The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signalling

ffandyy · 2022-12-03T10:32:42+00:00

Dad bod and being fat are two different things

JumboJetz · 2022-12-03T10:42:27+00:00

If anyone could agree on what dadbod is, we could have a debate.

But we can’t, so we won’t.

KikiYuyu · 2022-12-03T10:55:33+00:00

I like dad bods. But I guess I can't change your mind if you're just gonna call me a lying virtue signaler.

Helea_Grace · 2022-12-03T12:21:03+00:00

Dad bods aren’t my personal preference - but neither is the ultra jacked muscular type that guys seem to think I must want. Ppl like what they like & it’s not all the same.

Personally I like ppl who are physically a bit smaller than me or around the same size. before ppl come at me for that being unusual, & thus call me a liar, I’m bisexual & this likely links to me not being into ultra masculine ppl. I’m not into v muscular folk be they men or women, tho lithe or toned forms are nice (eg: runners, swimmers, gymnasts instead of bodybuilders).

I’m into feminine leaning folk, I just don’t give a shit about gender or sex, so slim guys & women around 5’4” -> 6’1” are who I tend to date - I’m 5’8” & going more than 4 inches from my height isn’t a dealbreaker but it’s more uncomfortable for kissing/ sex so I’m less fond. I tend to prefer slimmer framed body types for guys, probably because it appears more androgynous to me so just hits my mental beauty standard better, plus I’m quite narrow built so even average sized men look very bulky next to me.

Interestingly without realising this both of my male ex’s ended up being within 1 inch of my chest size, was kind of cute for being able to share clothes.

All in all I suppose my point is that not everyone fits into the neat boxes of ‘submissive woman seeking muscular protector’. Idk whether the trend of dad bods is over or under exaggerated but there’s certainly a lot of women who’d be into it, same as there’s women into anything to varying extents.

LovingOnOccasion · 2022-12-03T11:28:32+00:00

Ehh, we all do it I think.

I don't find supermodels attractive at all. But who knows, maybe I've just subconsciously eliminated them to totally sidestep the inevitable desire/rejection cycle that would create.

Relative_Bee8356 · 2022-12-03T20:18:33+00:00

You think the men furiously cranking it to BBW porn are "virtue signaling" too? Like them being a smaller niche doesn't mean they're nonexistent.

neetykeeno · 2022-12-03T12:30:47+00:00

Dad bod to me is a guy who is functionally somewhat strong and does a lot of physical activity for fun and/or utility and/or profit without it being a formal exercise program. He exercises dietary restraint without becoming caught up in dieting until every part of his body is perfectly lean. So you probably don't see much of his abs. And he hasn't done spot exercise to improve his aesthetics...he does not give two shits if his traps are huge but his pecs are undefined or vice versa.

Dad bod is a form of nonchalance. A form of not having to care about shit men who don't have it together yet need to care about.

Hmmmm just noticed people asking for or giving examples. Red Forman from that seventies show. He's got a bit of belly and obviously cares little about working out...but look at his forearms and you can tell that he uses his arms a fair bit and his posture speaks of some core strength. Personally I like shoulders a bit naturally broader in bone structure than his but nothing is wrong with how much muscle he carries on the bone structure he has. He's fine.

NockerJoe · 2022-12-03T15:10:35+00:00

Dad bod for men is like thicc for women in that fat people assume it means them, when what they mean is an attractive person who has a little extra weight they carry in a way that accents features that were already attractive. Men who complain about dad bods are exactly the same as when women complain some random woman is "thicc" because she has an ass and is well endowed but almost no tummy.

But the actual terminology is probably an actual bigger issue. Its an attempt to downplay what is essentially the same as a Bear, except that term is immediatley much more descriptive of what mostly gay men mean with way less ambiguity.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-12-03T10:54:57+00:00

Dad bod doesn't mean fat. It usually means a normal healthy weight man who doesn't work out. Lots of women just aren't into visible muscles. You do see this kind men pulling women every weekend.

ashpr0ulx · 2022-12-03T11:36:05+00:00

nahhh, gimme a blue collar man with a chest and arms that says he hauls around schedule 40 aluminum pipes all day and a little belly that says he enjoys his coors lights in the evening and i’m in love 😍

reddishrobin · 2022-12-03T11:42:09+00:00

I thought you men WANTED women to lower their standards. Women say they like dad bods and you are complaining?

