What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?

computergeek89 · 2024-07-22T18:39:34+00:00

You're not okay, but you will be.

Gloomy-Equivalent-10 · 2024-07-21T16:28:47+00:00

Embrace the suck

HwySuper865 · 2024-07-19T20:41:48+00:00

For women, love is an emotion. Men decide to love. I decide to move on.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2024-07-19T11:21:53+00:00

You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife. Jay-Z

throwaway_coy4wttf79 · 2024-07-19T10:14:43+00:00

You do the best you can for as long as you can, and when you finally can't, you do the next best thing. You back up, you don't give up. - Chuck Yeager

Mundane-Surround-325 · 2024-07-19T05:26:16+00:00

When a (bad) woman eventually gets her man to be as she wants him, she does not want him.

HathorsSekhmet44__4 · 2024-07-19T05:04:21+00:00

“I do know one thing though……BITCHES, they come, they go”

Techdude_Advanced · 2024-07-19T04:33:49+00:00

Keep smiling no matter what, you will come out on the other side a better person.

ExtensionAir9675 · 2024-07-19T04:20:42+00:00

Pain is inevitable.. Misery is optional.

masterof-xe · 2024-07-19T01:08:15+00:00

She will close her heart on you, so she can open her legs for them..

BigSkyHiker · 2024-07-19T01:02:47+00:00

"You know, you can give everything you got to a thing. Yeah, you can give it all you got. And it's still gonna do what it's gonna do." - Tom Hardy in the Bikeriders

BigSkyHiker · 2024-07-18T23:57:38+00:00

You needed to go through what you went through to know what you know now. Not all love is supposed to last forever. Each expired relationship is supposed to connect you more to you.

2alphastyle · 2024-07-18T20:38:52+00:00

F.I.D.O.

Stands for: Fuck It, Drive On.

If your convoy comes under attack or gets ambushed, you keep driving through No Matter What. Never stop in the kill zone, no matter what’s happening. You gotta keep moving forward.

Get through this, heal, and keep moving on with life. As said here before, this too shall pass. But, you could spend a lot of time stuck in misery if you let yourself.

thinkingfands · 2024-07-18T19:16:42+00:00

This too shall pass

BigSkyHiker · 2024-07-18T19:12:49+00:00

If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow.

Pretend_Line6688 · 2024-07-18T18:08:33+00:00

The person you're divorcing is not the person you married!

UTHook3m · 2024-07-18T18:03:48+00:00

“We attract partners of comparable physical and mental health.” This translates to working on yourself, go to that next level in health so you are attractive to the future partner you desire to meet.

FinnyIzzy · 2024-07-18T17:15:35+00:00

Men are in love. Women are in business - Coach Greg

Creative-Drop1816 · 2024-07-18T16:25:00+00:00

If.

-Spartans response to Phillip II of Macedon

cbyrne87 · 2024-07-18T16:01:33+00:00

Sans Criante - French for "without fear." It's on my family crest and saying it when I wake up everyday helps me a ton.

EntertainmentFree512 · 2024-07-18T15:55:09+00:00

Mutual accountability always exists.

Sacramentardo · 2024-07-18T15:53:39+00:00

You’ve faced untold struggles in your life, and you’ve made it victoriously to the other side. This one is no different.

Sacramentardo · 2024-07-18T15:51:52+00:00

I bought a pendant that I wear that reads: “Per Aspera ad Astera” which means: through struggles to the stars. In other words, just work on getting through the divorce, the rewards are on the other side. Freedom, sex, love, romance, independence, etc.

ADailyGardener · 2024-07-18T15:23:59+00:00

諸行無常 - Shogyomujou

It's a Buddhist expression that basically equates to "all worldly things are impermanent".

It helps me remember to appreciate the good times I had without longing for them again. It reminds me that the pain I feel is temporary which in turn reduces my desire to run from the pain, but rather to acknowledge it and move forward.

insurety · 2024-07-18T15:21:12+00:00

Someone else turning their back on their morals and ethics does not make it OK for you to turn your back on yours.

And a second:

Telling your child how their other parent harmed them only has the effect of making your child feel unloved.

HalfTheMan611 · 2024-07-18T15:19:57+00:00

Quote from Goodfellas (Ray Liotta's character, Henry Hill): "The way I saw it, everybody takes a beating sometime"

HusbandGettingBetter · 2024-07-18T15:15:15+00:00

You can't apply logic and reason to a decision based on emotions.

HusbandGettingBetter · 2024-07-18T15:12:50+00:00

Don't look for the reason it happened, because there may not even be a reason.

HusbandGettingBetter · 2024-07-18T15:07:09+00:00

You are enough.

