Daily Community Chat Megathread

DonQOnIce · 2022-04-18T17:16:45+00:00

This sub: “Women love assholes, women need to better vet against jerks and abusers or it’s their fault”

Me: “this guy calling his wife a bitch is not okay and a red flag”

This sub: “WOW you are FRAGILE, he’s just VENTING”

This is why I stick around here, you all are funny as hell 😂

LKphd · 2022-04-20T02:30:13+00:00

[Academic] Do you CLASH with your partner? (18+, must be in current relationship with partner who is also willing to participate)
Do you CLASH with your partner?
Couples are needed for the Couple CLASH study!
Researchers from Deakin University in Australia are seeking to track couples over time to identify what combination of factors cause some couples to clash and others to thrive. Couple CLASH is a study dealing with issues around Conflict, Love, Attitudes, Stress and Hardships (CLASH).
Couples who choose to participate will complete 5 surveys over a 12-month period. Each survey is expected to take approximately 40 minutes. You and your partner will be asked about your experiences in relationships, current life stress, substance use, pornography use, attitudes, and aspects of your personalities.
Participate with your partner and share a total of 3.5 hours of your time over 12-months and at the completion of the entire study, couples will receive:
free access to an internationally acclaimed online couples therapy program
expert tips for enriching your relationship, and
a $60AUD gift voucher (per couple)
Participants who are currently living in Australia are also invited to take part in a video-recorded discussion task at the start and the end of the study. This is an optional activity and you will receive an additional $40AUD gift voucher (per couple) if you choose to take part in the video-recorded discussion tasks. Please see our website for more information.
Whether you are only completing the surveys or you are living in Australia and choose to also take part in the discussion tasks, you and your partner must both be willing and able to participate, over the age of 18, fluent in English and not currently subject to criminal proceedings. You must also feel safe in your relationship and not feel at risk of harm or punishment from participating in the study.
Head to scienceofadultrelationships.org/couple-clash to find out more or take our screening questionnaire to find out if you’re eligible to take part!
Screening questionnaire: https://researchsurveys.deakin.edu.au/jfe/form/SV\_b70d9f4gIsCrjMi

scwizard · 2022-04-19T17:03:56+00:00

No more masks on public transit. That was sudden.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-19T17:01:04+00:00

"Women do not treat men any better than men treat men!"

Me: Presents US crime statistics. I would call disproportionately murdering each other as worse treatment. Just saying.

Now for more context, the topic was about oversimplified intra-gender dynamics, so of course I'm using the extreme examples.

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-04-19T16:34:03+00:00

i wonder what the average age of a PPD user is. i always subconsciously feel like i’m one of the younger ones here.

Siukslinis_acc · 2022-04-18T16:02:15+00:00

First?

ThisBoringLife · 2022-04-18T16:09:02+00:00

A new one:

Q4ALL: What's the coolest thing you've done recently?

Siukslinis_acc · 2022-04-18T16:14:08+00:00

Day 6 of music sharing Godsmack - Voodoo like the swaying feeling of the voice/melody.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-18T16:45:51+00:00

I don’t understand men who let themselves go bald when there’s a pill out there to prevent it

luliloo · 2022-04-18T16:47:24+00:00

My dating issues could be from the insecurity that I was a fat fuck and lack of social skills.

DonQOnIce · 2022-04-18T19:47:41+00:00

Tucker Carlson’s End of Men doc looks like something this sub would cook up.

321gumby · 2022-04-18T20:41:35+00:00

Can you guys list some healthy ways to get over a breakup. Like writing a list or gym... Things that worked for you.

I'll tell you right now... I still look at her IG and old videos I need to delete.

bubble_gummmmm · 2022-04-18T21:06:14+00:00

Man can like and feel attraction to pickmes, whereas woman despise meak simp guys and hardly respect or feel attracted to them.

_-_Kratos_-_ · 2022-04-18T22:15:40+00:00

https://igotstandardsbro.com

for the ladies

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-18T22:43:17+00:00

No one cares that you don't like sluts. Sluts don't care much for you, either.

lulll · 2022-04-18T23:54:30+00:00

what is the best flavor of hoe? green hair hoe, purple hair hoe, pink hair hoe, bright red hair hoe, orange hair hoe, blue hair hoe?

i cant decide between green hair hoe and purple hair hoe tbh

Comprehensive_Art506 · 2022-04-18T23:56:06+00:00

Why are womens right so low in the middle-East? Honestly, apart from Islam itself, it seems like the sentiment was always there. Many other cultures have moved on from subjugation, so why are people actually fighting to keep women under lock over there?

