Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)

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NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-02-12T19:13:39+00:00

I think I'm gonna let V-day make or break my relationship with the guy I've been seeing. He is handsome, but I feel largely ambivalent about it and based on our date last weekend I'm very unsure about what kind of future there is.

I want to be romanced. This guy has known me for a long time, so it's not like we're just feeling each out. I want flowers or a hotel room or a romantic restaurant dinner.

So, I'll let his excitement about me take over. If I don't at least get a bouquet of daisies (my second favourite after sunflowers) I think I'll let that decide. I need to know he's serious about me, and I just can't take risks with my time anymore.

AnonymousRooster · 2020-02-12T19:01:34+00:00

I've been dating a new guy for about a month and overall he checks all the boxes - kind, funny, lives in a tidy well kept apartment on his own, good job and education. He's also treated me better so far than any other man I've dated and seems to really like me. He appearance-wise isn't my usual type though and I'm not feeling a lot of chemistry. The only time we've had sex so far it was...not great. Should I keep going with the relationship?

Ugythrowaway123 · 2020-02-12T18:50:59+00:00

How do you guys feel about a bf talking about our future a lot. We’re only in high school and he jokes around about getting married, having a family, changing my last name, etc. I’m not gonna lie I love it and I love him. I always have to remember myself this can be over any day and keep a certain distance.

Lunaisse · 2020-02-12T15:32:09+00:00

I'm so grateful for finding FDS. It has opened my eyes. I just realized it today. I saw some screenshots of an old conversation. My lowest point: apologizing to a guy who was ignoring ME for maybe saying something to hurt HIS feelings. He ignored me several times, actually said something negative about my appearance once, never cared or acknowledged MY feelings, a true LVM overall who loved to play the victim card. And I was apologizing to him because he was being a prick and ignoring me? What was wrong with me? I'm so happy to see it clearly now. I would rather stay single and happy then ever go back to those ways.

I wasn't even aware of what a pickmeisha I was. It's just when I saw that today when it hit me. And I'm glad it did. I was seriously clueless back then, with no good female role models to help me out.

endlessgalaxies · 2020-02-12T15:09:10+00:00

Been conflicted about something for the past few days. I was hanging out with a guy I’ve been seeing for ~2 months and saw the tinder icon on his phone (we met in person). In the moment it hurt because I’m not using OLD, but I haven’t brought up to him that I noticed. Not sure how to carry on, or if it’s a sign we are looking for different things.

pianogirl282 · 2020-02-12T14:36:23+00:00

This is weird, but I’ve been “casually seeing” someone since June last year. We knew that we’re not compatible for a relationship but we kept going on “dates” for some reason: to eat, to the movies, to the theatre, etc.

He’s really not that interested in sex, in 8 months maybe we’ve had sex like two times. But for some reason he asked me if I was available this Friday for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know why but I’d like to spend that day with someone, but for some reason I feel it’s weird.

eng2fly · 2020-02-12T12:58:55+00:00

Love how I get down voted when I recommend r/FemaleDatingStrategy on other subreddits. Ridiculous.

Does this happen to anyone else?

illusion_believe · 2020-02-12T09:53:32+00:00

How do you act when you wear a tight dress on a date and other men are checking you out ?

I have an extremely fit body that pulls a lot of attention so I’m wondering how to react as a FDS woman if my new date notices that other men are checking me out.

velocity2ds · 2020-02-12T05:59:30+00:00

What do you guys do with gifts/mementos from exes? Recycle/donate or keep?

Future-Positive · 2020-02-12T05:08:23+00:00

I've met a HVM, we went out in a lot a dates, its been 2 months, no sex. I think its time to move to the next level. Should I go to his house or let him come to mine? What should I do?

uselesssdata · 2020-02-12T03:25:27+00:00

Weird question, but this has bothered me for a while. Had anyone dealt with a guy who would purposely forget your birthday? Wasted 3 yrs on someone who every year would either get my birthday wrong by 1 day (earlier or later) and would simultaneously always get my age wrong by making me 1 year older or younger. Every year. Even with reminders. At the time I laughed it off as cute like, "ohh teehee, that's just how older guys are I guess! Bad memory! I'm glad he even remembered at all!" And he would also laugh it off like his memory was failing him and he's "bad with numbers". But I later found out he had my real bday in his calendar. So apparently he was purposely trying to mix the day and my age up. It really bothers me for some reason. Just seems like a dark thing to do to someone. What was this supposed to achieve?

even_thriller · 2020-02-12T01:05:59+00:00

What is it that makes men feel the need to DM you on Reddit for like any reason? I swear they lurk here and then feel they need to either send me DMs hitting on me or enraged with me. There’s no in between, lmao.

fructose-corn-syrup · 2020-02-12T00:23:28+00:00

Advice needed. I posted this week already about my situation and just need. Blah. Help.

The guy I’ve been seeing for now almost 7 months. LV behaviors are emotionally distant, but very courteous and good listener; wont step up and commit to relationship; lives like he’s 21 despite being well off and in thirties.

Also, the problem is he’s become one of my really really good friends. Texting everyday stupid funny stuff. I see him, and instant attraction. Sex was really great. But. Like. I broke it off this weekend. I have to remind myself how shitty I feel about the non commitment thing. He even dropped— “I was really trying.” Which he’s been saying for about a month now. Introducing me to his friends. Going out on nice dates. Totally cool with no sex. Literally no pressure. But. He kept dropping “in trending toward” a relationship. And I’m like. Okay. How long do I wait around?

Pick me behavior 101.

But. He just accepts that I break it off. And is super down about it. He realizes he has a lot to work on.

And I need to not think about him. We’ve been so entangled for months, I am having the hardest withdraw. We exchange messages every few days. And he says I am on his mind. And he ‘gets it’ why I broke it off. Not an excuse, but he’s also having some emotional stuff with his job (military and pacing eventually) that’s freaking him out. But.

I see a lot of “delete and block” stuff on here. And I like the idea. I have done it with all the LVM that satellited me and it’s so refreshing and lovely.

