Generational differences in hotness standards

-Ivar-TheBoneless · 2022-07-14T08:53:38+00:00

One major factor is that people in their mid 30's+ still remember a world before IG and Facebook.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-07-14T14:47:26+00:00

Tldr: tinder changed everything even for girls that arent currently on it.

I state my dating life had 2 lives. Pre and Post Tinder. Pre tinder i was a highschool teen with a car, thin kinda fit from cardio, had a Summer job, struggled to get a lot of women but managed to date a few cute girls that were fun to be around generally, and thin! I approached girls in my social group, parties, friends of friends etc

Post tinder, im educated, have a career, my own place, car, no debt, fitter from lifting, but tinder has raised womens standards so high that as a short guy 5 7, all i can date since i left highschool is obese girls. My friends groups have fewer and fewer guys with girlfriends, and approaching girls at parties or out in public has gotten worse.

MysterySolverDog · 2022-07-14T12:31:53+00:00

Good realisation. Mid 20s male here. I suspect dating standards are indeed very different, but I don't believe it's because of a greater freedom of some sort - the increase in sexlessness started around 15 years ago according to the data, and I'm simply not buying into the idea that the 90s were part of the oppressive dark ages.

The key cause comes down to social media, really. Technology has continued to play an increasingly relevant role in social interaction, technology both facilitates and encourages people getting filtered out based on physical standards more so than before. My experience at uni was definitely not seeing people of all shapes and sizes in relationships, it was much more restrictive than that. I think a lot of concerns from the younger crowd are dismissed as whining, when older people need to realise things aren't the same as when they were growing up, and it's not like the rest of the voices in this conversation always argue in good faith either.

Pilling_it · 2022-07-14T10:50:24+00:00

Is there a big difference in how psychotic standards have become for contemporary 20-somethings, compared to 30-somethings, 40-somethings etc? Discuss.

Mid twenty myself, I'm a bit of in between two fences, as I used a lot the screens (started when I was 15 though), but I very much remember remember my parents taking me out to play with other kids outside. Hell, I remember having 100MO top a month on my phone.

I think those around a decade older would remember that in retrospective things were much simpler to interact, and those who always had a screen in front of their face are the most fucked over as they probably don't know how to interact.

Slight_Fig5187 · 2022-07-14T13:21:45+00:00

I've read this thread with a lot of interest and find there's very valuable information here. As somebody who's also a bit older, I think there's also a cultural element here that's very specific to the US. I live in a Southern European country; I checked the statistics for love and sex among young people here, and they're perfectly fine, with 85+% of people having regular sex and romantic relationships.. Undoubtedly, with that percentage, both attractive and average people are getting it..I think the main difference is that young people don't rely so heavily on the internet to find a partner; they go out constantly, to drink, dance, party, and from those interactions arise a lot of contacts that lead towards friendship, romance or sex.

When, however, your main tool for contacting people your age is a highly visual one like dating apps, with a totally unbalanced percentage of men vs women, clearly the selection bias changes. Imagine a dystopian scenario where there were just a few men and lots of women in OLD and men would get dozens of requests every day; they would certainly start discarding the less attractive ones and just contact the hottest women.

I think thus the clue is going back to socializing and real life contact, because once a conversation or flirting starts, there's much more chance to become interesting by how you are than just by how you look... It might be difficult though to try and find ways to socialize if really the US society has become so closed and individualistic.

BoogersAndSugar · 2022-07-14T21:51:19+00:00

Times have definitely changed. I see what my Generation Z little brothers, cousins and their friends go through, and holy shit! In my day, a plain looking 20 year old guy could get a plain looking girl with reasonable effort. Nowadays, that same kid can only get someone twice his weight who treats him like garbage.

tonyghow · 2022-07-14T11:49:42+00:00

I don’t think standards have changed. Women have always wanted and still want equal or better in some way.

Everywhere I go, I see people with their approximate looksmatch. I was just traveling and saw couples at airports with similarly aged and similarly attractive partners.

How they got those partners is the big difference. OLD, IG, etc.

One example: I saw a young couple from afar. The guy looked short. I wondered how he locked her down since lots of us men complain about heightism. He looked about 5’6”. As I got closer, I realized it. The woman was shorter and not very pretty, but the dude was freakishly handsome and muscular fit. I instantly thought of PPD. If that relationship doesn’t work out, she will never settle for less. (Damn that dude was pretty).

