Or asked to record audio of you giving him consent to have sex with you?

We live in a society where a simple allegation will forever ruin a man’s reputation. It happened to one of my best friends when his ex, girlfriend at the time, went through his phone and saw text of him considering breaking up with her. She went on a smear campaign that ostracized him from the college community, painted him as a rapist, and took it online to spread even further awareness. It went kind of viral in our area and outside of it.

Of course he wasn’t prosecuted, she didn’t even show up to court. How many people didn’t follow the story and walked away thinking he was a rapist? Probably the majority. But we’ve seen this time and time again. Johnny Depp, Jonathan Majors, Jay Z most recently. You can argue their lives aren’t “ruined”, but you’d be lying if you said public perception of them hadn’t changed, including business opportunities.

I say this all to circle back to the original point and question. Simply having sex with women, even those who are your partner is dangerous for potential of false accusations. In no way am I implying it’s common, but the possibility is there.

There’s no standardized way for normal men to prove consent if falsely accused for whatever reason. I’ve heard the phrase “consent is hot” throughout the years, but even if you asked in the heat of the moment (I have in the past too) it’s not provable to the justice system or court of public opinion.

For men to protect themselves, they’d need to get verifiable consent from the other party. So women, if everything was going great with a newer guy and you’re about to have sex but he stops you to sign a consent form or record yourself giving consent, how would you HONESTLY feel/react? I’m under the presumption it would ruin the mood, but tell me if I’m wrong. And if it does, are men supposed to just continue rolling the dice and hoping they don’t have sex or get into a relationship with a lunatic?

Edit: Please ladies, I understand the ulterior motive angle some of you are going with. But making this post was more about the guy not having any intention of trying to use your consent against you. While I 100% understand that line of thinking, it’s way more unlikely than even just getting falsely accused (for a man to first get “provable” consent, then rape). For the sake of this debate, if possible, go in with 99% certainty that he isn’t trying to use your consent against you. The context is simply that he has an understandable reason for wanting to do that. Doesn’t mean you have to like it.