CrabMaster- · 2022-04-19T00:48:10+00:00

Cruisy day at work so I'm tanning on my balcony.

Who said the corporate life was difficult?

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-19T00:50:45+00:00

I think I finally got myself a fan, seems to be one person that downvotes all of my comments. Whoever it is just know I love you babes 😘

quaker5 · 2022-04-19T02:13:37+00:00

that threesome thread was a trip

PM_ME_ZED_BARA · 2022-04-19T02:16:41+00:00

I know my close friends for at least 14 years. Their opinions and ideology have changed significantly during these years, mostly from conservative to liberal positions. I remember one saying that gays should be in jail but now he is campaigning for same-sex marriage. Most were loyalist to the king but now they don’t have anything positive to say about him.

But something just doesn’t change. Most are still waiting for marriage before sex. I was so surprised my best friend was still a virgin until he recently married his wife. He was popular with women and had a bunch of short-term girlfriends back then. He could have had sex so many times.

Prestigious698 · 2022-04-19T02:20:45+00:00

Benefits of celibacy for women?

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-19T03:22:28+00:00

I think I've just gotten myself another girl for my rotation!!

Today's already feeling good. I feel the one thing I do that hooks them is sending voice notes instead of messaging, been told I have a hot voice.

ThisBoringLife · 2022-04-18T16:08:08+00:00

I'm doing it again.

Alright, time for some question asking:

Q4W: For those who have used online dating apps, what made you swipe right/like the profile of a guy? Was it a photo? Funny joke? A particular hobby or something you had in common?

Prestigious698 · 2022-04-18T17:21:55+00:00

If a guy can’t last very long with a woman, does that mean he finds her really attractive or is her equipment just really good

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-04-18T17:24:20+00:00

Yay. Got the next date set up hash tag down bad

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-18T19:49:40+00:00

I'm a male who has had sex with more than one female. AMA.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-04-18T21:39:56+00:00

If girl is gonna be a thot she at least has to be really hot I’m not dating some cute homely looking girl who actually has a wild past with like 7+ bodies

If you’re gonna be a ho you at least have to look like a bad bitch 😤

GridReXX · 2022-04-18T22:13:30+00:00

Q4M who have had hookups/casual sex/flings/ONSs:

Would you care if a woman had sex with you and ghosted?

Would you care if you two hooked up and you hit her up to hangout outside of the bedroom and she was like “no thanks”?

Would you care if you were relegated to “fucks only” zone?

Be honest!

scwizard · 2022-04-18T22:39:45+00:00

I'd probably be more comfortable dating an experienced girl who liked me and who I liked, then a virgin who liked me and who I liked.

But some of the experienced girls here at least I just don't vibe with. You can't even make it a standards thing cause I don't know what they look like.

Like for instance when I told figuring "I don't really want sext right now" and she was like "ugh boring" that kinda pushiness really doesn't do it for me.

I think a girl can have a double digit n count without having an attitude of "there's a lot of other guys that I could talk to so if you're not going to give me what I want right this instant you can fuck off."

rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-18T23:32:45+00:00

Now that we on the topic

Q4M

Would you rather date a hoe who treats you like the king you are or a virgin / low body count woman who tends to be wishy washy ?

Q4W

Would you rather date a rich stingy man or very generous lower class one ?

You HAVE TO make a choice

GridReXX · 2022-04-19T00:47:39+00:00

Lmaoo which one of you assholes reported me to RedditCaresResources after my Black American culture comment 😂😂😂😭

That was kinda funny.

jax006 · 2022-04-19T01:20:04+00:00

I ordered a tattoo gun on Amazon, pretty surprised how cheap the complete kits are. Going to practice on some of the mats first but then probably try my leg.

I'm kind of wondering if I want to try and make a career out of it eventually, I been pretty obsessed with drawing designs for a year now, doing it while I'm supposed to be working ect. and my artists have really liked a bunch of my stuff so far. The course to get certified is only like 10 grand which doesn't seem bad either.

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-04-19T02:37:40+00:00

Q4M what do you bring to the table in a relationship?

