Daily Community Chat Megathread

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T18:05:09+00:00

"what romantic things(OUTSIDE OF SEX) would you like to get from your partner"

For a lot of guys like myself, it's their gf cooking for them

Others doing activities of his interest

Others it's only sex

Others l don't know

MoreSanitizerPls · 2023-05-17T18:02:02+00:00

I think the type of women manospherians hate more than anything are the women who live a life where they got to have their cake in eat it to. The women who were wild all through their 20’s and early 30’s married a desirable man their early, mid 30’s and had 1 or 2 when their biological clock strikes 11:59 p.m.

What insults can they realistically hurl at this marvel of a woman? She got to sow here wild oats and saw none of the down sides manospherian say await those who dare ride the CC.

They can call her used up but doesn’t matter, got married. They can call her husband a beta but doesn’t matter, she’s attracted to him. They can call her post wall but then again, she doesn’t care because she already has a husband and kids.

mib732 · 2023-05-17T17:46:37+00:00

What is the best way for a follow up when you get someone’s contact and exchange was positive? I am talking about great conversations With a woman get your contact and going from there. I find getting numbers is way way way too confrontational, I usually just go for social media profile exchange.

Rubber-duck7203 · 2023-05-17T17:40:39+00:00

You will always see women being super defensive and claiming that "the one who invites you to the date should pay" but they are vehemently against sharing 50-50 on the first date. Ideally both should cost them the same in the long run.

They know fully well that men still have to invite the woman in 95% of the dates.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-05-17T17:39:18+00:00

Friendly reminder for you men to go to the gym. Slim and fit women <30 years old don't desire fat and out of shape men. Do you want her to desire you whe shes 40, despite, and say looks aren't a priority anymore?

Would you rather play in a basketball game in the first 3 quarters where there is still interest in the game, or would you rather play in the 4th quarter in the last few minutes when most of the crowd has already left because they already know the winner based on the score?

thestruggle-isreal · 2023-05-17T17:15:12+00:00

I’ll always disagree with black pillers about this, but physical stature is more important than your face to most women above 23

AnyIntroduction3288 · 2023-05-17T17:09:07+00:00

Friendly reminder that women who are awkward, shy, and inexperienced in their 30’s are treated with contempt and disgust by their male counterparts. Therefore, it is very difficult for me to empathize with men’s dating struggles when they clearly look down on their equals and go out of their way to put their equals down.

babyegirll · 2023-05-17T17:07:52+00:00

This might be the wrong place for this, but I'm looking for advice from a RP mans perspective. Please send me a message if that's you!

Ok_Negotiation_5038 · 2023-05-17T16:49:52+00:00

You should ask yourself what do you bring to the table, it’s not a question you should be offended by

It’s like a job asking why we should hire you. if you’re getting stumped and offended, that’s a You problem, many people can list many things and would be more than happy to do so when asked

sosayeth · 2023-05-17T16:41:44+00:00

This nonsense over Ja Morant is getting ridiculous.
If baby mamas would stop letting entertainers raise their kids, his actions would not matter at all.

teball3 · 2023-05-17T16:30:59+00:00

The kind of man I want to be is like Nick Best. A strongman and world record holder, who is willing to cry on national television because his friend gave him a thoughtful gift.

Basically a big ol' teddy bear.

That's peak masculinity right there.

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T16:18:20+00:00

"How do you go about finding a virgin girlfriend/wife ?"

Just date a religious/young woman

If your 26/27 then date a 21yo christian chick

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T16:13:06+00:00

Shit I actually saw a guy say: If a woman makes 18k and the man makes 30k, there is NO WAY the woman can be a gold digger because 30k is poor.

Like.....wow. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm speechless.

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T16:11:50+00:00

"What happens to TRP when you get a girlfriend"

Absolutely nothing for me and my friends

I had some guys trying disproving RP beliefs because apparently their woman doesn't do xyz like they said

Then l ask them: would you prefer your girl doing xyz like TRP says ?

Anti_Thing · 2023-05-17T16:08:59+00:00

There's gonna be a new girl at Bible study tonight. Should I flirt with her right away or try to be friends first?

lolmastr13 · 2023-05-17T16:07:32+00:00

One of the issues with dating is that because women take a passive approach, there isn’t a positive feedback loop for men to do things that make them more attractive or “to put themselves out there”.

No matter the effort you put it’s not unusual for the difference to only manifest in women’s thoughts.

