How do women in relationships react when they meet a man significantly more attractive and more successful than their current partner?

fiftypoundpuppy · 2025-04-05T05:55:36+00:00

This is a heads I win, tails you lose post. Any woman who says they'd leave will be praised for her honesty, and any woman who says she'd stay will be called a virtue-signaling liar.

That said, this isn't a post about "hypergamy," it's a post about branch-swinging. And in typical fashion, it completely ignores the roles that bonding, love, and history play in a relationship. It also fundamentally misunderstands female sexuality and attraction. When I was with my partners, I was truly into my partners. I found them hot and sexy, and I wanted to spend as much time with them as I could. The idea that I would meet someone "more attractive" has nothing to do with anything, I am well aware that more attractive people existed. That in and of itself doesn't mean anything to me, most people - including women - routinely see people more attractive than their partner. That doesn't mean they are more attracted to those people, and many monogamous women don't experience attraction to anyone other than their partner. Looks are not the end-all be-all of deciding you want someone, and usually if we have a partner then he meets our looks threshold. From there it's about compatibility, not being hotter.

As far as being "more successful" applies, it's the same circumstances as above. If we weren't satisfied with how successful our partners were, then why would we be with them? Additionally, not all women cream themselves over "success." And - again - we regularly meet men more successful than our partners and don't decide to leave for those men. Do you really think it's a rare occurrence for us to encounter men who are more conventionally attractive, or more successful? Unless we're sharing Elon Musk or IDK - Henry Cavill?? - then it's a given that this will happen. And yet still, women return home day after day to remain with their less attractive, less successful partners 🤔

"Great chemistry" is also ridiculous, we also have "great chemistry" with our partners. It's not the 1950's, women aren't regularly pairing up with any old dude just to have a family or house. It's crazy how picky we all are but somehow the guys who managed to meet our insane standards to become our partners are all worthless uggos

ConanTheCybrarian · 2025-04-05T06:29:59+00:00

you're making this sound like an absurd hypothetical but this happens to everyone from time to time.

Sometimes, at a show, party, or even a conference, I'll meet someone who I find interesting/ have a spark or connection with. Someone others may say is more attractive, or who is objectively more wealthy, or even more "my type" than my partner. Someone I suppose I would possibly pursue -were I not married.

But I am. If you're not, maybe it's hard to understand this but: you just...don't entertain it.

There's sort of 2 elements at play:

*1. It's a gestalt thing that you only understand if you have it.

For me, no one else can compare to my partner irl, regardless of how they may stack up on paper/ to someone else's eye.
even if they are something-er than him (wealthier, hotter, shorter, etc) the sum of their parts are still not greater than the whole of who he is to me.

*2. commitment to connection

either you and your partner are committed to remaining connected or you're not.
if you are the type of person looking for someone "better" you'll always find them.
if you are content because you have a real connection, no one is better than your partner, so there's no temptation.

it's really that simple: whatever you're looking for is what you'll find.

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Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2025-04-05T12:38:03+00:00

LOL this post made me cringe so hard. “Deep down you can’t help the primal sexual desire” ew stop. It never gets that far. If I see a really attractive man—happens every day basically—even if he were to talk to me, it’s like a wall is up. I register that he’s attractive but in no way am I attracted to him. why would I go on a date with a man I’m not attracted to when I have a perfectly amazing man back home?

AngeAware · 2025-04-05T06:32:39+00:00

Ime when you're crazy attracted and in love with your partner, your brain will find flaws in everyone else.

If anything were to happen to my SO I'm staying celibate for life since I already know I'll never be able to love anyone else like this.

FearlessSea4270 · 2025-04-05T06:00:08+00:00

I didn’t pick my partner for their success, wealth or for peak visual aesthetics. If you’re my person, you’re my person. The connection we have is the whole thing.

zeezle · 2025-04-05T06:23:24+00:00

No it doesn't happen in real life, at least not that I'd ever seen or at any noticeable rate.

That said, I'm coming at this from the perspective of someone married (and before that it was an "all in" relationship that we knew was a forever kind of thing). I do not date or enter relationships casually.

Personally, money beyond a certain point doesn't interest me much. I'm a software engineer and so is my husband and both of us specifically chose not to pursue certain higher-paying areas of the field because we don't find it worth it. I already make far more than I can spend and I buy anything I want, so what's the point? (The catch, of course, is that I lack whatever drives people into massive lifestyle inflation. For example I could not care less about cars or designer clothes or anything. So a relatively average salary is more than enough for me.)