But the emotional stuff with this guy is deep. And I’m reading posts on here for reassurance. I know this is better. I know I’m happier not waiting tf around. But. If any vets could give me some reality advice, I’d appreciate it.

Do I need to block him? Do I need to be more clear about don’t talk to me? I feel like I’m losing a really good friend here, and maybe I’m mourning not just the romance. :/ thanks ladies

( my post: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ezk5n1/weekly_fds_chat_checkin_quick_questions_answered/fh85x74/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf )

macguffin99 · 2020-02-11T21:23:31+00:00

Will there be a Valentine’s Day thread??

laura9sks · 2020-02-11T20:03:50+00:00

Hey, are there any telegram chat groups related to this sub or to feminism? I'm struggling to find one. Thanks!

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JesusisKingisLord · 2020-02-11T13:10:16+00:00

I had a dream about ex last night and feel down.

illusion_believe · 2020-02-11T10:08:11+00:00

My OLD date didn’t say my name once out loud. I thought that because I have an exotic name maybe he was afraid of mispronouncing it so I said something like “my friends always tell me Nzeto, you are too xx” to help him with the pronunciation but still nothing.

I feel like since he talks to multiple women, it’s better for him not to say names so that he doesn’t confuse us .

My colleague called his girlfriend “Sarah “ during sex when her name is “Brenda”. After that he told me that he stopped mentioning her name. He never hide to all of us his colleagues that he was a cheater

pianogirl282 · 2020-02-11T05:49:06+00:00

Hey girls, what’s your experience with FWB?

I have a coworker who’s 19 and I feel that he likes me. I’m 23 and I don’t see him as boyfriend material, but we have good chemistry and I think he’s very cute. How do you start a FWB thing? I’m so confused 😂

MrsValentine · 2020-02-10T22:57:18+00:00

I recently had a health scare and impulsively jumped into an undefined sexual relationship with a guy I had been getting interest signals from. So I'm just here for some tough FDS love and a reality check for how to conduct myself moving on.

The guy has a history of short/abortive relationships and because he was already in my social circle I was aware that he wasn't actively looking for a relationship. However, he has been putting in a high level of effort with me, shown me a high level of respect and is dating me properly (initiating every time, booking me in advance, planning everything and paying). I believe he has feelings for me because of his behaviour and effort levels, although I understand that might not mean he has a relationship in mind.

On the other hand, I have been actively OLDing and believed I wanted a relationship. But now I am unsure. I didn't have genuine feelings in my last relationship and I don't want to repeat that mistake again. I want him to want to be with me egotistically, but being in a real relationship with him...doesn't feel like what I thought I was looking for? I like him enough to keep seeing him but I'm not fighting the urge to scroll through his social media like I was before we hooked up. & I haven't told anyone I know about 'us'. There are things about him I don't love.

I'm unsure of what to do but I don't want him to know. Should I end this now? Implement a 90 day evaluation period even though the sex is a foregone conclusion? Cut off sex for 90 days and see what happens!?

What would FDS do?

macguffin99 · 2020-02-10T22:49:43+00:00

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canttouchthisnananan · 2020-02-10T21:33:25+00:00

I’ve been reading here a lot and I love FDS and everyone here supporting each other. Just wanted to start with stating this.

Now I’ve been starting to apply the rules since two weeks while matching and talking to guys on OLD and I’m shocked to say that zero guys has made it to a real date with me. I’ve now blocked all the guys I thought were worth a date. Reasons: - saying he’s sick, cancelling the first date and then asking me to come take care of him. - asking me to come to his house so he can cook for me for a first date. - asking me to help him pack his stuff because he’s moving in a few weeks before a first date. - asking me for coffee at his place for a first date. - trying to get me to ask him out on a first date. - talking about sex way too soon.

I like having boundaries and being okay with blocking guys. But now I have zero dates. Am I being to strict? Should I make an effort to let them know what I want? I’ve told the cooking at home guy, the coffee at home guy and the come take care of me crybaby that I had different expectations and what I would prefer, but they didn’t try to plan something different with me, although they did keep talking to me.

I lost my interest in them because I felt like they were trying to get away with low effort first dates and that’s very unattractive, so when they didn’t make up for that I decided to block them and move on.

Am I doing this right? Because nobody seems to be getting past the online/chatting phase with me.

magenta_mojo · 2020-02-10T17:40:51+00:00

Did any of you watch "Sex and the City"?

Did you know that the author of the book (Candace Bushnell) is 60, alone, and regrets not having children?

illusion_believe · 2020-02-10T17:21:58+00:00

Yesterday I posted something on askmen. And some of them told me that high quality women were rare. It’s a bit of shock for me. I’ve thought that we had more high quality women than men.

I try to analyze my female friends. It’s true that a lot of them are pickmes with men and don’t apply FDS but they are still great women.

I only know 2 real high value women and I met them online . Most of my female friends are insecure on some level and accept subpar behaviours from their men.

I also have great male friends that I would never date because they are insecure on some level or a bit low value (they are great for a good laugh, advice but they lack strong masculine energy.(I feel bad saying stuff like that about my friends. But you get the idea). One of them was telling me that he had a hard time falling in love. Later that week, he told me that he’s the kind of person to cancel plans last minutes etc. Now I understand why he can’t fall in love. If he doesn’t have a high value behavior, I’m not surprised that he only attracts low value women. To fall in love men need a deep sense of admiration for the girl and respect. I feel like he needs a woman like me lol to bring him into balance.

I feel like I only consider as being high value someone that is committed to personal growth and most people aren’t. They understand the basics but don’t do hard shit to build character.

illusion_believe · 2020-02-10T16:51:19+00:00

I need help to erase a LVM from My mind. I still dream and daydream about him even knowing he is pure garbage !

fructose-corn-syrup · 2020-02-10T16:38:59+00:00

( Last check in since January here. )

I confronted my guy about the problems with his apartment. Said, "If you were dating Chalize Theron, would you let her sit in your gamer chair in your living room? Would you only fix her rice and larabars when she came over? Would you clean your house before she stepped in it?" It was a quiet, honest conversation after a date we had this week. He looked like a kicked dog. I felt bad, but didn't comfort him.

