In your experience, what are some things different about women in the real world compared to FDS/PPD/Internet women?

Devourer_of_felines · 2021-11-12T13:17:10+00:00

Differences:

Very few women I've personally met object to low investment 1st dates like going to a coffee shop - it's almost preferred because if the date goes south you can leave in a hurry.

Almost all of them have no issue with splitting the bill on dates or alternating between who pays for the entire date.

Similarities:

Pretty much all of them want to be pursued rather than do the chasing and initiating themselves.

While not to the extreme of "he's gotta be making 6 figures, be 6ft tall and have a 6pack" the universal expectation is the guy should make as much if not more money and at least be taller than they are.

chilikettlechips · 2021-11-12T15:08:39+00:00

If you believe women here then there's tons of guys dating or marrying women taller than them. That height isn't a big deal.

But in reality in 92% of couples the husband is taller than the wife. I really couldn't tell you how many women have asked me my height before a date, or even told me on a date(as if it's the first time I've ever heard it) I'm not tall.

Q4W, how many times has a man asked you for your weight, cup size or HWR before agreeing to a date or on a date.

Cool_Weather_7763 · 2021-11-12T19:51:49+00:00

That they don’t care about looks money basically anything and everything. Men have most women pegged on what their biology tells them to seek. Sure she won’t break up with you because you’re short because she would have to acknowledge that she picked you in the first place but the new guy she’s talking to is strangely taller than you for a reason. Men actually do get women. We get the truths about women they never want to face about themselves.

CrabMaster69xx · 2021-11-12T12:53:23+00:00

They want a relationship, they're not happy to be alone or die alone or whatever it is FDS claims.

shockedpikachu123 · 2021-11-12T15:00:36+00:00

The average people in real life do not survive on a single household income. if they are, due to one person not being able to work, they’re struggling to get by or living paycheck to paycheck. This is opposite from what is described on here of women wanting men to be the provider of the household while men wanting women who just stays home. This isn’t practical unless he’s filthy rich

Ciao7991 · 2021-11-12T17:34:15+00:00

The women here seems to be nuns who don't hookup and don't use dating apps.

Irl most women I know use them and have no problem with causal hookups (though they are fundamentally clueless about what it is it like to be a guy on these apps).

AnabolicPenguin · 2021-11-12T14:22:06+00:00

Unironically the lion's share of women treat me kindly I assume because I am kind to them I also am a large man so generally, I haven't had to deal with most people fucking with me, unlike my more attractive but shorter friends. Nothing ever sexual tho and like males I am fine for one on one interaction but not parties.

BigFatBigPotato · 2021-11-12T16:38:45+00:00

They’re actually usually friendly and pleasant to be around in real life and not locked in an eternal negative cycle of complaining😄

Admirable-Set9743 · 2021-11-12T22:30:04+00:00

This sub selects very strongly for disagreeableness. Since women are more agreeable than average the women here are going to have very different experiences from the average woman.

DOSGAMES · 2021-11-12T14:41:01+00:00

I'm 37, which is old enough where I doubt I'm going to have women who follow FDS in my social circles.

Maybe I'll go to Starbucks, ask the barista girl with a septum piercing, she looks like she hate me, the world, and herself equally.

But in all seriousness, the only noticeable difference I can think of is that FDS women tend to be childless.

chubbybutt22 · 2021-11-12T13:03:49+00:00

Ya know. When I’m not on Reddit. I do in fact live in real life.

5x_the_Charm · 2021-11-12T12:51:32+00:00

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majani · 2021-11-12T16:21:26+00:00

Online women talk tough about how they get high value men to bow down to them, but in real life women generally simp hard for men who are just their type.

AussieBrooks · 2021-11-13T02:17:08+00:00

Women will tell you you all day long height don’t matter but always in real life be dating a 6 foot plus man or at least entertaining one. Also I’ve seen women say they hate beards on men but it seems like that’s all they talk too

goneaway2thewind · 2021-11-12T14:46:32+00:00

Women can't seem to lie in person, alot of women here will bullshit you all day. In person women will tell you they are bored of nice guys, cheat on their bfs, talk about monkey branching for a better guy, talk about the alphas they crave and the Betas they are spinning.