Johnny_Autism · 2022-12-03T11:46:00+00:00

'Dad bod 'is a code word for 'big frame'.

Women imagine Chad's bone structure with a layer of McGrease over it. Women like it because it's still a top % foundational physique, yet will feel less self-conscious about a big strong guy who also looks like he 'let himself go' a bit.

Show a woman the average 'dad bod' where the fat doesn't store in the upper body, shoulders and arms, but around the belly and they'll say "ew, he has a skinny-fat sedentary office body" and then go on about hot oil riggers are and how Zac Efron in Ted Bundy had a 'dad bod'.

gymbro718nyc2 · 2022-12-03T13:48:31+00:00

For guys who are not getting sex you seem to know a ton about what women prefer in bed.

_revelationary · 2022-12-03T12:44:33+00:00

So it’s virtue signaling or insecurity if women don’t care that much about muscles and would prefer a man who doesn’t look like he spends three hours a day obsessing over his physique? I want a man who values his health, but certain men in gym culture just come across as overly superficial and obsessed with themselves. So yeah, I’d immediately judge any man with an extreme six pack and ripped arms as someone I’d probably not want to spend much time with. Maybe they’re attractive - but I’m not attracted to them as an individual nor would I want to date them unless they did prove to be more compatible with me.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-12-03T12:54:30+00:00

My husband has a dad bod these days I still think he is unbelievably hot no one has ever turned me on like he does

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-12-03T13:18:08+00:00

You are equating having a certain type of body with virtues, discipline and drive, and acting disgusted at those who don't have a certain body type. So technically you're virtue signaling.

Meanwhile the rest of us are out here being like "yeah I'd fuck him". Heathens the lot of us. Enjoy your discipline.

Sharpeye1994 · 2022-12-03T14:45:46+00:00

Youre just wrong. Some women are really into that sort of thing. Like…red pills i stg you sound like first year pussy students. You have all these vague naive conceptions and zero experience. Also a “dad bod” isn’t necessarily fat. Its a manly type body thats slightly out of shape. It has a sort of masculine/life cycle of a man/maturity aura/vibe about it and thats what women mean they like

Its hilarious you think theres a secret cabal of virtue signaling women tho

FlexodusPrime · 2022-12-03T11:08:18+00:00

I hate the term dadbod. I prefer bulking

THHBHStT · 2022-12-03T12:02:21+00:00

Dad bod like an offensive lineman, not dad bod like Jerry who drinks Busch and plays golf

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-12-03T15:27:43+00:00

“Dad bod” is “curvy” for men. Nobody can seem to agree on what it is, so debating on whether it’s a real preference or virtual signaling, is pointless until that’s established. It can range from a fairly unrealistic muscular body with just a bit of fat on it (usually an actor people don’t realize is just in the “bulking” stage of bodybuilding), to a slightly chubby but still healthy and athletic body (the definition I personally think is correct), to just a euphemism for “fat as fuck.” The first two can be real preferences, but obviously, no, not a lot of women genuinely prefer someone who is obese.

SnowBorn6339 · 2022-12-03T16:55:39+00:00

There’s different degrees of dad bod. Adam Sandler is your traditional “let myself go” type of dad bod. We don’t want that typically.

Then there’s the buff dad bod. He’s strong from years of physical labor and exercise. His mid section is a little doughy and his abs no longer visible, but that’s okay because his chest, arms, and back are strong like a fucking gorilla. Think of a daddy lumberjack or construction worker. Been putting on muscle for decades, something a little 20 year old man could never emulate except with time. Mmmm…….that’s what I like when I say I like a dad bod.😘

Diamond-Breath · 2022-12-03T17:06:14+00:00

First time that I agree with a post. You love what you can get, if these women were honest they'd go after muscular men. Self-esteem and your perception of your own league dictates what type of person you go after.

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-12-03T18:31:25+00:00

This whole movement that's been going on for the last few years of women coming out saying they like dad bods is nothing more than performative virtue signalling to try and make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves.

Whether it's in style or not, this has always been one of the body types I'm attracted to. I can't help what gets me hot. It's both washboard abs and a beer belly. Literally since I was a preteen have I liked both these body types.

