If the woman you meet is a virgin, what makes you think she’s going to stop being a virgin for you when she hasn’t done so for men she’s dated in the past?

KayRay1994 · 2024-03-23T18:36:30+00:00

i am a high value male making 69,420k who likes trad women, goes to the gym 35 times a week and owns 12 businesses.

afk_row · 2024-03-23T18:41:20+00:00

Im also a virgin what makes her think I’m going to stop being a virgin for her?

SlyStocks · 2024-03-23T19:04:00+00:00

I literally was able to have sex with a virgin because she thought of me as a short loser.

I am not making this up. I wasn’t aware of any of it. But she was super tight and then there was blood everywhere. Then she admitted to that having been her first time. I was basically like “wtf, you are 23 and we barely know each other. why would you do this?”

She was like “well, I don’t care for you, you are not my type physically either. therefore I have no feelings and won’t be hurt. if some guy I truly like doesn’t call me back after taking my virginity, I’d be heartbroken for weeks. btw, don’t call me.”

Proudvow · 2024-03-23T20:07:23+00:00

If she doesn't then she doesn't. I'm fine with having a sexless relationship with a virgin. That was commonplace in the distant past.

wtknight · 2024-03-23T18:22:55+00:00

I think guys usually think that she might be more attracted to them than to the men whom she dated in the past. Most people do try to date people who are better than the previous people whom they've dated, after all. TRP will claim that women who are alpha widows will settle, but these women are obviously not virgins.

purplish_possum · 2024-03-23T18:55:20+00:00

Sometimes women just decide it's time. There's nothing special about the guy.

See Kate Hudson's character in the movie 100 Cigarettes.

NockerJoe · 2024-03-23T19:18:37+00:00

I mean if you want a permanently asexual relationship fine but I think most people expect the person they're dating to want to have sex with them at SOME point.

Most_Read_1330 · 2024-03-23T23:29:51+00:00

It's easier to turn it on then turn it off. How can someone be promiscuous when single and then suddenly turn it off and be monogamous in a relationship?

GH0STRIDER579 · 2024-03-25T05:09:56+00:00

I mean is it reasonable to expect that we'll have sex after we get married? I don't do casual sex though so apparently I'm weird because of that.

doesn't like being pedestaled for it

I agree. It should be the bare minimum for ordinary people. Bring back "no sex before marriage" (for both men and women)

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-03-23T19:46:26+00:00

a lot of men don't care if you're a virgin. I'm not demanding a virgin. All you have to do is not be a slut. There's a pretty big window between virgin and slut

Hubris1998 · 2024-03-23T19:12:59+00:00

don't try to make sense of it. it's 100% irrational and egotistical. people in general want to be chosen. we all want to feel special. men in particular are also programmed to be disgusted by female promiscuity (we're terrified of getting c*cked for obvious reasons). the combination of these two facts create this double standard. but this preference is just something some men say and nobody actually follows through on (except if she's been very promiscuous in the past).

Personally, I think it's healthy to stroke your man's ego to a certain degree.

Aafan_Barbarro · 2024-03-24T12:05:46+00:00

Nonsensical question. Maybe because it's safe to assume she doesn't want to be a lifelong virgin?

just_a_place · 2024-03-24T05:37:27+00:00

I have never dated a virgin 😐

But if I ever do, I have zero expectations that she will stop being a virgin with me. Why? Because that would not be the reason I am dating her lol. If I am on a date with a woman it's usually cause I like hanging out with her despite my horny feelings.

I actually enjoy women non-sexually, when they are genuinely enjoyable without sex. If I want sex, there are plenty of other women willing and happy to get with me, but sometimes I just like hanging out with a girl just cause I like her.

abaxeron · 2024-03-24T18:39:35+00:00

what makes you think she’s going to stop being a virgin for you

Nothing. She may stop being a virgin for me, or she may not. I've got nothing against sluts, I've got nothing against virgins. I've got everything against sluts who demand that I treat them as virgins.

harmonica2 · 2024-03-23T19:19:13+00:00

To answer the OP, I think most guys probably just hope for the best?

ElbowStrike · 2024-03-23T19:39:19+00:00

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" -- Wayne Gretzky

Commercial-Way-1011 · 2024-03-23T19:50:49+00:00

I don't. I have no issue waiting, and if during that time we realize we don't like eachother, we go on our merry ways.

Do you think I care that you're a virgin just so I can fuck it out of you? Absolutely not.

Neptune-Jnr · 2024-03-23T18:57:10+00:00

Ideally she wouldn't just strip naked and hop on my genitals.
We would date for a while and continue to do more intimate things as we got to know we other.

Silver_Past2313 · 2024-03-24T00:50:01+00:00

Because it's assumed that she will want to have sex someday and it's basically a game of musical chairs and if you're there when she wants to have sex then you'll have sex?

shadowrangerfs · 2024-03-24T09:12:59+00:00

Because every woman who isn't a virgin,used to be one. Which means, at some point she decided to stop being a virgin for a particular guy. For whatever reason, she decided that this guy was the guy to, stop being a virgin for.

So, with the particular woman the guy is interested in, she may decide that I'm the guy to stop being a virgin for.

Pizzashillsmom · 2024-03-23T18:27:21+00:00

Almost certainly a woman that’s a virgin will simply not have dated much for various reasons. Like the chance of a woman having been in multiple serious relationships and still being a virgin is virtually 0.

Velor22 · 2024-03-23T18:55:38+00:00

Assuming that is her normal behavior, I wouldn't want her to change it just for me.

That would be a strong indication of her values, and I would be impressed by her strength and security in herself. It would be a huge green flag for me personally.

