Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women

Major-Platypus2092 · 2026-03-19T23:23:50+00:00

Like with anything, what "relationship material" is to you will be completely different for another person.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-20T00:28:16+00:00

Right my friend, but the problem is... they're more likely to cheat. People don't complain about relationships with slutty people (men or women) simply because they like to have sex.

DietTyrone · 2026-03-20T00:34:29+00:00

As long as I’m in a relationship with them and they don’t cheat

So basically as long as they don't do the one thing men are most worried about them doing and that they are statistically more likely to do than trad or conservative women...

Deboch_ · 2026-03-19T23:52:20+00:00

"Slutty" means high sociosexuality, not high sex drive. That means enjoying loveless sex with strangers, low commitment and multiple partners. And all of those things correlate highly with her being LESS sexually and emotionally satisfied on a relationship with you, not more.

A woman could be a literal virgin catholic and still have a high sex drive once in a loving relationship/marriage with you. Both in terms of sociosexuality and in terms of what her religion teaches.

ReasonConfident4541 · 2026-03-20T01:14:01+00:00

I completely disagree

"Slutty" women are usually slutty for a reason and those reasons are not good for a relationship

But you do you OP good luck.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2026-03-19T23:33:57+00:00

Just because a woman has a high body count don't means she likes sex, don't means she will like sex with you.

sablesalsa · 2026-03-20T00:21:13+00:00

I don't agree or disagree, but I'd like to point out that traditional/conservative women can also have a high sex drive.

There are also multiple definitions of traditional, and Trump doesn't have universal support from conservatives.

harmonica2 · 2026-03-19T23:58:23+00:00

How can the OP say slutty women don't cheat? What makes them slutty then if they are faithful?

Does this mean that , if a woman cheats on you then that means she is not slutty enough?

IAMNUMBERBLACK · 2026-03-20T00:45:07+00:00

If u go full slutty, they will very likely cheat on u. It’s a super obvious risk

PatsyRR · 2026-03-20T04:12:27+00:00

There’s no shortage of the type of women you want. Good luck with the monogamy part…

likefireandmoonlight · 2026-03-19T23:53:58+00:00

I don't know where this belief came from, but non-slutty women with a low count can love sex and be politically liberal too.

society000 · 2026-03-20T01:19:16+00:00

I don't want a trad wife or a bible thumping con either. Problem with the kind of woman you're describing, however, is that she (just like anyone who's had a lot of casual sex with different people, men included) has a much higher chance to cheat. Studies have shown this in both men and women.

SeemedGood · 2026-03-20T02:49:42+00:00

That conservative women don’t enjoy sexual intimacy is an entirely fallacious presumption.

Popeoath · 2026-03-20T00:50:15+00:00

Statistically slutty people are more likely to break up or cheat, so literally no.

Legate_Retardicus84 · 2026-03-20T02:31:37+00:00

Lmao did a 15 year old type this? Jesus Christ man.

oppositegeneva · 2026-03-19T23:42:58+00:00

I understand where this idea comes from but in my experience it’s always been far from the truth

The idea of casual sex with randoms is disgusting to me, but I’m extremely high libido and in a free use marriage because I love sex, just not sex with anyone.

Ironically my friend who has a very high body count (70+) is as vanilla as they come and currently isn’t having much sex these days in her LTR because she’s lost interest

People do not fit neatly into boxes, shocker lol

AcephalicDude · 2026-03-19T23:51:24+00:00

What does this even mean? What does "slutty" mean to you? Because to me it would imply someone that probably wouldn't be satisfied with monogamy and wants casual sexual relationships with different partners. I would never call a woman that likes sex in the context of a committed relationship a "slut".

Turbulent-Serve5777 · 2026-03-20T05:23:03+00:00

Slutty women lose interest in sex as well. All women do.

henningknows · 2026-03-20T01:17:19+00:00

Traditional women are Karen’s who support trump….lol where do you people get this shit? Have you ever even talked to a women before?

balhaegu · 2026-03-20T00:09:34+00:00

Every woman can be slutty for the right man. Every woman can be conservative for the wrong man.

quixxotia · 2026-03-20T00:40:07+00:00

Just because someone doesn't want to do casual sex or hookups doesn't mean they won't have sex with you in an actual relationship. Some people are opposed to casual sex but would have sex in a relationship everyday. Modesty isn't always about being anti-sex it's about choosing who gets access to your body and who doesn't. I'm not religious btw I just care about my own dignity and don't want to be for "free"

Also, the idea of casual sex grosses me out (just how I feel). This isn't related to politics for me.