Later, it was brought up again, and I just said-- "Hey I need someone to meet on my level. I shed a lot of my femininity at my job, and I want to be a woman out with you. I need a man to meet me on my level." He resonated with that. Came over and helped me setup some shelves at my apartment since I just moved. Made me dinner, which was very nice.

But. We had a hard thing happen this week-- found out where he will be moving (military), and there is some issues with his ex being located there. A lot of anxiety and stress on his part. But, he completely shut down. I had a hard time getting him to talk to me, and weirdly, during the night we found out the orders, I was having a hard time gauging whether he saw a future with us.

His avoidance and withdrawal is very difficult for me. I finally had to text him that I can't wait around for him to "pick me" (I know I know. Fight club rules). And so, I am letting go over there being any more between us. No more waiting for girlfriend status. I'm moving on.

And. It's been hard. But. Hopefully a good break for this damn cycle.

Reading this reddit everyday gives me strength. <3

Spicy-kitty · 2020-02-10T15:57:29+00:00

This was deleted but I found this on the relationships sub.

(26m) boyfriend of 9 years asked me to go on a break so he can trial going out with our (26f) roommate. They believe I should continue to live with them and be friends.

"So my boyfriend of 9 years (let's call him Andrew) and I just moved to London so he could do his undergrad degree and I could pursue my career. To live as a couple we have been living with a roommate (let’s call her Lauren) in a two bed apartment.

I have supported him financially over the last 4 years at different times paying his share of the rent. In that time he has had a part time job in retail. Last year 2018, he was working full time and I was working part time and studying but I paid the rent and bills then. He was saving for the first year of his undergrad because due to some circumstances he could not get that funded.

In October, we moved to London so I could get a graduate job and he could study at University here with the understanding that I would pay the rent and bills so he could study.

When we moved I believed he would get some kind of job to help contribute in some way around his studies. As of January he still had not got one as he said he was unable to find any part time work.

Since October, him and the roommate have been spending lots of time together. I leave earliest in the morning and I’m the last one home at night (usually home around 7.30pm). Lauren is home with Andrew from around 6. There are times I’ve come home to find both of them out doing activities together without letting me know they were even going. They have done things like order food for dinner without asking if I would want anything. One time I even arrived home and met the Deliveroo driver in the hallway.

For a long time, I’ve felt like the third wheel, they have inside jokes, have watched movies without me, gone on days out to museums and explored the new area.

Andrew and I have been having constant conversations about our relationship and if we should even be together. He feels that I have used him as a therapist and that I am too emotional, have no direction in life, I’m not independent, mature and I am not consistent and I am unpredictable. So you are aware, my mum was diagnosed with cancer last year and my dad is having bad mental health problems. My granny and grandad also passed away in 2019. Last year I finished my undergraduate degree and managed to secure a good job before moving over to London.

In the last two weeks my mum has had a serious health scare and my dad tried to commit suicide.

On Wednesday Andrew told me that he had made a decision that though he had tried to help me to be more independent emotionally, he was unable to support me anymore. I then left it to calm down. Then I went to the living room where Andrew and Lauren were hanging out and then he clarified that he wanted to break up with me. Andrew and Lauren have both admitted that they have feelings for each other and they want to see how things go. They have said that I don’t have to understand but I have to accept how they feel. At the time Andrew said that we should ‘never say never’ to being back together but the current situation ‘is what it is’.

They are aware that they may not go out with each other long term and Andrew and I might get back together. He thinks that now is a good opportunity for us to have time apart, I can become independent and that we can both have new experiences.

They both want me to stay in the apartment and not move out so that I don’t isolate myself in a new city as they both care for me (or so they say, I have a feeling it could be more to do with the fact that I am paying half the rent). They have also advised me not to go on any dates so that I can take the time to emotionally heal.

When they first told me I said they could both pursue their new relationship immediately. However after a day or so I told them that would make me extremely uncomfortable. They have then said I am being inconsistent with how I am I feeling. I have said I was in no right mind to make any decisions when I was just broken up with but they don’t seem to understand. They have said they want to help me through this and they believe they are making many accommodations for me by not flirting in front of me, using her room instead of the living room when they want to spend time together.

On Saturday Lauren admitted to me that they had already kissed on Thursday night. Andrew and I have a lot of mutual friends and he asked my advice on how best to mention Lauren to our friends group without putting her in a bad light.

Andrew believes that for us to be together I need to change how I am. He has tried to help and advise me and I haven’t acted on any of it. He feels that I rely on him to do everything such as listen to me when I have any problems and he doesn’t feel that I am taking action on his advice.

Over the last 4 months I haven’t made as much of an effort as I should have to meet new people and I have been relying on both of them to be my friends in a new city. I have however tried to pursue things like piano and art at home. All I asked of them was to let me know if they were doing something or at least invite me out even if it was too late for me to go.

Lauren is also aware that Andrew may end up getting back with me and is happy to let him take his time to decide.

Andrew believes all of this is my fault and that all I need to do is improve myself and become independent so that there is a chance that we can get back together. By the way, I am the one paying for all of the rent in London (obviously expensive) while he does not work.

They fully expect me to stay in the flat, be friends with them both and make it work.

It would be good to know Reddits thoughts on the situation.

TL;DR my boyfriend of 9 years broke up with me as he doesn’t feel I am independent enough even though I pay all the rent. He also wants to pursue our roommate romantically. They believe I should stay in the flat while they pursue their relationship and we can all be friends and make the situation work, while he decides if we should be together.

Edit: For punctuation and sentence structure."

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hex_girlfriendd · 2020-02-09T23:09:26+00:00

#fuckboyfree2020 starts today for me. Mortified to say that, even though I've been reading this sub for a few weeks, I wasn't ready to buy in just yet. I saw all of the LV patterns in my current "relationship" but I also liked spending time with him and, honestly, the self-hatred I've allowed to become engrained in my thought patterns after seven years of poor treatment wasn't going to let me let go so easily. Everything imploded this morning. Don't want to go into details because - even though he is a manipulative, gaslighting POS - I wasn't valuing myself and I totally allowed myself to be treated like a sex object when I knew better, so I was completely complicit.

