When my mom got divorced from my dad she was an overweight single mom in her 30s. Not exactly the most desirable, right? Yet she started dating a nice, Christian guy who didn't have a lot of experience before probably because of confidence issues as a result of a minor disability. (just to be clear this disability does not affect his every day life in any significant way, but it was enough to make him scared to approach women I guess). A lot of her friends who were also divorced literally told her that she was too good for him because he "looked old". (in reality he's not much older, just got white hair earlier than most) She ignored them and now they have been together for more than 15 years and while their relationship is not my cup of tea, they look content with each other. My stepdad has a heart of gold and I respect him even though he's too much of a pushover for my taste. Meanwhile, most of my mom's divorced friends who were telling her she was too good for him just stayed single after a series of failed relationships.

What does this teach us? Even fat, single moms can land a man with a genuinely good heart if they stop having absurd standards. Women who continuously date assholes either really like assholes or they have absurd standards and aim higher than they should.