Men Spend Their 20's Trying to Fuck Stacy (Hot Women) and Then Settle For Billy Beta (Women of Similar Attractiveness)

Bandit174 · 2021-08-22T22:36:12+00:00

Not really. I think guys have a much wider range of women that they are interested in having sex with. They aren't exclusively pursuing the hottest women for casual sex.

I think women are much more likely to be able to spend their 20s having casual sex with conventionally hot members of the opposite sex. Men are more likely to have to lower their standards on looks for casual sex.

NPCFactChecker · 2021-08-23T01:52:12+00:00

If you hooked up with an attractive woman it's luck. If a woman hooks up with an attractive guy it's just another weekend.

BumblingBeta · 2021-08-22T22:42:14+00:00

No, that's what women do. Men are just trying to have sex with anything.

"Women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who they can"

Liberal_On_Guns · 2021-08-23T02:07:20+00:00

Men spend their youth literally trying to fuck the first woman who gives them attention. We arent pining for 10s and settling for average. Hell, the vast majority of guys won't even approach the 10s.

pentakiller19 · 2021-08-22T23:10:11+00:00

When I was young and blue pulled, I never wanted to hook up. I dreamed of finding a girlfriend that I could marry and live happily ever after with. I avoided Stacy's because we had nothing in common. Don't get me wrong, I would smash, but I didn't see a future with shallow women. Dating for marriage was romantic and I figured that's what women wanted... boy was I wrong.

Turns out, they just wanted to fuck hot guys. Now, that doesn't mean all women are like that. Some absolutely wanted a committed relationship. But being Chad gives you the best of both worlds, women to fuck casually and women to date seriously. If I knew that earlier, I would have hit the gym and slayed. Now, I view commitment as a waste of time, fuck or get out.

OpinionHavR · 2021-08-22T23:00:27+00:00

Sex for the most part is overrated. But for most dudes if you’re not smashing hot girls in your 20s it’s never going to happen unless you get rich or something and she’ll only be around for status and money.

So most dudes better accept the fact they’re never smashing any hot girls. At best they’ll land an average one

Anantha1996 · 2021-08-22T22:30:46+00:00

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Megabyte7637 · 2021-08-23T02:11:23+00:00

Nah guys don't have choice. This power implies choice for which is a picky women trait.

gimpgirl555 · 2021-08-22T23:43:20+00:00

Most men don't get to "hook up" with anyone. Unless they date way down.

Imagine marrying a woman who has been pump & dumped by higher value guys. She will have non respect for the Beta I can tell you that.

MrBittersweetcookie · 2021-08-22T22:45:42+00:00

I love average looking women, I am average looking myself and dating was just awful. Men know exactly what I'm talking about. Average looking women are NOT for the most part arrogant, self-absorbed, narcissistic or greedy, but generally are family oriented, generous and down to earth, they do not expect you to be Brad Pitt kind of guy, as long as you're a gentlemen.

I'm really happy in my 5yo relationship, my woman takes care of me, cooks,wants children, listens to my concerns and supports me when I have anxiety on my back. I do the same for her. I would always choose her over some hoe who thinks she's a 10.

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2021-08-23T06:06:41+00:00

This is blatantly false because the woman never ever wanted a relationship with that "billy beta" in first place, she wanted it with the other guy but had no choice but to settle down with him, men on the other hand dont treat their partners as consolation prizes. End of discussion.

TrajanOptimus117 · 2021-08-22T23:08:00+00:00

I so very rarely see unattractive guys approach or talking to attractive women that it absolutely boggles my mind that this is something that people still believe.

Unattractive guys are not getting laid because online dating means that women are basically just rotating the top percentage of attractive guys amongst themselves, which cuts most men adrift.

Where previously a woman might have encountered a handful of Chads in day to day life, and thus have a more realistic expectations about the kind of guy she could get into a relationship with, now she is able to connect with pretty much all the ones in her city via OLD.

