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A lot of frustration from men seems to be that they’ve been somehow lied to and misled and tricked into thinking being a nice clean cut productive polite stand up gentlemen is what gets you success in dating. They say that their mothers, sisters, aunties, female friends etc fed them a bunch of lies from an early age and that this misinformation as to what actually turns women on and concealing from them what they actually find attractive has essentially ruined their dating life.

Well in my opinion these women were not lying. They genuinely were telling you what they thought breeds success in the dating market. The only caveat being that, yes, when you mother was young, she got turned on by the bad boy, that yes, she had casual sex with very attractive men who look nothing even remotely like how you look, and yes, she PERSONALLY didn’t find the nice guys to be attractive but that’s because she’s “a bit different” to others and that’s a personal aspect of her attraction triggers she’d rather not advertise because, well, most people would look down on her and she’s meant to be setting a good example….she’s your mother…..and after all, when she looks outside, and at her friends, they’re all married to nice stand up gentlemen who treat women well.

Yeah, Karen admitted at the office she hasn’t had sex with her husband for 4 years.

Yeah, Helen, your moms best friend, who is a lovely woman and always brought you sweets as a child and was nothing but lovely, sometimes makes a joke about how she isn’t sure her first child is actually her husbands…..just a joke of course…..just a joke

But overall, society seems to be built on those values within a relationship. And how can being a nice stand up gentlemen be a bad thing? That guy your mother slept with behind the bin when she was 20 is in jail now last she heard….she doesn’t want her son ending up like him……no….. the total opposite.

So they tell you what they truly believe to be right. What they observe, almost like an external objective spectator. They won’t ever tell you open and honestly what ACTUALLY turns THEM on….because we’ll, while your father is a wonderful man, he’s not quite her first choice and nothing like the kind of guys that really got her excited and gave her the best sex of her life, so why would she tell you that? And potentially offend you and your father….no, she keeps that part to herself.

These women who lied to you were not TRYING to ruin your dating life or lie to you. It’s not some massive misinformation campaign by women to destroy the dating chances of a generation of men. It’s skipping the part they’re kinda ashamed of and also genuinely think aren’t relevant to you or society as a whole because, well, like I said…..Helen’s husbands a nice man…..