Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-In

weekend111 · 2021-02-16T10:41:30+00:00

Why did the scrote cross the road?

He thought it was a boundary.

throwRA8935747835 · 2021-02-16T10:11:38+00:00

Would anyone be interested in a feminist book club?
I was thinking about starting a feminist book club, but for women only. I have messaged the mods here about it too, but I am pretty sure they are probably flooded with messages (and not-so-nice DMs). I am quite interested in reading especially 2nd wave feminist literature, and figured a book club could help keep me accountable, and allow people to share their thoughts on books too - I know we have a lot of brilliant women in here after all :)

tinykittenteeths · 2021-02-16T10:09:37+00:00

To think I used to think Valentine's Day was depressing if I wasn't partnered up... nowadays it's just depressing because the majority of my friends have total scumbags for boyfriends, or they're in the orbit of total scumbags. Valentine's Day is the day it hits them hard and makes them question their choices in men, but still they stay. It's so sad. They deserve so much more.

16February2021 · 2021-02-16T13:27:21+00:00

I am so sad, my boyfriend broke up with me because I wanted him to plan something for valentine's day. He said that's too much for him. That's literally 1 date a year he had to do. He got me discounted card for Christmas for valentines day. Definition of LVM

I had to create new account as I found it a bit risky to join with my main

enemy0freality · 2021-02-16T10:43:31+00:00

Oh nice, an opportunity to gush a little bit - didn't want to highjack any of the Valentine's posts.

I've had the first decent Valentine's Day in years! It might sound a bit low-key since my bf and I didn't get to go on a getaway or even dine out - everything's closed where I live due to the plague. But as far as stay-at-home holidays go, this one was very pleasant!

I've spent the night before V-Day at my bestie's place, we had an amazing girls night and I got to see her face light up in the morning as the surprise flowers I ordered for her got delivered.

When I got home, my bf waited for me, dressed to the nines, with a rose bouquet, a heart-felt love letter where he lists the things he loves about me (things that are about me and only me - no "I love the stuff you do for me" bullshit) and an amazing present that will hugely assist me on my level up journey! We went for a long walk and in the evening, he cooked pasta from scratch, paired with a nice wine. We watched a movie together and had amazing philosophical conversations afterwards.

I was very pleased with being able to spend the a. m. with my bestie and the p. m. with my boyfriend. There was no anxiety beforehand, no anticipating disappointment - because I trusted him completely to make Valentine's special, and he delivered.

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-02-16T10:36:28+00:00

Why am I addicted to corn bread right now

Singular-cat-lady · 2021-02-16T18:13:48+00:00

My friend made his wife an audiobook for Valentine's day, like recorded himself reading the whole thing aloud. I'm absolutely dying at how cute that is and thought you ladies would appreciate it too.

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-02-17T12:34:34+00:00

I already posted about how grateful I am, and I am going to do so again here because this community is amazing.

There’s no Women’s space like this anywhere. Not in real life. Not on the internet. I feel unapologetic about my life

I grew up with my looks tied to my worth. I had 3 cosmetic surgeries before I was 25, the first at 16. I am in my 30s now and FDS is what pushed me over this weird psychological hump and into a vat of confidence. Not therapy, not friends, not exercise, not achieving the body I always wanted — none of it helped get me here. But FDS did.

Seriously y’all.

I was a ship set sail without navigating equipment. Until I found this place.

Platipus6 · 2021-02-16T12:11:07+00:00

Hi lovelies!! I have a lil question — should you expect him to be observant and help you out by doing little things without you mentioning? And what would you do if he doesn’t?

My specific situation is at the dog park - we hang our dog leashes on the fence so that our hands are free, and when we go to leave he just grabs his leash off the fence... but I feel like it would be the kind and thoughtful thing to grab mine as well.

(I keep wondering whether it’s coz it doesn’t cross his mind to help me with such a small task, but then again ... if he wanted to he would...)

Villanelloh · 2021-02-16T23:33:36+00:00

Online dating is a CESSPOOL. So many arrogant LVMs thinking they're God's gift to women when they have nothing to offer but bad skin, bad facial hair, bad grammar and bad views on feminism. I'm glad I'm single but I still want a HVM some day

Seraphinx · 2021-02-16T14:18:31+00:00

I ended it with a man I was dating before V-day. His chronic lack of planning was infuriating, I'm always 100 miles ahead, I just couldn't cope.

I'm starting to wonder if I was clear enough about what I wanted or if I wasn't effective enough in my boundary setting. I am new to implementing FDS so I am unsure about whether I set clear and consistent boundaries.