The fact that dad bod is popular now doesn't impact me at all. Some of us just like this body type and will once it's gone out of style too.

If dad bods were truly popular and desirable you'd regularly see fat men pulling women at the clubs and pubs every weekend.

Uh, they do. Have you seen men at pubs? A lot of beer bellies there. Still plenty of them getting laid regularly.

In the US most men and women are fat. Sometimes couples who are fat date each other, sometimes the women are much thinner, sometimes the men are.

If you don't think fat people get laid regularly go to any Walmart or visit the state of Alabama.

breaddacheese · 2022-12-03T11:01:20+00:00

But dad bod doesn’t mean “fat”. It means “not lean” just a fat percentage of 18-20%

Exotic-One3381 · 2022-12-03T14:40:13+00:00

What? I'm female and I see lots of my friends dating dad bods. I love the dad bod, not a beer belly but a strong broad guy with a good amount of muscle and good amount of fat. I'm not into visible muscles. When a guy is strong and healthy you can see it from how the fat sits on the muscle. I also like chest and body hair. The average stocky strong hairy dark 35-40 year old South Italian guy absolutely my type.

Look at David Gandy or idris Elba. Old guys but still smokin.you don't have to be a 25 year old version of leonardo dicaprio to get the ladies talking. Or even George clooney. Lots of ladies would have, but now he is very old.

Women are not all the same

What looks good in film or porn does not look or feel good in real life

Also what about personality and compatibility?

Also guys who have six pax and huge sculpted bodies are always eating weird food and going to the gym and posing and boasting about gains and protein shakes. That is not interesting. What if you want to have a night in, a cuddle, some pizza and a movie? Oh no can't have pizze unless it has cauliflower crust due to too many carbs

Who is making these threads about what women want? 14 year old boys?

Ladies. These huge muscly six pack guys may look nice but remember. They will never be able to love you as much as they love them self.

alphasupremacy5555 · 2022-12-03T12:08:12+00:00

The point is dad bod is an older guy who has kids.

If you're a young guy hitting clubs you don't have a dad bod, you're just overweight.

anon018274031 · 2022-12-03T12:36:17+00:00

Depends what you define as a dad bod. What I see dad bod as is a bigger guy, who is healthy but not like a gym bro, maybe gym 2-3 times a week. It’s just a higher fat percentage then someone who is on a cut or lives for the gym.

I certainly prefer a dad bod. That’s not to say I’m not attracted to leaner men, but I prefer a dad bod. Personally never liked thin men though.

It probably depends on individual preference

KlingKlangKing · 2022-12-03T13:11:03+00:00

Dadbod is not fat. It's just a normal, hairy chest dude who doesn't work out

EmeraldsFaure · 2022-12-03T16:11:22+00:00

I think the term dad bod carries connotations aside from physical attribute. It signals to the potential dating pool that you’re interested in men who do not place particular importance on physical fitness or healthy diet. Women sometimes describe their bodies as mom bod, inferring that their bodies have changed after kids and they’ve accepted it. Dad bod and mom bod are just ways to describe bodies that aren’t physically fit nor obese, but somewhere in the middle.

EBZ1722 · 2022-12-04T05:30:26+00:00

Dad bods are a lie. Just because you're a father doesn't mean you need to be a fat lazy sack of shit with a big gut. In fact, if you're a father you should be aiming to be in the best physical condition of your life because your children will look directly to you to understand what a man is supposed to be like.

Blue20041 · 2022-12-03T11:26:23+00:00

Based take. As a fat bastard, i 100% agree. Fat just isn’t attractive.

Affectionate_Pen_623 · 2022-12-03T11:44:32+00:00

Yeah. Its just kinda sad really.

I went to the club the other day and it was just...sad how many decent/okayish looking women were there with out of shape dudes. Worse still was watching those same women eyefuck you whilst convincing their boyfriends that my height and physique "totally wasn't what they're into".

I mean I could say that the type of women who post on here are probably not the type to be able to pull "Chads" so will of course say they "love" a dadbod...but, there has actually been a lot of pushback elsewhere on Reddit.

