As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to face

wtknight · 2023-10-09T15:19:18+00:00

Removed. Do not troll.

DesertShifter · 2023-10-09T07:47:45+00:00

I don't get the schadenfreude from seeing it. I'm never unhappy looking at a couple because "he took away a girl" or "she wouldn't have paid attention to me", I genuinely hope it works out for them. Likewise when I see older single women I don't think she deserves it for not dating me when she never even knew me, I hope she can find someone she genuinely loves someday soon. It's wild that a near 30 year old needs to be told to grow up.

Donald_D_blazed · 2023-10-09T07:24:34+00:00

All of the sudden women who wouldn’t even look at me want me

Internet revenge fantasies are so fascinating

obviousredflag · 2023-10-09T07:52:23+00:00

As a man that’s getting older

But as I approach my 30s

What a letdown, i thought you really had some insight about the mid to late thirties to share.

It's ridiculous to think that a slight decrease in attention from men means they are having "problems". Women in their late twenties still get way more attention than they can manage or check out. It's still very much a buyer's market for them.

Age doesn't make things problematic for women, it's their personality, mental health, relationship experience, social isolation, ideology, and whatnot.

orangecloverbud · 2023-10-09T07:15:34+00:00

Why are you using PPD as your diary?

fucksiclepizza · 2023-10-09T06:59:24+00:00

Yeah right, I call bullshit.

Birb-brained · 2023-10-09T09:02:11+00:00

I feel like you’ve described that people who are important to you in your life like your sisters and friends (who I assume you care about) are having problems. You’ve also described you’re deriving pleasure from it rather than feeling empathy for the people you care about. I think you’ll want to have some careful reflection about what that says about you.

ratsareniceanimals · 2023-10-09T13:04:41+00:00

As you get older, the single people you encounter are the ones that haven't settled down.

The ones that find a partner and are happy disappear from those public spheres - they're the ones you ignore because they're coupled up and dressed like they don't care about being seen, because they don't.

Try to wish for good things to happen to everyone.

SignificantBend9521 · 2023-10-09T14:33:47+00:00

OP sounds like he’s balding

BunnyFlopped · 2023-10-09T08:06:35+00:00

Supposing this is true:

Isn’t it really pathetic that the second you see your friends and family suffer in a similar way to you your reaction is “(: that makes me happy”

iassureyouimreal · 2023-10-09T11:00:28+00:00

I’m 36. I agree. Women my age still can get all the attention, but it’s bug losers.

flomilly · 2023-10-09T14:14:10+00:00

I find this so hard to believe. This reads more like an incel revenge fantasy

candikanez · 2023-10-09T14:44:27+00:00

This is total RP bullshit 😅 Women are very much still heavily wanted in their 30s. Good effort though 🙄

TermAggravating8043 · 2023-10-09T06:57:12+00:00

Nice fanfiction dude,

SymbioticFailure · 2023-10-09T10:38:32+00:00

I've seen this happen too. A tiny minority of men do age like a fine wine like the cliche says. But once again it's a fraction. Maybe 1%. They keep their hair and don't get deep lines and young women are physically attracted to them. Maybe they have other desireable physical qualities too ( height/dick size)

But the other 99% of men lose their SMV with age too. It doesn't taper off as sharply as women, but still to such an extent that schadenfreude is a little deluded here. Many men in their 30s have receding hairlines, are overweight and have deep wrinkles. No young women is attracted to that, even if that hypothetical man is rich

softcircuitry · 2023-10-09T08:28:58+00:00

Makes sense to feel great from getting more attention, but why smirk at your sisters and female friends? Have they been unkind to you?

Or is it like an “I’ve suffered and seeing you suffer too makes me feel better about my own suffering” kinda deal?

Ok_Smile_60 · 2023-10-09T08:56:28+00:00

I dunno... Sounds like fanfic cope from TRP

I'm in my mid 30s... And had WAY more action in my 20s as an attractive fit younger guy. Generally I think women just want a guy closer to their age.