RentedPineapple · 2022-07-14T13:41:04+00:00

Social media definitely skews younger people’s perception of reality: https://youtube.com/shorts/gKr8Ucm5yWY?feature=share The phenomenon has been dubbed “beauty overstimulation”.

throwaway264757 · 2022-07-14T10:57:41+00:00

I seriously hope there's a radically different dating market than when I was young.

There's no way someone can think ugly people don't breed when they are everywhere. Idk how rich, white, and privileged everyone in this sub is to never have to go to Walmart and see it.

-passepar2t- · 2022-07-14T11:18:26+00:00

Maybe it's changed radically since I was in my early to mid 20s. Has it? I for real don't know.

I'm almost 40 and I was bitching about the same shit during some of my university years when I had a crush on a couple of girls who were going after the gym rats.

Social media indeed is fucking shit up, but at the end of the day most guys in their teens and 20's still have a shitload of work ahead to become more attractive.

Happened to us back then, happens to them now. But back then we didn't have reddit. However if you were hanging out in /b/, everyone was bitching about not having girlfriends.

I think standards haven't changed much, but there's A LOT more social media noise that is making feel everyone miserable.

When a basic TikTok thot with fake nails shows up saying she only dates 666, that's not the majority of women thinking like that. That's a subset of a subset of a population in the US.

pop442 · 2022-07-14T10:40:48+00:00

As a 23-year-old can confirm that average people are still getting into relationships. Jealousy/insecurity caused by social media does seen to be a growing challenge though. If you're average and notice your partner liking content from much hotter people all day then yeah, real chance they're not going to be okay with that.

Aurora--Teagarden · 2022-07-14T18:28:41+00:00

I'm (48f) one of those. When I was 43 I dated someone I was attracted to very much. When we broke up, my friends all pointed out how unattractive he was.

I can't even tell you how much mental stimulation takes over at this age.

HuckleberryThis2012 · 2022-07-14T12:47:26+00:00

I think this is a reasonable question to ask, but I don’t think it explains away everything. It literally can’t be that NO average looking guys are in relationships or can get women. It’s possible that it’s just gotten more difficult, I know the things I hear about online dating aren’t the same as my experience with it. (For reference I’m also an average looking guy. 37 years old so I remember when dating apps were dating websites and everyone said “I’ll lie about how we met” on their profile bc you teased ppl who used it.) I did ok with meeting women at bars, but by no means would I call myself really successful with it. Now if the improvement was entirely based on how it was way easier to use dating apps easy on, or if it’s entirely bc i got older and more confident through experience/the natural boost you get since women like older more mature men I can’t say. Likely it’s some combo of both.

I think I’m general it’s more difficult for most men to find women when they’re younger compared to when they’re older, so those of us 30+ are just in a better position to meet the standards of women. But I also think it comes down to perspective/attitude. When I was younger getting shot down felt like a bigger deal and subsequently I was more awkward in my approach and less likely to try. As I got used to rejection, I learned to not fear it and that made me more confident in my approach which worked wonders.

That being said I didn’t have to compete with IG (or whatever social media) followers who would give validation (and money) to a woman just for posting sexy pictures of themselves. That wasn’t even a thing at all. I always say dating apps/social media did 2 negative things: 1)gave men who have no game and didn’t do well approaching women in public access to speak to numerous women, making them feel like players who subsequently started treating women poorly making it harder for women to find a guy. 2)made it easy for average/above average women to be inundated with attention and validation from men, giving them less reason to sift through the many messages to find a guy to be with. Basically ppl have so many options to look at/swipe on that they started to have unrealistic expectations. It’s no longer about who is physically at the same location as you (not many places had nothing but hot ppl there) so you can see all of the hottest ppl and start to feel like “why should I settle, Why not me with that absurdly hot person?”

I do also think things will eventually shift. As OLD has become a money grab, where finding a partner for someone isn’t the profitable move, and money is made more by keeping ppl looking or hooking up, ppl will find the new way to meet ppl. Just as OLD originally was seen as pathetic until we realized we could actually get dates from it, ppl will realize OLD doesn’t work as it used to and will shift either back to meeting irl or to some new form of meeting ppl. It’s the natural progression of things.

