Aren’t the “it’s because he’s attractive” posts getting boring?

wtknight · 2024-04-13T14:05:08+00:00

We are also cracking down on “woe is me” posts even when they apply to an entire group, such as to men or to women.

Particular_Trade6308 · 2024-04-13T14:23:55+00:00

The threads get repetitive because the man’s attractiveness explains most situations. So any debate on this topic that isn’t a circlejerk ends up at the same place.

We should create a separate debate sub for attractive men and women, aka people who get to even play the game. Then we can debate details like who pays or how to spot a cheater. But for people who can’t play the game, “you’re not attractive” is actually the answer to every question.

Imagine a sub where you debate optimal investing strategies. Stocks? Options? Crypto? But half the members of the sub are broke/homeless/unemployed. Naturally most threads would come down to “go make some money, you’re broke.”

ICU8a8 · 2024-04-13T15:37:03+00:00

I mean, you can bent out of shape about it if you want, but when you’ve witnessed it in the real world you know it’s true. Super hot guys will get laid regardless of their personality or political persuasion. Women succumb to the dictates of biology and put out for hot guys. It’s delusional to think otherwise. This isn’t bitterness or “incel” ideology, it’s just straight up fact. You can be an enormous asshole but if you are objectively very attractive, women will be easy for you to get. I know it flies in the face of the virtue signaling most women like to project online, but there it is.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-04-13T13:49:57+00:00

Its boring because it’s the truth

___ZoSo___ · 2024-04-13T16:52:30+00:00

Men and women put up with bullshit and will ignore red flags if the person is hot enough.

Men, more often than not, will admit that they were with a crazy woman because she was hot. Women tend to fall back on blaming the man she was with instead of acknowledging that she was as responsible because she knew he was a POS but ignored it because he was hot.

The repetitiveness of it comes from the observation that women will do everything they can to avoid admitting this. This post itself is trying to dismiss what everyone can see and has experienced. Women are just as shallow as men and will disregard negative traits if the guy is attractive.

Key_Construction1332 · 2024-04-13T14:41:38+00:00

Is common cause its true and the truth is boring.

Remarkable_Rough_89 · 2024-04-13T15:05:37+00:00

Cause it’s a an actually good answer

uh-wat13 · 2024-04-13T18:18:55+00:00

guys, it's pretty obvious that blackpill has won, all arguments have converged, dating problems have been found and no more debates are needed. the only reason mods deny it is b/c they feed their ego off of us bickering under their forum and letting women virtue signal further

alebruto · 2024-04-13T16:38:20+00:00

The point is that this is true for most cases.

A man's appearance has a very strong influence on how his actions will be interpreted, in many cases it is what will differentiate between being seen as a rapist and being seen as a man with attitude.

* Introverted attractive man: Mysterious;

* Introverted ugly man: He is hiding something nebulous;

* Extroverted attractive man: Confident;

* Extroverted ugly man: He's trying to compensate, or "he doesn't see himself" (I don't know what the English expression would be for the latter).

The problem is not that discussions focus on the issue of appearance, but rather that appearance is extremely relevant.

his_purple_majesty · 2024-04-13T17:47:49+00:00

You think all your dating problems are because you’re aren’t attractive enough and not at to do with your personality.

It's such a wild coincidence that the women who seem like they're attracted to me within the first 10 seconds of meeting me all seem to really like my charming personality, but the ones who aren't all hate my shitty personality.

CliffPR · 2024-04-13T16:26:20+00:00

I'll stop saying it the moment it stops being true.

Purple_Kangaroo8549 · 2024-04-13T17:42:46+00:00

TL'DR you don't like the truth.

-snickerss- · 2024-04-13T20:11:16+00:00

Ah, yes. Let's disregard our real life experiences and create our own virtual world for debating, because some people are getting bored.

lolthankstinder · 2024-04-13T17:33:40+00:00

I remember one time I was out at a college bar and this really cute woman actually shot her shot on this tall, masculine dude that clearly wasn’t into her. I went up to talk to her but right around the same time she had to go to the bathroom or something so she turned towards me but looked off in the distance and scooted right by me without even acknowledging I exist. Still haunts me to this day.

Why did she shoot her shot on that guy but I was completely invisible to her? It’s because he’s conventionally attractive. It’s a very common experience in crowded bars/clubs when you aren’t a top 20% tall masculine male. Rather than beat myself up for the amount of testosterone I got in my mother’s womb, it’s way more mentally healthy just to externalize things like that on attractiveness. People try to individualistically blame me for everything but like fuck off. I work hard on myself and I can clearly see when I am disadvantaged by something beyond my control and I’m happy to blame it on that rather than myself.

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-04-13T17:57:57+00:00

No because women always want to virtue signal that they don't care about looks when men can clearly see they care just as much as men if not more.

