Living in the modern dating world, with modern women, no man should commit to a woman who has not closed off all her options.

We live in a unique time were women are no longer shamed, but instead encouraged to keep their options open, even when in relationships.

Instead men are shamed and being called "insecure" " controlling" and other words with the intent to shame us for rightfully questioning this dynamic.

You can see all over social media (including reddit) countless posts blogs and other content of men feeling uneasy and trapped in situations where they are committed to a woman who is keeping her options open but is gaslighting her man into thinking she is "not really" despite the uneasyness.

Society is happy to join the woman and the laws do permit women to do this while forbidding men to exercise any authority within our relationships. No one is there for men when we inevitably end up getting the short end of the stick. Pretty much every story of a man being cheated on or left and going through harsh divorce procedures, all go back to the same problem (the guy committed without negotiating anything).

As such, i fully believe men should use the only power that we have left to full effect ( our committment).

This is your ONLY real bargaining tool, no matter what anyone says. If a woman wants to keep male friends around, thats cool she is not your girlfriend she is just somebody you sleep with. If she WAS your gf before, let her know in no uncertain terms, that you no longer claim her as your gf. Whatever she chooses to do is on her, you are just friends with benefits.

If you are seeing a girl who likes posting pics online for male attention, you never progress the relationship higher than F-buddies then you tell her that that will only happen if she deletes her social media.

If you are seeing a girl who likes to go clubbing and drinks and dances with other men, dont even think about committing to her until she herself starts to drop that habit.

Any time a woman engages in behaviour that is leaving the door open to other men, she is NOT committed to you and doesnt deserve your committment. As a woman, keeping other men out of the relationship should be her job, and you must not tolerate any excuses or neglect.

And no matter what they say women will always chase committment, so use that as your bargaining tool. If you are committed and she starts acting out, you withdraw your committment.

This is how you use this power and this is what men need to do in order to get women to act right and properly commit to you. And if she refuses, well then you dont commit to her. On to the next.