What’s the best size?

BecretAlbatross · 2022-08-10T13:55:41+00:00

There's definitely a coochie depth spectrum as well. If your dick is 6 inches you're probably good but an inch in either direction is probably fine as well. 5 inch dicks get a lot of hate but at that point the thickness probably matters more and the extra inch is just for bragging rights.

If your dick is too long then you can't feel the booty clap and that probably sucks.

wintergreen233 · 2022-08-10T14:31:05+00:00

Some of this is personal experience, so: under maybe 4.25” erect I think it starts to make some aspects of penetration a little more difficult. By 5” erect I don’t think anyone will have problems due to penis size.

I don’t think penis size impacts the quantity of casual sex one could have, since even if you have a dick size preference, typically once you’re seeing his dick in the first place you’re already pretty committed to having sex with him.

For me, the upper limit on length is about 7” erect. Maybe a little more would be ok, but anything longer would just cause more problems than I could manage. The one partner I had who was 7”, we had to be so careful, and some positions were just off the table. The ideal penis length for me is right in that average 5.5” +/- a bit range.

Courwes · 2022-08-10T16:27:42+00:00

1. Under what dick size would you say a guy might have problems.

4

2. At what size range are the vast majority of people not affected by their dick size.

5-7

3. At what dick size do we see a positive effect to a man’s ability to have lots of casual sex.

6.5

4. At what point is s guys dick too big.

7+

5. What size of dick would you like to have.

to have sex with? 6

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-08-10T15:31:52+00:00

I don't think dick size has that much effect on a man's ability to have casual sex. The biggest effect is the psychological one. Because dick size is culturally tied to masculinity, a man with a small penis might feel too insecure about that to approach women while a hung dude might feel more confident about approaching women. That's just in their heads though, a confident small-dicked man and an insecure hung man will not be hurt/helped by their dick size. The only way dick size might help in any real sense is if being hung becomes part of a man's reputation and attracts size queens.

Ultimately, it's just stupid and unconstructive to feel insecure about your dick. Even if you have a micro one. Fingers, mouth, and toys ensure that you can still give any woman a more than pleasurable experience. Even the biggest size queen; just buy a huge strap-on and go to town on her with that.

Having said all that, I of course would still love a huge 12 inch monster dick so I can finally know what it's like to jerk off with two hands and so I can make money of that thing on OnlyFans.

Acaciduh · 2022-08-10T12:13:18+00:00

I think men put way more stock into this then women do. It just can’t be anywhere on the extreme end. So probably 3 inch or 10 inch is generally too small or too large for the general population. Of course outliers exist. Women are perfectly satisfied with an average dick size and we usually can’t tell how many inches it is anyway. I’ve been married 10 years and I honestly don’t think I can give you an exact for my husband. It works and knows what it’s doing that all we need to know.

None0fYour8usiness · 2022-08-10T14:25:12+00:00

According to my limited experience, slightly above average is optimal.

domdomdom333 · 2022-08-10T13:41:47+00:00

Ladies, I'm curious as no one's really mentioned it but what about having a bit of a curve? Everything is basically straight dicks from porn to educational books and no one talks about curves yet people say it's "natural."

So what's the limit to how not straight a dick should be? Is it a benefit that adds to sex or something that gets in the way for a girl to enjoy sex?

januaryphilosopher · 2022-08-10T12:25:14+00:00

A bit under five inches might start to have problems, under four and penetration may be difficult.
Between five and six inches.
So long as he's able to penetrate I doubt there is one, by the time it's seen she's unlikely to just leave because it isn't the exact length she wants.
A bit over six inches and he's not going to be able to penetrate without pain.
As in on a partner or dildo? Any more than about five and a half is just wasted length. (Going by estimation and the site description when I bought my dildos, I'm not going around with a measuring tape.)

2022-08-10T15:09:50+00:00

Never measured one myself so I wouldn't know. I think as a general rule of thumb - girth is most important.

Most sex toys women use just focus on the clit. The other ones are usually six inches long and girthy - make of that what you will.

PissBottleRedditMod · 2022-08-10T16:16:37+00:00

2 inches

2-2 inches

2 inches

any more than 2 inches and you're playing the game with too much power guise

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2022-08-10T12:36:26+00:00

I have no idea! I plan to take whatever the love of life my life has once we're married and roll with it.

