I see the same conundrum happening, where a woman will not be happy with her current love life because she is getting ignored by the guys she does like for anything but sex, but also ignores all of the guys who want her but she doesn’t find attractive. When somebody gives them the common sense advice of “lower your standards”, they either say “I’m not gonna settle” or “I can’t decide who I’m attracted to”. No problems with that at all, everybody should have standards and stick to them to find a good partner in life. But the question is, why do you feel like you’re “settling” for people who are in your own league looks and personality wise? Do you think your equals are inferior to you? After all, you are in the exact same position as the guys who want to date you but you dislike because they’re not as attractive as you’d want them to be. You want to be treated like an equal, but don’t want anything to do with your equals. What gives?