Why does it seem that men appreciate/respect a muscular or fit man more than women ?

passepar2t · 2021-05-30T17:58:59+00:00

Women compliment men's muscles plenty -- once they're dating them.

Zealousideal_Fee_231 · 2021-05-30T18:45:08+00:00

Because men know that it takes a lot of work to work out enough to show gains for people to notice without you being naked. I started working out and I couldn't bench the bar, I got to 100lbs and had started building a chest. I was proud of myself and told people, the ones who didn't go to the gym laughed at me and the ones who did go to the gym were super supportive. Also why can't men compliment each other, we need it. Tell that buff guy at the gym he's buff, tell that skinny guy at the gym he's doing great

KFC_Fleshlight · 2021-05-30T19:04:19+00:00

It’s probably because of the societal effects of juicing within the fitness industry and hollywood. A lot of women now don’t realise what a muscular body actually is.

A lot of women think Zac Efron in off season is a dad bod https://i.imgur.com/4f2pGQN.jpg but even that is a well muscled body that requires a consistent gym routine.

With 99% of male instagram influencers being juiced, the standards of what a body that goes to the gym is meant to look like raises. Anything that doesn’t look like (a juiced body builder)-> https://www.instagram.com/p/COYZjZ8B0Ok is no longer considered muscular to a woman just fit or toned.

_lemazaki · 2021-05-30T17:59:47+00:00

Men respect "in general" anyone who accomplish hard things. We recognize real grinding a mile away. Getting fit and muscular is hard as fuck. Requires a lot of work and discipline.Of course, themes that help more in social life are more "admirable" for most men like money, fitness and women. Anyone who succeeds in this areas will have attention from other men.

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Ok-Ad-6208 · 2021-05-30T20:55:59+00:00

When you put in the work to get a physique that's noticeable body building has naturally become one of your main hobbies and you now have a common interest with other body builders and those that want to get into the hobby. Guys who develop a passion for body building can also tell the difference between real muscles and fake ones and it takes a lot of dedication and willpower to get a good physique so it's certainly admirable and impressive and even more so when so many guys use roids and hgh as a shortcut. Guys complimenting other guys isn't dissimilar to girls complimenting each others makeup or how their figure looks in certain clothes only guys are more casual about it. Just a casual sign of respect

carly_rae_bopsen · 2021-05-30T18:36:47+00:00

Shows dedication, other men will look at a muscular man and think "wow, that's hark work, that inspires me to be like that"

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2021-05-30T19:28:55+00:00

Since fitness and especially musclebuilding is predominantly male activity, men can empathize with the effort. This has been urbanized to mirin.

SmurfESmurferson · 2021-05-30T17:54:00+00:00

Because women are not men. We don’t approach, we don’t need to

We also know that complimenting a man’s body is asking for that guys to think we want to bang him

Kaisha001 · 2021-05-30T18:28:07+00:00

There's such thing as too much, but within reason:

muscles + lean > lean > muscles > skinny > fat

What a lot of people don't understand, is that while PEDs make you look jacked, they can often make you also look unnatural/unhealthy if you're not careful. You step into a sort of 'uncanny valley' that men find impressive/intimidating, but isn't attractive.

Also muscles work much better IRL than in pictures... women are almost compelled to touch them.

TheOffice_Account · 2021-05-30T19:34:47+00:00

Men know how much work it takes. They admire the result, but also the discipline and sheer hours of work it takes.
For reasons I don't understand, my dating partners have rarely wanted to know about my starting point and how much I have struggled to get to where I am. I'm charismatic but it's taken years to build on that. I'm fairly jacked but that has taken more than a decade of work (I started at 0, and with poor methods). But telling women all this tends to decrease their interest in me and I'm not sure why. But if I allow the illusion to stay that this is who I always was, that strikes them as being better.

