Why aren't folks having sex?

DynamicCrab · 2021-07-02T17:58:11+00:00

Very constroversial opinion but I think its because of social media. Less and less people are forcing themselves to talk to people in real life because social media is filling the void. That could also explain why a lot of men who aren't having sex are instead turning to OF and Twitch to satisfy their need for female validation.

millscuzimhot · 2021-07-02T17:29:42+00:00

It's just as simple as there's too much things going on/balls in the air right now.

People are slowly becoming more asocial right now.

Social media has made more people insecure about their looks/personality

There's not that strong of an incentive to have sex other than to connect to someone else (due to the vast majority of available porn)

And there's the simple fact that a lot of the things we used today are meant to keep you addicted

popnloq · 2021-07-02T22:31:57+00:00

There is little incentive for women to take the risk of sleeping with men and the headache that comes from it. Especially when men do not provide any value that the woman can’t achieve herself.

Women are financially independent. Can orgasm easier with toys. They already have social networks while most men can’t provide an emotional connection and are mostly looking for casual encounters.

What’s the point?

There is also a negative connotation when women DO choose to sleep with a man. So who really wants that social backlash? It’s all negatives and risks with very little upside.

MisterShogunate · 2021-07-02T19:57:58+00:00

Simple answer is that people don’t talk to each other in person as much as they used to. Here comes everyones wild theories as to why that is with no source whatsoever.

Jaylen-Gads · 2021-07-02T19:08:34+00:00

The most popular way people are meeting nowadays is through mutual friends or online dating. What is really happening is women are having sex with a small amount of men and are basically sharing the same guys “almost”. How? Because sexual frequency does NOT equal sexual partners, women are not having sex with random guys back to back, their not stupid. What they are doing is they are picking one or two guys who they fuck regularly and use that guy for sex ONLY which is still casual sex. Ask the women here they will all tell you it’s not multiple guys it’s one or two and they just use that one guy for sex. If you look at the data at face value yes you are right women are having less sexual PARTNERS. But if you do more research you will see it’s because it’s the same guys they are fucking.

PMmeareasontolive · 2021-07-02T18:44:02+00:00

Sex as a commodity is overexposed. Even in Puritan times, sex was exciting because it was forbidden, wicked, dirty. Now eating a bag of Doritos is more edgy and less hyped.

SoMuchForLongevity · 2021-07-02T17:20:56+00:00

I think it's fear culture.

Parents have been raising their children to be terrified of everything. "Don't drink alcohol or it will ruin your life! Don't have sex or it will ruin your life! Men will rape you and abuse you! The streets are full of pedophiles! Stay in your rooms and do your homework!"

And then people turn 18 and the fear culture remains. "Don't move out! You'll be poor! If you're poor you might have to live amongst criminals! You'll get stabbed!"

So there are just millions and millions of people in their twenties who are just sitting in their rooms at their parents' houses, wasting time and wallowing in misery.

We look at each other and we don't see a potential partner. We see a potential abuser. A man who will rape us, or a woman who will suck us dry for resources and claim we raped her.

We're just these trembling, terrified people.

And it's all just within the last ten years or so. The world broke.

Impulsive666 · 2021-07-02T20:23:50+00:00

Are people not getting laid or are you not getting laid?

godandgoddess · 2021-07-02T22:57:45+00:00

Conflicting ideas of how and when it should happen first and foremost. Women have more freedoms and are less likely to have sex in less than ideal circumstances. There’s also the fact that we’re living in a difficult time economically. A good chunk of adults younger than 35 are still living with their parents because they don’t make enough for rent and or getting approved on a house loan. This makes life more stressful and shifts our priorities to survival. It’s basically an adaptation to our environment.

Extremely__Moderate · 2021-07-02T18:14:12+00:00

Porn, education about STI/STD, lower testosterone, other "fun" things that distract us.. I mean the list is almost unending..

Aldabruzzo · 2021-07-02T18:03:19+00:00

1) The Boomer/GenX sexual revolution was an aberration. The boomers started it because of the riches their Silent Generation/Greatest Generation parents gave them. Their kids, the GenXers, continued it. The millennials and Gen Z and iGen would rather watch porn and play vidya (men) or fuck bad boys and "work" at their "jobs" (women).

Things are evening out now and returning to some form of normal. I frankly think that the bottom 50% or so of men are giving up and resigning themselves to mostly sexless lives, while the rest of society in Gen Y on down is kind of bored with sex.