Now women in their 30s, well, most of the "good ones" are off the market, dating, etc... So you're kind of left with the "leftovers" which are usually not the most attractive, overweight, single mothers, etc... I dunno, but not many hot 28 year olds are really as interested as me in my mid 30s as they were my early 30s for sure.

reise123rr · 2023-10-09T07:55:00+00:00

If you look decently attractive, have a decent personality, have a decent job, and are decent in other ways and women are only now texting you just shows how the the pool is gets smaller for decent people. The only reason why you are getting calls is because every other men have been taken and therefore out of the small pool that are decent in their social circle might be you. However don’t think that this is privilege or fine wine age. This is merely the fact that there are more 30s who just aren’t sufficient in some ways.

Stop_Maximum · 2023-10-09T09:11:54+00:00

Damn I wondered what being a loser meant until I got on this sub. But good for you dude

melindabrown2023 · 2023-10-09T09:49:23+00:00

Firstly, I think this post is totally made up. I don't believe a word you are saying.

But to just to play along for a minute, why are you happy that your sisters and/or friends are struggling to date? Presumably you care about them, so why would their difficulties make you happy? I'd understand a bit more if you were talking about strangers, but why do you want the people in your life to suffer like you did??? Don't you think that's a bit warped.

ATasteofTx214 · 2023-10-09T12:33:04+00:00

I just made the observation over the weekend that the "wall" that wmn supposedly hit is simply men showing interest vs arousal. As a 45yo f, I find my interactions with men much more delightful now than when I was younger. Quantity did decrease, but quality is so much better.

Wmn taking more initiative dating when we're older is less desperation and more an issue of not giving an F, age + experience should increase confidence. Plus a 40+ yo "Alpha" is likely an asshole, i do want more nurturing, sensitive, laid-back qualities n a man so I realize that I have to initiate and escalate more with that type of guy. Ironically, my friends and I have much higher standards now that we're older with children, property, careers, family/community standing to consider with less time and availability.

NothingOrAllLife · 2023-10-09T12:55:43+00:00

Are these the same women that rejected you?

MxMaster9907 · 2023-10-09T07:19:37+00:00

F.E.M.A.L.E.S

lady_ven0m · 2023-10-09T09:54:03+00:00

People who want others to suffer just because they did are the worst kind of people. I’d think you would have some sort of empathy for them. Were they horrible to you? Why are you gloating about this?

NotMattDamien · 2023-10-09T12:31:06+00:00

This whole post reads as a cope fantasy

badgersonice · 2023-10-09T13:48:06+00:00

You really think men who get laid all the time are never mean and shitty to women for getting older? Haha. Dude, plenty of men happily sneer mock any women for not being beautiful and young enough for their tastes, regardless of whether they’d fucked a 1,000 women or zero.

Being smug and mean to people based on how they look is simply a personality flaw, not something women as a class collectively did to anyone by not spreading their legs.

Just own up to the fact that you’d always smirk about women aging because that who you really are. No woman’s magic pussy could have ever changed that. You wouldn’t now be a doting wonderful husband to an aging ugly woman if only she’d fucked you when you were both 17. You’d still just belittle her for not being young or hot enough for you now.

punapearebane · 2023-10-09T07:41:11+00:00

I guess its just a certain type of women having trouble after 30. But how about we dont smirk at anyone who is having trouble in dating? How about we start there?

But I agree, men after 30 are way sexier than in their 20-s. They usually grow confidence in themselves and what they are and have learned a lot about socializing so in theory they should be doing better than in their 20-s.

Even most of the men chronically single in 20-s will eventually find someone by 35.

Willow-girl · 2023-10-09T12:38:45+00:00

Everyone in their 30s is either a leftover or on the rebound from an earlier failed relationship. Being a leftover smirking at other leftovers or rebounders seems a bit uncharitable to me.

2023-10-09T09:53:03+00:00

OK bro, you can now date, congratulations!

MrBrittle · 2023-10-09T07:30:24+00:00

It was like that with me too, I decided to make up for it with a younger woman.

I wouldn't get involved with a woman who would have rejected me 10 years ago and I only became "interesting" when her life became difficult.

classicliberal1 · 2023-10-09T07:02:26+00:00

All of the sudden women are reaching out to me first to date

Don't. It's a trap. Your 30s are the most dangerous time for you because that's when all the women your age switch from alpha fucks to beta bucks and throw themselves at men in their 30s. They will try to get you to marry and then divorce you.

Remember, if you weren't good enough for her best years, she's not good enough for your best years. If you have to LTR and start a family, seek only women in their early 20s who appreciate you now.