Most women's actions are very FDS oriented, whether they know it or not. But it's also the same as PPD women because they create narratives in their heads to absolve themselves from any accountability of their actions. They are always the victim in their own stories, and use that to justify any disgraceful act they do to other people.

The difference is the online solidarity they have on here. In person women dont really give a shit about other women enough to lie play this PR "not all women" stuff. They will even criticize other women and call them out for their tactics. Women understand women, but for some reason online they pretend they don't.

Circ-Le-Jerk · 2021-11-12T13:35:04+00:00

Women on Reddit tend to be extremely grumpy, hypersensitive to criticism both real and imagined, largely asexual or "prudish" if you prefer, judgemental, quite unempathetic, very literal and fairly rigid in their thinking.

Women in real life tend to be pleasant, funny, confident, sexy, open-minded, social, positive, lateral thinkers.

Thankfully, I know no women in real life who act like the women on here.

Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2021-11-12T19:17:28+00:00

Just to add one.

I’ve never met a woman or her friends that do the whole “age difference shaming” shit that is a constant on PPD.

IME, the girls friends and the public in general are far more likely to observe how you treat the girl you’re dating than criticize some arbitrary nonsense like age (or race).

I’m sure some of them think shit if the difference is stark, but the notion that women walk around disgusted by age gaps or older men talking to them is nonsense.

redditthrowaway1478 · 2021-11-12T19:08:21+00:00

Childhood trauma.

ImNotJoshAllen · 2021-11-12T15:06:52+00:00

Internet women lie about how happy they are being single and how terrible men are, real life women discuss the shitty/good parts of being single while realizing that there are just as many shitty men as there are shitty women

Kentucky_Supreme · 2021-11-12T13:07:42+00:00

If you look at data from online dating apps, women seem to be extremely selective but IRL is not uncommon to see a decently attractive woman with total Joe Schmoe (i.e. shorter than 6ft, not "jacked", doesn't appear to be filthy rich). Can't help but wonder how that happens.

LimeRepresentative50 · 2021-11-12T13:17:07+00:00

They crave a HVM but They are not HVW

5x_the_Charm · 2021-11-12T12:55:11+00:00

Not much of a difference honestly. Internet women that I talk to just seem to be more blunt about what they want which can be good or bad. Good because I know exactly what they don't like about me (having racial slurs thrown at me, being told they don't want a nerdy guy, etc.). I got some nightmare stories about how I fell into TRP and most of them involved encounters with women online. You would be surprised how many feminists online apply TRP and even blackpill thinking openly when talking to men.

I haven't even looked into what FDS teaches so I won't pretend like I know right now. TRP's school of thoughts were so scattered as it was and there were so many branches from incel to PUA and everything in between that you could teach a college major out of it... couldn't imagine what FDS is like.

And I just got back into PPD, but it seems a lot of the regulars are easier to talk to than women I met online on average.. so far anyway.

old_wise_man_ · 2021-11-12T13:02:15+00:00

Nothing i notice really. In 90% of the cases of women i know, they behave like the online version of theirs. Only the minority behaves in a different way. The only thing this behavior does is reducing my dating pool. The rest doesnt really affect me the way they behave.

wtknight · 2021-11-12T13:11:58+00:00

I don’t think that there are any substantial differences. The women who frequent this sub vary quite a bit in personality, and so do women in real life.

2021-11-12T13:34:19+00:00

They are normal people going about their normal lives. They have problems and issues, just like a normal man has. They fart and make jokes about the disgusting smell of their poop.

From my experience with having three female friends.

moosemc · 2021-11-12T15:29:43+00:00

On the Internet, women talk about actually leaving partners.

In reality, its ultimatums. All day. About everything. And complaining. And nagging.

Demasii · 2021-11-12T13:42:00+00:00

Internet women learned from their mistakes and actively vet men. They can look back and analyze the situations they been through more objectively. They are a minority of women who need to congregate on the internet for support because their thinking style are different than most. They can overcorrect themselves by going from no standards to ridiculous standards.

