A lot of men are actually advocating for women to be more picky (you’re choosing the wrong men), while simultaneously whining that women are being too picky (80/20)

Let’s focus on the women who are “choosing the wrong men” first.

A lot of men say that there’s a large group of women who are choosing the wrong type of men to mate with. The thug, the loser, the bad boy, the fuckboy. Statistically, or maybe stereotypically, these are the type of men to pump and dump. These are the men who are assumed to be creating the rise in single motherhood.

So, let’s ask the question. If these men are bad men. Why are women picking them? I would argue. That for a large group of women, there are no real tangible consequences to choosing these “bad” men. We live in an age where most women are financially independent. Therefore, a man in the traditional sense has less value to her. Additionally, even if she wasn’t financially independent, while this might seem cliche or sexist, she does have the government and social institutions available to assist her. Welfare, child support, shelters, etc.

I would argue. That women have actually lowered their standards. Due to women not being as reliant on men for survival on an individual level. Women are less picky and less anxious about their choice of a mate. Who cares if the loser across the street knocks you up. Just put him on child support. Now I’m not saying all women or even the majority of women are doing this or think like this. I don’t think like this. But that women know they have the option. Which gives them the ability to care less about the status of their mate.

That if women were actually being picky. Then the 80/20 would be in place and would actually be justified. Most modern men are not deserving of a family. In the sense of they do not have the means to protect or provide for a family. Most men are making on average around 40-50k a year. It’s hard to raise even a family of 3 in most of the us with this salary.

It does need to be said that a lot of women also don’t deserve to have a family. A lot of women are horrible moms, don’t know how to care for kids/a family and are incredibly ignorant and selfish to put their children through poverty and the disadvantages of a single parent household.

But just like women should be raising their standards and stop having relationships with men who aren’t worthy. Men should stop simping and nutting in women they wouldn’t want to be with long term. Men need to raise their own standards. If men would also raise their standards as women raised theirs. Everybody would be on almost equal footing. Instead. Men will sleep with any women which only incentives women to be on the single mom train since she can get knocked up by a “high value man”.

A lot for these ideas have been floating around the sub and relationship debate social media sites. But I want to sort of bring all the ideas together to highlight how men are sort of causing their own issues. And simultaneously making their perceived issues worse