I’m asking this as a mid-40s dude.

After divorcing a few years ago, I hit the dating scene. It has definitely been a ride. I dated one girl somewhat seriously and have had a few “situationships.”

I tend to date women who are in their late 20s to early 30s - and it’s not for the reasons women here might think.

I have found most single women in their late 30s and up just absolutely emotionally broken - to the point where I just can’t really date them even casually.

It has actually affected my view of the entire Red Pill theory - much of which I have found to be true. However, I have gained an immense amount of empathy for women over the last few years.

As an example, a few days ago I received a text from a girl I dated off and on shortly after divorcing. It had been a couple years since I’d seen her, so we met up for what I thought was going to be a fun catch up and booty call.

What I found was a (very kind and light hearted) girl who was just distraught with grief. This is a pretty resilient woman overall, but she was absolutely in despair.

I spent the night with her and have texted her every day since, just to check on her. I have always been clear that I just cannot really fully commit to anyone after my divorce. But, I also genuinely care about her (and other women I know in similar situations) and want to be a good friend.

Virtually every single and childless woman I know of this age is experiencing the same crisis, to include my sister whom I love very much.

These are all relatively “successful” women who own their own homes, have careers, and so on. But, internally they are just crushed.

I have almost stopped dating because I feel guilty about it.

This is not a post from another red pill bro laughing at women who “hit the wall.”

I agree with the red pill theory that young women are basically given unlimited credit at the candy store with a time limit. I’ve also seen exceptions here. My ex-wife had zero problem dating, but she looks a full decade younger her than she is.

Nevertheless, most single women around my age seem to really be struggling. It is extremely sad to see women I know and care about have such a rough go of it - and I genuinely hope it gets easier for them at some point.