The exception is the quintessential rags-to-riches story. Male or female - everyone likes that.

ohheyhi99 · 2021-05-30T18:32:05+00:00

(Straight) men care if another man has worked hard on his body and they want to have what he has. Women care if he looks hot to them overall, including his face. The work is mostly irrelevant.

1Here4Bach · 2021-05-30T19:12:46+00:00

I don’t know what you mean by “respect”. I’m indifferent towards random gym rats. It’s cool that he’s actively pursuing his dreams but it’s not going to sway me one way or the other because I don’t know him. Not sure why men want us to bow down to random men for lifting weights.

Gilmoregirlin · 2021-05-30T20:44:55+00:00

I think that men overestimate how much muscles attract women. When you ask a man if another man is attractive that is what they focus on, they will respond he works out, he is in shape, he is muscular. But when you ask a woman she tends to focus more on face, hair, other features. Which is why men get so twisted in their whole rating system. They think a muscular guy with a bad face, bad hair, poor clothing choices, and a horrible personality is a 7 and most women see him as a 3. I think the reason men focus more on muscles is because it’s something they can control, whereas face, hair, intelligence are more difficult.

midwestufohunter · 2021-05-30T20:58:15+00:00

Because it's a male thing?

Barneysparky · 2021-05-30T19:28:48+00:00

Back in the day all the muscle gyms were about the gays.

Arnold was the first one to change that, Atlas that was found in the back of comic books was all about the gay.

Women prefer swimmers' bodies over ripped gym bro bodies. Men who are into muscle are really into muscle. YMCA baby.

ex_red_black_piller · 2021-05-30T18:21:50+00:00

Because ugly face + muscles is still ugly.

Chubby dude with great face will get more attention than ugly dude who is ripped.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-05-30T19:22:09+00:00

I think men appreciate the aesthetics of muscle. I think a toned muscular body is more attractive regardless of sex.

DplusLplusKplusM · 2021-05-30T23:15:55+00:00

As a generality neither men nor women really understand what the other gender finds attractive. Men will try to bulk up with muscles and women will fret about getting their makeup on point when in reality most straight women aren't looking for a gym rat and most straight men aren't big fans of cosmetics. It's probably competition with our same gendered friends that leads us to think this is what the opposite sex is into. IMHO

Ambitious-Positive-1 · 2021-05-31T18:05:46+00:00

Men judge women purely on looks men also judge men in much the same way. (Men appreciate other men’s qualities too but looks are given precedence as befriending the attractive can aid in mating options).

Women judge using the Looks/Status/Cash system so you may need to tick the other boxes. Inside that looks box there also major sub groups unaffected by gym. Height, Face and Energy.

cloudsongs_ · 2021-05-30T20:39:18+00:00

Probably if that's important to them. If a fat guy saw a muscular guy and has no motivation or interest in getting muscular/fit, he probably doesn't appreciate/respect it as much as another guy who does have those values. It's the same with women. If she has an interest in exercise and strength, she'll have an appreciation and respect for a muscular guy beyond the appearance of it.

WinnieHutSenior · 2021-05-30T20:46:43+00:00

I was at the gym and had another guy slap my ass and tell me good job and honestly it felt good to be recognized for once lol

Platinirism · 2021-05-30T18:58:39+00:00

Men respect other men who have put in the work and effort required to obtain those muscles.

They might not “respect” a women with muscles for a few reasons, maybe they themselves find them attractive, but unobtainable (out of their league), so they say nothing.
Or maybe they don’t like women with muscles so they don’t compliment them.

Women don’t really care about muscles unless it’s attached to someone attractive.

rilakkumkum · 2021-05-30T18:22:12+00:00

Men only have a sense through the male gaze. Almost everything in media is made for the male gaze. What men think women want isn’t what they actually want. So men think that the average woman wants muscular guy that drives a Ferrari when that’s not true at all.