Junior_Ad_3086 · 2026-03-20T03:37:51+00:00

the 'only slutty women enjoy sex' fallacy strikes again. and btw, not all women who aren't promiscuous are conservative karens either.

you do you but the thing is, you're never going to know whether someone is going to be loyal or not. promiscuity, impulsivity and attention seeking behavior are some good predictors for infidelity.

ImportantYoung7119 · 2026-03-20T04:01:27+00:00

Yeah u a cuck for sure lol...

DiligentRope · 2026-03-20T00:08:53+00:00

Traditional women tend to lose interest in sex. Or do it out of obligation to a husband. I like slutty women because they like sex.

sluttiness/promiscuity doesnt have to do with libido, it had to do with lack of impulse control. Trads love sex too, just not with everyone in the block. Trad couples probably have more sex on average than even sluts simply due to the fact they have each other.

Glad-Western5346 · 2026-03-20T00:02:21+00:00

I agree with you 200%.

But it's almost impossible to prove this to anyone. I can't find any male acquaintances who understand my desire for women to want sex as much as I do. It's nonsense to them.

1)Slut-shaming. It's simply a mystical phenomenon! First, men love to have sex with different women, flirt with them, but then... Behind their backs, lustful girls are called "crazy or weird." Obviously, 50 years ago they were simply called sluts, but today that seems too stupid—because sex is not as frowned upon as it used to be. Moreover, it's often women themselves who engage in slut-shaming. Even some feminists! Seriously, liberated women can't even get support from other women. For some strange reason, for women themselves, being called a whore is more frightening than for a subtle, feminine gay man to confess his love to a criminal biker.

2) Romanticizing monogamy. Serious relationships are great! But no one likes to talk about how they're full of difficulties. That breaking up is normal. That cheating happens sometimes. All of society prefers to lie about the ideal monogamous relationship. Everyone pretends that perfect relationships, like in fairy tales, happen to literally everyone. And problems are a very, very, very rare setback. Although in reality, it's the other way around.

Substantial-Fly4895 · 2026-03-20T00:00:15+00:00

and they don’t cheat or demand something different than monogamy

Big assumption

il_nascosto · 2026-03-20T01:03:25+00:00

I don’t enjoy being a cuck, and I’ve found that more “traditional” women like to fuck just as much as any other, so…

AdorableTonight3930 · 2026-03-20T01:31:49+00:00

Bye being old fashioned doesn't mean any of that. I don't like Trump and I like sex with the person I'm committed to. Not random people 🤷‍♀️

Ronniebbb · 2026-03-20T02:01:33+00:00

My p.o.v being tradition or liberal, you're not loosing interest in sex because of your position in that sense. There's a whole host of reasons: your partner is putting most of the domestic work on you, lack of communication, lack of respect, exhaustion from life and trying to manage it all, children, medical issues etc. all things that happen to traditional and "slutty" women .

Btw I'm def more of a traditional woman, as I'm a practicing Catholic. I am not a trump supporter, far from it.

Realistic_Fee_7753 · 2026-03-20T04:17:50+00:00

Ew. I'll take what's behind Door #3 please Chuck.

TopShelfSnipes · 2026-03-20T05:35:01+00:00

The problem with definitions of "slutty" is how a lot of guys define a "slutty" woman.

Someone who habitually sleeps around with near-strangers, doesn't practice safe sex, cheats, etc. would likely be a terrible partner.

However, someone who dresses sexually, who flirts a lot with lots of guys when she's single but not when she's in a relationship, and who enjoys sex but takes all the necessary precautions and doesn't cheat will often be presumed to be "slutty" by a lot of prudish guys while in actuality she'd be a ton of fun and a good partner if there was mutual interest in a relationship.

Also, a lot of prudish guys don't know the difference between what was commonly called "a tease" and someone slutty. A lot of women, especially younger women in party settings, might appear to be promiscuous but they're really just flirts, and they don't give up the goods to a guy just because they hit it off over a couple hours. These women would be called teases because they'd attract fuckboys who would leave frustrated when all that flirting and banter didn't lead to anything other than walking her home. But the wallflower watching her interactions with the fuckboy would probably assume she slept with him and label her a "slut" when she's really not.

A woman who is enthusiastic about sex and discerning with her partners, but who has a bubbly, fun, flirtatious personality that she reserves only for men she is interested in - and who is fully monogamous - is basically what every guy's dream scenario is.