IRL women seem to just rely on luck to see if the next man works out without changing their vetting process or behavior. Very emotion based thinking.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-12T14:33:50+00:00

In the real world women love sex and love being around men snd being hit on. Only on the internet do I meet women who are happy being alone with their vibrator and who feel ambivalent towards sex or men. I would venture out and say that the average woman's time is spend around 90% talking about men or things related to meeting men.

MMAjambo · 2021-11-12T13:47:15+00:00

Maybe 1 out of 10 wahmen on the internet are respectable humans that can read properly (purple pill I'd say half the girls are cool. This place is unique because the sensitive types don't stick around)

IRL most women are wonderful imo.

For real life other than my friends I prefer women, even in my family I like most of the women better than the men. If I'm stuck in a room or walking next to someone making small talk I'd rather it be a girl.

On the internet I hands down 100% prefer men. Most men I talk to on the internet are sensible, most of the women are shit human beings.

I'm not even lying some of the best conversations with women I've had have been sliding in the DMs of girls on FDS looking for a fight. The worst conversations have generally been with liberal feminist types. FDS gets so much shit but a hill I'll die on is these cunts r/sexworkers r/fragilemaleredditor are by a country mile worse. It's just that the mods on FDS promote the insanity but many of the actual users are ok, the hoes on the other hand are rotten to the core. Very few of them are worthy of even basic kindness or respect.

Internet bitches are some of the most entitled and shallow fucks I've ever encountered and they somehow turn everything into them being a victim. Fuck it let them be victims and I'll happily be a predator, miserable bastards.

sex_is_dirty · 2021-11-12T22:18:04+00:00

Seems to be a lot of dialoging about height on this question. In real life, I seldom see women as tall as me and I'm short be the standards of incel groups likePPD.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-11-12T23:14:05+00:00

As with TRP, my only exposure to FDS is this sub. And I think they're basically the same: clearly bitter but still intent on succeeding somehow. Offline, the women I know who are done with men don't think about them at all.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2021-11-13T00:18:54+00:00

It seems to be a lot of people for some reason think if you get a couple of pets that you're single lonely, and you're never going to date again , which is very much the opposite from what I've encountered in reality or observed . Alot of couples have pets. Why is getting pets associated to only people that are single and going to die alone makes absolutely no sense 😂

2021-11-13T00:32:06+00:00

They're normal.

rivetcitymayor · 2021-11-13T01:19:23+00:00

I’d say that most women don’t need 6ft guys , 5’9 will do just fine. Women dont care about money like that unless they are IG bimbos but even them mess with guys that look like they got money instead of actually having it.

JohnPettimore · 2021-11-13T17:48:46+00:00

The want a man to be a man. They absolutely love testosterone, they love the fact that you're bigger and stronger, and they want you to lead. I had one woman I dated say, "What I like about you is that you're bold." The whole FDS thing about being worried that you're a potential rapist, that you have to keep proving you're safe and that you have to make them feel comfortable and so on is absolute bullshit.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-11-12T15:09:42+00:00

Most women I know would consider their date buying them dinner a bonus but are more than happy to split the check or pitch in or take turns paying. Mind you, most women I know also date other women, so.

Whisper · 2021-11-12T17:57:45+00:00

On the internet, there are no actions, only words.

And, as TRP writers have been observing for years, women don't tell the truth.

This is not because "women are liars" so much as it is because women use language differently than men do. While men use language to exchange information, women use language to navigate the social matrix.

Under the primitive conditions in which humans evolved, men's survival was dependent on working effectively with other men as a team, while women's survival depended upon securing the approval of other members of the tribe (both male and female).

So men have the tendency to choose statements based on what they want others to know, while women choose statements based on how they want others to feel.

So, when you read what women write online, especially in female spaces, you need to learn to interpret it as an expression of women's feelings, hopes, desires, and fears... rather than their beliefs, their goals, or their current life conditions.

FDS is an expression of women's fears, and RPW is an expression of women's hopes.