There is no reason to settle for a 6/10 guy in your social circle when you can go online and find a 9/10 Chad to come fuck you within minutes of searching.

AquaChip · 2021-08-22T23:38:19+00:00

Men here are being purposefully obtuse. Nobody is saying that they don’t try to fuck almost everything because they do but they also DO actively chase hotter women and end up settling for average-below average women.

I’ve seen multiple comments on social media by men under a beautiful woman’s posts proclaiming, “It makes me sad that I’ll never be able to get with a beautiful woman like you.” Or some other version of the same statement. Yes, men will fuck anything. But if men could fuck 100 stacy’s and never have to go to a woman lower than an 8/10 for sexual validation they would.

This phenomenon is demonstrated by men who are labeled “Chad’s”. Chad’s don’t fuck ugly women. They can get their sexual urges satisfied by hot-to-average women so they never have to dumpster dive.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-08-23T03:37:17+00:00

Correction - women all want to marry the hot guy but are unable to. They might be able to get sex from a hot guy but they don't want sex, they want the hot guy to commit to them.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-08-23T15:03:37+00:00

No. They spend their 20s trying to fuck Becky Bitchface, then settle for Plain Jane or Martha Dumptruck or Susie STD or Helen Herpes or Hilda HPV.

odd_cloud · 2021-08-23T03:44:40+00:00

Let's rephrase: men spend their 20s trying to fuck and then settle for Billy beta. What you describe may be applicable to very attractive men, who have as much freedom as women. Usual men are just trying to get laid and most women are attractive to them.

HuntressAndGoat · 2021-08-23T07:04:45+00:00

We all need to goBLIND! LOOKS MEAN NOTHING OF CHARACTER DECENCY HOW THEY TREAT U.GAH.WE ALL NEED TO STOP. Alpha is not JUST LOOKS. Alpha is aBEING NOT A LOOK. YOU JUST ARE an alpha . 4fs

AnnoKano · 2021-08-23T08:39:53+00:00

How many levels of attractiveness you on bro?

rips bong

Guys, tiers of attractiveness may make sense when you are talking about first impressions but when you get into a real relationship it’s about more than just your appearance.

Insidious-Sid · 2021-08-23T16:08:03+00:00

So if a woman settles for a less attractive man than she's hooked up with before, I fucking guess you can call him, in terms of physical attractiveness, the "beta" compared to the face/body of the more attractive guy.

Your post contains only one word that is relevant and important:

settles

She is settling. And when women feel forced to settle, they get resentful. Passive aggressive. Moody. The bedroom goes dead. The divorce lawyers are called. The plan to blow up the family begins.

She will actually resent HIM because of HER need to settle.

Women want the sexy studs to commit to them and make them "feel like the only girl in the world." But sexy studs do not have to. He's got 5 or 6 more just like her waiting in the wings.

The single worst sexual strategy for any man, especially when marriage contracts with her and the state are involved, is to get into a relationship where you are being settled for.

Men need to realize the "commitment for sex" transactional relationship is half-dead and needs to die. When women say "we don't need no man", and truly believe this, but then end up "settling" for one anyways, it causes a wrinkle in her cognitive dissonance that she can't manage. Then, the hamsterbation process begins and she comes up with reasons why she has to leave him OTHER than "Shit, I regret settling."

ShinyBronze · 2021-08-23T16:44:57+00:00

You’re presuming men and women want the same thing.

(In general) Men want relationships, but are more interested in sex. Women want sex, but are more interested in relationships.

Ideally, for a man to want to be in a relationship with a women, she needs to be physically attractive, agreeable and have a low body count.

Ideally for a woman to be in a relationship with a man, he needs to be assertive, demonstrate leadership qualities and can protect and provide.