2) Technological advances have fundamentally changed how men and women relate to each other. That's the internet, the smartphone, and social media. In The Time Before The Internet, during the Gen X continuation of the sexual revolution (20-25 years after it started), in which I was raised and came of age, sex was still something to look forward to. It was still something to get a girl to let you fuck her. Sex was not an activity like getting lunch together or watching a movie. Sex was not something you just did with someone if you liked them and thought they were cool. The attitude was that you weren't just masturbating each other - you were doing something that you weren't doing with just anyone. People actually dated then.

Porn wasn't ubiquitous and available 24/7 on a little computer that everyone carries around. If you wanted porn, you had to buy it in magazines or video, or rent it sheepishly at a video store from a clerk who knew you and kept records on what you rented, then take it home to fast forward to the good parts, then furtively return it when you were done with it.

Now? Sex ain't nothing. You either drown in it, or you don't know what it is. If you have sex, you have LOTS of it; if you don't, you haven't ever had it or you last had it 2 years ago. For the top 20% of men and the top 70% of women, sex is like water - it's free, everywhere, mostly safe or can be made safe, and of reasonably good quality.

Sex is just something fun you do with someone you like, or you do it to numb pain. You get lunch, you fuck. You go see a movie, you fuck. You hang out at the house and watch Netflix, you fuck. You need some moral support, your friend comes over, you fuck.

Or, sex is this ethereal, otherworldly alien thing that you've heard of but never seen except on a screen, and the only people who do it have cocks made of titanium rebar and tits and asses inflated to ridiculous proportions. Women wear makeup manufactured by Sherwin Williams and wear so much of it it has to be removed with turpentine and thinner. Photos are filtered so much that the woman you meet in real life looks almost nothing like the woman you see in the photos. You don't even meet in real life - you text and talk, and when you meet it's because the decision to fuck was made before you ever met in person. That's about it, really.

I lived in a society in which there were rules and some order to how things progressed, and sex was at the almost-end of that progression. Sex is now at the near-beginning of the progression. There are no rules now, except that both/all participants must be on the same side of the "age of majority" divide; and if you're a bottom 80% man, you really just don't get to participate.

Competitive_Pen2282 · 2021-07-02T20:50:34+00:00

People don't have a sex because women don't want to and men don't provide enough value to make women interested to have sex with them.

Before women were forced to have relationships and sex with men who they didn't even like via arranged marriage and oppression.Then there was a time of sexual revolution where women had sex with men they like until women realized sex itself has very little value.

wtknight · 2021-07-02T17:14:41+00:00

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Christian_Kong · 2021-07-02T21:18:01+00:00

For pretty much most women, it's because they don't want to for a variety of reasons.

For men, your top guys are drowning in sex. You above average(but not top) and below have a series of trials they have to go through to get sex. For many they think there is too much effort involved or they get so mentally beat up by the trials that they no longer have the will to give the effort.

StereoFood · 2021-07-02T22:37:09+00:00

Idk where you’re livin man but people are getting laid.

healththrow345 · 2021-07-02T22:42:03+00:00

Teen pregnancy is at an all time low which is great.

The_Meep_Lord · 2021-07-02T17:15:47+00:00

What country are you talking about?

If it is the US, the reason is that it just isn’t worth the hassle and we have a “person who cares the least wins” attitude, leading to more and more people just becoming apathetic and anti-social. Then add high standards and such ontop of that.

Exvareon · 2021-07-02T22:38:28+00:00

Because they aren't getting married out of necessity anymore.

Back in the old days, you get married at 18. The man starts working for 10 to 12 hours. The woman takes care of the house and the kids, and if possible also helps with the work as well (a lot of people worked from home). But those are just the main responsibilities. Another responsibility of marriage was also having sex, so that combination is what made people have more sex than people are having today.

Today people marry at 30, some even later. There are multiple reasons why people aren't having sex, and it's different for each sex.

- For men, the main reason is that the effort isn't worth the prize. An overwhelming majority of men need to jump through hoops to get a relationship, let alone sex. And after getting that relationship, you also need to jump through even more hoops for her to have sex with you. The top 20% of men are having almost all of the sex, with pretty much all of the women that are willing to. So for a man, he instead chooses the lowest effort/ mediocre prize, and that is porn/masturbation. It isn't as good as sex, but he doesn't have to break a sweat to get it. When he isn't masturbating, he maybe works a normal job and playing video games for fun.

