women hate “choose better” because they dont like the responsibility of when their choices go bad. And it only applies to them.

women hate the phrase “choose better” because it gives them the one thing they say they want but do not actually like when it becomes inconvenient

agency

women want full autonomy over who they date, sleep with, chase, forgive, text back, ignore red flags for, and build relationships with. fair enough. they should have that autonomy. but autonomy does not only mean freedom from male control. it also means responsibility for what your choices reveal.

women generally have far more romantic and sexual options than men. not perfect options, not endless good men, not every option being marriage material. but options. attention. access. men pursuing them. men trying. men offering dates, sex, validation, commitment, situationships, whatever. the average man is not living in that world. the average man is usually trying to get picked at all.

so when a woman repeatedly chooses the same kind of toxic man, the same emotionally unavailable man, the same player, the same exciting unstable man, the same dominant arrogant man, the same man every other woman also wants, people are allowed to ask what she is selecting for.

. if a man keeps choosing bad friends, bad habits, bad jobs, bad lifestyles, or bad women, nobody rushes in to protect his ego. people tell him he should have known better. they tell him his choices have consequences. they tell him to stop being stupid and fix his standards.

but when women are told the same thing in dating, suddenly accountability becomes misogyny and "telling them to not date men their attracted to..

the real issue is that “choose better” removes the soft framing. it does not let every bad romantic outcome become patriarchy, manipulation, youth, trauma, social pressure, bad luck, or “he lied.” sometimes he did lie. sometimes he did manipulate. but sometimes women ignored obvious traits because the man was attractive, exciting, high status, dominant, or emotionally stimulating.

and women hate that being said out loud because it attacks the innocent self image.

you cannot demand full sexual and romantic freedom, then act shocked when people judge the patterns created by that freedom. if your choices are yours when they feel empowering, then they are also yours when they expose what you actually reward.

this is basically their whole problem with red pill. women don't like men telling other men that women are incredibly shallow. but is it wrong?