When You’re On a Date with a Woman, She Usually Has 3 Other Guys Already

Disastrous-Chart-928 · 2025-01-17T22:44:22+00:00

I hear this all the time now, for the men that are dropping out of dating anyway. I've genuinely lost count on how many times I've heard guys saying they can't be bothered because the girls they're talking to are talking to several guys. In the west the average young woman is talking to numerous guys whereas the average guy is lucky to even to be talking to one, it's just bizarre.

Even in relationships there's a huge double standard, women can and will vocally complain to their partners if they're talking to a member of the opposite sex, whereas if a man does it's insecurity.

Don't let these women lie to you, if these guys are outside of your bfs friend group they're most likely back up options, or she's at the very least emotionally cheating.

Zabadoodude · 2025-01-17T17:53:41+00:00

A problem with dating is that the women that love the feeling of dating new guys are wildly overrepresented. They're on all the apps, at the bars, smiling at guys glancing at them, etc. Most women aren't juggling 3 guys, but there's a decent chance the woman that's made herself available to you is.

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-01-17T18:36:30+00:00

Multi-dating is still terrible and the idea of "not putting all your eggs in one basket" is terrible. It turns people into objects and options, which is again terrible.

While I agree with you that this is something a man looking for an LTR should pay special attention to, I also think that men should avoid such women at all costs.

Turning the search for a sincere love relationship into a competition between "options" is crap and any self-respecting man or woman should be afraid of and avoid it.

SeaworthinessSea2407 · 2025-01-17T16:35:10+00:00

Barring the many assumptions made in this post that may or may not hold any water, this is why you don't put your eggs in one basket until you have the exclusivity conversation. If its obvious you're on a roster, your date is not very tactful and you should probably keep your options open as well

Ockwords · 2025-01-17T18:29:28+00:00

I am not attacking women or calling them bad or promiscuous in this post.

You literally said a significant amount of women are cheating on their bf or fucking 3 separate guys while online dating lol

wtknight · 2025-01-17T16:35:12+00:00

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Xev-R-Us · 2025-01-17T17:37:55+00:00

This entire thread is:

OP: My personal experience = fact.

Others: How can you possibly assert that 20% of all dating women are cheating?

OP: Did you not read my post? I explained exactly who these people are that these women are cheating with from my personal experience! Obviously it's true.

Arievan · 2025-01-17T17:21:48+00:00

I don't understand why redpill men are encouraged to "spin plates" but if a woman has any other option but you, she's bad?? Ok for me but not for thee

No_Curve6292 · 2025-01-18T01:20:08+00:00

I don’t date very much(at all really) but I always assume every woman has at least 2 guys she’s talking to at any given time until she picks one. The truth is that as a man you are most likely gonna be competing against those guys plus all the other guys that are gonna be hitting on her.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-01-17T17:08:39+00:00

“This is not every woman”

Oh, so what’s the point of this made up assumption?

Everyone already knows that women have options, this is just woman fanfiction.

rejected-again · 2025-01-17T21:05:28+00:00

Sounds like you like to date whores.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2025-01-17T16:41:47+00:00

Why are you still going out with these women?

TongueTiedPDX · 2025-01-17T16:23:58+00:00

20% of my dates she was still living with her boyfriend, married, or cheating

This has to say something about who you are asking out...

Every_Pirate_7471 · 2025-01-17T16:25:23+00:00

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-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-01-17T17:22:38+00:00

yes the west had a sexual revolution in the 60s and western women are psychosexually emancipated. you should probably all go back to whatever primitive cultures you come from or want to join and leave us alone

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2025-01-17T16:40:20+00:00

This is great advice for guys who are new to redpill spaces because this has never occurred to them.

In reality (and what I go by) is YOU NEVER KNOW her situation, regardless of how she presents to you. Always keep in mind she could have any number of these dudes. You don’t know till you do

Anyways no reason why you can’t eclipse them all in one date and be her new crush. Shoot your shot!!

G4M35 · 2025-01-17T18:17:19+00:00

Guy 1: Her ex..

some, but not all

Guy 1: .. still living with her boyfriend, married, or cheating behind his back to try and monkey branch...

Insignificant minority

Guy 2: Her situationship

Very common to have 1 or 2 FWBs

Guy 3: Her backup.

Common, but she doesn't have sex with him.

Welcome to 2025, and this has been going on for at least a couple of decades.