- For women, it's a combination of low sex drive, fighting for the top 20% (you can only juggle so many chicks), and also low reward. A woman can get the sex very easily, but getting good sex isn't easy. Women only take one-night stands not because they like them, but because their relationship options are horrible, and they would rather have sex with someone random (which still most likely wont make her orgasm) than be with a mediocre guy. But most of the time, women just get toys that vibrate like a random's cock never will, and they make themselves orgasm. They don't need sex for pleasure, they can just masturbate.

DplusLplusKplusM · 2021-07-02T18:04:31+00:00

We've been manipulated into a false 'battle of the sexes' and the trenches are social media. When you read enough garbage about how treacherous the opposite sex is you tend to be less interested. Note that I don't think gay men and lesbians are having any less sex than before.

fwoketrash · 2021-07-02T19:10:53+00:00

Women are having sex, men aren't. Ironically, the west is actually going back to the middle ages, where high value men had harams of women and most men didn't have sex with any women at all, and it's happening because that's what women want.

Western women would rather be a once-a-month fucktoy to a Chad than committed to a stable, middle-class, 5-7/10 man.

Feisty-Saturn · 2021-07-02T17:16:16+00:00

As someone from who grew up on a Caribbean island where you can’t miss church on Sunday or people are gonna gossip about you I find this post very interesting.

In regards to the Caribbean I’m gonna assume your making your deduction based on carnival. If that’s the case I think it’s possible you are generalizing communities based on very small details in that community.

VictorianFlyRink · 2021-07-02T17:40:32+00:00

First things first, it's been recently discovered that during the Neolithic Revolution 1 in 17 men reproduced. Throughout civilization, 1 in 4 men reproduced, so it's important to remember that incels are not the exception, they're the norm. When a woman is healthy during her pregnancy, she's more likely to give birth to a boy than she is a girl. What does this mean? It means that from the time all of us are born until we're in our 30's and 40's, there are more men than there are women. There have been times and places where this was not the case, such as the spinsters and old maids of European history who were the result of more women than men. These women were the incels of their day.

Having said that, I think it all began with the birth control pill. Let's take it a little bit before that. Say it's 1946, guys are all back from war and you're a Becky or Stacy who sees a G.I. Chad and want to jump his bones immediately. You have to stop yourself because Chad could get you pregnant, leave you, make you into a single mother and you'll suffer the stigma of being not only a single mother, but a slut. You're also highly encouraged to pick a man that your family knows or is within your social circle. What's more, it's many times an impossibility to do otherwise.

Now it's the 60's and progressive women are on the pill and fucking like rabbits, but every once in a while, the stigma of being a slut still rears it's head. Now it's the 80's and the new waves of feminists are waging all-out war on men. Women enter the workplace at equal levels of men. Divorce rape becomes rampant, men are thrown into prison over the allegations of women with no evidence. The AIDs epidemic makes people take STDs seriously.

Now it's the modern era and every woman and her grandma are on the pill. Marriage is completely dead, young women get paid more than men to do the same job, women will own the majority of wealth in the world by 2030 and, at long last, the stigma of being a slut is completely gone. Add on top of this the internet. Women are no longer confined to their local area and men constantly lavish women with praise and attention no matter what the online venue, be it Reddit, Twitter, TikTok, Instagram, Tinder, seedy chatrooms, forums or anything else. There are now websites where women charge men to speak to them BY THE SENTENCE. This, of course, leads to female sex workers becoming millionaires.

So rather than this leading to the explosion of sex that one might think it would, women have become more selective than they have had any right to be throughout history, selecting for only Chad genes. The studies have shown that 80 percent of the women are having sex with 20 percent of the men. Beckys often let these Chads impregnate them and, whether through Chad's will or Becky's, they separate, but Becky still has an infinite amount of options. She can easily find a beta provider to take care of Chad's kids, or betas will pay for her children to be raised through taxes. Women have no incentive to have sex with men other than for their own gratification and they certainly don't see any need to be a girlfriend or wife. It used to be enough for a man to have a decent job, to have money or status, now women have their own money and status. What's left for women to be attracted to other than looks? In short, it's the downfall of western civilization.

4D-Alien · 2021-07-02T17:41:49+00:00

Hypergamy/girls dont want a average guy, even the ugly obese girls reject regular guys lolz

throwaway3649_ · 2021-07-02T18:10:39+00:00

Find me a man who doesnt want to have sex today and I'll find you a pink unicorn with a golden crown. So why aren't folks having sex? You tell me.