TBH I've noticed a divergence somewhat in dating, which actually falls contrary to what many Redpillers and incels claim they see. I'm someone super in shape, and I cant think of a time I dated a girl who wasn't visibly in shape either. My girlfriend has a fantastic figure too. The girls I dated previously all had great physiques too. I've had sex with a lot of larger women but have never been seen in public with one. None of them took issue with this arrangement either. Despite what incels and redpillers like to tell themselves, most people know where they stand in the dating market. The only time you do see people shooting for those who look better is online, but I dont think people realise just how unpopular online dating is becoming among gen Zers and how many women are well aware they're going to be used as a pump and dump by the "Chads". If anything, I'm seeing more women talk about finding their "equals" online and moving away from the "traditionally hot" guys you see with shirtless pics and on nice getaways.

This is Reddit, the social butterfly, "chad or bust", Stacy isn't here. Guys claim they're only looking for average women but I know many are not. Because average women are the ones who will feel comfortable claiming they want a dadbod. A girl who takes her appearance seriously wants a man who does too, or at least has the status to make up for it. The only thing that annoys me about female posters in this discussion is when many try to convince people that they're attractive and have no interest in physically attractive men. Those women aren't really helping.

JonathanArkansas · 2022-12-03T13:10:40+00:00

Dad bods are fine as something in passing but not as a permanent solution. Just a little build of muscle should straighten it out. Exercise helps...a lot.

Fiestygirl000 · 2022-12-03T13:42:01+00:00

Totally agree! I don’t know when the whole women love dad bods took off but it is not at all attractive to have a beer gut.

Film2021 · 2022-12-03T14:02:55+00:00

I agree with you almost entirely, BUT I do think some women like not having to “keep up” with their man’s work outs. Usually the less-than-desirable woman, but still.

KayRay1994 · 2022-12-03T15:10:53+00:00

I think its more that a woman’s idea of a dad bod is different from a man’s - a woman’s view of a dad bod is that of a fat but muscular build, one that shows physical strength but also a blubbery, careless side. I notice that guys who talk about the dad bod often refer to the beer belly, muscle-less type of chubby - so there is a bit lost in translation, i think

MaliciousMack · 2022-12-03T15:16:50+00:00

Fat men DO regularly pull up to the club (and do get interest from women too). To act like it’s solely virtue signally would be assuming the intent of women everywhere, and at that point it’s just generalizing the thoughts of others, and holds no merit.

Tough92 · 2022-12-03T16:34:08+00:00

General ideal body preference for woman is like a Zac effron or Brad Pitt from fight club something along the lines of that. Slightly bigger at most. No woman is getting turned on by a guys gut. You don’t have to have a 6 pack just be lean enough.

I have been shredded at 170 and did a bodybuilding show and I’ve been a fat ass at 260. As well as everywhere in between which I’m at 220 rn. I’m 6” ft for reference and have a lot of gf it dated many girl in the last decade. Always always have had better success when I was around 200 pounds. By no means did I have even close to a 6 pack but I was rather lean with a V taper always got way more girls like that.

My antidotal evidence

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2022-12-03T16:58:26+00:00

Women: we like this thing

OP: no you don’t. You’re lying. You just want to be fat so you want us to be fat

Jesus dude. You strike me as the kind of guy who spends his life in the gym, and is butthurt that it’s not getting you the tail TRP promised it would.

Mayhaps you should remember that women are not a monolith. But bitching that it’s unacceptable for women to find men without chiseled abs and pecs for days attractive, only makes you unattractive

KFC_Fleshlight · 2022-12-03T18:09:05+00:00

if i’m a guy and i prefer a slightly chubby body why can’t women have the same preference

2022-12-03T18:11:03+00:00

I disagree women have always liked dad bods why? Because its in the name they like dads. It's something about the man settle and realizing he doesn't need to be a warrior anymore. Maybe some women see overly fit men as potential cheaters or something. As long as the dude is taller than her they dont care.

By the dad bod and obesity are two different things. If you're young and big it's not a dad bod. Only older men can get away with it because of the "dad" part

2022-12-03T18:14:48+00:00

after reading more im starting to think dad bods are any man who looks like a father. A protector type big guy.

West-Ad-9697 · 2022-12-03T18:45:53+00:00

It's like the red pill has a saying - women never tell the story about how they get on their knees and suck dick until they choke.

Just saw a girl bragging about going to a infamous Berlin sex club, and when obviously getting the "look" she jumped out saying - you don't have to do anything, I went for the music- while just 2 minutes later hi fiving me when I said: but it was definetly worth the memories.