For just hooking up, they only need to be hot.

ffandyy · 2021-08-23T01:58:01+00:00

I’m kinda shocked how many weird attitudes get posted on this sub

Gari_305 · 2021-08-22T22:53:11+00:00

Negative, u/Neither_Works Men after 30 can PAY to have the hot attractive women, this is due to the fact that men earn more after 35. Men after 30 can also have casual hook ups with women under 30 based on their looks aka men who hit the GYM.

That's not the case for women since they have to rely on their looks solely aka their fertility which peaks out @ 25. Thus the women are more likely than not have to settle based on their biological needs while men will have to settle based on their financial capabilities.

mxp68 · 2021-08-22T22:54:10+00:00

Hot women are like exotic cars:

You can’t leave them alone in public without them getting stolen.
They are high maintenance and temperamental
They don’t age well
You pay for the relationship much longer than you ever expected.

hsmwill3 · 2021-08-23T08:29:20+00:00

One thing I see on here a lot is people saying guys can’t choose and women can.

Guys can choose, once you stop valuing yourself on having sex all the time, you can hold out and set your standards higher.

A woman with standards is attractive, and when viewed as not having sex or ‘sorting herself’ until she meets the right guy this is attractive.

The same can be said for a man. You may not have sex for 1/2/3/6/12 months, but that is also fine. The second you stop placing value on how much sex you have you can set your standards to where you want them, be it emotional connection, career, attractiveness.. and wait until the right person comes along.

I personally believe the reason society is shaping the way it is, is due to the insecurity of men as a whole and their need to build their egos through having sex with women, where as it is somewhat the opposite for women.

Change your mindset, everyone can do what they like, if a man wants to sleep with a lot of women, chances are they won’t all be super attractive or well rounded, equally the same for women.

But both genders have both options, to sleep around or wait till someone meets there standards.

cmvmania · 2021-08-22T23:58:26+00:00

Problem is if a pre wall stacy settles down with a Billy Beta chances are shes able to or still having sexual affairs with chads while the billy beta cant have it with another stacy. Its not the same.

armance83 · 2021-08-23T04:36:38+00:00

I think it also makes sense that looks play an important role in casual sex, but then are a less important factor when choosing a life partner. It's not a matter of settling, but you are looking for other qualities

PsychologicalUnit304 · 2021-08-23T07:39:24+00:00

Men have the right to make those options regardless of what you say because men built society and men pay for a woman's way through life.

It's literally as simple as that and trying to shame me into believing women are my equals and I should accept being a pension plan for an aged out thot is a goddamn joke. A man makes it to whatever age and accumulates what women need to be provided for whereas a woman who has whored around loses everything that men want and s still have nothing to offer the older they get.

Why do you white knights keep flooding this place with cope and shaming or guilt tactics to make men convince themselves to sacrifice for women? I'm sorry but no woman has the right to tell me where to put my penis when I have to earn it all in order to attract women whereas women just have to open their legs to get sex. Where women can have some leverage is that if I commit to her then I don't spend any money on other women except for the woman I'm committed to otherwise it's cheating because money spent elsewhere is money not invested in my family and children. Even that leverage has now been destroyed by feminism because they just hand out 40 to 100k a hear jobs to women like its candy while they gatekeep these jobs and important titles away from men at all costs on the name of hiring more women under the false lies of equality. So not only have they tried to emasculate us men but they've also robbed men of their lovelihoods to the point that I don't think a woman even has the right to tell me where to spend my money. The bottom line is of I committed to a woman and she doesn't want to have sex with me? Then I'll go to work and ill buy myself prostitutes and women to fuck and satisfy my sex drive and I'm going up so it proudly in this era of women pretending they're something more than they really are. I'll proudly do this shit and let women know they have no leverage over me and I don't give a flying feces about their value seeing as how they've devalued men so much to themselves.

Sweet dreams feminists, you dig your own grave and I put into words what a lot of these men can't do and when they see me formulate this, they realise how badly they're getting screwed and what they can do to not participate in being slaves for feminists.