Due_Movie_1901 · 2021-05-30T18:18:29+00:00

Men know how hard it was so we respect them. Women dont care as long it looks good or gives her status shes content

EusticeSymington · 2021-05-30T19:46:52+00:00

I admire men's bodies more. Enjoy looking at them in the same way you look at a bronze or a car. Might sound kinda gay but I don't care. Only women's bodies arouse me. The raw and instant feeling you get comes from a more primitive part of my brain.

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I think men are just more visual. Male hormones are also neurochemicals and that's why we have lowered reaction times compared to women. I also think female compliments have more value as a currency and they are more stingy with them towards men. Even with men they are attracted to, they are more likely to neg in a teasing/shit test way than actually unironically compliment you. It allows them to hold on to a bit a power in an interaction.

PurpleLightningart · 2021-05-30T21:33:15+00:00

But women do respect men who are fit and muscular, at least in my expats someone who is fit and muscular, so I’m not sure what this thread is talking about

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-05-31T01:24:56+00:00

Because he can kick my ass. He can't hit women though.

However, I've been skinny when I was young and I've also been muscular and ripped, and all in between, and I have noticed women respect me more when I'm at my best. Not talking about my sex life (it has improved acording to muscular mass too) but all kinds of interactions with girls. Muscles give me some kind of vibe around women, a "I know better" aura that makes women kinder to me, easy going... Hell they even think I'm funny.

PSoLCs · 2021-05-31T18:59:19+00:00

simple answer? Yes. the Body you're talking about takes massive amounts of effort to achieve so we celebrate our brother's achievement, as to where being complimented on being pretty is akin to being complimented for existing.. now if you're willing to put in the work to improve, we'll show the same respect.

evanstown21 · 2021-05-30T18:35:01+00:00

It’s because I don’t find it all that pleasing and it doesn’t make that much of a difference to me. Like having 6 pack abs and great arms is only like half a step up from lean and maybe one or two steps up from skinny. It is however, two flights of stairs up from fat. So you’ll probably see the greatest change in success from fat to skinny but not so much from skinny/lean to visibly muscular.

cowfishAreReal · 2021-05-30T18:22:06+00:00

Because women don't usually care about muscles as much as guys do. I think guys that aren't muscular look more attractive

MGTOWManofMystery · 2021-05-30T19:41:15+00:00

Men have to earn respect whereas women (in the current gynocentric social order) are given respect automatically. So I think men admire the work it took. At the same time, there is always the threat of violence in the background with other men and fitness is correlated with the capacity of violence.

YtBlue · 2021-05-30T20:33:57+00:00

Women like them just as much. Go to a setting where drinking takes place and watch what happens. It's just women don't have true confidence due to them not have to do what truly makes it. I.e rejection and approach. So they'll never compliment or give really obvious hints unless the liquors involved.

StuDentMyCar · 2021-05-30T21:48:59+00:00

muscles aren’t nice to cuddle. i don’t wanna hug a rock. honestly when i see guys working out i think it’s to impress his buddies anyway lol cause girls dgaf

k995 · 2021-05-30T18:18:12+00:00

Cause women put less focus on looks let alone just muscle.

0ne0s1x · 2021-05-30T19:18:38+00:00

Cos women don’t really care that much about muscles, men just think they do because that’s what THEY care about, and they project that onto women

m0rbid0peth · 2021-05-30T20:00:52+00:00

As a dude, I really don't care if another guy is jacked. It has no impact on my life, so I wouldn't go out of my way to comment to another guy about his gains.

According to female friends and family that I have talked to, none of them are attracted to muscle. They might respect it the same way they would respect an athlete, but they wouldn't feel closer to the muscular man because he has muscle. What does seem to be attractive to women (almost across the board) is if a man is stable (financially, mentally, and career-wise). Stability is safety and women are attracted to safety.

It seems that the best reason to get swole is if you want to compete athletically or if you want to be a model. You can be pretty healthy as a skinny or a fit guy without muscle.

dignifiedworm · 2021-05-30T19:07:56+00:00

As a woman: I don’t really care about how muscular a guy is and it’s actually a turn-off if he’s too big because it makes me wonder if he’s vain and making up for insecurities by obsessing over his body. As long as he takes care of his health and isn’t overweight or skinnier than me haha.