Pomegranate_Scared · 2022-07-14T10:54:20+00:00

apparently it’s literally physical impossible for anyone who’s an iota short of perfection to ever ever get close to holding hands with the opposite sex

Replace “anyone” with “men” and your statement will be more accurate

-Living-Dead-Girl- · 2022-07-14T09:59:38+00:00

nothing's changed. what i've realized is that people who complain about impossibly high standards themselves are the ones with high standards. what they mean by "you need to be top 10% of looks to get anywhere" is that the people they want to be with are top 10% of looks and theyre pissed they cant have that.

Lotus_82 · 2022-07-14T09:57:38+00:00

I just turned 40 but the women I date are all in their mid to late twenties. I don’t really think that women have become more picky I think that now that women have more freedom and don’t need men and marriage for survival and social acceptance that they are now more free than ever to be vocal about their preferences, especially with the advent of a media like Tik Tok.

This isn’t even a phenomenon that’s purely European or American, I’m a digital nomad and in the last few years I’ve dated women from the USA, Canada, France, Italy, Brazil, the Netherlands and Israel and its the same all over.

Women’s standards haven’t changed, it’s just that now they can actually be vocal about their preferences because for the most part a woman doesn’t have to marry men she’s not particularly attracted to and pop out 4 crotch goblins by the time she’s 27 just to ensure her own survival.

Kentucky_Supreme · 2022-07-14T13:50:20+00:00

I'm not even sure if cold approach is "okay" and socially acceptable anymore. I notice attractive women pretty often when I'm out and about. Some will damn near break my neck. Another thing I notice is that nobody ever seems to talk to them or even acknowledge them at all. Except for employees of the store/restaurant/whatever. But what's weird is you know damn well men are borderline worshipping them online through their pocket computers. It's like being in an episode of black mirror.

And just the other weekend I was in the downtown part of my city on a Saturday evening. There's a bunch of bars, restaurants, and shops, and a ton of foot traffic. Plenty of attractive women walking around too. Some even by themselves. I didn't see one guy approaching anyone at all. Everyone just sort of sticks to their friend group that they're already with. If cold approaches are happening at all anymore, I would think that would be the type of environment I'd see them in.

I can't imagine what dating will be like in 10, 20, 50 years. It seems to just be getting more and more superficial as people place more and more value on social media over real life. Like I said, Black Mirror.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-07-14T09:21:46+00:00

It can be a bit of a shock to your system when you enter the dating market for the first time and realise that, shock horror, dates don't just flock to you and you have to put in effort to get one. This especially rings true for the average reddit user who is usually quite introverted and needs to reconcile himself with the truth that you need to meet people to date them. It takes a while to learn how to find a date and it can seem impossible to someone who's starting out, or at least it did for me, but most people get through it okay.

I'm in my twenties and most of my peers in relationships aren't particularly attractive in terms of looks (money is frequently brought up too, but nobody really has any at this age). The people who I know who struggle with dating (mainly men; I don't have that many female friends who I didn't meet through their partners) are usually quite shy, or aren't particularly interested in the first place. It's often forgotten that young people who aren't having much sex or relationships might not be that bothered, as it takes a while to be ready and comfortable with things and university, an early career and other aspects of establishing yourself in the world often take priority.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-07-14T09:16:47+00:00

Everytime I see a woman in a relationship with a man he's almost always mediocre looking.

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TastyCucurbits · 2022-07-14T14:34:50+00:00

I think that every generation has slightly different standards, for sure. But I also think that this sub often misses the mark for what those standards are today.

Men like Timothee Chalamet, Zac Efron, K-pop stars, Tom Hiddleston, Benedict Cumberbatch, etc., get a lot of attention. The 'pretty boy' face and build is much more universally appealing to younger women.

It goes beyond facial attractiveness. Men who think they can skimp out on self-care, style, and interpersonal qualities these days are mistaken. In fact, I'd say that we're starting to see a return of older standards of attractiveness for men - where meticulous grooming, personal flair, and smooth social skills are sought after instead of being derided as effete.

Good-Strong · 2022-07-14T15:04:36+00:00

Nah, you guys are right.

The majority of people who'd be considered average looking by most do date/have sex even in this generation, as do many of the ones seen as below average.

Ohmaygahh · 2022-07-14T16:34:25+00:00

I know what you mean. I feel like a very sandwiched generation that lived and breathed this world as an adult before the dating platform revolution. These kids have no idea what it was like.