I will say that I got to watch the light drain from his eyes when I told him exactly what I thought of him and called an uber from his bed and refused to even turn around and look at him when he followed me out to the street. Even though I feel like shit today, I'm ready to spend a LONG time leveling up mentally and breaking all of my old pickmeisha habits and he's the one that has to spend the rest of his life without me.

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ivy176 · 2020-02-09T21:48:45+00:00

Have you guys ever experienced going on dates with a reformed fuckboy? Or a LVM masquerading as a HVM? It all feels very strange.

this guy I’m dating pays for dinners and shows, and takes me on actual dates, but he looks and acts like bad news.

We were having this nice beach date, and he starts talking about fucking ketamine and acid that he has under his bed. It felt like post-makeout talks that I’ve had with low value FWBs. But it was on the beach on an actual date. Very weird to me.

ItsOnlyKaren · 2020-02-09T20:14:28+00:00

I am finishing my bachelors degree and looking at grad programs while working two jobs.

I come from a low income neighborhood so my dating pool sucks.

Two guys have been taking me out and they are extremely attractive, but they both dropped out of college.

I am going to let this fizzle out after some time but my question is how do i find guys who are also in a similar position as me education wise?

hoIds_up_spork · 2020-02-09T18:35:16+00:00

Have y'all read The Wives by Tarryn Fisher? The main character is the ULTIMATE pick me!!!! Great book on how being the "cool girl" with a narcissistic LVM can ruin your life.

I also recommend The Wife Between Us and The Last Mrs Parrish as more female-led thrillers on how being a pickme can backfire.

We should start a book club!!!

ivy176 · 2020-02-09T17:42:00+00:00

IS everyone who is sexually active, even with a HVM, aware of the leading cause of cervical cancer?

All of you know 90% of it comes from an uncircumcised guy with an HPV/STD... right?

Do all of you know that there are 4 strains of breast cancer which are caused by HPVs, along with anal, colon, throat and breast cancer?

Are you reading about all of those strange cases of MS showing up in well-known celebs and actresses?

Guess what caused that?

velocity2ds · 2020-02-09T16:13:27+00:00

What are some of your guys favourite out and about activities to do alone?

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-02-09T16:04:54+00:00

I'm feeling weak lately (especially with Valentine's Day coming up) but I refuse to re-open OLD apps. Being strong is perseverance when you feel weak, tempted, or afraid, right? I thank FDS for keeping me strong and re-aligning. This is like my 12-step for recovering PickMes. 😁

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caffeine_inmyveins · 2020-02-09T14:05:42+00:00

Just started OLD a few days back. I know this is against the rules, but I honestly have no time for dinner (especially if it's gonna be with a guy I'm not sure if I can click with). I'm not joking but my March calendar is starting to be filled up with activities, dates with my girlfriends, classes etc.

A coffee before class sounds much better to me and fits into my schedule. In this case, is it gonna make me look cheap? Is it gonna be harder for me to "promote" the guy to a dinner level further down the line? I'm so new to OLD, i feel like I need practice dates.

Blackgirlwanders · 2020-02-09T12:05:18+00:00

Ok so Im not sure if this is relevant to this sub but how do you all deal with negative women in your circle? Fake ones. The ones who get salty when youre leveling up.

I know a girl who acts super butthurt around me all the time. I could avoid her, but we are in the same class. I am sick of her giving me the cold shoulder and me using energy trying to be friendly to her. Not sure what her problem is but its starting to seriously annoy me. Do I just completely ignore? Or still be cordial (say hi, goodmorning etc?) she will dead ignore sometimes when I say hello even lol.

Evil_Rao · 2020-02-09T10:44:05+00:00

"Men don't respond to words. They respond to no contact."

I finished reading "Why Men Love Bitches" this week and I gotta say this is one of the most effective tips in the book. Repeat it to yourself over and over again until you stop yourself from texting first/telling him what he's doing wrong/etc. Men only understand they need to step up their game when you become a little distant.

Toomanyprollems · 2020-02-09T07:30:11+00:00

I finally got rid of this guy It was hard for me since I really liked him and hoped it was headed in the right direction. I drunk called him once and cried it out..got over it

since then been keeping busy.
I'm still hurting and not able to focus on my life, drinking sometimes to just able to feel my emotions and get it out of my system but i ll be okay. this is best for me. . . . https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/euadht/in_long_distance_how_do_i_set_expectations/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

tapuachadama · 2020-02-09T06:36:46+00:00

Ok I am a new poster and about to use this thread for a mini rant so here goes. I started following FDS and used some strategies with a new man I was dating, he was a nice respectful guy, pursued me, wanted to make things official, basically had me thinking he was high value. But after confronting him 4months in about some issues that had been bothering me and attempting to set standards for those issues, he dumped me! And let me say the standard I was holding him to was some basic-ass stuff, like texting me to ask how my day is when i'm working and he's sitting on his ass on his day off. Anyway. I should feel good because technically this was a success- I set standards and this guy who I thought was HV showed his true LV self and bailed, and now I'm free again to well, not be with him. But sigh, I'm still sad. The disappointment is real. I've always been picky, don't have a problem with being single, and after not seeing anyone seriously for 2 years I really did think he was a good catch. Goes to show how easily we can be fooled!

ivy176 · 2020-02-09T03:11:24+00:00

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Greekgal2 · 2020-02-08T23:22:18+00:00

Just found out about this site today, thanks to the WSJ, so created an account and am joining up to see what's happening on the site.

junesunflower · 2020-02-08T21:36:52+00:00

One of my best friends birthday is coming up and is pretty serious about going to a male strip club for her birthday party. I’m not sure how I feel about this.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-08T21:15:56+00:00

feeling depressed right now. my ex male best friend is going around spreading a false narrative about me to thousands of people online. i cut him out of my life last month. he can't really do anything to me, and i doubt he'll try, but its depressing that someone i once fully trusted with all the details of my life is now my enemy and i know if i make a public statement about it he'll just try to paint me as a "crazy borderline".