Time_Line4082 · 2026-03-20T07:06:50+00:00

Why would liking sex mean you're a slutty woman or have to sleep around? Women who need emotional connection for sex usually do not sleep around and still like sex - but those would not fall under your category of "slutty" ig

tiddermacss · 2026-03-20T16:22:41+00:00

“slutty women who dont cheat” ok

Gold_Sheepherder6569 · 2026-03-19T23:34:49+00:00

The more partners you have(male or female) the less satisfied you will be in a marriage and it also increases risk of infidelity. I’m not going to tell you how to live and who to love because each person is different and it is possible that a high body count woman won’t cheat but it is false that a conservative woman who is more likely to be a virgin or have a low body count is a worse partner than a slutty woman.

HostSea4267 · 2026-03-20T00:33:57+00:00

Depends if it’s “loves sex” or it’s “lacks impulse control”.

The relationship will have different outcomes based on this.

desertrain11 · 2026-03-19T23:23:52+00:00

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ViolentShallot · 2026-03-19T23:26:12+00:00

I love cheap cars bought from shady unofficial retailers. As long as they don't break down and they don't explode out of the blue, what's the problem?

p166 · 2026-03-19T23:30:41+00:00

Have you thought of being with said "s&tty woman!, instead of telling everyone that they are your preference.

I have no idea what the point of this was.

DriverInitial8305 · 2026-03-19T23:43:33+00:00

Agreed 100%. They’re also way more fun. I have a high sex drive I want a woman who’s like that as well. And politically I’m pretty left leaning as well so yeah

unknownplayground · 2026-03-20T00:24:31+00:00

I have a similar argument that, I’d rather be with a man that has had multiple sex partners rather than me being the one and only. And I would want for the reverse to be applied to myself as a woman too.

My reasoning is that, if you’ve had experience, you’re more likely to know what you want, choose wisely, and therefore be more committed and loyal to the relationship.

I have female friends, that have only had one sexual partner and are in longterm relationships with them. In the friendgroup, I am the slutty friend, and they’re the settled and housewife ones. But they have expressed curiousity and asked me if they’re missing out because they’ve only had their boyfriend, or talk unusually much about other men being hot - have celebrity crushes on men and openly rave about it. Whereas I, find that behavious so odd if I find myself in a relationship.

I think these traditional women, just end up settling basically… and end up ”micro cheating” or have wandering eyes as a result of that.

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-20T00:09:37+00:00

While I support the moral of this sentiment I can’t help but think it falls into the same trap a lot of the “low n count women are the best” normalizing does.

A woman can be modest, personally conservative, traditional and a progressive - in fact quite a few are. A woman can be totally not slutty and be a total freak once committed. Again, many are.

It’s fine to prefer a woman who fits your lifestyle and values - the problem happens when you shame women who don’t fit your view. That’s what a lot of manosphere dudes do when talking about preferring low n count women, and you’re now doing the same thing

that_gworl · 2026-03-19T23:41:28+00:00

They’re booing you but you’re right. Sexually free women tend to be better partners long-term. Physical intimacy is a priority. More likely to keep putting effort into their physical appearance. Better at expressing needs. The association of sexual liberation with promiscuity is due to puritanical values. Those same values lead to the sexual repression that actually causes infidelity and poor coping mechanisms.

All of that said, hoes can be excellent housewives.

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chalkandapples · 2026-03-20T00:38:45+00:00

That's totally valid. I'm not traditional or conservative, but I am very sexually reserved and only had sex with 1 guy that eventually became my husband. I would definitely not be a good match for a lot of men, especially based on how a lot of men here talk about sex.

I'm just not gonna be sexually adventurous or open to sexual exploration that might be a problem for a lot of men, especially if sex is very important to them.

Some men say they don't want women with high n counts and such, but given how they talk, I feel like they would be more compatible and would have a happier relationship with my friends that have higher n counts than ones with low n counts.

Big-Locksmith-535 · 2026-03-20T00:49:58+00:00

Lol this whole high body count is always hilarious considering that the average sexual partners for both women and men is literally in the single digit range

God bless Reddit, Threads, YouTube etc

Icy-Gene7565 · 2026-03-20T00:56:28+00:00

You go guy.

thumpsky · 2026-03-20T01:28:16+00:00

Crazy women > *

Most_Vermicelli9722 · 2026-03-20T05:13:55+00:00

I’m not slutty and I waited till marriage and in my case it checks out. I don’t like sex because it’s not pleasurable. I was interested in it before I had it because I was interested in pleasure I thought it would provide me.

I have friends who waited as well and most of them don’t orgasm either. It’s an inside joke at this point in our group.

I do think that there are women who waited with sex and still love, just in my experience the opposite is also gery common.

Anecdotaly, when I say to my friends who waited that I don’t give blowjobs to my husband all of them understand.