Anti_Thing · 2022-04-19T03:36:36+00:00

Are we going to have a summer 2022 survey?

Reoblivion · 2022-04-19T03:45:06+00:00

Question for women:

How do you define hotness vs cuteness when it comes to men?

Would you sleep with a cute guy or only a hot guy?

What do you consider different about them?

Thank you for replying.

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-19T16:33:21+00:00

Let’s hear some stories where you faith in humanity was reaffirmed. I’d like something related to dating if possible.

Fine_Ad5151 · 2022-04-19T16:20:05+00:00

This sub is funny. How you gonna complain about people and not name them? All I see is subliminal complaints without showing proof or the name of the person they're complaining about. How you throwing subliminals on Reddit? Smh🤦🏾‍♂️

Orange_Paisley · 2022-04-19T16:19:50+00:00

I’m doing my civic duty and reported for jury duty. Right it’s mostly just sitting here being bored.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-04-19T16:16:10+00:00

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annabeelongx · 2022-04-19T16:11:47+00:00

When will American women learn to stop going for foreign men? American women, to foreign men are only seen as sexually desirable unfortunately and not marriage material, which is why a lot get strung on while the guy monkey branches to a wife of his culture.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-19T16:05:47+00:00

So I just looked into Ketanji Brown Jackson after ignoring the topic for a while. Mainstream Feminism never ceases to disappoint me with how little they give a shit about females. This bitch is giving pedophiles light sentences and all the so called feminists can say is “OMG! DIVERSITY! YAAAAAAS!”

CatoftheBanals · 2022-04-19T16:00:15+00:00

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LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-19T15:58:36+00:00

TIL You can be a misandrist by saying "Insecure people are annoying, because now insecure people = all men. This subreddit is funny in their attempts to paint me as a misandrist by unintentionally insulting men.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-04-19T15:43:09+00:00

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SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-19T15:37:46+00:00

Talk shit, get hit

This is my life mantra

Matt_Door · 2022-04-19T15:34:33+00:00

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platinirisms · 2022-04-19T14:48:39+00:00

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SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-19T14:37:54+00:00

Q4All: If you've ever been dumped, what was the reason for it? Also add if you're man or woman.

I'll start. I've been dumped over being vulnerable about an insecurity before. I was roughly 19 or 20, relationship was about 1 year long.

I know this is a self report and I probably won't get a lot of honest answers but humor me

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-19T14:06:05+00:00

A high value man is a man who's willing to sacrifice comfort and live like shit until he builds his business or finances up to the point where he can then splurge on some luxury.

If you have to live with your parents so be it, don't be one of those idiots who wastes money on a car and a house by the time they're 26-29. Let's be real, you can't afford it, you'll just drag yourself into debt. If you don't have a car or house during that time so what? If anything you're probably smarter with your money than someone who did and can't really afford it.

You don't NEED a car, wait until your finances are so in order that a car barely makes a dent into it. Until then fucking walk or take public transport, don't be a lazy prick, it's cheaper.

Basically, if you don't need it then don't get it.

Slipthe · 2022-04-19T13:59:45+00:00

Hoo booy. Took an ambien last night, started hallucinating and then threw up on the way to bed.

I am a little scared of it now.

kittenated · 2022-04-19T13:48:19+00:00

I don't understand people whose experience of falling in love doesn't involve being practically obsessed with that person. When I fall in love, I feel like I'm on some hard drug. That person is all I can think about. I dream about them at night, daydream about them all damn day fixating on when I'm going to see him next. I want to be close to him 24/7 and kiss him all the time. It is gut-wrenching and it's like I feel ill.

People have told me this is too much, crazy, etc. Well, what the fuck do these other people feel when they fall in love then? What is the process? "We hung out and I like them, now they're my boy/girlfriend. yay"?

Bland.

I kind of don't think you can even call that "falling in love". It literally just looks like liking someone.

keiayamada · 2022-04-19T13:42:07+00:00

I think it’d be a good idea to have a relationship advice sub for ppd users for ppl seeking some genuine relationship advice other than “yikes op that’s clear signs of abuse leave his ass”

rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-19T13:36:49+00:00

If men are expected to pay on dates, be the main provider, “his money is our money and my money is my money “

Then it’s Damn only right there’s a gender pay gap …even though there isn’t

GridReXX · 2022-04-18T16:16:37+00:00

It is not “racist” or making it about “skin color”/ “race” to call myself Black American.