Don't complain, use The Force.

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SkinnerBoxBaddie · 2025-01-17T16:39:46+00:00

If even 20% of women had a harem like this there wouldn’t be enough lonely men to complain about how they never get laid

Realistic-Ad-1023 · 2025-01-17T17:18:29+00:00

Most women do not have other men. Absolutely not. Perhaps very beautiful women do, i dont know. I’ve at best been a 7. But normal, average, every day women? No. They get oneitis. They get off the app the moment she likes you. Three dates in and she’s asking you to DTR. I actually encourage women to date like men. Date as many men as you can to build connections and relationships and pick the best from them all. And he should be doing the same and pick the best from his bunch. And if you pick each other - congrats you’re in a relationship now.

But most people don’t juggle or spin plates. Most get hung up on one person at a time. It’s why women ghost on dating apps. They talk to 10 dudes, one asks her out at the right time and she says off of the apps until this dude breaks up with her. I dont know what planet yall live on, but it isn’t earth.

KamuiObito · 2025-01-17T18:22:41+00:00

Thats why your only supposed to be trying to fuck. The romantic feelings only comes after she shows alot of interest in you. Women are not reliable people in that regard kinda gotta trap them in a mental game.

Guy number 2 is doing the right thing. Keep thinks casual. Put yourself over others. Cuz thats literally their whole plan.

Odd-Fun-9557 · 2025-01-17T16:43:44+00:00

Once again y’all just assume that women are drowning in dick playing multiple guys

flipsidetroll · 2025-01-17T18:12:01+00:00

Women, when you’re on a date with a woman, you are on a date with him and all his imaginary friends and personalities, especially if it’s a brainwashed Redpiller. Doesn’t matter if you actually have an ex or situationship. He’s gonna believe you do.

I’m not attacking them or calling them bad, but I actually am, because they are.

OP, if you make up scenarios in your head without knowing a thing about the woman you are meeting for a date, that’s called a mental disorder if you believe what you think. You are literally behaving exactly like feminists and their bear. And what you are doing is falsely accusing.

Late_Notice02 · 2025-01-17T16:44:01+00:00

And most guys don't? When I met my ex-fiancee and realized I wanted to be exclusive with her, I cut off 5 different women, including my ex lmao.

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GlumCareer8019 · 2025-01-17T21:31:00+00:00

I had 2 girlfriends who "forgot" about the others and got clingy. But yeah left them on their own for like 2 seconds and they were cheating and it was my fault. I don't have a job where I can bring a wife along

Muscletov · 2025-01-18T06:58:34+00:00

To be fair, the guys who get a lot of dates, especially on online dating, tend to have options as well.

SolidSnake82 · 2025-01-18T07:35:33+00:00

I think it is unfair to say that most women sleep with multiple guys back and forth.

catdog8020 · 2025-01-17T22:05:09+00:00

Soooooooooo correct. I’ve seen this firsthand when I was at a bar. A woman who was on a bumble date with a man at the bar (she also kissed him at the bar during the date) walked in with her date and sat next to me and my friend. When her date went to the bathroom I asked her how she felt about the guy. She said that she liked him but was also dating other males and had more attraction to some of the other men she was dating. She said this like she was talking in a group meeting or presentation like it was like no big deal not taboo. But if I guy did it - it would be taboo but it’s ok for a woman to do it but not for a man lol.

Men need to know that some if not many women are Serial dating multiple men (not necessarily having sex with all these men but some if not many may be). It’s is the most dystopian sci fi horror movie in real life. A total karmic cycle, freaky Friday or the stepford husbands movie. Yes, women now act and date like the men in the 70s. For younger men out there, yes, many men in the 70s had many girlfriends and would date them all at the same time. Even ugly guys were chads back then. Nowadays it’s karma for men and women have become like men and the men have become like women. What a nightmare lol 😂.

We REALLY need to legalize prostitution in the USA to compensate for this demon possession that’s going on with woman nowadays it’s the most insane thing I have seen. lol 😂

SteveSan82 · 2025-01-18T03:52:07+00:00

You won’t believe how many married women have a number of side guys

wtknight · 2025-01-17T16:28:26+00:00

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Schleudergang1400 · 2025-01-17T17:39:10+00:00

It doesn't matter if this is true or not.

