Dating subs on reddit are extremely gynocentric and create unhealthy and unrealistic viewpoints on dating

SnooSprouts1580 · 2021-06-30T21:54:51+00:00

Reddit is more for entertainment than intellectually honest discussion.

redditradishman · 2021-06-30T21:08:39+00:00

It ain't just the dating subs...

DynamicCrab · 2021-06-30T22:29:17+00:00

These subs also have a very strict rule for '' no generalizing an entire gender '' but they let women generalize men daily.

Liberal_On_Guns · 2021-06-30T21:57:55+00:00

This has been my experience with reddit in its entirety. Further, it's why you generally don't trust female dating advice. Classic examples:

"Just be yourself"
"Just be patient, there's someone special out their for you"
"Don't be a creep"

They just don't understand men. Then people wonder how ideas like RP, movements like MGTOW, and people like PUAs take off in popularity? They offer men tangible, objective, and measurable steps to improvement.

Another funny notion is the feminine response to PUA by the way. On one hand, the techniques are stupid and would never work... but on the other hand, the techniques are so emotionally manipulative (i.e. effective) that the woman's very consent is called into question.

That's the beautiful thing about working in objective reality. If a technique or tactic didn't work, it would get tossed out.

richlad · 2021-07-01T05:45:04+00:00

Women call eyeliner, foundation, concealer used judiciously "no makeup"

Only blown clown or pancake makeup is what they agree makeup is.

So no wonder women think men are not able to tell difference between makeup and no makeup.

Lots of women have bad skin made even using concealer and foundation. If you see them one day without makeup, you'll seriously start feeling sooo lucky.

I am a man who takes care of my face as a result I don't have pigmentation, patches or anything and my skin is always bright but most women do not have this luxury they look like they don't even wash their face twice a day without makeup lol

cvslengthbucketlist · 2021-06-30T21:43:30+00:00

Women on the sub will call men creepy for dating younger women, and the men who respond, often saying they are looking for experience matches, will have their comments removed.

Yeah that's probably the most divisive dating issue especially among 30+ dating subs, not just age-gap shaming but one-sided age-gap shaming.

Also the part about "experience match" is spot on, people use that as a reason for why age difference in a relationship is problematic (which it can be), but they somehow conveniently forget that this argument also works against them. Or just lack the empathy to realize that an older person (man or woman) can have less dating or even life experience than the younger.

nothatyoucare · 2021-07-01T11:31:42+00:00

Datingoverthirty is super guilty of this. Plus I think a lot of guys know better than to discuss their dating issues online and do it just among friends and they know they won't be taken as seriously.

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2021-06-30T21:51:31+00:00

It's Reddit. Everything is very left leaning and gynocentric. Subs like r/relationships determine whether you are in the right or wrong depending on your gender identity. They have been deleting and banning other viewpoints for years.

spenc30 · 2021-06-30T21:29:26+00:00

agreed, any big subreddit is bound to have poor quality content, maybe a few good posts every now and then but generally it's not worth looking at.

realadvicenobs · 2021-06-30T21:49:35+00:00

the problem with dating subs is its a bunch of men and women fighting about who has it harder dating

when in reality if the men and women were good looking, they wouldn't be complaining.

KickKathleeenKennedy · 2021-06-30T21:41:26+00:00

First off, I think the vast majority of people don’t use that sub for dating Advice- they use it for validation.

“this guy that I’ve been seeing for 3 dates told me he hit his ex wife and ended up in jail. Is that a red flag?”

Half the posts are common sense red flags and the other posts are “dating is so hard. Who else is giving up?!” I think most of these people don’t have in real life friends and use that sub to discuss matters you would discuss with your friends.

I’ll be honest- I’ve even posted there a few times but I never was seeking advice (despite asking a question) I really just wanted validation to know I was doing the “right” thing because it’s harder to admit when relationships don’t work, you also contributed to it. No one wants to be the bad guy nowadays.

People don’t like pain. If people actually had self awareness and reflected on their actions, we wouldn’t need a validation subreddit. But that’s asking too much of people.

Lastly… just take a look at the clients on that board. I’ve seen like 2 good looking dudes, the rest of the people are single for a reason. They think their hard cut rules (if you don’t text me back in 2 hours NEXT) make them high value or something. It’s quite sad

FinallyReborn · 2021-07-01T04:06:35+00:00

Any form of relationship/advice subreddit is known to have a strong bias against men.

There was an actual study done not that long ago that experimented the moral judgements of men/women on multiple subreddits.

In r/relationship_advice, they found that being male is associated with a 35% increase in receiving a negative judgement. Similarly, in r/relationships being male is associated with a 46% increase in receiving a negative judgement.