Rogue5454 · 2023-10-09T07:23:52+00:00

LMAO YA….I don’t think so bud.

Women aren’t having issues dating at your same age whatsoever if they want to. Quite the opposite of what women have been told would happen for decades. “The gig is up” lol.

It’s the quality that’s the issue, not the quantity.

If you need to tell yourself what you posted to feel good then more power to you in fantasyland haha.

Yomzie_hun · 2023-10-09T07:39:08+00:00

Eww bro. You did not just say "females"

darktourist92 · 2023-10-09T10:07:30+00:00

Speaking as a 30 y/o man, try to be aware of and limit the schadenfreude my guy. It just makes you come off as bitter and it opens the door for feelings of self-superiority.

Enjoy your newfound success, but don't forget to carry yourself well.

AceOfSpadesGymBro · 2023-10-09T11:36:52+00:00

I've had my frustrations and even rage at women. I think anyone who dates other people will experience this. I've certainly met many bitter women as well. But I hold no ill will or hate towards women. I'm man enough to acknowledge that a lot of my early problems with women were caused by my own wimpiness and not because women are inherently evil or want to play with men's emotions.

Ok-Supermarket-6747 · 2023-10-09T11:52:46+00:00

I’m done with the toxicness of redpill wall thinking. Women are people, beyond their looks, and people connect in romantic relationships based on relationship compatibility. As you get older you realize this and to say different is to completely negate that maturity even matters.

When we’re young, both men and women are kinda dumb. We make mistakes while we learn our boundaries and form our personalities about what we want in life. During that phase, relationships can be very superficial: all about looks. Hot people usually get away with being assholes, This goes for both men AND women. You probably weren’t hot or ‘alpha’ enough if you wanna look at it from the redpill-wall-type-perspective and now you are growing into a beta bux. And then you should not feel like bragging about being a beta bux because that would mean she only likes you for your money and if you’re broke she would leave.

Each pill side has some truth to it but that truth is incomplete. People like people for their personalities and the dynamic they have with that person. People also like people because they are attractive. A person can appear more attractive if they have a great personality. This is why lots of young relationships fail when people are ignorant about their dynamic and attachment style and just wanna bang because their hot: there is no personality attraction.

by all means, bang because you’re hot, but if you want something longterm to be healthy and last then you’ll have to either grow up together into it willingly or grow up before you date anyone seriously

Posts like these make me wonder if men want longterm companions or to date seriously anyway. Men sound too bitter to mature. You realize that if you are the one who is pursued then you will be setting the initial dynamic? I wonder if you have much experience with that if you always had to chase?? Pursuit is not natural to women imo and if you have less experience as the ‘refuser’ then you may mess up that dynamic up and turn women off. You will be starting at year 1 and all the women your age are at year 10. And if you expect to date younger women...do you believe they will pursue you??? Most hot women have been pursued their whole lives and really feel no need to change. It would almost be a matter of philosophy or experiment and maybe could happen culturally with time but for women in their 30s now if they are pursuing you then you either have a rare scenario or they are in a rough patch and it sounds like in this case since you appear to have no emotional bond that the women pursuing you are in a rough patch.

bluehorserunning · 2023-10-09T08:45:11+00:00

‘Older’

Nellylocheadbean · 2023-10-09T12:25:33+00:00

Why do some men assume every women in her 20s is having this wild fulfilling dating life 🤔? A lot of women struggle from 18-30.

Also this post just reinforces that men are envious of women because they have this idea that dating is easier from a women’s perspective. Their intentions isn’t genuine and Their goal isn’t to improve dating, but to make dating easier at the expense of the opposite gender.

There was a post the other day about why women lack empathy for men & their issues and this post is an example of why. It’s just smoke & mirrors.

LeNoirPetit · 2023-10-09T12:42:50+00:00

Cringe fantasy post lol

supremethrone · 2023-10-09T09:07:11+00:00

Where do you live that women are reaching out to you. I'm 30 as well and life has never been worse. All the women from 25 to 30 are literally taken, married and have kids. The only ones left are sluts and single mothers

meangingersnap · 2023-10-09T12:37:57+00:00

It’s so funny when men take pleasure in allegedly getting more attention as they age. Why would this be a good thing? Women are literally putting you in the category of BB, embarrassing!

flosterjenkins · 2023-10-09T09:16:59+00:00

So true. RP guys, just wait to date until you're 30+. Trust OP

notmyrealnamepapi · 2023-10-09T07:53:12+00:00

But for my sisters who haven’t settled down, and some female friends I had, all of the sudden are having issues when they literally had no issues getting boyfriends for the longest time.