After all, that used to be common in women. My partner waited a long time to see if my commitment was genuine. One reason we're still together almost 30 yrs later.

kvakerok_v2 · 2024-03-24T03:59:45+00:00

Because I'm in it for the long haul, and not just to get my dick wet.

It's not about virginity itself. Virginity is simply a first sign of a non-promiscuous person that hasn't fallen prey to the godawful modern culture.

Consequent questions will be: is she attractive? Is she healthy? Is she nurturing? What can she cook beyond Mac & cheese Kraft dinner? Can she budget? What are her spending and saving habits? Does she appreciate me and my skillset? What are her family plans (having kids), etc etc.

I'm just scratching the surface here. Again, these are my requirements, lower quality men could only care about virginity.

ISupposeImCorrect · 2024-03-23T21:43:27+00:00

What makes you think I'm going to believe her in the first place?

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2024-03-24T09:38:22+00:00

Because I’m not other guys…what a weird question. That’s like saying “if a guy hasn’t married other women he’s dated what makes you think he’ll marry you?”

Kilatypus · 2024-03-24T09:41:14+00:00

Because I'm the one 😎

SecondEldenLord · 2024-03-24T00:48:10+00:00

If I treat her right, if I prove myself to be a good leader, a good provider, a loyal man and if I have good traditional values, then I guess she would have many reasons to give up her virginity.

eli_ashe · 2024-03-23T23:18:28+00:00

I think your question is hinging on the notion that there is something other than their mere virginity going on. As in, they must be saving their virginity for marriage, or something of that sort.

Because otherwise I simply assume that if they are dating, they are actually interested in being sexual with the people they are dating. Hence, I wouldn't take their virginity as a sign of much of anything, barring other kinds of indicators of course.

If there are other indicators, like they are particularly old to be a virgin, or have stated preferences to remain a virgin, or have a long dating history and are still virgins, then I wouldn't think she would stop 'just for me'. I'd also wonder if she's ok at that point tho tbh.

Zabadoodude · 2024-03-24T00:38:40+00:00

Nothing. That's why I don't go for virgins. I'm not a teenager anymore. I'm not waiting for 6 months for her to figure out If she's ready to give me a (likely toothy) blowjob

boom-wham-slam · 2024-03-24T02:00:04+00:00

Never even meet virgins except really ugly ones tbh. So....

LaloTwinsDa2nd · 2024-03-24T16:32:50+00:00

Experience

Sweet_Reflexion · 2024-03-24T18:33:21+00:00

You do realize men know women don't like being pedestaled for that kind of thing right? If the man doesn't have zero social intelligence, he's gonna hide something like that from a woman he's chasing. He's not gonna actually tell her "I'm so glad you're a virgin, I dig that in a woman." Men learn to pretend that kind of thing doesn't matter to them while rejoicing inwardly.

Unique-Afternoon6316 · 2024-03-25T15:13:33+00:00

What makes me think she would? Nothing. But I would hope she would- otherwise I would shortly no longer be in a relationship with her. But I also find people who are shy or overly protective about sex very unattractive, and so I would hope she would disclose that so that we could no longer hang out.

Anti_Thing · 2024-03-27T06:20:01+00:00

If it turns out that we're compatible & that we both want it, then I'm going to marry her.

alebruto · 2024-03-27T20:32:54+00:00

My fiancée did this, simply because I'm trustworthy and worth it

Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-03-23T19:40:53+00:00

The guys she dated in the past didn't know about chloroform

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-03-23T20:43:53+00:00

Loaded question, why do you think I would think that?

Virgins are only good for sacrifices and god-spawning anyway.

RahLyt · 2024-03-24T04:02:34+00:00

This question makes no sense lol.

stats135 · 2024-03-23T18:53:40+00:00

The diamond ring.

DarayRaven · 2024-03-23T19:08:55+00:00

Good thing l don't want a virgin lol

TeachMePlease7777 · 2024-03-23T20:04:49+00:00

Odd question. I wouldn't expect her to, nor particularly want her to. I mean, I would likely want to have sex with her, I often want to have sex with women I meet, but the whole virgin thing is whatever. I haven't had a lot of sex in my life and I consider myself spiritually a virgin, so I guess it would be special because both of us would be trying to figure out what is going on and trying to figure out how the hell to hump properly (harder than it looks. practice is needed to do it well). I would think she would have sex with me, or not have sex with me, for the same reasons other women would or would not.

EvilManDevil · 2024-03-23T23:36:37+00:00

She doesn't have to. But I don't have to marry her either.

TryLambda · 2024-03-24T00:29:10+00:00

That's the wrong question...the question should be why is feminism promoting hoeflation in the world creating an environment where it is impossible to take women seriously at all. So we just pump and dump or go our own way as a response to this insanity.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-03-23T18:24:24+00:00

Why would I even care? If she wants wathever if she don't want won't matter as well. I just find pretty hypocrite that you "don't like to be pedestaled for it" while asking a question that put your virgin status in a pedestal.

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Love-Is-Selfish · 2024-03-23T18:29:06+00:00

It’s the same as it is with any woman. You’re hopeful that the relationship develops towards having sex and beyond. Otherwise you wouldn’t be in the relationship. It also depends on why she’s a virgin.

lastoflast67 · 2024-03-23T20:57:49+00:00

Id offer commitment, which would be special becuase most guys she either doesnt want or they wont commit.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-03-23T22:48:58+00:00

That's why you have to offer a bigger dowry than the other men 🤣

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-24T02:47:11+00:00

I have no interest in sexually inexperienced women. My worst nightmare. Even the ones who are not virgins are often so bad at it.

Abandons65 · 2024-03-23T21:38:39+00:00

Getting a virgin girl or low body count girl isn’t hard if you’re not a 30 year old loser

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