Another AF/BB example. Do women really think that the “BF” material is winning?

Stunning_Thing4208 · 2023-04-09T05:24:28+00:00

Who cares what these type of women think, really.

We know being BF material to someone like that is suicide.

AnyIntroduction3288 · 2023-04-09T07:01:03+00:00

I guarantee you that the guy who slept around in his youth is not going to be compatible with the chaste religious “late bloomer” virgin girl who is saving herself for marriage. The woman who has a “fun guy” in her 20s and a “husband guy” in her 30s has the same morals, values, and mentality as the guy who “sowed his wild oats” in his 20s. She likely has a similar social circle, drinking and drug habits, politics, and values as a guy who slept around.

She is not going to marry a nerdy computer engineer who is a KHHV. She’s going to marry the player who is ready to settle down.

Likewise; the nerdy computer engineer KHHV will likely end up with the geeky “late bloomer” religious girl who is chubby and has strict parents even at age 30.

https://twitter.com/AsianDaBrattt/status/1643687655102717994

Also look at this woman. She wears heavy makeup, has tattoos, is like an 8/10, May have had some kind of work done, and is heavily dolled up. When I scroll through her profile it says she’s a rapper.

Who do you think she’s going to socialize with? She likely goes to a lot of music events, rap events, and since she has 1.6 million followers, she likely meets other musicians, producers managers, and successful people in the entertainment industry.

She does not exist in the same plane as a KHHV accountant in Kentucky. Her reality and lifestyle is basically on a different planet. Unless unique circumstances happen, she will never end up marrying the geeky KHHV in her 30’s.

MorganSeer · 2023-04-09T10:56:51+00:00

That woman is choosing what is best for her at any given time. Guys decide what is best for them, too.

throwaway164_3 · 2023-04-09T06:16:16+00:00

Alpha fucks, beta bucks is the way of life.

Of course women think the BB is winning. After all, he gets to marry her for life! Lucky him

EulenWatcher · 2023-04-09T05:25:02+00:00

There are enough men with a similar mindset wanting to have a fun phase in their youth but then settle with a nice family-oriented woman…who preferably did t have much fun on her own.

There are also enough people who aren’t into this type of fun or people who outgrow it. I think as long as you’re transparent about your intentions and goals, it’s perfectly fine.

despisedlove2 · 2023-04-09T05:22:17+00:00

In such an environment, being "bf material" is a sucker's job. If you can't go MGTOW, don't be stupid enough to be any of these creatures' bf.

bootyhunter69420 · 2023-04-09T14:03:28+00:00

All of those well-mannered women exposing themselves. Being called boyfriend material is such a backhanded compliment.

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-04-09T11:36:49+00:00

Exactly. What is the benefit of being boyfriend guy? You already got the pussy as the other guy with none of the responsibilities of the boyfriend.

The "reward" you get for being the boyfriend guy is that now you don't get to fuck any more women lmao

SlashCo80 · 2023-04-09T07:12:36+00:00

This post and all of its responses seem based on the assumption that casual sex is best and relationships are yuck.

If you don't like her and only want to use her for sex, you will agree with this.

But what happens if you actually catch feelings for someone / want a long-term companion and she sees you as just a fun fling, not bf material? Is it still so great then? Sometimes the f-boys end up alone.

MediumBaseball5339 · 2023-04-09T05:40:26+00:00

See I know you're not stupid. But I still feel the need to ask this: do those 2 examples you posted represent ALL women?

Obviously not, right? So why did you go out of your way to make such a connection, then came here to post in order to feel vindicated in your mindset, while calling this post a CMV?

You're not here to have your mind changed. You're here to feel validated.

SillyMushroomTip · 2023-04-09T12:00:35+00:00

"BF Material"

Woman speak for "hes a safe choice and doesnt give me the tingles like chad does"

Soloandthewookiee · 2023-04-09T06:08:02+00:00

So dudes are in here all the time talking about women who they can fuck vs "wifey material" but the second a woman does the same thing it's all torches and pitchforks.

Classic.

Crafty_Letter_1719 · 2023-04-09T11:46:12+00:00

Any woman who somehow feels like only being the “fun guy” and not “boyfriend material” is some kind of insult to a guy does not understand what what men want at all.

The vast majority of men aspire to be the “fun guy” and “fun guy” relationships. Being in effect put in the “sex zone”’is the dream scenario for most men”. Men overwhelmingly only get into committed monogamous relationships because that’s the best chance of him securing sex. Men are only as faithful as their options ect… If a guy had the option of a woman seeing him as “the fun guy” I.E somebody entertaining and sexually attractive but irresponsible and selfish and “boyfriend material” I.E somebody reliable and trustworthy but sexually lukewarm-he will almost always choose the former.

“Wife material” is about as big a compliment a guy can give a women. Calling a guy “boyfriend material” not so much.