Cedo_Alteram · 2021-07-02T19:56:10+00:00

I think the main cultural issue is that there's a sense of men vs women, when it should be men vs men and women vs women.

Classicjammer · 2021-07-02T21:30:14+00:00

Porn, video games, and social media.

For women I’m not sure.

holymotherofbunnies · 2021-07-02T21:49:29+00:00

I'm waiting until I'm married, I dunno about the rest of you.

Apprehensive_Hawk432 · 2021-07-02T22:16:02+00:00

Because we work all the time and are too tired to come home and fuck

Physical-Pie748 · 2021-07-02T22:46:10+00:00

because men, also young men are tired of the demands and the running hypergamy. they rather fap to porn than to increase their smv to compete in the dating market. because its too hard today with dating apps. women can find high value men easily and dont have to settle for average men like they had to in the past before dating apps. so more and more men cant compete against higher value men

AggroWeasel · 2021-07-02T21:01:24+00:00

Women charging too high a price for what they’re selling, basically.

Key-Pace7150 · 2021-07-02T21:25:53+00:00

Because most people don’t know how to get laid. Full stop.

As a guy/girl if you knew you had the capability to have sex with a desirable partner when you wanted, wouldn’t you? Many men are clueless when it comes to women, many women don’t want to fuck the kinds of men that are interested in them (in their DMs, tinder matches, etc).

TLDR; Truth is many men aren’t desirable candidates and many women aren’t interested in the low value men they attract.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-07-02T19:24:03+00:00

Men are too obsessed with sex and it’s a turn off. This culture is sex and porn obsessed and it’s a turn off. Sex is no longer interesting anymore. Sex is everywhere I look and I’m bored of it and grossed out by it. I’d rather do anything else

infinitofluxo · 2021-07-02T21:40:17+00:00

20% of men are always having sex with the women willing to, which are enough for them

healththrow345 · 2021-07-02T22:21:49+00:00

Tons of sexless men in many European countries. Lots are "mgtow". Greece is an exception. They also marry later.

Monchi_21 · 2021-07-02T22:25:12+00:00

because no girl is giving me the time of day :/. It’s okay tho I’m building my self to be high value it just sucks that no one wants to be/talk with me when I’m in the process.

Physical-Pie748 · 2021-07-02T22:39:42+00:00

women still have sex in the same numbers. its just younger men who cant get sex because some women share a few % of men on dating apps.

orneryandy101 · 2021-07-02T23:23:06+00:00

The internet. You can do all sorts of things on there, converse with others, play crazy games, and even watch others have sex. I would say pornography is one of the bigger issues rather than the other two though. The other thing is we have women who are told that they are the empowered ones, men are told they are basically useless and should not exist, and not to mention the most recent life changing event the world has seen in decades… should I go on?

Brothels are not the answer, neither is porn the answer. Take away social media and put people back into classrooms and even bars, clubs you name it. Get people socializing again.

A_Shy_Lurker · 2021-07-03T01:08:31+00:00

I think part of it can be that most young adults still live with their parents and can't find the time to comfortably have sex. Idk could be wrong but this is why my best friends relationship ended

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2021-07-03T03:40:05+00:00

Because people are shitty, the planet is dying, society is toxic, and living is suffering.

BoogersAndSugar · 2021-07-03T09:34:20+00:00

Women make their own money and no longer need to marry in order to survive. But there's been a ~50-year cultural delay and we're only now starting to see the full results of this change. Generation Z and late millenials are the first generation to fully embrace the new sexual marketplace - dating guys they're actually attracted to instead of prostituting themselves for security. Unfortunately, this means there's gonna be a LOT of men left out of the game, and they're gonna be a serious problem over the coming years. Even just 30% of men dropping out of the Life Script (get married, raise children, buy a house, etc) would devastate the economy.

Mentallyillretard · 2021-07-03T20:29:31+00:00

Because women choose

QimchiSauce · 2021-07-04T08:34:44+00:00

One thing being abundance. Issue with modern day is abundance. Lots of it in any form. Porn is no different. It has completely affected the modern day population and culture. There’s also just many issues with long term repetitive usage of porn at younger and younger ages because of now wide access tech. The psychy of the individual can become so damn warped because of porn. Some of the worst killers come from over sexualized and over repetitive porn usage. Which had them fall down a spiral of disturbing sexual preferences to keep up their dopamine rush. This overall has 2-3 ish generations of boys and men that had been fucked up by porn. However it’s not just porn.