Because of this I think it’s imperative to focus on things you like instead of purely what’s optimal. This might look like doing more cardio than weightlifting, dressing in your style instead of following trends or pursuing hobbies you enjoy.

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T15:42:00+00:00

I am definitely sure the reason guys believe in AWALT because they are extremely bad judges of character. It makes sense for them to think not think personality matters, because they struggle to pay attention to people’s personalities.

I can't believe I am having to explain to a guy that gold diggers are money hungry and materialistic while he’s insisting “nah, that's just a woman thing, gold diggers are different”.

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T15:22:32+00:00

Worked out well

I told my friend to increase the time of the date since last time it didn't go so well and he could see it in her face

Now calls me saying he wished l told him this before the first

VampireChaser · 2023-05-17T15:07:19+00:00

Q4W: Rate Zayn Malik's face and then rate him overall considering he is 5'8.

potoricco · 2023-05-17T14:51:35+00:00

Thoughts on sugar babying

potoricco · 2023-05-17T14:49:16+00:00

Thank you for 1,000 post karma

megapuffz · 2023-05-17T14:46:39+00:00

Trying out okc for the first time. Some of y'all are terrible at taking photos.

Peacesquad · 2023-05-17T14:40:37+00:00

Q4A, do most women have personality?

Peacesquad · 2023-05-17T14:36:28+00:00

Lilith do you want a hug? Please stop hating men. I promise most of us are good dudes

Peacesquad · 2023-05-17T14:29:06+00:00

Where’s my sugar momma? I need a real women who will step up and treat me like a shogun

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T14:14:21+00:00

The are two reasons why it's so important to have options as a man in dating

I know generally men want to fuck a lot of bitches, that's what the male sex drive is designed for
It doesn't make you desperate aka a simp and makes you not tolerate BS from women, what l find is because guys usually don't have options they end up tolerating nonsense from their female partner

They'll stay in sexless relationships or allow their woman doing something that makes them uncomfortable aka their boundaries being crossed

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T14:00:08+00:00

The list of solutions for men with dating problems that these men will refuse to take:

Get your life together.
Fix your personality.
Socialize more.
STOP CHASING STACY.

Number 1 and 4 causes the most problems and they're the main ones these guys will fight hard to never acknowledge as an issue.

dbz__f · 2023-05-17T13:55:42+00:00

Liz Truss does not look 47. She looks 67. What the fuck

Ok_Bear976 · 2023-05-17T13:40:37+00:00

I think I'm going to steer clear of any woman that habitually uses tiktok. Female relationship tok is just a bunch of trends with the common theme of telling impressionable young women what toxic expectations of their male partners they should be having. For example, the stay at home girlfriend/wife "sprinkle sprinkle life" shit, "sassy men", "if your man doesn't cover all your expenses, he doesn't love you" are trends currently circulating there getting 100s of thousands of likes

It's going to be hard, seeing as 70% of my age group seems to use it but that app is literal brain poison

Sudden_Substance7914 · 2023-05-17T13:34:20+00:00

My 2 cents on the "woe is me"/incl guys

I think identifying as a foreveralone or perpetually single man is somehow soothing to the ego. Choosing to identity as someone who's been wronged by society/women is a way of feeling special by virtue of being misunderstood, outcast, or pitiable. It's not that different from the prideful ego that finds satisfaction in being set apart by being the greatest. It's an addiction to misery. Once you are locked into that cycle of misery, going against that narrative has a high cost to the ego.

MrHustleTopG · 2023-05-17T13:24:56+00:00

I’ve shown my two women this sub and have encouraged them to read along but not join.

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T13:17:45+00:00

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Environmental_Day558 · 2023-05-17T13:10:51+00:00

Would you write a 500 word essay to date her? https://nypost.com/2023/05/11/i-make-men-submit-a-500-word-essay-to-date-me/

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T13:07:17+00:00

"Something you like about your gender"

In my experience

How guys can go an entire decade without talking to each other and still be friends

Their way of resolving conflict between them too, they'll fight and make a joke about it after

How secretive they are about their personal life, what l mean is they'll prefer discussing anything other than what's going on in their life

Their respect, they respect you because you done something impressive

Honestly sometimes doing stupid shit too

potoricco · 2023-05-17T13:06:47+00:00

Why do women love bathrooms?

Every restroom I go to is filled with girls just hanging around

When I went out with my friend she kept telling me we should go to the bathroom I’m like why, we are literally in a restaurant

Surely there are other private places to hang out that are not filthy

thetruthishere_ · 2023-05-17T13:01:02+00:00

Off my ban. How is your week going?