I'm starting to wonder if I sank back into my pickme-ness, but it's so difficult for me to tell. I feel like I was too blase with my time and I should have been more strigent in denying hangouts or refusing plans that weren't set in advance.

level_up_always · 2021-02-16T13:52:44+00:00

Seeing people comment in the 'social group strategy' flair discussions not a part of that social group is super cringe and patronizing. Maybe they aren't all aware of this rule as I saw it when the flair came out but perhaps it should be added as an auto mod message whenever someone uses that flair. People should be able to talk about their social group without having others chime in "as a __ person not a part of this group I think... " ugh. I know they think they have good intentions but that's not the point.

Mind-Objective · 2021-02-16T16:17:53+00:00

It astounds me people are able to find good relationships off Tindr, just because it’s a well known hook up app

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-16T16:57:18+00:00

YAYYY the weekly chat is back!!

BaffledBazaar · 2021-02-18T20:06:10+00:00

"Why are you so insecure about asking guys out? Maybe they're shy and you're both in awkward situation where you both like each other but are both too scared to make a move hahah" in my experience this has never been the case. They were just not that into me.

pawg_patrol · 2021-02-19T00:20:42+00:00

I’m so tired of seeing thinly-veiled OnlyFans advertisements everywhere in nearly every sub. I was subscribed to a sub for curly hair, and ffs, so many posts were just porn accounts. And they get upvotes without fail. I had to leave it, it was ridiculous. No helpful advice, nothing but spamming their OF accounts.

Check any (female) cosplay post in any gaming sub, and so many are just porn accounts. I’m so, so sick of the pervasiveness of porn. Everything leads to porn or some sort of sexual content. I hate it. It seems as though the whole world is porn-sick, and it’s only getting worse. I’m tired.

level_up_always · 2021-02-16T14:17:01+00:00

Feeling *slightly* better regarding my breakup- as in still in fight or flight and ruminating a lot but at least it's not 24/7 and I've been getting short reprieves here and there (so it's like 23/7 instead lol). I started listening to 'Psycho-cybernatics' and that has been good. I just still feel so blind sighted but at the same time beating myself up bc I should have known. I did have an idea tho and had been preparing myself to move for months if not longer. Actually more like a year or two. Never been financially dependent sisters. Before the pandemic I was doing a lot of mental health work and therapy etc. then the pandemic hit and even if I wanted to work after quitting sw it was a shit show. I'm glad I have this time now but I wish I did it sooner.

Equipoisonous · 2021-02-17T00:06:36+00:00

What are the strategies to delay sex? I know the obvious one is to not go to each other’s houses too soon, but once you do start spending time together at each other’s house, what should you do to delay sex? Should you be upfront and say that you’re not going to have sex until there’s commitment? Or be more subtle about it and just slow things down if you’re making out? Looking for some advice, I usually have sex 3-4 dates in the past, but I would really like to wait longer.

donttextme_k · 2021-02-16T15:27:06+00:00

Out of curiosity, given flowers are the bare minimum for Valentine’s Day, what do you ladies think if your boyfriend plans a very nice expensive dinner but does not buy flowers nor a small gift. Is that A HVM or a man that does as little as possible to see what you can put up with?

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-16T19:06:01+00:00

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Mella_20 · 2021-02-16T19:15:23+00:00

How do you go about rejecting/getting away from suspicious men? Cause I'm genuinely terrified.

I say this cause I worry for my safety, and there's unwanted attention everywhere. Two very persistent ones tried it when I was separated from my people, and one tried to physically keep me from leaving. I was a teen and he was at least 45. And another one trapped me in an elevator with him when I was trying to go home. Turns out he didn't even live in my building. He followed me home.

These were obviously harassment, but when it comes to men who pursue you for romantic interests, you never really know how they will react after the first "no". It could go one of a million ways. I dont want to date ever, but I'm easily pressured into doing stuff I don't wanna do, so I want to be able to protect myself. These days I'm getting more paranoid and don't want to go out alone. I get scared for my sister too, cause she's growing and will start going places by herself.

girl_friend445 · 2021-02-16T18:50:24+00:00

I broke up with my boyfriend last night. Feeling absolutely terrified to be alone, but I know it was the right decision. I was telling myself "the relationship is perfect, except for these few small things..." Those "few small things" that we're incompatible on included finances, long-term planning, life goals, kids, sex, communication, and setting and responding to needs/boundaries, to name a few.