-WolfieMcq · 2021-08-23T09:22:59+00:00

There’s that jealous shit again. Give it a minute and some jealous turd will open his mouth. And that’s exactly why women avoid you Skippy. Your jealousy is all you have.

NICHIJOU2411 · 2021-08-22T22:37:55+00:00

I don’t want to hook up. I want to date someone who I’d want to marry. I’ll let u know if this changes when I reach 20.

DesperateTraffic3164 · 2021-08-23T01:18:29+00:00

Marrying the hottest woman is a little off-putting? WTF are you talking about that's the dream! What dude wouldn't want to come to home to 10 out of 10 every night.

shinzo123123 · 2021-08-23T01:01:50+00:00

Men can buy sex from Stacy.

zerofeetpersecond · 2021-08-23T05:54:32+00:00

Women aren’t afraid of hottest man leaving, they know he is going to leave.

techr0nin · 2021-08-23T09:56:12+00:00

Everyone wants the best they can get. The difference is:

A majority of women actually get to fuck above their league before settling (if they so choose).
Men’s perception of female attractiveness follows more or less a normal distribution, whereas women’s perception of male attractiveness skews towards the top.

Also I think most guys not in the top tier would marry a hot girl if he can and just hope for the best. Basically if you impregnate her a couple of times it’s mission accomplished biologically speaking. And then either you’ve degraded her sexual market value enough that she’s now stuck with you, or things don’t work out and she ropes another man into raising your kids.

ExtraBurdensomeCount · 2021-08-22T23:02:45+00:00

Wut? This is the exact opposite of how I and I suspect most men think. You have to be a lot lot better looking for me to consider a full relationship with you than just sex.

redback-spider · 2021-08-22T23:56:36+00:00

You literally claim that with man and women it's the same, basically implying they are more or less the same, which is the opposite of the truth.

Also it's just not true for man, man want just fuck the women on their level, (age / income) and average hot and would be fine go below average even, yet avarage young women don't look with their ass on average young man at the same age of them (exceptions don't make the rule) and if they do it ends pretty fast, because they are in their prime while mans prime starts is somewhere between 30-50 while womens prime is between 14-25 maybe 30.

So why should man that are in their 30 therefor better picks suddenly start dating less attractive girls when they are now the price?

Give me a break. Does it happen with 30 year old virgins that they settle for anything they get because they don't understand women and interactions and their sexual market value at all, sure... but if they could have sex with the hot girls with 20 so they are the absolute Chad and now they are in their prime they lower their expectations? No not really, that is absolutely unlogical.

Are you very young or some race that has this strange believes? That for man youngth and looks only matters and money and status not at all? I see that myth that looks are most important on man so often? Where does this absurd myth come from? (and don't come with extremes if you don't look like a monster or you are as tall as a hamster, your looks matter but that is not so much about age with man and money/status matters a lot.

Historical-Agency334 · 2021-08-22T22:43:21+00:00

honestly this is true. men are probably still attracted to the average woman though

GunnzzNRoses · 2021-08-23T13:29:19+00:00

The only men who fear marrying a hot women are very poor fucks. Same goes for men who desire a low N-Count/Virgin wife, they are bad lovers and wish for a woman who will have no concept of a good fuck.

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CrackLover420 · 2021-08-23T03:04:35+00:00

Men find out what is “achievable” to them right off the bat. Most will self-select out of chasing women of a certain caliber because it would just be a waste of time and effort.

accrescent · 2021-08-23T03:50:11+00:00

I spent my twenties in college/grad school & unemployed. Thank you housing crisis. I didn't chase Stacys but I also didn't delude myself into chasing Dollar General night shift managers.

mandathor · 2021-08-23T11:31:28+00:00

pff, they try to fuck any woman. not just higher value

clitorophagy · 2021-08-23T12:00:05+00:00

I think it’s weird how attractiveness is seen as the main characteristic of a mate. Sure hookups can be like that but for marriage? Companionship, common interests and goals, family, food preferences, who cooks the food, children, career, money, travel, there are so many things. Attractiveness is one factor out of many.