Smooth-Sheepherder86 · 2024-07-18T15:06:55+00:00

don't drown, keep swimming

maineyack77 · 2024-07-18T14:37:38+00:00

Be selfish , she is

RxRobb · 2024-07-18T14:25:46+00:00

One day at a time

VegasZac · 2024-07-18T14:25:16+00:00

My favorite for the end of the journey - “I’m so happy I didn’t end up with the life I thought I wanted”

hogger303 · 2024-07-18T14:04:54+00:00

Keep. Moving. Forward.

Left-Signature-5250 · 2024-07-18T13:16:17+00:00

Living in the past only fosters regret, living in the future only anxiety. Embrace the present.

licensedmofo · 2024-07-18T12:28:25+00:00

This too shall pass

Feisty_Elderberry_96 · 2024-07-18T12:15:32+00:00

A few on my phone I would read over and over when shit was hitting the fan (IE, court).

**

98% of LIFE is about dealing with failure and still being able to smile and find joy the next day

** In your darkest moments you must become the devil ... to get out of hell

** Live your life without keeping score.

** When the distance is unknown and the end is unknown .. That's when know who the fuck you are.

** Love your enemies; Do good to them which hate you; Bless them that curse you; And pray for them which despitefully use you.

TheWormTurns22 · 2024-07-18T11:53:55+00:00

"an interesting game... the only way to win, is not to play..." the WOPPER

kovz34 · 2024-07-18T09:56:43+00:00

KMF. Keep moving forward.

Whatcangowrong_ · 2024-07-18T08:17:45+00:00

It hurt at the beginning and you will get used to pain by time

probebeta · 2024-07-18T06:21:24+00:00

"Every rapid ends."

DocumentOwn690 · 2024-07-18T04:12:53+00:00

There are no mistakes, only moments we learn. - Emery “Concussion”

The most fascinating journey you’ll ever embark on is the one that leads you back to yourself.

We are never going to be okay until we talk about what hurts.

daedalis2020 · 2024-07-18T03:49:52+00:00

If you were a slave you’d give anything to be free. Half is a bargain.

Embarrassed-Steak331 · 2024-07-18T03:40:48+00:00

Rock bottom is the perfect foundation to build something new.

pooptartone · 2024-07-18T03:36:04+00:00

You’re allowed to feel like this

jasoncb123 · 2024-07-18T02:47:15+00:00

She was never really yours. It was just your turn with her

Dull_Description_710 · 2024-07-18T02:34:31+00:00

It gets better

Conscious-Cat-9849 · 2024-07-18T02:25:54+00:00

Once you've truly been kicked in the balls, you know the depths of pain ,devastation, and suffering.

Mister_Vandemar · 2024-07-18T02:15:13+00:00

“When you’re going through hell, keep going.”

hwiegob · 2024-07-18T02:08:03+00:00

This too shall pass.

Independent_Owlz · 2024-07-18T02:07:17+00:00

Best man, “Fuck her”

Me, “pretty sure that ship has sailed”

Best man, “Congratulations! God Speed brother”

Jokes aside…. Don’t let the bad days win.

Stay busy!

vstarfan · 2024-07-18T02:06:19+00:00

“I always get to where I'm going by walking away from where I've been.” Winnie the Pooh

Jiujitsu_Dude · 2024-07-18T02:04:01+00:00

Like Shawshank you must crawl through a tunnel of shit before being on the glorious other side.

SnooSprouts5398 · 2024-07-18T01:21:27+00:00

Church and the gym are your friends don’t neglect your friends

BlackSun56 · 2024-07-18T01:21:13+00:00

You are supposed to feel the sadness. Let it happen, it’s healthy. It does get better.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2024-07-18T01:18:06+00:00

The only way out is through. -me

No-Profit-1027 · 2024-07-18T00:55:03+00:00

"You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one" — Michael McMillan

darkerwithin · 2024-07-18T00:45:17+00:00

You didn't lose a wife just a lot of dead weight.

P1Day1 · 2024-07-18T00:44:35+00:00

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems.

Lean_BigDaddy · 2024-07-18T00:44:28+00:00

“Onward and upward” has been my motto since I was mostly set free (5 years left of 6 in maintenance or marriage punishment payment not withstanding.. lol).

AdrianInLimbo · 2024-07-18T00:40:06+00:00

No matter how soul cruising this feels right now, It does get better, it honestly takes time.

Haunting_Profession3 · 2024-07-18T00:38:02+00:00

Let it happen, one day you will understand why and be beyond grateful for it.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2024-07-18T00:31:35+00:00

Divorces are expensive because they’re worth it.