I simultaneously feel like an idiot for staying for so long (five years, god), and keep thinking that I'm crazy for letting a decent-enough guy go.

Needing some strength to get through the next few months and build myself back up!

BlazingHazard · 2021-02-16T23:02:08+00:00

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virgoran · 2021-02-20T06:58:21+00:00

Went on a terrible date today. He lied about his height, so I was already turned off. He wore terrible cologne. I was quite uncomfortable. Then, when he goes to cheers with me he says "If you don't make eyecontact when you cheers, the sex will be bad!". I left. Pre FDS me would not have left at that comment. I'm going back to no men for 2021.

Exsqueeze_meh · 2021-02-17T17:57:23+00:00

I just learned i can turn off messaging and chat! How liberating this feels! I can speak without the angry scrotes soiling my inbox :)

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-19T00:32:40+00:00

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knit1lift2 · 2021-02-17T14:06:22+00:00

Currently vetting a mid 30s man who revealed to me yesterday he hasn’t been in a relationship longer than 6 months and has never been in love. He was significantly overweight (300+ lbs) for most of his 20s so starting dating late in life. This is the first potential red flag, but I’m not sure if it is or if it depends on why his relationships haven’t lasted (bad luck/no connection vs pornsick and unrealistic expectations of relationships.) Thoughts?

Difficult_Gap · 2021-02-19T03:47:39+00:00

I'm not a PickMe in many, many years but tonight my feelings got me- why did that man (so long ago) leave me for "fear of commitment" and then marry and have a kid right away? I know it's standard but I feel shitty.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-02-20T04:45:50+00:00

It would be really awesome to have the Weekly FDS Chat regularly, like weekly. It's a good way to inform members about recent changes/updates here and it contributes to a warm and welcoming atmosphere. I think newbies and potential new members (aka female lurkers) benefit the most from it as it can be quite intimidating to post here for the first time. I remember myself back then being afraid that my posts wouldn't be relevant or good enough to be accepted here. When coming from other places of reddit FDS draws the misconception of being stuck-up, mean or harsh at first. I often see new members writing about this experience too and how it took them a while to finally join this sub. A weekly chat could help to overcome that hurdle to actively start participating.

mimiandthekeyboard · 2021-02-17T14:41:38+00:00

I’m still getting into FDS principles after choosing not to date for a while and I’m just beating myself up because I should’ve ended things sooner with this guy. We’ve only had two dates, the first date was at a mini golf place (first red flag imo) that he’s never been to and did no research on so he didn’t figure out that it’s mostly for kids. i was feeling no chemistry at all and then he invited me into his car to go get coffee. i should’ve ended it there but i didn’t and i’m so mad at myself! i went, we kissed a little, and so i started to “warm up” to him and so i agreed that we should go on a second date. the second date was just coffee again in his car and he tried to be more sexual but i wasn’t feeling it and shut it off. we talked a little but i was so disinterested, i kept staring at the clock in his car until i can leave. i texted him at home that i wasn’t interested in seeing him anymore, and so i’m glad that i shut it off after two dates but UGH that first date should’ve been red flag city for me.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-02-19T23:09:42+00:00

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randowordgenerator · 2021-02-16T20:27:32+00:00

Q: has a man ever thanked you after sex?

I will never have sex again if I can't guarantee never to hear it again. It enrages me for soooo many reasons. Like I performed a fucking service like a fucking machine.

ClassicDai · 2021-02-17T18:10:35+00:00

How do y'all handle breaking up with someone that didn't really commit a big offense, but you're not feeling it? He's been sweet and fun, but I feel no sexual/physical attraction to him anymore. I don't want to string him along.

BlueJeanMistress · 2021-02-18T04:59:53+00:00

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level_up_always · 2021-02-18T22:47:00+00:00

ex bf on reddit talking about 'the wall' - i'm the one who told him about it lol (out of being vulnerable and insecurity) and now he preaches it like he's some kind of badass player i feel so gross and that i created a monster meanwhile of course he was telling me it's not true yada yada when i was pissed about him wasting my time i just can't even..

sunflowerpaint · 2021-02-19T13:47:35+00:00

I got my nails done on Valentine's day for myself. I also have been comforting a friend that broke up with a LVM-she's doing much better now, and is able to see how unhappy she was in the relationship (he was a perma-bachelor). She's taking her self worth and self care more seriously now, and I'm supporting her as her friend group was really small (smaller because her and her ex shared friends). I'm happy to see her doing better, as she's too sweet, talented, and beautiful to be dragged down by someone not worth her time.