That is my specific heritage/culture/ethnicity. Sometimes we use African American, but ppl want to get disingenuous and claim “well technically if Elon Musk immigrated here then he’s African American.”

Calling it “racist” for me to bring up being Black American is like saying it’s “racist” for a Portuguese person to speak on Portuguese culture or a Jamaican person to speak on Jamaican culture or a Welsh person to speak on Welsh culture.

If you take issue with the “descriptor,” take that up with the United States of America and chattel slavery.

TLDR: it’s dismissive, entitled, and erasure of Black American heritage for you to get in a huff and say they’re “making it about skin color” because they use “Black” as a heritage and cultural descriptor.

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-18T20:48:47+00:00

If everyone on ppd got laid today…. We could have everyone just getting along famously.

The solution to all problems is sex, more sex means happier chilled out people.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-18T21:03:40+00:00

A lot of guys here: YOU HATE MEN!

Me: Please provide an example of my sexism.

These same guys: FUCK OFF! I'm not playing your game!

hornyjailer1 · 2022-04-18T23:23:36+00:00

Some ho's here be mad angry when dudes say they dont want sluts. 🤣. "well sluts dont want you".

Begone THOT!!

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-19T00:47:02+00:00

The n count stuff is like a flare up. It never really goes away, just sometimes it's temporarily symptomless.

SeaSquirrel · 2022-04-19T01:39:02+00:00

sometimes reddit makes me think flamingcoochies was right

fucking cuck culture lol

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-18T22:06:00+00:00

Yes, women and men sleeping around is different. You can argue that it's sexist or a double standard, too bad if it is, that's the reality.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-18T22:26:40+00:00

Unpopular opinion ( at least here ) but I don’t mind dating a “ hoe” at all if she was attractive and cool to be around, I simply could never take her seriously enough to make her my actual girlfriend

Comprehensive_Art506 · 2022-04-19T01:01:18+00:00

I knew a guy who could not finish unless I meticulously rubbed his nipples. Is it me or something about a man only able to feel maximum pleasure through nipple play frustrating.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-19T02:37:33+00:00

Yall got me mistaken, I like sluts. I'm just not bringing them to meet my mom.

Y615 · 2022-04-18T16:11:52+00:00

So it seems that until serial monogamy came along, for most of human history there was huge inequality in dating!

A system where the top males would take it all and polygyny was common.

There is even researched data where they show that twice the women have reproduced than men!

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/through-history-more-women-have-reproduced-men-180952840/

So I wonder what did the left out males do to deal with sexual frustration since as soon as a man gets past puberty, he is so horny and testosterone is gushing through his body like anything!

Anardus · 2022-04-18T18:33:35+00:00

The housing market has gotten so ridiculous, I have to be a Digital Nomad for a year to afford a house and save.

On the bright side, my month in Budapest is wrapping up and it’s been great. Rent is 1k and everything is cheaper than SF

decoy88 · 2022-04-18T19:31:44+00:00

FUCKBOY FAILURES Exhibit C

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-04-18T22:08:10+00:00

Holding him isn’t enough anymore I need to live inside his skin tbh

tired_hillbilly · 2022-04-19T00:54:38+00:00

Q4ALL: Is there an agreed upon definition of what a high N count for a woman is?

bison5595 · 2022-04-19T02:54:55+00:00

Q4M: do you think you were given bad dating growing up?

FenaPugi · 2022-04-19T13:20:42+00:00

Day Eleventy-two of Song recommendations: Black puppy White puppy

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-19T12:53:04+00:00

Trans men give further insight into gendered traits

The whole decisive thing, makes sense. So many women I know are so indecisive about stuff and unsure of the decision they end up taking.

I mean, they have no reason to be so unsure. They struggle to trust themselves.

Not sure how much competency is assumed if you are a man. But hey I'd be blind to it.

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-19T12:51:33+00:00

I've never seen men act like women around luxury. It's interesting how much most girls love the lifestyle of comfort, tailored experiences.

Personally I see it and feel like it's all overpriced traps made to take money away from the rich. Lots of guys seem to value expensive hotels, clothes, accessories extrinsically in terms of how it helps him get status, love, etc while it seems more intrinsic for women.

dbz19 · 2022-04-19T12:48:40+00:00

What are the official FDS traits of a "HVM"?