Social media. Social media has fucked up the public perception of the self and the individual. How simple it creates projections of the perfect individual from people’s lives. Which has people jealous and envious of the person. However that’s not their real life it’s the damn perception. Dan Billzerian is a good example. Dude looked like a playboy rich poker player. He was just a fraud. Yet people believed it. This is why we have not just porn but social media enforcing this ideas of what a man or woman should be. A man who’s SUPER RICH, successful, tall, handsome, confident. A woman who’s has the body of a goddess, yet the innocence of a nun. These are both so unrealistic. Yet it’s being put in kids faces at such a young age.

Economics. The economics of raising kids suck. They cost and burn cash. Their toys and expense are gonna eat your wallet. Back then kids were, well disturbingly a economic benefit. They helped in the factories, family business and farms. Now it’s not the case. Also theirs just lack or incentives to push for kids and family.

Finally, societal shift. Simply the dynamics between men and woman have changed. Society changed. Technology advanced. People in modern day are well kinda socially stupid. People are connected through the phone and online. However that’s not how your gonna be in person. It’s so cringe to see how people are basically now just on a date or with each other but because of the phone they basically don’t even know each other. This is seen when the divorce rates went up in the lock downs. People actually had to deal with the partner and lacked the ability to even do so. This is not different with how people converse. Someone randomly approaching someone and sparking a conversation is rare. Hell it’s seen as even off by some. Some just actually lack the ability and confidence to approach.

This connects to the hook up and online dating culture. Which of course blah blah talks about the 80 20 rule. Which basically over time had more and more just give up. Like I mean literally. The male virgins out number female virgins. The amount of males having sex in younger ages are decreasing. They are well honestly socially confused on how to approach, drained by porn, and has warped perceptions of women by porn, added by social media. If a dude lacks the ability to even approach another random person. My god is he going to be awkward with a girl he wants to sleep with. This is what lead to the growth of the simp, OF and IG private becoming a thing. Where lonely depressed dudes give money hoping for a connection.

To add more onto this is the dynamics of how men and women shifted just in the last 5 years. The metoo movement has destroyed the male and female workspace relations. This was seen by the not the rise but the lowering of male employers wanting to get women. The rise of men wanting to not dealing with female employees and co workers. The decrease of mentorships from men to women. This then went and hit modern culture. It’s seen now in memes, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and Tik tok on the rise of guys being terrified of being falsely metoo’d. The fear being based in reality however completely warped. Yes some false accusations occur but they aren’t the majority. However that doesn’t matter, this has affected men wanting to approach and fuck as they fear legal and social ramifications. This paired with dudes who got destroyed in relationships and marriages. You basically have a whole subsection of the male population that got fucked over, that were ignored or deemed as creepy or weird, and have no experience. This leads to a modern movement mgtow. Which was mostly just old dudes who were burned out by relationships and marriages. Now it’s something that young dudes are following as well. Just deeming marriage as unreliable. Which has further pushed the hook up culture and just smash then dash. Yet most guys can’t do that forever and don’t want that. So they just opt out. Leaving the market and just giving up. Joining those who already gave up, those who don’t care and those who are just tired.

All in all it’s the shifts that occurred in the last 100 years that have brought us here. Tl dr Society changed

jax006 · 2021-07-02T17:12:42+00:00

It's cause dudes in America don't shower and all live at home

Plzdontmindm3 · 2021-07-02T18:29:57+00:00

Because some of us still have morals. Don't like it? Deal with it.

Instead of complaining about not getting laid, figure out why you don't have a significant other; someone to share such an experience with.

Sex shouldn't be a commodity. It should be a unique experience, that you share with the person you love most... We aren't animals you know.

headchefboyardee · 2021-07-02T17:38:14+00:00

Today’s men and women are too narcissistic to admit they have trauma and address it. It is so much easier to blame an entire gender for your problems and sit at home self righteous and alone, than it is to recognize dating and relationships are like getting surgery— it’s going to hurt before it gets better.

Dirty_Purity · 2021-07-02T17:15:28+00:00

Are you serious? Because they can't find partner who will agree to have sex with them. It is really surprising that such obvious things need to be stated.

gimpgirl555 · 2021-07-02T17:54:57+00:00

I think it's natural. Many people are unattractive (both men and women) so ofc no one wants to have sex with them.