^{Analysis of Moral Judgement on Reddit}
https://arxiv.org/abs/2101.07664

Another study was made for r/AmItheAsshole and they found again, moral bias towards women, meaning this pattern is repeatable.

^\OC] r-/AmITheAsshole - Asshole percentage by age and sex) https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/i4brne/oc_ramitheasshole_asshole_percentage_by_age_and/

Honestly, as a dude on Reddit you may as well swap the genders around if you wanted actual advice that isn't ridden with negative bias.

TheDevilPutD · 2021-07-01T06:14:41+00:00

Do you really expect a bunch of old hags to be happy that men prefer the young stuff?

lulll · 2021-06-30T23:55:08+00:00

this is actually one of the better subs for that content but you still have to censor yourself because it still leans towards worshiping women too much. say one little thing that questions the behavior of women on other subs and you're likely to get warned/banned/whatever, but its totally fine if you do the same thing towards men. it's disgusting, but not surprising, reddit and other places like it trained everyone to shame you for daring to question the behavior of women and making believe they are the arbiters of all things Good

801735 · 2021-06-30T22:09:10+00:00

r/datingoverthirty

Sounds like the fun kind of sadness.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-07-01T01:34:51+00:00

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suck_it_69 · 2021-06-30T23:29:16+00:00

Have you be to r/femaledatingstrategy?

yvaN_ehT_nioJ · 2021-07-01T12:15:33+00:00

4chan has a great disclaimer that's appropriate here:

>The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood.

>Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.

midwestufohunter · 2021-06-30T21:26:16+00:00

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LowCreddit · 2021-06-30T22:10:03+00:00

The mass majority of men are of course saying we prefer no makeup

Most can't. I know I didn't when I first dated women wearing makeup. I said the same things until I realized that a lot of women use a "no makeup" makeup style. I don't think the comments should be removed or downvoted, but it should be explained to them what is actually happening.

mantapacktribe · 2021-07-01T01:02:13+00:00

While many of the womens comments saying that men cant tell if women are wearing make up are rising to the top.

thats true tho. i've noticed many other men are completely oblivious if a woman has light natural style make up. i only started to notice after i started watching make up tutorials and also watching my female partners apply their own make up.

pimoflex69 · 2021-07-01T14:58:57+00:00

Women all about lived experience and anecdotes until it's a man's perspective

midwestufohunter · 2021-06-30T21:58:50+00:00

Reddit is 70% male.

TheChocolateBarsGuy · 2021-06-30T22:29:42+00:00

Dating over 30 is a place where post wall women complain and simps clap for them

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-06-30T21:01:15+00:00

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erice3r · 2021-06-30T23:05:24+00:00

What is the male version of “gynocentric”?

Safe_Arachnid_5254 · 2021-07-01T01:59:17+00:00

Happened to me. I got instabanned after my first comment.

SaBahRub · 2021-06-30T21:10:14+00:00

Why is it gynocentric?

The post about makeup is true — most men can’t tell when a woman is wearing minimal or “natural” makeup — and why would they? That’s helpful information to men who are actually interested in the truth about women’s appearance and presentation

As is the age gap relationship post — most women don’t like them because they have often experienced them or been pursued for one, which is a good thing for a man to consider if he wants to date a significantly younger woman

If hearing the viewpoint of half of humanity, particularly the half of humanity you’re trying to get something from, is so awful and damaging, you should probably leave those subs

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-07-01T02:29:39+00:00

Men being more likely to break sub rules doesn’t make things “gynocentric.” Maybe being predominantly female does, but the rest of Reddit is mostly male so... just join a different sub if you don’t feel it’s very relevant to you.

And yeah, sorry but most men do not prefer no makeup and often don’t notice natural looking makeup. That’s why those comments are being downvoted. It’s like if a woman came to this sub and said “all I want is a nice guy.” Men feel like that’s a lie because it is a half lie, most women want a nice guy who’s also decent looking and confident. Women feel like “I prefer no makeup” is a lie because it’s a half lie, most men can’t tell when women are wearing natural makeup and actually prefer women in makeup as long as it’s not way too much. Women would not have been wearing makeup for all these years if men didn’t like it.

OrganicHedgehog8483 · 2021-07-01T11:10:59+00:00

Yeah no shit, dating on the internet is made so that women can cherry pick the top of the top without giving normal dudes a side glance

PM_ME_STRIPPERS · 2021-07-04T04:59:16+00:00

datingoverthirty = fatsinglehypergamouswomenwhorefusetodatedown

Kentucky_Supreme · 2021-07-05T20:45:35+00:00

Gynocentric is basically the same thing as "Blue pill", right?

