can please you better"

Always the insecurities of performance are so baffling to me. You just need to listen and communicate

Windmill_flowers · 2025-02-01T21:21:34+00:00

The one odd one that I've seen can be explained as follows:

I must first look within my own race for a relationship.

Only if I'm unable to find a suitable partner within my own race, will I then consider other races.

At the same time I don't believe I am racist

SteveSan82 · 2025-02-02T04:24:19+00:00

Women over 30 with a high notch count wanting the top 3% who only date women under 25 who work at McDonald’s and are virgins

PB-French-Toast-9641 · 2025-02-01T21:44:00+00:00

The last girl I dated showed me a picture of her next to a bear she had shot and for some reason I found that very hot

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No-Rough-7390 · 2025-02-01T21:50:49+00:00

A woman who was a prospective fitness competitor said she wanted to be with an average guy, even if she was not all that attracted to him, so that he never received more attention than she did and he would feel grateful to be with her (which disqualified me for said role long term).

Believe it or not, she was a lot of fun and a good time. Worked out well since I was dating non-exclusively.

TopShelfSnipes · 2025-02-01T21:51:40+00:00

There was this girl in college who as instantly attracted to a guy if she found out he played hockey. Didn't matter if he was on "the team" or not...just...if he played, period.

I played hockey. I went to a D1 college so I was most definitely not on the team.

Her response to that was to "flirt" with these guys by being aggressive, kicking shins, threatening to fight him, etc. She was, like, 5'3" and maaaaybe 110 pounds soaking wet.

I HATE getting my shins kicked after a lifetime of playing pickup without shin pads and taking more than a few sticks and pucks there over the years. So let's just say...the interest was NOT mutual, lol.

After I shot her down, the ironic thing is that I ended up going out with her friend for like 4 months. That's when I found out she was into me...hard, before I shot her down.

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-02-01T22:13:26+00:00

I’m hetero, but quite a few times I’ve received a compliment from a guy about how beautiful my hands are. And one guy even said this about my fingers.

Well, I also see that many girls like toned male forearms with venousness.

Realistic-Ad-1023 · 2025-02-02T00:31:47+00:00

Most preferences I can totally empathize with. I think the beauty of everyone having a different standard is that there is someone to like any sort of person. But there have been a few I was like wtf are you talking about?

My friend who is quite homely but really nice wants a woman into the outdoors, who is ultra femme, tall, beautiful, young, super religious, no past partners but takes all of the initiative to go on dates and make sexual advances. The dichotomy was… something. He doesn’t see the discrepancy.

My sister will only date buff biker guys. I can see the appeal but they’ve all been awful. And she wants to be a SAHM. She brings enough to the table to do so, but like, big brawly biker dudes? Daddy issues. Our dad was a big brawly biker. I ended up with a man his entire opposite. Kind, never raised his voice, a little feminine, can’t fix a thing, I’m currently tearing the bathroom sink apart to fix the stopper and found there are no water shut off valves and the faucet is fucked so I just went and replaced the whole lot of it. He is shorter than me like my father tho. Which is funny because they both seem so much larger than life to me. Maybe the confidence and big personality makes me see them in my head that way.

Another good example would be men who demand a woman under 125#. I get aesthetic preferences but like, someone at 5’ and 125 looks drastically different than I do at 5’7” and 125#. It was something about the number and he held to it. Still single.

And one of my own that might be weird is the line above a woman’s thigh when she’s thick. Like thick thigh and then she walks and a crease forms between her hips and thigh? i dont know it’s this thing. very good.

Good_Result2787 · 2025-02-02T01:50:34+00:00

I've had a couple of people who I thought were quite intensely interested in me and, upon further study, turned out they were but a lot of that interest rested on my being disabled and they were attracted to various aspects of that. Kept them at a distance after that.

Optimal_Apricot_6543 · 2025-02-02T04:35:57+00:00

I have a bunch of standards people would probably consider weirdly specific, strict, or hypocritical as I don’t fulfill all of them myself. Can’t watch porn, can’t be into video games, can’t drink energy drinks, can’t text me too much, can’t drink energy drinks, can’t be Over 6’, can’t post much on social media, has to like cats more than dogs, makes their bed daily

Somehow making a delusional and hypocritical red flag and green flag list manifested a man with every one of these traits. Although realistically I probably would have compromised on some.

AngelEyes_9 · 2025-02-02T10:49:28+00:00

"I want someone taller than me when I wear heels."

How is that weird? This has nothing to do with wearing heels or fashion. It's code for saying "I want a man who is significantly taller than me". The heels are just used for a good measure.