The-Devilz-Advocate · 2021-05-30T19:28:46+00:00

mostly men compliment them or ask for advice to get in their shape lol.

Because it takes a shit ton amount of work, patience and time to be able to get in-shape, so of course as MEN we recognize that it's super hard therefore we "complement" them.

It's not as easy as sitting in front of a mirror and applying make up for an hour.

2021-05-30T19:21:27+00:00

I am a man, and I don't respect particularly a mucular man if he has nothing interesting to say.

ThePinkPepper · 2021-05-30T19:42:25+00:00

In my opinion i think that its not so important. If im with someone thats muscular of course ill compliment them cause i know the effort it takes to gain muscles and if its something that makes him happy then ill have no problem with it , but its not like i expect or ask for my SO to be muscular.

For example, some women dont really care if a man is muscular just like some men dont care if a woman has idk great lucious hair or an amazingly done manicure you know?...

SylvestorTalone · 2021-05-30T18:35:32+00:00

Men have a far better understanding of just how much hard work, dedication, and discipline is required to be 'in shape' as a man.

For a woman, getting in shape means shedding fat, which is fast and easy. For men it's building muscle, which is hard and takes ages.

bfrog7427 · 2021-05-30T21:25:24+00:00

Sorry people, I'm on the other side of the fence on this one. A muscular fit woman is ten times more awesome than a guy. The amount of work it takes for women to achieve that body is worth asking them about how they did it, and respectfully admiring then for doing it.

As males our body composition allows us to drop weight and add muscle fairly easily. For a woman to do the same, it takes extra dedication and persistence to get there.

retal1ator · 2021-05-30T19:51:31+00:00

Because men, unlike most women, appreciate and respect the dedication and skill that it takes to accomplish a good physical form. Women rarely work this hard on themselves so they aren't able to appreciate it as much.

DeputyDak · 2021-05-30T20:31:07+00:00

Cause girls nowadays like feminine men for some reason. In the 70's, a hairy chest was considered masculine. Now its just considered gross.

bluehorserunning · 2021-05-30T23:54:51+00:00

Personally, I don't want a guy who's dumb enough to spend an hour every day doing nothing but lift weights at a gym. If he's practicing for some kind of sport that he enjoys, it's another thing entirely - but just endless reps with weights? Ugggh. Even running on a treadmill staring at a wall is better than that. In addition, I associate 'gym rat' with 'bad temper/asshole who wants to have dominance fights with other men.' I assume that he's going to embarrass me in public by being a jackass if I go out to eat with him. A guy with dad bod is just going to be a lot nicer to be around, probably be a lot more interesting to talk to, and a lot less likely to make a scene or try to get into fights with other men. It's great if a guy has some sort of activity that he enjoys, whether it changes his appearance or not, but it should be because he enjoys it, because it makes his life better, and not because of how it makes him look.

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timissick · 2021-05-30T20:02:20+00:00

They dont.

Lateralanouncer · 2021-05-30T20:06:20+00:00

Good question. I have 2 chains of thought. Men admire achievement. Most react similarly to a nice car. Modified custom, we admire the workmanship. Expensive we appreciate how he achieved it.

What body Type are woman less discriminate to having sex with. 2. Despite all the comments about I don’t want a man that’s... men know as soon as they try internet dating that woman swipe for xyz body types and many woman are happy to let xyz body types use them casually (plates). Woman also put different rules for abc body types, holdout, x number of dates etc. these are the result of hard work which men admire.

IlagaEduardo · 2021-05-30T20:43:31+00:00

Because men know how hard it is to get muscular. Women constantly say things like "I want to just get toned, not muscly", because they think that doing one extra set of curls with their 5lb weights will turn them into Schwarzenegger.

ricar426 · 2021-05-30T21:24:47+00:00

It takes time, strenght and investment to get fit, and a lot of self-discipline.