Having said that, I was so unsuccessful in what was arguably the best environment for a single man that I, happily, looked for love outside the country. As a broke, overworked, full time college student. I scrounged pennies for a flight to go to brazil in my early to mid 20s after I connected with a woman long distance. Very early webcam when it was 2.1 megapixel.

There is a great majority of men who are sexually and romanitcally shunned for a long, long time. It brings to mind that African proverb of the child ignored by the village.

That child lived and grew older. And now, he doesn't fucking care about the tribe. Only about himself.

Meetchel · 2022-07-14T17:08:30+00:00

So maybe I'm out of touch and don't understand how dating for people in their early to mid 20s works. Maybe it's changed radically since I was in my early to mid 20s. Has it? I for real don't know.

I don't think it has. I'm 43, but 20-25 years ago I was as angsty as the younger users on this sub. With age, everything in the dating world got easier.

notsofriendlygirl · 2022-07-14T18:20:54+00:00

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Orange-tall-psycho · 2022-07-14T09:55:01+00:00

Do you remember how dramatic everything used to be when you were a teen? You ever have a casual conversation with them and realize, my god, just stop bitching so much and communicate communicate communicate! And then I think back and realize, yeah, I was the same at that age.

With age comes experience and you'll see in real !I've it's not as hard as it seems. They'll learn, we'll all learn and as they get older they'll wonder the same about the kids today.

villarconstante · 2022-07-14T14:49:26+00:00

No, not really. If anything standards are lower.

In the 50s, women were supposed to be skinny, and if you were not pale and blond that was an extra tick against you. The amount of people who could be labeled hot was smaller because the country was extremely racist. So the idea of who was hot was limited.

Men I'm rhe 50s were expected to be tall, broad shouldered, wide but not fat. Again it was very specific.

But let's look at Gen z now. It's been a minute since I was on a dating app, but I've been on tiktok, and I can say Gen z is not cookie cutters at all. There is no general standard. Today's youth are much more attracted to a wife array of bodies, like fat women amd short men and men who wear lots of makeup and women who shave themselves bald all over and have a million piercings. There's plenty of gen zers who still like "normal" shit, but they're just more willing to be individuals.

Today attraction is allowed to be much more free. Like if we looked at a boomer dating app or boomers on dating apps and compared them to Gen z and what the younger generations looking for, I'm guessing we'd see boomers showing themselves to be essentially just carbon copies of one another, watching similar shows and having similar activities, thinking tbe same things are cool and uncool, attractive and unattractive.

Gen z is marked by individuality and weirdness. If you stepped on a Gen z app, I think you'd find an extremely varied group, amd who they're attracted to would vary a lot.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2022-07-14T12:10:09+00:00

Anecdotal evidence and all that, but I'm 20 and I see unattractive people dating all the time. The only ones struggling are the very introverted ones.

wtknight · 2022-07-14T12:24:54+00:00

The average young man is still having sex. It’s just that more below average young men aren’t having sex because they aren’t applying themselves and socializing enough in the real world to have it, and there are internet spaces now for them to complain about it and be heard unlike in the past.

jymssg · 2022-07-14T12:36:42+00:00

wow looks like I'm a perfect guy /s.

sarkington · 2022-07-14T14:51:52+00:00

There’s no difference. People just want an excuse to not try and whine

ej_v · 2022-07-14T14:26:00+00:00

I’m 30 and everyone in my high school peer group was sexually active, had jobs, and plans for college. The social life is a habit built in teen years. I’ve been to several reunions and meet-ups and a lot of my teenage friends are still mingling in the same group, dating one another and peripheral friends. I have no idea how people hit their twenties and thirties without a social circle or where in the world they will learn to flirt and make opposite sex friends.

majani · 2022-07-14T12:38:05+00:00

Social media has definitely turned up the comparisons to 100. Especially because it seems way more real than the magazine and TV models of the previous generation. I think the jury is still out on how this will affect gen Z relationships but I think they'll find ways to be happy in spite of all the comparisons online.

sl3epsfortheweak · 2022-07-14T09:01:48+00:00

There will be differences generationally because of course collective trends and interests can change overtime in everything! however I think there is an overall universal standard with slight adjustments made to it depending on where you are and what point in time that you're born.

2022-07-14T14:21:03+00:00

I think reddit is the congregation spot for the bottom of the barrel in terms of dating prowess, so it's overblown. However, I do think that older men are dating younger than before. Various reasons for this, but I think stuff being more expensive is a big reason - men need more time before they're feeling stable enough to start a family, while the ideal female age for starting a family is still what it's always been.