For the men for whom this information would be important, it's irrelevant, because they already fear that they are not the only one and the woman is having sex with other men, regardless of if they have evidence for it or not.

And men who do not care about with whom the woman has sex or situationships, fuck buddies, orbiters , etc. also do not care about the 3 other archetypes of guys you listed.

Did i forget someone in between?

Elliejq88 · 2025-01-17T18:53:05+00:00

Correction: when you're on a date with an *above average woman, she has 3 other men *interested in her.

MailenJokerbell · 2025-01-17T16:54:31+00:00

Man, you really need to date somewhere else if that's your experience

PracticalControl2179 · 2025-01-17T19:43:25+00:00

The average body count for women ages 18-45 is 4.

It’s hateful as hell to claim that most women are sleeping with 3-4 men at the same time behind the men’s backs.

The first date may not be exclusive. She may be dating/ talking to other people unless exclusivity is established. But that doesn’t mean she is sleeping with them or longingly pining after all of them.

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Cactus2711 · 2025-01-17T17:13:31+00:00

From my experience those numbers aren’t quite as extreme. Most women I meet for dates are as exhausted by dating as I am. Around half are dating more than one guy. The large majority want monogamy and to only focus on one guy they develop feelings for.

Dating has actually opened my eyes much more. Most women hate the dating process and want to get past it and into the relationship phase as soon as they like you.

2025-01-17T18:19:09+00:00

Get off the apps and go outside

AlmostKindaGreat · 2025-01-17T20:56:22+00:00

Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't.

I'm sure I've dated women who have had a situationship going on. Sometimes I've been the situationship while she's dating for a serious relationship. When she wants to be exclusive with someone else we part ways.

So this happens. Everybody knows it does. At the same time, not all women do it like this. Either way, why fixate on it? What good does it do a man to think about it?

What she wants from you is an instant connection, all the feels, lots of passion, so she forgets about the other 3 guys.

Ok, I agree with this. Women want to feel that "spark" or "chemistry" and they want to feel it fast. She's going to want this regardless of whether she has 3 specific guys she's juggling. Women all know they have dozens or hundreds of other options they could go on a date with at any time. The guy in front of them better be very intriguing or she's just going to move on and see what the next guy has to offer.

So yeah, focus on that part. Build attraction and sexual tension and do it fast, before she moves on. Whether she has other guys she's currently seeing or entertaining is irrelevant. Fixating on that just makes you bitter and distracts you from what you have to do to succed.

Desperate-Can-8729 · 2025-01-17T21:34:04+00:00

If you'd just have said 'May Have' instead of 'Usually Has' in the title, it could have been a pretty good post.

> Sharing a woman with other men is going to happen with dating, it’s inevitable. It’s a competition with other men, but you’re rarely the only guy with women who date.

This is true when casually dating for a longer span, but this is less than 30% of the Women in the dating market. It is more common than you'd think, but it's not the average woman at all.

PurplePillDebate-ModTeam · 2025-01-17T21:53:00+00:00

I mean...kinda?

Women have sexual needs and that doesn't go away when they're not not a committed relationship.

CrucialMilkHotel · 2025-01-17T23:10:01+00:00

Dating guys spin plates, dating women juggle up to these 4 men

Trying to understand your metaphors. What is the difference between spinning plates and juggling?

buckeyetree · 2025-01-17T23:20:27+00:00

God who has the TIME

CrowdedSeder · 2025-01-17T23:47:22+00:00

I’m a 65 year-old man. I am seeing this woman who is absolutely delightful! She is funny, smart and simply adorable. We have been on two dates and have been intimate twice. I asked her if she was ready to hide her profile she said it was too soon. That certainly means she has options. And it’s just so happens, I’ve had great luck dating. I can have two or three dates a week easily. If she said she was ready to go exclusive tonight I would dump my profile. But knowing how people dating have a short attention span, I am going to keep my options open for now.

GhostXmasPast342 · 2025-01-17T23:57:42+00:00

Sounds true to me. The guy on the date is competing with at least 4 other guys. The woman on the date is only competing with herself.

RoadHouseBanter · 2025-01-18T00:31:38+00:00

Was hardcore using dating apps (downloaded like 10 of them) last year for several months. Over that time, I dated 5 women, and none of them were juggling 3 men.