SaBahRub · 2021-05-30T21:26:09+00:00

An ass kicking is an ass kicking, bro

The_Entertainer217 · 2021-05-30T21:58:12+00:00

Women think men naturally look a certain way that actually takes a lot of work for most men

EffectiveBlackCat · 2021-05-30T22:15:52+00:00

Muscles don't have the effect on women they did in the middle 1990's when I was a young man. Now girls/women see it all over their intsagrams and Facebook's they've become heavily desensitized to it. The hailo effect has worn off in other words. Just another reason why the internet has caused a cultural shift in perceptions. If women keep seeing pictures of ripped Guys they think that's the norm or basic standard, same with guys.

Even an ugly bulldog or manlet could get a nice looking girlfriend in the 90's if he developed a good physique. Not now.

InitialArgument1662 · 2021-05-30T23:39:29+00:00

Homosociality.

Superfluous_Toast · 2021-05-30T23:43:42+00:00

In my case, it's simply because muscles do nothing for me. You might as well be asking why wearing a certain color doesn't get you more compliments.

Extremely__Moderate · 2021-05-31T00:37:17+00:00

Men nominate men for reproduction. This elevates a man's status so he can find a mate.

Men nominate strong men for reproduction.

wordsandmagic · 2021-05-31T01:18:28+00:00

Most women do like healthy men and do find physiques of the likes of Chris Pratt or Ryan Reynolds attractive.

I think the whole being jacked thing looks a bit stupid though. If you look like a steroid head it also looks like you have massive insecurity.

I dont know any woman who prefers a jack black body over matthew mcconaughy

gumdrops1 · 2021-05-31T01:37:37+00:00

Is it because they can relate to how hard it is to get there?

Yes. Having a really impressive physique is really hard for most people. It requires dedication and discipline.

The majority of women are not trying to build mass. They're just trying to not be fat. That is arguably a lot simpler than getting down to 10% body fat while holding on to a lot of muscle mass.

So while women may verbally appreciate the visuals, they don't tend to know exactly what it takes to get there... because they're not men.

Shirley_Schmidthoe · 2021-05-31T01:39:26+00:00

How much of this is purely a United States thing anyway?

I noticed that all of this muscular male idea media crap seems to come from that place and that in most other places it doesn't seem to be the case.

It's often noted that US male superheroes designed as a power fantasy for males tend to look ridiculously buffed and jacked but it doesn't look that way at all in say French or Japanese comic books, especially in the latter where they're more so noted for their unique-to-visually impossible hairstyes.

And Japanese males do often look like they spend quite a bit of money and time on their hair.

roaming_bartender · 2021-05-31T01:53:28+00:00

why is it that men give other men attention over working out?

Because women dont need to work out to attract a man and men know how much of a pain it is to get noticeable gains. A girl just needs proper fasting (not even diet, just proper fasting to promote caloric loss over intake) to be skinny and look good. Guys need muscle to be competitive and men know that something like 100 push ups a day isnt easy to keep doing.

ChiBron86 · 2021-05-31T01:55:41+00:00

It's mostly a relational thing. As a man who works out, I know how hard it is to get and maintain even a decent physique, much less a good one. So when I see some fit looking dudes out there, I know the work they've put in. And thus the appreciation.

Mrsupreme1989 · 2021-05-31T02:09:41+00:00

Takes hard work and discipline that most people won’t do. It should be admired by people irrelevant of sex. People should do it for themselves not for sexual attention. Respect your body and your mind!

Flintblood · 2021-05-31T02:56:08+00:00

DYEL Bro? Lol. Seriously, if you’ve ever lifted or did something that requires physical fitness you’ll know just how much effort and self discipline it takes for most people to achieve a fit muscular look.

Women can look desirable just by being of average fitness and not being obese if she’s relatively young (some women keep shape a long time) and not sagging.