Women only talk about things based on the impression those things create. They don't talk about sucking dick, they talk about how sexual the guy made them feel when he told them to get down on her knees. Because for a woman - there is a moral difference between a woman that wants to suck some dick and a woman being with a man that got her arroused.

And this gentleman is why we have a schizoid society when it comes to sex, we send out confusing signals to boys and girls and sex ed and kink talk is absofuckinglutely pointless. It's all eufemisms made to not trigger women's self defensenses. Because god forbid a woman looks in a mirror after her walk of shame and gets a reality check that her empowerement strife accomplished nothing but get some slick sociopaths off.

it's not you liking the 40 year old daddy dom that makes you lick his arse every night for an allowance, it's the dad bod you cuddle with that you're into. Also, I noticed that it's more of a joke, the only girls that say it seriously anymore are OF thots.

mrgoodbarxxx · 2022-12-03T19:05:23+00:00

As a man, I can’t agree with this. I have a dad bod and have no shortage of women trying to see me naked. Clearly they are a fan.

I do acknowledge that some women love the chiseled look. If that’s your type, I’m probably not it. I will also say thee is a HUGE difference between a dad bod and being fat/chubby. I always joke that I’m a fat black guy, and every single woman says “where?!?” with the 😍 eyes.

In my view, a dad bod is one that is very strong, has muscles, but you also know they will eat with you at taco Tuesday. I have a faint outline of abs and bench 300, squat 450 or so (at 5’11”, 200 pounds). I think I am probably the quintessential dad bod.

And trust me, women are absolute fans. Doubt they are virtue signaling.

I will say men still should do whatever they can to get in the best shape that they desire. I also will say very few women go for the skinny dude look, with no muscle definition. At least in my experience.

Glittering_Ad_1415 · 2022-12-03T19:55:03+00:00

Dad bod is hot if the guy has a 10/10 face with no double chin.

richard_golbes · 2022-12-03T22:33:46+00:00

most women want to have a cheat meal and splurge on pizza and ice cream every once and a while

This is exactly what fit people already do. It wouldn’t be a “cheat” meal or a “splurge” if it was just someone’s regular diet.

Ozpium · 2022-12-03T23:23:19+00:00

People like what they do for various reasons. Not all physical attraction is bases on what we perceive with our eyes. Women who like dad bods might be looking for a man that reminds them of their father. Disgusting as it is people (not everyone but diffinately some) are attracted to others who remind them of their parents. Which is why I am probably attracted to women with pixie haircut as my mom had one when I was a young child.

That being sad. I also love thick chicks, there is no shame in living people with meat on them. In Nigeria I believe or another country in África women who were fat was like a sign of wealth. In the middle ages having a curvacious frame went a long way because childbirth was rough A.F. and lots of women and infantil died from it. One of my favorite artists Bottecelli painted the mythical greek goddess of love Venus (along with his male painting characters) curvaciously. As a great man once said "Fat bottomed girls make the rockin world go round"

TL;DR I don't believe living dad bods is a negative thing. It is a fact the United States has a problem with people being overweight. I think a more sensitive way to make this post would be to focus on real facts like that, and propegating a cycle of Fat being attractive is simply not healthy physically, regardless of mental feelings to it.

domdomdom333 · 2022-12-04T02:00:46+00:00

Women saying they like dad bods isn't virtue signalling, just a misplacement of perceptions.

Most women think a dad bod is and are attracted to plenty enough to men is just the normal athletic build.

Either women have to realise most are calling their preference by the wrong type, or men have to make the athletic build the new dad bod and name the actual dad bod to something else.

cassowaryy · 2022-12-04T02:39:17+00:00

The whole point of having a dadbod is that you’re already a dad and being at your physical peak isn’t as important anyway. You’re just enjoying the good life with your fam.

But yea, using the dadbod thing as an excuse to be a fat slob is pretty delusional and harmful

GloomyHousing2657 · 2022-12-04T04:38:06+00:00

Correction, dad boxes are large men who have muscle with a layer of fat. They aren’t fat slobs… think lumber Jake. I find my husband more attractive when he’s about 25 pounds from ultra ripped. ( he’s also a body builder) he’s around 4% body fat around 190 and I prefer him around 220ish

2022-12-03T11:48:44+00:00

So reading your posts and some of the comments, I think any man who doesn't work out is a dad bod in your eyes 😂.