Hellarouge · 2025-01-18T01:19:33+00:00

If people can’t be friendly with their exes, they most likely shouldn’t consider having kids. Most relationships end in separation, so if you’re planning to have kids - non volatile, grown-up relationships where separations aren’t toxic and you can still be on good terms should be a green flag.
This sounds a little silly? I don’t know many women who have been in situationships after the age of 25.
Again, this sounds silly. No one has time for this nonsense alongside a career, social life and dating.
Where did you get this advice? Most women looking for something serious burn slow AF. Sure, sometimes we get carried away and jump ahead a little but generally we’re looking at long game if we’re dating and not just impulsively adding to cart.

TheLonerCoder · 2025-01-18T01:26:19+00:00

And? Most people who go on dates are seeing multiple people until they find one to settle in a relationship with. I usually see 2-5 different women at a time also over a period of weeks/months.

Throw-it-all-away85 · 2025-01-18T03:15:25+00:00

I think it should be 5/1 I want:

-.emotional supportive ex -work husband/colleague lover -guy in the city I visit often -guy who likes to sponsor my nights out with friends -guy on the date who’s day I wanted to make

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xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-01-18T16:27:42+00:00

Yea thats does not matter.

I look at if a person is willingness to invest or meet investment back at each level.

Just like I have ex girl frends or female frends I don't expect women to not have any male people in there life and it's weird to expect that.

But I do think its a red flag if a ex is a big part of her life. That definitely.

But I'm quite fair in a lot of things. But also strict in others.

And thats all about meeting investments back and forth. If women wanna act single while they in a relationship. Thats fine il treat you like that too. So no girlfriend privileges.

I think people just very unrealistic about a lot of things many want all the things will giveing as least as they can. And I think that's weird and stupid. On both sides. And if you feel you can't trust or open up to some one don't be in a relationship. And if a boy or girl wants to keep acting single just don't invest in them further it's not that hard.

Just like women use men. men use women too when they playing games and keep acting single or demanding to much or giving to little or playing games.

Why ho with the flow and don't be all to worried. Its fine if you have a person that's there for a fun time but not a long time. People often know there being used and they just use the same same people back. Both know there being used most the time but both get only a part of their needs met.

Just like you will meet many people true your life you call frends that will have a influence on you but can walk in your life as quickly as they leave your life. Many women are the same. Often there more busy with there self or what not what is fine. Not every person is meant to be in your life forever. And people often act like every person has to. Or act super different when around a pretty women. Honestly there just people. And you and smart people dumb people. Selfish people. Selfless people.

Don't look to far into it women are just people. Its as easy as treating them like everyone other person. And don't simp and make them earn there spot in your life like any other friend has to. And just don't give big titles and privileges to people to quickly. Like you give girlfriend privileges and treatments on a girl you barely know anything about. Like she is above you. Just treat people like people. Women or not.

People look to much in the things that don't matter. If they show they not investing in you you don't keep investing in them.

Even with frends you don't just automatically have trust for people you don't know you grow it and test them in small ways if they worthy of trust. And worthy of being in your life.

People should just feel much more comfortable just talking to people all the time with strangers being women being men. Being ugly or beautiful people. Be it people your into or not at all. Just get good at talking and getting a feel for people. And you don't have to look all to far in all those things you quickly will know a selfish person or a person worth your time. Based on personality and willingness to invest back. And its often beter to not put big labels on things or privileges if there is no clear where you stand. What's often the difference being a gentleman or being a simp. A simp does a act to get in a women's pants. A gentleman is just kind and nice to everyone with no underlying demands. But does not mean he does not look for investment back. But also simp makes big steps of investments and gets angry or demands a big investment back. What often does not work like that. Investments often go realy small. So should also your investments be. Else its quickly over bearing for most people. And what quickly makes people be put off.

See how all this has nothing to do with people in a person's live but all about the person it self and you your self. The people don't matter. The person matters. You will very quickly know if a person is playing a Dubble or triple game. Based on how willing to invest. And personality. Or overloaded there demands are or beter said how selfish there personality is. So the people don't matter you can get out that feel out of someone just based on interaction. If somone is worth your time or not. Cause there just people. And people are easy to read if you have enough social experiences.

Why I say get use to talking with all kind of random people. Male female ugly pretty don't matter. Get a feel for people and every fact of life will get many times easier as you get more connections. Getting jobs will be easier getting relationships wil be easier. Getting good deals will be easier.