Suuureeeeee... 😂 This sounds so made up. You're probably just one of these red pill men.

TommyBarcelona · 2023-10-09T08:36:13+00:00

Definately true. Im my 30s definately notice I get more attention and posibilities than in my twenties. However now Im not single, wouldve been good to have this in my 20s.

Ps: you shouldnt smirk about your sis

Toxic_LigmaMale · 2023-10-09T10:14:59+00:00

Agreed. I’m 28. Oooooh what a difference passing 25 can make.

Able-Imagination3695 · 2023-10-09T13:56:31+00:00

Oh God, here we go another revenge fantasy of some guy who put two and two together and probably started looking good and having his shit together so now he's under the impression there's a wild conspiracy against young men.

Look dude, all I'm going to say is that enjoy *this* while it lasts. Most men 35+ that are "dating" college aged girls are getting used for their wallet while she keeps an age appropriate Chad in her rotation to sexually satisfy her. AFBB is a self-fulfilling prophecy for these types of guys *especially*

For the rest of the guys here - there is no magical "get hot" switch that flips on the eve of your 35th birthday. If you were not a hot guy by the time you were 27, there's a really slim chance of it ever happening for you. The same goes for sexual skills - your sexual experience as a man 35+ is only valid if you've actually had sexual experiences. There is no get-good-at-sex button locked away, waiting for your birthday to come around. If you weren't good at sex in your 20s, you're not going to magically be good at it in your 30s and beyond.

There is also nothing that can compare to your sexual stamina and prowess from when you were in your mid-20s, either - believe me, that hot little college aged girl knows what she's missing out on when she's messing with you. She's not missing out on it, you just don't know about him lol.

Thalia2345 · 2023-10-09T15:07:08+00:00

Y’all are getting very creative with your fam fictions LOL

thetruthishere_ · 2023-10-09T13:24:57+00:00

Ive had men I had a crush on in my youth not give me the time of day rejecting me come circling around many years later.

I just dont need to make a post about and laugh at them...

You have some bad energy saying that about your sisters and friends.

Moon-on-my-mind · 2023-10-09T13:41:33+00:00

Mhm. This sounds like it was written by a 20 yo incel. And if you are the age you are, this should ring some bells in that void.

El-Carretero · 2023-10-09T07:06:15+00:00

This is why we need more people here that's over 30. I'm tired of here young guys complaining and everyone assumes that it's always like that.

I been browsing the ask women over sub lately and you constantly see them complaining about how hard dating is for them. They pasted the age where they were able to pick and choose who they wanted.

Brain__Pain · 2023-10-09T14:12:36+00:00

People thinking this is BS are not grass touching individuals who live in the real world.

In my place of work, I see all sorts of people. Loads of different demographics from all ages and backgrounds.

Across the board, the friendliest women are the older women. Young men are friendly enough, not as friendly as the older men.

But younger women... they are cold, distant, awkward, rude, short with you, entitled...

The cut off point seems to he somewhere between 26 and 32. Somewhere in this age range they seem to mature into lovely people. It's weird. I don't know why this is, but it's just true.

No need to get all twisted out of shape by the truth.

charlottehans · 2023-10-09T07:57:15+00:00

I think for many women in their 30s+ it's also the first time they start facing serious rejection. Like going on a date and the guy just doesn't want anything to do with you, even sexually. Brutal.

daddysgotanew · 2023-10-09T10:54:04+00:00

I haven’t seen that as much but I’m in my 30’s still dating women in their mid 20’s who think it’s cool that I’m older. And before anyone says they just want me for money, I’m poor.

The women my age that never liked me before still don’t like me. They’re still trying to lock Chad down, just with visible crows feet now. In my experience, women’s standards only go up as they get older and more jaded.

No big deal, more younger women for me.