The notion that a woman ever has the power to determine a relationship once she has started one with a “fun guy” is ropey at best. As soon as a woman is sleeping with a guy( she is attracted to) regularly he generally has the power to determine the relationship not the other way round. A woman that says she is in a FWB is just a women that has been sex zoned-or in other words has a “fun guy”.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-09T06:14:18+00:00

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Fridge_Ian_Dom · 2023-04-09T07:18:54+00:00

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Safinated · 2023-04-09T15:24:18+00:00

If you don’t wanna be boyfriend material, I assure you that you don’t have to be boyfriend material. Just like I don’t have to be tradwife material

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-04-09T05:38:54+00:00

Yes. Women do really see the "husband material" guy as the winner in the situation because he is the one she comitts to and gets to spend the rest of his life with.

MarBitt · 2023-04-09T07:46:53+00:00

You either want to have a relationship / marriage or you don't. Having a relationship and marriage just because you can't get sex otherwise cuts you out of the pool of men who have a choice. Therefore, your choice does not matter.

For men who can choose, their choice matters. These are men who may have plenty of casual sex, but may still decide to settle down in a relationship or marriage because they simply chose one woman who suits them and wants to start a family.

Anxious-Tailor-7182 · 2023-04-09T10:07:43+00:00

You shouldn't if you don't want to. Nobody forces you into mythical "betabux" nonsense. You choose to participate or not.

Mr_Chad_Thunderpenis · 2023-04-09T19:19:35+00:00

Women don't realize that men are way more sex focused than relationship focused on average. Most men choose to enter relationships because they can't get consistent sex outside of relationships, or can't get consistent sex with women they actually find attractive. That's the only reason. They think men think exactly like them, when in reality men don't. For most men relationships/marriages are for sex and procreation, that's the cold harsh reality. If women didn't have vaginas, no man would ever bother with them. If mansions and lambos and yachts didn't impress women to get them to bed more easily, most men would live in 1 bedroom crappy apartments working the absolute minimum to survive. The male sex drive is the most potent force in the universe. Being boyfriend material doesn't mean much, it might even be an insult, when Chad banged her after a couple of beers on a slow Tuesday, while the boyfriend material guy wined and dined her for weeks to even get some punani. Women are acting like men, trying to emulate men, when in reality, they have no clue how men think and why men act like they do.

lady_ven0m · 2023-04-09T12:37:49+00:00

Some men are the same way though. They want to have fun with promiscuous women and then settle down with a chaste one.

I just saw a tweet the other day about a Muslim man saying white women are for fun only.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people like this where they view the opposite sex as a commodity, you just have to filter them out.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-04-09T05:18:30+00:00

What does this tweet from an individual prove about women in general

Lanzienator · 2023-04-09T05:21:25+00:00

Love how this guy assumes being the "fun one" means he's going to get threesomes.

JohnnyMnemo · 2023-04-09T08:03:15+00:00

I dunno either way, but will someone explain to me why everyone reporting on tweets feels that it's necessary to retype what was just written in the tweet above?

Do they think that posting a tweet garbles the letters or something, so they need to decode them for the reader at home?

I have never understood and it makes me crazy.

StaticNocturne · 2023-04-09T16:54:32+00:00

I'd sooner check myself into a psychiatric facility than date a brainless bimbo like her

Billsandasonom · 2023-04-10T02:48:08+00:00

It's projection. Women assume men would hate to be the one they take home for ONS and not commit to b/c they would hate to be in that position themselves when in reality it's the opposite for men. To men, being the one women go to for a night of fun shows a genuine validation of attraction and SMV vs someone she'll commit to even though she will merely tolerate him sexually b/c she needs a long term provider.

M1chigander · 2023-04-09T07:43:53+00:00

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Dstar538888 · 2023-04-09T10:57:18+00:00

Women like her tend to settle down later in life… you see that with Nikki Minaj, cardi B, etc. they’re both very overly sexual in their behavior and music, yet they still found someone to settle down with… I really don’t think women like them care if some random ass KHHV males on Reddit don’t want to marry them lol

M1chigander · 2023-04-09T11:03:05+00:00

For all the reasons in your original post, yes being boyfriend material, nice guy, is sucker shit. The ultimate sucker move is getting married in todays world. AF/BB is definitely real, men and women have to be better.

Aromatic_Ad5473 · 2023-04-09T12:43:40+00:00

Cuz one woman speaks for all women? And men don’t do this exact same thing? Any guy who calls a woman “damaged” is not BF material

Gallifreyli · 2023-04-09T13:14:23+00:00

I met a lot of men who I couldn't even chat with for 2 seconds, but who thought they were very attractive and funny. I couldn't tolerate any of them and immediately kicked them out of my life. Then my BF came across. We were both damaged but we decided to fix each other. He's not only someone I can have fun and have a good time with, but also someone I can’t keep my hands off of him. I mean it depends on what kind of person you are and what kind of person you are looking for.