Well, some people have a busy schedule and can't put their physique as a priority out of necessity. Some people have chronic injuries or pains due to which they still can't hit the gym. I think you are considering an obese guy and an average Joe who doesn't lifts weight as same which is wrong.

Moreover it is common sense that a woman who's into fitness will definitely seek someone who's fit himself, whereas a woman who herself has a little tummy (Mom bod ?) might seek a dad bod type of guy.

RegTextoffender · 2022-12-03T15:41:34+00:00

Dad bod meme is a meme of low expectations and inferiority complexes of women.

medlabunicorn · 2022-12-03T16:54:14+00:00

Ah, look. Another dudebro telling other people that they don’t know what they actually want. You sound like someone who likes the most popular form or porn telling anyone who likes other genres that they’re just watching the other stuff to ‘virtue signal.’

Not everyone likes exactly the same things. Some people can be ok with the median most attractive thing, but other things just do it for them more.

I like dadbod because of what it means: a dude who has a life, and shit to do other than sweat and grunt like a gorilla. If he has free time, he’s doing something that engages his brain rather than his pecs. I also like dadbod because I don’t find lumpiness particularly attractive. I also like dadbod because, in terms of fitness, a moderate level of padding is healthier than no padding, and in terms of longevity, cardio is better than muscle mass.

You do you. If you’re gay, you don’t have to like dadbod. But the hubris of telling other people that they can’t actually like what they like goes beyond narcissism and into stupidity.

platinirisms · 2022-12-03T20:53:37+00:00

I beg to differ, the women saying they prefer dad bods are chubby themselves.

For chubby/obese women, muscles are more attractive and good partners for short term flings. But these women will have an issue with men with muscles in long term relationships, these men eat good food, have an active lifestyle, will be gone multiple hours a day for exercise, etc. Imagine being an obese person watching your partner come home from a 2 hour gym session, multiple times a week, you’d feel insecure.

These women would rather date dad bods and save the hassle, not because they’re more attractive, but because they fit her lifestyle better.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-12-03T13:05:50+00:00

I don't agree that this is the reason.

is nothing more than performative virtue signalling to try and make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves.

Body positivity is a movement by women, only for women. It's not to make some men feel better about themselves; it's just an instance that illustrates the fact that you should listen to what women do and not what they say. Their spoken preferences and actual preferences are incongruent.

Put a muscular guy with defined pecs, shoulders, and abs next to a guy with a dad bod in person and they'll pick the muscular guy virtually every time. What women consider "too muscular" takes PEDs and a very strict bodybuilding regimen to accomplish.

Ok-Device1258 · 2022-12-03T11:08:42+00:00

the claims of women usually never match reality. about 98% want a slightly muscular man

Lovers691 · 2022-12-03T12:58:07+00:00

No, it is just that when women say dadbod, you think this but more often that not, when women say dadbod they mean this

jobbo321 · 2022-12-03T14:06:38+00:00

What women think a dad bod means, isn't what an actual dad bod is.

Women think a dad bod is when a guy has some good muscles but with a slightly high bodyfat percentage so that his muscles are covered by fat and he doesn't look "ripped". Think Jason Mamoa with his "dad bod", or, Zac Efron, Chriss Pratt, Mark Wahlberg and Sean Penn. This is just fit and sorta bulking/not paying attention to what you're eating, but still lifting.

The difference with an actual dad bod is when you have a big belly, being a tad fatter, and not having well trained muscles like those superstar actors do. Think shirtless Elon Musk and these men

DryOutcome3407 · 2022-12-03T11:12:59+00:00

What women define as a dad body is just a body builder that is not dry, the reality is that yeah, dad body is chubby and by default unattractive in a man.

nyamina · 2022-12-03T14:27:48+00:00

This is such a tragic thread. The worldview is just so divorced from reality, you start to see where mass shooters get their worldview from.

No-Rough-7390 · 2022-12-03T14:52:24+00:00

It’s a way for older women to catfish dudes. Find me a 23-27 year old hot woman who is banging a dad bod older guy who has nothing going for him at all. I’ll wait.