I recognize I'm coming at this from a situation where I genuinely do already feel like I could have way more money and choose not to because it's pointless. I also am intimately familiar with the downsides of many of the "better careers" that are stereotypically high earners. I have relatives that are surgeons, dentists, lawyers, CEOs, marketing execs, professional athletes, etc and I know all the shitty parts of their lives and what's involved in making that money and I have no interest in it. When I was single I specifically refused to date doctors/med students or anyone planning any sort of long hours/high stress/corporate ladder climbing career.

You can tell from the way he dresses and carries himself that he is highly successful

You cannot tell this. There are just as many people who are good at faking it as there are multimillionaires that dress down. Some of the wealthiest people I've ever met absolutely did not look like it. But we'll assume it's true for the sake of the example.

He introduces himself to you and you start talking, and you realize that you actually have lots in common and have great chemistry. He starts flirting with you and indicating that he's interested in taking you out.

It would never get to this point because at the first hint of any sort of flirtation I would stop talking to him/exit the conversation or make it clear I am not interested. Anyone that continues to flirt with a woman who is clearly uncomfortable with their advances is a shitty person I'm not interested in being with anyway.

And even though you're already in a relationship, deep down you can't help the primal sexual desire that you feel for such an attractive man with a great physique and successful career.

I am a monogamous person and have genuinely never felt attracted to anyone besides my partner when I'm in a relationship. (I have been with my husband for 14 years.) Obviously if you have eyeballs you can see they have nice features, but that doesn't make me feel anything.

Would you agree to go on a date with this new guy, and then leave your boyfriend for him if things went well?

Absolutely not, that's disgusting behavior.

Poppy_Luvv · 2025-04-05T07:00:19+00:00

What is the actual metric here? Do we actually love current boyfriend, is the "decent" here referring to our mental and physical connection? Or is referring to our material lifestyle? People can be crazy in love and dirt poor.

If you feel that much ennui in your current relationship, the thing keeping you in it is likely the sunken cost fallacy. A new potential partner might be enough to shake you out of that state, but they did not create that ennui.

Knowing myself, I'd probably stay in a comfortable but lacking relationship. But that's because I struggle to move forwards in life at times and am risk adverse. Not because I think it's there's value in loyalty to the degree of staying in a no-kids relationship just because we're a couple.

ThatBitchA · 2025-04-05T07:14:21+00:00

I've yet to meet a man more attractive and more successful than my partner.

You can tell from the way he dresses and carries himself that he is highly successful and will be able to provide for you financially much more than your partner.

Lol. What? These fantasies are so random.

deep down you can't help the primal sexual desire that you feel for such an attractive man with a great physique and successful career.

Is this a romance novel?

torihimemiyas · 2025-04-05T05:56:54+00:00

I would stay with my current partner for two reasons. One, I have a conscience. Two, it’s in my own best interest.

Even if this other individual is “objectively better” than my current partner, my partner has invested so much into our current relationship and I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night if I just replaced him. Not to mention the fact that I’m in love with him and I think about him all of the time. He would have to do something terrible to get me to just up and forget about him.
I’ve already vetted my current partner. I know he loves me for who I am, I know he makes relatively good choices even in difficult situations, and I know I admire who he is through and through. Why would I throw all of that away for a stranger that I get along with on a surface level?

womandatory · 2025-04-05T06:12:36+00:00

It might be flattering, but I’ve been with my partner for more than a few years and I’ve made my choice and wouldn’t risk losing something so good for someone who could easily turn out to be abusive or a cheater. If he knows I have a partner and he’s still flirting with me, he’s a grub anyway.

The mistake you make is in thinking that women’s sexuality is like men’s. It’s not. I can see an objectively attractive man and appreciate him in the moment, then never think about him again.

If anything, I’d probably enjoy the chat and seeing the guy think he’s got a chance, then go find my partner and put my arms around him and kiss him and tell him how hot he is and how much I love him. I like making him feel secure.

SlothMonster9 · 2025-04-05T12:35:45+00:00

Let's sau you meet a dog who's more beautiful and knows more tricks than your dog. It has a lushious fur and is clearly super in shape, it's also willing to get to know you and wags it's tail at you, indicating interest. Would you dump your "inferior" dog for a chance with this brand new "superior" dog?