Cause that's the only thing "bad boys" have over other people they hustling they talking they around people all the time. And even female frends they have they get to hook up with there friends and all that. Being good at social interactions face to face makes all that over thinking unnecessary and a waste of time. Cause I know women that have tons of boys in there life and are amazing women and don't cheat and all that. Mostly cause they have brothers in there life and stuff so the naturally more around boys. So personality and willingness to invest in you quickly shows Sincerity. And honestly that goes not just for women but men too. There more people invest and show commitment the less likely they have a lot of backup plans and are willing to keep investing in you and show that its just that easy

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-01-18T17:33:13+00:00

If you haven’t had the exclusivity conversation, and she’s looking for a relationship, why wouldn’t she be dating multiple men? And why wouldn’t men be dating multiple women?

When you’re looking for a job, do you send out one resume at a time?

Calling it a situationship or backup is not accurate. She’s dating until she finds someone she wants to be in a relationship with.

Toadipher · 2025-01-18T18:09:31+00:00

Who cares? Everyone is talking to someone. If you think she will stop talking to people just because you asked her on a date, you are delusional.

You know what sucks? Telling all your back up betties you met a real one you wanna get serious about and then that chick ghost you all for you to come crawling back to the back ups. Nah, no time for that game.

PrideAndPotions · 2025-01-18T19:18:40+00:00

How many people, of any gender, can juggle four romantic relationships simultaneously? Very, very few, I imagine.

HappyCat79 · 2025-01-18T20:20:05+00:00

It’s normal to not be exclusive with one person right away.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2025-01-19T03:19:28+00:00

I see a lot of women here supporting the notion of having a roster, untill it's the guy who has one, and the tirades start. Mind you this is while simultaneously stating, sometimes unequivocally, that they are seeking a monogamous LTR

Reasonable-Guess-663 · 2025-01-20T17:26:30+00:00

IDC what women do, IDC if they're seeing other men, IDC about their body counts. IDC about anything they do.

Thats what makes me a player, thats why they reward me with sex.

Miss_Acassia-9374 · 2025-01-20T21:20:41+00:00

People should date multiple people. Meeting one person and locking down too soon is often the problem of so many relationships. Exploring who and what is out there is healthy And should be practiced far more often.

rag3light · 2025-01-21T09:13:39+00:00

"I am not attacking women or calling them bad or promiscuous in this post"

And this is why modern men fail.

Here LET ME SHOW YA SOMETHING

women who go on dates while still fucking their ex or who aren't emotionally available are dumb attention whores and the women who do it aren't exploring anything beyond being time wasting dumpster fires.

It's only slightly less reprehensible if she reveals it to the man she's on a date with because the level of inconsideration warp bitch 10.

^

That's called having a spine and standards. In 2025 at least.

pinpointnade · 2025-01-23T13:51:47+00:00

Guy 3 isn’t getting sex until she runs out of other options.

GrandpaDallas · 2025-01-17T16:45:08+00:00

And I also have three other girls already.

Girl 1: My friend who I hook up with from time to time when we're both out and drinking together.

Girl 2: Someone who is long distance, we will sext from time to time and if we're in each other's cities we might fling for a bit

Girl 3: Situationship who will booty call every now and again

Girl 4: That's her on the date.

What I want is that instant connection, all the feels, lots of passion, so that I forget about the other three girls.

So what? It happens. That's dating and sex. I can't expect women to not be dating anyone else before meeting me for the first time. It's foolish to expect that.

But also, I have to mention:

20% of my dates she was still living with her boyfriend, married, or cheating behind his back to try and monkey branch

That's poor choosing on your part lol, especially if you know that to be the case. I can confidently say that <1% of dates I have gone on were women who I understood to be single/living alone. The fact that you put that number so high shows a LOT about the type of women you associate with.

Clementinequeen95 · 2025-01-17T18:14:39+00:00

Thoughts like these are why y’all can’t talk to women or get dates. You act like we’re aliens who prey on humans

Efficient-Baker1694 · 2025-01-17T16:33:38+00:00

I mean if that’s your starting viewpoint on any potential women you like to go on a date with, then it seems like it’s not worth the effort of dating her or anyone in that matter. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze in a sense.