I've been banned from all of the dating advice subs simply for bringing up how much easier women can meet men. Apparently it makes you an "incel" if you're statistically literate and can accurately interpret online dating statistics and observe reality.

Those mods will ban you for saying things that they don't like. I don't understand how they expect to develop subs with accurate advice of they can't even acknowledge simple facts of reality.

That's why all you ever see in those subs is "just be yourself, just be confident, etc." I think the average person in THIS sub is aware enough to realize that advice like that only works for women. Those mods' heads are too far up their asses to allow for any advice of substantial efficacy to ever come out of those subs.

Mimoxs · 2021-06-30T22:51:08+00:00

A man on reddit: "hey the way my gf chews kinda annoys me what do?"

Reddit: "sorry man it's for your own good you don't need that kind of toxicity in your life, move on"

A woman on reddit: "hey so my bf hid a criminal history from me, stole $300 and threatened to kill my dog in front of me should I dump him?"

Reddit: "everyone makes mistakes. Have you tried communicating? Are you sure you're being open about your feelings with him? Maybe couples therapy"

superlurkage · 2021-06-30T22:16:07+00:00

I had no idea that the thoughts and experiences of the gender most men are trying to date are “unhealthy and unrealistic”. Men obviously know more about being a woman than women do

ItWasAlwaysOver · 2021-07-01T14:13:23+00:00

dating in general is gynocentric...infact society as a whole is gynocentric. it's inevitable that you'll see shit like this on reddit and there isn't much you can do about it until our culture as a whole stops being gynocentric. it's just the norm right now; the default.

mimblezimble · 2021-07-01T01:07:57+00:00

Women on the sub will call men creepy for dating younger women

That is one of the many good reasons why I converted to Islam.

We are 2 billion people to think otherwise. The prophet himself gave us an excellent example, for us to emulate whenever we can.

Of course, the gynocentrists could try to criticize him, but I leave it up to the most extreme individuals in our fantastically useful faith to deal with that in any way they see fit.

Religion is as much a surprisingly useful tool as a lofty goal in itself!

chubbybutt22 · 2021-06-30T21:47:43+00:00

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mrz0loft · 2021-07-01T04:09:43+00:00

Including this sub lol

Physiologist21 · 2021-07-01T04:55:28+00:00

There sure is, but ironically it doesn't do anything but hurt themselves. Reality always wins.

Shirts_Pants · 2021-06-30T21:57:35+00:00

Not the biggest shock since society is gynocentric in general.

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wtknight · 2021-06-30T23:38:08+00:00

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vial_of_music · 2021-07-01T15:44:27+00:00

Wait people didn’t already know this? Read any relationship post ever, obviously those people are not super bright. Why would I take them seriously

0112358f · 2021-07-01T16:51:04+00:00

Men claiming they don't like makeup are the equivalent of women saying they just like nice guys.

A quick look at reality shows it's bullshit.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-07-01T17:01:40+00:00

/r/Datingoverthirty was started for women in the first place, look at the history of the sub Mr. Nobody.

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2021-07-01T18:16:01+00:00

Feminists are utterly fragile. This badass 'know your worth' schtick on FDS is a prime example; utterly reeks of insecure fragility.

0seagirl · 2021-07-01T09:17:51+00:00

The mass majority of men are of course saying we prefer no makeup, and are being downvoted, or outright having comments removed. While many of the womens comments saying that men cant tell if women are wearing make up are rising to the top.

The women are right though.

PsychologicalPay2353 · 2021-07-01T08:39:55+00:00

You're madsad that the reality the men impose on women's dating standards is now affecting your ability to exercise your perversions on them?

raphaellastorm · 2021-07-01T03:07:17+00:00

What is an “experience match”?

throwaway3649_ · 2021-07-01T06:25:55+00:00

TIL real life is a dating sub on reddit

Zevluvxxx · 2021-07-01T08:02:47+00:00

What are “experience matches?”

neetykeeno · 2021-07-01T10:52:04+00:00

A lot of men indeed can't seem to tell if a woman is wearing makeup...so much so that whining about makeup being a form of lying is a constant hum from male voices on Reddit. Why would you ban someone for saying something about men that men are persistently saying about themselves?

goblin_champ · 2021-07-01T11:31:05+00:00

Outside of the pill subreddits and the few others, reddit is bluepilled. And bluepill nowadays is the same as being gynocentric.

It helps the guys with common sense to eventually find rp though.

Title	Dating subs on reddit are extremely gynocentric and create unhealthy and unrealistic viewpoints on dating
Author	MrNobody512
Upvotes	300
Comments	539
Date	June 30, 2021 8:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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