SnooCats37 · 2025-04-05T13:07:46+00:00

When I married my husband, I made a life commitment to him. I married him for who he is, not what his earning potential was. Life is full of ups and downs and one day you could be doing really well and the next you could lose everything. You shouldn't be marrying anyone if you are only choosing to stay when life is good.

flipsidetroll · 2025-04-05T08:35:55+00:00

JFC. This is when you can tell men have no clue. No fucking clue.

“Deep down you can’t help the primal sexual desire.” Dude, please get offline for a bit. You cannot tell someone is successful by the way they carry themselves or even by what they say. And sexual desire FOR ME, has nothing to do with any of the things you describe. You were writing this post like it was porn you just watched. Big hunky man, woman falls down, panties fly off and he makes her cum. Just gross.

Bulky_Analyst_9168 · 2025-04-05T05:57:17+00:00

For me, it's difficult to imagine this kind of situation because I see my current man as perfect. He's without doubt handsome and successful but those are not the main reasons I choose to be with him. I'd be with him even if he suddenly would lost his career (my income can cover us both, if needed) and well... I look forward to age with him and I know for certain he won't be as objectively attractive in his 80's as he is now in his 30's. Looks will fade for both of us.

Even if I'd meet a man who would be a model-level handsome and insanely rich, I still wouldn't see him as a "better" option than my partner because he couldn't compete with him in most important fields. My bf has been there for me everytime I needed it, he's done so much for me and he is my rock. He's kind and gentle and I would never switch to someone who's not as kind. Also even if we imagine I would know this stranger would be as kind and gentle in top of everything the last factor is: My partner knows me very well, it takes years to reach this level of knowing each other and I have zero interest to start developing emotional intimacy from scratch.

My partner simply have traits no one could suddenly beat. Our personalities match in a level it feels like winning in lottery. For me starting to see anyone else as a potential partner would demand my current partner to start ignoring my needs and do something to make me not feel good about this relationship anymore.

Edit: I also HAVE met a LOT of very attractive and successful men. I can be very much charmed about people without being sexually interested of them. I might be little bit demisexual, I need the emotional connection and romantic vibes to be sexually attracted and my bf is fulfilling my needs in way I simply don't see other men as an sexual options. Also, my philosophy is that there is no any worth about being loyal if reason for that is simply the lack of opportunities. Being loyal is to choose your partner even if there would be attractive and successful people everywhere everyday. Relationship is about sharing your lives together, not competing who's the most attractive or rich.

womandatory · 2025-04-05T06:12:42+00:00

It might be flattering, but I’ve been with my partner for more than a few years and I’ve made my choice and wouldn’t risk losing something so good for someone who could easily turn out to be abusive or a cheater. If he knows I have a partner and he’s still flirting with me, he’s a grub anyway.

The mistake you make is in thinking that women’s sexuality is like men’s. It’s not. I can see an objectively attractive man and appreciate him in the moment, then never think about him again.

If anything, I’d probably enjoy the chat and seeing the guy think he’s got a chance, then go find my partner and put my arms around him and kiss him and tell him how hot he is and how much I love him. I like making him feel secure.

EulenWatcher · 2025-04-05T07:06:51+00:00

I’m going to play along, although it’s clearly a loaded question.

My husband and I have been together for more than 10 years now. We met as broke students. If I was interested in financial aspect, I’d date someone from my mother’s social circle - maybe a kid of her wealthy friends. I didn’t. Why would I change my mind now?

However great a new person might be, I don’t feel attraction based on finance and appearance on their own. If there’s no emotional connection, there’s no attraction. I don’t allow myself to build this type of emotional connection with new people, as I love my husband and don’t need this kind of feelings towards anyone else. My husband knows me better than anyone else, we have great time together, and we’ve gone through tough times supporting each other. Our relationship is more valuable than a thrill of someone new or wealthier.

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2025-04-05T06:38:30+00:00

Totaly ice cold because I love HIM. I don't love him for a list of standards, I didn't choose him for what he can technically provide and if he is better than other men... I was simply hit by Cupid's arrow, I just fell in love out of nowhere. And list of standards doesn't hit me with Cupid's arrow. It's what he makes me FEEL, not a list of standards.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-04-05T12:20:05+00:00

when I'm in an LTR I don't allow myself into situations where attraction can form and I don't ioi or make myself sexy to other men. seeing good looking men around doesn't do anything without sexy interaction

lle-ell · 2025-04-05T16:46:03+00:00

If I’m happy in my relationship, I don’t have any interest in anyone else. However, if my partner seems lukewarm about me, I might notice other interesting people. But just like another commenter said, it’s more about compatibility than looks or being successful.