From what I've gathered, it's basically.

pays for dates
commitment-minded
physically attractive and tall
not insecure about her past
somewhat feminist-minded

Anything to add?

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-19T12:28:16+00:00

Is there an example of women “hating men for showing emotions” that doesn’t include the man throwing a tantrum?

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Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-04-18T17:53:49+00:00

Asheville has some pretty decent looking girls for my tastes

But I'm not sure my niche(s) would do very well here

poppy_blu · 2022-04-18T18:16:37+00:00

Remind me again how you SEE deleted comments?

decoy88 · 2022-04-18T18:25:13+00:00

u/techr0nin now THIS is what a STRAW MAN is!

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-18T19:55:37+00:00

I miss my gym in Amsterdam. It had some serious eye candy. Sigh.

Ainsleygz · 2022-04-18T19:57:24+00:00

Do Americans actually wear their outside shoes inside the house or is that a tv myth?

empresa_josefina · 2022-04-18T20:02:50+00:00

Lots of marriage/alimony/divorce discussion so let’s put some numbers around it.

Let’s take a couple where the man makes 100k and the woman makes 50k. Let’s say he pays for the wedding.

Wedding should be 10% of annual income, so 10k.

The unconditional divorce rate is 50%, but this guy makes 6 figures and presumably has high education so let’s say it’s 30%.

For simplicity he pays half his income in alimony upon divorce. Median length of marriage before divorce is 8 years. He pays alimony in perpetuity

At a discount rate of 3-4 percent, the value of his alimony payments upon divorce is 50k/.035 = 1.4M. However he only has a 30% chance of divorce (430k), and we need to further discount from year 8 to today. The present value of 430k at 3.5% is $325k.

In other words, if this guy approached an insurance company the night before his wedding and asked them to pay any and all potential alimony payments, they would ask for 325k upfront. The wedding only costs 10k. For context, the average cost of raising a child to adulthood is 230k in the US.

I made lots of assumptions: perpetual alimony, 3.5% discount rate and no growth in income, no premarital assets, no child support, and a 50% alimony from him which implies a SAHM. However no matter how you slice it, the financial risk of divorce is orders of magnitude above the cost of the wedding, even for a guy with a “low” divorce rate.

That 325k cost of divorce? It would generate 12k in interest if invested, or $1000 a month. Enough for a sugar baby outside of mega-expensive metro areas. So on the pure basis of sex he should be indifferent between marriage and sugar babies. A sexless marriage ending in divorce is about the worst financial outcome.

Please vet your potential spouses carefully especially if you are wealthier than them.

Edit: I did not consider taxes at all either.

lulll · 2022-04-18T20:12:27+00:00

im not a big fan of women with 3 tits tbh

Yukbghhjj · 2022-04-18T20:37:33+00:00

Would you fuck the gender bent version of yourself?

321gumby · 2022-04-18T20:58:44+00:00

Yea maybe in a little bit. I need to learn some things from this one. And pick better next time

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-04-18T21:02:29+00:00

About a month ago my wife and I had a discussion:

If you marry someone who has kids (and maybe end up having one of your own), would you view it as the fact you joined a family that has already been created, or would you see it as you building your own family with the spouse and kids involved?

cx456f · 2022-04-18T21:04:21+00:00

Had a pretty short but intense period where I hooked up with this girl like 5 times over a week or two. Went our separate ways on good terms. Now she’s seeing a different guy but I’ve been hanging around in her DMs. Thought this would be more fun and scandalous but instead i kind of feel like a simp. She kind of flirts a little bit, but not worth ego stroking this girl forever with slim chance of ever hooking up again. I don’t know how people start affairs and shit, this is insufferable.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-04-18T21:27:55+00:00

For those who lived in remote places such as Hawai'i, how long did it take for you to get sick and tired of living there (aside from the cost of living)?

CrabMaster- · 2022-04-18T21:40:44+00:00

What are some decent holiday destinations? I'd be there for a month, I was thinking of Europe because of how easy it is to get from one country to another while there.

I have a shit ton of leave built up and they're gonna make me take some soon. I was looking at Monaco for the GP but I don't feel like paying 20k weekly for a studio.

I like sports, drinking and jumping off tall shit.