As far as actual psychological bias, I don't think so. My gf is 28, I'm 37 and we don't have any difference in how we rate attractiveness.

Poly_frolicher · 2022-07-14T15:45:56+00:00

When I re-entered the dating scene as a 55 year old, I was sure I would have zero results. I was wrong. I have had many offers from men as young as 21 (which is probably a fetish), had a relationship with a 29 yo, and have no problem getting dates with handsome men forty and over. I do not see the problems men bitch about in this sub, but maybe I’m too old and too optimistic due to my own positive results.

I have never evaluated men in the way RP says women do, and I’ve never talked to women who do. I’m sure they are right about a small percentage of women, but by no means the majority.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-07-14T13:20:25+00:00

Younger people tend to be more hung up on looks. We always were. It’s just now instead of taking about the girls in VS or Maxim or a hustler: they have unheard abd of amounts of IG and social media models. Good news: the “old standards” have broken down and people can see the wide spectrum of hotnesss from every races, country and culture. The bad news: most people are still average and so seeing way way more attractive people exists had given some a complex.

AloneOnTheStrange · 2022-07-14T14:29:40+00:00

Early 30s. Work with and hang out with people of all ages. But median age of my social circle is probably 24. I'm Australian, and from what I gathered things are basically the same as the American dating market, but with some more specific Australian cultural things.

When I was younger I was really unattractive. Like no idea how to dress, groom, autistically socially awkward. Sometimes I never left the house, had no real hobbies besides video games. Didn't exercise, but naturally skinny. Now I'm buff, I have tonnes of hobbies, always seem to be out and about, dress great, groom great. I got more girls then than I do now, and I was more socially accepted back then than I am now.

I don't really think it's about hotness. I've always been adamant about that. I'm hot enough, but way uglier guys do way better.

Over the years I've noticed that it's a lot harder to get a girl's attention, and even harder to hold it. I can have friendly chit chat with people, but I just can't compete with the sheer quantity of interaction people get all day every day on their phones. Even if I really wow her in the time we're together, I'm just an insignificant blip compared to that.

My friends more my age are a lot more easy to get along with. They're a lot more accepting of weirdness and awkwardness. More casually friendly. More likely to compliment and appreciate things. Less glued to their phones, more likely to use texting just to set up events rather than idle chit chat.

Puzzled_Carob_2742 · 2022-07-14T14:32:42+00:00

It’s not something you’ll notice when you just look around outside, it only really pops up in big data, and it shows that yes there seems to be a decline in people having sex and entering relationships, mostly in men (yes even relationships the decrease is not 1:1, there are multiple women dating the same men). A big part of that variance is probably standards shooting up because of social media and OLD, some it might also just be behavioural again because of social media and the meteoric rise in popularity of video games and porn. Hard to say what contributes in what proportions, but it’s not looking good.

lovestocomment · 2022-07-14T15:30:51+00:00

I think dating apps and social media is the main driver. Idk I advocate for my brothers and friends to stay off dating apps. It destroys their self esteem. At least when you approach someone in person, you can learn from that experience and adjust. It helps to build social skills and forces us to try and understand the each other.

Dating apps take that away. Then there the unrealistic expectations... For both men and women. It's sad.

WilliamWyattD · 2022-07-14T15:37:20+00:00

Without descending into sociology/psychology style statistics, people here have a lot of trouble putting their views into perspective. Everything becomes this all-or-nothing, extreme formulation.

I imagine that female standards for male beauty have gone up. And that the weighting of male appearance in a variety of female SMP-related decisions has increased. However, not only is the causation complex, but the degree of change is also debatable. It is certainly exaggerated by many. But denial that there has been any change also seems misguided.

t_minus_420 · 2022-07-14T17:46:35+00:00

This is a good point! I think since we can't see each other through this forum, we lose 99% of the context we might have if we were talking in person. As a result, we assume a lot about the people behind the text, which may or may not be accurate. I think cultural differences can explain A LOT of the disagreements on this sub. Thinking about how different it might be based on age groups is a huge factor that I had not considered before.

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-07-14T18:30:12+00:00

Bingo. It takes a lot of self awareness so good on you for that.

If you’re a ppd user and are over 35, you’re perspectives are very different from the girls that men on here are dating.