2021-02-19T15:48:51+00:00

Why do men defend ephebophilia, but are quick to call a gay man a straight up pervert or pedophile for dating someone visibly younger? Why do they push the right to abuse and groom late age teenage girls but go completely silent when a teenage boy is being abused?

HoneyBouquet · 2021-02-21T01:31:21+00:00

I've been off the apps for about 2 months now and am not going back on them.

We are in our third lockdown in the UK and its getting to me. I miss going out with friends or exploring London.

I honestly dont think I will meet a Muslim HVM in real life.

I'm a very romantic and caring person but the odds are against me.

😭

creamtart_ · 2021-02-19T11:38:10+00:00

Help! I keep trying to find a link to download the new version of the handbook to get a refresher, but there’s no working link or clickable download in the side bar, just says the FDS handbook and that’s it. No download link. I’ve tried to check on both phone and computer, scoured every corner of the resources but can’t seem to find a working link to a download. Can someone help a sister out please?

FDSordie · 2021-02-17T03:22:38+00:00

Ladies! I am wanting to learn a third language. Very open and would love to hear your suggestions.

skylagem · 2021-02-17T11:46:17+00:00

Hi, I am new here. Can someone please tell me how to get over someone? Like how do you move on from someone you know doesn't deserve you? I know what I need to do, ie cut off contact and level up..but why is it so hard? I've seen people on this sub saying block and delete..but it's not that simple..and it does not end there. TBH I have already completely cut off contact and focused on myself exclusively long before I discovered FDS a month ago, but I still miss the moments and how things used to be? While I agree with all the queen's in this sub saying out of sight, out of your life, can someone shed some light on how to truly move on? Thank you ❤️.

marimare21 · 2021-02-18T20:36:02+00:00

I've also had the first decent Valentine's Day in what seems like forever. My partner (~6 months dating now) got me roses and marzipan, my absolute favorite candy, cause I'm not a huge chocolate fan. I got him a box of truffles and a lovely letterpressed card :). And then we watched a nice show together into the night. The next day we make a rather complex recipe together, which usually takes me AGES but sped by with him. Amazing, what competence does!

Unfortunately he was one day too proactive in getting flowers and the flower shop gave him a bunch of old roses. He gave them to me but was very unhappy, the poor dear was too nice to request new ones the day off. However, we rebound the roses together to dry and in a few weeks i"ll have some for DIY. And... He got me new red roses afterwards just because he felt bad the first ones were so sucky!

My birthday (1 Month official!), Christmas and New Year's were again, filled with effort and thoughtful gifts and cuddles galore. Even though the future for both of us is uncertain (academics but STEM/Humanities), I get warm and fuzzy at the thought of spending it with this incredibly kind person.

aquietsword · 2021-02-19T21:57:37+00:00

I've always loved creative hobbies, but I've just started getting more into learning art history and such. Anyway, something I've noticed over the years is that men in my experience tend to like the explanation of "maybe it doesn't mean anything" - talking about literature, poetry, and now I'm learning, famous artwork as well. It's always a dude I've noticed that makes this point like it's a good one. They really do lack emotional depth and the ability to interpret meaning out here.

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-20T02:19:35+00:00

Someone messaged me about my writing since I’m in a writing sub and now I’m thoroughly disturbed because they mentioned the term NVM victims out of the blue while chatting about my fiction writing, and I asked what they were talking about. There was a smiley face after.

They mention FDS. But for the past 2 days I assumed they genuinely were curious why I switched genres. I’m not published yet FYI. So when I asked them why would they bring up FDS in a chat about writing fiction I saw them typing.

I looked at their account and there is no history of them posting in FDS at all. I think maybe I am being paranoid but they still didn’t respond, they’re typing, and I immediately blocked them.

soleirolias · 2021-02-20T21:38:21+00:00

sorry if this has already been talked about somewhere else, but if someone wants to talk about it, why do other subs on reddit refer to us as incels?

today in another sub i saw someone ask what an incel was and multiple people said “just go look at fds” but... there’s no involuntary celibacy going on here. most women in general have no shortage of undesirable men in their dms. i’m actually curious & not trying to be rhetorical... is it jealousy? stupidity? lol

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-17T05:51:16+00:00

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saltedpretzel2 · 2021-02-22T00:13:28+00:00

If men have anything, it's always the audacity.

The man I kicked out on valentines day has uploaded a video of him singing a very sad song, it is quite obviously about him losing me, and it's a song he KNOWS i love and we talked about during our 'situationship'.