(Though hopefully not too big tho because that could be pretty painful I've heard.)

Rubber-duck7203 · 2022-08-10T14:05:56+00:00

Women have as bad idea as male anatomy as men have about the female body.

Most women dont know what a 6 inch dick look like specially if the guy has body fat.

That__EST · 2022-08-10T13:44:20+00:00

5"-5.5"

randomizedscreaming · 2022-08-10T17:28:12+00:00

Personally I’m all about a 5”-5.5” and a little thick. I’m not into bigger dicks

GlowingAsItDazzles · 2022-08-10T20:04:31+00:00

the best size is "big enough, attached to a man I'm crazy about"

DerekMorganBAUxx · 2022-08-10T13:16:04+00:00

How would she know you have a big dick without fucking her? At that point she’s wet and horny and ready and once you slide it in she’ll be hella into it

Vyrnoa · 2022-08-10T12:08:34+00:00

Honestly tired of this question because we already know people have different preferences and this whole thing is only somewhat relevant in hookups.

hari_hbp · 2022-08-10T15:59:01+00:00

I believe in: Bigger is better as long as the woman's anatomy allows and the man knows how to use it.

There's a perfect size for every woman and as men, we can only hope that the woman we find will be happy with it.

We don't have any control over it (extension techniques sound too risky imo), so no point in worrying about it. As for myself and the Bros in the small-pp-gang, develop a mindset to use whatever sextoys are available to you. It may not be the same as the real thing but it'll definitely be worth it.

statsfodder · 2022-08-10T13:03:42+00:00

Most selling avg dildo size is 7 to 8.25 inch and 6 to 6.25 inch circumference.

But women say the average penis is great ... so which is it??

RegTextoffender · 2022-08-10T16:22:24+00:00

while having a massive dick will give you more opportunities

Survey says... no.

As the subs only currently open swinger (I believe) this is simply false.

I have a friend in swinging, with a 4.5 inch dick at best.

I have a 7 incher thats girthy enough I have to special order condoms.

Guess who gets the most casual sex, AND not just once offers?

My friend, by far. Why? He's face a 10 and body a 9 for most women. I'm a 6.

Here's another problem with your idea. I have a big dick, yes, but unless I'm looking for tailor trash I'm not sending a dick picture unless asked. In swinging, where nudity is common, hell I'm going to a party on Saturday that requires you be nude by 10 (great ice breaker and gets rid of the fakes), you don't send hello dick pictures. Its a common complaint when clueless guys do.

Unless you have a micro penis, or are a one in a literal million 8+ don't worry about it.

Zuck7980 · 2022-08-10T17:15:37+00:00

The world penis average size is 4.7 - 5.2 inches !

Bandit174 · 2022-08-10T12:49:45+00:00

I think under 6 is viewed as small by most women

6 to 6.5 is probably neutral, not small but nothing special to brag to her friends about either

7 and up is actively positive

8 + is probably starting to be too big for most but there will still be some niche women who REALLY like that size.

7 would be my ideal size if I could change it

DeJuanBallard · 2022-08-10T15:41:09+00:00

The best size is whatever you have, you can't control it, stop making it the reason y u hate yourself and focus on improvements you can control.

Not_A_Spyder · 2022-08-10T13:53:49+00:00

Dick size literally doesn't matter at all, if you ask a girl after good sex how big his dick was she'd go "idk like 9 inches?"

johnnyferrera · 2022-08-10T14:24:27+00:00

Dick size is like attractiveness, average is not good enough for average women. A 7inch dick (98th percentile in length) will probably not even be considered big by a good portion of women. The sad truth is that, unlike for women, just existing is not enough to be considered attractive as a man. You need to actively improve yourself to be worth the same as an average woman in the SMP, unless you naturally belong to the top 20% of men.

sarkington · 2022-08-10T17:47:09+00:00

The one I like

jackedsoon · 2022-08-10T12:11:55+00:00

5 inches
6 inches
7 inches
8+
Already have a good size

holy_devil999 · 2022-08-10T12:42:23+00:00

Ideal: at least 6’ long, 5.5’-5.7’ circumference.