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-04-18T22:32:48+00:00

To men who don’t want high n-count women. How are you finding out her n-count? I presume asking her? If it is by asking, at what point do you raise this question? Date 1? 3 months in?

LKphd · 2022-05-08T10:01:27+00:00

[Academic] [Repost] Do you CLASH with your partner? (18+, must be in current relationship with partner who is also willing to participate)
Do you CLASH with your partner?
Couples are needed for the Couple CLASH study!
Researchers from Deakin University in Australia are seeking to track couples over time to identify what combination of factors cause some couples to clash and others to thrive. Couple CLASH is a study dealing with issues around Conflict, Love, Attitudes, Stress and Hardships (CLASH).
Couples who choose to participate will complete 5 surveys over a 12-month period. Each survey is expected to take approximately 40 minutes. You and your partner will be asked about your experiences in relationships, current life stress, substance use, pornography use, attitudes, and aspects of your personalities.
Participate with your partner and share a total of 3.5 hours of your time over 12-months and at the completion of the entire study, couples will receive:
free access to an internationally acclaimed online couples therapy program
expert tips for enriching your relationship, and
a $60 AUD gift voucher (per couple)
Participants who are currently living in Australia are also invited to take part in a video-recorded discussion task at the start and the end of the study. This is an optional activity and you will receive an additional $40AUD gift voucher (per couple) if you choose to take part in the video-recorded discussion tasks. Please see our website for more information.
Whether you are only completing the surveys or you are living in Australia and choose to also take part in the discussion tasks, you and your partner must both be willing and able to participate, over the age of 18, fluent in English and not currently subject to criminal proceedings. You must also feel safe in your relationship and not feel at risk of harm or punishment from participating in the study.
Head to scienceofadultrelationships.org/couple-clash to find out more or take our screening questionnaire to find out if you’re eligible to take part!
Screening questionnaire: https://researchsurveys.deakin.edu.au/jfe/form/SV\_b70d9f4gIsCrjMi

LKphd · 2022-05-25T03:13:36+00:00

[Academic] Do you CLASH with your partner? (18+, must be in current relationship with partner who is also willing to participate)
Do you CLASH with your partner?
Couples are needed for the Couple CLASH study!
Researchers from Deakin University in Australia are seeking to track couples over time to identify what combination of factors cause some couples to clash and others to thrive. Couple CLASH is a study dealing with issues around Conflict, Love, Attitudes, Stress and Hardships (CLASH).
Couples who choose to participate will complete 5 surveys over a 12-month period. Each survey is expected to take approximately 40 minutes. You and your partner will be asked about your experiences in relationships, current life stress, substance use, pornography use, attitudes, and aspects of your personalities.
Participate with your partner and share a total of 3.5 hours of your time over 12-months and at the completion of the entire study, couples will receive:
free access to an internationally acclaimed online couples therapy program
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SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-18T18:25:04+00:00

There are women who thrive off of NRE. It's like methadone for them. They literally will just branch swing as soon as it wears off. Is there a male version of this?

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2022-04-18T19:10:02+00:00

I created an OLD profile for the first time in four years just to see what's out there. For reference, 31M swiping on a range of 24-33F.

Holy shit y'all the wall is real.

Yukbghhjj · 2022-04-18T19:21:23+00:00

Ask me anything

gold_boy36 · 2022-04-18T16:58:40+00:00

How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?

Please state if you are a man or a woman when answering this question.

For women. Please also state whether your current partner or bf is your best or biggest (size) ever lover. If they are not then where do they rank? Do you feel disappointed if they are not as good as your ex? Do you think they or men in general should care that they’re not your best? If so or not then why should they or shouldn’t they care? What made your best your best? (size, technique, role play etc). Why aren’t you with your best?

Men. How much does it matter to you? Why does it matter to you?

Bonus question for both. How can you tell if you are a woman’s best lover ever? (assuming she’s not a virgin or has had at least one other partner).

Guitar-Master9891 · 2022-04-18T23:29:33+00:00

I went to the bar last Friday to met with a girl friend I haven't seen in like a year and a half. I get there and she's with her sister. They are 10 and 8 years younger than I respectively, (22 and 24) and quite hot.