EmotionalClimate · 2020-02-08T21:10:13+00:00

Since last week, I've just started "circle-dating" aka keeping multiple guys in rotation. All of them so far have shown LV traits. Had it not been for this sub, I would've probably let them orbit but hell no, I'm nexting them.

One guy on Bumble suggested a matcha date (lol classic). I said I was too busy (always for that cheap shit). Then he suddenly suggests Hamilton. LMAO it's so funny because it's true -- the more you expect, the more you'll get.

I'm currently in my room and my roommate's boyfriend is over. Witnessing Pickmeishaness in real-time is *really* triggering and makes me want to hold my ground more. I can overhear their convo, and it's sooo cringe --- She's fuming, and he came over to apologize for making her wait 30+ mins. last night for their date. She tells him, "that's not cool, asshole!" while he just makes low-effort attempts to apologize. She's bitching and holding a grudge for attention, making him "come over to apologize," but sis made banana bread Saturday morning, expecting an apology??? Who u kidding here sis, you're just shorting yourself.

He just said "sorry, my bad, I'm really sorry. Would ice cream make it better" and now she's giggling and giddy in approval. FACEPALM. Nah, sis, you better than some $8 "artisan" ice cream cone

nocommentyet · 2020-02-08T20:09:14+00:00

Just here to encourage the ladies of this subreddit to keep it up. I read regularly but don't comment because I have no interest in dating or trying to attract men anymore. I am happy single and celibate and not inclined to do any of the work to attract a quality man at this time. I found this sub through comments on lipstickalley and this is now one of my favorite places on the internet. I love the honesty here!

illusion_believe · 2020-02-08T19:20:03+00:00

The boyfriend of my friend didn’t want to move in with her when they were living in a cheap city. They moved to the capital city (where everything is expensive ) and now they live together. When you’re the one asking to live with him it’s over for you girl .

Another male friend of mine (low value as partner but great friend) also moved in with a girl that was chasing him when he wasn’t finding her attractive. Guess what: he cheats on her when he’s traveling. I feel like he moved in with her to save money. He has child support to pay. The girl is a pickme. I’ve never seen him chasing a girl. They all come to him . He cheats on all of them because “ before marriage I don’t trust any woman to be faithful . I’ll be faithful only when I’ll be married. I don’t want to say no to a girl then find out that my girlfriend cheated on me. I’d feel stupid “

merry_meerkat · 2020-02-08T19:01:55+00:00

My adult son directed me to this Reddit group. Not kidding.

I am dating again after being married forever. I have questions and seriously need help. How do I post a question to the group to get input? You ladies are raw and that’s exactly what I need. I’m fairly new to reddit and have only replied here and there.

Can I flat out request advice on an issue? Like: here’s what I’m working with and tell me what to do?

Is any question too trivial? I also have a deep fear of sounding like a Karen.

grapefruitnoodle · 2020-02-08T17:20:21+00:00

Technically I’ve been ‘lurking’ in this sub a while now, reading all the material, enjoying the posts, learning, absorbing etc and I feel like it is starting to pay off!

I am seeing my value and expecting more from potential romantic interests.

I’ve been getting to know a few different men, one has taken me out and paid, encourages me in my hobbies and passions, is kind and respectful. Last night he kissed me for the first time (brief and respectful). I found myself in a situation where previously I would have gone out of my way to do something to help him, but my mind talk was saying “no - if he wants to be with me this is something he can handle on his own” and he did. So far it is a slow and purposeful process with this man and I like that.

I am very happy with myself, and my choices. No idea how far things will progress with him but it all depends on if he continues showing me the right behaviours, I’m not getting ahead of myself and dismissing the other potentials, nor am I compromising myself and my values.

It feels so so food to value myself and to be treated like the queen I am. A massive thanks to this sub and all the posters and commenters, you have all helped me so so much!

reddit_to_go_man · 2020-02-08T16:22:10+00:00

Wild week here. Matched with a guy last Friday whose pics looked kinda cute. Conversations via text proved him to be smart and respectful. Lots of boxes checked. Set a date for Wednesday and I asked for a phone call Tuesday. His voice was very off-putting but I figured his personality might make up for it. He showed up and...ugh. Photos were obviously older and angles selected to mask unattractive facial features. But omg. His teeth. They were awful. Obvious lack of dental care and smoking damage. I decided to stick through the date and enjoy the evening. We had some conversations that rounded off the big fat NOPE on this guy. I was cordial but kept things brief at the end. Next day I sent a text to let him know I wasn’t interested and you would have thought I killed his offspring. He was “shocked” and “didn’t see this coming”.

So, new rule is that I need to see photos of teeth before the date. And I need to learn to cut dates shorter when I know it’s not going anywhere. I don’t understand why I feel like I have to be nice when really I just want to gtfo of there.

weasted_ · 2020-02-08T15:58:37+00:00

What is your opinion of relationships where the two people have been friends for a long time before realizing they loved one another? Some of these relationships I see are successful (I ask this bcs I read on FDS that men make up their minds on whether they want to date a woman in a very short period of time).

Aigonorus · 2020-02-08T09:09:11+00:00

Anyone interested in astrology?

woiashenseea · 2020-02-08T04:01:57+00:00

FDS mindset has recently allowed me to cross the threshold where I feel i can choose to trust certain men as strangers. I'm not nearly as afraid anymore in public - it's like I got the sexually depraved male gaze out of my own head, and it made room for me to recognize decent (if not high value) men out in the wild, coworkers and the like.

Thanks again ladies

Daphnetiq · 2020-02-08T03:32:39+00:00

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Master-Purple · 2020-02-08T02:51:53+00:00

I want to call out a guy for his hot and cold behavior by sending a calm and composed text that makes me have the upper hand. I am not looking for communication or an apology from him but every text that I drafted makes me sound a bit needy for attention. I don't want to send an angry text because that will make him think that I still care (I don't).