Anything under 5.5’ is too small for me, I don’t think wanting (at least) an average 🍆 is something negative.

BruddaMSK · 2022-08-10T12:48:50+00:00

Answer to all size-related questions: the bigger the better.

johnnyferrera · 2022-08-10T13:14:20+00:00

Why are you asking? Just look at the data on the dildos they buy. I haven't looked in ages but I think I remember it being between 6-7 inches in length and 5+ inches in girth. I think this is an 80th percentile dick.

If you have that then great , you have nothing to worry about unless you're with a true size queen. If you don't have a dick that big, just drop your ego and use dildos on her during sex. It doesn't matter if the orgasms are achieved with a dick or a dildo, if she is constantly having good sexual experiences with you, then you have nothing to worry about.

urbangoth · 2022-08-11T00:57:11+00:00

5"-6.5". If it's bigger than 7" I will not let it in me, anywhere. If I was a dude I'd want 6.5".

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-08-10T13:36:52+00:00

The best size is the one inside you: allow me to demonstrate!

old joke but still funny

onirroc · 2022-08-10T12:14:28+00:00

Women don't understand dick size at all. I think it's because they get lied to so often about it.

Women always guess mine is about 2 full inches bigger than it actually is, sometimes insisting it must be, or saying I'm bigger than their ex and when they tell me his size, I'm smaller than that.

AidsVictim · 2022-08-10T14:07:14+00:00

Below 5 for sure, below 6 for some women. Yes average (~5.5) is too small for some women.
6-6.5 will have no negative or positive effect for 90% of the population. The only hit there will be size queens or women with very sensitive vaginas (too big).
7.5-8+. These sizes are fairly rare but in the right social situation they will boost a guys chances with certain women a lot.
Hard to say. For some women literally there isn't a "too big". For a lot of women 8 inches is too much but probably a fair amount can still take it without going full length and slow. 6+ girth same thing.
I'm 7.5*6 BP (bone pressed, pushing into the fat pad with ruler on top), would take a little over 8 inches NBP (not pressing into the fat pad).

Also just a note about sizes 8 inches is already <1% of the population, so anyone saying they've fucked dudes with 10 inches or 12 or dudes saying they have that are not giving accurate estimates. Even in the porn business the very biggest guys might hit 9 inches but most are 7-8.

tritter211 · 2022-08-10T16:01:11+00:00

Not sure if you are only asking this qustion to women, OP. But this debate is decades old already and we have definite consensus from countless interviews, studies, etc

under 5 inches.
Anything from 5.5 inches to 6 inches is only "acceptable" as long as you compensate for your lack of size with other things. 6.3 to 6.5 inches is the perfect preference for majority of women
6.9 inches to 7.5 inches
7.9 inches to 8.5 inches and above. If you visit r/bigdickproblems its filled with guys who complain about all the inconveniences surrounding large dicks. Aside from the initial wow factor, many women struggle to handle large dicks it seems.

I wish I can source these claims, but its too much effort, sorry.

HunterOk3550 · 2022-08-10T16:10:14+00:00

My husband is very very big , with a dick length at nearly 9" and a max grith of 4" so he's big, and he though I would be perfect to fuck due to the fact I'm a super tall amazone, but that certainly didn't mean I'm gigantic down there. But we found a way to do sex, and after few mounth he had me opend enough , so now after 18 years I'm used to he's giant tool , and I find other mens smaller dicks too small now. A smart way of him to make he's wife addicted to him. Bye the way he isn't very tall or big, only avarage height, while I'm super tall myself

Vtridolla · 2022-08-10T16:59:25+00:00

I would say 5 inches and below, then I would say at 8 inches and above you will start having problems.
Between 6-8 inches.
Again 8-9 inches plus can be too much for some women especially if it’s thick.
Vaginal canals come in all sorts of different shapes and sizes, so it’s really up to the woman. I would say for most 8-9 inches+ you will start getting the “this is hurting too much” or “that’s not going to fit.”
Literally god blessed me I wouldn’t change a thing.

Also you can tell dick by print, and or by feel. If she puts her hand on your thigh, or brushes past you to get into a door or something, dancing for sure.