Fab_Glam_Obsidiam · 2025-04-05T18:39:27+00:00

There are wayyyyyyyyyyyy too many assumptions in this post to answer in good faith. You're essentially begging the question.

To answer a less charged version, I'd say that were I to meet such a man, I'd think he was out of my league, or that he was pulling a joke. Plenty of men will feign interest out of cruelty.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-04-05T18:59:40+00:00

The same as men in relationships would

ExcitementLow4699 · 2025-04-05T21:51:39+00:00

When i was dating, i didnt go out with low-earning men, but to indulge your hypothetical... Yeah, I'm breaking it off with the boyfriend and dating the new guy. Not sorry, just being honest.

gothfrootloop · 2025-04-05T22:27:11+00:00

I don’t talk to men nor would I let one talk to me without my guard up. No I would not even go on the date.

HouseOfInfinity · 2025-04-06T02:28:43+00:00

Get her friends to collect different data on him, all flirt with him to check to see if has a girlfriend or has a type, if he’s a man whore and dating habits.

At some point I’ll make myself noticeably with a flirty hi and smile. It’s very nuanced and multifaceted. Lol, my friends and I were strategists before marriage.

However if I was already in a relationship and in love I’ll be casually friendly but not too nice. Talk to any man for more than five minutes or hold their eyes a second too long they’ll see it as an invitation.

half_avocado33 · 2025-04-05T07:48:30+00:00

Your post is not the gotcha you think it is. I have tunnel vision when i'm in love. And i god damn love my husband. There is no other possible love interest for me. No other man has what he has: my heart. In my eyes, he glows.

You act as if partners are interchangeable. Sir, this is not the case. They are not oranges in a supermarket to go through them and pick one up, then put it down if you find another orange that looks better.

We've been together for 17 years. Next anniversary will mark a huge milestone: we will have been together for half our lives. I don't think you can possibly understand or even imagine what this entails. Otherwise, you wouldn't act as if partners are interchangeable.

thelajestic · 2025-04-05T09:07:45+00:00

What is your metric for this relationship being "decent but nothing special", because then you go on to talk about dates but nothing lavish. You do know that's absolutely nothing to do with how decent or special a relationship is?

I'm not with my husband for his ability to shower buckets of money on me. Earning about the same is pretty much ideal in LTRs.

In addition, when I met my husband he was unemployed. So literally every person I met was financially better off than him. We were seeing other people for a long time when we first met. I guess I could have gone off with someone richer/more established etc instead, I certainly had the opportunity. But they weren't him. And that becomes even more firm once the relationship is fully established and monogamous. I would never be in a relationship if I thought it was "nothing special" - this is everything to do with who your partner is as a person and not their money just fyi. To me, he is the best person who has ever lived. Why would I give that up for some flirty rich guy?

Sonia314 · 2025-04-05T10:05:47+00:00

If I was in a monogamous relationship I wouldn’t go on the date. That would be cheating. Instead I would take this as an indication that there is something seriously wrong with my relationship that made me consider ending it. I’d try to understand what needs I’m not getting met in my relationship and try to change the relationship to meet them without ending it. If that didn’t work, I would consider breaking up with my boyfriend and only then go on the date.

If I was in a poly relationship I would go on the date if doing so wouldn’t violate any boundaries of my relationship. For example, I wouldn’t go on the date to consider replacing my boyfriend. If it would violate boundaries, I would go through a similar process as above but less intense.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-04-05T12:41:24+00:00

How do i react?

“Nice to meet you”.

The end.

uglysaladisugly · 2025-04-05T08:26:00+00:00

Your question is literally :"You're with a dude you don't case about and fall fully in love with another. One is poor and average, the other is rich and handsome. Do you stay with the one you don't care about?"

Relationship don't work like that.

"You can't help the primal sexual desire for s8ch an alpha dude..." did you write that with only one hand?

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-04-05T06:15:04+00:00

Stay with my boyfriend? What the heck?

Assuming guy #2 is hotter and better off. This is all meeting them one time? So I would throw away my healthy...stable... Loving relationship for someone I met once? That's absurd.

My boyfriend is to me is incredibly hot to me regardless. It's his mannerisms it's knowing that I know him. It's going through life together and feeling safe with him. He doesn't need the best of everything, because to me he is the best.