HmanTheChicken · 2024-04-13T19:11:19+00:00

American culture lives for “just world theory,” and this is a clear example where it’s wrong.

Just like people born into wealth have a way easier life in many ways including subtle ones, this is also true of looks. It might be a dead horse, but it’s also pretty profound that being a ‘good boy’ won’t make your life sunshine and buttercups

fourmiddlefingers · 2024-04-13T21:31:05+00:00

Every topic has been beaten to death at this point.

Da_Famous_Anus · 2024-04-13T23:05:33+00:00

When you really boil it down, the man's attractiveness is the reason behind most issues to be honest.

The problem is the constant gaslighting we see here trying to convince us otherwise. If we weren't met with such vehement denial, there wouldn't be as much of a need for these kinds of posted.

So, I'm not surprised that they're so common.

Don't worry. You're a woman posting. Mods won't delete.

SlyStocks · 2024-04-13T23:07:35+00:00

The problem is that it is just true as fuck.

Whenever a woman finds me physically appealing, everything is sooooo much easier, it is almost absurd. Suddenly my personality is just amazing. apparently.

Quiet_Firefighter_65 · 2024-04-13T13:32:47+00:00

It's such a truism. Yeah, people like beautiful people and will let them get away with more, why is this news to anyone or worth even mentioning?

tadL · 2024-04-13T14:40:58+00:00

So you don't want to silence free speech but to put it in one corner?

THEbeautifuLIE · 2024-04-13T17:20:43+00:00

[[standards women have proven to abandon when dealing with men they find physically attractive]]

workplace romance
minimum salary earnings
chivalric treatment
cold approach
dating/marital status
goals/ambitions for future [including marriage]
past (secularly & judicial [i.e. prison)
HIS family
political values (Patriarchy, abortion, etc)
etc
etc
etc

tiddermacss · 2024-04-13T20:43:49+00:00

aww dont like being called out on your bullshit? women are way more shallow than men.. looks money fame.. at least with men its just looks

qwertyuduyu321 · 2024-04-13T22:04:37+00:00

I skip most threads because the underlying issue and thus answer is almost always related to looks. It is boring but it’s also very much true.

What’s the alternative?

Saying a 5’6 man should spend every minute of his free time in the gym to get da gurlza?

If you don’t like the answer (which most of the time is going to be “appearance” related) just press “show less” on this sub. It’s not rocket science.

Sad-Climate-1074 · 2024-04-13T13:17:57+00:00

Attractiveness in men signals good genes. We’re mammals, numb nuts. Have we forgotten we’re animals trying to survive in a harsh environment? We’ve been spoiled with modern society and monogamy.

Bubbly_Outcome5016 · 2024-04-13T18:44:19+00:00

My opinion is that we're not really meant to agree on these issues and finding a middle-ground is kinda... pointless and just funnels more MvW conversation, which is fine if you just want to discuss for its own sake, but it's not going to shift anyone's perspective really.

Men and women are equally biased because of biological factors. We're not really meant to discourse about it, just follow desires, take control of factors that you can and let the chips fall where they may.

When subs try to control discourse it becomes bland, PC and unhelpful, when they don't it becomes weighted towards one side or the other and it turns into a total echo chamber. Don't know how to make it useful/better.

obviousredflag · 2024-04-14T05:36:13+00:00

It's men who only use dating apps and get zero likes. Of course they think looks are everything, because that is the only thing they think women can judge their rejection of them off. They see attractive men with shit personalities be successful with women, so of course, the only conclusion is: it's my looks and it's hopeless.

They don't see all the other guys just like them who are in committed relationships. It's too painful to think: that guy who is just like me is in a relationship. what is wrong with me, that i am still a virgin at 25?

Proudvow · 2024-04-13T15:57:45+00:00

Yeah it is excessive. Obviously at certain levels of physical attractiveness other factors stop mattering. But since there's a limit to how physically attractive most guys can become the statements stop being actionable at some point.

And that's when discussions about behavior and seduction become relevant; "if you were hot you could say anything" is useless at that stage.

Sorcha16 · 2024-04-13T17:24:27+00:00

What do you mean getting, it's been boring for a long time.

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DannyBOI_LE · 2024-04-13T14:10:21+00:00

Facts

Ouroboroscentipede · 2024-04-13T15:55:00+00:00

To be fair, a lot of situations are just people having unrealistic expectations, so this is just the most direct answer, people should not be asking this questions when the reason is obvious

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-04-13T19:24:24+00:00

I’d prefer that over the n count weekly thread

One-Preference7122 · 2024-04-14T01:05:54+00:00

All of this is exhausting, dating isn't worth it anyway unless you're above 6ft. It's such an uphill battle to get a girl to show you even an ounce of respect at 5'11; just wish they would admit it instead of dancing around it. They do admit it through their actions, just be nice for them to take some accountability and say it outright.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2024-04-14T01:39:56+00:00

It is rule 1 and 2

eli_ashe · 2024-04-14T04:08:31+00:00

oh, idk.