Ridan_ · 2022-08-14T05:45:04+00:00

Four inches or less could be trickier to work with
5-7 inches? Idk
I don’t think size impacts this
Anything more than 7 inches would be painful for a lot of girls
I’m a girl lol

ReferenceImpossible2 · 2022-08-10T13:34:49+00:00

Probably 32Gs on a girl who’s young (before they start to sag). Larger than a handful and big enough to titfuck.

redditiasausagefest · 2022-08-10T16:53:55+00:00

Best size is 6.5 inches. My man is 7.5 and I can confirm that is too much.

Wackus_B0nkus · 2022-08-10T18:34:53+00:00

4.5”
5-6.5”
6.5-8”
8+”
0” cause Im a girl. Ideal partner would be 7”.

didosfire · 2022-08-10T19:58:20+00:00

1) none with the right partner, please stop assuming others are way more judgmental than we are and also remember you have a mouth and hands and toys and dirty talk and a thousand other things exist 2) literally has nothing to do with size and everything to do with your own thinking and self esteem. from 4" to 9", i have seen every shade of insecurity you can possibly think of. you "have problems" if you're more obsessed with your own genitalia than mutually enjoying an experience with/pleasing your partner. get your head out of your urethra and get in the moment and there won't be any issues at all 3) a lot smaller than you think, also tilt/girth/angle/head size and shape AND the anatomy of your partner all factor into this. if you're worried toure "too big," once again, hands and mouths and toys and soooooo many ways to please other people also exist 4) one attached to a partner who isn't obsessed with it and just...likes themselves and also me instead

it is genuinely sad that this comes up so much on here

meanwhileinvermont · 2022-08-10T20:05:34+00:00

6 and thick baby, all day.

Poly_frolicher · 2022-08-10T22:44:54+00:00

57F, ethically non-monogamous with a fair number and types of men. 1. Under about 4.5 inches long and 4 inches circumference gets hard to enjoy. 2. 5.5 inches or longer all seem to think they are big, lol. 3. I don’t really see dick size getting a man more women, but I look for more in a man. 4. I have a partner who is 7.5 inches and it occasionally hurts me. His last partner NEVER could take all of it. 5. I find 5.5-7.5 a good length. Being at least 4.5 circumference is also good. And strangely enough, I like a bent dick. It hits interesting spots.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-08-11T03:02:42+00:00

Under what dick size would you say a guy might have problems.

Legit issues? Maybe 4.5

At what size range are the vast majority of people not affected by their dick size.

4.5-6.5

At what dick size do we see a positive effect to a man’s ability to have lots of casual sex.

6.5

At what point is s guys dick too big.

8+ probably, but some would prefer it and some 6.5 is too big. It's not easy to say bc vaginas are different. So are dicks -- When I have morning wood I bottom out in my girl but normally I don't. Erc.

What size of dick would you like to have.

I'm happy with mine (7.5ishx5.5ish) although I'd probably trade an inch of length for another half inch of girth

BardOvBrutality · 2022-08-11T04:13:54+00:00

6.5+ but no more than 8 inches

Urbanwitch666 · 2022-08-11T07:30:34+00:00

I've always found it really weird that some women genuinely have preferences.

I was shocked the other day when a friend confided in me her bfs was too small. I just don't really get it.

But maybe because I am queer so I fuck women? So I'm used to zero dick?

Any size works. If I like a finger I'm def gonna like any size lol. I find it kinda shallow and to me it proves the couple Involved don't know how to have good nonPIV sex.

If anything, too big is a problem. My partner is borderline too big and it doesn't always work out.

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-08-12T00:35:50+00:00

Honestly no dick too small (you only need friction to come, most women don't come by penetration alone anyway), but there is such a thing as too big. And that will vary for every person, how flexible they are, if they have vaginisimus as up to 20% of women do and many other factors.

Extremiditty · 2022-08-11T02:22:47+00:00

Girth is more important than length. I’ve been with a pretty wide spectrum of sizes. I think honestly like 4 and over you’re for sure okay. Even 3 if you are good with it. Anything under that and you start to be limited in positions you can do, there’s less sensation to penetration, and it’s not as visually appealing.

I tend to prefer bigger because I love giving head and a bigger dick is just more to play with. For PIV though I probably max out at 9 and just because I can take it doesn’t mean it’s comfortable. I think the biggest I’ve been with was over 10 and he couldn’t go in all the way. The few favorite cocks I’ve had have been between 5 and 7 but with above average girth.