I take sit and they start giggling and flirting hard and making the helicopter move with the tail of their hair. I tell them if they are going to rape me at least don't make it obvious before time. They laugh. The waitress is jealous. She starts looking at me from afar and ask us if we are ok every five minutes, but only looking at me. Do I look like I'm having a bad time ma'am?

I run into a female coworker, she says "I wonder what do girls see in you?". You need to pussy block her dude, think fast. "IDK, you know, I'm kinda shy (I'm not) may be it's that?". She says something like "may be you are not shy, but you hidin something". Ok lady, I gotta go.

Night goes on, I drop a glass of beer on my pants. Ok I screwed it up, this is the worst stuff that has happened me on a... Date? One of the girls grabs some napkings and start rubbing my balls. Ok this is too much. I tell them I go to the bathroom. The waitress intercepts me half way like a fucking velociraptor and hands me her phone number.

I clean myself, get out. Who's there? My fucking fiancee. FUCK. She invites me to the girls table but I tell her I'm with... Well you know, those two young hot bombshells right there... And may be the waitress. She says "cool, have a good night then but don't drink too much". She gives me a kiss and a hugh and walks away.

Conflicted.

I feel like my dick isn't where it's supposed to be anymore, like if all these women teamed up to chop my masculinity and split the spoils of war or something you know.

What happened here? I still can't put my finger on why I feel like I feel.

BTW, why do women have to do the helicopter move all the time. Do you realize it's fucking annoying? WHY DO YOU DO THAT!!!

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-04-19T12:25:24+00:00

Thank god mask mandates on planes are ending. That’s the only place the last year and a half I have worn them. Those attendants are narcs

dbz19 · 2022-04-19T12:23:47+00:00

Does society think positively or negatively of a man who never wants to get married and settle down, and wants to "play the field" forever? I feel like women subconsciously hate such a man, but is he really doing anything wrong?

Fine_Ad5151 · 2022-04-19T12:22:08+00:00

I found a new rabbit hole to go down

Keeping it real in 1961

CrabMaster- · 2022-04-19T12:01:16+00:00

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Syrianchadisisman · 2022-04-19T11:47:36+00:00

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rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-19T11:24:10+00:00

Imagine being 55 And still be able to move like this

CrabMaster- · 2022-04-19T11:17:41+00:00

Tomorrow's our last sunny day before 10 straight days of rain.

Shouldn't have shit talked Canada.

Might have to ditch work and hit the beach.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-19T11:06:51+00:00

Sales translates to dating almost 1:1

GridReXX · 2022-04-19T10:54:08+00:00

Because a misogynist is just a man who treats women how they treat each other.

I would say a “misogynist” is just a man who treats women how men treat each other.

And a “misandrist” is just a woman who views men how men view each other.

dbz19 · 2022-04-19T09:46:51+00:00

promise to stop talking about n count cause I don’t wanna upset people any more

open thread

literally EVERYONE is just talking about N count

So, uh, how was your day?

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-04-19T08:28:42+00:00

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decoy88 · 2022-04-19T08:04:59+00:00

PPD’ers nightmare…

I was not honest with him in the past about how much I enjoyed MFM threesomes. I was not totally honest about how promiscuous I had been either, but more by omission than anything. I didn't want him to think I was a "slut" and I was ashamed of my past. He knew somewhat though, and had certainly heard rumors. I thought he would jump at it because he was also promiscuous before marriage and enjoyed sex with lots of women and has a high sex drive and wants to try new things.

Besides, he was the one who had brought up the possibility in the past. I am now realizing he may not have been as promiscuous and as open as I thought, to be honest.

Ambitious-Koala- · 2022-04-19T07:59:17+00:00

What do you call the move when a girl thinks that she'll not be able to make you happy and breaks it up herself first before giving you the chance to break up?

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-19T07:31:52+00:00

This quote I found about Steve Harvey honestly describes alot of men in PPD: “Steve is a bad human being, and instead of trying to become a better man, he tries to convince the world all men are as bad as he is, so he'll seem less bad.”

It’s no wonder criticizing bad men here gets you called a misandranist because alot of men here truly believe all men terrible. So obviously to them, hating terrible men = hating all men.

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-04-19T07:21:43+00:00

i’m convinced PPD is literally a self-pity circle jerk for lots of men on this sub

decoy88 · 2022-04-18T18:38:41+00:00

Took me a while before realising that anonymously recieving a “A concerned redditor reached out to us about you.” PM is the new work-around way of Redditors telling me to self-delete. Pretty fucked up and pathetic but 🤷🏾‍♂️ it’s the Internet whatcha gonna do?