SocialSanityy · 2022-12-03T23:55:14+00:00

I actually think women prefer it , because most of them themselves aren’t in shape . So having a man who’s also not in shape becomes a “preference”

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-12-03T21:25:19+00:00

Nope. If there's no belly to rest my head on he is simply less physically attractive.

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rrrattt · 2022-12-03T14:20:33+00:00

I can't speak for straight women, but I know a lot of guys into bears which are bigger hairy guys. I'm sure there's chicks into it too. When I've seen pictures of what a "dad bod" is supposed to be it's not really FAT fat, It seems mostly hairy and a little chub. I've also heard straight women saying guys are attractive that fit the bear kind of stereotype, not super fat just a little chubby and usually hairy. I don't know why these woman would tell me they found it attractive if they didn't, there's no benefit for them to lie to me. Maybe I'm misunderstanding what a dad bod is though. Most people don't find severely overweight people attractive. Also, is it really a bad thing if women that aren't in great shape would prefer to date someone who isn't in great shape? That makes sense to me lol. Maybe they look at pictures of like Magic Mike or something and drool about it but just because they find that hot doesn't mean they can't also be attracted to someone who isn't that. But I truly think some people are into a little chubbyness.

I disagree with your definition of dad bod as fat. I imagine like a guy who looks like he does physical labor but doesn't work out after work, and he drinks beer and eats burgers sometimes. So he's got some muscle but he's also got a few extra pounds so it's not super defined. And he probably wears a hard hat.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-12-03T14:21:10+00:00

I wouldn't say it's complete virtue signaling, I think most women will always prefer the In-Shape preferably swimmers body kind of guys as they should, but there's plenty of women that like the big teddy bear/ in shape offensive lineman kind of look on guys, when you're talking about the dad bod specifically, it's the same thing whenever we say we like thick women, thick just means fat proportionately distributed to the places that I like and it's not really much different with the dad bod some women don't mind a little Chub as long as it actually still looks good on the guy

obviousredflag · 2022-12-03T16:15:01+00:00

You contradicted yourself there, or rather it's two different motivations: yes, definitely virtue signalling, but also that women without fit bodies feel better about their body when their man isn't way fitter than themselves. It's not enjoyable if your are constantly reminded that your lifestyle and diet are worse than that of your partner. Also, more attractive men are desired by other women more than your secure dad bod guy who has less opportunity to mate switch.

bluestjuice · 2022-12-03T16:45:28+00:00

performative virtue signalling to try and make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves

This sentence makes very little sense -- virtue signaling is about trying to signal the virtue of the speaker to the audience/the world at large. It would be women saying 'I like dad bods so I'm a better person than shallow women who only like built guys!'. Trying to make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves would be something else entirely.

This whole thread is a mess because there isn't one true definition of a dad bod - it means whatever the speaker wants it to mean. Women like a variety of physiques and this varies from woman to woman. I have no idea what men should do to put that information into actionable context to improve their dating lives, but perseverating over the idea of a dad bod probably isn't helping much.

erice3r · 2022-12-03T16:47:15+00:00

A dad bod is the bod of a man who does not spend all of his time working out, but not necessarily fat. Read a book ya juice head!

Transmigratory · 2022-12-03T16:51:40+00:00

I bet what women have in mind when they think of dad bod and fat compared to you, your ilk, and a few who go into this subset of gender politics have in mind radical differ.

SoIlikeMangos · 2022-12-03T17:05:35+00:00

Meh. Plenty of beautiful women are dating fat guys. Not the opposite

upalse · 2022-12-03T17:32:16+00:00

virtue signalling

The hole in the argument you're making is the assumption that people can't fetishize just the above.

2009crotchgolbin · 2022-12-03T17:55:24+00:00

Nobody wants a partner with pathological behaviors because if they bring themselves down, they will certainly bring you down

Stevefr0mYellowstone · 2022-12-03T18:03:01+00:00

This whole movement that's been going on for the last few years of women coming out saying they like dad bods is nothing more than performative virtue signalling to try and make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves.