Individual-March8163 · 2021-11-12T18:45:10+00:00

Honestly women in real life are straight up way nicer people arguably nicer than men. But online, Jesus they're can be straight up mean and spiteful especially towards men. Dunno know why exactly but the difference is startling.

DeliciousPussyNectar · 2021-11-12T14:19:24+00:00

So many of them want to be tradwives and so many of them settle for worthless boys

VictorVonDood4 · 2021-11-12T15:22:30+00:00

They are not nearly as picky about looks.

They are quite insecure.

They get used more than they use guys.

AlienFix · 2021-11-12T15:55:24+00:00

I think they all are the same the just keep it to themselves in real life. It doesn’t mean they dont think like that on their own.

Shirts_Pants · 2021-11-12T22:20:44+00:00

FDS, reddit and the internet in general invite mentally ill women. This is probably the case to lesser extent with men, as I think a greater percentage of men in general are online, not just the weirdos. In any case I learned long ago the vast majority of things you read online are at least partially wrong.

YourMumSmokesCrackOK · 2021-11-13T00:50:10+00:00

A large amount of women here are misandrist cunts. Most women in the real world aren't.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-11-12T14:25:26+00:00

Real life women use the internet, and sometimes, Reddit.

Edit: But no most women in the world are not man haters. Just like most men in the world are not women haters. That’s the internet being internet for you.

Thinkingard · 2021-11-12T18:56:59+00:00

Women IRL seem less disagreeable, less opinionated, less confrontational, less openly ghetto queen.

annabeelongx · 2021-11-12T14:26:37+00:00

Imagine thinking internet women and irl women are two different women when just about everyone these days own a smartphone 🤡.

geometersbane · 2021-11-13T02:39:56+00:00

IRL women are just slightly less mentally fucked. Slightly.

CFinCanada · 2021-11-12T15:33:30+00:00

As with the men, there's no real difference.

We're the same cute, pleasant girls in low-cut tops smiling in your face and being friendly to you IRL.

We're just bluntly telling you what we're really thinking here.

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billsull_02842 · 2021-11-13T03:54:01+00:00

women dont marry up-sarcasm

PopularBug5 · 2021-11-13T12:48:36+00:00

What are some things that women say on here that are completely different to what women are like in real life?

Reddit ladies, particularly on one sub I also frequent, always say stuff about men having to pay for 100 percent of everything and 'treat a woman right' - as in not actually showing good behavior as what the phrase means but to spend lavishly on women even on the first date.

Women I meet IRL always want to split bills, even after the first date. They don't even want to spend lavishly either and are always conscious of a man's budget.

Women on reddit - takecareme and lemme be SAHM and leech off your wallet, because I am queensss.

Women IRL here in Malaysia - will actually take offence if you insist on them not working after marriage. Single income households here exist, but among the lowest income families in my country, and everyone learnt the lesson extremely well during the pandemic how ridiculously stupid it is to plan for the years ahead depending on just one source of income.

But maybe that's just me, because my social circle is among Asians, and middle / upper class at that. I know for sure that even amongst Asians there will be 'take care me' dumbos who would rather leech from their boyfriends / parents than work hard and take care of themselves.

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-11-13T14:00:35+00:00

The number of "sex isn't love" women is bizarre, they describe having sex as a similar experience as farting, perhaps demographics have changed that much, it is scary though because they were a minority and generally were only ugly when I was growing up.

Glarkin42 · 2021-11-13T16:13:26+00:00

The only difference is a greater percentage of the vagina holders here have open contempt.

But when it comes to behavior, nothing.

HedgeRunner · 2021-11-13T18:31:12+00:00

Good looking, intelligent, or..gosh "high-valued" women just don't frequent Reddit. They don't have an account and they don't give a fuck because they don't need any "strategy" and just meet people naturally.

The same goes for men but to a lesser degree.

jayval90 · 2021-11-12T18:00:17+00:00

I live in an Amish community. Yes, it's very different on the surface, but there are some surprising similarities. But I don't know which ideas came first (is modern Feminism seeping into the Amish, or did modern Feminism come out of those ideas that they're still preserving)

Title	In your experience, what are some things different about women in the real world compared to FDS/PPD/Internet women?
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