AnyIntroduction3288 · 2023-05-17T12:50:56+00:00

Men: women are so hypergamous they only want men who are higher value. They want a man who makes more money and can support a family 😞 and who is taller

Also men: she has to be under 25 even though I am 40, skinny, above a 6/10 in looks (based off of how men rate women on truerateme) and have a big ass and boobs. And work full time but also cook, clean, and do all the SAHM duties and never let me lift a finger at home despite us both working full time.

CapsuleCorpLogo · 2023-05-17T12:49:33+00:00

I see so many average and above average guys with the ugliest gf’s/wives imaginable when I’m out and about 🤣

Infinite_Signal90 · 2023-05-17T12:46:29+00:00

Wow! A CMV where OP C’d T V

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-05-17T12:27:59+00:00

Just a reminder that the fat misandrists are always watching, waiting to click the report button

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-05-18T04:15:50+00:00

The most memorable post in this sub was women said that alot of men aren't ugly, just un remarkable

Infinite_Signal90 · 2023-05-17T19:13:13+00:00

Are people seriously saying on dates “what do you bring to the table”? Where did you all learn social skills smfh.

happy_discus · 2023-05-17T09:18:36+00:00

Went out with a really hot acquaintance of mine. We went to a student bar with a club attached to it. The guy entered the bar and after we took off our jackets the guy already talked to two women he never met before, they just basically threw themselves at him. It was really funny because he doesn't care at all. All he cared about was dancing and having fun.

I later talked to him about it and the funniest thing was he thought it would be normal occurrence for everyone. He looked so puzzled after I told him my experience has been the polar opposite.

We had fun though. Would rate this night out 7/10 because the music at the beginning kinda sucked.

DancesWithMyr · 2023-05-17T11:19:07+00:00

How come nobody ever complains that women are boring? Are they just that much more interesting people than the average man?

WestCombSplit · 2023-05-17T20:51:19+00:00

The amount of pathetic Men out there is absolutely nuts. These female streamers/onlyfans pornstars are so popular and rich from thirsty pathetic guys developing a para social relationship with a woman that wouldn't touch any of them with a stick. That's the community of people the "manosphere" should be focusing on

Figuring out how to deal with the horde of simps/pathetic guys on the internet following women on social media and liking their posts just because they show a bit of cleavage or shake their ass. Ngl whenever I'm reminded of it I'm shocked at the number of guys out there with zero principles

Irl life chatting to chick you probably have no chance with is somewhat commendable and falls into the category "shooters Gon shoot". Like her post, following her page or paying for her "content" bruh she doesn't even know you exist, it's pathetic

kalashhhhhhhh · 2023-05-18T00:53:39+00:00

Q4A

Do you not hold the door for people in general??

I'm a woman and I've always been taught to hold the door open for everyone if it's convenient.

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-05-17T20:02:28+00:00

I think I broke a record for the number of emails I've sent in one day. God bless chat-gpt 🙌

dishonouronmycow · 2023-05-17T21:03:40+00:00

Too many people are comfortable on the internet admitting they don’t shower more than twice a week.

DancesWithMyr · 2023-05-17T21:05:56+00:00

I didn't think I'd go through with it, but after hearing about boxers abstaining from touching themselves for several weeks before a fight I'll give it a crack.

I'm going to start a small NoFap and see what kind of effects it has on me. If this gets 10 up votes I'll post status updates.

blueshinx · 2023-05-17T21:51:36+00:00

Whenever I see a TikTok of an attractive woman crying over being mistreated by Chad or getting ghosted I enjoy it.

Whenever the video moves over to some unattractive woman, doing the same I feel for her. She didn't deserve that. Poor baby.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-05-18T04:10:38+00:00

A lot of times I want to respond to a lot of posts on PPD. I would a perfect response in my head, especially for the CMV, but then as I am typing I get distracted by someone or something and about an hour later when I am able to get back to my phone, I completely forgot what I was typing and have no trace of recalling what I had planned on typing. I hate that shit ☹

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T11:47:10+00:00

Just a reminder, a lot of men’s dating problems are actually general life problems that they refuse to fix.

Like going outside, socializing, improving on social skills, HYGIENE, not constantly dressing like a child, getting a job, being able to be an independent adult, MENTAL HEALTH, etc.

