Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”

Men are expected to do the approaching, and 99.99% of the time the woman will reject him. In most cases, the woman is spoken for and as you know single women are insanely selective now, to the point that even if there is mutual attraction and chemistry they will still more often than not politely decline, which is fine that’s their choice.

However, this leaves men in a position where if they want to have any sort of success they are forced to approach in abundance, and with frequency. This opens them up to all sorts of unwarranted judgement from women who try to lump him in with PUA/players or worse label him a creep/predator. I’ve had girls “call me out” for messaging their friends as well as if it was some crime or anything to be ashamed of. This is what really pisses me off, simply because they want to feel special like they are the only one in the world even though they would have rejected you anyway.

Additionally, there is a growing trend that has worsened considerably with Me Too & cancel culture of hypersensitivity to men approaching women even respectfully. You can say “if it was respectful they wouldn’t have made a big deal of it” but I’ve seen guys have HR called on them for light flirting or even just friendly banter misinterpreted as such. In this climate simply expressing romantic interest in a woman is interpreted as lecherous leering and enough to get you labeled a predator.