Am I supposed to feel bad? Boo hoo. Am I supposed to care? I did NOTHING wrong. It was all him. He just wants a pity party, a bit of sympathy, which honestly fits with how selfish he seems to be.

Im glad he's as unhappy as he has made me. It's good to see he knows he fucked up terribly, and it's been a whole week so he for sure by now realises I am not coming back. I'd love to see what bullshit he would be sending me if I unblocked him, but I'm not going to do that because I'm vulnerable right now after being so hurt by his actions. I am leaving him blocked.

What is wrong with these men, honestly. If it took him losing me to see what he had, then I don't want him.

I just hope that the universe sends a wonderful man my way soon, and that would be the ultimate karma. And he can just live with himself and what he's done, knowing that he is never going to find another woman like me, we could have been so happy together. I was nothing but kind, sweet, understanding and enjoyable to be around. I can walk away knowing I did NOTHING wrong and it is truly his loss. I can't say that for him. Sucks to be him.

madonna_whorecomplex · 2021-02-16T16:06:26+00:00

So anyone would be fine to provide me with their family's secret recipes? I just want to discover/experience something exciting without the adrenaline pump involved...

Aurora--Whorealis · 2021-02-17T16:42:55+00:00

I’ve been seeing this guy since Nov 2020 and he’s a little older (I’m 25 he’s 31). I was pretty skeptical of him because I did the whole older guy thing before and they can be man children. But we hit it off. We had sex about 2ish months in. It was before I found this sub but I honestly waited cuz I had back to back BV and yeast infections lmaoo.

He’s an ER doctor so his schedule can be crazy and I try to be understanding but the beginning I felt like we had more fun together. And he had to work valentine’s day so he sent me flowers which is sweet but he has this weekend off and he said he might fly to california with his friends???? I was about to block him on the spot but he cancelled the trip and said we can do something fun. I got so mad because we didn’t even SEE each other on valentine’s day and this is his one weekend off and he was just gonna leave?? I expressed this because I’m trying to start saying exactly how I feel more and he seemed to take it well and is going to plan something.

He does little things still like open doors and I’ve never paid for anything with him. He also bought me a birthday present in December. But this valentine’s day thing just turned me off idk. We’re not actually official he just told me he deleted his dating apps after I confronted him and told him i’m not going to be his little fuck buddy and if he’s seeing other people then our amount of contact is going to have to be reduced. (I’m not about to devote my time/energy to a man who’s splitting his time/energy with me and 5 other women). He was surprisingly understanding and didn’t gaslight me or try to manipulate me. He just said “I didn’t realize you wanted to be exclusive yet but I’m only interested in you so I don’t care about deleting the apps”.

BUT I still feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop with him and part of me feels like it’s not fair to him. I naturally keep a wall up and this sub has only strengthened my wall. Idek if I can fully trust a man again. We’re still within the first 6 months of best behavior tho so idk this could all be an act.

This was all rambles but if someone has advice I’d appreciate it.