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-05-17T18:39:56+00:00

We aren't even gonna make it past a type 1 civilization on the Kardashev scale all because bitches be trippin

TermAggravating8043 · 2023-05-17T19:36:19+00:00

Star spangled bellend is probably the best insult I’ve heard recently

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2023-05-18T00:01:09+00:00

Q4A: Why didn't you break up with your ex earlier? What red flags did you overlook?

Happy_Nuclear_End · 2023-05-18T01:31:34+00:00

Just the reminder women can break PPD rules without any problem but if you have a dick and breath your comment is uncivilized.

Moose-Ring · 2023-05-18T03:02:09+00:00

Some thoughts on emotional labor. Men and women both think they're doing more emotional labor. This is because typically women worry more than men, and the different ways men and women deal with their worries.

When women are with other women they share this burden with each other by talking, planning, etc. Men either don't worry or don't share.

When a woman tries to share their worries but the man doesn't reciprocate it feels like she is having to deal with it on her own, so she's doing all the emotional labor. The man thinks since he's not unloading his worries but having to listen to her's, he's doing all the emotional labor.

lookingdoog · 2023-05-18T03:10:31+00:00

I am pretty much exclusively attracted to men (I’m female) and never felt attraction to girls. I desire to be in relationships with them and feel crushes, etc. However, I find their genitalia and sexual characteristics to be unattractive and even repulsive. this includes body hairs, dick, ass, and their overall naked body. I would never want to have sex. I’m so confused about my sexuality. What am I and is this normal?

dbz__f · 2023-05-17T09:37:41+00:00

Q4all: Do you in general prefer hanging out with your partner or your friends of the same sex?

LillthOfBabylon · 2023-05-17T10:49:32+00:00

Desperate people (when it comes to dating and sex) arent actually desperate. They’re picky beggars.

Pick Me Girls want Chads and simps want Stacys. Neither want to lower their insane look standards, so they let conventionally attractive people treat them like shit. When that fails, these doormats blame everyone else for their poor decisions.

In a similar fashion, when people write paragraphs of paragraphs about how SUPER IMPORTANT SEX IS, but when its suggested for them to fuck other desperate people or go to places with legal sex work, now there is a million excuses why they wont do that shit.

Desperation is a lie. It’s just r/ChoosingBeggars behavior.

mib732 · 2023-05-17T19:55:20+00:00

I have a question about dating, social circles in general: I live in an overpopulated state (it's the NJ/NY area) with high social competition. I haven’t been able to make close friends at all. In the past 3-7 years, I really studied social communication and social skills. I studied Chardisa on Command, Real Social Dynamics, etc intensely. It would take large portions of my time during the day. To be honest, I don’t think it really got me anywhere. I am looking for a friend/dating coach since the guides and content I have used doesn’t really seem to work on average to really clinching friendships that would raise social capital. I am open to any type of guides or advice.

Guilty-Instruction60 · 2023-05-17T20:00:46+00:00

QFA: In terms of relationships do you think most people settle? Why do you think that?

meteorness123 · 2023-05-17T20:09:35+00:00

I've found what may be greatestest book title ever. What do you think ?

https://www.amazon.com/Women-Deserve-Less-Myron-Gaines/dp/B0BVDSBZYK

CapsuleCorpLogo · 2023-05-17T20:48:40+00:00

A woman held open the door for me today at school. I was shocked, I didn’t know they had that kind of compassion in them. She even told me “you’re welcome” when I said thank you. What a crazy day.

TheOrangeGhost · 2023-05-17T21:55:53+00:00

On a 1 -10 scale how much do you think lack of self confidence and or social anxiety plays a role in you dating struggles? 1 being not at all and 10 being it's both the main reason and completely prevents you from dating at all.

ChadChasingB · 2023-05-17T23:02:20+00:00

Q4A How big of a red flag would it be for a new bf/gf to suggest not using birth control of any kind? Would you still want to be with that person? Would you believe that they didn't do the same with past partners? Would you demand std tests before any sexual activity because of that risk?

potoricco · 2023-05-17T23:52:10+00:00

Just found out my brother still wears face masks to school 😕

gymbronyc718 · 2023-05-18T01:50:16+00:00

Question for women:

Why is that when you want to check me out, you pretend to look to the side, up and down and just as we are about to pass you make eye contact?

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DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T08:05:49+00:00

First in line people

TheOrangeGhost · 2023-05-17T20:57:31+00:00

As a fellow guy what is with the obsession with a womens weight amongst red pill guys? Do you guys honestly think most women are to " fat" to date?