2022-07-14T18:57:30+00:00

I don't think this is a major problem for Millennials or even very early Gen Z (like 1997-1999). I'm technically Gen Z, as are most of my friends, and they've all had relationships/sex quite a few times, the men and the women. I feel like the supposed inflation of standards may be more relevant to anyone born post-2000, who are only 22 at the oldest. And even the 22 year olds I know seem to be fine.

MaliciousMack · 2022-07-14T19:27:48+00:00

Early 20s man here.

From my perspective, there’s overlap in men who hold that sentiment (that you need to be the top whatever percent of men to find a partner) and a poorly developed sense of social skills. There will be exceptions to the rule, but often I see them go hand in hand.

Part of this is probably (speculating here) due to screen taking over the dating scene in ways that older generations didn’t have access to. Tinder, Bumble, etc. makes it easy to see the dating pool out there, but when your identity is boiled down to some pictures and a bio, physical looks take precedent and the ease of access for both sexes means that below average men (in perspective of the person swiping) will be easily ignored.

But often, and you can see this on r/inceltears , there are men, who even when they get a chance, blow it through having misguided expectations for an interaction, and unfortunately there are few resources for men to learn, outside of trial and error.

Sugar daddys, sex work, and financial independence of women and been less stigmatized, so a lot of men who in past generations would have been better suited to the sexual marketplace now don’t have the same appeal. When you have bad social skills, and you’re not needed as a financial provider in ways older generations required, the expectations go up, and unfortunately many men haven’t adjusted to the times as they’ve needed to succeed.

DarthFarris · 2022-07-14T19:38:43+00:00

My dad was in his 20s throughout the 80s. We have conversations about how different dating is all the time. He said, any given night, he could go to a random bar and it would be full of single women his age looking to meet people, dance, etc.

When I was in my early 20s, he didn't understand how I wasn't going home with a new woman every night. Then I started taking him out with me and showing him that 1. there really weren't women around in general, and 2. they were either there with friends/ partners and not interested in being talked to at all. It blew his mind haha.

Dating has gotten really bad in the past 5-6. I blame a lot of it on covid, but the culture itself has also changed.

SinofTruth11 · 2022-07-14T19:52:56+00:00

d we get people saying that apparently it's literally
physically impossible for anyone who's an iota short of perfection to
ever ever get close to holding hands with the opposite sex.

^ uhh what?? First of all are you stupid or dishonest ?

Either way the truth is It's easier for women of any mediocrity to get better looking or more intelligent guys or richer guys

It's guys that struggle

Ironically most women are mediocre but even more men are mediocre in looks because they don't use make up and in general are women spirits in male physical incarnation... and they bitch about the wrong thing too WHAT IN TAR-NATION NATION

They live in their imagiNATION and have no RATIONality or HONESTY

Obsidian_Koilz · 2022-07-14T20:06:48+00:00

You definitely have a point OP. I too have a different outlook and ideals in answer to this relationship, sex, and love problem... but I'm in my 30's.

My approach to life is probably significantly more extroverted then the younger generation. Although, I'm considered introverted by my contemporaries.

odd_cloud · 2022-07-14T21:35:35+00:00

Tinder has changed a lot. Women I know who do not use Tinder tend to believe they are not that popular. Those who use, it's a different story.

Best_Illustrator_137 · 2022-07-14T21:54:06+00:00

It’s a little bit of both, people in this generation have social media which exasperated it a lot and older folks remember a time without it, and not that standards have changed a lot, but they’ve definitely been inflated and because social media and how easier it is to just move on from person to person, it makes things like criteria, flags, etc more in your face than ever before, and the abundance of ppl just makes people more inclined to just move on if the person isn’t exactly what they’re looking for, which in of it self is a double edged sword. Although, I will caviate this by saying that what you see on social media isn’t akin to real life, the internet has you seeing this stuff more than ever so some conflate it to happening more often just because they see it more often in media/social media.

LotBuilder · 2022-07-14T22:04:29+00:00

I am not sure where you guys live but I don’t see this play out at all. You see a lot of attractive people with average looking people and there is plenty of intermingling.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-07-14T23:21:10+00:00

I hear single people in their 30s complaining about this stuff the most.

Title	Generational differences in hotness standards
Author	-passepar2t-
Upvotes	113
Comments	348
Date	July 14, 2022 8:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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