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Flightlessbirbz · 2025-04-05T14:51:58+00:00

So first off, I can’t imagine I’m this hypothetical woman with this hypothetical man, since I’m me, and I don’t know how she feels about her hypothetical man. I can only speak for myself and how I feel about my husband.

I can appreciate other people aesthetically, but I just don’t feel romantic attraction to people other than my husband. I didn’t marry him for his looks (although I do find him handsome) or money (neither of us have much of that). I married him because he felt like home, because we had fun together, and because I felt like I knew him better and was more comfortable being myself with him after a year than I was with my ex after five. When we met, I had other options that were better on paper, but the difference was I simply did not enjoy their company as much. What you’ve built with someone you’re in love with over the years is not something that can be replaced by someone who ticks a list of boxes. If it can, then you are with the wrong person.

PhasmaUrbomach · 2025-04-05T15:11:48+00:00

I'd admire him and that's it. There's only one man for me.

Vikklee · 2025-04-05T16:15:24+00:00

Well, I don’t love my husband for his physique or his career, so no, I wouldn’t leave him. This is such a stupid question.

attendquoi · 2025-04-05T16:36:19+00:00

Those two things aren't enough to get a reaction from me. He needs to check ALL the boxes, otherwise he isn't better than my husband. Of the men I've gotten to know well enough to have that information, none ever has been better.

Bitter_Rose2 · 2025-04-05T19:42:34+00:00

I didn't care when I was with my ex, to me he was the most attractive man in the world.

xx-rapunzel-xx · 2025-04-05T22:45:21+00:00

i was always told i should date someone who makes (around) my salary or higher.

anyway, that man seems very alluring, and i think he knows that. i’d be wary of his intentions, and who knows how great of a person he really is.

i would not cheat, especially if i was satisfied with my current relationship. i’d be flattered i could “pull” someone like that, but that’s as far as it goes.

S0yslut · 2025-04-05T22:50:07+00:00

If I crossed paths with Adrian Greener (the actor I have had a crush on as a teenager) and he expressed interest in me there isn’t anything he or anyone could do to convince me that he’s going to make me as happy as my husband. He is certainly objectively more attractive but he could never be the man my husband is, because he’s perfect and attractive.

I didn’t think about the most attractive men when they were gone, I wanted to have fun so I thought about the men who made me laugh the most. Unless they were fatties or had facial deformities.

Interesting-Gas4506 · 2025-04-06T06:36:38+00:00

I can't control my feelings, what I can control are my actions. I'd imagine Id react similarly to a man seeing a woman that's hotter than his girlfriend. I probably wouldn't give it much thought. When I love someone, I generally only have eyes for them. If I did happen to feel something, I'd back away and evaluate what's missing from my relationship that's causing me to have wandering eyes

relish5k · 2025-04-06T19:23:23+00:00

i wouldn’t want to be with a man whose more attractive than me i’d be too insecure.

re: the scenario it depends how committed you are right? a boyfriend of less than a year would probably not survive such an encounter. a long term relationship or marriage though would probably be fine. for one i don’t omit IOIs to men so having “chemistry” with someone wouldn’t really happen, even if there’s a light charge every now and then. but you don’t engage.

Disastrous-Sound-694 · 2025-04-07T07:48:44+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy.

A random crush is just having lack of information. I have thought random men were attractive or have noticed certain things about them but i never compare them to my husband.

Same with random woman. I notice when they are attractive but I try not to compare them to me because i know i'm only judging them based on their looks.

xKalisto · 2025-04-07T17:13:47+00:00

If my current relationship is "nothing special" then I don't see the point in that relationship and wouldn't mind swapping.

If my relationship with this less attractive, less successful man IS special then I don't care about rich guy flirting with me. At most I'd indulge him in banter but why would I leave a guy I love and have amazing relationship with?

Londonistaa · 2025-04-20T01:26:01+00:00

Because that's absolutely not how I think at any point, or ever have done. I don't constantly analyse myself, my partner or random people out of 10. I might sometimes think both that a man is very good looking or a woman is, but that's not relevant information. I don't judge my partner as "every conceivable metric" in that sense. If I meet a man who generates a flicker of "primal sexual desire" I acknowledge that thought and move past it, because he's not my partner who is wonderful in an entire spectrum of ways.

If I ever thought I was in a "decent relationship but it's nothing special" I'd already have left it. That's an immensely depressing thought - if I don't really want to be with him, I won't be.

