Woman on this board always lament on about the different rituals and procedures they use to vet a man, and claim to completely be closed off from cold approaches, only being willing to date a man who has been highly vetted by friends, family, or whatever else, why is this the case? The concept is foreign to me because as a 29 year old man, I was always raised by the notion most couples met as strangers organically, as it was hard to find people suitable to date, so a lot of times you had to take a leap of faith, you can't just be a meek starfish waiting for opportunity, you have to be relatively proactive, just like job hunting. I just don't get how it is that much of a non-starter for so many woman if a man has not been vetted, you could have just passed up a good potential boyfriend or husband or a soul mate. I just feel like the internet has made people more meek, suspicious, and closed off in General, but discuss.