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2023-04-09T08:34:52+00:00

Women think like that because to them being the “side chick” is worse than being the main chick.

But in reality being the side dude for a guy is much better than being main dude. Main dude pays for the dinner, I eat the left overs after I piped his bitch lol

mandoa_sky · 2023-04-09T05:48:31+00:00

someone who actually cares about you when you're sick etc.

i would do that for a boyfriend but never someone i didn't care about.

James_Cruse · 2023-04-09T09:07:45+00:00

This is just a sour grapes coping mechanism when a guy she actually likes dumps her - she says, “Oh, you were just a good time guy. You don’t make enough money to be my long term bf”

Just LOL - she’s lying to protect her own ego because she was rejected by that same guy.

I’ve heard so many girls in my own life say, “well yeah, I had a one night stand with that guy, he was so good looking and had it all going on but he was dumb and not for long term” = I tried to hook that amazing guy with sex but he wasn’t interested and knew he had better options but I need to say something delusional to save face and my fragile ego - I’m not going to admit I was rejected and not good enough for that hot fun guy that I secretly want as my bf.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-09T06:18:52+00:00

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RP-MJ · 2023-04-09T05:23:48+00:00

So dating multiple is the solution ?

Definitely think it is

SkatemanJohn · 2023-04-09T09:10:13+00:00

Be a fun nigga and boyfriend material and then you get a bitch bad enough to get a nigga who can do both.

relish5k · 2023-04-09T12:36:24+00:00

Why should a woman have casual sex with if you had sex with another woman while in a committed relationship?

People jive with eachother differently. Sexual dynamics don’t need to be bitter math problems.

theftnssgrmpcrtst · 2023-04-09T16:29:40+00:00

If you can’t understand the value of intimacy and meaningful romantic connection over superficial sexual romps you are frankly damaged beyond repair.

Temporary-Drawing212 · 2023-04-10T05:10:13+00:00

Men once again showing their selection bias. Choosing a Instagram model/rapper as what? A representation for all women is so inaccurate.

Zadacat · 2023-04-09T07:57:50+00:00

Its always the same, low value women who post and do this kind of shit🤷‍♂️

Decent-Zombie-5513 · 2023-04-09T09:58:24+00:00

lol black twitter.

LupeDyCazari · 2023-04-09T11:41:20+00:00

Bro, what do you mean why you should pay for something else other men got for free?

Are women a product that you rent or buy or whatever?

No one is forcing you to date this woman, bro. In fact, who is to say she is even interested in you? And I'm pretty sure she can get what she wants from men, alfa alfa fux and beta beta sux, a lot faster than what any red piller can get from women.

gymbronyc718 · 2023-04-09T11:50:03+00:00

Or, wait for it....you can be both depending on what YOU want. Because you know, we humans, have the capacity to change our minds about what we want and adopt strategies to go get it.

Chokeman · 2023-04-09T06:22:31+00:00

trashy black woman doesn't count

EDIT: i was wrong. just found out she's a rapper with a million followers.

sure she can fuck as many guys as she wants. compared to average party girls, she's on another level.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-04-09T06:12:34+00:00

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jackedsoon · 2023-04-09T15:07:20+00:00

So nobody gonna point out the hypocrisy since men have these labelling of women too? Fuckable and wife material.

Men forget the guys that are husband/bf material are very likely men who also slept around and want to settle down now. Its not a virgin engineer being taken advantage of by a post wall slut.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2023-04-09T19:27:02+00:00

the alien culture highlighted most of these posts has nothing to do with me or anyone I know or date

meangingersnap · 2023-04-10T01:04:51+00:00

Y’all talk about how certain women are just for fun then get mad when women feel the same 💀

East-Rip-181 · 2023-04-10T07:53:38+00:00

Is this a prostitute? What woman would say that?

TheMedsPeds · 2023-04-10T15:26:10+00:00

I love how anecdotes are fine when it reflects a woman acting in a way they expect. But if women here say we don’t act like that, it doesn’t matter because it’s just an anecdote.

Is this the type of woman you want? A woman that talks and acts like this? No, then ignore her and move on. She is not all of us or even most of us.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-04-09T10:21:56+00:00

She will have a lot of fun when she will hit the wall and men won't want to do anything with her.

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Wing_Puzzleheaded · 2023-04-09T17:19:19+00:00

I can tell by the way she looks that she is nothing but red flags.

AgentFillmore11 · 2023-04-09T22:55:07+00:00

Ghetto thots are dumb

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Title	Another AF/BB example. Do women really think that the “BF” material is winning?
Author	Kawaii9797
Upvotes	91
Comments	470
Date	April 9, 2023 5:14 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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