Men have to either be muscular, or rockstar lean; or maybe a little bit dad bod but only if they are taller than average. Go read the Brogress and lean gains subs to get an idea of how much men sacrifice to work on their bodies.

FreierSteinkopf · 2021-05-31T03:20:44+00:00

All the studie I have been through conclude that muscle are an attractive dimorphic trait that indicate good abilities and better access to resources. At least when it comes to short term relationships. Women might be a bit mislead when it comes muscles since from what I can tell they have bad references. I often hear that too much muscle is not good but they think about is Schwarzenegger in his prime while a natty gym rat would never be considered too much.

Confident-Working595 · 2021-05-31T03:41:01+00:00

Every man wants to be fit or muscular, so when someone does it, it's impressive. It's the same thing with nice sports cars. I feel like every car guy knows that cars attract other guys (probably car guys) and not women.

C-Kasparov · 2021-05-31T03:54:30+00:00

I think fit girls are gorgeous

S0mnariumx · 2021-05-31T04:50:30+00:00

Gay as it sounds men appreciate everything about other men than women do

Halflotus1 · 2021-05-31T05:03:01+00:00

Women do too. They often pretend not to.

shooplewhoop · 2021-05-31T05:04:09+00:00

For the same reason that women care when they wear the same outfit repeatedly despite the fact that men don't care.

NumerousImprovements · 2021-05-31T05:54:28+00:00

It highlights men admiring men, but it’s not as accurate when it implies women don’t care. They do. Build that body gents, guys will want to be you and gals will want to be with you.

2021-05-31T06:13:25+00:00

Depends on culture. Eastern Europe women love muscles. Hence, they tend to end up with morons. Italian women love ugly dudes, because they are the only star. Greek women like a bit of fat.

Shirts_Pants · 2021-05-31T06:54:40+00:00

A beautiful woman is sexually attractive, even to some or many women who identify as straight. A beautiful man is visually impressive and the result of hard work, great to look at for both men and women, but not inherently sexually appealing. So it's less of a factor when women are seeking men.

washington_breadstix · 2021-05-31T06:56:05+00:00

It's probably just part of women's general hesitation to give men any compliments because it will automatically be taken as flirting.

She says: "Nice muscles. You must work out a lot."

He hears: "Nice muscles. Wanna fukk?"

And even if a girl sees a muscular guy and does want to have sex with him, don't expect her to be as straightforward about her intentions as a man would be toward a woman. I don't think the issue is that she doesn't respect the man with muscles, it's that even if she respects him and wants to have sex with him, she's not going to go about it by approaching him and directly expressing interest in his body. Instead, she'll create opportunities for him to flirt. She'll put herself in his crosshairs (metaphorically speaking).

You also have to consider the outright misconceptions that some women seem to have about what it takes to become "buff". We've all encountered the type of girl who doesn't want to do certain exercises because she's worried about getting "too bulky", as if there's any risk of that if you're not obsessively lifting heavy and tracking nutrient macros for like 2-5 years.

_that_dam_baka_ · 2021-05-31T07:19:37+00:00

If a woman loses a lot of weight, men may think she's hot, but other women will definitely ask her for advice.

If a man gets ripped, women may think he's hot, but men will definitely ask for advice.

Of course, people have different ideas of what's attractive in the opposite gender (and their own, but the ideas of what's considered attractive to your own gender is much more homogenous).

You know what's considered attractive in your own gender and you can usually complement people of the same gender and not have it taken as romantic interest. Usually.

I'm sorry but I've learned from anecdotes and stories (fictional and non fictional) that complimenting a man can be (and is) frequently misconstrued as, “Oh she's interested but shy. I/You should help her along.” by the recepient of the compliment and/or their male friends.

The only place we'd be okay with giving out compliments is online. I'm sure you look great, dude 👍

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2021-05-31T08:36:41+00:00

This is not my experience at all. By far, my body gets noticed and mentioned by women. In fact women only.