I suspect that we keep having them because it's such a significant problem for so many people. maybe instead of avoiding them, consider changing one's tactics or even modifying one's position to deal with it.

If everyone keeps talking bout how broke ass they are, maybe its indicative of a real problem, and not just bsing?

moldovan0731 · 2024-04-14T06:07:45+00:00

People here keep doing it because other people here keep posting research based on self reports like you just did.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-04-13T13:10:57+00:00

Technically all “looks” posts are supposed to only go into the intermittent weekly sticky that comes up.

But just like a bunch of stuff: people aren’t reading the posting rules.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-04-13T13:04:05+00:00

this is literally how bl*ck pill has destroyed all discourse in the discussion of human sexual dynamics for the last 5 years. go back 5-6 yrs on this sub and look at the discussions youll be shocked

milquetoastmf · 2024-04-13T13:41:08+00:00

If you are talking about physical attraction (I.e. looks) those posts are already not allowed on an individual bias and have their own weekly thread. Please report them if you see them.

waffleznstuff30 · 2024-04-13T14:51:39+00:00

It's kind like a water is wet thing.

Women like attractive men and tend to want to date someone they find attractive. And will typically give preferential treatment and time to someone they find attractive. This isn't some unspoken truth or unheard of assumption.

neverendingplush · 2024-04-13T16:02:01+00:00

Honestly most of the posts here are mind numbingly repetitive and whiny. Attractive Men get laid and ugly ones not so much, who would have guessed. Rephrasing your disdain for women and the woes of masculine society doesn't change the answer you want. As a guy I seeing other dudes whine this much makes me think why would woman want to fuck them when they think this way.

Whoreasaurus_Rex · 2024-04-13T16:47:26+00:00

Not denying it, but highlighting that attractiveness is highly subjective for women always results in “Nah, y’all just want Chad!”

If you (generic you) are feeling gaslit by women about attraction matters, I feel equally about being told what I find attractive in a man, or not.

Jaded_Interaction162 · 2024-04-13T15:23:05+00:00

There are other explanations like he might have more social proof or clout or something. Guys conveniently forget that young women's social circles are heavily based on social status and social proof. A guy having rich parents with a lakehouse gets more clout, a guy who's helped out a lot of his male friends for years will get treated with more respect by other men and women will notice that.

But I guess with dating apps now this element has been removed from the equation.

Safinated · 2024-04-13T17:45:15+00:00

Not to people who are invested in it, no

caption291 · 2024-04-13T21:58:52+00:00

What if instead of banning people from saying that 1+1=2 we banned people that kept needing to be reminded that 1+1=2?

A lot of people haven't internalized that looks matter so despite theoretically acknowledging it, they keep saying things that ignore it and need to be reminded. Those people are the problem and the ones making things exhausting, repetitive and annoying.

DaemonBlackfyre515 · 2024-04-13T13:18:19+00:00

It's not even absolutely true. I'm not attractive and i've pulled absolute stunners. People here vastly underestimate gift of the gab.

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-04-13T15:08:37+00:00

They have a hard time accepting that you have to be attractive because they’re most likely not attractive and/or not good looking.

MyHouseOnMars- · 2024-04-13T13:54:31+00:00

"women are attracted to bad attractive men, I'm such a nice guy"

KayRay1994 · 2024-04-13T15:13:36+00:00

I said this a few days ago, the incel-posting has def gone up exponentially as of late. Its become more pathetic than pessimistic if i’m being honest

Southern_Fall983 · 2024-04-14T00:28:44+00:00

No, it’s the truth/how things work. That’s like saying math and science is boring, it’s only for those who aren’t interested. There’s still a contingency of people who are

Fit_Association4224 · 2024-04-13T13:22:52+00:00

Yes, this is incel logic and fds on the other side of the spectrum. Of course, it makes it easier, but if you were to go out into the real world, you'd find that there are many 'mismatches.' The reality is that 'leagues' only exist in the minds of dudes who have counted themselves out to justify not even trying. Confidence and not giving af makes you attractive no matter what you look like. Lack of it is what makes dudes unattractive.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2024-04-13T15:41:49+00:00

Isn’t that what the looks thread is for?

campskills21 · 2024-04-13T18:10:00+00:00

I’ve tried dating strategy and how to land dates posts. Most people hated it, one person called me an autist psychopath, another said I hope a girl ruins your life. People don’t like talking strategy to get dates and getting women into relationship.

Defeatist dating attitude and how women have it so much better is all the rage on reddit.

thetruthishere_ · 2024-04-13T23:32:08+00:00

Well, most people on the planet are average looking, living average lives making average income yet still date, have sex and marry.

Title	Aren’t the “it’s because he’s attractive” posts getting boring?
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Date	April 13, 2024 1:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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