Mr_Stimmers · 2024-07-18T00:30:34+00:00

The entire song kills, but this feels especially apt to me right now:

I ain’t a-saying you treated me unkind

You could’ve done better but I don’t mind

You just kinda wasted my precious time

But don’t think twice, it’s all right

— Don’t Think Twice, It’s Alright, Bob Dylan

GrimStreaker15 · 2024-07-18T00:19:36+00:00

Great men are forged in fire. It's the privilege of ex-wives to light the flame.

Hog-Switchkey · 2024-07-17T23:57:16+00:00

Women marry men hoping they will change and men marry women hoping they won't change!

HerbEverstanks · 2024-07-17T23:54:16+00:00

Whoever invented marriage was creepy as hell. Like I love you so much I'm going to get the government involved so you can't leave. - Jim Carey

HerbEverstanks · 2024-07-17T23:50:49+00:00

Taken from another poster;

Women use sex for seduction prior to marriage, then use sex for compliance during marriage.

oaktreeeeee · 2024-07-17T23:37:07+00:00

Worst version of you : depressed with her holding you down

Best version of you: full you without her.

GuyRedditAccount · 2024-07-17T23:15:18+00:00

A boat moves faster without an anchor.

Translation: you’re going to be even better without her dragging you down.

stupididiot78 · 2024-07-17T22:51:17+00:00

You're divorcing the person you married. The person you married would be sickened by what this person has done.

She's not one in a million, she's one of a million.

And as multiple people have already said, nobody is coming to save you.

investthrowaway000 · 2024-07-17T22:51:15+00:00

Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried, when in fact you have been planted.

ennuiday · 2024-07-17T22:49:56+00:00

"They don't need to know your side of the story, and you don't need the last word.

Seek healing and you'll find peace in not proving your point."

SnooDucks2052 · 2024-07-17T22:46:25+00:00

“It’s never yours. It’s just your turn”

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-07-17T22:32:46+00:00

The weight doesn't get lighter. You get stronger.

DicksOut4Edamame · 2024-07-17T22:30:39+00:00

Nothing happens to anyone that he is not fitted by nature to bear

HereinPA1 · 2024-07-17T22:13:25+00:00

The most useless person in the world to you is your ex.

coffeefrog92 · 2024-07-17T21:49:01+00:00

For those worried about having less time with their kids:

It may better to be 100% dad 50% of the time, rather than 50% dad 100% of the time.

Bretweir_jerky · 2024-07-17T21:47:35+00:00

Personally I found quotes and cliches to be extremely frustrating and elementary when I was at my worst. I viewed them as “one size fits all, bumper sticker platitudes” that didn’t express the true details of my situation. But I was envious of those that took comfort or learned something new from them

domo_roboto · 2024-07-17T21:34:01+00:00

I have two: 1) grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

2) Vanish, o night!

Set, stars! Set, stars!

At dawn, I will win!

I will win!

hockeypepsi · 2024-07-17T21:30:39+00:00

If you’re going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill

Equal-Morning9480 · 2024-07-17T21:21:59+00:00

No one is coming to save you

soontobesolo · 2024-07-17T21:21:28+00:00

You'll love it, embrace your freedom!

chango01232020 · 2024-07-17T21:19:59+00:00

Forget about her, and live your best life!

spartanag6 · 2024-07-17T21:19:26+00:00

Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

northdakotact · 2024-07-17T21:12:43+00:00

Stay off the plantation.

Canadian_builder1081 · 2024-07-17T21:12:40+00:00

The best investment you can make post-divorce (and always) is in yourself.

AirSailer · 2024-07-17T21:11:07+00:00

For those guys who think they can do something to win their wives back...

True attraction cannot be negotiated.

jaguaraugaj · 2024-07-17T21:05:45+00:00

I never have to do anything I didn’t really want to do ever again

OctinoxateAndZinc · 2024-07-17T21:05:00+00:00

I spent six months trying to repair the dead marriage. Spouse had already moved out/on and wasnt interested in filing to get it over with (why would they, I was still funding things).

"No one is coming to save you"

Said to me by a friend. Was a bucket of cold water in the face but it helped me wake up and file myself.

Xan-Diesel · 2024-07-17T21:04:48+00:00

“She’s not yours - it’s just your turn.”

“Nothing lasts forever.”

“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.”

ADivorcedGuy · 2024-07-17T20:57:41+00:00

Work on yourself and become "the one" that "the one" you are looking for, is looking for.

Flashy-Excitement247 · 2024-07-17T20:53:37+00:00

"she's just not that into you"

GigaFastTwin · 2024-07-17T20:49:26+00:00

“The best revenge is living well”

Title	What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?
Author	ooomn57
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Date	July 17, 2024 8:42 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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