considering it's lower classes that are out-fucking and reproducing way more than the uppity managerial middle/upper classes, there is no evidence whatsoever that "having your shit together" will get you a girlfriend, much less a wife...

and while you are focused on getting "your shit together" by the time you're 30 women are becoming neurotic "wine aunts" proclaiming that 30 is the new 20. That being childless, aloof and quirky is, or at least should be, normalised. This "fuck the rules" attitude only seems to apply to them however; yeah, she's entering her 30s happily single and on prozac, ready to rock -- yet a man gets called a "manchild" if he deviates from the suburban rat-race mentality.

why is that?