_Ad_Astra_Abyssosque · 2023-10-09T07:57:36+00:00

I'm experiencing the same and its amusing. Especially when they find out I'm childfree. It's game on. I know they only want a beta bux so I'm not interested. We agree to be fwb and when they ask for more, I tell them I'm not ready. They usually ghost me after that but it's fine, I had my fun. It was just my turn.

virtuousgo · 2023-10-09T13:17:46+00:00

Keep coping retard lol

charlottehans · 2023-10-09T07:19:16+00:00

He is not lying. Make a profile on a dating site, "Bob", 35, average looks, accountant, present yourself as a respectable human being.

Rip your inbox.

Whiskeyjack1982 · 2023-10-09T10:13:25+00:00

Ive had the same experience. Time favors men in the long run. I decided that I dont want my peers and that Id rather date hotties in their twenties.

So many bitter old woman in the comments lol.

Ok-Supermarket-6747 · 2023-10-09T09:44:24+00:00

Yeah, I’m 25 and decently attractive and one specific cohort of women I’ve gone after are 29-32 year old women for the past few years for casual sex. It’s true, at this age, they have very little access to the same attractive men when they were younger and they end up with the stereotypical beta looking guys. These women will go on about how they love their men that they’re settling with but it’s honest to god the most shocking revelation seeing how easy these women cheat on these dudes, I’ve been the other guy a few times.

Most women won’t really struggle as they say here, but the caliber of men, physically, definitely takes a hit. I know that even in my 30s I’ll be able to date girls in their twenties and the like. Honest to god the red pill is true.

Spyro7x3 · 2023-10-09T09:12:39+00:00

Yeah I went through the same thing man its pretty dope. Although I never had a hard time when I was younger I was just always tied up in really long term gfs most of my teens and 20s and didn't do much hooking up at all but after my divorce it went crazy the girls went crazy idk what it is about 30 but it was a golden year for me

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-10-09T10:41:29+00:00

Idk I think if I was single and 30 I'd probably just give up on dating and start grinding, keep hustling, and shoot for my dreams. God's got a plan for me.

ArmDiscombobulated29 · 2023-10-09T10:37:43+00:00

Yup 100 as you get older you can literally fuck tons of girls it’s great

Just make sure don’t commit to any of them and just take advantage of all

You get tons of sex with no strings attached

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zoxzoxzo · 2023-10-09T09:21:35+00:00

I do think that men have a slightly better edge when it comes to dating in older age compared to women, but that's only by a few years in my opinion. No one ages like a fine wine and years will catch up to us all. Diet, exercise and sleep will determine if we stay decent looking later in our lives or turn to sack of 💩

grillopie · 2023-10-09T11:39:57+00:00

i’m older than you and almost every woman i know is married. whatever method they got it done, if they had to ask people out themselves, it was done.

retal1ator · 2023-10-09T11:42:37+00:00

Women will never understand how men feel becoming suddenly attractive in their 30s after years of relative obscurity.

And for the women saying this is not true, it is true for men that have their sh*t together and didn’t let themselves go.

Ppdebatesomental · 2023-10-09T11:52:16+00:00

By mid 30’s there are a lot of low value and/or retreads. On both sides. The odds are good but the goods are odd

SX10Rae · 2023-10-09T13:19:24+00:00

"All of the sudden"

...

https://youtu.be/StJ-OK4jiSY

slinkysadie · 2023-10-09T13:24:49+00:00

This is so Wattpad 🤞🏻

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-10-09T13:51:13+00:00

I can relate sort of. I never really struggled in my 20s but I definitely noticed an improvement in the quality of women who are interested in me in my 30s.

grown_folks_talkin · 2023-10-09T14:08:14+00:00

This is why there needs to be a program for many guys in their teens and 20s, basically telling them they’re not repulsive and their low-value status is real, but temporary.

Be present for the experiences in your 20s, but also think ahead on when you will be mid or high SMV, because it’s likely to happen. Don’t take personally the BS you go through dating in your early and mid 20s.

That said, I did see a FB friend and article complaining about men ghosting and breadcrumbing. I was literally surprised. Dealing with the above without becoming bitter and adapting to how things worked were things I saw as a legitimate part of character development when I was in my 20s. I can see how some guys feel schadenfraude about it.

2023-10-09T15:18:43+00:00

Lmao r/twoxchromosomes is spilling over again.

concretecannonball · 2023-10-09T17:20:54+00:00

lmfao whatever you gotta tell yourself buddy

Title	As a man that’s getting older it’s literally impossible to not smirk at the problems my female peers are beginning to face
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Date	October 9, 2023 6:52 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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