FairwayBliss · 2025-04-05T06:07:13+00:00

You’re currently dating a guy who’s equally or slightly less attractive than you are.

My husband is much less attractive than I am. I’m the beauty and social one, and he is the brain and hard worker in our relationship. I hold a simple university degree, my husband has 2 master’s and a PHD. I did not fell for his looks, but for our interactions from the beginning.

You have a decent relationship but it’s nothing special - he treats you well and takes you out on dates regularly, but he has an average job and doesn’t live a lavish lifestyle. You both earn roughly the same amount.

I would not be with that man. Listen, I can get any guy I’d like: why would I choose a man that is nothing special, and can not even offer the things I give to myself? I don’t pick men that do not share my goals and ideals in the first place. You can call that hypergamy, I call it common sense.

One day at a social event, you meet a man who blows your current boyfriend out of the water - he’s way more attractive (let’s say a 9 out of 10, so even more attractive than you), taller and has a better career. He introduces himself to you and you start talking, and you realize that you actually have lots in common and have great chemistry.

This happens quite often at the work parties of my husband. I am a social woman.

He starts flirting with you and indicating that he’s interested in taking you out.

That’s when I would remind him I’m married and if he continues, I get security on his ass. And when I was not married yet, I told them who I was with and that was enough.

It’s undeniable that in every conceivable metric, he is better than your current partner by a long shot. Would you agree to go on a date with this new guy, and then leave your boyfriend for him if things went well?

Depends. My husband? Never. A boyfriend? I might, if he is making me feel better than one of the current boyfriend(s), I would most likely break up the relationship, but I would not start dating mr. Handsome.

Or would you go against the theory of hypergamy and remain loyal?

I would always remain loyal. Boyfriend/husband or whatever. But if a guy would be able to win me over like that, I would strongly doubt myself and break off communication with ‘boyfriend’ AND ‘handsome man’ to do some deep reflection.

EilidhLiban · 2025-04-05T08:42:27+00:00

For me, there is no such thing as more attractive than my husband, and there cannot be, will never be - in my eyes.

In my opinion, you have some very questionable assumptions baked into your question:

1) "You have a decent relationship but it's nothing special" - is there love, respect, commitment and firm decision to cherish each other in this relationships? If there is, then this is the special thing. You overlook the essential ingredient, the very thing that makes relationship.

2) The description of a man in your second paragraph is not attractive in my opinion, but you seem to think that your description is considered universally attractive. Now I do not look at men at all, as I am married, but before I met my now husband I was looking. Imagining myself back then meeting this description makes my alarm bells ring up - this dude is likely very promiscuous and has been bed hopping since like 14. That would be extremely unattractive to me.

3) In your description of this man you consider the definition of attraction you do not mention his character at all, and whether his life goals and life philosophy aligns with the hypothetical woman. You may have just made this description here, or it may reflect your own outlook on what's important in relationships. If it's the second, I encourage you to ponder whether this outlook will really get you a fulfilling relationship, if you want one. I think it cannot. The most important quality in a potential partner for a happy fulfilling relationship in how aligned you are in your worldviews and life goals. Second most important in my opinion is how well he or she is able to discuss things, really listen and hear, when there is a disagreement, as there inevitably will be some disagreements.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2025-04-05T09:58:06+00:00

If I'm in love with a man, I'm simply unable to acknowledge any other man as "better". He is literally the only one I want.

If I'm in a relationship or dating a guy but I'm not in love with him, there is a possibility that I find someone else. But it doesn't happen because of instantaneous thinfs like "his career" or "his looks". It happened to me when I got to know my current boyfriend as a friend over the course of one year during a horrible past relationship and our chemistry, humor, style of conversation made me realize I'm also extremely sexually attracted to him.

I've been unable to be sexually attracted to any other man for the past 3 years.

SayuriKitsune · 2025-04-05T14:28:07+00:00

there is no one in the world that I would choose over my husband. NO ONE. And I work in the celebrity industry and I have been asked out by a few, always said no, always will. I found my soulmate already.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-04-05T18:58:46+00:00

I dunno, how would men in relationships act?

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-04-05T18:58:52+00:00

I dunno, how would men in relationships act?

Title	How do women in relationships react when they meet a man significantly more attractive and more successful than their current partner?
Author	cs342
Upvotes	37
Comments	321
Date	April 5, 2025 5:34 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1jrwe0x/how_do_women_in_relationships_react_when_they/
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