__Vandetta__ · 2021-05-31T08:38:10+00:00

Look, it's probably because we think it's cool. Like, our bodies can do that like wooooow!

Plus it shows that he's strong and we on an instinct level can respect that, I think it's got something to do with physical genetics leading into psychological genetics.

GunnzzNRoses · 2021-05-31T09:12:50+00:00

Not true at all. Just be muscular theory holds serious ground. Some women will say that they don't care about it but you put a musclehead in front of them, a primitive vestige reveals itself. Ergo, they want that dick.

Willow-girl · 2021-05-31T11:51:30+00:00

Women see bodybuilders as high-maintenance, and perhaps he will expect her to get in shape, too. If she has no interest in doing so, she may shy away and pick a less demanding fellow.

MisterJose · 2021-05-31T13:34:58+00:00

I think especially if you work out yourself you understand how much unending day-after-day for years it takes to get your muscles to look like that. They don't come easily.

Also, regarding muscles not being that attractive...here's the deal: If you take me as an example, I'm someone who will tell you that he likes his women to be soft to the touch, and doesn't like hardbodies. And I mean it when I say it. However, that's me forgetting the times when I've gone to the gym and seen a woman bare midriff with serious abs. It's mesmerizing to see a human body like that, and to see the muscles moving and undulating. I imagine there's an analogue to how women talk about muscle dudes. They're not lying, they're just picturing some muscle dude they dislike. That same woman might be similarly mesmerized by a guy with an equivalent body.

khathmandu · 2021-05-31T13:53:52+00:00

Dunno... i love all women... esp muscular women...

willycthecountrytee · 2021-05-31T14:16:57+00:00

Women don't even know what a healthy, fit guy is anymore. The roid users at the gym and in tv have completely warped their perspective. Unless you have too tier genetics, no woman is going to think you're muscular unless you juice.

Is what it is.

Alternative-Trifle60 · 2021-05-31T15:48:46+00:00

Women appreciate it but will never tell you directly, unless you are in a relationship with that woman.(Women are stealthy)

Ogres_r_like_banned · 2021-05-31T16:22:17+00:00

Evolutionary benefit. Men benefit from accruing allies and male relatives who are strong and battle tested. Women do as well but also benefit from having weaklings around to exploit so ultimately they give less of a shit.

alberto-hoff · 2021-05-31T17:28:56+00:00

I do when I'm dating someone.

Specific-Mall-9972 · 2021-05-31T17:50:03+00:00

Could be because of the possible implications of a compliment depending on who it is coming from. If a woman compliments a guy’s muscles, that is very likely to come across as flirting, you could probably even get reported for that for sexual harrassment in some cases. Men complimenting men is less likely to be seen as flirty or creepy. Same as how women compliment another woman on her blouse, but men are less likely to unless they are flirting.

sivarias · 2021-05-31T22:22:27+00:00

The surface level answer is respect for the effort needed to attain that musculature.

The deeper lizard brain is: The request for advice is a veiled attempt to get the strong guy to join your "tribe" because if he's strong, it's better to have him on your side threatening your enemies then on your enemies side threatening you.

It's the same reason men will defer to the largest man in the room usually (because he's the most capable of kicking your ass) and why men will instinctively size up a room when they walk into it (to see whose ass they can kick).

a14deadpool · 2021-06-01T03:15:35+00:00

Cause in General it’s true. Women don’t care that much about bodybuilders. Some do but it ain’t a thing that would make lots of women wet.

becoming65253 · 2021-06-01T13:22:25+00:00

studies prove otherwise.

IOportA · 2021-05-30T20:09:59+00:00

Because men know how much effort it takes and women don't.

LillthOfBabylon · 2021-05-31T01:02:42+00:00

Its something men pretend to do to impress women, but its really to impress each other.

Title	Why does it seem that men appreciate/respect a muscular or fit man more than women ?
Author	rivetcitymayor
Upvotes	159
Comments	376
Date	May 30, 2021 5:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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