I don't want to have things left unsaid either because we have many mutual friends and I am going to run into him eventually.

snuff_film_failure · 2020-02-08T00:07:18+00:00

New to the sub, and oh boy do I have conflicting feelings. I used to believe that if it makes a difference if I sleep with someone right away then they weren't for me, because in my head it shouldn't matter. Now I'm questioning the state of my relationship haha. Not really, but I do have a bunch of thoughts about it.

endorphins_ · 2020-02-07T23:40:37+00:00

Recently joined a women’s only gym and I absolutely love it. It’s clean, quiet, everyone is polite and minds their own business. Working out has really helped me with getting over my breakup and my overall mental health.

Daphnetiq · 2020-02-07T23:40:13+00:00

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muchachaganj · 2020-02-07T20:39:57+00:00

Going through a breakup with a lvm right now but feeling like a lvw, I’m extremely depressed and can’t get myself out of it

even_thriller · 2020-02-07T20:27:41+00:00

Lol was going through my reddit PMs and found a few from weird dudes asking me which penis size I preferred. Really?

junesunflower · 2020-02-07T19:13:37+00:00

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NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-02-07T17:10:42+00:00

I'm tired and cranky this week. I can't seem to sleep for more than two hours without waking up and I have no idea why. Been so tired I haven't even eaten much because I can't cook anything due to tiredness and I'm so sick of takeout - I don't want to pay that much for food I don't even like.

No idea what the problem is but man oh man it's Friday and I am in such a bad mood and it's just because I'm that tired. I'm supposed to go to the movies with my friends tomorrow and I'm like oh god please no just let me sleep.

Still gonna go to the movies but I don't know how much fun I'll be.

constanceblackwood12 · 2020-02-07T17:05:17+00:00

I'm reading up on halacha (Jewish law) in preparation for my upcoming wedding, and I thought the folks here would appreciate the following halachic requirements:

Financial Responsibility of Husband

The husband, not the wife, has the responsibility of financially supporting the family. This is the halacha and NOT an opinion! That the husband must support his family is explicitly stated in every ketuba.

First Week of Marriage: Making the Bride Happy

The groom is commanded to make his bride happy for seven days. He may not go to work (unless she wants him to do so). He must be with her and do whatever she wants, even if it goes against his judgment of what is reasonable.

Making the Bride Happy for First Year

The husband is required during the first year of marriage to make his wife happy. He should go where she wants, do what she wants, etc., within reason. After the first year of marriage, the couple should work out their differences via compromise from the husband and from the wife.

saucypiece · 2020-02-07T14:26:38+00:00

Do well endowed men start treating you like shit after showing you their... equipment? Not after sleeping with you, just after showing you. Like do they think this is supposed to be enough to keep you on its own?

Edit: I hope this isn’t a weird question or seen as trolling or something. I’m seriously trying to make sense of one experience and want to know if this is a thing.

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-02-07T13:22:19+00:00

I wrote a post earlier but it's not showing up anywhere. Any ideas, mods? Can y'all see it?

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f09xtp/its_not_the_gift_of_fear_its_a_shark_cage/

justafuckingpear · 2020-02-06T21:08:06+00:00

I just realized most of my favorite comedians/idols are LVM :(

pallta · 2020-02-06T15:22:12+00:00

Feeling a little weak with regards to a recent breakup with short-term bf. I'm flipping to and from the different stages of grief. I was extremely angry one day, then accepting, and now I'm like a pickme because I considered getting back with him. The problem was that his feelings toward me varied greatly depending on his mood. At times he was like a brick wall (no emotion, nothing) and other times he was so caring/affectionate to me. It was extremely confusing and looking back my mood depended a lot on how he treated me (not healthy at all!). It really hurts to admit that I miss him, even though for the past few weeks I've been feeling so clear and happy with where my life is going. I've become much more social and outgoing, which I enjoy! I just need to remind myself WHY we broke up and that it's for the best. It's a bit weird because we still see each other weekly for school, but we've been civil.

+I got a little ego boost because the gossip grapevine told me that my ex-bf said that I was his best and most healthy relationship. :P

LeEccedentesiast · 2020-02-06T09:54:11+00:00

Recovering pickmeisha here, trying to get over a situationship of 5 years with fuckboy, who apparently found (first and only) love of his life some months ago. As he didn't need me anymore, he dumped me and said we could be friends if I act normal. As of today, we don't talk anymore because I couldn't deal with the reality of him being with someone else and I flipped out several times, ending up with writing to his SO (no regrets, tho).

To be honest, our situationship was like a rollercoaster - going up and down most of the time. At the beginning it was okay, as soon as I found out he was still active on Tinder, also liking and following random girls on Instagram, which made me so so jealous. I made problems out of nowhere, for example when he started following a new girl on IG, who wasn't from his work or his friend's girlfriend or whatsoever. Or when he didn't answer to my texts and I thought that well now he has found someone else and everything's over between us. Sometimes he actually was with another girl, but as we were not in an actual relationship, nothing could stop him - he had had many ONSs before also. He kept telling me that I'm the only girl he can and wants to actually just talk with.

However, these nonsense made-up problems usually grew into verbal fights which ended up with him calling me mentally ill and told to find help, meanwhile I literally flipped out. And those fights happened very frequently, maybe once-twice per month or so. When the so-called fight ended, we didn't talk for a day or so until one of us started talking like nothing has happened. I went to therapy several times, but quit them as soon as I felt a bit better, ended being up more depressed than I was before afterwards.

When the rollercoaster was going up high, I really enjoyed talking to him, we went out, had a good time and everything felt perfect for me. I didn't want to understand that, but for him I had been only FWB and never nothing more serious. He had told me it several times, also explaining that he prefer to tell it straight up to not hurt me, but I just thought that he didn't take his sayings about being only FWB too serious and that I can change him to want me. Of course, I couldn't change him to be a 'better man'.

It lasted for five years, until last autumn we barely talked anymore. As usual, I thought that he had found someone else, but this time it was all different than the last times, because then he didn't even react to my venting anymore. Yes, I stalked the girls he followed on IG until I spotted him on one girls' story. I wrote to this girl, because the guy ignored me, just to find out the truth. I got the truth I was lurking for so badly - they really had a fling. It was and is the worst pain I have ever felt. Afterwards the guy told me that it's so good and peaceful to finally actually talk to a girl who doesn't make up problems out of nowhere. This was like adding salt to my fresh wounds.