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ohdiddly · 2022-08-10T14:50:48+00:00

Problems? as in physically? penetration would only really become difficult at around 1 inch or below. If I can penetrate myself easily with a 2 inch finger then I don't see why a dick would be any different.
That's more-so an individual thing. Insecurity can be crippling, and that can happen at any size. There are guys with small dicks who aren't affected by their dick size whatsoever.
Again, I think this is an individual thing. But it could be likely that men with average sized dicks and above feel more comfortable going out and having lots of casual sex.
7 inches is pushing it for me, I can feel it hitting my cervix at that point so I had to take things slower/more carefully at that size.
Anything from like 4-6 inches would be ideal for me.

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-08-10T15:29:08+00:00

I have no idea Bc I’ve never measured. I’d say slightly above average is ideal but it’s not a big deal as long as you 1) go down 2) aren’t tiny or giant

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2022-08-10T15:45:35+00:00

Depending on the woman and position, being above average can be a curse. I have to take it slow at first to avoid bottoming out. Other than that, no complaints.

anjovis150 · 2022-08-10T16:27:24+00:00

Ain't no one lining up for 6 inchers. But for big ones there's miles of girls.

Dolla57 · 2022-08-10T16:54:16+00:00

Giant pussy needs giant dick...and so forth.

lostwanderer28 · 2022-08-10T17:56:13+00:00

Well, I’ve never really understood this cause how does she know your dick size prior to sexy time.

Rumors. Spreading the word. Unfortunately.

Alternative_Eye_2799 · 2022-08-10T18:16:10+00:00

12 inches

chilumibrainrot · 2022-08-10T19:12:43+00:00

most women can't cum from penetration alone. as long as it's not huge or medically small it isn't an issue unless you're with a "size queen." girth matters more than width, and if you know how to use your fingers and mouth then you'll be fine.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-08-10T19:39:24+00:00

The size it mainly irrelevant

Fun_Push7168 · 2022-08-10T20:08:46+00:00

Average is average for a reason, it works, anything real big has some drawbacks, anything real small does too.

WOPR-1983 · 2022-08-10T20:38:43+00:00

Tall women take Tyrone thunder-cock way more than short women.

I used to prefer short women and have an average Johnson and never had a problem filling up a woman 5-4" or shorter.

Amazon women and volleyball starts at 5-11" who have a taste for being filled up with Tyrone thunder-cock probably don't like no short-dick man.

Just tell her:

"Let's see how small it feels with I'm balls deep in your ass."

No, no don't say that. hahaha.

AnnoKano · 2022-08-10T20:57:33+00:00

Whatever size OP’s penis is, it’s 2 inches less than the minimum.

Euphemia006 · 2022-08-10T21:59:23+00:00

It has always been men have small penis. But, no one mention the reverse case. What if it is the woman who is loose?

I do not know. Women (and society) are happy, have no problem to tell a man is penis is too small. But God forbid a man to even attempt to mention that maybe, just maybe, the woman is a bit loose.

Women get mad, calling a man who would say that an incel, a misogynist virgin who had never been with a woman anyway. But somehow, they do know that vagina comes in different size and shape like penis do.

I guess, wether we want it or not, the ones who have been chosen from both genders to be blamed for that thing are men. It is accepted by society that a woman ( or even a man) shames a man because of his penis.

Equality, that is what it is called, I guess.

globeaute · 2022-08-11T05:44:51+00:00

For me under 4” and I can’t feel anything. Over 6” wouldn’t work either, I’ve turned down a man with a huge penis before. It was horribly big.

Bluelilly582 · 2022-08-11T12:54:36+00:00

5.5 inches is a good size. I think anything longer would hit my cervix which feels like a punch to my gut (It’s painful). Also I personally think it matters more on what angle the dick is in and the speed since the g spot is pretty close to the opening. But every woman has their own preferences 🤷‍♀️

2022-08-11T16:57:25+00:00

Ladies does his dick size matter more than his heart size?

Peacesquad · 2022-08-15T01:09:40+00:00

Erotica novels in the comments 😂😂😂

Title	What’s the best size?
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