Wu_Pao-chao · 2021-08-23T13:28:19+00:00

Your never marry the hottest women you know you simple have sex with her. she has lots attention and a thirst for it that you will never be able to quench. but you can satisfy her sexually for one night which is just as good.

silent36 · 2021-08-23T14:58:47+00:00

This was the case until those beta women started also getting ran through on tinder. It’s used to be men smashed through hot slxts who was probably damaged and wanted to suck dxck for life and married the square girl once they were done sowing their oats. In the end she won and got the ring and vacations even tho she spent most of her life at home, studying or working. However the square plain janes are now just as big slxts without the gorgeous face to make you want to overlook the whxredom

geometersbane · 2021-08-23T15:25:35+00:00

More like try to fuck both and marry neither

FuckWhatYallThink · 2021-08-23T16:39:40+00:00

Men (and women) with OPTIONS do this. The real issue here is that the majority of men will never know what it is like to have the sexual options your average female enjoys.

The average male doesnt have the option to fuck around with 9/10s easily delivered to his door courtesy of dating apps.. then settle down with stable housewifey later in life. He can at most, have a series of average girlfriends, or fuck a few bar sluts/outright prostitutes.. whereas women get that female equivalent of the Chad lifestyle by default.

Men and women are largely incomparable sexually. This is not a fantasy RPG where your character has the same exact stats regardless of gender. Things are different for your average male/female and no amount of equalitarian, wishful thinking nonsense will change that.

This is ESPECIALLY true for sex/dating — but ofc some people just are constantly irritated by any exception to their worldview whatsoever, and HAVE to force the square peg of gender relations into their round hole of “all demographic groups are equal except for oppression”. Otherwise they can’t rest.

Sneedfeedseed123 · 2021-08-26T07:53:12+00:00

Ideally sure, but men find a much larger range of women to be good enough because of testosterone. So this theory doesnt work.

Gackt · 2021-08-26T13:24:10+00:00

This is true BUT more women are able to fuck Chad then settle down with Billy, than men are able to fuck Stacy then settle down with Becky.

Bruhmuh · 2021-08-27T16:30:18+00:00

Preach it queen. Biology is a social construct.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-08-23T03:42:39+00:00

No not really, they may have aspirations of trying to fuck this person But ultimately at some point probably in their early to mid-20s a guy figures out where on the totem pole he is looks-wise, and if marriage has to be an option to him he'll marry the most attractive woman who's willing to give him sex on a regular basis, not even close

Flaky-Professor · 2021-08-23T04:09:55+00:00

This post is a lot of projecting. Not all young men are so short sighted that they value attractiveness over everything else. You beta alpha sigma people always assume everyone’s trying to pull a fast one while dating.

cuckspace · 2021-08-23T08:27:47+00:00

Just like how I'm settling for the "beta" woman if I marry someone less attractive than the hottest woman I hooked up with in my 20s.

This is not how it works. Men lower their standards in their 20s, but in their 30s their RMV has usually increased while women in the same age range have lowered in RMV and SMV. You should be able to settle down with a woman in your 30s who was unavailable to you in your 20s.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-08-23T09:31:40+00:00

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BigDudBoy · 2021-08-23T12:54:06+00:00

Another post of women trying to steal men's ideas and apply it to men. It's obviously not the truth. People are obviously attracted to people hotter than they are, but men's preferences vary way more than women's do. The dual mating strategy just doesn't apply to men.

Title	Men Spend Their 20's Trying to Fuck Stacy (Hot Women) and Then Settle For Billy Beta (Women of Similar Attractiveness)
Author	Neither_Works
Upvotes	97
Comments	461
Date	August 22, 2021 10:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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