When I told the same things to my more experienced friends they started saying that my husband is such a poor man, that they feel sorry for him, that he will leave me and so on. They usually act so offended on his behalf it’s ridicolous.

love_in_october · 2026-03-20T06:52:18+00:00

It seems like you're wrapping up a lot of things that aren't necessarily related in the label of "traditional women" here: not sleeping around, not liking sex, being "traditional", not being fun, being American, voting for a certain politician.

I don't think that not wanting to sleep with a range of different people means you don't like sex. In fact, many people prefer sex to be only in a long-term relationship because they value regular, high-quality sex.

Theawkwardmochi · 2026-03-20T09:52:23+00:00

Goth almighty, I've been living almost 40 years as a woman and never knew my options are limited to "slutty" or "conservative". The kind of stuff you learn on the internet 🤣

You can sleep around without having an above average sex drive and you can be an absolute freak in the sheets keeping your body count below 10, and we're talking 20 years not last winter.

To me, "slutty" and "relationship material" are mutually exclusive. I would not disrespect someone with a recent history of promiscuous behavior, but everyone's allowed preferences and mine is to not engage in any kind of intimate relationship with people like that. In my opinion, promiscuity regardless of gender is a sign of poor self control, irresponsibility, performative confidence used to mask unresolved issues and lack of self-respect and, subsequently, respect for others - so the exact opposite qualities to what I want in a partner.

JasonPegasi · 2026-03-20T09:52:35+00:00

They’re way more likely to cheat, that’s the problem

DXBrigade · 2026-03-20T09:53:46+00:00

My ncount is 1 and I am progressive but I kinda agree sex is so important for men you would think sluts would be preferred for relationship.

Lonely_Cycle4757 · 2026-03-20T12:32:50+00:00

While I agree that I would rather have a sexually experienced woman than one who has no clue what she is doing, your political tie-in suggests you don't actually have much experience sexually and are basing your feelings on highly erroneous cognitive dissonance not for the purpose of supporting sexually experienced women, but to simply to trash people you disagree with politically.

If you want to support such women, their political lean shouldn't matter. If the political lean is what matters to you, then you are disingenuously pretending to support women as if you care about the plight of such women, when in reality you are just using them as a political tool.

Weak.

Visual_Jellyfish8074 · 2026-03-20T12:39:45+00:00

Honestly I agree, because she’s likely gotten all of the adventurism and eye-wander out of her system. Especially so if you consistently get the job done for her.

It’s the women who never got to be whores who’ll want a “new experience” just for the novelty of it, because they don’t know most men out here are pretty bad at sex.

ganggajang · 2026-03-20T13:00:03+00:00

I think I get where you’re coming from, but honestly these things usually don't play out long term. Tbh, it feels like you’re trying to buy an insurance policy against a boring bedroom by looking at a girl’s past, but in my experience, that’s not really how it works.

I used to think like you when I was younger, but I learned the hard way that a high body count isn't always about a high libido. A lot of times, that fun behavior is actually a desperate search for validation because something was missing growing up, like a solid father figure. When someone is using sex to fill an emotional void or to reclaim control after some past trauma, it’s not just about liking sex anymore. It’s a coping mechanism, and that kind of stuff usually creates massive trust issues or a switch habit that makes a stable relationship very difficult.

Also, you’re kind of buying into a huge myth about traditional women. Just because a woman values commitment doesn’t mean you get a dead bedroom. From what I’ve seen, those women are often the most vibrant once they actually feel safe and secure with a man who knows how to lead the relationship. The duty sex vibe you’re worried about usually happens when the guy loses his edge and stops being the man she can actually admire.

Maybe I'm wrong here, but it sounds like you're choosing based on surface level excitement. In my experience, a woman who is easy with everyone usually can't give you that deep, exclusive connection that makes a marriage actually work. You might find that the fun expires pretty quick when the emotional baggage starts to leak out.

Southern_Source_2580 · 2026-03-20T14:10:07+00:00

Hey guys so like I like sex and like if I get it from slutty women who are highly likely to be cheating on me I don't consider it cuck behavior its like good for the poon, huh? Why yes all my relationships never lasted long term how could you tell?

Women who engage in this behavior don't last and you are too focused on the cat brother, long term goals? Family integrity? Your daughter not being the community squeeze? Hello?

ViktorPatterson · 2026-03-20T14:18:41+00:00

I am not sure about relationship material, but I have learned that the complexity and growth on emotional and physical experience can be quite wholesome and not boring

Local-Willingness784 · 2026-03-20T16:05:51+00:00

i wonder if this argument would be better received in other subs? cause this seems to me like something women on wider reddit would like to hear, even more if this fits their personal echo chambers or beliefs.