Ok_Negotiation_5038 · 2023-05-17T23:42:55+00:00

The whole Stacy’s thing is so dumb

You would think people would know ugly women can be just as bad as pretty women. It’s like saying ugly men are nicer, which is a joke

FourthHarbinger · 2023-05-18T01:31:00+00:00

There's a pretty girl in a skimpy dress sitting at the bar alone

Part of me wants to talk to her but I'm not drunk enough to forget how I look yet

potoricco · 2023-05-18T01:50:05+00:00

Guys, can you listen to my favorite song and rate it out of 10. 🙏

BuiltForTruth · 2023-05-20T15:55:41+00:00

What are the qualities that take someone from “physically average” to a 10/10 and how low are you willing to go in terms of physical looks?

Had a discussion about this with my gf that I found super interesting. Basically, what’s the lowest you are willing to go in terms of physical looks? And what is the top 1-2 qualities that take someone from that to an overall 10/10 for you? Note that this is talking about committed relationship.

For me the lowest I would go for a committed relationship in terms of looks is a 7/10. The top 1-2 qualities that would take that person from that to a 10 are: chastity and sexual enthusiasm. If it sounds like a contradiction it’s not, it’s the male equivalent of “Alpha Bucks” that RPers like to use. It’s basically a woman who’s “a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets”. A girl who won’t be sexual for no one but you.

For my gf she was willing to go to 4-5/10 in looks but personality was something that could take someone to a 10.

How about for you all? For your answer, if you are comfortable, please share your gender.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-05-17T11:05:23+00:00

The amount of fear us men have to avoid any possibility of any negative preception involving women, no matter how innocent it may seem is unmatched these days. Today we had training on taping each other to determine body fat percentage. We were split into groups, and the instructor wanted us to also get practice on taping someone from the opposite gender as part of our training. Sure enough, the group I was in was 3 men and 1 woman, and we were all scared to tape the woman in our group. Theres a part where you have to lift your shirt to measure your waist, and theres a measurement where you have to get from the lower mid part of the butt for the women only. Its to the point where us men don't even want to be trained with women involving anything physical with any touching due to fear of any possible harrassment or SA misunderstandings, granted the lady didn't mind because she knew none of us had any malicious intentions. As we move forward, theres going to be a lot less interaction between men and women in such training environments due to things like this.

EverVigilant1 · 2023-05-17T18:36:18+00:00

Guys have to ask and risk, and pay.

Girls have to show clear interest, and put out at the first meeting or very, very soon after that.

That's just how it is.

potoricco · 2023-05-17T19:07:38+00:00

General Advice for everyone: Having trouble socializing- make friends

Insecure/ugly- change your worldview

Need money- make money

Stressed out- take a break

DerayRevan · 2023-05-17T19:39:24+00:00

Earlier today l was speaking with my friend about living with a woman, he said living with a woman makes you soft

I agree it definitely does but it wouldn't be a bad thing since that's her job

Your woman isn't a man therfore she isn't suppose to be competitive,push to become better,motivate you etc

She's suppose to be cheerful,friendly,feminine,nurturing

AutomaticMeaning3844 · 2023-05-17T20:20:41+00:00

I yearn for the day without fattie women where women will finally understand what it's like to have competition in dating.

Right now, because most of a woman's competition are fatties, she feels safe and comfortable knowing that there is little competition because men don't want fatties. She knows she is objectively better than the majority of other women simply by not being fat, so she knows she has no problem getting a good man just by not being fat.

But she would feel the competitive crunch if she's in a crowd full of healthy BMI (19-21) women. Suddenly, all these women are good enough to replace her. They are not fatties anymore, so men aren't automatically (and deservingly) repulsed by them. They become options for men now. She's no longer automatically one of the top choices just from not being fat. Even if she has a pretty face, since men have a diverse set of tastes, many men might prefer and choose other women even if those women don't have traditionally attractive faces whereas they wouldn't before because fatties were objectively inferior.

Women will finally know what it's like to have competition. Dating won't just be a worry free easy past time for them anymore. They'll now be humbled and feel real human feelings like self doubt, fear, anxiety, etc.

potoricco · 2023-05-17T19:00:03+00:00

Like grah, keep it a stack

Bitches move ‘wock cuz they know I got bands

They be chattin I don’t give a damn and I’m still getting money I know who I am

In the hood I’m like Princess Diana

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