I think that more people looksmaxxing = more sex.

TakeThePinkPill · 2021-07-02T18:53:10+00:00

Limited pool of men due to their obsession with porn and gaming, lack of self care, unmanaged depression, difficult economic times, with a hateful faction seducing them like the pied piper into malignant misogynistic cultures that make young women avoid them. They even stole a term, "simp", and use it to shame men into being kind and caring people.

That being said, male romantics with a little bit of will are finding their way, some are getting sex. Plenty of women interested in sex but within relationships with caring partners or at least the casual sex being with a select percentage of dudes. "The juice ain't worth the squeeze" to have casual sex with the vast majority.

What are we going to do? Be with men who put in the effort in themselves and relationships and refuse low effort men with bad attitudes. It's already a status thing with people showing off their boyfriends and husbands who treat them well. This generation of social media addicts are about to weaoponize this.

You already see the sex rates dropped. These people think women are playing with them but it's clear women are not. Little by little no matter how much rage we see, women are learning their worth. Dudes can insult women as much as they want. We are how we are. The men who show up and clear the bare minimum will be the ones who have a chance, will be the ones who get sex. It's all that can happen tbh

raphaellastorm · 2021-07-02T20:20:47+00:00

Everyone on this post is like obsessed with sex. It’s bonkers. If you want to have regular sex, you need to have a partner, which means you mean to be attractive to a mate. Focus on being attractive to a mate. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Cimorene86 · 2021-07-02T17:17:23+00:00

Lack of open and honest communication, not just between "the sexes" as some general population but also between individuals.

superlurkage · 2021-07-02T19:55:53+00:00

Sexually, things are fine. People are doing what they want and not doing what they don’t want. And if that’s not enough, there’s bread, circuses, friends, sperm banks and sex workers

I don’t know about the Caribbean, but Greece doesn’t strike be as being sexually liberal. And I don’t see the anglosphere as being sexually repressed. Sex is openly talked about

TheDevilPutD · 2021-07-02T20:48:23+00:00

Men in Eastern and Southern Europe are real men. They are not ashamed of wanting to duck women and going for it. And women there are and not ashamed of wanting to get fucked by guys who are not excusers.

Notsonewguy7 · 2021-07-02T23:00:07+00:00

I've been saying this honestly I think it's kind of a good thing we are moving towards an asexual future / post sexuality cultural norm.

The media hasn't completely caught up to but we're starting to see a little bit who don't show an interest in sex.

goatismycopilot · 2021-07-02T17:07:29+00:00

PPD is full of puritan men. There is your answer.

Timmy721123 · 2021-07-02T22:24:33+00:00

Feminism teaches us that normal sex is rape.

mydikishomofobik · 2021-07-02T22:32:10+00:00

Because everything about rich western countries is homosexual to the max. The women are ugly and unfriendly. The whores are ugly, expensive and low quality. No street whores or cheap hotels for no bullshit fast fucks. Heterosexuality stigmatized. The best thing in the gay sex prison police state for a non-homosexual is jacking off to porn, but they even want to take that shit away. Ugly dual-mating strategy hags trying to bully men into being attracted to them. Overall a shithole when it comes to women.

Lateralanouncer · 2021-07-02T20:31:44+00:00

I think it's because men and woman mature at different ages. Men being later so the young guys can not get laid yet.

Bigbigsby · 2021-07-02T17:28:58+00:00

I’m having sex. I just made plans for sex tonight with one of my fwb lmao - dudes (especially dudes on Reddit [see r/dating_advice]) are just scared to approach women these days. I see it everywhere - online and in my personal life with my homies. A lot of guys are scared of women lmaooo

Paranoidexboyfriend · 2021-07-02T23:08:19+00:00

Lots of Americans are fucking. Just because you're not and it doesn't seem like those in your circle are, doesn't mean there aren't groups of people going strong.

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millscuzimhot · 2021-07-02T17:25:30+00:00

The government of Greece even has taxpayer-funded whorehouses. They do this in order to curb the proliferation of venereal diseases and sex trafficking. How come we don't do that here?

Now this sounds really interesting, anything that attempts to stop human trafficking should be looked into and considered

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-07-02T18:47:44+00:00

Lots of reasons. Compile the replies in this post together and thats your answer. There is no singular answer to the question.