BuilderSmart2011 · 2025-01-17T23:14:35+00:00

You’re probably right that most women (high value men too for that matter) have multiple alternative options in the works

But this unusual scenario you’ve concocted is way too specific to be accurate

They do typically have backups tho yes

Haej07 · 2025-01-18T01:43:46+00:00

Don’t you also have other options when you’re on a date? Do you not secure multiple candidates and then pick the best one to ask? Is that not just the best process? I feel like most of this is common sense or not bad but I’m purple pill because I feel like the reason you posted this anyway may be for bp of which I used to be that were unaware of even that common sense due to media etc

Wyerie · 2025-01-18T03:15:54+00:00

This is so naive and entitled. When I was dating I always had several women on the go. Overlaps are inevitable, why on earth should someone stop dating just because they're seeing someone else? That doesn't mean they don't take the date seriously. I've had serious intentions while maintaining a FWB thing, and just assumed that men and women both do this. But I don't know for sure, because I never asked, and if I was asked myself I'd lie, which is why I'd never bother asking myself. I just don't know how someone would come by this information. When I describe my relationship history to other people, it's without the overlaps, and, again, just assume this is what everyone does, men and women.

SayuriKitsune · 2025-01-17T16:43:11+00:00

and we can say the same about men.. I' ve met many with even more than 3 situationships around... and don't give me the nonsense of chad crap, no, some weren't even a bit attractive, they must had other qualities for sure, but not looks.

what's your point exactly?

VividlyDissociating · 2025-01-18T01:58:49+00:00

i stopped telling my dates i was living with my ex, because they would never believe me when i said we weren't fucking and that things were done-done. period. full stop.

they all had horror stories about dating a girl who lied and was still with her ex in some way.

i was letting him live with me because he had no where else to go.

i remember coming down hard on him one night. told him he doesnt have to leave. he just has to keep my motherfucking name out his motherfucking mouth becauss he was a pathological liar and was causing drama between me and my bestfriend's bf who he was now friends with.

he ran off to run away to his mom's that night and then called me 30 min later, bitter, telling me he was coming back because his step dad wouldnt let him move back in.

not long after, he was expected to move out and join the army. but i wasnt going to put my life on hold while waiting for him to ship out.

my last straw in regards to being open and honest was when this one guy, who i wasnt even dating (we mutually agreed to just take things slow and talk. get to know each other) claimed i was lying, fickle, and changing my story because my ex's plans kept changing when it came to when he'd be leaving for the army.

he did eventually leave within the year. ngl. i threw a lil freedom party and deep cleaned tf outta my home the day he left. felt like i had a child that turned 18 and moved out

Dry_Grab_3874 · 2025-01-18T03:08:52+00:00

You had a point at the start. There are a shocking amount of people who still have a connection to their ex, whether it be emotionally or physically. The other two points are too specific and won't apply to the vast majority of women.

Remember, it's not all men, and it's not all women. If it's unfair to generalise one gender then it's unfair to generalise the other

Fabulous_Dependent19 · 2025-01-18T09:06:24+00:00

Nah, I'd win

James_Cruse · 2025-01-18T10:49:48+00:00

I think there’s alot to be said for the opposite of this:

One of my ex-girlfriends had a placeholder she was “dating” when I met her - she had no interest in him but he was a simp taking her out, spending money on her - but she was playing him for the long game and hadn’t had sex with him.

Then I came along and she would barely text him after our first date to only replying to him once per fortnight.

There was an ex - but he was in another country on the other side of the world. That was a slight issue.

The point here is: Assuming you’re not the guy that’s coming in outside her league that she struggles to get to take her seriously is being overly negative.

Most men I know that go on dates - the girl is hounding him for exclusivity and he’s putting her off, not taking her seriously, etc.

RoseyButterflies · 2025-01-18T12:00:26+00:00

This sounds like bad fiction writing.

Just don't go for those women or ask them early in if they are still dating other men. It's really not that hard.

People don't usually want to be exclusive that early in as it can seem controlling.

harmonica2 · 2025-01-18T12:14:08+00:00

One time when meeting a woman for a date she was given a ride to the date with me, by another guy she just had a date with. I thought It was quite funny later.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-01-18T14:28:09+00:00

That’s why I ask a woman before we go out what her dating morals are and if she likes to get to know one at a time or feels like she needs to date a couple at a time.

Yes women will lie but the answer is how she responds not her response.

Title	When You’re On a Date with a Woman, She Usually Has 3 Other Guys Already
Author	InitialPaths989
Upvotes	157
Comments	471
Date	January 17, 2025 4:16 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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