You have this part wrong. Women saying they like dad bods aren't trying to make fat/chubby men feel better about themselves. These men don't exist to them in a romantic sense. They could care less about those men's feelings. It is virtue signaling to make themselves look better. They think that they won't be viewed as positively if they admit the truth, that they want strong muscular men. Its a blue pill lie that women don't care about men's looks. In fact women are more harsh on men's looks than men are on women's looks. They just don't like that being a well known fact. Go back to the often said red pill mantra. Don't listen to what women say. Rather pay attention to what they do.

glad0_ve0rgijev · 2022-12-03T18:17:14+00:00

Women prefer dad bod, by dad bod meaning Jason Momoa not posing physique

BoogersAndSugar · 2022-12-03T18:53:42+00:00

They gotta keep plain looking dudes thinking the women they date are actually attracted to them and not just settling/betabuxing, otherwise those plain looking dudes won't marry them.

CatchPhraze · 2022-12-03T20:02:54+00:00

My bf used to go to the gym everyday with his trainer. He's taken some time off because of abdominal surgery. I love him a bit more thick. Your nuts. It's hot AF.

Pitiful_Maiden · 2022-12-03T22:07:14+00:00

"Dad bod" is not fat though. A guy with a dad bod is a fit guy with a normal body fat (15-20%), like, a guy who's got muscle AND some body fat while also being moderately active, so a guy who's physically active but doesn't seek a lean aesthetic.

dbz_111 · 2022-12-04T00:24:40+00:00

I dunno, I prefer women’s bodies with some fat and chub here and there rather than a shredded body. I find shredded women’s bodies utterly unattractive. Like a six pack on a woman or defined biceps does nothing for me, it’s tolerable at best. A slightly chubby belly on the other hand 😍

I can imagine it could be the same for SOME women

Green-Quantity1032 · 2022-12-04T00:50:46+00:00

I can just say I finished a bulk at 18%bf with no women attention, dropped to 16.5% and get looks and one girl trainer commented to my trainer “he got strong”, so yeah - dadbod ain’t it

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2022-12-04T00:53:35+00:00

Dad bod here, and love me some Mom bods. We aint fat, just a little squishy.😎

karspearhollow · 2022-12-04T07:20:15+00:00

I need to start a copypasta of all the street interviews I’ve seen of women talking about dad bods to demonstrate what they mean when they say “dad bod.” It is not homer simpson.

kingpinkatya · 2022-12-04T07:50:09+00:00

Plenty of women like hairtmy chests, a bit o' fluff and belly, and strong powerful thighs and arms. Beards are also ideal and attractive for man women. BFFR. Lots of women like Dad bods (this ranges from Nick Offerman to Chris Pratt btw).

lampenpapier · 2022-12-04T09:58:05+00:00

What a huge pile of garbage 🤣 i was and am always attracted to guys that are a little bit chubby, but i mean hey, a stranger probably kmows better what women want, right

Murkwilect · 2022-12-04T17:40:39+00:00

If dad bods were truly popular and desirable you'd regularly see fat men pulling women at the clubs and pubs every weekend. But you don't, because being fat isn't attractive.

Not necessarily. The key part missing from the dad bod description is height, if a guy is bear-mode and like 6'4" he can easily pull in a club. Some women are sexually attracted to big and fat as long it comes with strong and imposing at the same time.

dumbbitchcas · 2022-12-06T01:12:29+00:00

Ppl have their own types. I’m being so FFR when I say I’ve gone feral for dudes of alllllll appearances and body types. Just mind your own business and let people like what they like.

BayleShira · 2022-12-06T01:40:56+00:00

Ope! I found your problem. It's right here:

"Having a dad bod as a man is unacceptable, it shows that you lack the discipline and drive to maintain a healthy and strict diet/workout routine."

"being fat isn't attractive."

You're not able to separate your opinion from someone else's. You have determined that a dad bod is unacceptable. A lot of women don't agree with you. A lot of women don't care about "discipline" or "drive to maintain a healthy diet."

You're really going to shit a frisbee when I tell you that the sexiest man I have ever been with is my spouse, who has had a dad bod since he was in high school - he is also bald and only 5'3. Crazy, right?

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-12-08T03:17:38+00:00

No no no!! Did you not watch the Dom Mazetti video on why the dad bod is worse than ebola?

Well watch it. He's a genius masquerading as a brodude.

The dad bod is for women to date men they feel superior to. So they're the "pretty ones." So they don't get left. So they can put in less effort and get a lil fat. But the issue is they're never really that attracted in the first place. Hello dead bedroom

Title	The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signalling
Author	DrinkItInMan11
Upvotes	191
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Date	December 3, 2022 10:29 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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