Velexious · 2021-07-02T21:33:22+00:00

Combination of porn being so easy to get and OF, as well as men feeling unsafe and/or disgusted with the sexual marketplace favoring women like most things in western society now.

amerikajin-janaidesu · 2021-07-02T22:35:13+00:00

As a Japanese, I don’t really get the “ppl in Japan don’t have sex” stereotype tbh lol

Lord-of-Circles · 2021-07-03T00:01:45+00:00

Folks are having sex. Just not you.

The top 20% of men are having sex with 90% of the women. Cope with it.

M_LaSalle · 2021-07-03T01:55:40+00:00

Perfect storm. There isn't any one cause. Part of it is poor parenting, producing socially awkward children. part of it is the fatocalypse. Part of it may be biological since I think it's been established that men's testosterone levels have been dropping gradually over time. I don't think a cause for that has been established, although it's likely some combination of diet and environment.

When people discuss the reasons they tend to focus on a pet hobby horse. Guys not having success will blame hypergamy, or social media. A lot of women may blame the abundance of socially maladjusted noodle armed men living with their parents. Most of the theories offered are probably true to at least some extent. I actually think the declining T levels may be more implicated than a lot of people think, but that's only one cause.

We've basically tampered with the natural order in ways that aren't easy to correct, or even completely understand. Women having their own jobs and their own ability to get resources, and their own education means a higher bar for what they will find attractive. The men have not generally been preparing, from youth, for the task of attracting a woman. And part of that is that they know that women delaying marriage and riding the CC means they have, as practical matter, not much incentive to do so. There's a kind of chicken and egg question involved at times.

People aren't having sex because we have structured society to produce sexlessness, whether or not anyone ever intended to do so.

_Suumcuique_ · 2021-07-03T02:44:55+00:00

High expectations. These folks dont want to lower their standards because entertainment and social media have shaped their minds

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-07-03T03:38:14+00:00

What are we going to do about these sex and gender issues that we have?

Nothing.

justnotherthrow35 · 2021-07-03T04:04:28+00:00

Could just simply be evolutionary. Sexual drive goes way up after times of mass devastation, look at the baby boom after two world wars, only makes sex as a whole people aren't interested in babymaking when the population is well in check.

Turdcutter99 · 2021-07-03T05:05:57+00:00

Obesity & overweight. It's 70% of American adults for each gender.

Aran82 · 2021-07-03T09:45:02+00:00

It’s practically illegal now to ask a girl on a date, social media and the disempowerment and disenfranchisement and feminisation of men. Literally it’s a recipe for the end of the world.

zedbrutal · 2021-07-03T15:19:19+00:00

Summary of three studies which attempt to answer “Why aren’t folks having sex.”

https://ifstudies.org/blog/male-sexlessness-is-rising-but-not-for-the-reasons-incels-claim

bathwatermerchant · 2021-07-03T16:37:26+00:00

Women are in 102% control over sex and reproduction and they decide to spread sex/female attention in totally uneven layers where top 10% lookswise swim in pussy regardless of their personality,middle 60% wary between fucking a fat ugly girl for 3 months once in 2-5 years or hopping between ltr to ltr with little effort based on their looks and beta game, and lower 30% are a no-no zone

Willow-girl · 2021-07-03T18:11:14+00:00

Aunt Flo.

throwingwearethrowin · 2021-07-04T04:49:06+00:00

Because men will get mad at you for having a high n count. What do you guys want from us!?

SaBahRub · 2021-07-02T17:37:18+00:00

Because they can’t or don’t want to, duh

Detail_Mission · 2021-07-03T01:24:51+00:00

Women are having more sex than ever now but most men are having little to no sex. Women are all slurping the top 10% of men while the rest are invisible to them. Men will Still Sleep with land whales are ulgy beasts but women will not dare look at an ugly fat man. In fact they will be angry if that kind of a man approaches her.

Reasons for less sex for most men (80-90%)

1.) The me too movement: This has made men afraid to do anything with women. Even talking to them is a risk today. They can make a fake rape or sexual assualt case for no good reason and ruin your career, or life within a short period of time. The juice is not worth the squeeze. This risk vs reward is not worth it anymore.