I've been going to therapy consistently for about a year now (so at the beginning of the therapy I was still talking to that guy). My life has really been up-and-down the recent years and especially lately, when I have to deal with the reality, that I'm never going to be with that guy. I also feel really big quilt about how I acted throughout that situationship - If I would've been acting normal, maybe he would be with me now. I know it's wrong to think like that, because I can't change the past and things that have been happened, but I'm blaming myself for everything that went wrong. I have apologized to him many times before, but still flipped out afterwards. Now I truly want to apologize for my behaviour, but on the other side - it wouldn't change anything anymore.

Sure it has gone better than it was at first in autumn, but sometimes I find myself longing for him and I have no idea what to do. It's hard to focus on something, when the 'sad feeling' hits me. The best I have done so far is not texting him - it sure is difficult, when I just want to vent to him so badly. Sigh.

Just ordered a book "Ignore the guy, get the guy - the art of no contact" in order to not screw up things with someone 'better' in the future. I get a lot help from the therapy as well.

anythingbutjellybean · 2020-02-06T08:42:37+00:00

Recently ghosted two losers and I feel pretty good about it. Deleted their contacts and everything. One was a friend who really just wanted sex and me to be their therapist. So needy it was awful. I didn’t sleep with him and got sick of his personality. The other one I met in OLD and went on one date. He never took me out again but would text me all the time. Sometimes he’d want me to come over but no dates. Got sick of it too. I didn’t feel like I owed either an explanation so bye bye.

TokiMarvel · 2020-02-06T06:40:36+00:00

Introverted homebody here. Trying to get out, meet new people, and do things. Started talking to someone with similar interests and we’re going to try some new food in the city. I have no romantic feelings whatsoever and probably will invite other people along. I need as much socialization as I can get.

A close friend recently dropped off the face of the earth and I’m going through the stages of grief. I cannot believe this happened again, but with another person. My BFF and I fell out for six years. She was MIA. We’ve reconnected since. But this occurring again has me baffled. We made plans, they flaked out and refuse to respond to texts. I made one call but didn’t leave a message. It’s like ehh. They don’t value our friendship. Why bother? I do have a nagging worry something major happened. A text could’ve been dropped or they could’ve rang me up already. That takes less than a minute to do. It’s rude to disappear on your friends.

Toomanyprollems · 2020-02-06T06:25:17+00:00

My ex shipped me all my belongings in a huge box that arrived yesterday. The box was way bigger than my stuff but it happens to be perfect for all the stuff he left at my place. I am so grateful because I was having trouble finding a box large enough to fit all the stuff he left at my house and stressing about how to pack it. I was coming close to texting him about it, asking him to do a belongings exchange, but the box was on the porch when I got home from work. He didn't tell me he was going to ship it it was just there.

After I took all my stuff out of the box I managed to fit all of his stuff in the very same box and I'm going to ship it to him on Friday. I am so elated to be able to deal with this without contacting him. I can continue to heal without any correspondence or temptations to tell him even more what he did wrong. 🙄 No more! No point.

It also helped my having no regrets even because he included the Christmas presents he got me and I didn't really like the presents. They didn't really speak to me. I got him a present he has been wanting for a long time but what he got me was just this kind of meh thing. I am not a gifts person to be honest but I was like does he even know me?

So long story long my ex-boyfriend pile in my closet will be gone this weekend and I'm so glad. I think that he was leaving stuff at my house on purpose to make it more difficult for me to dump him and honestly it delayed my breaking up with him by a couple of weeks. I was like "but there's all this stuff here..." but then I just said "fuck it, I know how to pack a box for shipping!" (I worked retail in another life and I'm really good at it.)

Anyway. Thanks FDS!

FutileDeathStar · 2020-02-06T06:24:47+00:00

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btownisdown · 2020-02-06T06:18:24+00:00

The man I was obsessed with for 8 months but was still in love with his ex wife finally texted me after 8 months no contact (lmao yes the length of our situationship). He tried to tug at my heartstrings and bring up old memories... meanwhile I have a new boyfriend who tells me all the time how lucky he feels to have me and can't get enough of me. No reply and delete. This would've been impossible for me without the support and knowledge I've found on FDS ❤💕❤

FuckboyFree2020

yeorre · 2020-02-06T06:17:03+00:00

Had 2 dates with a guy who seemed really funny and honest while also work for an famous company. Thought we had similar mindsets but called him always out when he made some tasteless jokes, was always very honest and showed my intelligent side. I’ve collected all the few red flags I saw and wanted to test it till Date 3.

Now, while he failed to tell me his schedule in advance to slightly arrange my hours, he suddenly wanted a „direct talk“ and told me he only wants a serious relationship which is marriage minded and if I would consider him - take in mind I’ve known this guy for just a month.

Told him that these goals would align with my dreams for the future but I can’t tell so far if I would be able to imagine it with him because I barely know him. I continued by saying them that I would need more time to see if we’re that compatible and also that his efforts are important in such a decision.

Guy totally hated it and pressured me by saying of I don’t like him that much now, I won’t in the future and perhaps we should stay friends. I agreed. His replies was are passive aggressive then and he wouldn’t message me as often as he did before.

Ditched a bullet lol.

Parking-Act · 2020-02-06T05:21:05+00:00

Y'all, I got hoovered my by narc ex a couple of hours ago through an app I thought I deleted my account from.

It felt so good to laugh LAUGHHHH out loud at my screen at the audacity of him still trying to gain access to me as supply to feed his sick, indidious, montrous, selfish, low life ego after months of NC.

I of course proceeded to terminate the account and deleted the app immediately so the shit will say 'user not found' or whatever if he tried it again. What a fucking loser!

