I'm a guy and my actual first-hand-experiences are ragher few, so take everything i write here with a grain of salt, but one question bugs me:

How can it even be that so many women have soo much bad sex?

I mean I can kind of understand it if they come from a very repressive and conservative background where the narrative that sex is only for making babies is still completely unquestioned, but it's the same for "modern, sexually liberated" women.

My train of thought maybe a bit too simplified, but i think this way:

Men are bad lovers by default. Of course we are, we doesn't have a vagina, or labia, or a clitoris etc. How should we know how it feels like? It's also a completely no-brainer for me that lebians have an easier time getting off than women in straight relationships. Everytime i see articles or statements like this it's framed like men are egoistical lovers and so on. But for me personally, whenever i hear this, the only thing i can think of is "no shit sherlock". Of course they know better what a women wants than a man, they have first hand experience.

Men can only work with what women communicate to them. If they dont communicate, how is he supposed to know? Sure, you can have luck that the guy is coincidentally doing the right thing out of blue.

But lets say, you go down with a guy. In best case, he may ask what you like and how you like it and is doing it accordingly. If he doesn't ask, you can also give suggetions on your own. And if he is doing something you don't like or doesn't get you off, you can still tell them. If they refused to act accordingly, you can still cancel the hole thing (in the worst case)

So, why do i still hear soooooooooooooooooooo many stories about bad lovers? Do you just keep up, pretend to like it without ever stating in any form that you are missing something?

"But if i say something they will be hurt in their ego and get defensive" If you wait till you snap and call me an egoistical and bad lover, of course i will get defensive. But nearly no guy will take it badly if you suggest doing something or say that you don't like something.

"But it worked with my previous partner but not with my current" As i said, of course it could be that he is doing the right thing on it's own. But i wouldn't expect a guy to know exactly what a (specific) women wants. Not every guy had thousands of partners before you and even if he had, it's no guarantee cause not every women likes the same.

But well, just my two cents. What do you think about it?

Edit: Yes I know there are guys that only care about their satisfaction, but my point is, even if he refuse to do the thing you suggested that could get you off, noboy forces you to roll with it. You can still say "Ok I'm out" any time. Nobody forces you to roll with it (unless it resolves in rape that we all hope will not happen, but then i'm pretty sure the fact you didn't came would not be your biggest problem in this moment)

Edit2: many comments here say it's because men don't know or care but......did you even read my post or just the title? If he doesn't know, show him. If he doesn't care, go away. I literally wrote the same thing in above

Edit the 3rd: Can we please leave this incel bullshit ala "Females only want chads" out of this post. I have no idea how you can warp everything into this nonargument