2.) The deteriation and desctruction of men and women physically, mentally, emotionally, morally and spiritually mainly due to society and environmental factors.

a.) Men have become more feminine as the teststerone levels in men have rapidly decreased annually for the past century that their average T levels are not much higher than women's anymore. T scores have decreased by over 25% over the last few decades and most likely close to 50% compared to men of the 1900's. Men are taught that anything masculine is bad or toxic. Men are given constant access to free porn from the age of 10 which leads to many other problems.

b.) Women are more masculine than ever. They're taught to be like men (competitive, be a boss bitch in the business or job field, indepent, etc. They're taught to do the opposite of what they're naturally and biologically designed to do. If they do become a house wife they're shamed. Women now have access to social media which gives them access to thousands of dicks in minutes. Anytime they want they can have thousands, tens of thousands and some even millions of dicks flying at them with one post or video or picture. They now have the ability to travel to anywhere in the world within a day for a reasonable price, they have 100's of kinds of methods to prevent child birth so there are no immediate negative effects to their actions. They've been told to fu ck as many dudes as possible and live their best life when in their 20's and early 30's and to never settle. After going through this women are left souless and have the stare of a thousand cocks. They've devalued themsevles by fuc king around. Again, this is with mostly the top 10-20% men.

c.) Godless: The western world has become godless. The only women that can commit for the long term are very strong in their faith in god. This is why the Ahmish have 98% success rates for marriages. The further along we go in this western society the more godless we become the more society controls the morality which means the more degenerate our society becomes over time.

3.) Currency: This currency in the world is all fiat currency also known as a ponzi scheme. It's designed obsolescence as it was made to fail. Majority of the fiat currency's backed by nothing aka counterfit money have all gone to their intrinsic value of zero and failed all these fiat currencies will inevitably fail and go to their true intrinsic value. What consequences does this have on sex life? Well it leads to time theft. As our purchasing power becomes more worthless we know have to work more hours just to survive. In the 1900's up until the 1970's it was just the man working and that was enough to afford a home, car, family of 2-3 children, etc. Now you need to work 2-3 jobs just to survive. Incomes do not go up as fast as the cost of housing or new cars. People simply work their entire lives now as a wage slave for a fiat dollar that has no intrinsic value. This leaves them with little to no time to actually date or meet people or afford to have a family.

What does all this lead to?

a.) Marriage rates are at an all time low in recorded history.

b.) Relationships last for an average of 2.5 months now. Since women are hypergamous and combine that with social media, in the workplace, no shame to be a slut, pushed to be a slut in culture well women virtually can't settle down.

c.) Most men are beaten down and have figured out that the juice is no longer worth the squeeze. Women relinquish the P too easily now (for the top tier men). This is when societies start to crumble. Giving so called sexual freedom and rights to women has done nothing but destroy the west. Women has essentially suicided this once great nation. Women didn't even want the right to vote to start with. Now they have the power to vote and look what's happened.

d.) 80% of the men are getting little to no sexual action. If a man is on the attractive scale less than a 6, that man will have to have insane levels of game, or high status to even have a chance at getting laid in this world.

e.) Men have become beta male cucks and or simps, women have become whores willing to do any type of degenerate sexual act for the monopoly fiat currency while some men are just f boys and even fewer women remain pure or have traditional roles and remain feminine. This may sound like a terrible thing to say but it's the truth. Social media proves this. Throughout thousands of years of history it used to be that 50% of the men roughly would find a mate not that's dwindled down severely. Women for thousands of years would have one mate for life. If they ever cheated or had more than one partner they were most likely shamed or worse punished severely for their actions. It's like we're living in an upside down world and I'm watching society collapse.

_lemazaki · 2021-07-02T17:27:02+00:00

What are we going to do about these sex and gender issues that we have?

I will help you out with this... you can have my girlfriend 1 time per week.
(geezuuss it´s a joke, don´t even start it) lmao

_lemazaki · 2021-07-02T18:09:39+00:00

For me I can resume this problem in HDI (Human Development Index)
Countries / Places where you have higher HDI you have more jobs for women, safety, more independence, internet to share ideas, debates and etc...Most of these place you can notice a culture of "independent women" where men are only need for army and those jobs to maintain infrastructure for the society. That means there is not a necessity of a man as a partner helping women to survive, in those place man have a hedonist role for women.

Countries / Places where you have lower HDI you have the opposite or less of what I mentioned above and men have roles into women´s survival. Average men have more sexual success in those places.

What you can do?
1- pray for a meteor
2- nothing
3- be picked for hedonism

Title	Why aren't folks having sex?
Author	CharlesElliotFiddler
Upvotes	66
Comments	448
Date	July 2, 2021 5:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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