I have a mild myopia – I need lenses or glasses to work with a computer and especially for driving but I can sometimes go for a couple of days with using neither. I was dating a girl who wanted me to keep glasses during sex. She was like 8 years younger than me. She insisted on me wearing glasses not lenses when we were about to meet and she wrote me messages on whatsapp in advance to make sure I won't forget.

duncan-the-wonderdog · 2025-02-02T14:40:49+00:00

The "weirdest" preference I've heard of is my own: I'm a masculine chick and I won't enter into a LTR with a man who isn't feminine in some way or isn't willing to crossdress for me. I'm also starting to want to only date other bi people, but that's already been a trend for me.

I just want to be with someone I'm genuinely attracted to and GNC behavior/clothing is what does it for me. And guys in alt subcultures like goths and metalheads.

I have enough experience to know that this is what works for me and I have no reason to change or be ashamed of my desires.

thapussypatrol · 2025-02-02T15:00:45+00:00

You're right, OP

The idea that "he needs to be taller than men when I'm wearing stilts" is a really bad thing for a human civilisation because men that used to be considered comparatively tall may now become comparatively short. That when stacked against all sorts of other things i.e. women out-earning men in some cases is absolutely dreadful for attraction.

_Wolfszeit_ · 2025-02-02T18:21:57+00:00

The women who want do date men according to how much they earn...I've never understood that

mrfoozywooj · 2025-02-03T06:20:41+00:00

I had a friend who was a pretty attractive eastern european girl, she would always complain about her issues over several guys she was into that would lead her on etc etc.

Then she would show me photos of the guys and I would break down laughing because they were always these big fat-headed doofy looking guys, that was her type. .. it was ridiculous.

RoseyButterflies · 2025-02-03T12:17:25+00:00

Anything about my belly or feet I'm like hell no about.

SecondEldenLord · 2025-02-04T14:31:14+00:00

Sorry, but the whole height thing is stupid. If a man is perfect in any other way, if his personality is top notch, you will reject him cause he has short legs?

BigMoistTwonkie · 2025-02-04T16:01:20+00:00

Honestly, it's hard to think of any that I've heard of in real life and not on the internet.

I did notice that the kids in highschool who wore cat ears and fox tails around school ended up together though, so maybe if that's their preference, that would probably qualify.

leosandlattes · 2025-02-01T20:50:18+00:00

Weirdest preference I've ever seen from men is men who want disagreeable bitchy women who don't follow conventional beauty standards like shaving her legs.

I do not date men that want to cook. I prefer to do all the cooking in my household. If he wants to cook we will not be compatible.

Edit: Some salty mfs apparently hate that I want to cook in my relationship, the downvotes over this is so odd LMFAO.

Also wanting someone taller than you when you wear heels is not that weird. Heels make women feel sexy, men think women are sexy in heels, women like men that are taller than them. Therefore if you want to enjoy wearing heels and want your man to enjoy seeing you in heels, these women would prefer if that man is taller than her while she is wearing heels.

G4M35 · 2025-02-02T01:24:16+00:00

A 2 wanting an 8.

Then complain that they are single because:

Nobody out there is good enough for them.
They are not going to lower their standards.

InkAddict718 · 2025-02-02T01:04:03+00:00

About 15 years ago, a girl turned me down because I wasn’t Polish. Yes, me not being Polish was a dealbreaker

catdog8020 · 2025-02-02T02:10:00+00:00

In reality, I think that some of the delusional behavior and high expectations some (not all woman) have is cap. I think I’ve really figured out what’s going on and I think that women are meeting the definition of a spinster by definition of a spinster: a woman who is single and above the average age when most woman get married and/or they are only going to settle for the best or someone who is really not obtainable.

Another words these women are actually ok with being single and don’t really want to settle down but it’s not socially acceptable for women to act like women from the tv series sex in the city but they are in fact spinsters - woman are soooooo smart and they will never come out and say they are but in my experience and interviews during my personal research on these issues it’s true. We need to normalize that many woman are spinsters.

The male version would be chad or a player but it’s true many woman are spinsters it’s crazy they will never admit it but that’s how they are behaving. In some of my informal interviews in public it’s pretty much what their saying (not all of course but many). They are telling me why should I settle down with someone who is not going to match my standards, expectations, or adds value to my life and match my resources. Bizarre and dystopian at best. Many spinsters in the 19th century were lesbians also just like the ones today lol 😝

Disastrous-Sound-694 · 2025-02-02T03:19:45+00:00

I would never date someone who doesn't share their food or who is a gemini/cancer.

Im not that into astrology but every gemini/cancer I've ever met turned out to be a shitty person. The proof is in the pudding.

Oh, and also, any man that is an only child.

AtomicMonkeyTheFirst · 2025-02-02T10:28:50+00:00

I know an American girl who told me she only dates non American men because American men are too right wing.

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