FurryBellyButt0n · 2021-02-20T03:09:40+00:00

I'm like mourning and accepting that the potentially HVM I had vetted and followed FDS guidebook rules may potentially be a LVM hiding behind a mask. The fact that I actually tried justifying him being ToO bUsY bEcAuSe He wAs aN eSseNtIaL wOrkEr by not writing anything beyond an "I love you" on a basic ass valentine's day card initially had me revert back to a moment of pickme denial that was triggered within my inner wounded child, but after my therapist appointment (she's a radical feminist, suggested Why Men Love Bitches during a session so I asked if she knew about FDS and actually wrote down FDS when I mentioned it because she just used it as a therapeutic recommendation for women learning about self-love and boundaries). So now I'm back to reality and I don't want to overthink this, but I also need to stay safe and come up with some next steps. I'm open to feedback. I know I need to vet and/or accept that I will need to cut this off. We had an argument yesterday and it just affirmed that he was more unsettled/uncomfortable/defensive (not angry but his tone and the way he was reacting when I expressed feeling angry and upset was a HUGE FLAG now that I am going to try to keep fresh in my mind right now) that I was crying and wanted to just silence my tears because me expressing my disappointment, hurt, frustration, and annoyance when he was trying to play dumb fox as if that was sufficient for me to just "believe" his outrageously low effort and lazy ploy to halfass Valentine's Day with the "I am working" EXCUSE then try to manipulate me into "feeling bad" (gaslighting or am I am being harsh? tell me Queens!) as if it was some unreasonable expectation, but I reminded him how it was not an unreasonable expectation and I am deeply disappointed and am still angry as well as still emotionally processing the situation. I kept it very vague while I said it so he felt like it was "a situation" so it could HINT (since LVM love doing that, I figured if he really is a potentially LVM and continues this fuckery---I owe him nothing and am allowed to do the same now because he has proven he doesn't give a shit now) and/or it would imply with my semantics/tone when saying that as a response, that he felt I would "get over it" and/or he would just assume that I was open to working it out. So, then I played Dumb Fox with him because I figured if he is able to attempt that fuckery with me, I owe him nothing at this point. So, I am going to lean back a little longer to strategically place myself to a financial advantage because they are currently working nonstop so I have an entire home to myself and pay $200-400/month less than an average apartment in the geographic region/area for a modest apartment of significantly smaller size with splitting the rent. I am looking at rental properties and am going to save aggressively. I'll stop waxing my body and go completely foul bachelorette mode. He manages to remember when to spend 2 mins to order dog food when he works an 80 hour week on Chewey but that mofo tried to act like rememering to buy me a gift and a card was fucking hard to do on Valentine's Day and luckily now that I've had therapy and gave myself an ass kicking, I just want some tips or things to consider. The other thing that made me think now he is a red flag is that I noted that "it's hard to believe it's almost been a year" to kind of hint like a LVM to him (Now that I'm on high alert) that I would expect him to let me know and/or give him a bone to save himself in my eyes to see if he would mentioned his plans or bring up our anniversay. He assumed that since we were in the pandemic for a year and didn't go back to the inital plan we discussed, that "I was going to bring up engagement once things start opening up and we get the vaccine so we can go on dates and expereince real life before we talk about engagement." I feel like that was a future faking ploy and I feel like a fool because I honestly did the things I could to protect myself to have a consequence in place if he didn't follow through with our plans to let him know I expected an engagement soon and would not be a Forever Pickme Gf. Yyes, we did 50/50 cohabitation but it was clearly planned in advanced with protections that put myself in a better predicament than him if we were to breakup, etc.if things were to go south financially and this "delayed timeline" is making me feel like he has decided that the "with me" for the engagement is silent. Like salmon and the l---he just doesn't want to say that he wants to marry me now that he notices I am not going to cook, clean, and cave to his fuckery when I told him I would not do this just on principle to save money. So, the irony is that now I will have to do this on principle to save some money because he lied about his principles to save some money most likely as a LVM. Or maybe I'm overanalyzing it but I feel like since FDS, my instincts may be correct. I am learning to love and trust myself so I am preparing my energy, heart, and brain above all. He had done a lot of HVM behaviors but this is the first major ting and it's not a cute look. I am going to weekly therapy to ensure that I am working on boundaries/holding myself accountable. Right now I am experiencing some potential job loss so I want to put my needs of survival above all first (shelter, food, water, heat, etc.) and my mental health/safety but this seems like it could be the beginning of the end? I need some more time for me to process but I'm open to any feedback. Thanks for my rambles--it's been isolating with covid and working from home has also given me a lot of "covid brain" with memory fog and such.

prettyexcitingnews · 2021-02-20T14:33:33+00:00

Does anyone feel that mercury retrograde has beeb hitting especially hard this time?! Ugh thank god it’s over tomorrow!!! 😐

_insert_username_01 · 2021-02-16T18:30:01+00:00

Valentine’s Day was good. My father planned ahead for the Winter Storm in our state and bought both my mother and I bouquets. I scheduled a Self-Care Day and watched Unfaithful (2002) with Diane Lane and Richard Gere. (I have a woman-crush on Diane Lane.) Yesterday, I submitted my Essay for my school’s Scholarship Competition. And, here I am this morning, drinking coffee and cuddling with my dog. My life is good.

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catandalady9 · 2021-02-22T06:36:46+00:00

Feeling a bit down the last couple of days, bad nightmares about my last ex NVM. saw him on bumble a few weeks ago posting pictures having the time of his life and it’s just triggered me into thinking patterns of - why did he treat me this way? Basically was idolised, devalued, and discarded for “aSkInG for TOo MuCh” (to see him more than once a week). It’s just exhausting, but I feel like he will keep being a narc and getting away with it which infuriates me.

BlazingHazard · 2021-02-16T12:39:37+00:00

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Title	Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-In
Author	Unlikely-Marzipan
Upvotes	86
Comments	263
Date	February 16, 2021 9:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ll0kms/weekly_fds_chat_checkin/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/weekly-fds-chat-check-in.743286 https://theredarchive.com/post/743286

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