EDIT: aww dang! I’m breaking my own rule and snitching!

GridReXX · 2022-04-18T21:08:39+00:00

Some men get in an uproar about women not wanting to date men who sleep with men, in the same way some women get in an uproar about men not wanting to date women who sleep with men.

Sounds like dick is the problem!

rivetcitymayor · 2022-04-18T22:52:50+00:00

In reference to what the napoleon complex guy said

I think it’s a huge cope women created that guys who are attractive to them also don’t care about their body count.

You’ll get fucked regardless of the number, however it’s most definitely a factor in MOST men’s mind when evaluating if they’ll give you a ring or a title. Some care more than others.

But the whole only incels care is stupid as fuck

FACTS

annabeelongx · 2022-04-18T16:50:24+00:00

Welps I lost about 8 pounds in a month and already freaking jeans look extremely baggy on me. But at least I’m almost ready for crop-top season.

DonQOnIce · 2022-04-18T19:12:20+00:00

Women fear/have disdain for pickmes whereas Men just pity simps

SKY_ACTIV3 · 2022-04-18T23:27:49+00:00

Damn, I showed up just in time for n-count week huh

John_Oakman · 2022-04-19T00:18:15+00:00

"Perfect" is the enemy of "good enough".

GridReXX · 2022-04-18T19:34:53+00:00

Continuing on about Black American culture, here’s some cool nerdy ish.

W.E.B. du Bois published The Philadelphia Negro via University of Pennsylvania in 1899.

He then went to the Paris World Fair to discuss his analysis and social commentary.

Part of his presentation included some pretty cool data viz:

W. E. B. Du Bois' Hand-Drawn Infographics of African-American Life (1900)

bighuddi · 2022-04-18T20:54:44+00:00

maintain the absence of my maidens name, from the cavernous depths of your dreadful gullet!!!!!!!!!!!

CliffPR · 2022-04-18T22:38:09+00:00

Had a lot of fun at my hobby event this weekend but as predicted met no dateable ladies.

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2022-04-19T03:04:01+00:00

I just now unsubscribed from Rich Cooper's youtube channel (Entrepreneurs in Cars). Not because I disagree with the broad red pill message. But I was getting sick of all his recycled content, his general bitterness and anger that seeps through in all his videos, the way he belittles the guys who send him emails or call-ins asking for help, his bullsh*t supplements that he's constantly plugging at the end of every video (I've never bought any of his products).

It's a shame because I used to like his channel. Does anyone else feel this way?

bighuddi · 2022-04-19T03:04:51+00:00

why are 5'9 women allowed to call themselves tall but 6'0 men aren't? are we a separate species?

decoy88 · 2022-04-19T07:12:33+00:00

u/blamesway1738 makes a good point in his comment. And summarises something better than I did.

I think women vastly overestimate their ability to detect male behaviors. So much of what they use to factor mates from astrology, dress sense or "vibe" is just blatant stereotyping or laughably superficial judgments. "Polite and Well Mannored = He's Weak" "Below 5'10 = Can't Protect Me", "Disrespectful and Abusive = Knows how to put me in my place".

The labelling is crazy prejudice and often a terrible vetting method. The thing is I see men talk the same shit on this sub using the same dumbass surface-level judgements on entire characters in their “logic”.

People are systemisers. Dependent on categories so much they crave stereotypes informing their entire worldview.

When a person talks about dating in stereotypes too much I start to doubt their level of experience with members of the opposite sex.

GridReXX · 2022-04-19T05:47:28+00:00

I grew up saying “brolic” to mean someone who is super strong or swole.

Just now realizing it’s derived from the Dragon Ball Z character Broly.

The chokehold DBZ had on us inner city youth needs to be studied.

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-04-19T05:19:30+00:00

for the men who have sex or who have had sex, do you actually care about getting your partner off or is it not a major concern for you? serious responses please.

kingfuckheadgen · 2022-04-19T05:07:49+00:00

How do I encourage my male friend to think about me in a sexual manner?

ChessClubChick · 2022-04-18T19:22:54+00:00

What’s the point of marriage when people’s looks hold out for a decade or so max? Who wants to fuck an old man/woman? It’s gross.

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