FuckboyFree2020

Kristeninmyskin · 2020-02-06T05:15:41+00:00

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lmnsatang · 2020-02-06T04:53:02+00:00

While we believe in having your own career and making your own money, a man still has to add financial value to your life and make you feel like he can take care of you. This means not splitting the bill and not dating financially challenged men.

ugh this is perfect. i dated a financially challenged man and was planning my life around his: marriage, a family, the works. it's hard to date when you grew up privileged because almost nothing they do can reach what you have had ever since you were a child. he could have worked 10 years in subway (his actual job because he never completed his university degree) and would never be able to afford the investment property i was given at 22.

if a man does not add financial value to your life, what is he even doing in your life? you can get emotional support from your girlfriends or even the internet. i'm willing to bet the jokes on twitter are better than his.

throwaway93731 · 2020-02-06T04:26:14+00:00

Is finding love/a HVM even worth it? Honestly starting to get really cynical and jaded. How much crap do I gotta sort through to find a HVM who likes me for me, and whom I like just as much in return?

endlessgalaxies · 2020-02-06T04:00:59+00:00

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Skittleschild02 · 2020-02-06T02:55:19+00:00

Thank you for reminding that I’m bad ass chick who deserves someone who enjoys my videos about noods. I will not waste my food jokes on him no more.

greenwalrus1999 · 2020-02-06T02:37:08+00:00

I have a really new boyfriend, and in that case it seems like FDS's V-Day stance is pretty much that I shouldn't really worry about a gift and let him take the lead? I love giving gifts so it's really hard to not have at least a little fun with that. I could just not, BUT on top of that his birthday is a few days after that, so it's even more confusing. Should I get him anything for that? Either or?

The bar is on the floor, always, but. He’s the closest thing to a genuinely good seed I’ve found. And I’ve met a LOT of seeds.

Giving something even as small as some chocolate-covered oreos would make me feel stupid if he didn't reciprocate. I can't imagine him not doing anything, but of course I have no idea.

It's been like 2 months. Obviously I don't know him very well yet, but he is absolutely the sweetest, most genuine guy I've ever met (not saying much lmao but really he's been amazing so far), and I think we've spent a lot more time together than most do in 2 months...I just want to show him I really appreciate him so far. But I have no idea what, if anything, to do. Help?

throwaway93731 · 2020-02-06T02:33:09+00:00

Went on a second date with a guy on Saturday, in the afternoon. The date ended up lasting six hours because he kept suggesting we do other things and I was really enjoying myself too, so I caved and let it continue. We ended up doing lunch, a bar together, and then a light dinner + drinks. He held my hand when we walked down the street, paid for most of the expenses throughout the day, and expressed to me that he was really enjoying himself and wanted to keep spending time together—hence why the date was extended to six hours. He texted to make sure I got home okay, etc. let me know again via text that he’d had a good time, and was very gentlemanly overall. We made out in my car at some point and he tried to get a little hands-y, but I pulled his hand away and he respected my boundaries and didn’t touch me again after that.

I have dealt with A LOT of men who’ve only wanted to have sex, so I feel like I have a pretty good read on guys who are just trying to get laid. My gut says this wasn’t a guy who was just trying to get laid.

However, he’s been almost completely MIA since Monday morning, save for a couple texts and one missed call (I was busy, didn’t see the call). In the couple of texts we’ve exchanged since Monday morning, he apologized for not responding since he’d had a crazy day at work, but that was after he hadn’t responded in almost a day and a half. Today I thought the communication would be back to normal, but he didn’t text me until almost five in the afternoon.

We’d made plans to go to an event on Friday so I’ve just asked him to clarify whether that was still happening, and I let him know I would be making different plans otherwise. Waiting for a response now, but since this post is up I thought I’d ask for some insight from others.

He seemed to be having such a good time with me on Saturday, what gives? Why the inconsistency?

chilimamansi · 2020-02-06T02:29:00+00:00

Thoughts on pursuing an LDR? This has been bugging me for a while. I feel like I’ve blocked my options because I’m fixated on one specific person.

Nifteroni-and-Cheese · 2020-02-06T02:24:24+00:00

Male friend of mine sent unsolicited pictures of his penis to one of my female friends. I immediately removed him on Snapchat and insta when I found out and he had the audacity to call me mad about it. Done being friends with dudes unless they’re a) one of my boyfriends’ friends or b) one of my friends’ boyfriends.

Yianna_F · 2020-02-06T02:20:18+00:00

Remember:

Make the best of what's in your power and take the rest as it happens!

Epictitus

velocity2ds · 2020-02-06T02:13:40+00:00

What do guys think they’ll achieve by trying to “call you out” that you didn’t reply fast enough? All it does is show me they have no patience and are super bratty at the drop of a dime

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-02-06T02:05:31+00:00

Not deserving of its own thread, just wanted to bitch about the fact that so many men seem to think I'm the crazy one for knowing what I want in life and in a relationship.

"Whoa. I just said I wanted to keep things casual after six weeks of taking you on expensive dates, introducing you to my friends and family, and planning future vacations together. I don't get why you stopped talking to me."

I'm so fucking tired of your dysfunctional, avoidant attachment style bullshit, Brandon.

Skittleschild02 · 2020-02-06T01:33:53+00:00

Still trying to stop my pickmesha ways. One minute, he wants to talk. The next minute, crickets. One minute, he’ll watches my snaps. The next, crickets again. I give up. Just going to let homeboy simmer. For reals, this time.

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-02-06T01:16:11+00:00

I'm struggling with celibacy y'all. I split from my ex husband almost 2 years ago, and while I'm happy and content with single life in all other respects, I miss sex. Especially now that I'm happier in general being out of a bad marriage, my sex drive is higher than it has been in the past when I was miserable and anxious all the time.

I'm also just straight up scared of getting back out there once I do feel like my self esteem and HV mindset are at the level they need to be at. I haven't dated in a really long time and I just don't even know where I would start.

Any words of wisdom from those who have been in similar situations? I'm all ears.

Also just want to say a heartfelt thanks to this community. I just discovered this sub recently and I feel like I've found my people. So much of what I've been feeling for a long time has been put into words and action here, and it just lifts me up so much to see it. Y'all are the best.

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Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)

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Title	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)
Author	NecessaryCook
Upvotes	72
Comments	531
Date	February 6, 2020 1:08 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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