RadiantRecord7093 · 2026-03-20T16:14:17+00:00

Average gooner brain 😂

Technical_End9162 · 2026-03-20T16:55:32+00:00

Great for you, I am actually happy that men like you exist so these women can have someone

For me and a lot of men it’s just not physically attractive for a relationship, no logic is really necessary, it’s an instinct that you can’t get rid off, insecurity plays a part into it SOMETIMES but fundamentally it’s that instinct that I mentioned

It’s hard to explain but she’s still as attractive for a casual relationship you just loose all attraction and that leads to anger if you find out that she lies to you about it because you know she wasted you time, yii or u just won’t bond to her well

weenieandthebutt · 2026-03-20T18:21:38+00:00

Nah the problem are "reformed sluts" who've had their fun with everyone else but acts prudish with you (whilst she expects husband benefits from you).

petellapain · 2026-03-20T19:30:18+00:00

Promiscuity is not the problem. Womens behavior and who they are throwing it back for is the problem. A good example is that podcaster akassh Singh who's wife openly talks about how hot other men are in front of him, declares she wants to have an orgy with her friends husband because hes so hot, brags about how she had a roster of white frat boys in her college days. All while mocking her husband and complaining about his genitals. Humiliating and in no way beneficial to him even though she's very obviously sexually assertive. This is the nightmare scenario of a slutty woman as a partner. No amazing sex, just constant embarrassment

dirtyhippie62 · 2026-03-20T19:43:14+00:00

Woah, Karens who support Trump came outta left field there. What does politics have to do with this argument?

2026-03-20T21:40:26+00:00

So called? Brother, pair bonding, behavioral patterns, divorce rates, 1000s of years of human history and the weird idea of telegony all tell you to stay tf away from promiscous people.

w1nt3rolymp1cs · 2026-03-20T23:57:58+00:00

Im ngl I agree with you bro but you have to be very selective it’s a very slippery slope. But as someone who likes women who are very sexually comfortable and eager to please (and doesnt wanna teach women what to do) it can be pretty enjoyable

Fragrant-Half-7854 · 2026-03-21T06:02:42+00:00

I’m a traditional woman. I have never had sex outside of a committed relationship and only one guy besides my husband. I’ve been married for 34 years now and I’d have sex every day, multiple times the same day most days, if my husband was up for it. Just because a woman doesn’t have sex outside of a committed relationship doesn’t mean she doesn’t like sex and have a high drive. It does mean she has self control which is always a good thing.

Southwesterhunter · 2026-03-21T19:36:32+00:00

You can just say you like women who are confident and enjoy sex without shitting on everyone else. This is weird.

InterestingGoose5507 · 2026-03-22T11:10:52+00:00

“As long as they don’t cheat”…this is the whole problem with slutty women! THEY DO CHEAT!

Traditional women can be up for it a lot but they are more careful who they share their bodies with. Hence lower risk.

It’s idiotic to say that slutty women who are fundamentally casual material are relationship material!

Snoo71180 · 2026-03-22T12:53:01+00:00

Has the OP had personal experience testing this hypothesis? I'd say no because if he had he'd be divorced by now if he has any self respect or experience in actual dating.

JimmyBluffit420 · 2026-03-23T11:26:27+00:00

Lmao. This so ass backwards it’s hilarious. Yeah, if all you want is a gf, then yeah, go for a hoe. If you want wife material, conservative women are the way to go. I’m happily married to one. She’s an amazing wife. A great mom to our beautiful girls. Has a great relationship with her family who we moved closer to from a different state.

Do you really think a woman with 100+ bodies is not only going to stay loyal to you, but be a great mom?

AndreWattson · 2026-03-31T09:21:55+00:00

A woman being “slutty” does not automatically make her better relationship material, just like a woman being traditional or conservative does not automatically make her worse.

Those things do not tell you enough on their own. What matters in a relationship is character, loyalty, compatibility, emotional stability, honesty, and whether the two people actually want the same kind of relationship.

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2026-03-20T00:07:06+00:00

I agree. But all women cheat eventually if given enough time and oppurtunity. I've dated and been married to virgin women and whores, all of them have cheated.

2026-03-20T00:01:30+00:00

every woman that isnt a traddy trump supporter is slutty?

im unsure why the sexual aspect of this matters bc it seems like ur argument is more about personality, views, and overall lifestyles

plenty of tatted up women w blue hair have had fewer sex partners than plenty of trad wife types

thermopolous · 2026-03-20T02:06:33+00:00

Generally correct OP

Title	Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women
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